Sunday, January 31, 2016

Keep Your Dreams Alive!

I love to dream and vision the highest and best for all.
I know all things work together for the Good of all.
I support my vision for humanity with the work I do.
I encourage everyone to believe in themselves and live their dreams.

Keep Your Dreams Alive!

No more “kill joy” thoughts.
No more bursting the “joy” bubble.
No more making kids feel silly about dreaming.
No more saying “No” to what may be possible somehow and someday.

When we hear “no”, we stop hoping.
When we tell others “You must be kidding.” we are shutting down faith and belief.
When we give up on ourselves, we demonstrate what is impossible.
Since we live in an unlimited realm, we are not even telling the Truth.

Everything is possible for those who believe.
Nothing is impossible for those who believe.
What is conceived and believed can be achieved.
With faith and hope and Love, all things are possible.

Where two or more are joined, all things are possible.
Let’s be the one who joins the other to believe.
This is what we call “miracles”.
Believers can achieve what they believe….when there is no doubt.

Do not be the doubter.
Do not destroy the hope.
Do not argue with the faith.
Do not kill the realization of the dream.

Join with children in their fantasy.
Join with the dreamer in their plans.
Join with the visionary in their desire.
Join with the peacemaker in working for peace.

When you are willing to believe, your whole life will change.
When you set aside the worldly limitations, you will see infinite possibilities.
When you undo the “limits” of past science and “facts” of history, you begin to see change.
All things change when we relinquish are fixed opinions and fears of the unknown.

Give life a chance to unfold miraculously.
Give science a change to see things differently.
Give people a change to awaken to loving goodness.
Give yourself a chance to be Who You Really Are.

Loving the mystery of constant change and evolution for those who believe!!
Betty Lue

Make a list of your dreams and see what comes first for you.
Share only with those who believe in you.
You deserve to be happy and hopeful.
Give yourself the Love you deserve.
I always add  "This or something better.”

Saturday, January 30, 2016

Always Loving!

I Love for the Sake of Love.
I Love for the Joy of Love.
I Love for the Beauty of Love.
I Love and receive the Abundant Blessings of Love.

Simply “ I Am Always Loving You!”

My life of service is for You.
The way I live is for You.
The teachings I share are for You.
Hard to believe, but it is True.

Let us step into Love together.
Let us help one another and step up to Love.
Let us believe together we can always Love.
Let us trust one another to be willing to Love.

What does it take to choose for Love?
What can we do to remember to Love?
How do we live to support this Love?
Where do we go to always live in Love?

Sometimes it may seem there is no one to trust.
We may even neglect loving ourselves.
We might try to get someone to love us.
We may seek a teacher to remind us to love.

I check my Love flow everyday in everyway.
With every thought and word I can see Love working or not.
Love is our Essence and Love is our Source.
When we feel lack of Love, we know we have neglected to take care of our Love.

When we keep gas in the tank and clean oil in our car, it goes where we want smoothly.
Our body and mind and Spirit needs us to clean our the valves to flow Love.
Love is the fuel and lubricant that energizes our lives.
When this flow is blocked, limited or diverted, Love seems limited.

Check your oil and gas daily.
Forgive and clean out what interferes.
Stop trying to get Love from those who may be struggling to keep going.
Clean up the flow of your inner supply.

If you do not receive from your inner supply, clean out the obstacles you put in your way.
Clean out the toxic unkind thoughts  and change your mind.
Forgive past scar tissue with forgiveness and heal your wounds.
Replace the valves by cleaning out past accumulated debris/

First Love Love itself.
Then Love You loving You.
From an open flow of Love in you, there is easy flow to others in your life.
Replenish your Love tank for Inspiration and add fresh oil to openly flow Love .

You and I are in the flow of Love Together.
Let’s keep Love going and flowing for the Joy of it Always.
Love is who I Am and therefore I endlessly  Love.
Loving You, 
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox 

Friday, January 29, 2016

Let Go and Allow Good

I now give and receive all Good and only Good.
I appreciate the power of choice.
I use forgiveness liberally as an eraser filled with Love.
I let Love and Goodness lead my life.

