Thursday, June 30, 2022

Families Matter


I Love as I feel loved.

I Love to remember the Love I AM.

I dare to care to heal myself.

The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.

Families Matter

Everyone is important.

We are born to be with those who need our Love.

We are here to heal what is not healthy, happy or loving.

We need not stay in situations that are harmful or hurtful.

From a distance we can often love more easily.

When we are alone, we can more likely heal the fear.

When we forgive, we can see things more clearly.

When we are aware, we can understand, accept and love.

Families are the place we want to feel safe.

Families are to bring us into conscious connection.

Families are where we desire to nurture and be nourished.

Families are meant to be where we are protected and provided for.

When our family of origin is unsafe, we may not learn to love.

When families don’t nurture or protect us, we may not know how to nurture and protect ourselves.

When families become the place of criticism, blame and shame, we learn to do it to ourselves and others.

Family is our first school of learning from conception.

What we learn within our family system is often preverbal and therefore unconscious.

What we learn prior to going to school stays with us for a lifetime.

The false beliefs and fears and negative experiences in early child hood, shape our perceptions.

Limiting beliefs and faulty thinking become the distortion of our perceptions.

We can heal and clarify, forgive and undo, what is not true.

We can erase from our lives judgments, criticism, shame.

We can let go and learn to love ourselves.

As we love and forgive others, we learn to love and forgive ourselves…….and vice versa.

Life is for giving.

We are the gift.

It is in giving our selves that we realize the Gift We Are.

You Are the Gift of Love and so Am I.

Remember Love All the time and return to Wholeness.

We heal all brokenness with Love.

We remember our Authentic Self with Trust.

We return to our Natural State of Loving Kindness when we forgive. 

We can love from a distance and heal within our heart.

We can release the past and begin again each day to remember Love.

We can undo the fear and be clear about what is Good for us.

We can choose to Love everyone as your Family of Humanity.

You are my family.

You are a part of me.

You see what we can be.

When we’re in Love.

Betty Lue

Qualities of Functional Families


Respect is the Holy Grail of functional families. Being considerate of each other is the tie that binds, even more than love.

Emotionally Safe Environment

All members of the family can state their opinions, thoughts, wants, dreams, desires and feelings without fear of being slammed, shamed, belittled or dismissed.

Resilient Foundation

Healthy relationships can withstand stress, even trauma, and, if not bounce back, at least recover. Part of building resilience is being supportive of each other, no matter what.


Privacy of space, body and thought. Knock and ask permission to enter before going through a closed door. Provide and respect clear boundaries.


Being accountable means respectfully and reasonably informing people in the family where you are and what you are doing so they can grow trust and not worry.


When you make a mistake or overstep, quickly apologize, then ask for (and receive) forgiveness. 

Allow Reasonable Expression of Emotions

Expressions of unhappiness or hurt can be accepted and responded to with respect. 

Gentle on Teasing and Sarcasm

Don’t use either as a poorly masked put down.

Allows People to Change and Grow

A functional family lets people define themselves—and change those definitions. No “labelling”.

Parenting is Co-Parenting

  Parents, divorced or married, support the same standards and messages so children experience consistency.


Liberally use ‘please’ or ‘thank you’, ‘you’re welcome’ or ‘I’m sorry’.


Functional families play, work and problem solve together. 

Eat Meals Together

Research shows that communication within a family is enhanced if we take more meals together.

Follow The Golden Rule

“Treat each other as we wish to be treated.” It was true way back when and it’s still true now.

Wednesday, June 29, 2022

Use Your Life Well!


I recognize each day is a Gift of Creative Potential.

I waste no time to follow the calling of my heart.

I live my life with focus on what has meaning and purpose.

I know what I want and I go for it daily.

Are You Using Time Efficiently?

Are You Using Your ReSources Effectively?

You are a Source of Good to be used for Creating more Good.

You Life is a Gift of Unlimited Potential for you to utilize wisely and well.

Nothing and no one can limit us if we are awake and aware, open and willing.

