Friday, September 30, 2022

It's Your Choice!


I choose to live the highest values and ethics I know.

I live by the golden rule of treating others as I would like.

I listen to inner guidance for choices and direction.

I love, trust and respect myself in all I say and do.

What Do You Want?

Where are you going?

If you don’t have a clear goal, how can you achieve?

If you don’t have energy to move anywhere, how can you go  anywhere?

If you don’t have a vision, mission or purpose, life will take you wherever it goes.

Life is under your direction.

Life is yours to decide where, when, how and with whom you choose.

Life is the opportunity to achieve, create, survive or thrive.

Life is an ever-present opportunity to clarify, choose, change, correct and commit.

You choose the outcome you desire.

You choose to decide where and set your course.

You choose to steer your thoughts, words and actions.

You choose to support yourself every step of the way.

We are in the ocean of life.

If you use your time and mind well, you will know how to reach your destination.

If you expect others to get you where and how you get there, you may take many detours.

If you are adrift in the ocean of life, you may feel lost, afraid, disappointed. 

Involving others in your life journey, you will experience their Karma and yours.

Creating teamwork or partnership without a joined vision, you may find conflict.

Without mutual respect and open communication, you may be confused in direction.

When no one is ready, willing or able to be responsible, there will be major confusion.

Family planning, business plans, and life goals help gather people together to succeed.

Without adequate preparation for the life journey of marriage, it is difficult to cooperate.

With problems, failing, arguments and drama, there will be many bumps and rough sailing.

It is essential that people in families, businesses, politics and life begin to create common vision.

Be clear in your communication about your values, ethics and ideals.

Listen, accept and determine if you are going in the same direction.

If you are a solo traveler, respectfully accept that others may go their own way.

When you honor your own life path, you will navigate easily and smoothly.

Choose the way of loving kindness, respectful communication and conscious choice.

Live by your inner guidance to find the path of the heart.

Give always the very best you have and step away to renew yourself as needed.

Honor the life adventure you choose by correcting your path as needed.

Get clear, choose, communicate, commit and cooperate to succeed with others.

Know what you want and go for it!

Betty Lue

Thursday, September 29, 2022

Respectful Listening


I listen to differences with respect and learn more.

I listen without a need to blame or make others wrong.

I trust everyone has their own perception and opinion.

The more I respect and accept differences, the more I am respected.

Listen with Respect!

Listen without interrupting.

Listen without arguing.

Listen with consideration.

Listen without defensiveness.

When we learn to listen to one another with an open mind, we will learn to be kind.

When we learn to see what others see, we will broaden our reality.

When we open to find a way to agree, we begin to feel our unity.

When we stop to consider everyone see differently, we find our respect for humanity.

It is essential to begin a different way to communicate.

The word “communicate” is finding the unity within our way to listen and speak.

We are able to seek the agreement within our different perceptions.

We can understand and respect our differences, without blaming or shaming.

Communication in families and friendships is often unconsciously based on what we have learned.

Without changing our negative habits, we are doomed to repeat them.

When we do for others what we want them to do for us, we learn a better way.

When we become conscious in choosing respectful communication, we change fear to love.

All of us have unconscious and limiting habits, excuses and justifications, beliefs and rules.

We have adopted what we say and do from what we learned and used from past encounters.

Parents, authority figures, teachers, etc override children and those with lesser education or experience.

The seemingly powerful often fail to listen and learn from those who seem quiet or inexperienced.

It is essential to harmonize, to heal and grow, to create a better world with harmonious relationships.

We can stop fighting and harmful communication with the simple ‘pattern-interrupt' or “time out”.

Take time to take care of ourselves, step away and find the calm center within.

Ask yourself to really care enough to listen to what is needed to bring peace.

There is no need to win at another’s expense.

It is not helpful to override the other.

It will not be beneficial to either person to build resentment and fear.

It is problematic to continue behaviors which are disrespectful to both.

What is the helpful encouraging way to begin?

Listen first to understand.

Stop making up your mind “to be right.

Let go of the need to win and to fight.

Choose the goal of coming together with kindness and respect.

Seek to bring peace and consideration.

Give to the other the time and space to be heard.

Learn to love one another and give them your respect.

This is the way to bring peace to all relationships.

Communicate with respect.

