Sunday, July 31, 2016

Get Going

I know what I want and I go for it.
I trust the choices that I make.
No one and nothing stops me from creating the life I want.
I free myself from limiting habits, beliefs, criticism and misperceptions.

Get Going to Find Balance.

A sedentary position has no momentum.
Living in the past is not Present.
Waiting for something to show up keeps you watching and waiting.
Focusing on past trauma and hard time keeps you in anxious vigilance for future pain and trauma.

It is essential to get back on the horse and ride.
Existing with fearful memories creates a life of fear.
We can only experience balance when we think with a new bold and balanced perspective.
Life is useful to teach, inspire and encourage us to be creative and strong in our choices.

The faster we get going, the faster we heal.
The more we do to move forward, the more we move on.
The more we desire a new beginning, the more easily we begin anew.
The more we love envisioning and enjoying the experience we have envisioned.

People have a learned tendency to analyze, commiserate, regret and rest before moving on.
Most do not understand how the body and mind wait for our command to get going.
Many believe that we must hold back our energy before doing what we love.
Some actually dust themselves off, get back up and go for it after struggle, stress and trauma.

It is easy to imagine how a top spinning slowly is wobbly and even stops totally.
I found through my own experimentation that I need to get up and spin to feel balanced.
I noticed that when I slowed down due to others recommendation that I felt worse.
When I do what I love with gratitude and joy, I always feel better, do better and love more.

With environmental trauma (Valley fires in Lake County), relationship trauma (divorce or death).
Many need to return to work and daily routine quickly to feel normal and happy again!
Sitting down and hanging around causes loss of inertial and momentum.
When we lolly-gag, we lose our way, our focus and our desire to do anything good.

Often those who are lazy, resting and making excuses, just stay where they are.
Have you notices that the quicksand of our minds and bodies tend to sink us for good?
Did you realize all the times we have encouraged ourselves to sit and rest didn’t get us going?
The sitters often stay sitting, while the doers keep on doing.

What can you do to get up and do for yourself?
What are you willing to contribute to others?
How can you get going and keep going?
Do you understand that motivation comes from within?

There is a mistaken belief that we heal better when we take our time.
While sometimes that is true for physical healing, most medical professionals want us up and going.
The body is meant to move and be used.
The mind heals most quickly when we see and release what is toxic and  harmful.

Forgive, erase and delete painful memories, discouraging attitudes and limiting beliefs.
Free up your inner resources to what motivates and inspired you for better living
Choose peace, happiness, contribution and creativity to  feel safe, happy and whole.

I love being active, creative, helpful and good in the life I have chosen.
Applauding you in going for the life you prefer,
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Allow Only Good

I see You and I know You and I Love You.
As I see you with Love, I see my Self.
As I know You for the Good in You, I know the Goodness in me.
As I Love You for the Love You are born to be, I Love the unlimited Love in me.

Do You Allow Good into Your Life?

Are you open to have Good, Receive Good and Give Only Good?
Are you allowing the ever present Goodness into your life?
Do you believe you are worthy of all Good and Only Good?
Do you trust that there is Good waiting for you to receive and share?

Let Go and Let Good.
Key to this reminder is to let go.
When we are living in the past, we do not have space for all Good.
When we judge and compare with what was, we cannot see and receive what IS.

The Good is all around us.
The Good is within us.
The Good is in everything we have that is valuable.
The Good is the attitude with which we perceive.

Consider that our real work is to become aware of the blocks to Goodness.
When we are aware of the blocks and release limiting beliefs and faulty thinking, we will see the Good.
When we relinquish our need to confuse, deny, object and defend, we will experience what is ours.
When we forgive ourselves and see with the eyes of Love, we can be open to receive the Good.

Life is our challenge only because we refuse to accept the Good.
Life is our school only because we remove ourselves from the teachings.
Life is our gift only because we have not unwrapped the miracles of healing and gratitude.
Life is our reflection and shows us how and where and what we see within ourselves.

It is time to return to Love, abundant, powerful and True.
It is our work to erase what is standing in our way.
It is our opportunity to receive the Good that is already given to us.
It is our choice to be open and willing to fully and freely Love Ourselves into full Self Realization.