Let Go and Allow Good

Stop trying to understand what doesn’t work.
Stop analyzing why things are not good.
Stop wasting time on figuring out how to fix people.
Live for You, discovering, understanding and supporting you.

There are infinite potential solutions for every problem.
When you are willing to let go of complaining about them, you will be helpful for you.
When you undo what is not working for you, you will seek only what works.
When you are willing to respect and trust in yourself, you will choose again.

Stop being distracted and sidetracked by going on a wild goose chase to nowhere.
When you stop trying to make something happen, you will release the resistance.
When you start relaxing into the infinite potential for all good and only good, you will succeed with ease.
Emphasis and attention on the obstacles only increases the resistance.

Move around the blocks to freedom and trust.
Let the negatives dissolve in your attention to the positive.
You create more conflict in the upset with what doesn’t work.
You experience more pain by going against the grain.

What if we let our lives flow in the fun, safe and easy direction.
What if we allow others to be what they want to be.
What if we give ourselves the freedom to be and do what we want.
What if we follow the road to happiness as the obvious course of attention.

What if we trust we deserve all Good.
What if we know we are more than enough.
What if we easily forgive, erase and delete what is not Best.
What if we go to bed each night with gratitude and rest.

What if the world is our oyster and we are the pearl.
What if we can find Love when we love the One we Are.
What if being able and willing to respond to all things is key.
What if we are choosing and claiming our own reality.

What if we are naturally healthy, happy and free.
What if we can do whatever we allow ourselves to do.
What if we need to believe we can and then we can.
What if true unconditional Love for oneself is the key.

Maybe this is your time to set yourselves free.
Choose everyday what it genuinely good for you.
Release the ways you have been taught to sacrifice.
Live your life with the Best for You and from You.

Let us celebrate!
Betty Lue is loving YOU!
Trusting you are loving YOU, Too!

Do you want to join us for some fun and friendship??
May 3-7, 2016

Hawaii Spring Retreat on the Kona Coast

“Inspired Living”
with Betty Lue and Robert

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Thursday, January 28, 2016

Stop Absorbing Negatives!

I release and let go anything bad for me.
I set myself free from all negativity.
I stop participating in hurtful harmful ways.
I live my life with conscience and consciousness.

No more Toxins.

Neither give nor receive toxic thoughts, words or behaviors.
Only you can choose what you value.
Only you can forgive limiting habits.
Only you can say “NO” to what is not Good.

Stop playing martyr or victim.
Stop blaming or shaming others.
What you give, you will receive.
Stop participating in the war of negativity.

If it hurts you, do not eat it or receive it.
If it hurts you, do not serve it to others…..not even in secret.
What you think is just as powerful as what you say and do.
Eliminate all attack and gossip and making others wrong.

If you want to be happy, stop dwelling in unhappiness.
Relinquish your need to punish or be punished.
Forgive the negative mind and delete its hurtful thoughts.
Forgive the defensive, destructive words and behaviors.

Give up unhealthy hurtful habits and behaviors.
Say NO to the people, places and activities that do not work for you.
Choose a life that is Good to you and Good for you.
Only You can choose what is highest and Best for you.

When you refuse pain, you will remember joy.
When you stop worrying about lack, you will remember abundance.
When you eliminate self harm, you will realize Self Love.
Recognize your natural state by giving up what is unnatural.

We are here to choose, not lose.
We are here to win and encourage others to win.
We are the way showers, the leaders, teachers and healers.
 We can wake up and live the way we are called to be.

Set yourself free from dwelling on analyzing, defending and fixing it all.
Undo all the made up truths that are not and never were true.
Give yourself to loving you and you will begin to love everyone.
Be simply safe and trustworthy to you and all sharing only the Highest Truth.

