Monday, January 31, 2011

Conscious Communication

Do you consciously communicate with your words, written and spoken?
Do you “get” what the receiver interprets in what you say or write?
The communicator is responsible for his intention and for what the receiver decodes.
The communicator can listen for how the communication is received.

Say what you want to say.
Say what you really mean.
Say what you intend to be received.
I am feeling………..I want you to hear………..I am willing to………..

How are you feeling about what I said?
What do you really want to say in response?
What do you want?

How are you feeling?
What do you really want?
What can you do?

 How do I feel?
What do I want?
What can I do?

When communicating our feelings, needs and wants, we often intend and expect the other to comply.
When we do not get from them what we want, we either quit with resentment or ask again (attack) with anger.
It is far more effective to take full responsibility for our feelings and healing them.
It is healthier to be responsible for what we want and being willing to do what we need.

When others feel resentment or guilt about our unmet needs, they usually withdraw their attention.
When others feel demands or threats on them to provide our unmet needs, they feel attacked.
When others  do not understand or care about us, it is usually because they do not understand or care about themselves.  In either case, it is essential they take care of and heal themselves first.

Before others can respond with love to us, they must be able to fully respond to themselves with Love.
Before others can give us what we are requesting, they must have the inner sense of enough time, energy and love to respond.
In today’s world most feel deprived or denied of the basics-sleep, healthy nutrition,  laughter, belonging, security, fulfilling work, affection and affirmation.
When anyone feels deprived, depleted or discouraged, they do not have the inner resources to respond.

Becoming a giver rather than a taker, is key to a fulfilling and happy life.
Becoming someone who gives encouragement and love requires taking impeccable care of oneself.
Becoming a source of Goodness fulfills our lives so we can reach out with loving kindness and respect.
Becoming a conscious communicator asks that we give what we want rather than take what we need.

Make sure you have the time, energy, focus and clear intention before communicating.
Set a time (appointment) with others before you share your intended communication.
Be respectful, asking permission and seeking the best possible time to communicate.
Give everyone the gift of conscious communication always setting a goal of the highest outcome for all.

Loving us all as we remember to listen and speak with our hearts,
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame.
Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made by either party.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Do You Care?

Do you care about your neighbors?
Do you care about every child?
Do you care about the local businesses?
Do you care about the education for all children?

How do you demonstrate you care?
Do you speak up when the line is too long at the grocery store?
Do you make sure you receive and give correct change?
Do you ask if you can help when you see someone struggling with their bags of groceries?
Do you pick up items that have fallen on the ground?
Do you thank everyone who helps you with a smile?
Do you notice when someone needs help reaching the highest shelf?
Do you handle the produce with clean hands?
Do you make suggestions to the one who can affect change? (store manager or customer service?)

Do you volunteer to help in the classroom?
Do you ask how you can support fund raisers for your local schools?
Do you offer to purchase classroom supplies or support the kids who don’t have the needed supplies?
Do you ask the principal how you can make sure every child has enough lunch money?
Do you donate time or money to the local after school care?
Do you stop bullying or help a child who may be hurt?
Do you treat every child as your own?

Do you greet your neighbors?
Do you recognize everyone is your neighbor?
Do you notice when something may be needed and offer help?
Are you respectful of your neighborhood?
When asked for help, do you provide what you can without harm to either party?
Do you notice that the world becomes safer when you help others?
Are you willing to give up attack thoughts and begin to offer only love?

Do you forgive yourself and others for every time you have neglected to care?
Do you forgive yourself for judging others and their predicaments?
Do you care about the world that is your temporary home?
Do you value what you have and care for it consciously and with gratitude?
Are you willing to teach others to care for themselves, their families, homes and workplace?
Are you open to being tolerant and patient with others’ ignorance and fear?

Love does not inter fear or mind others’ business.
Love reaches out offering assistance when others demonstrate a need.
Love trusts others to learn and heal and grow from life’s experience.
Love care enough to always give the very best.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Who Do You Depend on for Love?

I have noticed many people have a need for consistency in their relationships.
Some had intermittent loving from one or both of their parents in infancy.
Parents may have been depressed or ill, absent or divided attention.
When the infant needed consistent attention and loving, the bonding was conditional.

When there is neglect or other interferences with the attachment, there can be pain.
Abandoned Heart syndrome, some call it.  Other diagnostic names exist.
For the individual, this can create an extreme dependency on being loved consistently.
When there is a disconnect between the lover and the beloved, there may traumatic pain.

The pain may be displayed by confusion, anger and even violence or acting out hysterically.
Sometimes there is no memory of one’s behavior or there may be great remorse and fear.
For the codependent there may be a need to fix it with even greater attention and need fulfillment.

These relationships may be addictive and even destructive or unhealthy for both parties.

It may be time to rethink our connections with others to a more stable source.
It may be valuable to encourage healthy relationships which foster independence.
It may be useful to redirect our needs toward a stable and unchanging Source.
It may be needed to heal the inappropriate symbiotic or co dependent relationships.

Consider your need for another.
Consider who you count on for security, safety and approval.
Consider how you will function without your parents or your partner.
Consider how you count on others for your very life.

Have we created a society of dependent individuals?
Have we weakened ourselves with the belief that we cannot function without certain amenities?
Are we unwilling to take responsibility for ourselves and our choices?
Do we have the ability to be creative when our worldly sources change or disappear?

Do we need one job or workplace to sustain us?
Have we created a plan for the possibility of job loss?
Do we need the bank or stock market or economy to always grow?
Can we find a better way to handle our finances where we need less?

With our primary relationships, do we have a ways to take care of ourselves if the other is unavailable?
Have we considered our position of emotional, financial or physical dependence on our partner?
Are we willing and able to step up and take responsibility if the other should leave or need us?
Are we aware of the “burden” we put on others by our lack of self responsibility?

In this world of form, there are no certainties.
Everything is changing all the time.
If we want certainty, we must depend on a deeper, higher and lasting Source.
Some call it God, Higher Power, Infinite Intelligence, Truth, our Master Teachers or Guardian Angels.

Take time to look and listen within for a place that is unconditional, omnipresent, All Powerful Love.
I am loving you with the Love I know within,
Betty Lue

Friday, January 28, 2011

What Do I See?

What Do I See?
What Do I Believe?
What Can I Know?
What Do I Trust?

I see much of my world from the perspective of the media and those around me.
(I listen to the news on radio and watch TV, usually CNN.)
I believe the news is a commentary on what is serious, dangerous and difficult.
I know that the fun, safe and easy news is not being reported.
I trust that my job is to clear the fear and remember the Good News.

Yesterday my five year old twin granddaughters were using scooters to go around the block.
I was their care-taker, grandma and friend.
I saw them excited and having lots of fun.
I heard my voice teaching them fear.
I realized how not fun, safe and easy for me and for them.
I recognized how I have been taught and programmed by media, parents and our world.
“Wear helmets.” “Stay where I can see you.” “Be careful.” “You need shoes and sweaters.”
Basically, the message is “Protect yourself from all the dangers in the world.”
Yes, I am responsible for their well-being.
I must be accountable to their parents.
I need to teach them to follow the rule.
There must be some limits within which they can play.