We can do what we make up our mind to do with appreciation for ourselves.

How are you wasting your time?

Why are you sitting back?

How are you not doing what you really want?

Where are you sabotaging your Self?

Begin by observing all the addictions, delays, detours and distractions.

These are the areas that interfere with your productivity, enthusiasm and fulfillment.

When we bury our intentions, desires and goals under these interferences, we cannot achieve.

When we allow worldly complexity to confuse, conflict and waste our time, we lose our way.

Begin to undo what is not really valuable.

Start claiming your own power or will and choose.

Choose what you really want.

Let go what you don’t want or need.

Screen time is usually the biggest time waster and distraction.

Consider the addictive nature of Facebook, twitter, etc.

Consider how much time you spend with TV and video games.

Consider how many moments you miss with your own family.

Are you sitting, when there is always much to be done?

Are you texting rather than talking to those around you.

Are you laughing about someone else’s life and ignoring your own?

Are you gossiping away your time, judging and being entertained?

Screen time is addictive and helps us avoid our own need to create our own life.

You may have crying or needy children neglected while you are being distracted.

You may be shopping on line when you could be doing the washing or writing a “thank you” note.

Ask yourself if you are handling all the priorities and goals you have.

Time is a gift you have to be used for what is most important to you.

When you use you life well, you have no regrets.

When you focus on what matters, you have no guilt.

When you use your time, energy and money well, you feel happy and fulfilled.

Put your whole Self into this moment now.

Be present with the time you have.

Appreciate the people you are with.

Above all, enjoy this life everyday.

This is YOUR LIFE!

Make it Good for You.

Betty Lue

Tuesday, June 28, 2022

Create For Joy!


I create a life I enjoy

When I appreciate the life I have, life becomes more enjoyable.

I focus on creating how I want to live and love and be.

I am responsible for the experiences I have.

Creating Is Our Natural State

We were created to be creative.

We create with our thoughts, ideas and vision.

We create with our emotions and our fears.

We are constantly creating with our energy.

When we learn to create what we REALLY want, we experience fulfillment.

When we create unconsciously, we may not be happy with our creations.

When we create with Joy, we have happy creations.

When we with fear and judgment, we may have unwanted creations.

The key is to know we are always creating.

The reset or clearing is with forgiveness.

When we don’t like our experience, we can easily forgive ourselves.

When we want to encourage our experience, we simply appreciate.

We choose what we experience.

We choose our value or lack of value for the creation.

When we are enjoying creating with play and laughter, we enjoy the outcome.

When we dislike our creative experience, we usually dislike the outcome.

It seems clear that our work in this work of active creating is to be happy.

We can easily enjoy our life experiences and learn how to create well.

We can choose to let go, erase and delete and choose again and still again.

We can constantly recreate with play and open-mindedness and enjoyment.

Experiment with what you really want.

Make a spontaneous list of your top 20 wants.

Begin to clarify what you are allowing to stand in your way.

Let no excuses or obstacles block you in experiencing more joy.

We are here to be creative.

Create joy with joy and enjoy your creations.

Give your thoughts, desires and trust to joyous fulfillment.

You will enjoy the Joy in your life.

Stop thinking about what you don’t want.

Don’t allow destructive or negative thoughts.

Let go of limiting thoughts and emotions.

Erase and forgive what you fear and judge.

Use your creative potential to create all Good.

Use your resources, thoughts and feelings to create what you love.

Use your time and energy to create how you want to live and love.

Use your life to create the world you want to see and be.

You Can, when You think you can!

Loving your creations, 

Betty Lue

Monday, June 27, 2022

Choose To Be Happy!


I choose happiness today.

I am content and in love.

I choose the emotions I feel.

I prefer being happy with what is.

Choose Happiness!

Did you know you can choose how you feel?

Do you know how to change your mind?

Are you willing to be happy?

Happiness is an inside job.

What will it take to be happy?

Some believe it requires a perfect world.

Some believe others need to make them happy.

Some believe there is no way to be happy all the time.

What do you believe?

If you think happiness comes from outside, it will be illusive.

