You Can Choose!

Who and what makes your choices?

Become an independent thinker and learn.

MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES.

BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE.

Affirmations:

I choose wisely and well.

We either succeed or we learn.

I learn from mistakes and choose again.

I am responsible for my choices.

We Can Choose

When I am conscious, I choose wisely.

When I feel safe, I choose kindness.

When I remember Love, I choose to express Love.

When I prefer a good outcome, I will choose Goodness.

If you are predicting drama, you will choose drama.

If you are criticizing and blaming, you will choose to make others wrong.

If you don't care, you will choose resentment and regret and separation.

If you are feeling sorry for yourself, you will choose self pity and neediness.

You can choose differently.

No matter what the circumstances, you can choose better for yourself.

Your attitude determines the experience you have.

With positive thoughts and feelings, you have chosen positive outcomes.

No one is a victim.

We all are volunteers.

When we victimize ourselves, we believe that externals determine our experience.

When we pre judge what will be, we will experience our believed outcome.

Volunteer for what you want to be.

Volunteer for learning and growth.

Volunteer for healing and health.

Volunteer for happiness and enjoyment.

You can always have more of what you want.

You can always be what you want to be.

You can always experience fulfillment .

Life is your canvas and learning laboratory.

Begin to practice with a better attitude.

Notice what happy people do to be happy.

Determine what you want from life and choose it daily.

Ask how you can change your mind to enjoy life more.

You are the chooser.

You are not a loser (unless you believe you are!)

You are meant to rise up with inspiration and motivation.

You are here to give your best in order to experience the best in you.

Every dream can come true, when you allow yourself to believe you can.

Every joy can be yours, when you change your picture of what will be.

Every possibility will make itself known to you, when you trust you can choose.

You are just now waking up into the reality you choose to have and  hold with Love.

I am trusting and believing in you and me to set ourselves free to be All We Can Be.

This is your life.

Choose well.

Choosing to listen, learn and love,

Betty Lue

Every Loving Reminder is a prayer of Love for all Humanity.

Thank for joining with me as you read and reflect on them.

Every affirmation you acknowledge is a prayer.

Thank you for seeing the power of Positive thought.

Every time you trust with affirming thoughts, you are sending your prayer.

Thank you for believing! 

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Relationship Healing

Healing relationships depends entirely on healing yourself.

Remember to love, trust, respect and appreciate You.

LOVE YOURSELF WELL.

THEN YOU CAN LOVE OTHERS WELL.

Affirmations:

I am here to love and heal what needs love.

I am responsible for the quality of my relationships.

I begin with treating myself with respect, trust, appreciation and love.

I want my relationships to be good, and so I treat them all with respect.

Heal Your Relationships! 

You will heal your relationships by healing yourself.

All upsets are a wakeup call.

Everything that is not right for you is calling you to look at yourself for healing.

When you are at peace, you know when others are not OK, they are asking for your help.

When I am not at peace with myself, it will show with others.

When I am unhappy, I will project it on others.

When I am disrespectful with me, I will disrespect others.

What is upsetting in me, I tend to project and perceive in others.

We project our healing needs onto others.

We give advice to others that we need to hear.

We blame others for what we have guilt about.

We seem to look for outside cause, rather than heal what is hurting within us.

When you complain, see what you can do within yourself to stop complaining.

When you are angry, consider what you can do to stop trying to hurt and blame others. 

When you are needy, ask yourself how you can fill your own needs.

When we depend on others to take care of us, we will have disappointing results.

When people love us, they can and will do it well when they are loving themselves well.

When people are feeling hurt, scared, upset, lonely, angry, they will have difficulty in loving anyone well.

It is essential that we learn to take responsibility for our needs and ask for help from those who are able.

We must learn to discern who is able and willing to be truly helpful for themselves and others.

We may find that unconditionally loving and giving people are rare in our experience.

We may see that we need to become unconditionally loving for others who are in need.

We may even feel drained by needy people, especially when we have ignored our own needs. 

