Listen and Learn

When you don’t know, learn to listen.

When you don’t understand, be curious.

WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND,

BECAUSE WE DO NOT KNOW.

Affirmations:

I am here to listen and learn.

I cannot know what is not mine.

I am open and willing to understand.

I choose to listen without judgment.

 

Do We Really Know?

 

We must make no assumptions.

We must listen deeper than the words.

We must want to hear.

We must not judge.

We must be a safe place.

We must care about the other.

 

Everyone needs a safe place.

Our children need us to listen to what they really need.

Our elders need us to hear what they really fear.

Our partners need us to listen before we tell them.

 

Without really listening, we only can guess.

Without really caring, we want them to care about us.

Without taking time, we usually project our feelings onto them.

Without really wanting to be helpful, we often give advice.

 

Most just want to be heard with respect.

Most want us to care about them.

Many want to hear themselves talk.

Some may want to learn something.

 

Do you hear others asking: Do you really care?

Do you realize their stories are to get us to love them?

D you understand when people talk they are trying to get clear?

Do you realize self-harming is really asking for self-soothing?

 

I prefer to give advice or opinions, only when asked.

I usually offer a confidential place with no interruption for a specified time.

I must clear my own preferences, and be focused totally on the other.

I seek to be fully present with an open mind and loving acceptance.

 

When I respond to another’s need, I must listen between the lines.

When I share my response, it must be with respect for the other’s viewpoint.

When I counsel or coach, I ask permission to share my thoughts and feelings.

When I am listening to someone who has asked for help, I care without judgment.

 

Everyone’s motivations and intentions and perspectives are theirs alone.

To understand, I must allow myself to let go of my attachments and see things differently.

When I am judging, comparing or trying to get them to change, I lose my ability to understand.

To know anything, I must allow myself to hear you and know you and love you.

 

My healing work is to listen and learn what you are really feeling and saying to me.

Ask yourself: What is yours to do in order to know and understand anyone?

Always wanting to love, heal and believe in you,

Betty Lue

Life is for caring and sharing. 

When we care, we feel Alive  with Love.

When we share, we feel Good and True.

We are connected, when we Love..

Betty Lue · 5.12.26.Listen & Learn

Learning and Teaching

Life is for learning to choose what is good and true for you.

You are the authority from which you decide what is right.

BE AWAKE AND AWARE AND KEEP LEARNING.

CHOOSE WHAT IS RIGHT AND GOOD FOR YOU.

Affirmations:

I learn from everything and everyone what I value and do not value.

I teach what I want to remember and practice to be happy, healthy and fulfilled.

I learn from conscious creative exploration and experimentation in the life laboratory.

I teach love with wisdom, caring with helpfulness, freedom with responsibility.

 

Where Did You Learn?

 

Where did you learn who to trust?

Where did you learn how to love?

Where did you learn what to believe?

Where did you learn how to live well?

Where did you learn to be confident?

Where did you learn to be successful?

Where did you learn how to handle money?

Where did you learn how to teach others?

 

What we learned and retained is how we live.

When we do not look at the teacher of the teachings, we may learn falsely.

When we do not observe the life of the teacher, we may not understand what is being taught.

Where we take in beliefs, opinions, rules without consideration, we may be misguided.

 

It is essential to consider the origin of what we learn.

It is important to know anything can be taught.

It is valuable to recognize, there are many diverse teachings, beliefs and opinions.

It is smart to examine the origin of all that we learn.

 

Our parents and elders teach what they know to benefit the children.

Our teachers and experts teach what they know and believe to be good and true.

When the teachers (me included) teach, we must demonstrate what we know.

When we teach and share, we must continually examine the quality of our teachings.

 

Life changes in how it shows up depending on what we believe and experience.

We, both students and teachers, must observe the result of our teaching and learning.

What we teach and learn must yield beneficial and effective results to be valuable.

It is time we ask about the integrity of our teachers, parents, elders and experts.

 

When we pass on information without experimentation and confirmation, is it valuable?

If we do not verify the underlying motivation of the teacher, can we trust what is taught?

When we do not understand or see the teachings work for the teacher, can we believe it?

If we recognize there is lack of authenticity, integrity and benefit, do we continue?

 

Consider the Source of your Learning.

Seek to learn from those who live well.

Listen to their ideas, words and how they live.

Be grateful for those who teach you with integrity and sincere intention.

 

Love to learn and you will learn what is well for you.

Betty Lue

 

“Give yourself to Love.

And Love will give to you.

Live your life with Trust.

And Trust will see you through.”

Betty Lue · 5.11.26.Learning

Blessed Mother's Day

Remember Everyone Who Loves and Enjoys Loving.

Be grateful for those who showed you Love.

LOVE FOR THE JOY OF LOVING!

CELEBRATE LOVE GIVEN AND RECEIVED.

Affirmations:

I am remembering Love for the sake of loving.

We, who Love, trust and free others to learn and grow in their own way.

We, who nurture, demonstrate our Love, so that others may Love themselves.