Now is your time to shine.
Scrape off the “gazoobies” of “yuckiness.”
Sweep away the dirty thoughts and words.
Show up new again and again and find the real You.

Flush the poop and puke in private.
You will be naturally healthy, happy and clean in thought, word and deed.
Do for you only what is truly good and right and true for YOU.
Think speak and behave only the Good in You.

Loving us all new and in Love again.
Your faithful Loving Reminder, 
Betty Lue

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Hurt Feelings?

When words hurt, I turn them into blessings.
I am responsible for what I think and feel.
I learn what to forgive and what to remember.
I am responsible for what I experience.

Hurt Feelings?

What hurts your feelings?
What offends you?
Do others words condemn?
Do others’ judgments validate what you already are thinking?

All criticisms are really about the critic.
All attacks and judgments are telling more about them than about us.
People can only project on another what they have within themselves.
So what other people think of us is really none of our business.

What would it take to let go of all criticism with forgiveness?
Listen to others and respond with ‘thanks”.
Relinquish the need to attack back and flush the toxic material.
Be aware that only you can choose to not ingest what is unhealthy for you.

Ingest the best and forgive and forget the rest.
You can take in what works and is good for you.
You can step aside from what is hurtful and unhealthy for you.
You can choose to be good to you.

Our job is to take good care of ourselves.
If what we eat and think and hear and see is not good, do not take it in.
You are the gatekeeper of your mind.
If what you believe to be unkind, do not keep it in mind.

Relinquish that which is not yours.
Let go and let goodness fill your mind and heart.
Remember what you take in or on is yours to choose.
And when it is not healthy, erase and delete, so you can be healthy and whole.

There are truths that we may tell one another that can be used for good.
There are words that are said that may cause us to hurt, but we can use them to learn.
There are people and places who give advice that wake us up to change our minds.
There are moments when we give and receive good help and advice.

We are translators of what we hear.
We are healers of what we see.
We are students to better ourselves.
We are teachers to remind ourselves and others.

Learn to see things without hurt.
Learn to use everything for the Good of all.
Learn to remember we can learn from everyone.
Learn there are intrinsic blessings of Good when we forgive.

Loving us as we all remember to stop hurting ourselves,
Betty Lue

Handling Criticism

Every upset is always a wakeup call.
All wakeup calls are invitation to get on purpose.
Our purpose is to live in integrity with our mission and principles.
When we are fully being  true to our authentic self ,no one can upset or hurt us.

Every criticism is always about the critic.
We can listen and be grateful for them telling their truth, their belief, their projection.
When we take it personally, we are acknowledging that we have some guilt.
When we are offended, we are confessing that we are not wholly on purpose and at peace.

When my buttons are pushed ( when I have a reaction) to what has been said, it is mine to heal.
When I am hurt or offended, I need to stop and listen to how I can respond to myself with love.
When I am defensive, attacking, upset, I need to take stock of what is the truth for me.
Always I can be aware that the critic is talking about their own need and I can forgive them.

When we hear a criticism or what we judge to be an attack, we can best forgive it all.
When we feel attacked or criticized personally, we can simply apology for the upset.
When we listen within for how best to respond, we can hear what is really needed.
The critic is always describing themselves and expressing their own need to heal.

What we give to another is given to ourselves.
When we offer forgiveness and healing to a brother, we are offering healing to ourselves.
There is no harm in doing no harm.
There is continuing upset when we try to be right.

Where we have guilt, we will be vulnerable.
When we are not true to ourselves, we can be hurt.
When we have blamed another, we will fear being blamed.
When we are afraid of someone or something, we have not yet forgiven.

All upsetting experiences are lessons, reminders or wakeup calls.
All difficulties are challenges which we can learn from.
All seeming offenses are opportunities to realign our principles and purpose.
In our defenselessness, our safety lies.

When we have nothing to hide with no secrets and no fears of being judged, criticism is a call for help.
When we are free from judging, blaming and making anyone wrong, we respond always with kindness.
When we are willing to give what we want to receive, we respond with respectful listening and love.
When we are open to giving what will bring peace and harmony to all, we forgive and love again.

