Building Families

True family is two or more people who claim to nurture, protect and support one another.
Sometimes true families are blood related, but more often they are related by commitment to one another.
Some families live in the same household, but many often live in separate states, towns or homes.
Some families are quiet and formal, and others are raucous and informal.
Some families are passive in their affection, and others are assertive and demanding of demonstration.
Some families are loyal to all, and others gossip and take sides.
Some families vow to stay together forever, and others leave the nest to seek adventure and independence.
Each person has the right to form their own unique family that suits their needs and preferences.

What you choose can be changed.
How you live can be rearranged.
Who you choose can be undone.
Creating your own family can be fun.

Some recommendations to families:
Share your Love, not your worries.
Give your Presence, not your presents.
Give your time, not your money.
Give encouragement and support, not discouragement and concerns.
Give your preferences, not your demands.
Give your genuine listening, not your unwanted advice.
Give your friendly feedback, not your stoic silence.
Share your appreciation, rather than your hurt feelings.
Share real wisdom, rather than wishful thinking.
Be your authentic self, rather than try to play a role.
Share your caring allegiance, rather than divisive gossip.
Give freedom with responsibility, rather than guilt and covering others’ mistakes.
Be apologetic and make amends for your own errors, and ask the same of others.
Be respectful of others time and energy, rather than demand more than your fair share.
Give credit for what is given, rather than taking family help for granted.
Respect your family members as much as you would an honored guest.
Be loyal to principles, rather than people.
Seek the best for those around you, without martyring yourself.
Inspire Goodness in those you Love, and turn away from evil.
Maintain your hope and prayer, and trust everyone learns in their own timing.
Deny no one your inner spiritual wisdom.
Be brief in your discourse, and let the few words sink in.
Wait to talk, until others acknowledge they are available.
Make appointments and maintain a private space and respect.
Turn off the TV and phone, when you want to really connect.
Look for what is important, rather than focus on petty annoyances.
Create an environment of fairness, honesty, benefit and goodwill for all.
Everyone will thrive in a family where all are learning to love as God loves.

Healthy families build healthy communities and nations.
Build from within what you want our world to be.

Loving you endlessly,
Betty Lue

To Love God

What does it mean to love God?
Especially for those who don’t know who or what “God” is?
What does it mean to “Love”?
Especially for those who have never known Love without fear and Love without conditions…

To love God is to look for the Good in life.
To love God is to see the Good within your fellow human beings.
To love God is to value the Good within you and All creation.
To love God is to believe there is a Power, Purpose and Presence greater than you.
To love God is to trust there is an underlying force in the Universe that creates magnificence.
To love God is to appreciate what you have.
To love God is to take impeccable care of the gift of your own life.
To love God is to use the life you have for creating Goodness.
To love God is to enjoy life.
To love God is to value the real creation of beauty, Goodness and wholeness.
To love God is to remember there is something more than the world of duality.
To love God is to listen within for answers.
To love God is to let go of our pettiness and complaining.
To love God is to seek Higher Ground on which to build our hopes and dreams.
To love God is to rejoice in healing and miracles.
To love God is to use your time and money and talents wisely.
To love God is to surrender what is not wholly Good and Loving.
To love God is to forgive the past and build the world of love in your heart.
To love God is to live an exemplary life.
To love God is to seek Godly associations and activities.
To love God is not to forsake or betray what you know is Good.
To love God is to value freedom and justice for all.
To love God is to stay awake and choose with Love and respect for all creation.
To love God is to do no harm to anyone, including yourself.
To love God is to teach Goodness and mercy.
To love God is to make decisions which are honest and fair.
To love God is to care about Goodness.
To Love God is to reach out with compassion and forgiveness.
To love God is to answers prayers with your own contribution and actions.
To love God is to offer help when needed.
To love God is to be happy and free.
To love God is to see the requests even when they are not verbalized.
To love God is to fully be you.
To love God is to ever be true to what you know from within the core of your being.
To love God with all your heart and mind is the true healer and provider of all riches and glory on earth and in heaven now and always.
So love God in your perfect way today….
Loving God in You,
Betty Lue

Impeccable Care

I have noticed this last week or two not giving myself enough time to take impeccable care of my personal self, mind, body and Spirit. When this happens and my inspirational tank is not on full and overflowing, I feel more easily bumped by others’ distresses. So as I draw back and do the first things first, I will take stock of how I am spending my time and energy.
Have I taken my daily walk?
Have I gone to work out?
Have I taken time for T’ai Chi Chih daily?
Have I stopped to eat sitting down with peace and gratitude?
Am I enjoying my home?
Am I reading the inspirational material I have selected?
Have I written the notes of thanksgiving and love?
Am I in right relationship with my Inner Voice?
Am I writing in my inspirational journal?
Have I stopped to listen for myself personally?
Am I grateful as I look out on the beauty of this earth?
Am I creating something wonderful in my life each day?
Am I getting the rest I require?
Am I remembering to breathe deep with full appreciation?
Am I loving my body with the food I deserve rather than desire?
Am I enjoying this time alone with a smile?

It is easy to get too busy.
It is easy to complain about the added chores.
It is easy to wish things were different.
It is easy to judge my life in comparison with the past.
It is easy to work too hard.
It is easy to give too much.
It is easy to worry about lack.
It is easy to blame someone else.
It is easy to distract and delay.
It is easy to forget about me today.
It is easy to get caught up.
It is easy to keep going on a comfortable path.
It is easy to join the world I see.
It is easy to agree with complacency.

Yes, it may seem difficult or uncomfortable to choose differently.
But if I don’t rectify my path, who will?
If I don’t listen within, who will?
If I don’t light my way, who will?
If I don’t forgive and choose everyday, who will?
If I don give up fear, who will?
If I don’t take impeccable care of the whole and holy me, who will?

I am here to live what I teach, to practice what I preach.
And remember this.......
If I didn’t go astray, I would have nothing to learn or say.
I judge no one because I recognize you in me.
It is forgiveness and trust that set us free to choose again..gratefully.

So you see, it all is perfect just as it is...
Loving you and me..perfectly...
Betty Lue

If Money Were Food

If money were food, would we not share it freely with those who are hungry.
If money were food, would we not receive it with conscious gratitude and joy.
If money were food, would we not bless it with appreciation whenever we partake of its value.
If money were food would we not give it with respect to those who asked.
If money were food, would we not ask for it, when our families had need.
If money were food, would we not trust it would be available as we had need of it.
If money were food, would we not conserve it to last through times of drought or in winter.
If money were food,, would we not cease to hoard it and withhold it from our starving neighbors.
If money were food, would we not stop trying to use it for false purposes or pollution.
If money were food, would we not plant seeds and let it grow naturally, trusting in the harvest.
If money were food, we would see it as a gift from God to be shared
If money were food, I can imagine that we would all be wiser and more respectful in its use.

Today I am seeing a world hungry for what is good and whole and beautiful.
Yet I see a culture that chooses the empty calories of fast food and quick fixes.
The best nourishment and wealth I have to offer is Who I am and All I Am given by Spirit Within.
You have the same to offer those you encounter today and everyday.
Share and you will be well fed and replenished.

We teach by how we live.
We teach by what we give.
We teach by how we learn.
We teach by what we earn.
We teach by when we share.
We teach by how much we care.
We teach by when we pray.
We teach by everything we say.
We teach with what we know.
We teach when we let go.
We teach by how we love.
We are teaching right now.
We are all teaching by Who we are.

Reach out today and share the real sustenance of life.
Leave no one hungry or alone in shame or in pain.

Loving you,
Betty Lue
We build a new world, the Real world together. One by one.

Criticism

What is criticism?
How do we handle it?

This morning I awoke with the awareness that the world is made up of our judgments.
Where we judge we are stuck with our perceptions.
Where we forgive, the perceptions are transformed into Love.

Where I judge myself, I am stuck.
Where I forgive, I am free to choose again.

It is with judgments that we are designing our perception of our world.
It is with forgiveness that we erase our faulty picture and create what is Good.

When I am judged and criticized, attacked and blamed, I can feel hurt and offended.
If I feel hurt and offended, I either agree with the attack and create more pain.
Or I disagree with the attack and blame the other person.
Or I can forgive the mistaken judgment and free both myself and the other.

So when given a diagnosis, or when labeled or when seen as limited, we can choose to be hurt and take it personally or we can acknowledge, thanks for sharing that part of you and thanks for sharing what you see in me. I am willing to forgive, release and undo it all for both of us and set us free.

To free the world of judgment and attack, forgive it all.
To let go of what we cannot understand for its insanity, forgive it all.

I value button-pushing because it shows me where I have buttons.
When I get upset, I know I have buttons.
While I can cast blame on the button pusher or feel guilty for those I still have,
My buttons are my responsibility to clear.
When I have truly forgiven, I am neutral.
When I am neutral, I am free.
When I am at peace, I am not upset.
When I am enjoying my life, I am creating, the good, the beautiful and the holy.
I value the opportunity to remove my own buttons with my forgiveness tool.

