Be A Good Sport!

This is your life.

Live life well and enjoy it all.

LIVE YOUR BEST.

ENJOY THE GAME OF LIFE.

Affirmations;

I am pleased, when I give and live my best.

Life is about how we play the game.

I value the joy of playing, more than winning.

I practice my true values in all parts of my life.

 

Are You A Good Sport?

 

Do you give others credit, when credit is due?

Are you supportive of both sides, when the play is fair?

Do you remember to give gratitude for good refereeing?

Are you appreciative of everyone, who gives their best?

 

Sometimes in our competitive culture, we forget to value all who give their best.

Sometimes kids and adults are taught to win to show their worth. 

Sometimes we forget to value the good plays and honest players.

At times we may teach our kids that winning is more important than playing our best.

 

Consider how you view sports and sportsmanship.

We are teaching others, especially our kids, what matters.

Remember to talk with respect, rather than negative talk.

Value good playing, and not just the outcome.

 

Good Sports in life are honest.

Good Sports enjoy the play.

Good Sports are dependable, reliable, respect and appreciative.

Good Sports offer the best encouragement to others.

 

What kids learn from watching any competition is what they have learned to value..

What adults learn from how they respond to wins and losses is how to not give up on themselves.

What we all can learn from the way we participate is our enjoyment as well as the outcome.

We all can observe ourselves and others to see where our true values are in our life journey.

 

Ask yourself what really matters to you.

Make a note of how you are playing the game of life.

Observe where you find joy and what you learn in participating and watching sporting events.

You can observe the learning potential in all things you watch and do.

 

Do you quit too soon?

Do you play fairly?

Do you value good play? 

Do you appreciate others for doing well?

Is it all about winning?

Do you keep learning?

Are you able to enjoy whether you win or lose?

Can you see the value of simple good play?

Do you encourage those who do not perform as well?

Are you willing to stop “trash talking” and destructive behavior?

Do you take the time to celebrate all who perform at their best?

 

Consider how you can be a good sport, win, lose or draw.

Be the best person you can be in all situations.

Notice how good it feels to play, perform and live at your best.

In every situation, think, speak and act with respect and gratitude.

 

Blessings for supporting ourselves and others in living well,

Betty Lue

Four Agreements.

Make No Assumptions. 

Keep Your Agreements. 

Take Nothing Personally. 

Always Give Your Best.

By Don Miguel Ruiz

Do what allows you to feel good about You.

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Betty Lue · 6.10.26.Good Sports

What Makes Us Family?

Choose relationships that feel safe.

Find a place that feels like home.

LOVE WELCOMES ALL.

FEAR WITHHOLDS LOVE.

Affirmations:

I am here with all those who are called to be with me.

I learn and teach, give and receive, freely and openly with everyone who is willing.

I always align with the family of humanity for the highest Good of all.

I trust myself to listen within to honor what is mine to learn and do.

 

Who Is Your Family?

 

Family of Humanity?

Family of your Nationality?

Family of Birth?

Family of your Beliefs?

 

People seem to seek a place to belong.

People seek a place of safety and security.

People seek what shelters and guides them.

People seek what gives them life and provides for them.

 

Where we have connection and approval, we may call “family”.

Where we feel nurtured and nourished may be our family.

When we have protection and provision, we may call them family.

Where we feel at home may be our family

 

We may reach out for what we want.

We may give up on what seems to be unavailable.

We may seek and heal the biological family we are born to.

We may even feel indebted to the family from which we have come.

 

As we mature and clarify our own values, we often create our own “family”.

This comes from those we feel akin to.

It fits for those we encounter in life and just seem to “know”.

Family is built within our frame of reference, both in-laws and out-laws, friends and colleagues.

 

Animals may adopt family from another species, when left alone to fend for themselves.

People also may find neighbors with whom they relate and feel support.

We also may join a group of coworkers or colleagues where there is much in common.

There are communities and religious groups who join together as family.