Yuck and Ouch!
This hurts me and feels bad.
This is a betrayal of what I believe and know and trust.
I feel very sad about passing on false teachings.

What I see are children and adults shut down, cautious and defensive.
What I believe is that we have learned to limit our creativity, our enjoyment and our freedom.
What I know is that in Truth we are free to be, to create and enjoy.
What I trust is the Power, the Presence, the Love within me to direct my life.

How far we have come to teach fear.
How much we are doing to teach danger.
How difficult it is to find freedom and trust
How crazy is it to teach fear to one another.

I was encouraged to trust myself.
I learned from my experiences.
I listened to my own conscience or inner voice.
I trusted I would be safe.
I knew life is fun.
Doing good things is easy. 

Loving you in listening within for Love,
Betty Lue

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Thoughts in Mind

Thoughts held in Mind create the world you find.
Thoughts create.
What you imagine you will begin to manifest.
What you conceive and believe, you will perceive and achieve.

Hold Good thoughts about everything and everyone.
You will attract Goodness.
Hold healing thoughts about everything and everyone.
You will experience miracles of Love.

Hold grateful thoughts about how Abundant life is.
You will notice how rich your life becomes.
Hold thoughts of the Highest and Best for All.
You will find more good happening for all you know.

Hold happy thoughts when you work and play.
You will feel happy and be happy throughout your day.
Hold loving thoughts for friends and family.
You will see your love shining through them to you.

Hold successful thoughts about your business and grand ideas.
You will begin to recognize how commitment and determination are working for you.
Hold a vision of heaven on earth in mind.
You will realize great peace in your joyful appreciation.

Thoughts held in mind attract events and people of like kind.
Those you think of reflect the thoughts you hold of them.
Those experiences you have demonstrate your inner fears and tears.
The outcome of your work comes from unconscious negative or positive quirks.

Thoughts create.
Thoughts represent your inner kingdom or hell.
Thoughts demonstrate what needs to be shared or cleared.
Feed yourself and your world nurturing, nutritious, positive thoughts rather than the poopy ones.

Take responsibility for the world you are creating for yourself and others.
Be conscious of what it is that you are putting out there for all the world to see, love or dirty laundry.
Be honest about what you really want, something wonderful or more of the same.
Be real with your thoughts, words and activities by remembering the game you came to play.

Life is an out-picturing of the thoughts you hold.
Choose wisely and well.
Loving you,  

Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Do You Appreciate or Denigrate?

Are you a whiner and a complainer?
Do you find petty things to “bitch” about?
Are you someone who looks for what is wrong?
Do you criticize bodies and clothing, politics and authority figures, family members and life in general?

Do you give thanks and full appreciation?
Do you find little things to rejoice in and complement?
Are you someone who looks for the blessings in everything?
Do you enjoy everything that life brings into your life?

Those who complain are dependent upon the externals to be happy, so they are disappointed and sad.
Those who appreciate their lives and express gratitude to others are truly happy and fulfilled.
Those who find lessons, blessing, gifts and value in their lives are positive, conscious and creative.
Those who feel cursed, unlucky and victimized in their lives are negative, unconscious and stuck.

Each of us has learned by those in our families and associations and media how to perceive our world.
We each choose a path of appreciation or a path of negativity.
We wear our inner perceptions on our face and in our physiology.
We express our path, joy or disappointment, with our words and cause fear and failure.

It might seem some are doomed to failure and tragedy.
It might seem some are simply lucky or blessed to have Good in their lives.
When looking deeper, we will find the blessed simply perceive their circumstances differently.
When listening to the stories, we find the blessed look for the Good.

When you look at your life, are you judging and critical?
When you look at your relationships, are you demanding and petty?
When you look at your work and your money, are you needy and fearful?
When you look at yourself are you picky, resigned and self pitying?

When you look at the story of your life, do you feel amazed and blessed?
When you look at your relationships, do you feel open and appreciative?
When you look at your work and money, do you feel content and secure?
When you look at your whole self, do you feel happy with who and what you are?

Those who appreciate grow in faith and love and confidence.
Those who denigrate increase in distrust, fear and self doubt.

We can choose to change our minds, our thoughts, our attitudes, our beliefs and our attitudes.
Choose what is best for you.
Loving you, Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life
If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer


Tuesday, January 25, 2011

What Is the Meaning of Life?

What is the meaning in your life?
Why are you here?
What is the value of money?
Why do anything or be anything or give anything?

Those who are stuck in getting, because they feel they are not enough, are confused.
Those who are lost in depression because they have been disappointed by life, feel lacking.
Those who are consumed with unfulfilled expectations, feel discouraged and resentful.
Those who are blaming parents, politics and God for their emptiness suffer in angry regret.

Those who are finding answers to their questions, are content to ask and receive.
Those who are exploring ways of fulfilling their desires have periods of exhilaration and gratitude.
Those who are forgiving and have compassion for others unconsciousness are beginning to awaken.
Those who are serving with a full heart, expecting nothing, are simply living in joy.

Life is about Love.
Love is about Service.
Service is about Trust.
Trust is about being Free.

When we are free and trusting, we know love and share our freedom and trust with others.
When we are free and trusting, we love living, loving and giving freely to those who are open.
When we are free and trusting, we listen within and respond to the call to love in unique ways.
When we are free and trusting, we listen deeply to the needs of others and respond with trust.

Philosophical Logic:
Love created us as Love for the purpose of creating Love.
Unconditional Love created unconditional Love for the holy purpose of sharing unconditional Love.
Omnipresence and Omniscience created the same in us to be used for Love.
The All Powerful Creator of All That Is created Itself in us to be used for Holy Purposes.

I forgive us for assigning unholy, weak and limiting purposes to ourselves.
I forgive myself for forgetting Who and What and Why I AM.
I forgive the limiting beliefs and subservient thoughts of humanity
I forgive all judgments and awaken to the awareness of the Good in All That Is.

Are you willing to release yourself from limitation, doubt and fear?
Are you willing to try on the mantle of Being the Creative Good in your Life?
Are you open to assigning your self with the job, the holy work of Love?
Are you forgiving all teachings and lessons of fear and returning to the Healing Power of Love?

Perhaps life is far more simple, fun, safe and easy than we realize, when we remember to Love?

Loving you and me and all humanity as we awaken to LOVE!
Betty Lue

Monday, January 24, 2011

What We Believe and Promote Is Our Choice!

What you believe, you will see.
What you believe and share, you will empower.
What you think and speak and act on, you will increase in yourself.
What you share with others, you will encourage in your world.

When there is only one, there is limitation and lack of energy.
Where there are two or more, there is agreement and the beginning of creation.
When we come together agreeing to believe in the same thing, it becomes a “truth” for those who believe.
When we believe what others tell us without asking ourselves, “Is this something I want?”, we are in error.

Our world of crazy, bizarre, violent, destructive and fearful stuff is created by those who did not ask.
The apparent disease, disaster and death came from errant thoughts of those who agreed.
When we realize we are responsible for what we believe, we may feel sad, guilty, angry and scared.
When we forgive ourselves for participating, we will feel the conviction we can “choose again”.