You are what you think of You.
You are the Love your have for your Self.
You are the gifts you have received from your Self.
You are the wisdom and provision you share with your Self

Be willing to allow all Good and only Good.
Goodness and Mercy are your birthright.
The only real work is to clear the blocks to Self denial.
Begin to lift the veil and see what is Really Yours.

Loving the Good in You, as You and for Goodness Sake.
Betty Lue

Friday, July 29, 2016


I forgive myself for interfering with anyone’s right to choose.
My Love sets us all free to choose with freedom and trust.
I learn from everyone and teach the highest and best I know.
I listen within and honor Unconditional Love, Heartfelt Service and Remembering the Good in All.

Let Us Appreciate!

Stop criticizing.
Criticism interferes.
Complaining is draining.
Judging blocks the flow of creativity.

Appreciation opens and expands.
Gratitude fulfills.
Love heals and reveals.
Valuing makes all things better.

Politics is meant to give everyone a voice.
Voting is always about your personal choice.
Choosing what is right and good for you is good for all.
Coming together united for the highest Good dissolves the need to fight.

We all have a right to be heard.
When we listen to one another, there is no need to fight.
When child and parent disagree, it is respectful to listen fully.
When partners are not on the same page, it is essential to read the other’s page.

I listen and I am clear.
I listen for what rings true for me.
I listen for integrity in you and in me.
I relinquish the need to be critical, belligerent or demanding.

I trust in the end what is for the highest Good will be the outcome.
Everyone will learn and awaken to what  benefits all.
We are here to be helpful to one another.
We can join to learn and teach, listen and respond for the greater Good.

I listen for the call for help, education. inspiration and for love.
I listen for what represents the inner principles of each person.
I listen for where there is sincerity and simple inner truth.
I listen so I can always respond for each individuals highest calling.

Not only in politics is it necessary to voice your choice.
It is essential in employment, with customers, therapists, doctors, teacher, parents and partners.
Together we make a difference, because we learn from one another.
Everyone can benefit by knowing more, being open and willing to more.

Let us commit to walking in the others’ shoes and listening for their fears, tears and joy.
Let us agree to disagree when what we see is different.
Let us join in respect, ability to respond freely and cooperating for a higher Good.
We are called to be united in our choice to honor our differences and live in peace and unity.

I love, trust, respect and appreciate our differences.
Betty Lue

What can you do to heal the fear in yourself, in your community and in the world?
Fear contracts.                        Love expands.
Fear withholds.                       Love shares.
Fear defends.                          Love is open.
Fear judges.                            Love appreciates.
Fear condemns.                      Love forgives.
Fear separates.                        Love joins.
Fear acts out.                          Love responds.
Fear withdraws.                      Love reaches out.
Fear shuts down.                    Love opens up.
Fear argues.                            Love listens.                 
Fear excludes.                         Love includes.
Fear worries.                          Love blesses.
Fear justifies.                          Love trusts.         
Fear is stingy.                         Love is generous.
Fear is pushy.                         Love is patient.     
Fear can be cruel.                   Love is kind.        
Fear is suspicious.                  Love trusts.
Fear demands.                        Love guides.        
Fear cowers.                            Love is courageous.
Fear takes care of  its own.      Love is helpful to all.
Fear distorts our thinking.        Love sees clearly. 
Fear speaks of wrongs.            Love speaks of value.

Often fear makes us sick at heart and sick in body.
Often fear shuts down our ability to think, feel and act for Good.
Often fear limits our healthy appropriate responses.

Each of us is called to manage, forgive, heal and release the fear in our lives.
What can you do to handle your fear and to help others with theirs?

Betty Lue Lieber, Ph.D.  Creative Solutions
3496 Buskirk Ave, Suite 103, Pleasant Hill, CA 94523  800-919-2392

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Dependency and Co-Dependency

My love sets me free to love without end.
I love and share this love as a natural gift of my being.
Love is my natural state.
We are born in Love as Love for the holy purpose of Loving.
 Dependent and/or Co-Dependent

Do you need to be needed?
Do you need someone to love you and care for you?
Are you dependent on people, places or things?
Are you aware of how vulnerable or insecure you feel?

What can you do to rely on you?
How can you turn your life into a secure way of living?
Do you have a schedule, routine or something to rely on?
Are you willing to take responsibility for the quality of your life?