And so it is, we learn and expand our capacity for Loving Kindness,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

You Come First!

I am willing and able to do what is best for me.
I choose to be loving and capable.
I relinquish my need to be taken care of by others.
I respect my ability to be “responsible” and able to respond with Love.

See Responsibilities for Kids and Adults below to get you going~

You Come First!

If you don't care for you, who will?
You are responsible for you.
Everything is in your own best interest.
You must step up and do what is best for you.

Self Care is good and helpful and beneficial to others.
What is best for you is best for others.
You can be a drain or of service.
You can give the Good you have or be a needy mess.

When you are complaining or whining, ask Yourself what you can do.
When you are hurting or feeling helpless, ask what you can do.
When you are lost, confused and afraid, ask what you can do.
It is in doing what you can do that you enable yourself.

When we give ourselves away to care for others, we may neglect to care for ourselves.
When we sacrifice ourselves, we may expect others to care for us.
When we give to get something in return, we may teach others to neglect us too.
Learning to attend to ourselves first is often the first step to teach others to care for themselves.

Independence is an essential step to self mastery, health and happiness.
Learning to do what we can do for ourselves as a young child is a vital life development stage.
Being able and willing to do for ourselves is what even the youngest toddler can  learn.
When we encourage others to depend on us may teach them they cannot do for themselves.

Whatever age or stage of development, we can all learn how to take care of ourselves.
This includes what you eat and drink each day.
This includes self care and hygiene, making our bed, putting away our clothes, washing our dishes.
When we live in a household with no responsibilities, we may grow up dependent on others.

From the oldest to the youngest, we are here to learn to come first with our own needs.
Give you body, mind and spirit the best healthy, happy, productive, grateful environment.
If you don’t know what you need, educate yourself with people and books that can help you.
Learn to say Please and thanks, simple etiquette to yourself and others works.

·     Be willing to clean up after yourself wherever you are.
·     Ask yourself what is best for you?
·     Discipline yourself to choose only what is healthy for you.
·     Say “No” to what is not for your Highest Good.

This includes people who are not healthy and inspiring, media that is not healthy and inspiring, foods that are not healthy and inspiring.

What will it take to give yourself only what is good and right and true for you?
Stop being tempted by what the world seems to sell.
Stop buying and believing what everyone else is buying and doing.
Don’t let fear inter-FEAR with your choices, your movement and your success.

Think for yourself.
Ask, Is this good for me?
If so, say YES and act on it.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Keys to Health & Vitality

Ingest the best and forget the rest.  Take into your body, mind and spirit only that which supports, sustains and inspires the BEST in you.

Life is flow. To move with the flow is healthy. To resist is stressful. Move with the natural inner movement physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.

To breathe in (inhale) fully life energy, Spirit, Prana, inspiration, is to expand our awareness to open to an enlightened mind.  To exhale fully is to truly release what is no longer needed.

Reaching out with Love and respect for each other opens our bodies and beings to trust in the gentleness we all deserve to experience.

Choose for those thoughts which heal and free you to be unlimited in health and wholeness. Forgive (erase) the beliefs which are limiting or false.

Carry with you an attitude of gratitude and love for yourself and others.  Allow yourself to see all things work together for good.

Moderation in all things will bring your life into harmony.  As we give ourselves what is really best for us, the extremes are gently released.

What you perceive in others and the world you strengthen in your Self.  Focus on illness, disease and weakness and you actually weaken yourself.  See only health and wholeness and you move yourself in the direction you are looking.

To clear out toxins and purify the system requires a willingness to eliminate toxic thoughts, activities, relationships as well as foods from your system.  Flushing the system clean is aided with water, fresh air, gentle movement and forgiveness.

To rest and relax your mind and body are invaluable to being refreshed and revitalized. Each person has unique methods of relaxation - meditation, music, being in nature, focused simple activity.
Responsibilities for Adults (From Betty Lue)

Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child (see below)

Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?

Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?

Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?

Do you know the difference between right and wrong?

Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.

Be courteous and helpful.

Give your best, no matter what others do.

Make no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.

Keep your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.

Take turns in your interactions and following procedures.

Be fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.

Eliminate all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.

Think of others as you want to be thought of.

Stop judging, complaining and gossiping.

Stop negatively thinking about yourself and others. 

Forgive and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.

Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.

Use “please” and “thank you”, even with children.

Talk in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.

Stop demanding and expecting: respectfully request.

Don’t pretend you know, when you don’t know.

Responsible Behaviors

Eradicate addictive behavior and create healthy choices.

Clean up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.

Follow through on your plans, projects and promises.

Clean your house and car, your mind and messages.

Treat the environment and earth with conscious respect.

Stop excessive spending and Save your money.

Be respectful of the people and possessions in your life.

No drunkenness or disorderly behavior.

No swearing or name-calling.

Never abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.

Stop expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.

Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean home.

Suggested Responsibilities for Kids

If you are not as responsible as an 8-10 year old, begin first with yourself~
(Expect Your Child to Begin at Specific Ages, depending on verbal and motor development) 

We have failed to teach responsibility in our homes. Children expect others to do for them -- including homework.

Many "Baby Boomers" were never trained to be responsible and hence they have failed to teach this important characteristic to their children. As a result children grow up without this godly characteristic and so they lack this essential characteristic for success. Both the physical world and the spiritual world require responsibility to succeed.

If we teach out children responsibility in the home, it will have the following beneficial effects:
1   Our children will become responsible. They will be more of a joy to live with at home.
2   Because responsible children are such a unique commodity in today's society, our children will be sought after for babysitting, lawn mowing, and other employment opportunities outside the home.
3   Parents will find themselves with more energy, because they are doing less tasks that now are being done by their children.
4   Because the home runs more smoothly with less stress, parents will be able to consider the option of having a larger family.
5   Responsibility should be taught at an early age. There are tasks which teach responsibility that even an infant can accomplish. What follows is a list responsibilities -- tasks which teach our children to be responsible, productive, and helpful.
6   Take look at the list.
7   Are your children learning responsibility in your home?
8   (The following list is cumulative, that is, each age level should include the responsibilities prior to it.)

9 - 24 months
·     Putting dirty clothes in hamper.
·     "Helping" with grocery shopping (putting items in basket and on check-out counter, handing things to mom to be put away at home.)
·     Cleaning with mom (give child a dust rag, child size broom, empty spray can/windex bottle for "pretend" cleaning).
·     Watering plants (with pre-measured amounts!).
·     Beginning to help make beds - (begins with handing the pillows to mom until later).
·     Yard work (helping collect trash and toys, etc.).
·     Simple errands ("bring the diaper to mommy, please," etc.).

2 - 3 years
·     As language develops, requiring politeness on a regular basis ("Yes ma'am", "No sir", "May I please be excused", greeting, etc.).
·     Generally including child in every-day activities on a regular basis (cleaning, shopping, etc.).
·     More complicated errands ("Take this towel and put it in the hamper", etc.).
·     Laundry (beginning to help with sorting by mom handing him things to put in appropriate piles, transferring clothes from dryer to basket, etc.).
·     Learning more specific neatness qualities (putting toys in proper spots).
·     Taking his dishes to the sink and helping to clear table.
·     Carrying groceries in from car (give child one light item or a small bag).
·     General errands (carrying diaper bag into meeting, carrying mom's purse to the car, etc.).
·     Simple decision-making ("Would you like juice or milk to drink?").
·     Put books and magazines in a rack.
·     Place napkins, plates, and silverware on the table.
·     Clean up what they drop after eating.
·     Toilet training.

