Affirmations:
I am willing and able to do what is best for me.
I choose to be loving and capable.
I relinquish my need to be taken care of by others.
I respect my ability to be “responsible” and able to respond with Love.
See
Responsibilities for Kids and Adults below to get you going~
You
Come First!
If
you don't care for you, who will?
You are responsible
for you.
Everything is in
your own best interest.
You must step up and
do what is best for you.
Self
Care is good and helpful and beneficial to others.
What is best for you
is best for others.
You can be a drain
or of service.
You can give the
Good you have or be a needy mess.
When
you are complaining or whining, ask Yourself what you can do.
When you are hurting
or feeling helpless, ask what you can do.
When you are lost,
confused and afraid, ask what you can do.
It is in doing what
you can do that you enable yourself.
When
we give ourselves away to care for others, we may neglect to care for
ourselves.
When we sacrifice
ourselves, we may expect others to care for us.
When we give to get
something in return, we may teach others to neglect us too.
Learning to attend
to ourselves first is often the first step to teach others to care for
themselves.
Independence
is an essential step to self mastery, health and happiness.
Learning to do what
we can do for ourselves as a young child is a vital life development stage.
Being able and
willing to do for ourselves is what even the youngest toddler can learn.
When we encourage
others to depend on us may teach them they cannot do for themselves.
Whatever
age or stage of development, we can all learn how to take care of ourselves.
This includes what
you eat and drink each day.
This includes self
care and hygiene, making our bed, putting away our clothes, washing our dishes.
When we live in a
household with no responsibilities, we may grow up dependent on others.
From
the oldest to the youngest, we are here to learn to come first with our own
needs.
Give you body, mind
and spirit the best healthy, happy, productive, grateful environment.
If you don’t know
what you need, educate yourself with people and books that can help you.
Learn to say Please
and thanks, simple etiquette to yourself and others works.
· Be willing to clean up after yourself wherever
you are.
· Ask yourself what is best for you?
· Discipline yourself to choose only what is
healthy for you.
· Say “No” to what is not for your Highest Good.
This includes people who are not healthy and inspiring, media that is not
healthy and inspiring, foods that are not healthy and inspiring.
What will it take to give yourself only what is good and right and true for
you?
Stop being tempted
by what the world seems to sell.
Stop buying and
believing what everyone else is buying and doing.
Don’t let fear
inter-FEAR with your choices, your movement and your success.
Think
for yourself.
Ask, Is this good
for me?
If so, say YES
and act on it.
YOU CAN, WHEN YOU KNOW YOU CAN.
JUST GO FOR IT~
Loving you,
Betty
Lue
Keys to Health & Vitality
NUTRITION
Ingest
the best and forget the rest. Take into your body, mind and spirit only
that which supports, sustains and inspires the BEST in you.
MOVEMENT
Life
is flow. To move with the flow is healthy. To resist is stressful. Move with
the natural inner movement physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.
BREATH
To
breathe in (inhale) fully life energy, Spirit, Prana, inspiration, is to expand
our awareness to open to an enlightened mind. To exhale fully is to truly
release what is no longer needed.
TOUCH
Reaching
out with Love and respect for each other opens our bodies and beings to trust
in the gentleness we all deserve to experience.
THOUGHT
Choose
for those thoughts which heal and free you to be unlimited in health and
wholeness. Forgive (erase) the beliefs which are limiting or false.
ATTITUDE
Carry
with you an attitude of gratitude and love for yourself and others. Allow
yourself to see all things work together for good.
BALANCE
Moderation
in all things will bring your life into harmony. As we give ourselves
what is really best for us, the extremes are gently released.
HEALTH
What
you perceive in others and the world you strengthen in your Self. Focus
on illness, disease and weakness and you actually weaken yourself. See
only health and wholeness and you move yourself in the direction you are
looking.
PURITY
To
clear out toxins and purify the system requires a willingness to eliminate
toxic thoughts, activities, relationships as well as foods from your system.