Whenever we feel dependent on someone or something, we will feel vulnerable.
To depend on the reliability of others will open the way for insecurity.
Those who learn to manage their own lives have less fear, anxiety and dependency needs.
Consider what or who you can trust no matter what.

Is it helpful to yourself and others to be needy?
Are you here to become your own person or to let someone else guide you?
Do you need to be loved by another or can you actually love yourself?
Do you need someone to need you to be worthy of being loved?

Often you may rely on the advice of others.
You may need others to care for you.
People depend on another or the government for finances.
You may have learned to lean on another and stay dependent.

Consider whether you want someone to depend on you.
Do you encourage others’ addictions or dependency?
Are you aware of how you want to control people who need you?
Some depend on others to be dependent on you

Help your children to become independent and grow up.
Help partners to develop their own gifts and talents.
With independence come strength, courage, and consciousness.
Learn to be independent to feel Self confidence and self respect..

You can be attached to another and want to keep them dependent on you.
You can need to feel better about yourself by taking care of others.
You can be addicted to the feeling of being needed.
You can choose again to set yourself and others free to learn from life.

Dependent love is usually restrictive and limiting.
Conditional love is based on what others do or don’t do.
Independent love is trusting and freeing.
Unconditional love has no limits or requirements and simply loves for the sake of loving.

I am loving you with the Joy of my Being.
Betty Lue

Keys to Unconditional Love

Always give your best.
Demonstrate your love (with positive words, affection, undivided time, gifts, service)
Listen and learn what is most respected and helpful.
Observe what is received with gratitude.
Step away when you are not your best and renew yourself.
Give only with gratitude and joy (no sacrifice or self denial)
Trust others are giving their best.
Always inspired the best in others.
Believe and see the Love within.
Trust each one is learning how best to love.
Free yourself and others to love unconditionally.
Forgive all mistakes or withholds.
Learn to love them anyway. 

Wednesday, July 27, 2016


I am fully and totally responsible for being my best Self.
I am delighted to learn better ways to live, love, give and be happy.
I trust myself to take impeccable care of me.
I value all I am, have, do and give.

Essential Responsibility

You will love yourself when you are responsible.
You will respect yourself when you are responsible.
You will trust yourself when you are responsible.
You will believe in yourself when you are responsible.

Most people do not want or accept responsibility for their lives.
Many people have never known what it means to be responsible.
Often people have no role models for honest responsibility.
Kids and adults are not shown the freedom and joy of being responsible.

Are you responsible?
Do you lean on someone else to make you feel good?
Do you rely on someone else to keep you healthy and happy?
Are you aware of the areas of dependency in your life?
Can you imagine taking 100% care of your safety and well-being?

Do you plan, purchase and prepare your own meals?
Are you the one who makes your own best and cleans up your room?
Do you manage your money, savings, expenditures, budget and earning?
Are you able to take care of your home, clothing, organization and affairs?

When we are responsible for ourselves, we feel capable and confident.
When we are managing our daily scheduling of time and activities, we feel secure.
When we communicate with respect and gratitude with others, we feel at peace.
When we clear up mistakes and misunderstandings, we feet satisfied.

When we say what we mean and do what we say, we are living in integrity.
When we eat well and sleep well and treat others well, we are being responsible.
When we drop addictive behavior and have real pleasure in creativity and contribution, we feel worthy.
When we heal and clear past conscious and unconscious errors and incompletions, we feel whole.

Be responsible for yourself.
Take impeccable care of yourself and all your affairs.
Appreciate the ways you create goodness and wholeness.
Honor the beauty you express with your thoughts, words and deeds.

If you have not learned to be wholly responsible, begin now to learn.
Start with the basics.
Relinquish dependency on others to do for you.
When you are living in harmony, you will keep your whole life in order.

Basics of being responsible.
Make your own bed and keep your room clean.
Plan and prepare healthy meals daily for yourself and your family.
Take out the garbage in your life daily. (Release criticism, pain, negative thoughts and emotions, too.)
Handle all your earning, contributions, expenditures, savings and taxes responsibly.
Treat your communications with respect and respond quickly with a generosity of spirit.
Be willing to apologize and correct all mistakes quickly and easily.
Take responsibility without guilt or blame for your problems and emotional distress.
Be generous with your giving and receive compliments with grace.