Thank you Spirit for the simplicity of practical spiritual tools.
Loving you all,
Betty Lue

Do Something Good

When you don’t know what to do, just do something good.

I see people who are depressed, disillusioned and defeated.
They have shut down and retreated from their world.
They have given up on life because of disease, distress, negative circumstances, loss and limitation.
They may be angry, afraid or feeling victimized by life’s circumstances.
They have quit on life, quit on love and quit on hope and faith.
This is a psychological death if not a physical one.

When we feel stuck, we can move.
When we feel depressed, we can write about it.
When we feel alone, we can call someone else who is alone.
When we feel loss we create a photo album and create memorials.
When we feel pain, we can rock and bring ourselves comfort.
When we feel angry, we can write letters of complaint.
When we feel afraid, we can go be with people who need our assurance.
When we feel lacking, we can give our time, energy and knowledge.

Loving heals fear.
Peace heals conflict.
Helping someone heals self pity.
Connecting heals loneliness.
Giving heals neediness.
Joy heals pain.

All of us have something to give.
It is in giving that we return to living.
It is through living fully each day that the way is shown.
When we find our way, we know we have a path and a purpose.

"It is only in giving who we are that we can see why we came.”

Loving you as you give today the best of YOU,
Betty Lue

Integrity

What does integrity look like?
How does integrity feel?
Where does One find true integrity?
How do we make integrity real?

When I live in integrity with my inner Truth, I am confident, strong and True.
When I am living integrity with my values, I live and give what I feel.
When I am following the path of my heart, I know I am whole and Good as I Am.
When I am honest and fair, seeking Good Will for All, I am at peace and in Love and in Joy.

Few have learned the art of being true to the Source within, so start over and simply begin.
Begin to be honest first with oneself.
Begin to tell the truth in a journal, if not to a friend.
Begin to share your secrets with God and ask for healing and peace.
Begin to quit lying and simply release, what is not true in You.

Write down all the lies that you tell.
Write down all the wishes you make up are real.
Write down all the ugly feelings you feel.
Write down all the unkind acts you imagine in your mind.

Then let them all go.
Forgive, undo and burn.
Release them and bury them, asking for healing and grace.
Face them and undo them with a wave of your hand and a change of your mind.
Then do it again and again until there is nothing left.
Of the manure and the confusing clutter you have collected from humanity.
If you want to be free, at peace and in Love, It is time to let go of the muck and the sludge.
You must face it to release it. Poop and let go.
Flush the toilet to clear it and get up, move on.
Say Yes instead of “No”.

Yes, when we are living a lie, when we are afraid and in hiding,
our energy shuts down and light is limited, help is negligible and we start dying.

Integrity feels clear and strong and true.
Integrity feels obvious, not subtle and you love being You.
Integrity feels clear, natural and free.
Integrity sees Oneness in you and in me.

When I am living in Integrity.
I am One Self, at One with my Creator and Source.
I am unlimited in Power and in Peace.
When I am conflict and confused,
I am divided against my True Self, am limited by uncertainty, doubt and fear.
When I am limited by fear, my perceptions are distorted and my choices unclear.

I am willing to find peace within.
I am willing to know what is True.
I am willing to be with my Real Self.
I am willing to see everything new.

Integrity is the power of a seamless life.
Integrity is living what you say you know is True.
Integrity is being who You Really are.
Integrity is to Thine Own Self Be True.

I am Loving You and Me with integrity,
Betty Lue

In Sickness and in Health

What do I do with pain and dis-ease?
What do I do with disability and fatigue?
What do I do with economic deception and distress?
What do I do with aging, infirmity and death?

I am to love and to cherish no matter what.
I am to listen and learn no matter what.
I am to let go and move on no matter what.
I am to reclaim peace in my Soul no matter what.

Yes, life offers challenges…more for some folks and less for others.
Yes, my life too has pain, loss, hard times, disability and distress.
What may seem bold in my positive attitude is my path to healing and health, wholeness and holiness.
What may seem denial is my focus on where I am going rather than where I have been.

We all have moment by moment choices we make.
We can choose to ignore or put in right perspective what we want to extinguish or eliminate from our lives.
My Grandma said, “We don’t need to put the manure pile in front of our picture window.”
Some spend a lifetime collecting, investing and cherishing their manure.

Pain is part of the human dilemma.
For me. pain is a wakeup call to choose another path.
If I focus on the pain rather than a new path, I will suffer.
When I choose to suffer, I am stuck in pain and refusing to receive help.

The real source of all pain is inner conflict or refusal to listen within.
The place that most needs healing is my willingness to know and trust the Good within.
Peace heals. Love heals. Joy heals.
When I avoid, ignore or deny my right to peace and love and joy, I am stuck with pain, disease and problems.

How do I find peace?
I must let go of the world I see.
I must see beneath the apparency.
I must release the judgments I have learned.
I must relinquish my need to attack or blame, anyone, including me.
I must forgive and release all things.
I must be willing to be at peace with what is.
In acceptance there is peace.
In neutrality there is peace.
In the peace of trusting again, there is love.
In love, there I AM.
Where I Am, there is God.
And In God I know the Good in All That Is.

I Am Loving,
Betty Lue

All Volunteers

I come from a family of volunteers.
I remember volunteering to help neighbors, to baby sit, to help my Mom with cooking, ironing and cleaning.
I have always known helping others to be a joyful way to share my time and energy.
I look for ways to be helpful.
I always feel satisfaction in helping others and I always learn.
I still give the vast majority of my time to serving others and the Greater Good.
This is my function and my life.

Since I am the sole provider for our family, I do “need” to receive money to pay our bills. And I trust the money we need will be given as we have need. So I continue to counsel, coach, teach and facilitate on a contribution, honorarium or volunteer basis. I turn no one away who has not the financial resources to pay. Everyone is encouraged to contribute, because giving is a blessing to both giver and receiver.

Volunteers are those who give willingly of their time, energy and money.
When we give unwillingly we feel victimized, obligated, and demanded of.
A simple change of mind will change one’s experience.

I believe we are all volunteers here.
We volunteer for the parts we play in our family.
We volunteer to do well in school or to distract or to fail.
We volunteer to give with excellence or with carelessness.
We volunteer to work and play with enthusiasm or with unhappiness.
We volunteer to enjoy our life or to hate it and wish it would end.
We volunteer to contribute to others or to take as much as we can.
We volunteer to make ourselves a beautiful home or to live in a mess.
We volunteer to share what we have with others or to withhold and keep for ourselves.
We volunteer to tell the truth or to deceive.
We volunteer to share good news or to complain and whine.
We volunteer to be truly helpful or to interfere and sabotage.
We volunteer to appreciate others or to gossip and criticize.

What do you volunteer to do?
What do you willingly and knowingly use your time for everyday?
TV, gossip, complaining, useless arguments?
Or do you use your time to learn, to encourage, to create positive solutions.?
Do you volunteer with those you know and love....family and friends?
Or do you volunteer with others like the grocery clerk or in a nearby nursing home?
There is much to be learned from volunteering consciously. Everyone is our teacher.
Every bit of love and joy and wisdom you give is your to be given again and again.

If you are waiting to receive, it is likely you will become tired and drained.
If you receive the highest and best you give as it is given you will always be fulfilled and refilled.

PS
Volunteer to love everyone who comes into your life, including your parents and you will feel great freedom and joy.
It is our withholds that keep us stuck and attached to what we are wanting to avoid or change.
In Loving we set ourselves free.
No more conditions, no more limits on our lives.

Volunteer to Love… Free yourself by Loving…
Betty Lue

It is All My Choice

How I wake up is my choice.
How I feel today is my choice.
What I think is my choice.
How I speak is my choice.
What I do or don’t do is my choice.
What I read or watch is my choice.
What I eat is my choice.
How I dance through life is my choice.
With whom I associate is my choice.
What I do with my time is my choice.
What I focus on is my choice.
What matters to me is my choice.
My goals and priorities are my choice.
My happiness and well-being is my choice.
My consciousness is my choice,
My helpfulness is my choice.
My creativity is my choice.
My compassion is my choice
My self care is my choice.
The quality of my relationship is my choice.
My use of money and time is my choice.
My willingness to learn and grow is my choice.
Letting love lead the way is my choice.
Forgiving judgments and fear is my choice.
Honoring the Good in me is my choice.
Being grateful for each day is my choice.
Never quitting on love is my choice.
Remembering to trust God and Good is my choice.
Being happy and at peace with my life is my choice.
Creating what is good and beautiful and wholesome is my choice.

I choose what I want to experience.
I give what I want to receive.
I create what I want us all to have.

I am at choice.
And so are you.
Betty Lue

The Simple Things That Count

When all is said and done at the end of the day, it is the simple things that make the difference.