I trust you to respect yourself and others.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Be Respectful.

Be Responsible.

Be Cooperative.

Create a Better World for All.

Wednesday, September 28, 2022



I love my life and my life loves me.

 I choose to treat my whole life with respect and appreciation.

The more I value and appreciate my life, the more meaning I experience.

 I  give meaning and value to everything I think, say and do.

Meaning in Life

What do you value?

What is important to you?

Where do you contribute?

How do you give?

Purpose gives meaning.

Meaning inspires life.

Life energy feels valuable.

What is valuable sustains us.

And so it is to live with meaning is essential to all life.

Do you live to survive or thrive?

Do you live to defend or feel safe?

Do you live to get by or prosper?

When we know what we value, we can find meaning.

We can give everything we do and say the meaning we give it.

We give meaning to what we value.

When we do not value ourselves and our lives, life is meaningless.

Connect with people who have found meaning in life.

Notice the compassion they have for those around them.

Feel the passion they feel for being helpful and caring.

Be aware of how they spend their rime, money and energy.

Take time to clarify what you value.

Pay attention to the people, places and things you value most.

Give more of yourself to what you value.

When you contribute, you find more meaning in life.

Give to your health, if you value health.

Give to your family, if you value family.

Invest in your financial future, if you value abundance.

Give to your environment, if you value the earth and its bounty.

Where you give, you will receive the benefit.

When you give, your life has meaning.

How you give, you feel the passion.

Contribution is how we find and receive meaning.

When life is meaningless, you feel empty, disconnected and alone.

When your life is meaningful, you feel fulfilled, connected and at one.

Bless yourself by contributing to a meaningful and purposeful life.

Value your life and you will know you are valuable.

Valuing you in all you are and do, 

Betty Lue

Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Listen and Learn


I choose to believe what is inspiring and encourages the best in us.

I listen with an open-mind and believe what is trustworthy.

I learn who and what to trust by listening within.

I watch, listen and learn to what brings more love and joy and peace.

Listen and Learn!

I have the privilege of hearing how many people, young and old, believe what others say.

I notice that many believe what they read, see and hear without checking the facts.

Our youth are often misguided by what is shown on u tube, in movies and from social media..

We all must begin to check ourselves for what we choose to believe.

Believing is seeing!

We have often said “seeing is believing”.

Yet now we actually sell, teach, and proselytize what to believe.

While we have many resources to check facts, we often bypass in favor of just being convinced.

When we believe someone or something, we have a tendency to prove ourselves right.

The mind convinces us to seek supporting evidence without regard to rational research.

Perhaps we are ignorant, gullible and lazy about looking further for the actual evidence.

Consider encouraging yourself and your children to questions what they believe and buy.

Scientists are continually looking further and finding more than they knew existed.

Children believe in fairy tales, Santa Claus and unlimited amounts of money from parents.

Young adults sometimes believe visioning and willing for what they believe is enough.

Our culture seems to believe using credit and then bankruptcy will be OK for them.

Where is the rational and practical teaching and behavior of times before media?

How can we encourage asking questions before we believe someone or something?.

Are we able to discern a lie, a half truth, a made up fact or a something made to scare us?

Recently a smart fifth grader tried to convince me with “facts” that “zombies” are real.

What does it take for you to buy a commercial?

How do you judge who to believe?

Who do you know you can trust?

When everyone is preaching their own beliefs, what will you believe?

Facts are facts.

Beliefs are beliefs.

Truth is in the mind of the beholder.

Everyone will tend to convince themselves of what they want to believe.

How do you find or create what you believe?

What is the purpose for the beliefs you hold?

When do you question and what do you seek?

How can you feel safe and confident when the facts change?

My choice is to listen with an open mind.

My recommendation is to learn from everything.

My work is to forgive what is not helpful or inspiring for me.

Your work is to decide how you want to use what you think, hear and believe you see.

These are interesting times to learn to trust yourself from your own inner Guidance.

Time to forgive any lack of willingness to open your mind to listen and learn.

Time to discern what is real and true and good for you.

Ingest the best and forget the rest.

Learn to say “No thank you!” And “Yes, Please.”

Trusting you in being open and willing to learn.

Betty Lue

Monday, September 26, 2022

Take Nothing Personally!


