What Do You Want?

Most people seem to not know what they actually want.

Are you afraid of believing and achieving what you want?

LOVE YOUR TRUE SELF TODAY.

CLARIFY WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.

COMMIT TO CREATING WHAT YOU WANT.

Affirmations:

I treat myself with loving care.

I trust my “wants” are leading me to serve.

I know I am worthy of Good.

I create and manifest Goodness for myself and others.

 

What Do You Want?

 

What do you really want, when you say “I don’t Know.”?

Are you afraid to want?

Do you allow yourself to want what you want?

Are you so used to not having what you want, that you don’t let yourself think about wanting?

 

Have you grown distrusting of yourself and others?

Are you passive and accepting?

Do you put others “wants” first?

Do you think your “wants” are less important?

 

It is possible that you are meant to learn.

It is practical for you to lead and show the way.

It is your highest work to live your life following your desires.

Perhaps your wants will inspire others to be honest, open and willing.

 

I find that de-sire (“from the Father”) may be listening to your inner guidance.

Your desire may be guiding you to follow a higher path to fulfillment.

Your inner voice may be showing you how to heal and live in integrity.

Consider that you have only ‘wanted', when it felt safe. 

 

When you let other want for you, you may lose your inner signal.

When you spend years denying yourself, you may not even know.

When you allow the world of seduction and sensation to lead, you may neglect your “real true wants”!

Those worldly pleasures and treasures offer are the fake substitutes rather than what is true.

 

Spend time every morning listening to what is your real desire.

As you say “YES’ to yourself and fulfill that which is before you, you gain clarity and confidence.

Giving yourself that fulfillment, will expand and deepen that which is yours to choose, 

You are here to contemplate, create and celebrate the life of true fulfillment.

 

Your wants and wishes will deepen to include that which is for the highest Good.

Your acceptance and appreciation will increase and enhance what is Good for you.

Your Joy and health and peace will inspire, support and sustain you.

Life will become fun, safe and easy for you.

 

We are created to create.

When we deny our creative intention, we forget Who We Are.

When we allow what is ours to have and be and do, we remember what is true.

This is our time to begin.

 

Even this moment….

Sleep, when you are tired.

Eat, when you are hungry.

Do, what yours to do with gratitude.

Live well and prosper.

 

When you know what your Authentic Self is calling forth, you will be energized and given the resources.

 

I trust in your willingness to say “YES”.

Betty Lue

Value what is valuable.

Focus on what you want.

Appreciate All you have.

Love Being You and Sharing your Love.

Betty Lue · 5.24.26.Want what you Want!

Change the Channel!

You are free to choose what you want.

Take responsibility for making your own choices.

YOU CAN CHOOSE!

DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.

Affirmations:

I choose what is inspiring and good for me.

I easily change what is not healthy, happy and true.

I value what is positive and beneficial.

I quickly erase what is not my best choice.

 

Change the Channel!

 

Choose what program to watch.

Choose what voice to listen to.

Choose what music to hear.

Choose what thoughts to entertain.

 

You are the one choosing.

You can change the channel.

You can choose again.

You can turn it off.

 

What will you choose today?

What are you reading right now?

Where are you going today?

Whose advice do you take?

 

Are you listening to what inspires you?

Are you thinking what keeps you motivated?

Do you follow the angry commentator?

Do you believe the negative teacher/preacher?

 

Your mind can be filled with negativity, if you choose.

You can see and listen to the dark side if you want.

Your life can be filled with positivity, if you prefer.

You can look on the light and bright side, if you wish.

 

It really is up to you.

What do the experts say?

Do you believe in the disheartening and doomsday messages?

If that is all you hear, why not?

 

But if you dislike being depressed, choose again for what you believe.

We all have choice in what voice we believe and remember.

Every moment we have the opportunity to listen to our negative mind.

We can make the choice to have the experience we want to remember.

 

There is no right or wrong, if it is our song.

There is no need to choose, if we want to go along.

There is only what we wish were true, when we choose our good will.

Indeed, we have the opportunity to choose the channel to fit our desire.

 

Be willing to decide.

Be open to choose or change.