Stop telling scary stories.
Stop believing doomsday predictions.
Stop buying into labeling or diagnosis.
Stop spreading gossip and rumors.

It is time to believe in what is healing.
It is time to actively erase our mistakes.
It is time to listen for the Higher Truth.
It is time to say “no” to spreading lies.

It is time to share good news.
It is time to extend peace to one and all.
It is time to choose gratitude for all the Good.
It is time to bring sanity to our relationships.

Focus on what you value.
Pay attention to the Good you do.
Give honor to those who live their Truth.
Respect the ones who see no evil, hear no evil and teach no evil.

“Evil” is “live” spelled backwards.
When we have forgotten we are here to clear up the mistaken beliefs of the world, we think backwards.
When we remember to LIVE, we have life and have it more abundantly!
Live today for speaking the Truth and sharing the Truth and appreciating the Truth.

The Truth is LOVE and Let LIVE.

Loving you with a heart that is true.
Betty Lue

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Sunday, January 23, 2011

What Do I Believe? .....

(This morning’s talk at Unity Center for Inspired Living)
You can listen to all our past talks at (under “past talks” in the menu bar.)

Now What Do You Believe?

I believe in Santa Claus, the natural giving nature in all of us.
I believe in nature Spirits, fairies and angels and spiritual energies that serve the Good.
I believe in the power of belief.
I believe in miracles that come from the Love We Are and share.

I believe in Jesus, the man who showed the way to actualization, union with God.
I believe in the Sons and Daughters of God, Goddess the Divine who we really are.
I believe in the spiritual nature, the God and Good within all of us.
I believe we can and do truly love one another under all the misperceptions and fear.

I believe in the essential right of all of us to choose what we believe.
I believe Love is our natural state, created in love, by love, for the purpose of Loving.
I believe in the unlimited abundance of creative possibility in the Universe within.
I believe we have the potential to live a Christ-like life, healing and raising the Dead.

I believe we are making a difference in our lives, expanding consciousness or contracting.
I believe choice is a powerful tool to choose what we want to be and do and have.
I believe we can do whatever we wholly choose and commit to doing.
I believe life is a canvas on which we paint our experience.

I believe we are all doing the best we know.
I believe we can forgive all things and forget the past.
I believe only what is eternal is True and the rest is temporary, which some call illusion.
I believe we have the power to heal all things by forgiving and remembering wholeness.

I believe we have all been together before , so no one is a stranger to us.
I believe life is the game we paly until we wake up to the game we have created.
I believe that to finish this game, all will win and we will celebrate together.
I believe that beyond the reality of form, there is a permanent reality of creative power.

I believe we are here to enjoy learning by awakening to the joy of it all.
I believe we can see, feel , hear and know other dimensions when we are open and willing.
I believe that the Voice of God, inner guidance and direction is available to all of us.
I believe life can be fun, safe and easy when we listen and follow our inner voice, HSpirit.

I believe we are love here to express love to remind all Love is Who and Why we came.

I believe in You.
We are co-creating beauty, goodness and Love on the canvas of Life, for all to behold!
Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Saturday, January 22, 2011

What Is True?

What we believe, becomes our reality when we believe without a doubt.
What we believe is important to our inner peace and conviction.
What we believe is a guidepost to provide focus and direction for our life.
What we believe is our Truth and our Way and our Life.

When we believe in Good, we see Goodness.
When we believe in life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, we live these values.
When we believe in any one or more of the great spiritual teachings, we try to live ethically.
When we believe in any product or process, we tend to teach it and share it.

What is true for you may not be “true” for me.
I have the freedom to try to “sell” you on my belief.
You have the right to deny my belief and sell me on yours.
This process of convincing the other may become a disagreement, a fight and then a way.

Is there benefit or harm in trying to convince others of your “truth” or your “belief”?
Does it do more harm than good to make others beliefs wrong?
Is it beneficial to stay attached to position with judgment and righteousness?
Can you really convince another or merely undermine their beliefs?

When someone believes in their medicine, it works for them.
When someone believes in another’s Goodness, they support the good in that person.
When someone believes in themselves and their worth, to criticize or condemn may cause harm.
When someone believes in their leader, parent or doctor, to undermine their belief may be destructive.

Consider the beliefs of a child that cause curiosity, wonderment, joy and delight.
Consider the beliefs of a devout spiritual seeker that may give them faith, hope and Love.
Consider the beliefs of a physically challenged person, their beliefs may give them strength and courage.
Consider the beliefs of a country facing disaster or economic distress, determination may bring success.

The truth is unique for each one.
What is fact is not what we perceive.
Perhaps the facts interfere with what is possible.
Perhaps there is no certainty in what has been, but only in what is possible to create.

Is there an ultimate Truth?
Is reality what we see or what we believe?
Is our experience based on what others know or on what we believe?
Are we capable of choosing the outcome we want, simply with our belief?

I have learned to listen carefully within before I challenge or offer another perspective.
I am guided to write these loving reminders, trusting that they will be used for Good.
I recognize that I am constantly open to other perceptions of Reality and Truth?
I trust that as long as what you believe is important and works for you, it is good for you.

My work is to listen within and open to the Highest Truth and Good for all.
I believe in You and Your intrinsic Goodness and your right to believe as you do.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Friday, January 21, 2011


Do you want more of a good thing?
Appreciate all good things.
Do you want to enjoy more of what you have?
Appreciate what you have.

Do you want to feel more blessed?
Appreciate your blessings.
Do you want to be more in love?
Appreciate everyone you love.

Do you want to enjoy your life more?
Appreciate the joys in your life.
Do you want to be more prosperous?
Appreciate the abundance and prosperity you have.

Do you want to be supported more?
Appreciate everything and everyone that supports you.
Do you want to feel safe and secure?
Appreciate all the safety and security you now have.

Do you want more health and vitality?
Appreciate every aspect of your health and healthy lifestyle.
Do you want to appreciate more?
Appreciate every time you say or think or feel “Thankful”!

Appreciation magnifies.
Appreciation benefits givers and receivers.
Appreciation brings happiness to all.
Appreciation is the best growth enhancer of all.

Appreciation is a loving and bountiful blessing.
Give it to yourself and Love Your life.
Everything works together for Good!
Good for you and Good for all.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

What Are these Loving Reminders?
A handful of people are new to receiving these daily or weekly loving reminders from me.
I send them directly to over one thousand people and many more from your referrals.
I have been writing and sending Loving Reminders for over 12 years everyday I am at home.
They are valuable for me to receive and share and valuable for others who receive them as reminders.

When something resonates with you, you feel its truth in your heart.
When you are reminded of what you know deep inside, you appreciate and find value.
When you are touched with inspiration, you feel grateful and can choose to practice.
This is my reason for listening within and sharing the inner guidance I receive each day.

After counseling and coaching thousands of individuals, couples and families, I know the need.
After teaching, mentoring and facilitating hundreds of people for the last 35 years, I hear the call.
After listening and letting Spirit within guide my life for most of my life, I feel the importance.
And this is my way of responding to all of us for the Highest Good and finding a better way.

These reminders are intended to be practical; they are meant to be used everyday.
These reminders are intended to be inspirational; they are meant to move you into action.
These reminders are intended to be spiritual; they are meant to call you to return to what is meaningful.
These reminders are intended to be healing; they give insight, freedom to choose/change and peace.

