Call For Love!

Everything Not Loving…..Is A Need or Call For Love.

Learn to give what is needed without hurting or depleting yourself.

GIVE LOVE TO BRING SAFETY & PEACE.

BE WILLING TO SHOW RESPECT & KINDNESS.

Affirmations: (for you and for me.)

I forgive us all for forgetting to Love.

I forgive myself for withholding Love.

I choose to respond to lack of Love with Love.

I am open and willing to Love, no matter what.

 

Call for Love!

 

Am I willing to Love?

We are here to learn to Love, no matter what.

Everything that is unkind, crazy, mean or upsetting is a call for Love.

Yes, everything that is not Loving is a call for us to love ourselves and others.

 

Love is our natural state.

Joy and peace also are our natural state.

When we forget or neglect to love, we have learned to fear.

It is essential for our health and happiness to clear the fear and remember to Love.

 

Our mistake is when we are afraid of those who are afraid.

When we copy those who have forgotten to love, we join them.

We amplify what we fear, instead of eliminating fear with Love.

Our work is to teach love to those who have forgotten.

 

When we become afraid, we forget our function.

When we are hurt or confused, we forget our natural state.

When we join with others who are angry and resentful, we may attack, too.

Attack begets attack and fear teaches fear.

 

Our healing work is to be helpful and teach love.

Our way to help is to stop blaming and criticizing to defend ourselves.

Our healing work is to respond to the call for safety and love.

Our way to be truly helpful is to teach love by being loving.

 

Those who are afraid feel weak and defensive.

In their defensiveness they tend to attack and create more fear.

When they cause others to feel afraid, they cause more attacks.

Attack always generates more negative reactivity and more fear.

 

Look at the Power of Love.

With defenselessness, there is an absence of fear.

With defenselessness and innocence, we feel safe.

Wherever there is fear or anger, there is always a call for love.

 

Demonstrate love with your speech and your behavior.

Show love with listening and positive regard.

Give love with appreciation and generosity.

Teach love with kindness and respect.

 

People of all ages and stages of development benefit from feeling safe.

Everyone responds to loving encounters.

All individuals want to love and be loved.

There is no better way to bring peace and well being to all people than to extend love.

 

Let us all Love everyday in our own individual way,

Love, really Love.

Betty Lue

I am loving us all.  

It is love that prevails in all things, large and small.

Above all, let us simply remember to love. 

Betty Lue

Betty Lue · 5.14.26.Love Simply Love

What Is "Truth"?

Listen to learn and not to judge.

Listen with an open mind and loving heart.

BE A SAFE PLACE.

LISTEN WITH LOVE.

Affirmations:

I choose to speak the highest truth I know with peace.

I forgive myself for saying what others may not want to hear.

I let go of needing to be right or get agreement.

I trust myself to listen to others with an open mind and acceptance.

 

Telling the Truth.

 

“Sometimes telling the “truth” hurts, but then it sets you free.”

Sometimes hearing the truth hurts, but then it opens your mind.

Sometimes we try to hide from and avoid hearing the truth.

Sometimes we block the truth with judgments, excuses and rationalizations.

 

People who love each other have often learned to be “nice”.

They may have been taught to never hurt another’s feelings.

Parents and children often cover up the truth in fear of punishment.

Some folks are afraid of what will be expressed, if all the “truth" is told.

 

Looking for “why?” can lead to many made-up answers.

People perceive what they see through their own feelings.

People experience what they feel according to what they believe.

People try to withhold or coverup strong or confusing feelings.

 

It is OK to believe what you do, without needing to explain or justify.

It is OK to feel what you feel, without getting others to understand you.

It is OK to express what is your “truth”, without anyone agreeing with you.

It is OK to do what you do and then change your mind.

 

Everyone has their own version of “truth” depending on their past, beliefs and perception.

When we understand “truth” is individual, we listen and learn about others' ideas and understanding.

When we allow ourselves to accept the ideas of others, we can better accept our differences.

People hold many beliefs and many ‘truths'.

 

For better understanding and peace in our relationships, listen with open-mindedness.

Listen first to understand others, before trying to be understood.

Steven Covey says our most important life skill is learning to communicate.

“If you’re like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen? Because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference. You check what you hear against your autobiography and see how it measures up. And consequently, you decide prematurely what the other person means before he/she finishes communicating.” Steven Covey

 

Consider what you want most.  

1) Listen for the truth the other is sharing with you?  or 2) Share your Truth with the other?

 

I have discovered that what leads to the greatest connection and trust is learning to truly listen and understand.

Sometimes you can intuitively know what is being shared is deeply personal.

Sometimes you understand that they are trusting you more than any other.

Sometimes you realize respecting their sharing is the healing and the caring.

 

It is a privilege and honor to be trusted with the “truth” another shares with you.

We must learn to respect what they have entrusted us with.