We, who mother, remember the sacred sharing and caring in every way that is truly loving.

 

Love, Simply Love.

 

Remember the Mothers and Grandmothers.

Remember the nurturers and those who have nourished your body and Spirit.

Remember the ones who have loved you over all your years.

Remember the ones who have taught you and learned from you.

Remember those who care and those who share with you.

Remember the time and resources that have been given to help you.

Remember the ones who have been unnoticed and forgotten.

Say their names and know their hearts receive your love.

 

Often those who have mothered you have been anonymous.

Often those who are your “real” mothers did not birth you.

Often those who have fed you and cared for you are behind the scenes.

Often those who have consistently loved you are not your biological “mothers” at all.

 

Remember the ones who have mentored you.

Remember the ones who have taken care of you in infancy and childhood.

Remember the ones who are gone from this earth who are loving you still.

Remember the ones who have listened and laughed and believed in you.

 

So many many folks have loved us well.

Each one may be in our minds today.

Give them a call of gratitude and love.

Reach out and remember them all.

 

Saying their names will inspire you.

Smiling in their remembrance will touch them.

Giving them a moment of your kind appreciation will fill them up.

Touch each one with your profound gratitude for how they loved you.

 

We are on this earth to remember Love.

We are here to Love one another.

We are here to enjoy the Love we give right now.

We are here to fully receive the Love that has been given to us.

 

Love sustains us.

Love protects us.

Love provides for us.

Love gives us life.

 

All who remember Love are the ones who channel Love from one to another.

We are the Love that we learned from all mothers and nurturers.

We are the Love that is imprinted and inherited and is shared with others.

Allow today to be lived in gratitude for what continues to love and nurture through us even now.

 

“Give Love and let it show.

Give Love and let it grow.

Give Love and your will know.

Doing what comes naturally.”

  

No matter what, Remember Love.

Betty Lue

I am loving us all.  

It is love that prevails in all things, large and small.

Above all, let us simply remember to love. 

Betty Lue

Betty Lue · 5.10.26.Mother's Day Love

Love All Who Love!

Remember to appreciate all who love you.

When we value the Good, the Goodness increases.

LOVE IS HEALING & HELPFUL.

LOVE GROWS WITH OUR GRATITUDE.

Affirmations:

I love, honor and respect all those who nurture and nourish anyone anywhere.

I bless the care-givers for our children, elderly and disabled.

I appreciate all the ways I nurture and nourish my family and those around me.

I am grateful for the unconditional love and modeling of my Mother and Grandmother.

 

Nurturing and Nourishing

 

My Dad always said, “The most important job in the world is to be a mother!”

 

The primary role of Mothers is to nourish and nurture.

Whoever nurtures you can be felt offering mothering energy.

Whatever nourishes you can be received as coming from motherly Love.

When we are nurtured and nourished by a mothering presence, we are blessed.

 

Mothers often need to learn how to “mother".

When you have not been nurtured, it may be unfamiliar to “mother” others.

When you have not been well nourished as a child, you may not know how to nourish yourself and others.

Being a Mother may come naturally to some, but feel awkward and uncomfortable to others.

 

To nurture is to provide what is needed as a person grows.

Nurturing may be comfort and safety.

Nurturing can be freedom and responsibility.

Nurturing will take the form of whatever is appropriate for the beneficial development of the individual.

 

Successful Nurturing requires knowledge, skill, confidence and connection.

Nurturing at its best is conscious, committed and consistent.

Nurturing comes from a deep inner connection with inspiration, wisdom and love.

Nurturing is a gift to be given and received.

 

Nourishing is offering both inner and outer sustenance to bring growth and life energy itself.

Nourishment can be received in food, education, wisdom, communication and affirmation. 

To nourish offers a sense of fulfillment and wholeness, prosperity and peace.

When we are well nourished, we feel no lack, littleness or limitation.

 

While it may be difficult to describe, the nurturing and nourishing of  “mothering” is essential.

Mothers build self-esteem and confidence.

Mothers model self-image and reputation.

Mothers demonstrate self-care and domestic skills of cooking, cleaning and home-making.

Mothers show how to love, nurture and encourage children, partners, friends and more.

Mothers teach ways to balance all the duties of parenting, partnership, working and friendship.

Mothers teach loyalty, fidelity, authenticity, being healthy and happy. 

Mothers care for the sick, comfort the grieving, encourage the fearful and give peace to the angry.

 

A Jewish Proverb says it well.

"God could not be everywhere and so He/She made Mothers."

 

Be sure to appreciate your own mother and all those who have mothered you.

And most of all, encourage your own motherly energy.

LOVE is what Mothers are and do and give.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Every Loving Reminder is a prayer of Love for all Humanity.

Thank for joining with me as you read and reflect on them.

Every affirmation you acknowledge is a prayer.

Thank you for seeing the power of Positive thought.

Every time you trust with affirming thoughts, you are sending your prayer.

Thank you for believing! 

Betty Lue · 5.9.26.Nurturing:Nourishing