For many, there is limited time and money, so these reminders offer help when you have need.
For some, there is hesitation in asking for help, so these reminders are an anonymous way to learn.
For others, there is denial of needing anything, and the reminders simply reawaken what is known.
For me, these reminders are a powerful way to connect, to touch you with my love for us all.

Yes, I Love You.
I love you when you are happy or sad, right or wrong, awakening or sleeping on the job.
I love you when you don’t love yourself or forget you are loveable and capable just as you are.
I love you when you are willing to do the work and when you get lazy and quit on yourself.

I am your Loving Reminder.

We can call it a Calling or Holy Assignment or just what I am here to do.
My intention is to facilitate all of us in playing our Part and living our potential in being all we can be.

Said in a thousand ways or no way at all…your healing and success and joy are a blessing for me.

So why would I sit at my computer every morning as my spiritual practice and joy…….??
Because of all this above and so much more.

You and I are One..
More than you can know, we are connected in Love.

Ask me your questions.
Give me your comments.
Share with me your gratitude.
And always know I am with you in Love.

Betty Lue

Thursday, January 20, 2011

What Do You Believe?

Do you believe in angels or fairies?
Do you believe in a higher power?
Do you believe in master teachers?
Do you believe in You?

Do you believe in Love?
Do you believe thoughts create?
Do you believe in life after death?
Do you believe that faith works?

Do you believe in humanity?
Do you believe in prophecies?
Do you believe in psychics and clairvoyants?
Do you believe in medicine and doctors?

Do you believe in honesty?
Do you believe God?
Do you believe in ethics and morals?
Do you believe in your visions and dreams?

Do you believe in forgiveness?
Do you believe in miracles?
Do you believe all things can be healed?
Do you believe all things work together for Good?

What you conceive and believe, you can achieve and receive.

Thoughts create.
What you believe, you will perceive.

Forgive your limiting and negative or hurtful beliefs.
Choose again for expansive, positive and helpful beliefs.

Be a chooser, not a loser!

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

What Do You See?

Did you know we all see differently?
Did you know perceptions are not facts?
Did you know our senses are influenced by our beliefs?
Did you know that what you believe you will see?

I find it fascinating that we each see colors and smell scents and perceive behaviors differently.
The best we can do is listen with an intention to understand what is “true” for one another.
It is important to be selective in what we remember, believe and perceive.
It is imperative that we recognize we are creating our experiences and how we respond to them.

People argue, fight and even divorce and go to war because they see things differently.
People are stubborn and even righteous in making others wrong because they believe they are Right!

When we are attached to being right, we will do everything we can to convince the other.
We accuse our children and partners of being “liers” because they see things differently.

When we KNOW we are RIGHT, according to our beliefs and perceptions, we seek agreement.
We defend ourselves with attacks and accusations, defensiveness and anger.
When we have decided what is right for us, we may seek authority figures or research for “”proof”.
There is no room for questioning or even recognizing differences in values, beliefs and perceptions.

Relationships are weakened or even destroyed with conflict.
People isolate or even attack others to validate their viewpoint.
Nations go to war over disagreements in interpretations.
Family members become estranged when they cannot resolve difference.

To find inner peace, we must be willing to lay aside our differences.
To return to love, we must forgive our own stubborn and righteous ways.
To heal the hurt, we must release our attachment to past conflicts.
To be free, we can undo our misperceptions and be willing to see things differently.

What will it take to heal humanity?
What will it take to lay down our attack thoughts, words and behaviors?
What will it take to undo our distorted perceptions?
What will it take for us to “Choose peace instead of conflict?”

Each one of us can choose to see things differently?
We can choose to forgive all past disagreements.
We can be the one who endeavors to see things from the other’s point of view.
We can be big enough and love enough to erase what was and choose again for Love today.

Encouraging all of us to grow up, be present and give more trust and freedom to everyone.
Betty Lue

Ten Commandments of Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
Communicate changes honestly and immediately.
Give more than you expect to receive. Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.Focus always on teaching by example.
Apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.
Use your time together wisely.Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend time, money and resources only on what you value and want to increase.Waste nothing in your relationship.
No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.


There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.
As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Betty Lue Lieber, PhD. MFT 2010

Tuesday, January 18, 2011


30th anniversary of the Incorporation of Reunion!
We are here to awaken, inspire and motivate all to live their potential through counseling, healing and growth opportunities.
We have taught, counseled, and inspired thousands around the globe through the 18 centers,workshops and churches and these Loving Reminders.
Thank you Reunion Ministries for being the vehicle for healing, awakening and transforming those who have chosen
Reunion is a non-profit 501(C)3 incorporated on Jan. 18, 1981 as a church without walls that freely offers healing, counseling, coaching, education and inspiration.

What are you choosing to do, be and say today?

How are you demonstrating Love today?
How will you inspire another today?
What will you teach today?
How will you learn and from whom?
What will be your words today?
How will you love you today?
Where will you go today?
What will be your message today?

Everyday in everyway we are contributing or depleting our world?
Everyday we have an opportunity to make a difference, either positive or negative.
In every relationship through thought, word and actions we are teaching.
We can choose to inspire and encourage or depress and discourage.

We are each choosing, even when we choose not to take responsibility for our choices.
We choose with the TV shows we watch.
We choose with the products we purchase.
We choose with the expression on our face.
We choose with the clothes we wear/
We choose with the words we write, the ideas we have, the things we do.

We are all choosing to bring more goodness and Love or more greediness and hate.
In my daily life, I choose as little distraction and complication as possible.
I choose to focus on what I am saying and doing so that I am conscious and conscientious.
I choose to appreciate and value myself, my words, my relationships and my creations.
I choose to consider what my thoughts, words and deeds are contributing to humanity.
I choose to respect my choices with my intention that they create more Good for everyone.
I choose to listen within before speaking so that I might help and heal, inspire and motivate.

What are you choosing?
Are you willing to take full responsibility for your choices?
When the results are not what you want, do you forgive and choose again?
Are you willing to undo what does not benefit yourself and others?
Are you open to reconsidering what you have set in place so that it will be of service?
Are you honestly choosing a conscious life of doing good?
Are you aware for the impact you make on those you encounter and those who know you>

Perhaps it is time to realize how powerful you are.
Perhaps this is your moment to forgive and choose again.
Perhaps you can now step into being fully responsible for your life.
Perhaps you can choose what you really want in your heart.

I am loving you and believe in the power for Goodness and Love in you and me.
Together we are making a difference.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Have you created your own consciousness program for 2011?

Betty Lue’s 2011Consciousness Program


Eat Only When Hungry.
Eat Exactly What You Want.
Stop When Satisfied.
Eat with No Distraction.

Walk outside or treadmill 30 minutes daily.
Do T’ai Chi Chih once daily.

ACIM lesson read and practiced daily.
Inner listen and write daily.
15 minutes coherent breathing meditation before bed.
Express gratitude and love to everyone you encounter.
Love and respect yourself well.
Get up and move 5 minutes every hour with fresh air.
Write your own affirmative script and read daily.

