Saturday, November 30, 2013

If You Are Lost…..

I trust my inner voice and intuition.
I let Love lead the way.
I allow all fear to disappear and I let go and listen within.
I walk in gratitude and see my way to go.

If you have gone astray, stop and be still.
If you have lost your way, stop and be still.
If you are confused, stop and be still.
If you are conflicted, stop and be still.

There is Wisdom in you that knows.
There is Love in you that cares.
There is Purpose in you that trusts. 
There is Light in you that guides.

It is time to listen within.
This is how to begin.
Stop and be silent.
Sit for a while and remember to smile.

Give yourself time to recoup.
Recalibrate where you are.
Think about where you are going.
Get a grip on your Self.

Forgive all missteps.
Drop all your regrets.
Give yourself time .. to realign.
And be still until you “know” which way to go.

Often we sit in judgment.
Sometimes we stop with fear.
We may be still with hurting.
We may cry out in despair.

Always there is Love to guide you.
Still there is Hope in the Light.
When we Forgive the darkness, 
We remember and return to the Way.

Life works when we listen within to our own inner knowing.  
You are a gift to yourself.  
Remember always to love you really well.
We all lose our way and must return on our own.

We may have guides who show up.
We may find those who encourage and remind us when we forget.  
We may have comfort in family and friends.
But most of all, we have our True Self.

Consider the using your own GPS.
Consider trusting your Higher Self.
Consider letting go of the fear you know.
Be still and listen within.

Loving us all as we travel through life,

Betty Lue

Friday, November 29, 2013

Are You Willing?

Affirmations for you:  (Write and say everyday for 20 times for 14 days until complete)
I am willing to be totally responsible for my thoughts, words and behavior.
I am willing to undo everything that is not wholly true and loving of me and others.
I am willing to do the work it takes to free myself from learned limitations and beliefs.
I am willing to step up and live the life I have with gratitude and joy, kindness and respect.

Are you willing to love yourself?
Are you willing to be happy?
Are you willing to be true to you?
Are you willing to be responsible for your life?

When we are willing to be responsible, we can change our lives.
When we are willing to be responsible, we free ourselves from limitation.
When we are willing to be responsible, we stop complaining and blaming.
When we are willing to be responsible, we enjoy doing only what is right and true.

When we are willing to be true to ourselves, we stop deceiving ourselves with false promises.
When we are willing to be true to ourselves, we dare to live what is best for us.
When we are willing to be true to ourselves, we live in integrity with our values.
When we are willing to be true to ourselves, we think, speak and behave authentically.

When we are willing to be happy, we listen inside for what inspires us and lifts our spirits.
When we are willing to be happy, we find joy in giving happiness to others.
When we are willing to be happy, we stop fighting to be right.
When we are willing to be happy, we reveal all the Joy we feel in giving and living our best.

When we are willing to love ourselves, we appreciate ourselves daily for doing our best.
When we are willing to love ourselves, we continuously forgive and delete what is negative.
When we are willing to love ourselves, we only give ourselves with what highest and best for us.
When we are willing to love ourselves, we let go of negative habits and enjoy the life we have.

What does it take to be happy and true, always loving you?
What can you do to stop the pain and suffering, complaining and blaming, denying and distracting?
Are you ready to make the changes you know you need to have the life your really want?
Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone and step up into a life of freedom and choice?

This is all an inside job.
It requires the cessation of thinking and speaking and behaving in negative hurtful ways.
It requires that you be kind to all, forgiving what they may have done or said to you.
It requires realizing everything you think and say ad do to others  is done unto you.

What you do to another, you have also done to yourself.
What you think about others, you hold against or for yourself.
What you give to another, you receive for yourself.
Whether you are consciously aware, every thought, word and action is teaching others how to treat you.

Are you willing to clean up your act?
Are you willing to give only what you want to receive?
Are you willing to stop lying to yourself and pretending?
Are you willing to say and do only what is Good for you and everyone?

I Am willing.
I am willing to love myself everyday in everyway.
I am willing to be happy and grateful for everything.
I am willing to be responsible for the whole of my life.

Loving you for your willingness and freedom of choice,

Betty Lue

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Giving Thanks

Affirmations for you: (Your whole life changes when you change your mind!)
I appreciate all I have and give. 
I love being alive, aware and enthusiastic.
I am grateful for how I love and live.
I thank everyone everywhere for being my teachers.
Life is good and getting better, everyday in every way.

On this the first day of Hanukah, “The Festival of Lights”
Remember to bring Light into this world with your gratitude and Thanksgiving!

Everyday in Every way, Give “Thanks”!
There is no better way to create everyday than with gratitude!
Thanks giving needs to be a way of life, a touchstone, a loving reminder.
When we remember to be thankful, we have even more of what we are grateful for.

So why not be grateful?
Stop complaining and start celebrating.
So much good within and around us.
So much life to live and love to give.

It only helps to be grateful.
Gratitude helps to heal.
Gratitude is good to feel.
Gratitude makes things real.

Gratitude is free to give.
Gratitude is fun to live.
Gratitude is safe to have.
Gratitude is easy to share.

Gratitude is natural to share.
Gratitude means you care.
Gratitude is our way home.
Gratitude we all can own.

What does it take to say “Thanks”?
How much time does it take to write a “thank you” email or note?
How does it lift your spirits to wake up with “Thank you for this new day.
Our “Thanksgiving” changes our outlook, our attitude and the energy we have for the day.

I see gratitude, appreciation and Thankfulness as the key to being truly successful in all things.
The habit of gratitude changes our mind which transforms our emotions and our relationships.
The choice to be grateful (rather than complain or worry) shifts our consciousness to fulfillment.
The attitude of gratitude totally lights up our lives to give and receive always and only the Best!

Giving thanks costs nothing and gives everything.
Appreciation increases everything we truly appreciate.
Being grateful warms our hearts and opens our minds.
Thanks giving is the most effective way to brighten our day.

I am so grateful for you to write to.
I give thanks I am able to share how much I care.
I simply love, love, love you whether I know you personally or not.
For you see, it is always about me loving me through loving you for all you are and do.

Thank you, 
Betty Lue

The more gratitude, the more increase.
The more gratitude, the more blessings.
The more gratitude, the more health.
The more gratitude, the more support.