If you think happiness requires a perfect life, you will be frustrated.

If you think happiness is the result of the right relationship, you may be disappointed.

Happiness is a choice.

It is a conscious choice to be a happy person.

Being grateful is a good beginning.

Honoring your Authentic Self is key.

If something external is needed to make you happy, you will continually change your mind.

If you think money and things make you happy, you will keep acquiring and trying things.

If habits and addictions give you temporary pleasure and high, you will keep choosing more.

If people’s opinions, admiration, and approval make you happy, you will look for the right people.

Happiness is our natural state.

When we are living on purpose and in truth, you will be content with your life.

If you are trying to become and making things work for you, you will find intermittent discouragement.

When you are willing to love, trust and respect yourself as you are, you will be happy and enjoy your life.

When we step into the world of fear, judgments, opinions, we create our own self judgment.

When we allow all things to work for us, trusting we are learning, we will be content.

When we let go and let Good simply be, we will be at peace.

When we choose   peace instead of what others may teach, we will be peaceful.

Happiness is being filled with Gratitude, Peace and Love.

Happiness is allowing what is to be.

Happiness is knowing all is well.

Happiness is waking up with expectancy, gratitude and wonder.

Let us choose what we want to experience and live it well.

Let us be grateful for the opportunities to heal and grow, learn and teach, love for the sake of Loving.

Loving us all as One, Betty Lue

Consider what works for you. 

Little moments of happy thoughts and feelings?

Little sounds of laughter and appreciation?

Sweet sunlight streaming thru your window?

Begin looking for just a little flicker of happiness.

It will grow as you seek to feel and value it.

“I slept and I dreamed that life is all joy. 

I woke and I saw that life is all service. 

I served and I saw that service is joy.” 

Kahlil Gibran

Sunday, June 26, 2022



I love, trust and respect myself.

I love, trust and respect others.

I choose to clear the forgive and respond with love.

I forgive and let go of what doesn’t work easily and quickly.

Relationships Deserve Our Best

Our primary relationship is with ourselves.

When we treat ourselves with love. trust and respect, we treat others with love and respect.

When we love, trust and respect ourselves, we teach others to love and respect us.

When we love, trust and respect ourselves, others learn to love, trust and respect themselves.

The key to healthy, happy fulfilling relationships is within us.

We can be the change we want to see in our family and our world.

We can demonstrate the way to harmony and peace.

We can live our lives with self respect, self trust, self discipline, and self Love.

To clear the programming we remember both consciously and unconsciously, we must be aware.

To undo what is no longer true or valuable for us, we must be willing to forgive and change.

To no longer repeat what is harmful, hurtful and unkind, we must literally change our mind.

To release what is not healthy or good for ourselves and others, we must choose again.

Relationships are the way we find out what needs to be healed.

Relationship upset or difficulties are showing us what doesn’t work.

Relationships invite us to let go of the dysfunctional behaviors.

All our complaining, criticizing, demanding and negativity must go.

We may have falsely learned to keep repeating ineffective and inflammatory behaviors.

The violence and volatility of our words and actions only create more guilt and fear.

When others become guilty and afraid, they cannot think clearly or act in conscientious ways.

We must learn to be respectful and clear, listen and understand, to choose wise interaction.

Watch the best mediators teachers and healers.

Learn from those with high quality relationships.

Step away from violence and anger.

Choose for those who communicate effectively.

Give us the unconscious and ignorant ways.

Model after those who know how to take impeccable care of themselves.

Be the best role model you can be.

Assume you do not know and learn from those who do.

Relationships all matter.

Relationships build our family and community.

Relationships show us what needs to be healed.

Relationships are our way to safety, sanctuary and love.

Relating to you with only a desire to love, trust and respect you and all.

Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 

With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

 Keep your agreements faithfully.

(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

 Give more than you expect to receive. 

Do more than your “fair” share.

 Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

 Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.

Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

 Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

 Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.

Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

 Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

 Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

 Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

 Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.


As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.

Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.

Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.

Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.

With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.

With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.

With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.