I now am fully alive, energized and enthusiastic.
My body totally supports my loving purpose.
I am consistently grateful, appreciative and happy.
My whole and holy life works for me and all.
My homes, centers, and finances are handled responsibly.
The Universe absolutely supports my Spirit-guided Life.
God and the Good in humanity provide for my every Good Work in Abundance.

Monday, January 17, 2011

A Day of Service

“We must learn to live together as brothers or die separately as fools.”

This is Martin Luther King Day, a day to honor the service, Dr. King and millions of others give everyday.
This is a day to remember how giving is our true and highest way of living.
This is a day to love unconditionally, serve from the heart and remember God.
This is a day to honor the dream of living as brothers on our home planet Earth.

For those who have never experienced the powerful possibility of walking hand in hand, begin today.
For those who have not know brotherly love for all humanity, today is the day to learn.
For those who have not forgiven themselves for the wars and violence, the anger and hate, do it now.
For those who have not realized we are all family here on Earth, wake up and see how it is WE.

When we give to another, we are giving to all.
When we serve another, we are serving everyone.
When we free another, we are freeing ourselves.
When we love another, we are loving our Source and all creation.

To serve is to listen within to see what is truly best for all concerned.
To serve is to respect the dignity of others as we give what they truly want and need.
To serve is to seek to lift up, empower and encourage others to live their dream.
To serve is to honor what is good for all of humanity.

Service:When you see something that needs to be done (your opinion), it is yours to do.
When you believe there is a better way, it is yours to model for all to see.
When you have a gift within, it is yours to give freely and joyously to those who would receive gratefully.
When you have more than you need, it is yours to share with those who have needs.
(You may want more because you are greedy or afraid of not having.)
What you “need”is what you need to have in order to give your best to others everyday in every way.

To offer “service” is to “serve us”.

Be aware of where you perceive a need and offer your service.
Be aware of where you judge the needs you see and forgive your judgments.
Give to the source of your Good, so that you always see the Good you fully appreciate.

Happiness comes for those who serve.
Fulfillment comes only when you share your inner fullness.
Security comes from sharing your Good for the Good of all.
Inner Peace is the result of serving with purpose and Joy.

Loving us all,
Betty Lue

For those who see God in all People and All Acts of True Service”

Thanking the Giver of All Good Things

Dear GOD:

I want to thank You for what you have already done.
I am not going to wait until I see results or receive rewards.
I am not going to wait until I feel better or things look better.
I'm not going to wait until people say they are sorry or they stop talking about me.
I am not going to wait until the pain in my body disappears.
I am not going to wait until my financial situation improves.
I am not going to wait until the children are asleep and the house is quiet.
I am not going to wait until I get promoted at work or until I get the job.
I am not going to wait until I understand everything that has caused me pain or grief.
I am not going to wait until the journey gets easier or the challenges are removed.

I am thanking you right now.
I am thanking you because I am alive.
I am thanking you because I made it through the days of difficulties.
I am thanking you because I have walked around the obstacles.
I am thanking you because I have the ability and the opportunity to do more and do better.
I'm thanking you because God, You haven't given up on me.

God is just so good, and he's good all the time.  

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Does It Really Matter?

Can you see beneath the skin?
Can you listen beyond the words?
Can you tell who really is within?
Do you know your brother as yourself?

How often do we judge what we see?
How often do we discriminate because of belief?
How much do we believe we need to be alike to be connected?
How true are you to being truly You?

Do you pretend to be the same?
Do you try to fit in with the color of your skin?
Do you dress like others do?
Do you think being the same is being true to you?

Is this a time to relate?
Can you celebrate with all humanity?
Can you open your heart to really see?
Can you let go of fear of being different?

In the beginning, we are the same.
In the end, we all are one.
Equally loved and equally valuable.
Why not choose now to love One and love All?

If we loved everyone and everyone loved us,
No more war, no more strife.
All would have a better life.
We could see each other as ourselves.

One big family..
Rich and poor,
Large and small.
We would live joy for all.

I see this life as the blessed opportunity to forgive our separation.
I see my place as seeing the Love in every face.
I see this time as reaching out with compassion and kindness.
I see each moment as lighting the tree of life with my loving energy.

Let us honor today and tomorrow as our time to shine.
Let’s bring love to humankind.
Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Bless It All

To bless is to see things differently.
To bless is to clear the past.
To bless is to respond with Love.
To bless is to behold the Good, the Beauty and the Wholeness.

When we bless our world, we are willing to release stories of lack of Love.
When we bless our homes, we are expressing gratitude for our place of sanctuary.
When we bless our work, we are appreciative of having a place to contribute.
When we bless our lives, we are consciously loving ourselves and how we live.

When we bless someone who sneezes, we are seeing them well.
When we bless someone in need, we are giving them our unconditional love.
When we bless a newborn or a new home, we consecrate it with the highest Vision for Good.
When we offer our blessing we acknowledge the power of our will, our vision and our Love.

Yes, blessings are powerful.
Blessings are healing.
Blessings are reminders.
Blessing are invaluable gifts.

Blessings cost nothing, but give everything to the giver and receiver.
Blessings open the way to new possibilities for all involved.
Blessings may be seen as protection, but really provide inspirational direction.
Blessings are a gift from the Good Self, the God Self, within all of us.

Blessings are gifts of conscious choice.
Blessings give explicit voice to what is True.
Blessings allow all to benefit.
Blessings create no regrets.

Consider giving your blessings to your day.
Give blessings to your home and your neighborhood.
Offer your blessings to those you encounter (whether you think they need it or not!)
Contribute your blessings to all those places that offer benefit to you and to others.

When you are at a loss, give your blessing.
When you don’t know what to do or say, offer a blessing.
When you are confused and undecided, bless the situation.
When you are feeling unhealthy physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, relationally, bless yourself and those involved.

Blessing you and your life and blessing me and mine, gives us all the Good we share as One,
Betty Lue

Friday, January 14, 2011

Limits and Boundaries

Have we allowed too much freedom to those who have no values, boundaries or consciousness?
Does Freedom to say and do what we want when we want created what we don’t want?
Have we given license to those who are asleep and irresponsible thinking it would create responsibility?
Has entitlement created lack of civility?

Has the media followed society’s demands or created the demand in society?
Are we as a culture copied what we see and hear in the news and media?
Are we giving access to violence, war, and disaster via media to create the images in our minds?
Is there a way we can and must stop the continuance of what is sick, dangerous and crude?

Are we doing anyone a favor by allowing rudeness to prevail?
Are we helping our children by giving them more toys, privileges and choices without responsibility?
Are we indulging ourselves and our children believing we are being loving?
Are we lost in consumption of food, clothing, toys, technology, media and creating addiction?

Has the pendulum moved to an excess of excess and addiction to what is dysfunctional and sick?
Are we in need of boundaries for work and play, recreation and relationships?
Are there any rules or standards, guidelines or programs for families, education, politics, religious practice?
Can we take back our mis-creations with forgiveness and encourage “do-overs”?

I acknowledge and appreciate my parent’s parenting.
I can see what I believed and practiced as a parent.
I forgive myself for my errors and unconsciousness.
I take responsibility for allowing those who were unconscious to have total freedom.