The more gratitude, the more Light.
The more gratitude, the more Love.
The more gratitude, the more Joy.
The more gratitude, the more Peace.

Trust it and practice it daily.  
Keep up the good and grateful work.

It works, because you do the work!

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Loving You!

I am Love.
I deserve Love.
I give Love.
I live in Love.
Everything I think, say and do is Love.

If only you knew who you are.
If only you could believe you are always Loved.
If only you would treat yourself with Loving kindness.
If only you would allow yourself to give and receive only Love.

When you know you deserve Love, you will stop all suffering.
When you know you deserve only Love, you will choose to be happy.
When you know you deserve all Good, you will stop choosing anything bad.
When you believe you can have only Love in your life, you will receive Love everyday.

It is what we believe that we receive.
It is clearing the old that allows in the new.
It is forgiving the past that brings love that will last.
It is ingesting the best and forgiving the rest that opens the way to Love everyday.

You are the key that changes your life.
Your mind must conceive before you believe you are worthy only of Love.
You must reveal memories and emotions to heal before you can see your own destiny.
It seems so simple and yet really true, you are the key to always loving you!

When I write “Loving You” as my closure to you, I mean it truly!
I Am always and forever “Loving You”, whether you believe it or not!
I used to regret that some never “get” I am writing my truth.
But now I know you heart always knows the “truth” and I am simply your reminder.

Let us all begin today, showing everyone in every way, they are loved.
The magic that happens, the miracle some would say, is the Love you give is the Love you have.
Love cannot be given away, for it only grows in the giving.
Loving yourself is your way of reminding you to give Love everyday in every thought and word you say.

What makes the difference in me is that I see and never forget I am Love loving me and you as One.
What makes the difference is I forget and have no regret when there is what appears to be a “call for Love.”
What makes the difference is I retreat to renew and remind myself when I forget that I Am Love.
What makes the difference is I relate and appreciate always with the intention of being a Loving Reminder.

What can you do to eliminate and forgive your past, so you can see the Love that lasts within YOU?
What can you say to yourself everyday that will allow you to delight in your life?
What can you give that will inspire you to live with only love, appreciation and open-mindedness?
What can you remember that will teach you to be Love, only Love, today , tomorrow and forever?

I see You.
I know You.
I love You.
I am your Loving Reminder.
Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Let me know when you forget or are struggling and I will remind You!

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Grateful for Renewal

I quickly and easily erase all I do not value.
I live my values and maintain my integrity.
I think, speak and act on what is of hightest good for me and others.
I choose to live and love, give and receive, what inspires and guides me toward my Good.

When you are honest with yourself, you will know you create everything you see.
You will understand, you are perceiving what you want to see.
You have chosen to believe what you have been taught.
You are here to correct your own misperception and choose again what you want to see.

Yes, we can see all things flawed or all things perfect as they are.
We can create our own misery and suffering or our gratitude and joy.
We can judge our lives and be filled with regret or forgive our thoughts and be filled with appreciation.
We can look for and find whatever we seek, bad or good, hard or easy, painful or joyful.

Taking full responsibility for our thinking, beliefs and perceptions may see difficult.
Being able to respond to all things with open-mindedness and appreciation may not seem possible.
Being stuck in what others tell you and show you and lead you to believe may seem impossible to undo.
Our thoughts are ours to correct and renew. 

“Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.”
“Love makes all things new again.”
“Everything works together for the Good.”
“Let Love lead the way.”

 Is it not time to stop the insanity?
Can we not see fear does not know the way to peace and joy and Love?
Are we willing to renew our minds and change our thoughts and live a Good Life?
Let us stop clinging to the ways of the world and let all things go with forgiveness and trust!

Life is good and getting better everyday in every way.
Life offers total freedom of choice and gives us a personal experience of the outcome from our choice.
Life is our learning laboratory, classroom and playground to learn, to choose, to live as we want.
Life is ever renewing space in which we can simply awaken our minds and choose again.

Forgive the past.
Let it all go.
What is still needed will show, as needed.
Choose what you want to think and do and be today.

Give yourself time to renew your mind.
Use affirmations, positive prayer and forgiveness daily.
Open the door to so much more than you have dared to dream.
Give yourself the chance to dance and sing, love and learn in the Light.

Be willing to stop what you know is not good for you.
Do it today.
Let go of what does not serve or support you in being fully You!
Clear your mind, your archived memories and beliefs and choose again.

This is renewal.  
Fun, safe and easy.
This is your new beginning.
Today is the first day of your life.

“You have stripped off the old self with it practices and have clothed yourselves with the new self,
which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator.  Colossians 3:9-10

“I am One Self, united with my Creator, at One with every aspect of Creation, unlimited in Power and in Peace. “  ACIM  And so it is.

Betty Lue

Monday, November 25, 2013

Be Selective

I choose to remember the good, the beautiful and the holy.
I select moments to remember that delight and inspire me.
I quickly and efficiently erase all that is not good for me.
I use my mind to be kind to me and those I think of.

Selective Remembering gives you the opportunity to hold and cherish the thoughts you wish.
Selective Remembering allows you to release the memories and thoughts that do not serve you.
When you have learned, forgiven, healed and blessed the past, move on to what is next.
When you have undone, received and given the love you have, move on to love again.

People sometimes hold and hoard everything in their minds.
Garbage can be toxic to the mind, body and Spirit.
When you are holding what is dead and done, it will stink.
When you are enjoying what is alive and inspiring, it will enlighten.

Our minds are like a computer.
We can clog them with junk or fill them with joy.
We can archive everything indiscriminately or delete what is unusable.
We can fill them up with memorabilia and use them to inspire and create. 

Our minds are like a mental home in which we live everyday.
We can collect everything, even memories of pain and problems.
We can file and store every memory, highlighting the ones we select.
We can put the photos of tragedy or victory in the forefront of our mind.

We can be like detectives looking over the evidence of all experiences.
We can focus on what went wrong and why it ever happened.
We can see answers and suspects and seek to catch the culprits.
We can cogitate, analyze and go over every shred of evidence to prove our case.

When I choose what to read, watch or ponder, it is the good, the beautiful and the holy.
When I choose what to do with my time and money and energy, it is what inspires me.
When I choose what pictures to hang on the wall and photos to admire, it is the joy they bring.
When I choose how to select what I remember, I prefer what brings me the energy of Love.