It is the beauty of this earth, as I look at the sky or watch a bird play in the birdbath.
It is the gentle touch of a loved one’s hand on my face, as I hear “Thank you.”
It is the made up song of a little child, as she sings to herself in play.
It is the warm breeze flowing through open windows, as I sit and give thanks.
It is a healthy meal of vegetables and rice prepared with care and love.
It is completing the laundry with enjoyment, as I fold and put away the clothes.
It is changing the sheets on this Sunday morning, feeling blessed by the love in my home.
It is coming upstairs to my loft studio/office to say “hello” to you, my friends, both inner and outer.
It is drinking water with appreciation for its purity and cleansing of my body and mind.
It is valuing each contribution I receive for the fulfilling work I do for the sake of love and joy.
It is reading the words of someone who calls for help and prayer and hope and guidance.
It is rejoicing at the opportunities of this day to say “Yeah” and “Thanks be to God and Goodness in All.”

It is the simple things that count, when I polish mop my floors or empty the garbage or peel the carrots or put up clean towels.
It is remembering to be grateful, not greedy.
It is seeing my life as full, not empty.
It is counting my blessings rather than focusing on how much there is to do.
It smiling at the good times, the good friends and the good future, rather than dwelling on missed opportunities.
I need no more but to share all I have been given.

You know each one of us can be grateful.
Life is a simple choice really.
Am I willing to be happy and grateful today?
Or do I choose to dwell on what I regret and fear?
Can I give myself to love and let love give to me?
Or must I focus on fear and let defense be my guide?

I have always and will continue to know that the simple things count in your life and mine.
It is my free will to choose how I will spend today and everyday.

This is my day and I choose to rejoice and give this day to Joy.
Betty Lue

To Judge or Forgive

All children are taught to make judgments from early childhood and on.
We are called to use our feelings and conscience, our observations and foresight, our learning and values to judge right and wrong, better or worse, being good or bad. We learn to read other’s behavior as well as our own to see whether someone is telling the truth or using deception. We learn to listen to our own feelings, when making decisions about what is fair and honest or unfair and dishonest. Our minds are programmed to learn what is good art, the right answer, the fair decision and the honorable deed.

If we are spiritually called to let go of our judgments and trust in our inner voice, how do we decide what to believe?
If we learn from great teachers that love forgives all things, how do we know what to forgive and overlook, when to realize the truth and take action?
How can we tell what the underlying intention and motivation, beliefs and values, are of an individual?
How do we know what and who to believe and what and who practices to deceive?

Am I to stay separate and in denial from my culture and social values, when I practice loving everyone?
Or do I love enough to share the truth, the perception, the beliefs and values I hold?
And do I honor and encourage others to share their viewpoint, though it may be in opposition to mine?

Spiritual greatness is found in encouraging everyone to share. We need not make others wrong to share our viewpoint.
In daring to share we expose our own biases and blindness to ourselves.

An experiment has been done with individuals continuing to share their judgments for hours, until all that was left within was, “I love you.” If you were encouraged to share it all—both positive and negative judgments—can you imagine coming to the experience of only LOVE?

My judgments of my behavior and others is limited.
It is based on what I currently know or hold in my awareness.
When I have limited awareness and knowledge, my judgments and decisions are limited.
When my mind is already valuing or believing a certain viewpoint, I will unconsciously block out of my awareness contradictory evidence and information. The more strongly I hold my own prejudice and viewpoint, the more blind or limited I become in my openness to see things differently or even to acknowledge the validity of others.

Forgiveness is the great mental cleanser that opens my mind to see things differently.
Forgiveness is the opportunity to lay my limited judgments and narrow perspective aside and look beneath the apparency.
I have strong viewpoints both politically (What is the Highest Good for All People?) and spiritually (What is the direction of Divine Will or my inner voice?) Still I am called to listen to everyone’s viewpoint who would share their story with me. As I listen I find that each one of us is strongly effected by our family of origin…as well as our emotional history.
What happened when someone didn’t tell the truth?
How did the members of the household discuss?
How were people rewarded or punished?
Who won the arguments?
What was “fair”?
How were decisions made?
Who held the “right” answer?
What were the power struggles?
How was the family effected by the authority of one?

When I forgive my own surface judgments and open to my inner knowing and spiritual guidance,
I can hear and know, feel and respond with what is helpful, healing with certainty and confidence.

I can respond to those who hold views different than mine with respect and value their shared perspective.
I can still be true to what I know and feel within, while maintaining respect for those who see differently.
Positions are meant to be held for as long as they have value to educate, inspire and transform.
When they begin to antagonize, divide and create rigidity, I forgive and let go.
I trust the most conscious individual to make choices to be open-minded, appreciative and respectful.

Loving us all as we learn from one another,
Betty Lue

“No” or “Yes”?

How do you know how to answer a request?
Am I too busy?
Do I know what to do?
Am I afraid to lose your love and approval?
Am I a nice guy who doesn’t know how to say “No”?
Do I believe people should do for themselves?
Do I believe we should always help one another?
How do I tell which is the most honest and loving response?

When making a decision, listen within.
When making a choice about how to respond, stop and observe.
Gather the facts and the true request being made.
Ask, “How can I give what is fair and honest?
How can I do what is beneficial for all and promotes good will?”

Spirit always guides us so that no one loses.
When we sacrifice or martyr ourselves, we are being unfair.
When we withhold or avoid giving, we are being untrue.
When we feel sorry for the other and give what we don’t have, we are cheating ourselves.
When we judge the other’s neediness, we are not honoring the inner call.

Many brothers and sisters on this planet are in need of education, inspiration, cooperation and community. To offer these precious gifts we must take responsibility, respect what is asked and contribute.
In our society, many do not understand how to assert their rights, how to access information, how to request the assistance they need. While there are many resources available, there is little understanding about how to access and utilize them with effectiveness. We assume they know because we know.

When people are turned away , there is a tendency to believe the denial of services and quit.
When we have the information, the resources and the support, we may be busy, preoccupied or unable to be of help.
How do I respond to every request with a spiritual answer?
How do I turn people away only if I am guided by offering other alternatives?
How do I listen to requests for help by asking myself, “Can I be of help and/or support?”

I am willing to listen within and follow as I am guided. When I do, I am at peace.
I trust in the responses I give, for they are respectful, responsible and encouraging.
I give as I would want given to me if I had need.
I say” No “ when there is a better possibility which I share.
I acknowledge when I have not cared well for myself so cannot give without doing harm.
I trust that what is best for me is best for others.
I am aware that what I give to another I am giving to myself.
I am loving us all with every conscious choice.
Betty Lue

On Purpose

“I am always in the right place at the right time doing the right thing for the right reasons.”
When I am claiming this truth, I will be more likely to experience it wherever I Am.
When I am claiming this truth, I will be more likely to choose what is Highest and Best for myself.
When I am claiming this truth, I will most likely transform my circumstances to work for me.

When we affirm our purposefulness in all we are and do, we reclaim our willingness to be awake and consciously choosing our thoughts, words and actions.
When we are fully present with our current activity or relationship, we are on purpose, being the gift we are with every thought, word and deed.
To be present is to be listening within.
To be present is to be a fair witness.
To be present is to be forgiving of our judgments, resistance and avoidance.
To be present is to bring trust and freedom.
To be present is to be on purpose.

Some think that purposeful living is finding a certain job or place or relationship.
Some spend their lives looking for the “right” ONE or the “right” place or the “right” livelihood.
Finding what is “right” will ceaselessly change as do the cycles and seasons of life.
Choosing what supports you in being fully present is what is “right”.
Being distracted, judging, comparing, comfortable, victimized and being lazy is not “on purpose.”
Being grateful, happy, conscious, at choice, creative, “in love”, at peace are always on purpose.
These are all mental states which a spiritual master can choose no matter what the circumstances.
Most of us want the conditions of our lives to support these states without distraction , detour and delay.

So ask yourself: “What is my purpose in life?” (Here are some answers which may be true for you.)
To be happy and creative.
To listen to the voice of Spirit.
To contribute to the Greater Good.
To live, love, laugh and be happy.
To be inspiring and inspired.
To fully appreciate the life I have.
To love everyone equally.
To learn the lessons of life.
To be all I can be.

Then ask: “How can I best support myself in living my holy purpose, in living ‘on purpose”?
Living in a more conscious culture….
Living with a spiritual partner or friend….
Meditating daily…..
Having a job which inspires me…
Remembering the Love I Am
Reading Holy books…..
Being in nature often.
Listening and following always the path of Love.
Remembering to appreciate every moment.
Living the vision I have for myself and my life.

While I have made up some answers for you, I trust you to do the work to live purposefully everyday.
Our world needs conscious light bearers, those who are willing to be filled and radiant with the Light of Joy and the Love of Good.
If you are reading this reminder, this means YOU!

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Loving Everyone Always

Am I loving me? How? Let me see.
Am I loving you? Is it totally true?
Am I loving all? That seems to be the call.

If fear is the absence of love, wherever there is fear, I must remember LOVE.
If lack of Love is a call for Love, wherever I am not loved must be calling for LOVE.

Where I am not at peace, I must be in conflict about Loving.
When I am not happy, I must be forgetting to Love it All.
Where I am not trusting, I must be doubting the Love I AM.
Where I am stuck, I must not be giving myself the freedom to Love.