3 - 4 years
·     Making bed (begins with watching mom -- mom helping child -- mom watching child) standards must be clear and reminders frequent.
·     Keeping room neat and taking daily responsibility for it.
·     Regular morning routine becoming established (getting dressed, cleaning room before breakfast).
·     More complex decision-making ("Would you like to wear the blue or green pants?").
·     Becoming "other-oriented" (drawing pictures for someone, making encouragement notes to dictate to mom, thank you notes for birthday gifts).
·     Learning to use the telephone properly.
·     Established and regular responsibilities (bedroom, getting the mail, emptying bathroom trash cans, etc.).
·     Helping wash the car.
·     Simple hygiene - brush teeth, wash and dry hands and face, and brush hair.
·     Undress self - dress with some help.
·     Carry boxed or canned goods from the grocery sacks to the proper shelf.

4 - 5 years
·     Taking his laundry to designated place on laundry day.
·     Sorting laundry with supervision.
·     Begin learning to fold laundry and put it away.
·     Hang socks, handkerchiefs, and washcloths on a low line.
·     Vacuuming/sweeping.
·     Cleaning table after meals.
·     Helping with meal preparations (learning to measure, stir and use small appliances).
·     Spread butter on sandwiches.
·     Prepare cold cereal.
·     Help mother prepare plates of food for the family dinner.
·     Make a simple dessert (add topping to cupcakes, pour the toppings on ice cream).
·     Hold the hand mixer to whip potatoes or mix up a cake.
·     Setting the table.
·     Taking out the trash.
·     Helping make decisions about meal choices, outings, time with friends, etc.
·     Carrying groceries in from the car and putting them away.
·     Help with grocery shopping and compiling a grocery list.
·     Polish shoes and clean up afterwards.
·     Follow a schedule for feeding pets.
·     Help do the dishes or fill the dishwasher.
·     Dust the furniture.
·     Share toys with friends (practice courtesy).
·     Tell parent his whereabouts before going out to play.
·     Play without constant adult supervision and attention.
·     Polish silver.
·     Polish car.
·     Sharpen pencils.

5 - 6 years
·     Unsupervised responsibilities (making bed, washing out trash cans, etc.).
·     More complicated meal preparations (making frozen juice, toast, scrambling eggs, cutting with blunt knife, baking).
·     Make own sandwich or simple breakfast, then clean up.
·     Pour own drink.
·     Prepare the dinner table.
·     Tear up lettuce for the salad.
·     Helping with younger siblings (changing diapers, helping with bath, bottle feeding, entertaining while mom is out of the room, feeding/dressing toddler siblings).
·     Laundry (sorting, learning to use the washer/dryer, measuring detergent,fold clean clothes and put them away.) .
·     Cleaning (using cleaning supplies properly, cleaning unsupervised areas like bathtub or polishing furniture, clean mirrors and windows).
·     Sons -- carrying "heavy" things for mom and helping with yardwork.
·     By this time child will begin to carry out responsibilities unasked and begin to offer help in areas parents don't require help in.
·     Make bed and clean room.
·     Dress on own and choose outfit for the day.
·     Learn to tie shoes.
·     Answer the telephone and begin to dial the phone.
·     Yardwork.
·     Pay for small purchases.
·     Help clean out the car.
·     Take out the garbage.
·     Decide how he wants to spend his share of the family entertainment fund.
·     Feed his pets and clean the living area.