We can choose what to archive and store and what to show and share.
We can choose how we want to fill our time and our mind.
We can choose to forgive and forget or the store and analyze.
We can choose to be selective in remembering the good or the bad.

Some choose to let go.
Some choose to hang on.
Some choose to forgive and release.
Some choose to regret and never forget.

We have free will to use our lives to teach and learn whatever we want to be, have and do.
We have the opportunity to live with caution or with freedom.
We can choose to play victim or live as co-creators.
We can choose to learn and bless or resist with distress.

Selective remembering is using your mind for whatever you select to remember.
Forgive, erase, delete, undo and let go when it no longer serves you so you can create anew.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Thanks for the Memories!

I appreciate all I have learned.
I value those who have taught me.
I enjoy the fruits of my good works.
I give thanks for the gift of my life.

When we appreciate our lives, we learn and grow quickly and easily.
When we regret our life, we learn slowly often with pain.
When we remember the Good, we increase the Good we have.
When we remember the bad, we increase having more calamities.

Where we place our attention, there we grow what we remember.
When we tell complaining stories, we encourage more stories to complain about. 
Life appears to happen to us, when really life happens through our thoughts, words and behavior.
When we choose to remember what blesses us, we experience more blessings.

I remember the joy and the fun.
Do you rmember the unhappy and serious stuff?
I remember all the Love I give and receive.
Do you remember all the problems and pain?

What I choose to remember, I repeat again and again.
When I retell what hurts, it just happens again.
When I forgive the hurt, I remember what I learned.
Then all past hurts, become blessings and lessons.

We can refuse to revisit the suffering and pain.
We can stop telling old stories of heartache and suffering.
We can eliminate from our archives the memories of bad stuff.
We can undo what no longer is true and never visit it again.

Forgiveness heals and erase the past.
To love oneself is to no longer harm ourselves by reviewing the old hurts.
Selective memory clears the mental/emotional material that only serves to regenerate negative emotion.
Selective remembering simply chooses to erase what has no value.

Consider the memories you want to retain.
Ask if they have value to you to review again and again.
Choose to tell stories that inspire and educate.
Ask if retelling a mistake encourages future errors and stepping into success.

We all are choosing what we want to think and feel and make real.
We each are changing our minds simply by consciously choosing what is true for us.
Dredging up the leftover past often makes it last and last.
If you want to be done, give it one last run and let go for good.

More affirmations to clear old memories:
I love you and release you to your highest good.
I appreciate learning what is good for me and let the rest go easily.
I undo what was never true for me and then I see the gift and blessings.
Thank Goodness, everything is in my own best interests to se what is right and true for me.

Love is letting go of fear.

Betty Lue

Saturday, November 23, 2013

The Right Place For You

Affirmations: (Use affirmations daily to set your mind on course!)
I am always in the right place doing the right thing for the right reason.
I learn from everyone and everything I experience.
I easily change my choices for what is best for all.
I quickly let go of doing what no longer works for me.

If you want challenge, stay in challenging places and difficult relationships.
If you want prosperity, do what prosperous people do.
If you want to learn, open your mind to learning from everyone.
If you want to be free, let go of everything that limits you.

If you want a life that works, stop doing what doesn’t work.
If you want a life of happiness, make only choices that fill you with happiness.
If you want a loving relationship, choose to relate always with love.
If you want to achieve and accomplish, work daily to achieve and accomplish everything you want.

Do you know life is not given or taken away?
Do you understand you cannot sit back and wait?
Do you realize this is your life to do what you want?
Are you willing to take full responsibility for all the choices you make?

It seems many give their life away.
It seems many lose their life by letting it go.
It seems people make the mistake of believing they are victims of luck or karma or blaming others.
It seems some act like dependent children without recognizing they are free to choose again and again.

If you don’t like what you have, step away and choose again.
If you don’t like how you are acting, stop and behave another way.
If you don’t like where you are living, move and go where you want to live.
If you cannot trust and respect those around you, seek others for whom you have respect and trust.

We are always at choice.
We can always change our experience.
We can always change our mind, attitude, thoughts and behavior.
We can always let go and let Love and Goodness lead our way.

When you really are willing to see what you have chosen, you may have regrets or judgments.
First action is to forgive, erase and release the choices that are not working for you.
Second action is to choose again for what you believe will work better for you.
Third action is to affirm, accept and be fully responsible for every choice you make.

When we are able to respond with acceptance, kindness and love to ourselves, we can easily change.
When we are judging, condemning and unkind to ourselves, we find it difficult to choose again.
Our responsibility is to find our right place and right timing, right action and right living.
Our life is an open field of possibility to choose and choose again.

When we linger in self pity or condemnation, we limit ourselves.
When we wallow in feigned complacency and laziness, we suffer.
When we neglect to take right action, we make our selves weak and sick.
When we forget to forgive and choose again, we sit in sorrow, grief and despair.

This moment is your right time to make the right choices for you to have the right life you seek.
Choose wisely for exactly what you want.
No need to settle or compromise unless you prefer something over nothing.
Life requires you make the difficult choices to have exactly what you really want.

Bless your self and your life for being the best learning/teaching opportunity you could have.

Loving your learning and mine, 
Betty Lue

Friday, November 22, 2013

Love the Differences!

I love my eccentricities and uniqueness.
I delight in the diversity in my life.
I accept and appreciate everyone as they truly are.
I am willing to allow and learn, appreciate and enjoy everyone.

We are each unique.
We all have our special part to play.
None of us are unworthy of love.
All of us deserve respect and love.

There are special people on the planet who are unique in their own way.
We are to learn from and love each special person just as they are.
Our human mistake has been to focus on the differences.
We may have been taught to judge the differences and be afraid.

When we are innocent, we are curious and unafraid.
When we learn to judge, we may avoid and have fear.
With fear often comes hate and violent thoughts, words and actions.
With attacking behaviors, we imagine counter attack and create harm.

The karma of harming another is to experience harm for ourselves.
The karma of killing the body and spirit in another is to fear it for ourselves.
The outcome is generations of hatred, violence, insanity and war.
When we forgive ourselves and others for our craziness and cruelty, we can choose again.

Parents and politicians, people of all races and religions can heal it all.
When we forgive our own insanity, we begin to see it all must be healed in everyone.
When we stop judging different colors, beliefs, history, lifestyle and choices, we can see.
When we are willing to see things differently, we notice what went wrong in us.