Flushing the system clean is aided with water, fresh air, gentle movement
and forgiveness.
REST
To
rest and relax your mind and body are invaluable to being refreshed and
revitalized. Each person has unique methods of relaxation - meditation, music,
being in nature, focused simple activity.
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Responsibilities
for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child (see below)
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive
everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be
courteous and helpful.
Give
your best, no matter what others do.
Make no
assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep
your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take
turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be
fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate
all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.
Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop
judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop
negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive
and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.
Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use “please”
and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk
in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop
demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t
pretend you know, when you don’t know.
Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate
addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean
up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow
through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean
your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat
the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop
excessive spending and Save your money.
Be
respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No
drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No
swearing or name-calling.
Never
abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop
expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean
home.
Suggested
Responsibilities for Kids
Warning:
If you are not as responsible
as an 8-10 year old, begin first with yourself~
(Expect Your Child to Begin at
Specific Ages, depending on verbal and motor development)
We
have failed to teach responsibility in our homes. Children expect others to do
for them -- including homework.
Many
"Baby Boomers" were never trained to be responsible and hence they
have failed to teach this important characteristic to their children. As a
result children grow up without this godly characteristic and so they lack this
essential characteristic for success. Both the physical world and the spiritual
world require responsibility to succeed.
If
we teach out children responsibility in the home, it will have the following
beneficial effects:
1 Our children will become
responsible. They will be more of a joy to live with at home.
2 Because responsible children are
such a unique commodity in today's society, our children will be sought after
for babysitting, lawn mowing, and other employment opportunities outside the
home.
3 Parents will find themselves with
more energy, because they are doing less tasks that now are being done by their
children.
4 Because the home runs more
smoothly with less stress, parents will be able to consider the option of
having a larger family.
5 Responsibility should be taught
at an early age. There are tasks which teach responsibility that even an infant
can accomplish. What follows is a list responsibilities -- tasks which teach
our children to be responsible, productive, and helpful.
6 Take look at the list.
7 Are your children learning
responsibility in your home?
8 (The following list is
cumulative, that is, each age level should include the responsibilities prior
to it.)
9 -
24 months
·
Putting dirty clothes in hamper.
·
"Helping" with grocery shopping (putting
items in basket and on check-out counter, handing things to mom to be put away
at home.)
·
Cleaning with mom (give child a dust rag, child size
broom, empty spray can/windex bottle for "pretend" cleaning).
·
Watering plants (with pre-measured amounts!).
·
Beginning to help make beds - (begins with handing the
pillows to mom until later).
·
Yard work (helping collect trash and toys, etc.).
·
Simple errands ("bring the diaper to mommy,
please," etc.).
2 -
3 years
·
As language develops, requiring politeness on a regular
basis ("Yes ma'am", "No sir", "May I please be
excused", greeting, etc.).
·
Generally including child in every-day activities on a
regular basis (cleaning, shopping, etc.).
·
More complicated errands ("Take this towel and put
it in the hamper", etc.).
·
Laundry (beginning to help with sorting by mom handing
him things to put in appropriate piles, transferring clothes from dryer to
basket, etc.).
·
Learning more specific neatness qualities (putting toys
in proper spots).
·
Taking his dishes to the sink and helping to clear
table.
·
Carrying groceries in from car (give child one light
item or a small bag).
·
General errands (carrying diaper bag into meeting, carrying
mom's purse to the car, etc.).
·
Simple decision-making ("Would you like juice or
milk to drink?").
·
Put books and magazines in a rack.
·
Place napkins, plates, and silverware on the table.
·
Clean up what they drop after eating.
·
Toilet training.
3 -
4 years
·
Making bed (begins with watching mom -- mom helping
child -- mom watching child) standards must be clear and reminders frequent.
·
Keeping room neat and taking daily responsibility for
it.
·
Regular morning routine becoming established (getting
dressed, cleaning room before breakfast).
