TIME TO GROW UP.
BE RESPONSIBLE.
BE RESPECTFUL!
Affirmations:
I take full responsibility for my life with no blame or guilt.
I acknowledge my mistakes and change what I can change.
I treat others in a respectful and responsible way.
I demonstrate by the quality of my life how to be an adult.
Be A Mature Adult!
If you are not responsible for your own words and behavior, you are immature.
To grow up really means to take full responsibility for your actions and behavior.
To behave in a mature manner is to speak and act in ways that do no harm to yourself or others.
When we are aware and self disciplined, we do not behave in ways that hurt others.
We seem to be living in an age of immaturity, where people do whatever they want.
This sounds selfish and unaware of the consequences of our actions.
When we behave like a child, we need to be treated like a child with discipline and time outs.
When we behave like an adult, we are able to have the freedoms of being fully responsible.
What will it take to raise a generation of adults who can take care of themselves and their families?
First we all need to take full responsibility for our lives.
We need to handle ourselves, our relationships and finances in a respectful and responsible way.
We need to speak and behave in ways that are sensitive and respectful of others.
We need to learn how to do what we do not do well for ourselves.
We need to teach the next generations to grow up and be responsible for themselves.
We need to demonstrate how to manage our affairs, including our health, living situation and workplace.
We need to remember the ethics, morals, values and etiquette of our culture.
We need to manage our lives in an exemplary way.
We need to learn from and with others who are learning.
We need to remember everyone is different in what they know and how they were raised.
Bottom line, we need to treat others as we seek to be treated by others.
This must include elders and children, educated and ignorant, healthy and ill.
All people must be treated with respect and taught with respect.
Learning to be responsible requires quality role models, encouragement and wisdom.
Always begin with yourself.
We can make no correction of others when we are functioning in an immature manner.
We must stop yelling and using foul language.
We must stop drunken, stupid behavior and behave like an adult.
We must apologize for all disrespectful behavior immediately.
We must change our ways, before expecting another to change.
We must talk like an adult to receive an adult response.
We must trust others to learn at their own level of development or awareness.
We must use language that is adult and respectful to be heard.
We must encourage rather than punish.
We must show appreciation for every improvement.
We must give ourselves rewards, praise and encouragement for our own changes.
Life for adults is fun, safe and easy when we live at our best in all circumstances.
We can be the change we want to see.
We can learn to discipline ourselves.
We can unlearn negative and limiting habits.
When we are the adult, we can choose to show by example how to learn, live and love well.
Loving us all as we remind one another,
Betty Lue
10 Signs of Emotional Maturity
1. Being Flexible- It’s all too easy to assume things will go according to plan, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each time in the past. When it doesn’t (and that is often a “when” than an “if”), an emotionally mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable Plan B or even C as needed so that a situation can be dealt with, and still move forward not letting the bump in the road ruin the entire plan.
2. Taking Ownership & Responsibility- An emotionally mature person is able to own up to their own mistakes and not immediately look to blame others. This takes a level of self-honesty and acceptance. If things keep on going wrong, an emotionally mature person will look inwards for answers as to what thoughts or actions may be contributing to the situation and works towards a better understanding and course of action moving forward.
3. Knowing That They Don’t Know Everything- An emotionally mature person knows what they don’t know, and also knows that their own way of doing things may not be the only way or even the best way. They don’t argue “just to be right” or to show dominance to be in charge. They keep an open mind and have open ears and eyes to look for situations where they may be able to learn something, as well as know when they may have something positive to contribute to a situation that can help others.
4. They Look for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity- An emotionally mature person is on the lookout for what can be learned from any situation or opportunity, and searches for the growth opportunity within it, asking “How can I learn and grow from this?”
5. They Actively Seek Out Multiple Points of View To Help Inform Their Own- Emotionally mature people actively seek to inform their own opinions by actively seeking out the points of view of others. They don’t feel threatened by disagreement, but look to be informed by people, and aren’t afraid to question both their own convictions, knowing that they don’t exist in a vacuum. It’s not about an argument to prove who is right; it’s about wanting to be informed by different points of view to further clarify their own points of view or recognizing that perhaps their point of view may even be wrong.
6. They Stay Resilient- In the face of upset, setbacks, or disappointments, an emotionally mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done, and then decide what steps to take to move on.
7. They Have a Calm Disposition- Emotionally mature people do get mad but do not let the emotion dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively deal a situation and also see all of the available options to come to a successful resolution. They know that when emotions override rationality, clearness of thought gets blurred and can limit the options for dealing effectively.
8. They Believe in Themselves- Emotionally mature people don’t have a false sense of self that is ego-based and deluded. But they do have optimism in their own ability to use effort and patience as a way to establish the belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life may through their way.
9. Approachability- Emotionally mature people are able to and prefer to talk WITH people, not AT them. They have genuine empathy for others, an open mind, and work towards not being judgmental of others, knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can impede their ability to know someone and their truth.
10. A Good Sense of Humor– Emotionally mature people realize that all of life can’t be taken seriously. They do realize the importance of getting done what needs to get done, but they realize the importance of having fun and laughter in life as a great coping mechanism and pressure release from stress.