We can clear the fear by learning to know and Love others.
But first we must be willing to know and allow our own eccentricities.
It is in our trying to fit and be the same that we judge others must xo the same.
Perhaps our real work is to celebrate our uniqueness and find a way to appreciate it all.

Every person, place and experience is unique.
Every time in history is different from every other.
Every one interprets the same situation and words differently.
There is no singular right way for all to live and love and be.

When we allow each one see and believe what is true for them, we let go of trying to be right!
When we forgive our ignorance and the pain we cause by judging, we free others to be themselves.
When we extend peace to everyone simply because we no longer need conflict, we are at peace.
When we know erasing the past is the key to being fully present, we find the joy of being here now.

We can accept our own uniqueness, simply by not comparing or judging ourselves.
We can allow ourselves, to express, create and experience our life journey without being wrong.
We can let go of the need to figure out or fix or make others wrong, when we accept outselves.
We can be free and trust in the unique ways others learn and love and live, when we free ourselves.

We are the same, you and I.
We are learning to live, love, learn and laugh in our own way.
Appreciate and enjoy your life journey.
Have life and have it more abundantly.

Loving you in loving you, 
Betty Lue

This poem was shared with me  anonymously and I trust you will find it heart-warming.

You Are Not an Accident.

You are who you are for a reason.
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're a precious and perfect unique design,
called God's special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb,
You're just what He wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones He chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom-designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into His likeness you'd grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You've been formed by the master's rod.
You are who you are, Beloved,

Because there is a God!

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Two Voices Within You

Affirmations: ( Use these affirmations, written and spoken daily for 14 days, to set you free from limiting beliefs and fearful living.)
I trust in the Goodness within me.
I am willing to listen and follow the Voice of Love within.
I let go of fear and clear my mind to hear the Highest Good.
I release all resistance to quiet my mind and listen within.

One comes from fear.
Fear creates judgment, doubt, confusion, and defensiveness.
One comes from Love.
Love creates forgiveness, confidence, clarity and open-minded ness.

These two voices are often referred to as Ego and Spirit.
Ego is our learned self, based on fear and false beliefs and seeing a world of duality.
Spirit is our natural Self, created in Love as Love for the purpose of Loving in a world of Unity.
These are both available inside of us, useful to manage the world we see as our reality.

How do you tell what to believe?
When you are confused or conflicted, step back and be still.
When you are frightened and in doubt, be quiet and listen within to your heart.
When you feel uncertain and unsafe, stop and do nothing.
When you are judging, hating, hurting and resentful, you are guided by ego.

When you are clear and certain, appreciate your choices.
When you are confident and committed, move forward with joy.
When you are strong and secure, enjoy the good you create.
When you are forgiving, respecting, helping and kind, you are guided by Spirit.

You can listen to whichever inner voice you choose.
When you are conforming and connected with the worldly fears, you most often choose Ego.
When you are quiet and grateful, in prayer or meditation, you most often hear the voice of Spirit.
Some feel Spirit as God, master teachers, Angels, Guides, their elders, Higher Power or intuition.

You will believe and choose whatever you feel is in your best interest.
I encourage you to experiment and seek the answers and guidance that work.
When open and willing, you find with discernment that life works with Spirit.
When closed and unwilling, you find the distortions of egoic emotional reactions.

Now is your time to begin to be willing to learn from forgiveness and love.
Now is your moment to experiment with how listening to the voice of Joy works for you.
Now is your opportunity to step away from judgment and fear and get clear.
Now you can choose to listen within to the highest voice that leads to awareness and healing.

Everyone has this sacred place buried inside.
You see it in those who are innocent and trusting.
You feel it in those who are happy and confident.
You know it in you when you are alive and in love.

Believe in the Love in you.
Believe in forgiving yourself.
Believe you can have the good Life you want.
Believe you will be guided to a fun, safe and easy life.

We are here as Loving Reminders for one another.
I see and know the Love in you, because I know it in me.
Betty Lue

It is Your Choice!
EGO  (Human Personality)........................ SPIRIT (Inner Spiritual Essence)
Separate from God................................... In communion with God ( Good)
Everyone for himself ............................... We’re in this together
Guilt ...................................................... Guiltlessness
Crucifixion.............................................. Resurrection
Penalties & punishment ............................ Salvation
Pain........................................................ Joy
Complexity.............................................. Simplicity
Fear........................................................ Love
Bound .................................................... Free
Unhappy.................................................. Happy
Rejects atonement.................................... Accepts At-One-ment
Conflict................................................... Peace
Vulnerability............................................. Invulnerability
Harm ..................................................... Harmlessness
Makes own decisions for self ................... Decides with Spirit for Highest Good
Defensiveness.......................................... Defenselessness
Suspicion................................................ Trust
Control ................................................... Allowance
Blame...................................................... Responsibility
Victim..................................................... Sovereign
Judgment................................................ Forgiveness
Broken.................................................... Whole
Sinner..................................................... Sinless
Worldly .................................................. Spiritual
Believes world can offer what is wanted .... Knows only Spirit offers what is needed
Led by fear.............................................. Led by Joy
Painful learning........................................ Happy learning
At effect.................................................. At choice
Believes in a punishing God....................... Believes in a loving God and Goodness
Strives to be right..................................... Chooses to be happy
What we see is True................................. Beliefs create perception
Body and emotions lead............................. Follow the Inner Call
Our function follows form........................ Form follows function

Always translate freely those words which are not a part of your belief system.

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Relationship Reminders

I never quit on Love.
I trust, respect and Love myself.
Others trust, respect and Love me.
It is fun, safe and easy to Love everyone.
The key in healthy relationships is How much does this relationship inspire you to be your best Self?

It is natural to love everyone, no matter what.
When relationships  seem to distract, disappoint detour and stop us from loving, they need work!
When you are withholding love (trust and freedom) from anyone, there is healing work to do in you.
Love is our natural state and you are here to recognize and release all blocks to the awareness of Love.

The real questions for each person is: 
Does this relationship support me in actualizing my purpose?
Am I called to teach, to join, to heal, to forgive, to create, to serve, to help?
Will this relationship enhance or distract me from living in integrity with my truth?
Does this partnership encourage me to live my vision, be honest and responsible, and living my best?