·
More complex decision-making ("Would you like to
wear the blue or green pants?").
·
Becoming "other-oriented" (drawing pictures
for someone, making encouragement notes to dictate to mom, thank you notes for
birthday gifts).
·
Learning to use the telephone properly.
·
Established and regular responsibilities (bedroom,
getting the mail, emptying bathroom trash cans, etc.).
·
Helping wash the car.
·
Simple hygiene - brush teeth, wash and dry hands and
face, and brush hair.
·
Undress self - dress with some help.
·
Carry boxed or canned goods from the grocery sacks to
the proper shelf.
4 -
5 years
·
Taking his laundry to designated place on laundry day.
·
Sorting laundry with supervision.
·
Begin learning to fold laundry and put it away.
·
Hang socks, handkerchiefs, and washcloths on a low
line.
·
Vacuuming/sweeping.
·
Cleaning table after meals.
·
Helping with meal preparations (learning to measure,
stir and use small appliances).
·
Spread butter on sandwiches.
·
Prepare cold cereal.
·
Help mother prepare plates of food for the family
dinner.
·
Make a simple dessert (add topping to cupcakes, pour
the toppings on ice cream).
·
Hold the hand mixer to whip potatoes or mix up a cake.
·
Setting the table.
·
Taking out the trash.
·
Helping make decisions about meal choices, outings,
time with friends, etc.
·
Carrying groceries in from the car and putting them
away.
·
Help with grocery shopping and compiling a grocery
list.
·
Polish shoes and clean up afterwards.
·
Follow a schedule for feeding pets.
·
Help do the dishes or fill the dishwasher.
·
Dust the furniture.
·
Share toys with friends (practice courtesy).
·
Tell parent his whereabouts before going out to play.
·
Play without constant adult supervision and attention.
·
Polish silver.
·
Polish car.
·
Sharpen pencils.
5 -
6 years
·
Unsupervised responsibilities (making bed, washing out
trash cans, etc.).
·
More complicated meal preparations (making frozen
juice, toast, scrambling eggs, cutting with blunt knife, baking).
·
Make own sandwich or simple breakfast, then clean up.
·
Pour own drink.
·
Prepare the dinner table.
·
Tear up lettuce for the salad.
·
Helping with younger siblings (changing diapers,
helping with bath, bottle feeding, entertaining while mom is out of the room,
feeding/dressing toddler siblings).
·
Laundry (sorting, learning to use the washer/dryer,
measuring detergent,fold clean clothes and put them away.) .
·
Cleaning (using cleaning supplies properly, cleaning
unsupervised areas like bathtub or polishing furniture, clean mirrors and windows).
·
Sons -- carrying "heavy" things for mom and
helping with yardwork.
·
By this time child will begin to carry out
responsibilities unasked and begin to offer help in areas parents don't require
help in.
·
Make bed and clean room.
·
Dress on own and choose outfit for the day.
·
Learn to tie shoes.
·
Answer the telephone and begin to dial the phone.
·
Yardwork.
·
Pay for small purchases.
·
Help clean out the car.
·
Take out the garbage.
·
Decide how he wants to spend his share of the family
entertainment fund.
·
Feed his pets and clean the living area.
6 -
7 years
·
Simple meals prepared (making sandwiches for lunch,
preparing drinks, fixing breakfast for mom and dad, preparing salad for dinner,
peel vegetables).
·
Regular quiet time becoming a part of daily routine.
·
Totally unsupervised laundry responsibilities when
needed.
·
Increased responsibilities for younger siblings
(dressing infants/toddlers, entertaining them for longer periods by reading to
them/playing records, etc., helping school them).
·
Learning the purpose and beginning usage of tools (lawn
mower, hand tools, etc.) and helping with home maintenance.
·
Shake rugs.
·
Water plants and flowers.
·
Prepare own school lunch.
·
Help hang clothes on the clothesline.
·
Hang up own clothes in the closet.
·
Gather wood for the fireplace.
·
Rake leaves and weed.