I am here to remember Love.
I know the Love I am.
I was created in Love by Love for the Holy Purpose of Loving.
I was created by a Loving Source, the energy of Love. And so were You.
You are here to remember Love.
I know the Love You Are.
You were created in Love by Love for the Holy Purpose of Loving.
You were created by a Loving Source, the energy of Love Itself. And so are we all.

Everyone of us is created in the likeness and image of our Creator.
Everyone of us is created to create.
Everyone of us remembers or forgets the Love we are.
Everyone of us is meant to awaken all to remember the Love that lives in us.
Love is creative.
Love is patient.
Love extends itself.
Love is joyous.
Love is Good.
Love is responsible and response-able.
Love is energetic.
Love is forgiving.
Love is healing.

Yes, You are all of that Love and so much more.
Even those we seem to call “evil” or misguided” or ”crazy” or “fanatic” are Love itself.
Have you ever noticed when you are afraid. you cower and hide or attack to defend?
Have you ever noticed when someone you love is hurt, you want to get even?
Have you ever noticed when you are taught to hate, you do?
Have your ever noticed when people hate you, you fear them?
Have you ever noticed when you are afraid, you resist, avoid or attack?

How can love end the reign of fear? One by one.
You loving you. You loving me. Me loving you and We loving All.
Start where you are.
Loving you today.
It becomes easier to love each one who comes your way.
Love is letting go of fear.

Betty Lue

Attached is Louise Hay’s simple and thorough piece on Loving Yourself. Begin now.

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”

10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.

Louise Hay 1988

Time To Speak Up

Can friends disagree and still be friends?
Can people stay in love when they have different beliefs?
Can families tolerate values’ differences?
Do our differing choices cause us to judge one another?

When did we get the idea that by holding different viewpoints, we were somehow at war?
When did we learn that believing in different politics would cause us to hate or fear?
How did we get the idea that different religions and cultures were evil?
How did we make up that to be on two different sides we could n’t continue deeply caring about one another?

Is there a call for differing politics, differing religions, differing cultures and lifestyles?
I s there a purpose for debate and discussion, for airing our choices and convictions?
Is there a way we can agree to disagree?
Can we learn to respect and value those who don’t have the same viewpoint we do?
Can we separate the thoughts and feelings of those we love from the person themselves?
Are we ignorant because we see the world different than others?
Is the majority always right?
Is the voice that is loudest or most powerful the most honest and fair?

Politics and preferences reflect what we believe.
What we believe is learned from others, from life experience and from media.
What we believe is based on programming not on facts.
What we perceive is based on what we want to see.

I have noticed that at this time of greatest light, around Independence Day, strong thoughts and feelings are experienced and expressed.
It is my hope that we value the freedom to express more that we value what is expressed.
It is our freedoms that must be upheld.
It is the right to believe, the right to speak, the right to choose, the right to pursue happiness, the right to live and love in our own unique way that is inalienable to all..
It is the rights of everyone who live in this country that must prevail to be true to our heritage and constitution.

Freedom is a value that most who live in this country seek to uphold.
Let us give one another the freedom and trust we all deserve.
In freedom I trust.

With trust and freedom I love.
Betty Lue

Selling Freedom and Liberty and Justice for All

Let us all sell-ebrate our freedom,

Everyone is selling something.
Songs, writings, movies, books, speeches, ads, political decisions, even gratitudes.
I look at the underlying intention, values and investment of each individual.
Each one of us must be honest with ourselves to see what it is we are really selling.
I sell love and forgiveness.
I sell freedom for all and trust in what is Good for All.
I sell Joy in giving.
I sell a delight in being awake.
I sell remembering what is Good and Beautiful and Holy.
I sell letting go of fear.
I sell honoring and respecting the rights of everyone.
I sell believing in a higher power, God and Goodness.
I sell successful relationships.
I sell honesty and fairness.
I sell equality and good will towards both enemies and friends.
I sell possibility and opportunity.
I sell peace at all costs.
I sell letting go of what is false and destructive.

I sell with my writings.
I sell with my life story.
I sell with every relationship.
I sell by how I live and give myself.
I sell with the thoughts I think and the words I use and the actions I take.
I sell what I value.
What I value may not be what you value.
I value freedom more than I value what I am selling.
Therefore I encourage each one to find what it is they value.
I encourage everyone to be honest with yourself about what you are selling.
Make sure what you truly value is what you are selling.
I request that you be responsible for the world you are creating with what you are selling.
Being patriotic is being free in expressing what you value without fear.
We have the right and responsibility to express our Truth, as long as we do no harm.
I am selling freedom and justice for all.
I am selling forgiveness and love as the cornerstone of freedom.
Freedom is the prerequisite for fully realizing God and Good.
I am open and willing to hear the heart of everyone’s story to know the real need inside.
There is always an inside story which calls for Love or to receive their abundant gift of Love.
I am willing to listen, forgive my judgments and learn to love everyone.
I remember that one’s behavior is not who they are.
How people behave is usually based on what they think they need to sell.

Loving our freedoms, Betty Lue
Thank you for being real.
Thank you for taking the time to feel.
Thank you for loving you.
Thank you for loving me.
Thank you for setting us all free.
Thank you for being willing to see.
Thank you for being You.

Always willing to hear your Truth.
Betty Lue
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What Do You Want To See?

Are you open to all viewpoints?
As a therapist and counselor, I must be willing to hear many perspectives.
As a writer and consultant, I must be willing to share from a broad perspective.
As a spiritual being committed to love, I must open my mind to forgive it all.

What we believe influences what we perceive.
What we want to believe influences what we choose to let into our awareness.
What we are seeking causes us to connect with what supports our frame of reference.
What we see will be interpreted according to our values, beliefs, history and choices.

I encourage one and all to see this Michael Moore movie no matter your political persuasion.
I invite you to be open to the possible total truth of this documentary.
I found the documentary to be tasteful, respectful and even subtle in its approach to many issues.
And Yes, MM has his own bias as all of us do.

I kept noticing how many intuitions and concerns I had the last three+ years,
but dismissed due to business, distractions, feelings of impotence and apathy.
When I am moved deeply by anything, I ask spiritually, “WHAT AM I TO DO?”
After seeing this documentary, I must ask again and again……

I am to wakeup and stay awake, no matter what.
I am to awaken others through honest expression, even when unpopular.
I am to encourage you to question what doesn’t feel “right” or “honest”/
I am to bring those who are caught up and unconscious to ask, “Is there something more?”
I am to encourage the sleeping masses to wakeup and make a difference.
I am to initiate voting, discussion, action, education and inspiration.
I am to speak up and speak out when it feels important.
I am to ask for spiritual support in promoting what is honest and fair.
I am to remind us all that decisions must be made for the benefit of all.
I am to honor and respect those who have no voice or have not yet been heard.

I am not a political person.
I see myself as clearly promoting the call for Love.
The promotion of fear paralyzes and distorts what it true.
Each of us can begin by asking ourselves,
“Am I promoting fear or love?”
Am I encouraging healing or pain?
Am I creating goodness, wholeness and beauty in my world or are my actions destructive?”

Here to awaken by staying awake,
Betty Lue

Self Cultivation

Whenever you are feeling in a bad place, uncertain and confused, go within.
Whenever you are afraid, feeling distressed or sick, go within.
Whenever you are agitated, bored, feeling at the effect of the world, go within.
When you are needing some relief, some peace of mind, a spiritual focus or direction, go to the place of stillness or seek counsel from someone who is awake and will guide you to go within. Stop..Look...and Listen for your own inner guidance.

Cultivate your own garden first.
Rather than looking at what others are doing or should be doing, always mind your own business.
Seek to live your life cultivating your own good works.
If there is an opportunity to share with others, know it is best done by emanating good “chi” through self cultivation.
The law of attraction works best through fulfillment rather than neediness or wanting something outside to happen.
When we have filled our own cup to overflowing, others always reap the benefit.
When we have loved ourselves well, we teach others to love themselves well with our example.

It is a time for self cultivation, renewal and loving reminders for those who would work their own soil, plant seeds of consciousness in their own garden and pull the weeds of discontent and discouragement.

So often we seek to attract something or someone to fulfill ourselves.
The rewards of life are found in being full, seeking for nothing and giving all to all.
Therein lies the secret law of attraction.
That which is called to those who are fulfilled will yield a rich harvest for all.

I am cultivating my own garden with great joy and enthusiasm.
I notice that the rewarding results are immediate in the peace and contentment I feel and the natural responses I receive.

In Self cultivation, I am free. I am independent. I am responsible. I am present. I am satisfied.
In Self cultivation, .I am awake…I am aware…I am responsive. I am creative…I am helpful.
In Self cultivation, I am grateful… I am peaceful…I am delighted…I am connected. I am home.

Enjoy your day… Know that the seeds spirit planted in the garden of your soul, need your loving attention and nurturing.