There are few relationships that function at this high level.
All relationships are teaching and learning opportunities to discover what is most valuable.
Therefore, no relationship is a mistake, since each is a teaching/learning experience.
Only when we judge the relationship, do we need to take “make up tests” for not learning the lessons.

Here are the keys to a successful, healthy and actualizing relationship.
Evaluate your current readiness or ability to apply each of these to your current relationship. 
Decide what your purpose is in each relationship at this time.
If it is more helpful to not be together, step away, continue to “love” with no need to get anything.
Choose some form of relationship with one another that enhances the learning/teaching experience. 
Be open to learning the lessons for yourself.
What have you learned?
What do you need to learn?
What are you open and willing to learn and live?
What do you regret and are you willing to apologize?
What challenges do you need to master within yourself?
What from your past programming and patterns do you need to heal?
What is your ideal relationship/partnership and how can you be your ideal?
How can you be your best in each relationship you have, especially with yourself?

When a relationship/person brings out the worst in you, Do not blame them!
When someone seems to bring out unusual or negative behavior in you, step away and heal.
When anyone causes upset, drama, negativity, violence or fear in you, move away and choose again.
Love, respect, and trust create gentle, peaceful, positive, healing and kind feelings and behaviors.

When you think, speak or act in unloving ways:
Step away and heal yourself.
Step away and forgive your past.
Step away and seek a better way.
Step away and return to Love.

Loving you in always remembering to Love and returning to Wholeness, 
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Awake and Aware!

I am fully responsible for the quality of my life.
I easily let go of everything I use to numb or ignore what is mine to do.
I eagerly respond to whatever is needed and wanted with open-mindedness.
I no longer blame, deny or avoid my responsibilities.
I am willing to be, do and have whatever is needed to live my ideal life and have ideal relationships 

Are you numbing yourself?
Are you self medicating?
Are you shut down, depressed, ignoring or negligent?
Are you going to sleep on your life?

“Maybe if I don’t look, I won’t see what is wrong.
Maybe if I stay away, no one will bother me.
Maybe if I don’t ask, they won’t tell me what they need.
Maybe if I pretend to be distracted, asleep or out of it, I won’t feel anything.

The more I deny being responsible for my life, the more powerless I feel.
The more I blame others for my mistakes, the more I feel separate and alone.
The more I opt out of the relationships I have, the more I feel guilty for the pain I cause.
The more I pretend to not care and share, the more fear I have I will not be valued or loved.”

This may be how you think and feel at times!
This may be your cop out or opt out clause that renders you incapable, powerless and guilty.
This may be your way of coping with what you do not know how to do.
This may be a program you see others do which seems to work for them.

Now is your time to wakeup before it is too late!
Now is your chance to make the difference in your life.
Now is your opportunity to get sober and take responsibility.
Now is your moment to turn your whole life around.

Those who are aware can choose to change.
Those who are awake can do something helpful.
Those who show up and pay attention can see the truth.
Those who are Present can offer kindness, helpfulness, creativity.

Drugs and alcohol, even occasional or minimal, dull your thinking and responding.
Lulling yourself into fantasy or escapism merely puts out of mind what is yours to do.
Avoiding listening, feeling, clarifying, changing merely puts off the inevitable.
If you want your life to work for you, you need to be fully awake and aware.

Being too tired it no excuse.
Being fed up is no excuse.
Complaining is a waste of your valuable energy.
Blaming someone or something else is a cover-up.

You are responsible and able to respond in a respectful way.
You are capable of undoing what is wrong and creating what is right.
You are the one who can make the most effective positive changes in your life.
When you are clear mentally and emotionally, you can change anything for the Good.

I am here and available.
Call on me to teach, coach, counsel, inspire and enourage all your positive changes.

Believing in YOU! 
Betty Lue

Monday, November 18, 2013

What Do You Believe In?

I believe in Love! (God, Goodness, Spirit, Peace, Joy, Truth, Life)
I know all Good lies within me.
I trust in the Love and Goodness within us all.
I forgive, erase, delete and undo what blocks the light and love within me.
I easily and quickly let go of every thought that negates right perception.

What Do You Believe In?
Who Do You Trust?

What You Believe, you will Trust.
What you Trust, you will feel safe.
When you feel Safe, you will know Love.
When you believe in nothing and no one, you will not feel safe and loved and trusting.

When you trust in nothing and no one, you will live in fear.
When you live in fear, you will be defensive and use anger or hiding to keep yourself safe.
When you use anger or hiding to keep yourself safe, you will push people away and scare them.
When you push people away and scare them, you will feel alone and afraid.

Seek for something or someone to trust and believe,
Seek for Love….unconditional, endless Love.
Seek to Know and Love your authentic Self.
Seek to trust in Goodness within you and everyone.

When no one feels safe and unloved, it is difficult to be safe place for anyone.
When we judge, hate and condemn ourselves, we cannot love ourselves or others.
When we don’t know how to forgive our errors, we lose our self respect and trust.
When there is no one to remind us of the Good within, we may think, say and do destructive things.

Forgiveness is the key to erasing all the defenses and pretenses that cover the Goodness within.
Erasing the past is the way to begin to open the door to find something to believe in.
Seeing beneath the surface and listening to your heart is the place to discover the Love in you.
Being willing to seek and find, listen and answer the call for Love is essential to trust.

There is a place within you that is safe.
There is a Love within you that lasts forever.
There is a resource that will guide you to safety and peace.
There is a Voice within that leads you to a fun, safe and easy life.

Find something or someone you can believe in.
Forgive you and all those who have forgotten to Love.
Practice recognizing and clearing all obstacles, memories and beliefs that block your awareness of Love.
Realize that you are here to Love you unconditionally and believe in the Love and Goodness within you!

Loving you with what is REAL, Lasting and True.
Betty Lue

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Clean Up Your Act!

Being clean in thought, word and deed is my choice.
I forgive myself and make amends daily.
I know the life I want and I forgive everything that is not it.
I release all toxic, unhealthy and unhappy thoughts immediately.
I now clear my mind with constant forgiveness. 

This is the time for fall cleaning.
This is the time for letting go of the old ways.
This is the time for forgiveness and healing.
This is your time to clean house in your thoughts, words and behavior.

Begin today on a forgiving diet.
Begin to undo everything that no longer is true.
Begin right now to stop using profanity, hurting words and harmful behavior.
Stop it all!