·
Tie own shoes.
·
Care for his own minor injuries.
·
Keep the garbage container clean.
·
Clean out inside of car.
·
Straighten or clean out silverware drawer.
·
Oil and care for bike.
·
Take phone messages.
·
Run errands for parents.
·
Sweep and wash patio area.
·
Water the lawn.
·
Wash dog or cat.
·
Train pets.
·
Take pet for walk.
·
Carry in the grocery sacks.
·
Get self up in the morning and go to bed at night on
own.
·
Learn to be polite, courteous, and to share; respect
others.
·
Carry own lunch money and notes back to school.
·
Leave the bathroom in order.
·
Do simple ironing.
8 -
10 years
·
Complete responsibility for their rooms on a daily
basis (bed making, dresser drawers, closet, vacuuming, etc.).
·
Unsupervised yard work (i.e., lawn mowing, edging,
clean-up, gardening).
·
More complex meal preparations (pour and make tea,
coffee, and instant drinks, using sharp instruments, baking, using appliances,
beginning meal planning).
·
More difficult cleaning projects (scrubbing kitchen
floor, windows, cleaning appliances).
·
Summer jobs (lawn mowing, dog sitting, babysitting, odd
jobs for vacationers).
·
Financial planning (computing percentages for saving,
tithing, offerings, gift-giving and assuming responsibility with parental
oversight).
·
Beginning car maintenance (helping dad with minor
repairs, learning tool usage, washing/waxing).
·
Help rearrange furniture. Help plan the layout.
·
Run own bathwater.
·
Help others with their work when asked.
·
Shop for and select own clothing and shoes with parent.
·
Change school clothes without being told.
·
Fold blankets.
·
Sew buttons and sew rips in seams.
·
Clean storage room.
·
Clean up animal "messes" in the yard and
house.
·
Cut flowers and make a centerpiece.
·
Pick fruit off trees.
·
Build a campfire, get items ready to cook out
(charcoal, hamburgers).
·
Paint fence or shelves.
·
Help write simple letters.
·
Write thank-you notes.
·
Help with defrosting and cleaning the refrigerator.
·
Feed the baby.
·
Polish silverware, copper, or brass items.
·
Clean patio furniture.
·
Wax living room furniture.
·
Change sheets and put dirty sheets in hamper.
·
Buy groceries using a list and comparative shopping.
·
Cross streets unassisted.
·
Keep own appointments.
·
Receive and answer own mail.
·
Wait on guests.
·
Plan own birthday.
·
Simple first aid.
·
Do neighborhood chores.
·
Sew, knit, or weave (even using a sewing machine).
·
Do chores without a reminder.
·
Learn banking and to be thrifty and trustworthy.
·
Handle sums of money up to $5.00.
·
Be alone at home for short periods.
·
Take the city bus to selected destinations.
·
Proper conduct when staying overnight with a friend.
Pack own suitcase.
·
Responsible for personal hobby.
·
Handle self properly when in public places alone or
with peers.
11
- 12 years
·
Join outside organizations, do assignments, and attend.
Able to take responsibility as a leader.
·
Put siblings to bed and dress them.
·
Clean pool and pool area.
·
Respect others' property.
·
Run own errands.
·
Mow lawn with supervision.
·
Help Father build things and do family errands.
·
Schedule himself time for studies.
·
Buy own sweets or treats.
·
Responsible for a paper route.
·
Check and add oil to car under supervision.
13
- 15 years
• Determine how late he should stay
up during the week. Also determine how late he should be out for evening
gatherings (through mutual parent-child discussion and agreement).
• Responsibility for preparing
family meals.
• Social awareness: good health,
exercise, necessary rest, correct weight, nutritious food, physical
examinations.
• Anticipate the needs of others
and initiate the appropriate action.
• Acceptance of capabilities and
limitations.
• Self-respect or individual worth.
• Responsibility for one's
decision.
• Mutual
respect, loyalty, and honesty in the family.