You are on your way to learning the art of being responsible and feeling trust and freedom.

Appreciating us all in growing into responsible, contributing, capable adults.
Betty Lue

Responsibilities for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child (see below)
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?

Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be courteous and helpful.
Give your best, no matter what others do.
Make no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.

Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.

Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use “please” and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t pretend you know, when you don’t know.

Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop excessive spending and Save your money.
Be respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No swearing or name-calling.
Never abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean home.

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Let Us Inspire Our Youth

I value all children and their natural gifts to the adults in their world.’
I listen and encourage the very best in everyone.
I trust and free each individual to give and receive their best.
I respect the rights, responsibility and contribution of children.

See their utube videos and our summer camp schedule below!
Go to LovingReminders website to see the amazing utube videos that the grandkids created.

Love and Inspire Children and Young People

Youth are our investment for the future.
Young people deserve our best.
Infants, Toddlers School children and teens can all be inspired.
With our conscious focus and giving our best, we enable our kids to contribute Greatness to our world.

This summer we are spending six weeks with grandchildren and their friends.
We are aware that expanding their experiences is key to expanding their minds.
We understand that the basics are essential, but even more is the love we share.
We the caring and conscientious adults need to take the time and energy to care.

Our usual summer schedule with the kids is noted below.
One of our bedrooms has two bunk beds and a single bed for sleeping and quiet time.
The children know this house is quiet, respectful and orderly and so they abide with that energy.
The fun they have is creative, interactive, learning and sharing with one another.

We learn from them and they learn from us with easy questions and sharing.
We share our visions for their futures and offer them expanded ideas.
We create projects and opportunities for travel and adventures.
Each of us participates in games, crafts, helping and enjoying encouragement and fun.

Grandpa Robert used a Mind Movies Ap to help the two girls 10 and 11 to create their own.
You can see the amazing creations with choices of pictures, music and affirmations.
They are being given the opportunity to remind themselves of how great they are.
Our children kids need to be supported and encouraged to love themselves even more.

Ask yourself what you can do to invite and encourage the kids you encounter to feel important.
Look for opportunities to help, contribute, turor and listen to children.
Respect what children say and do without comparison or criticism.
Give the youth in your community and schools every opportunity to succeed and feel good about themselves.

Do what you can to care, share, contribute and appreciate their Presence in your life.
You can make a significant difference for now and future generations.
You can be the example and role model for how to have a happy and successful life.
You can show our kids how to live with respect, responsibility and cooperation.

Thank you for caring.
Betty Lue

Lila—Save The Herd

Lila Reminders

Maegan—Save The Endangered Animals

Maegan Reminders
Grandparent’s Camp Schedule:
 We have many grandkids and their friends during the summer for our Grandparent’s Camp.

7AM Waking naturally
Wake up with a cartoon or gentle TV for 15-20 minutes.
Get dressed and breakfast, hair and teeth.
7:45AM Off to the Owens Horse Ranch with a lunch and snack
8 AM -1PM Ranch activities and riding, creek and trails and arena,
1:15-1:30 Home with snack or lunch to satisfy hunger and thirst.
Afternoon Reading, games, crafts, resting, writing and making affirmation movies. Discussion and learning.
Grandma and Grandpa take a 20-30 minute power nap mid afternoon.
6-7PM  Dinner with sharing and sometimes inspiring conversation and clean up,
7-9PM Movie or games chosen by the kids.
9PM Reading in bed for 10 minutes and lights out.

Showers as wanted.
Laundry done every night.
Kids requests for meals honored.

We live by the following simple rules for us all
1)No roughhousing, fighting or yelling by parents or kids in home.
(They can go outside if they want these activities)
2) Do no harm to self, others or things.
3) Respect your elders.

We never experience tears or anger or any disrespectul behavior.
Everyone uses respectful words, “please” and “thanks”.
People are helpful to one another No acting out.
Toys, games and crafts are all put away before meals and bedtime.
We don’t need to remind them!

This is a quiet orderly home where everyone is respectful and helpful to one another.
Usually I work 8-12 noon and 3-7 PM and Grandpa does the driving and errands.
We share meals, preparing lunches and snacks for camp.
Grandpa shops for groceries and I do the laundry and cleanup.
We all participate and enjoy our time together.