Choose again for the best you know.
Choose right now to give what is Good.
Choose today and everyday to be helpful and kind.
Choose to step up and live the highest you are aware.

Just because others do it, doesn’t mean it is right or good.
Just because you don’t “feel” like it, doesn’t; mean it is safe or cool.
Just because they did something to you, doesn’t mean you should step down to their level.
Just because you see it on TV, in celebrities, politicians or parents, doesn’t mean it is Good.

Stop in the name of Love.
Stop and respect yourself.
Stop and behave in a mature way.
Stop and treat others the way you want to be treated.

We need to set the example.
We need to give our very best.
We need to stop hurting others.
We need to stop offending ourselves.

When you are at your best, you love yourself.
When you are at your worst, you demean yourself.
When you live in the highest way you know, you will be proud of yourself
When you do or say stupid and unkind things, you will feel ashamed of yourself.

Clean up your mind as you would clean you house!
1.    Clear out all clutter and toxic material.
2.    Enlighten your mind with positive, ideal and delightful thoughts.
3.    Fill your mind only with what you love and enjoy.

Think clean thoughts.
Speak clean words.
Do clean deeds.
You can make the change and your life will become everything you always wanted it to be.

Loving you endlessly,
Betty Lue
Children copy parents and teachers.
People copy authority figures.
People mimic those they admire and respect.
“If there is no one you can trust, admire or respect, who do you copy?”

Video games, cartoons, bad guys you see on TV all become the role models.
Who do you want your kids and all children to use as their example for maturity and adulthood?
The more you see, the more you want to be like those guys, tough guys and rough guys.

So let’s all clean up our act and let go of degrading, immature and ignorant language and behavior!

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Be Safe

Full Moon Sunday at 7:15 AM PDT

I choose to be a safe, trusting and respectful place for others.
I choose to give to others what I really want for myself.
I choose to treat everyone with respect, responsibility and cooperations.
I now forgive all previous unsafe choices.

Be a safe place for those you love.
Be a safe place for those you encounter.
Be a safe place for your self.
Be safe and watch fear disappear.

When we are safe, we feel loved.
When we do no harm, we feel no fear.
When we create safety for others, they feel loved.
When we think safe, feel safe, speak safe and live safe, we teach others how to be safe, too!

How am I unsafe?
When we judge or criticize, we are unsafe.
When we hurt another with words or behavior, we are not safe.
When we intentionally do to others what we would not want done to us, we are not a safe place.

Safety for many is LOVE.
Security for many is LOVE.
Belonging for many is LOVE
Accomplishing for many is LOVE.

When we in any way upset, take away or destroy another’s need for these four, we are being unsafe.
Do you cause yourself or others to feel unsafe?
Do you threaten others’ need to have you in their life?
Do you deny others the opportunity to belong with or talk with you?
Do you stop others from accomplishing, achieving, completing their projects?

Abusive or hurtful thoughts, words, and behavior create an unsafe place for people.
Threatening quitting, leaving, divorcing or simply going away feels unsafe for many people.
Stone-walling, leaving or avoiding is not safe for those who need to communicate.
Breaking, stopping, firing, quitting, interrupting another’s doings feel unsafe to many.

There are many unsafe and unloving activities that we may have learned from childhood.
When we jeopardize the basic needs of any individual, we become an unsafe place.
When we cause lack of safety, security, belonging and accomplishment, we must understand the consequences.
When unsafe, people may attack, become defensive, blame and try to threaten or hurt you.

Consider what you need to feel safe.
Give everyone the safety, security, belonging and achievement you want.
Leave those you encounter the message that you accept them as they are.
Give up on trying to change people to fit your ideal.

Be your ideal self.
Treat yourself with safe choices.
Give yourself loving associations, places, people and accomplishment.
Love yourself and others well and you will be safe.

Always remember to treat others as you want to be treated.
Practicing the Golden Rule works.
Be safe for yourself and others.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Friday, November 15, 2013

Stop Projecting. Start Accepting.

I easily let go and allow things be as they are.
I let go and allow natural healing and growth happen.
I forgive all stuckness, righteousness and accept what is.
I release all need to be right.

When we project our pain onto others, we increase our own pain.
When we imagine others to be ignorant, we add to our ignorance.
When we avoid those who are confused, we confuse ourselves.
When we resist what we judge and fear, we deny what we are here to heal.

We do not know what is real, because our emotions cloud our perception.
We cannot see what we have misperceived, because we hold mistaken thoughts.
We deny what we have created for ourselves, because we fear the guilt we feel.
We hold ourselves blameless and project our guilt onto others without realizing.

When we recognize what we have taught, we must forgive ourselves.
When we see what we have chosen, we must forgive ourselves.
When we understand what we have created, we must forgive ourselves.
The world we see is not true reality: It is our projection and misperception.

Let go and you will feel what is real.
Let go and you will see reality.
Let go and find that you are kind. 
Let go and you will live in Love.

It seems people think if they complain, something good will happen.
We simply lose energy and feel like a loser.
It seems people think if they blame someone, they will stop feeling upset.
The upset only gets worse and we feel guilty for blaming instead of helping.

We all need to learn to keep ourselves clear of negativity, laziness, disrespect and irresponsibility.
We each are responsible for taking impeccable care of our bodies, relationships, finances and commitments.
We all need to stop minding others’ business and be caretakers of our own lives.
When we are free of all mistakes and live a perfect life, perhaps then we can truly help another.

Whenever you judge, ask yourself how you judge yourself.
Whomever you judge, ask if you are perfect in that way.
Use your projections to access your own thoughts and feelings about yourself.
Be picky about your thoughts, words and behavior and you will find no time to judge others.

Loving yourself as you are is the key to accepting others.
Accepting your own need to learn is essential to accept others need to learn.
Respect and trusting yourself teaches you to respect and trust others.
When you allow your self to be, you will set all free to be themselves.

If you don’t acknowledge your self judgments, complaints, upsets and demands, you project them onto what you believe is true for others.
All criticism really is all about the critic.
All criticisms tell what the critic sees and criticizes in themselves.
To forgive all criticism and judgment is to see what is and easily change it into what you want to be and do.