Be grateful for what you like.

Be happy to make it your right.

 

Loving you as you change the channel.

Betty Lue

May you be happy and well.

May you remember to be loving.

May you find peace in all you say and do.

May this day bring only Goodness to you.

Only Love prevails.

Betty Lue · 5.23.26.Change the Channel

Outer Reflects The Inner

Is it time to recognize we are choosing what we want to see?

Are you willing to see what is Good and value it?

WHAT WE SEE IS WHAT WE LOOK FOR.

EVERYTHING IS A REFLECTION.

Affirmations:

I forgive myself for all negative projections.

I am filled with light and live in delight.

My words and behavior reflect my inner peace.

I quickly release and delete all that is not Love.

 

Outer Reflections

 

What you see outside you reflects what is within.

When we try endlessly to clean up the outer, we miss the essential cause.

When we work to undo what we see and continue to believe it is real, it will always reoccur.

When we clear up our own mind, our thoughts and words and deeds, we clear up our life.

 

When we believe something or someone else is the cause, we miss the mark.

When we forget we ourselves hold the key to the mystery of our experience, we can choose to change within.

When we remember that thoughts and words create, we change our lives one word and one thought at a time.

Life experiences show us clearly what we need to undo and delete to not repeat.

 

We learn to project our errors onto others.

We make up excuses and justifications for our own mistaken choices.

We blame others for what we find lacking and limited in ourselves.

We neglect to do our own inventory and do our own work.

 

The “blame game” happens in families and couples, in workplaces and at school.

All gossip is a projection of what is an inner flaw or fixed position of judgment in ourselves.

We claim ignorance and innocence of what we experience, not recognizing it is an inner reflection.

So when we apologize with “I am sorry. Please forgive me.”, we are telling the truth on ourselves.

 

Children learn to accept parent/teacher judgments of them.

They often live out or rebel against our projections onto them.

The same is true of partners and parents and friends.

People tend to question and/or believe what others say about them.

 

This is projection.

This is bullying.

This is how gossip works.

This is what creates hurtful and disempowering relationships.

 

To clean up our thoughts and words, we need to focus on our own lives.

We need to learn to stop bullying, criticizing and judging ourselves.

We must clarify our own responsibility in our life experiences.

We can make the change from within with much more ease and success.

 

The focus on outer work, may seem endless, until we clean our own behavior.

We can learn our lessons as we watch the world around us with forgiveness and respect.

We can literally clean up all our relationships, one at a time, with true apology and appreciation.

We can choose thoughts and words and behaviors that reflect what we want to see and be.

 

When our house is clean, we be truly helpful to others.

When our lives are in order, we can be of service to others.

When our vision is clear, we can inspire others to clarify their own vision.

When we are at peace, we naturally bring peace to those around us.

 

Use forgiveness as the natural cleanser of all negative thoughts and feelings.

Use forgiveness to delete harmful words and behavior.

Use forgiveness to erase what is not wholly true and loving.

Use forgiveness to undo everything you do not want to be true.

 

Let us take responsibility to clean up our own lives first.

Blessings of gratitude as we each do our own work!

Betty Lue

Be Curious!

Be Grateful.

Choose what you really want.

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love. 

Betty Lue

Betty Lue · 5.22.26.Projection

Respond With Love!

Emotional reactions are telling us there is a need.

Listen and learn how to be helpful please.

EMOTIONS ARE A “TELL".

TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND.

Free monthly zoom workshop!

Loving Relationships.

This Sunday, May 24 at 2PM. 

Let me know and I will send a link.

Affirmations:

I forgive myself for reacting in an unkind way.

I choose to respond to all needs with loving kindness.

I treat others as I want to be treated by others.

I always receive what I give.

 

Respond with Love

How do you respond?

If you expect to change anything, respond with love.

If you want to make a difference, respond with forgiveness.

If you are trying to teach a better way, respond with what you would want.

 

Love teaches Love.

Anger increases anger.

Gratitude brings your appreciation.

Helpfulness shows how to be helpful.

 

It is true; show others what you want to be. 

If anything needs to be changed, show what you want.

It only increases the same behavior to react by copying negative behavior.