It is essential that we forgive ourselves for not appreciating, loving and caring well for ourselves.

What will it take for you to be responsible for our own needs?

What do you need to create partnerships, families and friendships that are healing and healthy?

What can you do to start everyday tuning into what you need and fulfilling that need first?

How do you love yourself everyday in every way you are aware?

When you awaken, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to fulfill myself today?”

“What will make me feel happy and valuable today?”

“How can I give myself what is good for me?”

At the end of the day, give yourself a list of “gratitudes” and own them as your loving responsibility.

You have created your life as it is.

You can change your relationships, communication, thinking and emotions.

You can stop judging, blaming and feeling guilty.

You can let go of past errors and begin again today in the healthy and positive way.

You can, because you want to heal your relationships with yourself and with others.

I trust you and me to always look for the best ways to heal ourselves and others.

I give my best because you deserve it and so do I.

Betty Lue

Everyday in every way Do what is right and Good for you.

What is best for you is best for others.

Live your best and Good will follow.

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Interdependence

Is it time to free yourself from dependence on others?

Are you ready to be truly responsible for your life?

My Declaration of Independence:  

All people are created equal by our Creator with the birthright to live with free will, creating happiness for ourselves, within a world that values these rights.  Let us each Live our own personal Declaration of Independence!🎆

YOU ARE FREE TO CHOOSE.

LEARN FROM YOUR CHOICES.

Affirmations:

Love is Freedom.

I free you to be you.

Love is Trust.

I trust you to freely be who you are.

Interdependence

Dependence > Independence > Interdependence

Basic human needs are survival, safety, love/belonging, achievement and self actualization.

Dependence

We are a species born to be dependent on our parents, elders and teachers.

To survive we learn from observing and listening.

We listen and follow instruction and learn through trial and error.

We learn to adapt to a variety of people who may teach us differently.

We seek approval and learn to please to get what we need and want.

When we discern what is valued by each adult/teacher/leader, we can accommodate.

We are valued for our obedience and our dependence, as we grow in self sufficiency.

In the beginning of our lives dependence can be fostered, ignored or discouraged by care givers.

Independence

When our ego is fed, we grow strong in confidence, assertiveness and decision-making.

Usually in the stage of adolescence or emancipation, we begin to assert our independence.

We choose alternative facts, experiences and creative competition to succeed in being best or right.

Our independence fosters creative problem-solving, innovation, and making decisions independently.

Independence is where we learn to take responsibility for successes and failures.

We learn to persist even when there are challenges, resistance and difficulties.

In the independent phase we learn to benefit rather than blame and to grow in courage.

The desire of independent adults is to “do it ourselves” without interference from authorities.

Interdependence

When we have mastered the basic human needs (above), we may return to seek interdependence.

In families, businesses, organizations, we seek to interact with others in a respectful and responsible way.

Our desire to cooperate encourages mutual benefit to all parties for win-win outcomes.

With an attitude based on the principles of being fair, caring and sharing, everyone benefits.

When everyone helps everyone succeed with no winners and losers, all persons become more conscious.

With mindfulness and consciousness following universal principles, everyone grows in understanding.

“Two become more than two” and ”One for All and All for One” is understood and actualized.

The experience of  interdependence is unavailable until individual independence is achieved.

Consider where you are on your path to fulfillment and creative consciousness.

Consider what steps you need to take to be fully and freely independent.

Consider what individual basic needs you are called to fulfill first.

Understand where others are around you, as you allow their personal journey.

There is freedom and trust, as we learn to accept ourselves in our own journey.

There is respect and allowance for others, as we let go of judgment and comparison.

There is creativity and diverse opportunities, as we allow ourselves to dream and vision.

There is enthusiasm and gratitude, as we step out in faith with daring and certainty.

Life is Good, wherever we are in our own journey.

Loving, Trusting and Freeing us All.

Betty Lue

Love Is Trust and Freedom

¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.

LOVE IS FREEDOM
The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
 
LOVE IS TRUST
The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
 
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are. 

Betty Lue 1978

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