Loving you by loving me,

Betty Lue

Freedom Is Joy (for me)

Can you imagine that for some freedom causes fear?
For those who are uncertain, structure and rules are security.
For others freedom is a joyous opportunity to create whatever is inspiring and beneficial.
The same experience can be perceived and judged and experienced so differently.

How do we know what is needed?

Love is defined according to our past experiences.
Love can be a full belly. (except when we are on a special diet.)
Love can be a gentle touch or warm hug.(except when we have negative experiences with touch.)
Love can be laughter and play. (except when we are feeling sad and separate.)
Love can be serious listening. (except when we don’t want to talk.)
Love can be sharing some adventuresome stories. (except when we are bored.)
Love can be special attention and appreciation. (except when it makes us embarrassed.)

Indeed Love is a natural gift from my heart to yours which responds to the need in the moment.
Joy is most easily shared when all parties are receptive and willing to be happy.
Peace is a gift for those who are ready to lay conflict to rest.
Freedom is especially valuable for those who know what to do without limitations.

When relating to anyone, we must respond to the inner call, our intuition. When wanting to be with another, we must ask what is wanted or listen within to what we hear to offer. When beginning each day, we must be ready to be present with the people and experiences that come our way. I do not know what anything is for. I do know that I have given my life for the Highest Good of All. I am willing to be an instrument of peace and joy and love. I am willing to be the space of freedom and trust where love is remembered and wholeness restored. I am willing to express what is given to me to share with no attachment for outcome. I am willing to listen within and share what comes without fear or guile.

I am willing to love you and the Presence of Love within me,
Betty Lue

Clearing My Mind

When I am cloudy, my mind is calling for clearing.
When I am confused, my mind is calling for focus.
When I am upset, my mind is calling for peace.
When I am afraid, my mind is calling for trust.
When I am controlling, my mind is calling for freedom.
When I am stuck, my mind is calling for creativity.
When I am judgmental, my mind is calling for forgiveness.

The most valuable gift I have to give is a mind that is clear and filled with the Light of God and a delight in Goodness.

If I am having a cloudy day, I must blow away the clouds of fear and doubt, guilt and blame, sorrow and regret,
with forgiveness and release.
Wherever I am holding judgments of myself, of others or of the world, I am holding particles of dust in front of my eyes.
My judgments create what clouds my mind.
Forgiveness is the wind of purification that cleanses my mind.
Letting go releases me to see the Light and to be the Light I Am.
Today and everyday I choose to practice the art of letting go by forgiving everything and everyone.
I need not understand anything.
I need not analyze “Why” or ask “Who?”
I need only let go.

I forgive all judgments…yours, mind and ours.
I forgive the judging mind.
I forgive unloving perceptions.
I forgive regrets and guilts.
I forgive worry and fear.
I forgive negative thinking.
I forgive confusion and complexity.
I forgive disorder and chaos.
I forgive uncertainty and doubt.
I forgive war and violence.
I forgive sickness and death.
I forgive cruelty and harmfulness.
I forgive media and politics.
I forgive unfairness and prejudice.
I forgive compulsions and addictions.
I forgive forgetfulness.
I forgive hanging onto old painful stories.
I forgive darkness and despair.
I forgive disrespect and irreverence.
I forgive carelessness and laziness.
I forgive unwillingness and stuckness.
I forgive resistance and stubbornness.
I forgive separation and loneliness.
I forgive whatever troubles you and me and us.
I forgive all things and all people.
I forgive myself.
I forgive blaming and making wrong.
I forgive teaching unhappy songs.
I forgive the “reality” of insanity.
I forgive unnecessary drugs and surgery.
I forgive doing what is ordinary and homogenized.
I forgive taking and not giving.
I forgive not celebrating what is wonderful.
I forgive adulterations.
I forgive seriousness.
I forgive unconsciousness.
I forgive arguing.
I forgive pettiness.
I forgive disinterest and boredom.
I forgive everything we made up that is not of God and Good for All.
I forgive comparison.
I forgive trying to be better than others.
I forgive excuses and justifications.
I forgive hurting ourselves and each other.
I forgive scaring ourselves and others.
I forgive pushiness and impatience.
I forgive not asking clearly for what I want.
I forgive not being happy.
I forgive limiting myself and others.

This is a short list.
My 30 days to enlightenment program includes 30 forgivenesses written and/or spoken every morning. followed by 30 choices.
This is a way of clearing the mind so that God and Goodness can then fill an empty mind to allow the Son (Sun) to shine through you in all you do.
At the end of the day it is best to rest with 30 gratitudes expressed to the Source that lives and gives in you and through you.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Confusion or Clarity

Recently I am noticing confusion and chaos, incompletion and incompetence.
Does this mean I am confused and chaotic, incomplete and incompetent?

Some would say, what you see is who you are.
I would say what you see is either a call for help or a gift of love and helpfulness.
I choose to be clear.
I choose to bring freedom and focus.
I choose to trust all will be well.
I choose to bring what I begin to completion in an orderly and respectful way.
I choose to give my very best and to invite the very best from those who are here to work with me.
I choose to work with those who are willing to give their very best.
I choose to let go with love when the best is not being served.
I choose to teach and give what I would learn and receive.

I must know what I want.
I must be able to imagine the highest outcome.
I must forgive and let go of all past limiting or negative experiences.
I must be clear in my communication.
I must ask for help from those who are willing and able to be helpful.
I must discern whether someone is capable and available to help me.
I must ask for and clarify the cost, the timing and the specifics both parties may be expecting to exchange.
I must be present and willing to tell the highest Truth I know.

To be clear and focused, I need to clear my mind, my body and my Spirit.
The colon is the physical place of hanging on to old guilt and resentment.
I need to clear my body. Water, pure food, lots of simple movement and fresh air to breathe.

I must clear my mind.
Wherever I have leftover guilt or resentment, I may be a victim of my sabotaging thoughts.
Wherever I am still telling old stories about past mistakes, I am likely to recreate the same mistake.
Wherever I am worrying, fearing or defending, I am living in the past and will invite more of the same.
I must forgive, erase and release what is not real and no longer present.
I must begin anew.

I must be focused spirituality.
I must be filled with joy and laughter, gratitude and love.
Wherever I reach out with love and trust, I will be met with love and trust…...unless the other individual is in need.
When I am interacting with someone who is not able to be present, in love and giving their best, I must reassess my request and serve rather than be served.
Often even after noticing a problem, we proceed or push ahead with our original plan rather than choosing again.
If I am clear about what it is I want to experience, I must be willing to give full attention to what is needed and wanted to receive the experience I have chosen.

I am learning how to stay clear in the midst of chaos and confusion.
I am clear that in relationship there is always more than one person’s clarity or confusion to consider.
I am clear that it is up to the most conscious one to choose again for the Highest Good.
Loving you in clarity and Truth.

Betty Lue

What Really Matters

When you look at your life, what really matters to you?
Often the petty irritations and upsets distract us from what is important.

What really is important to you?
Highly effective people know to put first things first with the end in mind.

What really is the end you seek?
When we are busy just getting by, we will always just get by.

What is the quality of life you seek to have?
When we spend energy complaining about what you don’t have and trying to “fix it”, you will always see something more to fix in yourselves, your home, your job, your relationships.

What will your life look like and feel like and be like, when you have what you really want?
Begin by focusing on your ideal and your vision for your whole life.
Create a mission statement and goals to totally support that vision.
Begin today to focus your highest priorities.
#1 priority is remembering your vision and mission.

Look clearly and objectively at your priorities.
Is it what you have for dinner tonight or the quality of your relationships?
Is it what shoes you have to wear or whether you are being kind to yourself and others?
Is it the traffic going to work or remembering to live peacefully with your neighbors (every one of them)?

What are your values?
Where do you spend your time, energy, thoughts and money?
What you give to, reflects the values you are living.
Be honest about what you are living and what you are teaching by how you live.

My vision is a world where everyone is aware of their own potential and believes in the right to live their dreams.
My vision is a world where everyone feels loved and significant.
My vision is a world where everyone receives the inspiration, education, healthy resources and opportunities to fulfill their dreams. My mission is to be the space of trust and freedom, where love is remembered and wholeness is realized,.
I am the space where faith is remembered and fulfillment of dreams is restored.
I am a presence where individual and collective potential is recognized and the freedom to live, love, be fulfilled is restored.
My highest priorities are spiritual connection, loving and respectful relationships, inspiring communication, giving the best I have to those who are receptive and being grateful for this good life.

I would like to hear your vision and your mission.
Let me hear from you. I will say “YES”.
I join with you in the fulfillment of all goals that 100% support you in living your mission everyday.
I know you can, when you “know” you can.
I trust in the power of joining, in remembering what is true for each one of us.

Loving you this and everyday.
Betty Lue

P.S. See The Heart and Soul of America, a Disney documentary, coming out this Friday July 2.