Take time to learn what is yours to forgive.
Take time to see what is yours to clear up.
Take time to release past mistakes and faulty beliefs.
Take time to see things differently.
Loving you in choosing.
Betty Lue

Simple exercise:
Write down all your criticisms, beliefs and judgments about the other.
He is insincere.
He is lazy.
He is unaware.
He is easily manipulated.
Then cross off the pronoun and replace it with “I am”
You will notice what you judge in yourself, what you have judged in your past and what you try not to be.
Our projections are all our stuff.
We can then forgive our judgments.
Accept what appears to be and set it free to change.
Where we judge we get stuck.
Where we judge we want to be right.
When we judge we have difficulty in changing.

When we judge ourselves or others, our condemnation damn and dams the flow of natural change, healing and growth.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Healing What You See

I am willing to change my mind.
I am willing to undo all mistake, untruths and false perceptions.
I am open to seeing what really is.
I am willing to respond to all lack of Love with the Love I Am.

What you see is in you or you could not see it.
If you do not like what you see and hear, heal it within your self.
What we conjure up in our outer experience is an opportunity to heal.
What we project onto another is our image of what we believe is true.

Our “truth” is merely an out-picturing of what we want to see.
Begin by identifying what is within you..
Recognize its origin and heal it there.
Yes, be open and willing to believe and see it differently in the other.

When we are adept at erasing, deleting and forgiving, we can change our minds easily.
When we are willing to change our perception and projections,we will see our misperceptions.
We may hear the call for love or healing.
We may recognize how stuck we were in diagnosing or making up what we believed and saw.

Life is much more than it appears to be.
We can change and rearrange our experience easily and quickly.
We can discover a vastly different viewpoint when we are willing to love.
We can believe and see a world that is beautiful and good and transforming into only Love.

Love is trust and freedom.
Love is opening to the infinite possibilities and choices.
Love is knowing we do not know what anything is for.
Love is recognizing our projections and misperceptions.
Love is forgiving ourselves for our emotional distortion, assumptions and judgments.
Love is understanding we can never fully know or understand anyone, including ourselves.

Our motivations are unique and change over time.
Our beliefs are ours and change over time.
Our needs are unique to us and change quickly.
Our ideas, emotions, choices, focus, change easily on a whim, a change of thought.

I Do Now Know by Betty Lue 2013

I do not know that which I AM.
I do not know who you are or the part you play.
I do not know the purpose of our encounter.
I do know I AM here to allow and accept you as you are.

I do not know what I can offer you.
I do not know where our relationship will lead us.
I do not know how I am to share my Love with you.
I do know I am to share my Love and receive yours as well.

I do not know the part I am to play in your life.
I do not now know how we are to teach and learn with one another.
I do not know how our love will awaken and benefit each one of us.
I do know I Am here to awaken the Love in me and share it freely.

I do not know and I am willing to remember.
I do not know and I am open to learn.
I do not know and I am here to be share All I have.
I do know to live fully, I must dare to Love You.

Loving us all as we awaken to what we Know.
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway by Kent M. Keith

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.  
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.  
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.  
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.  
Build anyway.  

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.  
Be happy anyway.  

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.  
Do good anyway.  

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.  
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.  

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.  

It was never between you and them anyway.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

How Healing Works!

I heal myself with forgiveness today.
I erase my unloving thoughts and feelings.
I undo what is not true and see only love and the call for Love.
I am willing to stop all stinkin’ thinkin’!
My mind automatically erases everything that is not wholly loving and true.

Thoughts are learned.
Feelings follow our thoughts.
We can heal our feelings by changing our thinking.
When we believe our feelings, we may ignore the initiating thoughts.

Good thoughts generate good feelings.
Scared thoughts create fearful feelings.
Resentful thoughts make angry feelings.
Positive thoughts cause happy feelings.

We make up thoughts based on our judgments and what we have learned from the past.
The thoughts we make up may create hurtful emotions which can lead us to doing hurtful things.
First a thought, often unconscious, followed by an emotion, creates a behavior or reaction.
Observing our thinking and changing our mind will undo all painful emotions and behaviors.

When we take others; words or behavior personally, we hurt ourselves.
When we believe another’s negativity is directed at us, we may react with negativity.
When we allow the world’s events or people’s behavior to cause upset in us, we feel attacked.
When we defend, counter attack or blame others, we become a participant in the unconscious patterns.

When we get others to sympathize or dramatize with us, we reinforce our feelings.
When we scare ourselves and others with our emotions, we get stuck believing our feelings.
When others buy into the feelings we voice, we let emotion lead our choices.
When we are taught and shown that feelings rule, we may use them as our power tool.

Emotions are simply life energy put into motion by our thinking.
We can use emotion for good or for harm.
We can control our emotions and their expression, or we can let them run away with us.
When we master our thinking and emotions, our thoughts and words because an effective tool.

Fear begets fear.
Anger begets anger.
Hurt causes defensiveness.
Attack creates attack.

Forgiveness is a powerful tool to clear away ineffective and unhealthy emotions.
Forgiveness is an eraser filled with love, to be used to clear away past fear, judgment and pain.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness, because it erases unhappiness from our minds.
With no negative thoughts or feelings, we can freely choose for what brings peace and happiness.

Let us stop hurting ourselves by misinterpreting what is said and done as an attack on us.
Let us stop hurting others by refusing to hurt them back with our words and deeds.
Let us stop hurting humanity by thinking, saying and doing unkind, disrespectful and unhealthy things.
Let us stop hurting anyone or anything by forgiving past mistakes and unconsciousness.

Let us choose again to heal from within.
Let us take full responsibility to forgive and erase the errors in our mind.
Let us be willing to be the one to bring only peace and happiness into our lives.
Let us love, trust, respect and honor our own Goodness.

We can heal ourselves.
Loving us in our willingness to do the work!
Betty Lue

Healing Our Projections => Seeing Only Wholeness 

1.  We perceive what we believe.
2.  We believe what we think we are.
3.   If I believe I am my past, then I believe you are your past.
4.   Believing in my past is to see and live it over again in all I see and do and am.
5.   Believing in your past is to remember it and continue to blame you for it. 
6.  The more I feel guilty about my past, the more I place blame on you.
7.  All anger is my guilt projected onto others.
8.  To forgive my past is to release it.
9.  To release is to see it no more.
10.As I release my past, I release others from my projected guilt and self-judgment. 
11. As I see myself whole, I see wholeness in others.
12 .As I heal my guilt about past mistakes, I heal my fear of the future.
13. To be in the present is to heal (erase) the past.
14. As I live in the present and love myself as I am now, I like you in the present and see you as you are now.

