Healing Relationships

When I decide to give only Love, I experience what I give.

When I choose to forgive what is not Loving, I feel safe.

GIVING IS RECEIVING.

ALL I GIVE IS GIVEN TO MYSELF.

Affirmations:

When I am healed, I am not healed alone.

My forgiveness sets me and others free to be healthy.

I choose love to bring happiness and inner peace.

Love invites miracles of loving kindness to all.

 

Are Your Relationships Healthy?

 

What is missing?

Where are you incomplete?

What grievances do you carry?

Can you bring peace to your relationships?

 

Where we hold fear, we are incomplete.

When we try to avoid, we have fear.

What we hide, we are not comfortable with.

When we deny our love, we are withholding from ourselves.

 

What is there to do?

Love, simply Love.

Forgive the past and love again.

Judge no one, for we fear our own judgment.

 

Peace in our relationships requires that we do not judge.

In truth, we cannot judge, because we do not know.

When we acknowledge that we do not really know, we can let go.

When we let go of our limiting attachments,  we relinquish our grievances.

 

What hurts is our fear.

What blinds us is our condemnation.

What suffers is withholding our love.

What upsets us is not getting our way.

 

There is a time in life, when we recognize we do not understand.

There is a need within to drop righteousness and let go.

There is a calling to trust in something greater than ourselves.

There is a place where we can find inner peace, when we simply Love.

 

Healthy relationships are forgiving.

We are all looking to find a better way.

Mistakes are our effort to learn what works.

Everyone makes mistakes, large and small.

 

When we mature and trust enough, we forgive.

We encourage children and adults to continue learning.

We help others by healing our judgments and setting them free.

We heal ourselves by letting go of our condemnation and being free.

 

Love others, as you want others to love you.

Forgive others, as you wish others would forgive you.

Give your best to others to teach them how to give to you.

Everyone is learning to have love, respect and appreciation for one another.

 

Relationships are our challenge, our gift and opportunity to heal ourselves.

Blessed be, 

Betty Lue

I am loving us all.  

It is love that prevails in all things, large and small.

Above all, let us simply remember to love. 

Betty Lue

Betty Lue · 6.5.26.Healing Relationships

Remember What Matters!

Focus on what you really want to be good.

Give your attention to the people around you.

GIVE YOUR BEST TO WHAT MATTERS.

YOUR ATTENTION MAKES THE DIFFERENCE!

Affirmations:

I remember that people matter.

I set aside interruptions and give what is important.

I trust my choice to focus on those right here and now.

I love to be focused on what really matters.

 

Remember What Matters!

 

Do You Care What Matters?

Are you paying attention to your life?

Do you make the choices?

Or does your life choose for you?

 

Do you feel obligated?

Are you duty bound?

Do you do what others tell you?

Are you distracted by temptations?

 

How much time are you on your phone?

Screen time, Facebook, scrolling?

Are you addicted to social media and staying connected?

What about your kids, your partner and your job?

 

What really matters to you?

Are you constantly on your phone?

Do you sit down and have dinner with your family?

Or is everyone focused on their phone or TV?

 

If relationships matter to you, how do you show it?

Do you have conversations with people in person?

Are you creating space in your life to be with those you love?

Do you really care about the people that matter to you?

Suggestion:

Try 24 hours without TV, phone, computer and technology.

If you cannot tolerate it, you have an addiction.

If you find you don't enjoy sharing face to face, you may have forgotten what matters.

 

Family matters.

Our partner matters.

Our children matter.

And of course, you matter.

 

How about Quiet in your home without TV or phones.

Share Love with appreciation.

Learn to listen to one another.

Play games together—board games or cards.

 

How about activities that teach fun and cooperation?

Cook, play instruments, sing, tell stories, read.

Share memories, garden, take walks.

Paint a room and create beauty.

 

I believe we all make a difference, when we give our full attention to what matters,

Blessing all of us for choosing to listen and love.

Betty Lue

First things first.

Do What is best for you.

Give Your Best to others

“Everybody can be great because everybody can serve.” 

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Betty Lue · 6.4.26.What Matters?

Respect Everyone!

Give what you want to receive and all will learn.

Receive what you are giving and you will learn.

BE RESPECTFUL AND RESPONSIBLE.

YOU ARE TEACHING BY EXAMPLE.

Affirmations:

I admire those who live their highest values.

I teach respect by respecting those of every age.

I live in a way that brings me happiness and peace.

I give what inspires more giving in us all.