Through You

Remember that it is God in you doing the good works.
Remember it is you that translates the words you read.
Remember it is you that interprets other’s behavior.
Remember it is you that makes up your way of perceiving.
Remember it is you that seeks to find the good or evil, the right or wrong.
Remember it is you that can stay or leave.
Remember it is you that can ask for what you want or take what you get.
Remember it is you that chooses to live where you do.
Remember it is you that chooses to smile or to frown.
Remember it is you that chooses what to eat and how to take care of your body.
Remember it is you that chooses what you read and watch on TV.
Remember it is you that chooses to give or to take.
Remember it is you that can learn to love or learn to hate.
Remember it is you that chooses to complain or to celebrate.
Remember it is you that can spread fear or encourage love.
Remember it is you who can resent or forgive.
Remember it is you who can change your world by changing your mind.
Remember it is you who chooses the path of peace or the path of conflict.
Remember it is you who goes to bed sad and disappointed or content and grateful. Remember it is you who give thanks for what you have or seeks for something more.
Remember it is you who can enjoy life day by day or wish you weren’t here.
Remember it is your choice what you believe and what you teach.

It is your willingness to listen and follow, to be happy, to be willing, to persist, to say YES.
It is your choice to look for the light and share your awareness with others.
It is your choice to share the love of God and the love of Goodness and Mercy .
It is through You that God can do great and good things .
I am grateful we are totally at choice.
Forgive and choose again.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

And a child shall lead them..

Gianina—With Grampa Robert and me for the week of June 18-25

When we see the world with wonder, we look at what is here now.
When we feel lonely, we simply need someone to reach out and gather us in their loving arms.
When we are unafraid, we can do almost anything.
When we hurt ourselves, we ask Love to take the pain away.
When we feel happy inside, we sing out with joy.
When we have something to say, we express without caution or cleverness.
When we are hungry, we eat what feels good in our mouth and our tummy.
When we are tired, we lay down easily to take a rest.
When there is a chore to be done, we do it with enthusiasm and play.
When there is something new, we explore with curiosity.
When there is someone calling for love, we reach out and invite them to love us back.
When there are tears or laughter, farts or shouts, we express ourselves without guile or guilt.
When we see something beautiful, we notice and “ahhhh”.
When we see something scary, we notice and “ohhh”.
When we see something awesome, we notice and “Wow”.
What we notice, we like to share with others who care.
We are open to hear about God and angels, ghost and unicorns.
We want to believe in good things and try not to believe in bad things.
We never run out of more energy for new adventures and loving possibilities.

Sitting on Grampa’s lap to read is the best!
Holding Grandma’s hand while falling asleep gives us rest.

And so it is.
Are we not all children inside?
Just wanting a safe and loving place to reside?

Let us build this place within.
This is how our world must begin again.

Loving you faithfully,
Betty Lue

Betrayal of Trust

When you Love someone…..
When you trust someone….
When doing good for someone….
When depending on someone….
When giving your best to someone…..

What do you do when they are unfaithful to you?
(when they are unfaithful to their word?)
What do you do when they betray your trust?
(when they do not keep their agreements of loyalty and commitment?)
What do you do when they use you?
(when they take what you give and use it for their own gain?)
What do you do when they abandon you?
(when they leave the relationship in guilt and shame or in triumph and conquest?)
What do you do when they reject your gifts?
(when they say “no” to the good ant the love you have offered them?)

Love is freedom and trust.
Love is the freedom to choose whatever will bring you to enlightenment and faith.
Love is trusting in the process of awakening and returning to Love and wholeness.
Some follow a path of obedience and fidelity.
Some follow a path of arrogance and betrayal.
Some live a life of mastery and excellence in all things.
Some live a life of giving as little as they can and getting as much as they can.
Some are guided by fear, defensiveness and attack.
Some are guided by love, trusting and forgiveness.
Some do Good Works.
Some seek only to receive the good works of others.
Some use and abuse the kindness of the trusting and innocent.

We can take others. life choices personally….
A teacher can feel responsible for a student cheating.
A husband can take responsibility for a wife forsaking the vows of marriage.
A customer can feel hurt by the rude behavior of a store clerk.
A doctor can assume responsibility for the patient not taking good care of their health.
A friend can feel offended by their friend not showing up for their scheduled appointment.
A parent can feel guilty for their child using drugs.
OR….
We can allow others to be free to choose and experience the consequences of their choices.
We can trust others to learn from their mistakes as well as their successes.
We can give others feedback on our feelings, our preferences and state our values.
We can be a part of the authentic feedback system that enables others to wakeup.
We can honestly notice how we allow others behavior to offend or hurt us.
We can let these experience wake us up to be more responsible for our own thoughts and feelings.
We can be responsible to ourselves for staying happy, at peace and in love.
We can choose not to allow anyone to dim our light or shut down our life force.
We can make a commitment to ourselves to be faithful to and trust ourselves.
We can commit to not betray or forsake ourselves no matter what others do or don’t do.
We can conscientiously take care of our own attitude and well-being.
We can appreciate our own growth, flexibility, willingness and healing process.
There is much we can do for ourselves which promotes healing and awakening for others.

I am not responsible for what others choose. I am responsible for how I respond to their choices.
I am not responsible for how others feel. I am responsible for how I feel.
I am not responsible for how others judge. I am responsible for my own judgments.
I am not responsible for others life learning. I am responsible for my own.

The more I mind my own business, the more I will assume responsibility for my attitude.
The more I take responsibility for my thoughts and feelings, the more I am at peace.
The more I am at peace the more my light shines and my love flows.
The more I am in love, the more I give and the more I learn.
The more I am learning and sharing, the more others learn and share with me.
Let it be. Let it be. Let it be. We are free. We are free. We are free.
And in my freedom I can see what I am here to be.

Thank you for loving You,
Betty Lue

How to Respond

How can I respond with love?
How can I correct or change in my attitude?
How can I learn from this?

When life gives us lemons, we can make lemonade and drink it, serve it and enjoy it.
When life gives us lemons, we can exchange them, smell them, sell them or give them away.
When life gives us lemons, we can hate them, reject them, avoid them, or condemn them.
We are always choosing how we perceive and interpret each experience we encounter.
We can continue to react according to our historical pattern or choose a new way to respond.

When life is too good to be true, it probably is, but maybe not. …
I prefer to stay open for miracles and magic, for surprises and gifts.
I prefer to look for the good in all things.
I prefer to learn from everything.
I prefer to dance in joy rather than drown in tears.
I prefer to stay open and willing rather than become closed and resistant.
I prefer to remember my holiness even when experiencing my humanness.
I prefer to sing in the rain rather than wish it were a sunny day.

My attitude is my choice.
My attitude brings me down or lifts me up.
I can choose and change my attitude.
I can choose to let my judgments convince me of what is wrong.
Or I can let my curiosity and determination show my what I can do to make it ‘right’.

We are free to choose whether in prison, in poverty, or in pain.
We are free to choose how we respond to rejection, misunderstanding, deceit and attack.
We are free to choose how we live and to whom we give.
My attitude determines what I think and what I think determines the outcome I experience.

What do you do with lemons?
How do you respond to your own mistakes, what others may call “sin”?
How do you respond to other’s errors?
With Love and forgiveness or fear and condemnation?

Definitions:
Sin literally means “off the mark’ in Greek. It is an archery term.
React: To come from fear and protect, defend or attack back.
Respond: To come from kindness and seek to do good with what is.
Proact: To seek to do good and choose to Love in all circumstances by taking no offense.

I am loving you, proactively….
There is nothing you can do or say that would convince me to not “Love You”.
Betty Lue

Too Good to Be True

Bad things happen to Good people.
Yes, I have been lied to, cheated, and stolen from.
Yes, I have been attacked, criticized, and hurt.
Yes, I have been used, betrayed and rejected.
Yes, I have been blind-sided and derailed.
Yes, I have experienced infidelity, abuse and disrespect.
Yes, I have known bankruptcy, divorce, and violence.
Yes, I have known guilt, fear, worry and depression.
Yes, I have made mistakes, and committed what some call sin.
(I do not linger in any of these experiences. Judgment gets us stuck and forgiveness sets us free.)

Yes, I am glad to have known these and other states of human experience.
It is not only possible but predictable that in this world of learning, we all will have an opportunity to experience life as a human experience.
There are negative and positive experiences in a duality.
Here we can learn from both the bad and the good.
My holy work is to forgive my judgments and perceive the gift of learning or unlearning.
Often my holy work has been to remove my judgment from the experience and simply perceive what is. When seen without judgment, life offers me opportunities to love no matter what or to fear and reject some things and some people and to embrace and attract some events and some people. I believe that what life gives us is a series of wakeup calls, choices of how we choose to live and give and express and create. I constantly am in process choosing not to lose my way, but rather to reaffirm the path of Love I have chosen. I constantly reaffirm that this is a learning lab in which I am not a victim of the world I see, but rather an interactive creator of my experience. I have the power to co-create my perceptions, my response and my ultimate learning. I am aware that how I choose to perceive and respond have a powerful effect on those who are within my paradigm. If I am blaming, others feel guilty and may withdraw or become blaming. If I forgive erase and release, I offer the opportunity for the other to do the same. We all are given a blank canvas on which to begin again to create the life we want or we can constantly paint over the old perspective with a new version of the old story.