I believe without condemnation or blame, guilt or regret you and I can make a difference.
Children and adults need to be carefully and respectfully taught.
It requires “showing up, paying attention, telling the truth, and detaching from the outcome.”
I ask us all to live the values we seek to teach.

Let us remind one another (beginning first with ourselves) to:
Earn what we receive with work and service to others.
Spend appreciative time with the arts (music, art, literature, performances of theater and dance, etc.).
Learn about other peoples, nations, religions, lifestyles and Universal differences and similarities.
Discipline ourselves to clear addictions and unhealthy habits, study and practice for excellence.
Heal ourselves of leftover mistakes, false beliefs and limiting patterns.
Take full responsibility for the quality of our lives, our homes, our work and our relationships.
Be willing to heal and grow in kindness, respect, integrity, open-mindedness, gratitude and faith.
Stop feeding what is wrong, harmful, lacking integrity, selfish, and rude with our attention or allowance.
Say “No” to what may be harmful to anyone now or in the future.
Say “Yes” to what is beneficial for all.
Be willing to stand strong for the Highest and Best for each individual rather than giving in.
Be resilient and flexible when faced with challenging situations, holding the highest vision.
Choose with wisdom and respect for our inner guidance, seeking always the highest Good.
Listen within for creative solutions where no one loses.

Life can be fun, safe and easy when we each take responsibility for our healing and holy part.
Life can be fun, safe and easy when we stop being sloppy, lazy and unconscious.
Life can be fun, safe and easy when we are willing to respond with honesty, integrity and faith.
Life can be fun, safe and easy when we live, and share the values we know work for all.

Loving us all in our willingness to choose again,
Betty Lue

Thursday, January 13, 2011


We all seem to be copying one another.
Children copy their parents attitudes, beliefs and behaviors.
We all become more like our partners and friends.
We tend to become like those with whom we associate.

The attention span of children is related to those experiences they have in childhood.
If parents are easily distracted by phone, TV, conversations, and multi-tasking, children learn distraction.
If parents, teachers, authorities behave with high emotion, yelling, threats, etc, children do the same.
If the world kids see and hear is intense, competitive, argumentative, children try out the same behaviors.

We are programmed by the habits, patterns and behaviors of those with whom we live and associate.
If we are around respectful, attentive, focused, peaceful and hard-working people, we learn to do the same.
If we grow up with disrespect, arguing, yelling, disorder and chaos, we must unlearn these habits to change.
When we become aware of our influence on others or others influence on us, we can choose again.

When we are tired, sick, unconscious in any way, we revert to old familiar habits and patterns.
When we are not actively and consciously choosing a better way, we may act out past behaviors.
Children, adults, teachers, leaders may fall into limiting patterns and negativity when they forget.
To be awakened and enlightened, empowered and conscious, we must choose to stay awake and aware.

Copy-cat behavior drives the media, advertising, commercials and most interest in the rich and famous.
Our conversations about others (gossip) is actually judging, admiring and obsessing on others’ behaviors.
We want to comment on, manage, fix, analyze and understand others without realizing our reasons.
We are all trying to either be like others or try to be different.

What we perceive in others, we strengthen in ourselves. ACIM(Two blue jays just sat on our balcony railing and squawked loudly!)

Animals copy one another.
People socialize.
Children pretend.

We all are imprinted by the behaviors, attitudes and fears of our own species and family system.
Where we judge, we give attention and power and influence future behaviors.
Where we love, we let go of judgment, fears and release all to the highest good for all.
Let us forgive what is temporary and look for the inner and eternal truth of all beings.

We are creators of our experience.
We are here to heal all fear and lack of love.
We are the loving reminders of what is possible when we live as One in Peace with Love for All.
We are the keepers of what is real and true, healing and loving, creating Goodness for All.
Remembering to teach only Love,
Betty Lue

Twelve Daily Steps To Optimistic Living1. Focus on my successes rather than on my failures.
2. Notice that which I have accomplished rather than that which I’ve left undone.
3. See and acknowledge my beauty rather than focusing on my imperfections.
4. Notice and acknowledge all the times I’ve followed the optimum conditions,rather than judging myself for the times I have not.
5. Acknowledge all my wins each and every day.
6. Create and maintain an environment that nurtures me.
7.  See problems as opportunities to learn from rather than as obstacles to avoid.
8.  Tell the whole truth on a moment to moment basis in order to maintain impeccable and loving relationships.
9. Be conscious every moment to put positive thoughts into my mind rather than negative, knowing all thoughts are creative.
10.  Appreciate my feelings as a means of understanding myself, thus directing and creating my reality.
11. Continue to forgive myself and others as a means of creating a state of Grace.
12. Fill my life with joy and ecstasy by practicing daily the art and skill of verbally expressing my gratitude for all that I have.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

What Day Is Today?

Yesterday I thought it was Wednesday, 12th!
In spite of my computer telling me it was the 11th.
I chose to believe my mind and the image I had made.
We are vacationing at South Lake Tahoe with our three grandchildren and their parents.

Have you ever believed something so much that you made it “true” for you?
The mind makes images, holds opinions and beliefs based on past history, others’ teachings, etc.
The mind wants to be right and sets its priorities to search for confirming evidence.
The mind tends to use its convincing power to bring others into agreement.

There is so much to learn from this simple understanding.
There is even more to undo, erase and forgive.
In order to be free, we must know the Truth.
We must recognize our mental creative power.
When I believe, perceive and hear confirming evidence of something, I need consider my choice.
Do I want this to be true for me?
Do I want to believe and see that this is true or would I prefer to undo this “miscreation”?
Do I choose to “buy in” to the worldly beliefs in danger, darkness, disease and despair?

Can we really undo what is difficult, serious and unsafe?
Can we really choose a fun, safe and easy life?
Can we really use our thoughts, words and deeds to create what is good, helpful and loving for all?
Can we really practice spiritual principles to heal our own minds and words and activities?

The practice of undoing, forgiving, prayer, affirmation, meditation open us to inner knowing.
The desire to choose to create what is good and beautiful and holy for all is enough.
The willingness to undo whatever is not “True and Loving” is key to freedom and trust.
The open mind willing to co-create with the Mind of Pure Love is the Power.

The miracles of Love come from giving up what is false, limiting and harmful.
The miracles of Love come from being willing to create with the Highest Creative Power.
The healing gifts of life are the possibilities of undoing our mis-creations with forgiveness.
The blessings from life come from choosing what is Good and Whole and Loving for All.

Life can be fun, safe and easy, when we relinquish our fears, judgments and attack.
Life can be fun, safe and easy, when we stop trying to run the show with our limiting beliefs.
Life can be fun, safe and easy, when we let go and trust in Goodness.
Life can be fun, safe and easy, when we forgive everything and everyone, including ourselves.

What we conceive and believe, we will perceive.
When we hold misperceptions with judgment and fear, we keep them near.
When we forgive what we seek to undo, we find within what is real and true.
Life is learning to let go of all mis-creations to find the Love within.

Loving us all as we seek for only the High Way!
Betty Lue

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Can You See the Love?