6 - 7 years
·     Simple meals prepared (making sandwiches for lunch, preparing drinks, fixing breakfast for mom and dad, preparing salad for dinner, peel vegetables).
·     Regular quiet time becoming a part of daily routine.
·     Totally unsupervised laundry responsibilities when needed.
·     Increased responsibilities for younger siblings (dressing infants/toddlers, entertaining them for longer periods by reading to them/playing records, etc., helping school them).
·     Learning the purpose and beginning usage of tools (lawn mower, hand tools, etc.) and helping with home maintenance.
·     Shake rugs.
·     Water plants and flowers.
·     Prepare own school lunch.
·     Help hang clothes on the clothesline.
·     Hang up own clothes in the closet.
·     Gather wood for the fireplace.
·     Rake leaves and weed.
·     Tie own shoes.
·     Care for his own minor injuries.
·     Keep the garbage container clean.
·     Clean out inside of car.
·     Straighten or clean out silverware drawer.
·     Oil and care for bike.
·     Take phone messages.
·     Run errands for parents.
·     Sweep and wash patio area.
·     Water the lawn.
·     Wash dog or cat.
·     Train pets.
·     Take pet for walk.
·     Carry in the grocery sacks.
·     Get self up in the morning and go to bed at night on own.
·     Learn to be polite, courteous, and to share; respect others.
·     Carry own lunch money and notes back to school.
·     Leave the bathroom in order.
·     Do simple ironing.

8 - 10 years
·     Complete responsibility for their rooms on a daily basis (bed making, dresser drawers, closet, vacuuming, etc.).
·     Unsupervised yard work (i.e., lawn mowing, edging, clean-up, gardening).
·     More complex meal preparations (pour and make tea, coffee, and instant drinks, using sharp instruments, baking, using appliances, beginning meal planning).
·     More difficult cleaning projects (scrubbing kitchen floor, windows, cleaning appliances).
·     Summer jobs (lawn mowing, dog sitting, babysitting, odd jobs for vacationers).
·     Financial planning (computing percentages for saving, tithing, offerings, gift-giving and assuming responsibility with parental oversight).
·     Beginning car maintenance (helping dad with minor repairs, learning tool usage, washing/waxing).
·     Help rearrange furniture. Help plan the layout.
·     Run own bathwater.
·     Help others with their work when asked.
·     Shop for and select own clothing and shoes with parent.
·     Change school clothes without being told.
·     Fold blankets.
·     Sew buttons and sew rips in seams.
·     Clean storage room.
·     Clean up animal "messes" in the yard and house.
·     Cut flowers and make a centerpiece.
·     Pick fruit off trees.
·     Build a campfire, get items ready to cook out (charcoal, hamburgers).
·     Paint fence or shelves.
·     Help write simple letters.
·     Write thank-you notes.
·     Help with defrosting and cleaning the refrigerator.
·     Feed the baby.
·     Polish silverware, copper, or brass items.
·     Clean patio furniture.
·     Wax living room furniture.
·     Change sheets and put dirty sheets in hamper.
·     Buy groceries using a list and comparative shopping.
·     Cross streets unassisted.
·     Keep own appointments.
·     Receive and answer own mail.
·     Wait on guests.
·     Plan own birthday.
·     Simple first aid.
·     Do neighborhood chores.
·     Sew, knit, or weave (even using a sewing machine).
·     Do chores without a reminder.
·     Learn banking and to be thrifty and trustworthy.
·     Handle sums of money up to $5.00.
·     Be alone at home for short periods.
·     Take the city bus to selected destinations.
·     Proper conduct when staying overnight with a friend. Pack own suitcase.
·     Responsible for personal hobby.
·     Handle self properly when in public places alone or with peers.

11 - 12 years
·     Join outside organizations, do assignments, and attend. Able to take responsibility as a leader.
·     Put siblings to bed and dress them.
·     Clean pool and pool area.
·     Respect others' property.
·     Run own errands.
·     Mow lawn with supervision.
·     Help Father build things and do family errands.
·     Schedule himself time for studies.
·     Buy own sweets or treats.
·     Responsible for a paper route.
·     Check and add oil to car under supervision.

13 - 15 years
    Determine how late he should stay up during the week. Also determine how late he should be out for evening gatherings (through mutual parent-child discussion and agreement).
    Responsibility for preparing family meals.
    Social awareness: good health, exercise, necessary rest, correct weight, nutritious food, physical examinations.
    Anticipate the needs of others and initiate the appropriate action.
    Acceptance of capabilities and limitations.
    Self-respect or individual worth.
    Responsibility for one's decision.
•  Mutual respect, loyalty, and honesty in the family.