When things seem to go wrong, I ask these questions of myself.
Am I willing to stop, look and listen within?
How can I be response-able?
How can I respond with love?
What can I correct or change?
What can I learn from this?

I use my own mind as a tool to interpret, to clarify, to understand.
I use my attitude to affirm, accept and appreciate the value in all things.
I use my Essence the Love that I am to contribute the Good I know at all times.
I give the best I have. I teach the love I know. I forgive so that I can love unconditionally.
This brings me happiness and peace. This is the foundation from which I live and give and be.
This is good for me.

Loving you is loving me and sets us both free to be the Love we are.
Betty Lue

More Light

The longest days of the year offer more light.
Metaphysically more light means seeing more of what we have created.
More light means seeing more of what we may not want to see.
More light means more awareness of long ago buried or hidden memories.
More light means looking at unconscious and conscious omissions and commissions.
More light means being able to clear our guilt and regret.
More light means seeing and forgiving others’ errors.
More light means more insight and understanding.
More light means opportunities to see what needs still to be done.
More light means staying awake.
More light means dispelling the ghosts of the past.
More light means disappearing the skeletons in our closets.
More light means seeing what really is.
More light is essential to clearing the obstacles to Perfect Love.

Here at the apex of the sun shining its warmth and light on us,
we are given the opportunity to see and clear more obstacles to the fullness of our own Unlimited Light and Love.

We may be finding ourselves haunted by some past event or unfinished business.
We may be remembering how we forgot to fully love someone who mattered to us.
We may see where we lost our direction and left our own path.
We may be awakened to how we could have handled a negative situation differently.
We may see what errors we have made in our communication or withholding communication.
We may see where we missed the boat and blamed someone else.
We may see a pattern of avoiding conflict or wimping out on our true values.
We may recognize that someone we dislike is just like us.
We may notice that the world needs our help when we thought this world was here to help us.
We may also see with delight how we have given so much love.
We may see how we have been blessed.
We may celebrate how far we have come.
We may appreciate how we have forgiven, healed and created a good life.
We may give thanks for those who have gone before us.
We may be grateful for our friends and family from whom we have learned.
We may enjoy the fullness of each day with it’s surprises and powerful learnings.

I am aware that when I am lost, confused, unclear or conflicted, I need only ask and receive more Light.
I will be filled with insight, awareness and clarity to make the highest and best choices for all concerned.

Let us dedicate this and every day to more light within ourselves and our lives.
Remember:
We provide the warmth and light in which all can grow into the magnificent Beings we are meant to be.

Let your Whole and Holy Light shine,
Betty Lue

Father’s Day

All of us have a father within us.
How we define our father creates how we see ourselves provided for and valued by our world.
How we see ourselves in relationship with our father generates how we unconsciously relate to ourselves.
If we were ignored, we may ignore ourselves.
If we were abused, we may abuse ourselves.
If we were admired, we may admire ourselves.
If our father always encouraged us to do better, we may push ourselves to do better.
(The same is true of our relationship with our mother.)

Are you similar to your father?
Are you rebelling against your father?
Do you identify with your physical father or your spiritual father?
Is there a male figure with whom you identify or use as your role model?
How have you chosen the men in your life as partners, friends and lovers?
What are your goals for yourself?
What do you need to do to be provided for well?
What is your real work in this world?
What are your work ethics?
How hard to you think you need to work to provide for your responsibilities?
Do you believe your father cares for you and looks out for you?
Do you believe it is possible to provide for yourself, easily and happily?
Can you see how our father’s beliefs about provision may unconsciously program us to feel the same about making money, earning a living, working hard, struggling and sacrifice?

What we think of our father and what he thought of us often determines our relationship with the world.
If we were admired and told we could do anything we wanted, it is very likely we have believed that prophecy. If we were negated, ignored and put down, it is likely we find ourselves in similar situations.

Our programming from our physical parents often is limiting, because our parents may have been limited.
We are now in need of new models and new programming. Before we can let go of what is not so, we must recognize what it is that we are releasing. To wash our minds clear of limiting beliefs, we must become aware of the content and author of those beliefs. To free ourselves and our parents is a life work. Recognizing and erasing what is merely a belief passed on through the generations frees everyone to be unlimited in choices and life scripts. We literally are forgiving and freeing past generations of misbelief.

When you identify with an unlimited Spiritual Father, Creator, Source and Provider, you can get the picture and model of Unlimited Presence, Unlimited Provision, Unlimited Creative Potential. If you believe you are unworthy, ignored and rejected by God, the ultimate Father, you will not accept your inheritance, being created in the likeness and image of the One you see as your true parent. This is one of the values of recognizing our parents are merely temporary guardians, not the Creative Force in our universe.

Bless all the fathers and mothers as the children of God we are.
Bless all the daughters and sons as the children of God we are.
Bless all the people of this earth as the unlimited creative potential we are.
All of us the same, created in the likeness and image of the Infinite, Abundant and all-loving presence, we are here name and claim our inheritance.
This is the day to undo what is not true.
This is the day to affirm what is, was and will be our Truth forever.
We can forgive and erase past false programming and limiting historical perspectives.
We can choose and affirm the Truth that is ours forever.

Thank you to the fathers and forefathers who set us free to fully be our whole and Holy selves.
Thank you to our fathers and forefathers who created nations and communities and homes in which each and everyone is free to create for ourselves the goodness, wholeness and beauty that is within us.
Thank you to our fathers and forefathers for living and giving the best they knew within their own belief.
Thanks to ourselves for being willing to be free and abundant, happy and creative.

Blessed be,
Betty Lue

Who Is Failing Here?

Is the world failing us?
Are we failing ourselves?
Are we here to succeed in the world?
Are we here to find and master our own life journey?
Are we here to win worldly prizes by identifying and living worldly values?
Are we here to enjoy lasting happiness by living in integrity with spiritual principle?
Is money, fame and power the ultimate goal or is peace, love and lasting happiness?
Are we here to achieve accolades and the approval of others?
Are we here to let go of external rewards and find fulfillment within?
Are we willing to do what the world teaches us because we believe in the world?
What is real? Is it what the majority believe in?
What is real? Is it what is lasting and True through time and eternity?
What matters? Growing up and finding our way in alignment with our True Identity?
What matters? Winning the race against time and beating others in wealth, youth and conquest?
Are we graded based on how much we learn or how we practice what we know?
Is there a grading system in spiritual mastery or only pass-fail?
Can we graduate without being the best? Can we do good without others noticing?

We seem to be at a crossroads in our evolution where we can grow up and take full responsibility or continue to blame someone else for our dilemma. Maybe our wars, bankruptcy and disease are not due to other’s attacking us, but rather our strategy of attack and defend, take and accumulate, strive without gratitude.

What would happen to each one of us, if we would choose to follow the path of our heart, to live happily doing, giving and creating what was most enjoyable and peaceful for us?
What would happen if we were willing to live within our means on less not more, simply rather than creating complexity, honoring ourselves rather than seeking what isn’t ours, helping and serving rather than conquering or selling?

Life seems to be a moment by moment choice to fear or to love, to take or to give, or die or to live.
Life seems to be the opportunity to destroy or create, to hang on or let go, to strive or to flow.
Life seems to be the chance to stay asleep or wake up, to blend in or stand out, to withhold or contribute.
Life seems to offer the possibility of acquiring knowledge or wisdom, failed dreams or fulfillment,
Bitterness and guilt or forgiveness and faith, prizes and toys or inner peace and lasting joy.

I know from counseling, teaching and helping thousands of unique beings from every walk of life that each one is on our own path of mastery, our own sacred journey home.
It seems we each are wherever we are not by chance but by Divine appointment, to learn and earn whatever experience can be best utilized by our Higher Self to help us wakeup and realize tour True nature and the reason for our being.
It seems that the more we surrender and unlearn our errant beliefs and undo our limited programming, the more we free our minds to remember what is true and good and whole within us.
The more we forgive our self judgment, the more we can perceive the limitless possibilities within ourselves as we contribute our lives to serve only the highest good for all.

Let us commit to succeed at living and giving our gifts of Love and Joy and Peace in all we do wherever we are.

Loving us all,
Betty Lue

Helping Others Succeed

They should know what I want.
They should know how to make me happy.
They should know what I like.
They should know how to be loving and kind.

When people succeed at meeting our needs and satisfying our wants, they are more likely to try again.
When students know how to pass the tests, they are more likely to study and do well again.
When spouses know exactly what we want for dinner and can prepare it, they are encouraged to do more.
When our children accomplish the chores we ask and receive our appreciation, they want to do more.

Likewise, when people fail at meeting the requirements, they are less likely to try again.
When students fail their exams, they are less likely to enjoy studying to pass.
When spouses try and fail to please us, they are more likely to stop trying.
When children are criticized for what they do, they are less likely to do more chores without pressure.