When you can see the Love in all things, you know great Peace.
When you can feel the blessings in what you perceive, you know the healing.
When you can recognize the miracles that occur naturally, you are enlightened.
When you can realize the Gift of Love You Are with every thought, word and deed, you remember Love.

Life is a multifaceted movie playing on your inner and outer screen, so you can recognize your part.
When you become the writer, producer and director and not just the actor, you are remembering.
When you choose to erase, delete and cut the lines you don’t like, you are the editor.
When you consciously choose to write the outcome of your own movie, you are empowered.

Everything is either Love or a call for Love.
Every relationship calls for healing and revealing the Love that is always Present.
Every image we make and word we speak is our creative responsibility.
Each time we forgive our mistakes and choose again, we are learning to be response-able.

The meaningless world we see is a projection of our meaningless thoughts.
When we can acknowledge our fearful beliefs and mistaken perceptions, we can undo them.
When we recognize the meaningless world that upsets us, we can choose again to listen within.
When we listen within from a quiet mind, we can hear the words and see the images of only Goodness.

Humanity has practiced judging, protecting, defending and believing in our world view for aeons.
It requires all of us to practice forgiving, undoing, clearing and returning to innocence to see the Truth.
We can each practice the Presence of Love with prayer, affirmation and trust to clear the way.
We all have a responsibility to participate in seeing with forgiving eyes.

Yes, as a therapist, coach, spiritual teacher, minister and Grandma, I see how I participate.
To heal is to reveal.
To heal is to make happy.
To heal is to offer only peace.

Undo telling stories of tragedy, drama and fear.
Undo gossip and talking about anyone, unless you have their permission.
Undo judging, criticizing and scaring anyone, including yourself.
Undo listening to those authorities who prognosticate doom and gloom.
Undo believing in others opinions and doubting your own inner knowing.
Undo letting the past be your teacher and justification.
Undo anything you do not want to create for yourself and others,

My mind automatically erases everything that is not wholly true and loving.
I choose words expressing wisdom and gratitude and Love.
I offer respectful and loving service wherever I am.

May these Loving Reminders be a gift of happy healing and grateful awakening to all who read them,
Betty Lue

Monday, January 10, 2011


Wherever you can, say YES.
“Yes” is a powerful at affirmation of Love.
In the world of learned fears, limitations, rules and restrictions, to set others free, expresses LOVE.
The questions may be, “ What is in your heart?”

What we say “no” to is often filled with questions, doubts and confusion.
What we decide with certainty, confidence and enthusiasm comes from a heartfelt place of Love.
When we are questioning our choices, it is a sign we need to listen within for guidance.
Where there is hesitation, we are called from within to honor our integrity and inner call.

Often children are taught by parents who are fearful.
They may be questioned and even told they are wrong.
Children get confused by listening to their inner voice and being denied by outer authorities.
Adults get confused by honoring the outer voices and denying their inner authority.

This may be time to practice allowing yourself to clarify what is really highest and best.
This may be the year in which you put in practice living in integrity with your spiritual principles.
This may be the moment when you are willing to ask and listen within to what you know is True.
This may be the opportunity to forgive past mistakes and choose again for what is True for You.

Saying Yes to you asks only that you be free to express and you trust yourself to know what is
Saying Yes with confidence asks that you have faith in your choice because you listened to your inner voice.
Saying Yes asks that you let go of the past, the doubters and fear-mongers.
Saying Yes requires that you forgive your doubts and fears and choose again for Love.

Children are inspired by a world where Yes is encouraged.
Adults are encouraged by supporters who trust and believe in them.
All of us learn best in open environments where we can explore.
Humanity needs the gift of TRUST and FREEDOM to remember its highest nature.

Where can I begin today to forgive my fearful “No’s” and remember my loving “Yes’s”.
Loving You, as you Love You, the authentic, wise and Highest You,
Betty Lue

Saturday, January 08, 2011


I am on  family vacation with our grandchildren and their parents in South Lake Tahoe snow.
Oatmeal on the stove.
Brown rice already cooked for later today.
Hot water simmering for tea and hot chocolate.
Plenty of cereals, eggs, toast, jelly and honey.
Bowl of fruit on the table.
Coffee made.
And here I am sitting at Robert’s laptop, ready for Loving Reminders.

Life is good and all is well with me.
Yes, Grandma brought extra gloves and today we will take pics while the children go tubing.
Tomorrow the other grandchildren will arrive for added fun.
Variety is my joy and I truly have lots of opportunity for novelty and unique experiences.

How do you live?
Do you choose each day to be what you want?
I like joyful and fun stuff, so I choose joy and fun.
If you like peace and solitude, choose more peace and quiet.

If you lived in the present, choosing your daily life to be want you want, it would be a vacation.
Vacation is choosing to vacate your daily routine and choose what you want.
Vacation is emptying your mind,
Vacation is an opportunity to look at all things new again.

Forgiveness is also looking at all things with no judgment.
Forgiveness is the opportunity to let go or empty your mind of the past.
Forgiveness is the gift of seeing your world as you choose it to be.
Forgiveness is giving your blessings to everyone and everything.

Sounds like a vacation of the mind.
Use today to free yourself from your past perceptions and see the world new again.
Loving you and me and all of us as one.
On vacation from the world.
Betty Lue

Friday, January 07, 2011

Create Your Day

Play at creating what inspires you.
Play at delighting in your creations.
Play at singing your song as loud as you wish.
Play at living your Truth freely and honestly.

We are created to create by our Creator.
We are here to create wholeness, Goodness and Love.
We are teachers of innocence and Love.
We are teaching as we forgive and choose only Love.

As we create and play, play and create, we fully enjoy the process of living, relating and giving.
As we are filled with enjoyment for what we have created, we are grateful for creating our lives.
As we appreciate our creations and the creative process, we expand our potential and manifestation.
As we are empowered, we take total responsibility for our life experiences.

Start today.
Begin the early morning with inspiration.
Use whatever readings or practices that inspire you and expand your creative and joyful energy.
Be consistent and committed to affirmation, forgiveness and gratitude throughout your day.

Set aside time periodically during the day to stop and listen within for direction and focus.
When you are upset or confused, stop and listen for inner guidance.
When you make a mistake, forgive yourself immediately and choose again for the highest form of Love.
When you judge another, forgive your judgment immediately and choose again to encourage and Love.

Waste no time focused on past wrong-doing or learned fears.
Focus your time and energy on what is effective, healing and helpful.

Look with forgiveness and blessing on what has been, the past.
Look with gratitude on what is  and enjoy this moment NOW!
Look with enthusiasm and creativity for what will be.

Each day is a creation of your thoughts, words and activities.
What you experience is a product and projection of your thoughts, beliefs, opinions, history and images.
Clear off the canvas of your mind all thoughts, beliefs, history and images you choose not to create.
Place on your inner screen the images that are created for the highest Good of all.

Life is an experimental laboratory to learn to undo everything that is not whole and true and loving.
Learn to focus on, appreciate and magnify everything that is whole and true and loving.
Enjoy the process of learning by trusting your observations and choices.
You are creating your day more consciously that ever before.  Congratulate yourself.

Loving you  and appreciating your Holy Creations, 

Betty Lue

Thursday, January 06, 2011

What’s Holding You Back?