I listen with respect and gratitude to others.

I respond with kindness and love.

I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.

I always give my best to others.


Take Nothing Personally!

What if you believe everything is personal.

What if you think your world is a reflection of you.

What if you see what you want to believe.

Is everything or nothing personal?

Could you be attracting to you those unconscious thoughts, beliefs and fears you have?

Are you selectively remembering what is a lesson for you to learn?

Is it possible that you are creating the experiences you want to have?

Are you open and willing to learn from everything and everyone?

When we review our life path and process, we begin to see repeated experiences.

When we are open to see what the meaning is for the experiences we have, we notice past similars.

When we review what is ours to see and learn from, we trust that everything can be useful.

We begin to notice everything works together for our own best interest.

With an open mind we notice that we are not victims of our past.

We are learning from every experience that we can reveal and heal our past misperceptions.

We are willing to see without fear and judgment and let go with our blessings.

What we carry around for years, becomes toxic and distorts our perceptions.

Ask if what is said and done is a gift of learning for you.

Ask if what is said and done is merely a need to release for the other.

Ask it what others do and say is them telling what they need to heal.

Ask if you are to simply delete and move on or actively respond with healing love.

There are so many opportunities for you to respond to yourself and others.

You can react with fear and judgment, avoidance and resentment.

These experiences will stick to you and stay around as toxic memories.

You can respond with forgiveness and delete them, or simply extend love and understanding.

What you do, will always come back to you.

What you give, you will receive again in your life.

Dare to do and give what you want to receive.

Give forgiveness and love and you will receive forgiveness and Love.

Our work here is to learn how to heal ourselves.

When we project our woundedness onto others, we hurt.

When we offer true forgiveness and love, we feel healed.

Learning to let go of taking on others pain is key to our healing.

Learn to flush all that is toxic and resentful.

Learn to translate what is projected as an opportunity to heal.

Learn to change what you judge to what you want to remember.

Learn to love yourself fully no matter what and your love for others will increase.

Life is for giving.  

You are the gift!

It is in giving your Love that you realize the Love You Are.

I am loving you with gratitude and peace.

Betty Lue

Four Agreements

1. Make No Assumptions. 

2. Keep Your Agreements. 

3. Take Nothing Personally. 

4. Always Give Your Best.

By Don Miguel Ruiz

Do what allows you to feel good about You.

Sunday, September 25, 2022

Choose Wisely


I seek to understand, before being understood.

I choose with inner guidance, rather than opinion.

I let go of fear and listen with Love.

I trust in what works for the Good of All.

Choose with Wisdom 

How do you choose what is best?

When you trust yourself, you know what is best.

When you trust yourself, you know who to listen to.

When you trust yourself, you feel confident and at peace.

When you live in fear, you will be questioning.

When you have doubt, you will not know.

When you have no guidepost, you will wander.

When you do not listen within, you will be uncertain.

When you know what is right, you need not argue.

When you know what is true, you will trust in you.

When you are true to your principles. you feel unafraid.

When you are living in integrity, you feel safe and at peace.

The world is always in conflict, because there are always two sides.

Families are unsure because they are serving many masters.

Businesses are trying to serve customers and/or employees.

Politics are like wars because both sides want to win.

Have you ever considered more than one way?

Have you tried to find what works for both?

Have you sought to solve problems with win-win solutions?

Have you learned how to choose what is highest and best?

I listen and learn from what works for all parties.

There is always war of words and actions when one side seeks to win.

I can begin at home with no argument or fights.

I drop my position and listen for the highest and best.

While duality seems to be the Name of the Game. Look for Unity!

Each person or group makes their way “right” in the win-lose game.

Listen for an answer where both parties find respect and listen well.

Seek a way in which peace is the outcome.

Where all work together, we can find strength and true respect.

Where everyone seeks for the Greater Good, we look for what benefits all.

When we listen to one another, we genuinely find higher ground.

When we want mutual respect and equanimity, we choose with wisdom and love.

How can you and I be the way-showers?

Can we take time to hear one another?

Are we willing to drop our opinions and listen deeply?

Let us listen for the heart of wisdom within all I encounter.

Listen without prejudice.

Listen for what is true.

Listen to the Good within us.

Listen and seek peace.

Loving You,

Betty Lue