 

Ascertain your own values and beliefs.

Live in integrity with what matters for you.

Be sincere in your own lifestyle and preferred communication.

Find trust and peace within your own realm of awareness.

 

This begins your quest for “true” family.

Seek first to be what you are.

Then share your true self with others.

This attracts those who resonate and relate.

 

Much of what is happening online these days in the search for family and community.

Everyone will use the modality that suits their needs and preferences.

People are seeking for what is right and true for them.

The more genuine you are, the more you will attract those who are aligned.

 

Whether seeking friendship, support, connection or a place to belong, be authentic in your desire.

The Universe serves us, when we are honest and true about our search.

We all have family, when we are willing to reach out in peace and openness.

Betty Lue

You are my family.

You see what we can be, 

When we’re in Love.

 

“Give yourself to Love.

And Love will give to you.

Live your life with Trust.

And Trust will see you through.”

Betty Lue · 6.9.26.Family

What Works?

Everyone is different.

Let us remember to respect our differences.

CHOOSE WHAT WORKS FOR YOU.

YOUR LIFE IS YOURS TO CHOOSE.

Affirmations:

I choose what works for win-win solutions.

What is best for me is best for you. And vice versa.

What is not easy will always offer learning.

I enjoy and learn from all differences.

 

What Works for You?

 

Friendship, parenting, marriage, colleagues and coworkers may not fit.

When things work for us, we feel safe and comfortable.

When we don’t fit, we may feel disharmony, discomfort, irritation, awkwardness and disagreements.

Personalities, attitudes and temperaments are all different.

 

Differences challenge those who are seeking matching perceptions, energies and desires.

Some like contrast from which to learn, heal and grow in tolerance, patience and trust.

Some prefer similarities which provide comfort and fun, safe and easy connection.

Whatever you notice is not working for you, you may want to criticize, fix and change.

 

As a therapist and relationship coach, I find people often argue to be right and get their way.

I occasionally find people who want to listen, learn and understand to make relationships work.

When we prefer relating with harmony and happiness, we seek to learn with open-mindedness.

Within disharmonious relationships, people avoid, fight for change or learn to accept differences.

 

Parents often try to convince their children to agree on attitudes, values and behavior.

Spouses often try to change their partner to fit with their fantasy, preference and needs.

Employers seek their employees to function with their preferred work ethics and rules.

Friends set up expectations and even manipulate to get what they want from others.

 

There are a myriad of differences and preferences among all personalities.

Preferred solitary time or active social time?

Fast moving or slow paced?

Lots of talking or lots of silence?

Spontaneous activity or planned and scheduled time?

Need for love and affection or need for service, gifts or quality time together.?

Slow in response with need for contemplation or sharing emotionally without thought?

Loud and boisterous or quiet and subtle?

 

What we do with differences determines the quality within our relationships.

When we differ and try to change the other, there will be discord and stress.

When we enjoy and learn to negotiate the differences, there can be expansion, acceptance and learning.

We may not benefit from those who are incompatible and cannot tolerate our differences.

 

Consider whether there will be benefit to you and the other in living with the differences.

Consider the level of support and encouragement there can be from extreme differences.

If what you relate to depletes your energy, perhaps it is better to remove your proximity.

If your relationship increases your energy, it may benefit and bless you and the other.

 

I love differences of thought, behavior and lifestyle, and so I learn and grow.

When relating to someone who is upset or angered by differences, it is not beneficial to them.

It is important to support them in making the change they need for their benefit.

Give yourself and others opportunity to let go and choose again for their own good.

 

Either party can modify their behavior when together, choose more time and space apart as needed. 

Everyone is free to do what they need to better learn, heal and grow to their best self.

 

Trusting us all in our conscious and considerate choices.

Betty Lue

 

“Life is for learning.

The more we learn, the more we know.

The more we know, the better our resources.

The more  resources, the more choice we have.”

The more choices, the more enjoyable life can be.”

Betty Lue · 6.8.26.What Works?