Our work is to give people as much responsibility as they can successfully handle.
We need to ascertain how much each individual can do and they make sure they experience a success.
We need to treat people as they want to be treated to succeed.
Often men need very specific directions for activities that women take for granted.
Often our partners need to know exactly what we want for our birthday and the store in which to shop.
Often children need us to be clear and specific, even writing out our rules and agreements until we are clear they understand and can succeed.

When we ask someone to do something for us and they fail, it is our responsibility.
Forgive and choose again. Forgive and look within. Forgive and ask them how to help them succeed. Forgive and seek spiritual direction. Forgive and remember how you prefer to be treated when you fail.
We must ensure success with out employees, our children and our partners by offering the best we know.

It may be difficult to know what to do in a world which is failing.

Success breeds success.
Betty Lue

Graduation

Life is a university.
We are enrolled in daily classes supporting our freedom and fulfillment or our entrapment and depletion. We choose the lessons we learn.
We are here to remember.
We are here to return to Love.
We are not handed the answers to the tests and challenges we attract to ourselves.
We are here to learn.
We can use spiritual principle to understand and respond or we can rely on our learned judgments, defensiveness and fear .
We can re-create the same challenges again and again in different forms ,until we come to peace.
When we are at peace, we understand and are released from repeating what is complete.

Life offers opportunities to remember what is True.
Life offers opportunities to unlearn what is false.
Life offers choices in which we can celebrate and enjoy or condemn and dread.
Life is a school of our creation…to return to what is already written within us.
We all will wakeup and remember.
We all graduate.

When we learn how to forgive, undo, and perceive what is real, we graduate and celebrate.
When we give up our need to do it “right”, we give up the fight to perfection, wealth and security.
When we unlearn our desire to “win” and invite in the freedom of non-judgment, we create peace.
‘All things work together for Good’ doesn’t guarantee that all things in this world are good.
It does guarantee that when seen “rightly”, all things can be used for the Good of All.
Everything is either a call to wakeup and Love again or a gift of Love to be received with gratitude.

When we come from our heart, when we open our minds, when we listen within, we condemn nothing.
When we erase judgments, we perceive the lesson being learned, the miracle of forgiveness.
When we condemn nothing and forgive everything, love flows.
When love flows, happiness grows.
When happiness grows, we trust in Good.
When we trust in Good, we offer Goodness and mercy.
When we offer Goodness and mercy, we receive the blessing of our offering.
When we receive the Goodness we give, we are filled with Goodness.
When we are fulfilled with Abundant Goodness, we are rich in Spirit and in Joy.
When we are rich in Spirit and in Joy, we are at peace.
When we are at peace, we graduate.

I am loving you,
Betty Lue

Self Image

How we see ourselves is communicated to others.
How we see ourselves is how others learn to see us.
How we see ourselves is what we remind ourselves to be.
How we see ourselves sets the tone for how we are treated by our world.

The image we hold in our minds is communicated through our thoughts, our words and our actions.
The image we have for ourselves is relayed through our body, posture, tone of voice, and eye contact.
The image we hold of ourselves is broadcast through our dress, hairstyle, and way we communicate.
When we see ourselves as magnificent, whole and abundant we let the world know.
When we see ourselves a limited, lacking and needy, our world gets the message.

When we respect ourselves, we teach others to respect us.
When we love ourselves, we teach others to love us.
When we appreciate ourselves, we teach others how to be appreciative.
When we like who we are and how we look, we teach others to like us.

The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect me.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect myself.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect others.

How do you see yourself
Physically?
Mentally?
Spiritually?
Financially?
In relationships?

Do you see yourself as successful or a failure, a creator or a victim, abundant or lacking?
How do you want others to see you?
What message are you sending to others?
Where are you in conflict, in self deception or giving mixed messages?
What do you need to forgive, heal or undo in your own self image?
When you forgive your past experiences, what is the Truth about you?
When you remember you are as God created you, whole and happy and free, how will others see y ou?

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What is Real?

We are created to be creative.
We are created to be free.
When we are creative and free, remembering the Love we are, we create only Love.
When we judge our creations as right or wrong, we create the possibility of mis-creation.
This world is an experience in which we have projected our belief in good and evil.
The worldly experience is a temporary experience of complexity, judgment, and duality.
This worldly experience represents our belief in “not God”.
When we believe in what is “not Good” we see “not good.
When we judge things, we make what we judge real.
When we believe we are betrayed, we see betrayal and the possibility thereof.
When we believe in error, we perceive and create error.
This worldly experience is a screen on which we project our beliefs and mis-beliefs.
The world we see is a world of “apparency” or illusion, in which we interpret everything.
When we value our beliefs, we hold them in place to be re-created and seen again.
When we forgive our beliefs, we release our judgments and allow Light and Love into our minds.
When we condemn, we make real that which we condemn, like holding a prisoner hostage.
When we let go of fear, we allow love to cleanse, to heal, to erase what is not real.

Forgiveness is a tool to erase all mis-creations.
Forgiveness allows the release of misperceptions.
Forgiveness opens our minds to our creative potential.
Forgiveness frees us from our own self-made pain and condemnation.
Forgiveness is a key to freedom and to happiness.
Forgiveness is the mental cleanser which clears the obstacles to love.
Forgiveness is the gift we give ourselves to free ourselves to choose again.

Consider beginning each day writing and saying 30 forgivenesses daily to free your mind.
Consider then writing and speaking 30 choices to create with God for Good.
Consider ending your day with 30 gratitudes to celebrate the beauty and bounty of your co-creation.
Consider the possibility that this is all life is for---to remove all obstacles to the freedom to create.
Consider the magnificent and abundant joy that we will know when we only create for the Good of All.

Creating this day with the Love of God,
Betty Lue

Through the Eyes of a Child

The world is a place of adventure, love and happiness.
Everyone is kind is a safe place of comfort and peace.
Life is meant to be lived fully and freely.
Go until there is no more energy and you have to stop.
Play with anyone who will play with you.
Look for what makes things work.
“Princesses” and special people know us and will talk with us.
Be careful of places that are dark or sound “creepy”.
Laugh and giggle whenever you can.
Eat only cold things that are chocolate and things that are warm and chocolate
Make sure you win and the loser wants to play again.
Hug and kiss and tell your Dad you love him to get what you want.
Stand up really tall when you have to be tall to go on the ride.
Be really small and cuddley when you want to be carried.
Look for crayons to draw something when you are bored.
Ask for help only when you simply can’t do it yourself.
Know you are beautiful whether your hair is brushed or not.
Find a way to have fun and forget about the pain you felt two minutes ago.
Cry when you are sad or tired to make sure someone cares.
Run if you don’t have to walk or sit still.
Always find something to climb to as tall as the grownups.
Look for ways we can help to make someone smile.
Sing as loudly as you can and maybe you can get everyone to sing, too.

This sounds like something we all could do.
Maybe we can let go of our “adulterations”.
Let’s just be kids and know we are loved.

I love you Gia for being a profound teacher of innocence.
“And the little child shall lead us.”

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Last Day of School

(Taking Gia to Disneyland with Robert and her Dad this weekend)

Today 6/11 Gia’s last day of kindergarten.
She has had an awesome year due to wonderful Kid’s Care before and after her afternoon kindergarten. She has had three great classroom teachers. with adventures in art, science, music, drama, reading, writing, math, friendship and so much more. Her classroom is a glorious array of every child’s success displayed in every corner. We went to the Kindergarten kid’s musical concert two weeks ago.

What a special time for her to be learning and growing at a public school that actually believes and lives their own mission. From the principal on down they intend every child to leave sixth grade knowing that all things are possible. Whether the teacher’s requests of the administration or the kid’s requests of the teachers, everyone is heard and responded to with respect and support to make their dreams come true. The PTA raises money to keep the library open longer hours. When funding is short, they raise money to buy what is needed. Everyone is encouraged to make a difference. They are making a difference in children’s lives. They make a difference in the community. They make a difference to each family.

Every child deserves to be at a school where the teachers support the kids, the administration supports the teachers, the school board supports the administration and the community supports the school board. Everyone makes a difference, from the custodian and cafeteria worker to the principal and school secretary. You and I can do so much to raise our children in loving caring environments.

Give each child and every child the right to dream.
Give each child and every child the opportunity to live their dream.
Give each child and every child both freedom and responsibility.
Give each child and every child encouragement and nurturing.
Give each child and every child hope for the future of a better world.
Give each child and every child a cleaner environment and healthy food.
Give each child and every child better programming on TV and video games.
Give each child and every child relationships which are respectful and compassionate.
Give each child and every child your time, your consideration and your sincere caring.
Give each child and every child an opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings.
Give each child and every child the smiles, hugs and quiet time they so much need.
Give each child and every child a safe place to rest at night knowing their basic needs will be happily met.
Give each child and every child the love, understanding, forgiveness and consideration you would want.
Give each child and every child your very best..even if you have never met before.
Children live up to our expectations when they are loved.
Let us expect their best and love them with our best.
We will all win……

Loving each child and every child.
Betty Lue