 

Respect Everyone!

 

Treat everyone as you want to be treated.

If you want to be respected, treat others with respect.

If you wish people would have better manners, have good manners with everyone.

If you want children to respect you, respect  every child.

 

Children copy their parents and grandparents.

Children copy what they see on TV and media.

Children copy the way their parents treat one another.

Children copy the way they are treated by adults.

 

We all learn from those with whom we associate.

We learn by listening to others.

Children learn from those they admire at home, school and media.

We all are learning from one another.

 

If you want no swearing, stop swearing.

If you want your children to eat and sleep better, you must eat and sleep better.

If you want a quieter house or classroom, speak quietly with no shouting or yelling.

If you would like better manners, show good manners all the time.

 

People want to GET something, without giving what they want.

This will not work!

When we want something, we must GIVE it and show it to teach.

With enough kindness, safety and patience, everyone can learn.

 

Always consider how you prefer to be spoken to and appreciated.

The work it to give to others exactly what you prefer or a little better.

Everyone, people, pets and plants always respond better, when we give our best.

Our primary work to have relationships work is to consistently treat others with respect.

 

When will we adults learn that bad habits and behavior can be healed and overcome?

We all can do better by changing our own habits and behaviors.

Consider how you want to be taught, corrected, talked with and cared for.

Give to others what you would want consistently and even better.

 

Our children are our most precious investment and asset.

They are the generation who will inherit this world to heal, manage, teach, protect and create.

Listen and learn from others.

Understand them first and then seek to be understood.

 

Remember our children have not lived the same life as we have.

They have different experiences, beliefs, associations, and troubles.

We must listen deeply to understand what each individual really needs.

We are here to respond to all needs and lack of love with kindness and respect.

 

Respecting you and trusting you will respect yourself and all, too.

Betty Lue

Be Respectful.

Be Responsible.

Be Cooperative.

Create a Better World for All.

Betty Lue · 6.3.26.Respect

Stop Repeating Mistakes

Is life fun, safe and easy?

Are you feeling good about you?

Stop telling negative stories.

MISTAKES??

STOP, LEARN, CHOOSE AGAIN!

Affirmations:

I easily forgive and release what no longer has value.

I know the past no longer is here.

I clear the past and use my mind to enjoy the present.

I can easily and quickly change my mind.

 

Repeating Mistakes?

 

Thoughts create.

Words create.

And Behaviors follow.

What we hear, say and do will recreate what we don’t want.

 

When we retell the story, we remind our mind.

When we keep saying the same negatives, we are teaching ourselves.

When we share the traumas and disasters, we are predicting and preparing our future.

When we share how bad it was, we remind ourselves how bad it will be.

 

History repeats itself, because we keep repeating it in our thoughts and our words.

Where we focus our attention, we are strengthening that probability, both negative and positive.

Our words, our memories, and our stories are a form of self hypnosis or affirmation to our mind and body.

Stop re-wounding and re-creating what you don’t want to happen again.

 

We seem to think we can dilute or get rid of pain by thinking and talking about it over and over!!

 

Forgive and erase your harmful history.

When we forgive and erase the past, all that is left is the beauty of our creations.

When we recognize the past is gone, what we will remember is the Goodness.

When we undo what no longer lives in the NOW, what seemed to be is gone.

 

We must first learn what we can from any experience, and let go of the rest.

We open our minds to learning, when we stop hating, judging and fearing.

We can undo the pain and resentment, when we allow the light to shine through.

There is always the choice to make to heal or continue to hurt. (“scars into stars”)

 

Every time we revisit the wound, the wrong, the fear, we remind and rewound ourselves.

Forgiveness is the clearing away of self harm.

To free our mind to remember the Good frees us to make better choices.

To undo what no longer exists is to let the past go and be here now.

 

We often use past pain to build defenses and walls that separate us from ourselves and others.

What could you do to return to a state of natural caring and sharing and living with joy?

It is possible that the healing you seek is your choice to erase and release past mistakes.

You can use your thoughts and words to live the life you really want with ease and grace.

 

Each mistake teaches what works and what doesn't work.

Every encounter is the opportunity to learn to help and heal.

All choices are ours to remember the blessings and release the judgments.

We have the chance to change our minds and heal what needs our love.

 

Trusting us all to do the work.

Begin today to let the past be gone.

Always remembering to Love.

Betty Lue

 

Let us forgive our judgments of mistakes we make and choose again for a better way!

Betty Lue · 6.2.26.Choose Again