Blame, Guilt, Fear, History, Beliefs, Obligations, Doubt, Confusion, etc?
Each one of us as a part to play in the Greater Healing of Humanity.
Everyone of us has unique gifts, talents and resources to contribute.
All of us are here with a holy purpose or mission to accomplish.

Some don’t know and don’t care.
Some know and don’t want to.
Some don’t know and don’t know what they don’t know.
Some know and are holding themselves back.

We each are free to choose what, when, where and how we are going to live.
We each can wait, delay and even paralyze ourselves with fear and procrastination.
We each can block our momentum and depress ourselves into doing little or nothing.
We each can “sit on our laurels” (past achievements) and stop doing anything meaningful.

Life is a choice, every day, every relationship, every decision, every thought, word and activity.
We are the choosers.
We can create always and only meaningful interactions or engage in nothing at all.
We can judge, fear, doubt, blame, regret, and depress our energies in every possible way.

Distraction, delay, detours, depression, discouragement, denial, disappointment are all limiters.
We can forgive and choose again.
We can undo and create a new reality, a new beginning.
We can heal the past, forgive the past, release the past and begin again.

Ask yourself honestly to list every thought, belief, fear, concern, etc that holds you back.
Be thorough in your self disclosure.
Then looking at your list, ask if you are truly willing to let it all go and begin again.
The key to freedom and trust in creating a new future is totally and absolutely releasing the past.

Now is your time to free yourself.
Now is the time to trust your highest Self.
Now is your time to actualize your Self.
Now is your time and mine.

Let us make 2011 the best year ever.
We are free to BE.
Let it Be. Let us BE.

Loving you endlessly,
Betty Lue

Getting Free
(By Setting Others Free)
It is not unusual for us human beings to secretly wish and hope that the people we’re close to don’t become too magnificent. We don’t really want these significant others to be too free or too powerful or too creative or too successful or to dream too wild a dream. We actually prefer that they stay small, “manageable”, non-threatening, tame. After all, we don’t want to be made to feel uncomfortable or inadequate or diminished or challenged by the boldness and joyfulness with which someone else lives his or her life.
But, until we are willing and actively desire that the key people in our lives be totally free and powerful, we cannot be free and powerful ourselves. So, here is an affirmation-prayer that may help us begin freeing others, so that we can begin to free ourselves.

I, _____(your name)_____ want you, _____(his or her name)_____, to be the highest, clearest, most powerful expression of God that you can be. I would not limit you in any way, knowing that only as I encourage you to expand, explore and grow, can I myself be free. So I fully support you in being and expressing all that you are.
I want you to go where you feel called to go, to speak and act as you feel guided, and to express yourself in whatever ways seem right. There is nothing I do not want you to do, for I know that all movement is contained within God and always leads us to Him.
I am at peace with whatever decisions and choices you make, no matter how they may seem to affect me. Since I know that God loves and supports me perfectly, I know that however you choose to be with me must be a manifestation of that divine love and support. Because I trust God, I trust you. And because I trust you, I trust myself.
So, be free, be powerful, be unlimited. And know that I, _________, want you, _________, to be the highest, clearest, most powerful expression of God that you can be. I fully support you in being all that you are.

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

Healing the Past

Everyone has wounds.
Wounds are leftover hurts, regrets, misunderstandings, pain, grief, fear, confusion from the past.
We recreate our woundedness in our present relationships.
Our spiritual purpose is to heal all our wounds.

When we are healed, we are not healed alone.
The primary function of all relationships is to heal.
The Healing is the return to our natural state of Love, Peace and Joy.
Love, Peace and Joy come from Perfect Trust.
Perfect Trust comes from forgiving, erasing the past.

To heal we need to be in a space of safety, non judgment and love.
When we ask someone to help us heal who is judging, we continue our woundedness.
When we share our wounds with those who see us as broken, we continue our woundedness.
When we can see our past with forgiving eyes and see the gifts and blessings, we are healed.

Healing is simply undoing our judgments on what we have experienced.
Healing is letting go of the need to justify, explain or defend the past.
Healing is the remembrance of Love and the return to wholeness and Holiness.
Healing is the opportunity to see things differently.

All relationships are for the purpose of healing.
Therefore in relationship we can become a safe place where others can reveal and heal.
In our primary relationships both people have healing needs.
In these relationships we can choose to be a safe and non-judgmental place where others can heal.

Healing is an inside job.  Healing comes from letting go of our need to blame anyone including ourselves.
Healing is an opportunity to notice where we misperceived, took things personally, and/or thought that the other was blaming us for their woundedness.
Lack of Love (woundedness) comes in many forms.
Lack of Love is always the need for Love.

When we Love, we share the Love we are and the Love we have.
When we are hurting, we withhold our Love and separate from others.
When we heal our hurts, we can Love those who are calling for Love.
When we forgive our guilt, fear, and blame, we return to our natural loving state.

Simple.  Yes.
Easy to do……with lots of practice.
Effective…Absolutely essential for healing.
Loving us all in process.
Trusting in Love.
Betty Lue

Written several years ago.
You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.   This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem. 

It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.  When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself, the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.

The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself, the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.

Monday, January 03, 2011

Down Time

Pre-Miracle Anxiety and Post Miracle Depression are terms I heard many years ago to describe the emotional ups and downs of “special events”, such as vacations, holidays, weddings and presentations.
As we prepare ourselves for something special, there may be anticipation and anxiety. We may even want to avoid the event or get “cold feet”.  As the time gets closer, there often is an energy surge which can feel exhilarating or terrifying to the psyche and physiology.  When the event is complete, there may be a let down, a feeling of loss, depression or grief.  After vacations, people may even get sick or fall into a lethargy or avoidance pattern.

Perhaps we need “down time” after the holidays?
Or maybe we simply need to find some other source of inspiration and motivation?
Or it could be that life is simply inviting to even out our energy and maintain more balance.
This would be a way of making nothing special or making everything equally special.

I notice that I like to keep my motor running and my consciousness alert.
I prefer to be enthusiastic every day by looking forward to those I meet and what I do.
I enjoy my life choices and allow them to keep my energized and fully alive.
When I overdo, overcomplicate or over emphasize the significance of something special, I may have the downside need to isolate or take time alone.

How about You?
Extraverts tend to be filled with energy when they interact with others.
Extraverts tend to feel depleted or deenergized from too much time alone.
Introverts tend to feel depleted from too much time with people, especially when they need to perform.
Introverts tend to refuel and be energized by time alone without the distraction of others.

Another piece may be that externally referring personalities get approval from others.
Self-referring people tend to be more subjective or find approval within themselves.
When we are self-referring, if we are praised or criticized, we pay less attention.
When we are externally-referring, we feed on others attention and admiration.

When we are in settings where others see and judge us, we may be distracted by their approval and disapproval rather than simply being at peace within.
This may take energy to receive and respond.
When we are in settings when we keep our own counsel, we may stay present to simply enjoy what is.

What gives you energy?
What depletes your energy?
What brings peace?
What brings anxiety?

Are these simple guideposts your keys to a happy, healthy and peaceful Life?

Loving you,  

Betty Lue