No matter how we may not agree, it is essential that we welcome the gift of sharing.

Welcome the truth and it will set us free.

 

Blessings to you and me.

Betty Lue

I am loving us all.  

It is love that prevails in all things, large and small.

Above all, let us simply remember to love. 

Betty Lue

Betty Lue · 5.13.26.Truth?

Listen and Learn

When you don’t know, learn to listen.

When you don’t understand, be curious.

WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND,

BECAUSE WE DO NOT KNOW.

Affirmations:

I am here to listen and learn.

I cannot know what is not mine.

I am open and willing to understand.

I choose to listen without judgment.

 

Do We Really Know?

 

We must make no assumptions.

We must listen deeper than the words.

We must want to hear.

We must not judge.

We must be a safe place.

We must care about the other.

 

Everyone needs a safe place.

Our children need us to listen to what they really need.

Our elders need us to hear what they really fear.

Our partners need us to listen before we tell them.

 

Without really listening, we only can guess.

Without really caring, we want them to care about us.

Without taking time, we usually project our feelings onto them.

Without really wanting to be helpful, we often give advice.

 

Most just want to be heard with respect.

Most want us to care about them.

Many want to hear themselves talk.

Some may want to learn something.

 

Do you hear others asking: Do you really care?

Do you realize their stories are to get us to love them?

D you understand when people talk they are trying to get clear?

Do you realize self-harming is really asking for self-soothing?

 

I prefer to give advice or opinions, only when asked.

I usually offer a confidential place with no interruption for a specified time.

I must clear my own preferences, and be focused totally on the other.

I seek to be fully present with an open mind and loving acceptance.

 

When I respond to another’s need, I must listen between the lines.

When I share my response, it must be with respect for the other’s viewpoint.

When I counsel or coach, I ask permission to share my thoughts and feelings.

When I am listening to someone who has asked for help, I care without judgment.

 

Everyone’s motivations and intentions and perspectives are theirs alone.

To understand, I must allow myself to let go of my attachments and see things differently.

When I am judging, comparing or trying to get them to change, I lose my ability to understand.

To know anything, I must allow myself to hear you and know you and love you.

 

My healing work is to listen and learn what you are really feeling and saying to me.

Ask yourself: What is yours to do in order to know and understand anyone?

Always wanting to love, heal and believe in you,

Betty Lue

Life is for caring and sharing. 

When we care, we feel Alive  with Love.

When we share, we feel Good and True.

We are connected, when we Love..

Betty Lue · 5.12.26.Listen & Learn

Learning and Teaching

Life is for learning to choose what is good and true for you.

You are the authority from which you decide what is right.

BE AWAKE AND AWARE AND KEEP LEARNING.

CHOOSE WHAT IS RIGHT AND GOOD FOR YOU.

Affirmations:

I learn from everything and everyone what I value and do not value.

I teach what I want to remember and practice to be happy, healthy and fulfilled.

I learn from conscious creative exploration and experimentation in the life laboratory.

I teach love with wisdom, caring with helpfulness, freedom with responsibility.

 

Where Did You Learn?

 

Where did you learn who to trust?

Where did you learn how to love?

Where did you learn what to believe?

Where did you learn how to live well?

Where did you learn to be confident?

Where did you learn to be successful?

Where did you learn how to handle money?

Where did you learn how to teach others?

 

What we learned and retained is how we live.

When we do not look at the teacher of the teachings, we may learn falsely.

When we do not observe the life of the teacher, we may not understand what is being taught.

Where we take in beliefs, opinions, rules without consideration, we may be misguided.

 

It is essential to consider the origin of what we learn.

It is important to know anything can be taught.

It is valuable to recognize, there are many diverse teachings, beliefs and opinions.

It is smart to examine the origin of all that we learn.

 

Our parents and elders teach what they know to benefit the children.

Our teachers and experts teach what they know and believe to be good and true.

When the teachers (me included) teach, we must demonstrate what we know.

When we teach and share, we must continually examine the quality of our teachings.

 

Life changes in how it shows up depending on what we believe and experience.

We, both students and teachers, must observe the result of our teaching and learning.

What we teach and learn must yield beneficial and effective results to be valuable.

It is time we ask about the integrity of our teachers, parents, elders and experts.

 

When we pass on information without experimentation and confirmation, is it valuable?

If we do not verify the underlying motivation of the teacher, can we trust what is taught?

When we do not understand or see the teachings work for the teacher, can we believe it?

If we recognize there is lack of authenticity, integrity and benefit, do we continue?

 

Consider the Source of your Learning.

Seek to learn from those who live well.

Listen to their ideas, words and how they live.

Be grateful for those who teach you with integrity and sincere intention.

 

Love to learn and you will learn what is well for you.

Betty Lue

 

“Give yourself to Love.

And Love will give to you.

Live your life with Trust.

And Trust will see you through.”

Betty Lue · 5.11.26.Learning