Everything unlike love, kindness and respect, is calling for love, kindness and respect.

 

On the highway, in the classroom, at home or work, unloving behavior is crying out for love.

Unconscious children and upset adults need positive attention.

They need us to listen deeply and understand the need.

Crying babies and angry adults are asking for help.

 

When you experience an unkind person of any age….first listen and ask:

Are they hungry?

Are they angry?

Are they lonely?

Are they hurting?

Are they fearful?

Are they tired?

What is the underlying need?

 

When anyone is unhappy, there is an unmet need.

When you are unkind or unloving, ask yourself, what is your need?

When our needs are unmet, we usually react with more negativity.

The same is true for all of us.

 

Learn to listen with compassion, kindness, patience and consideration.

Sometimes you can ask directly and often the other is unavailable to answer clearly.

We must know ourselves and others well enough to respond to human nature.

We can make a difference, when we respond with love and peace rather then react with fear and anger.

 

Take the time to learn and respond with your best.

Make the effort to listen and offer what is needed.

Give your best and your kindness will be received.

Notice that it gives you peace to offer peace to another.

 

Read Languages of Love and Fear and learn how everyone needs us to care.

Betty Lue

 

 5 Languages of Fear or 5 Calls for Love

An intuitive look at some possible explanations for unacceptable behavior. According to A Course in Miracles, everything is either a gift of love or a call for love. The 5 Languages of Love (Dr. Gary Chapman) teach us more about how to effectively give and receive the gifts of love, but what about responding to the calls for love? The answer is always to “give love”, but that is only possible after we have stopped reacting to the call as a personal attack. The first step is awareness.  

Awareness with love is healing. 

When people are in fear or pain (and needing love), they are not always sensitive, aware, articulate, considerate or even caring. They will either see you as the cause of their current dilemma or just a handy (loving) person they can strike out at so they won’t be alone in their misery. They will either deprive you of what they know you value most or what they, themselves, value most.

Here are 5 possible disguises of the call for love.

1.    The Put-Down—This includes complaining, anger, blame, guilt, insults, destructive words. If Words of Affirmation are a primary love language for you, hearing someone else’s pain directed at you can be especially hurtful.

2.    The Cold Shoulder—This includes being pre-occupied, too busy, multi-tasking, distracted, walking away, ignoring, threatening to leave or end the relationship, shutting you out. If Quality Time is a primary love language for you, being left alone or abandoned can be devastating.

3.    The Take-Away—This includes taking or breaking things, stealing, constantly saying “We can’t afford it”, not giving or sharing, being selfish. If Receiving Gifts is a primary love language for you, being deprived will be hurtful way out of proportion to the value of the actual gift itself.

4.    The Complication—This includes forgetting to do things, being too busy to help out, refusing to help out, being destructive, making messes, causing problems, adding complications and making more work. If Acts of Service are a primary love language for you, the burden of having to do more or do it all yourself leaves you feeling hurt and resentful.

5.    The Hurt—This includes hitting, hurting, outside affairs and cheating, withholding/denying touch and affection, and all acts of physical violence. If Physical Touch is a primary love language for you, either destructive touching or touch deprivation can cause you to emotionally wither and want to withdraw from the world.

Keys to responding with love:

1.    Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. It’s about them. If you take it personally, they may think it actually is about you and fail to (eventually) take responsibility for their condition. 

2.    Take care of yourself. You may need to actually remove yourself from the situation in order to stop getting hurt and to get clear. If you let them hurt you, you create either conscious or unconscious guilt on their part, which will cause them to either attack more vigorously or withdraw completely.

3.    Listen within for guidance. Once you can bring yourself to peace and neutrality, listen to your heart about how to respond. This is clearly a call for love. What does the other person actually need or want? What will be the most helpful and the most easily received by them. Sometimes love and forgiveness is best expressed in person and sometimes it is more effective from a distance. Do you need to speak, write, think, pray, act?

4.    Do what you hear and trust it is good. Get on with your life and keep loving yourself so you can continue to love others.

Robert Waldon, Feb. 2012

Betty Lue · 5.21.26.Respond with Love