15. In this present moment, there is only Love for ourselves, each other and all that is.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Love the Ones You Are With

I am a gift of healing love.
I am here to be the Presence of Love.
I respond to everything unlike Loving kindness with Love.
I teach everyone Love with every thought, word and deed.

Everyone you encounter offers a lesson, a blessing or gift.
Everyone is teaching and learning with you.
All relationships are for the purpose of healing and revealing the Good.
We learn, forgive and heal when we are willing to love everyone.

All lack of love is a call for Love.
All errors are opportunities to learn.
All negative behavior is a cry for help.
People need to heal what they reveal.

When we hold the space of safety (no judgment), people trust us.
When they feel loved, they often share their need for love.
When we interpret their negative behavior with judgment, there will be no healing.
When we recognize negativity as a call for love, we will extend forgiving kindness and understanding.

The problem in relationships seems to be taking others’ behavior, attitude or words personally.
People falsely believe when a child or adult is acting out, it is our fault instead they need help/love.
When we recognize that people dump on those they feel safe with, we can be forgiving.
When we understand that human relationships are designed to offer healing and safety.

All upsets are past similars.
Upsets come from childhood programming.
It is our wakeup call to forgive, understand, help and heal with Love. 
When we are reactive to what is happening, we unconsciously believe it is not safe and withhold love.
When we become upset, we experience lack of power or control over our inner and outer experience.

Clearing Upsets of every kind.
Every upset is a past similar.
Every upset is triggered by some ancient unhealed memory.
Every upset is revealing a wound left unattended and misunderstood.
When we do not see what is real, we cannot heal what is false.

Every fear, concern, worry, hurt, judgment, resentment, guilt has a cause in our minds.
We make up the reasons for it all, when there really is no cause other than our choice.
To perceive is to conceive and believe and receive what we have chosen unconsciously.
We see what we believe and want to see.  

To expose our miscreations and misperceptions and misinterpretations is not what the ego wants.
We must acknowledge the resistance and do it anyway to clear the emotional/physical upset.
Our lives are projections of the unfinished business of history and humanity, yours, mine and ours.
We have the freedom and responsibility to clear it all with our willingness and spiritual work.

What we believe, we will see.
What we conceive and believe, we will achieve.
What we imagine, think and speak is being created.
What we forgive, erase, release and undo we clear and complete.

The Healing Work is to calm emotional reactions and listen to the peace in your heart.
Awareness with non-judgment is healing.
First, Reveal what you want to heal.
Observe your emotional reactivity and you will see what you have imagined to be.
Observe with neutrality and you will see what you want to be.

Here is a process that works beautifully to see what needs our attention!

1) Write a page or more of:
The real reason I am upset (concerned, fearful, confused, hurting, etc) is:
Continue writing responses until you are empty inside, until there are not more.

2) Read them slowly back to yourself, crossing off whatever you know is not true.
Whatever responses are left are calling for clearing, healing, forgiving and undoing.

3) Look for common beliefs that infuse them all.
Ie. I am not enough.  Life is hard.  I am not capable or loveable.
Rewrite the script with a new affirmation of the Highest Truth.
I am overflowing with Goodness. 
Life is fun, safe and Easy. 
I am loveable and capable.

4) Write the new affirmation 20 times daily for 14 days or more, until there are no opposing thoughts.
If you have trouble finding the resisting belief or writing affirmations, email me and I will help.

You know you are clear when you no longer, judge, resent, blame, fear or get upset.
You know when you have healed the obstacle to peace, because you are at peace.
You know when you can easily take responsibility, forgive yourself and choose again.
This is the beginning of the end of emotional reactivity and the beginning of loving response ability.

Life is good and all is well.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Monday, November 11, 2013

Stop Arguing!

I forgive my need to be right.
I easily state my position once and then let go to listen.
I no longer need to make anyone feel wrong, stupid or inept.
I now respect others’ opinions and beliefs as I respect my own.

Stop Arguing!
Start Listening!

“Stop arguing and start listening!
If you don’t like what is being said, ignore it.
In one ear and out the other.

No need to fight about anything.
Whoever is conscious will not talk back.
Whoever is more responsible will simply say, 
Thank you for sharing.”

What is done is done.
What is past is past.
Let it go now.
Make respect and love last.”

I am saying this to you, because it works.
I am writing this again and again, because it is true.
I am sharing this, because your need to be right is ineffective.
I am telling all this, because arguing creates no good.

We have learned to argue to make a point, so the judge or authority can make the decision.
In everyday relationships, there is no judge or jury.
The only punishment will be a broken relationship and lack of respect.
The value of arguing to get your point across or be right, is to lose the other’s love and respect.

The reward in all relationships is to offer and experience, respect, responsibility and cooperation.
The fastest way to diminish this connection or agreement is to argue to be right or to win.
The value for arguing for the win is to let your ego vent its leftover resentment and disrespect.
The loss is to eliminate trust, mutual respect, cooperation, harmony and genuine appreciation.

For those who like to argue and fight, does the value outweigh the loss?
Does it feel good to make the other person feel bad?
Does it help to settle your relationship and bring peace to fight to be right?
Do you really want to win at the other’s expense and risk loving the relationship?

What can you do instead of fighting and arguing to win?
·     State your viewpoint or opinion one time clearly and let go.
·     Listen to the other and really hear what they are saying.
·     Acknowledge with, “Thank you for sharing.  I hear you and respect your point of view.”

Simply, let there be differences of opinion, belief, truth.
There is no harm, no loss, no problem when we refuse to fight to win.
There is always harm, loss and problem when we fight to be right.
Instead of compromising, negotiate a win/win solution, with both parties needs being met.

This works for partners in business or marriage.
This works for parents and children.
This works for all ages and our friends.
This works for governments and institutions.

The need to fight is the need to be right.
Both parties usually get hurt or lose something.
The way to forgive is to learn how to live with differences.
Find where you agree and you will see how difference disappear.

You know what I mean.
Now discipline yourself to live it
Loving you to do the right thing.
Do what works.
Betty Lue

Experiment with no arguing and allowing all differences.

See how it makes relationships more harmonious and happy.