Tuesday, May 31, 2011

What Are You Choosing?

Observe your thoughts.
Listen to your words.
Watch you actions.
Feel what you feel.

When your feelings are peaceful and happy, you are choosing the best for you and all.
When your actions create peace and happiness for others, you are on purpose.
When your words intend healing, helpful and kind, you are living the high way.
When your thoughts, dreams and imaginings are creating more goodness and Love, Good for YOU!

We are each choosing everything we think and do and say.
We each choose to listen to our fear-based self or our Love-based Self.
We each are living an unconscious, self-centered life of defensiveness or a conscious life of forgiveness and healing for ourselves and those we encounter.
We each must choose what we want to be the outcome to be for our thoughts, words and action.

When we have a positive intention, we work to create only positive outcomes.
We do not quit when there are obstacles or challenges.
We continue to pursue what is Good for all, until we achieve what we have conceived.
We affirm successful outcomes (win-win) for everyone, rather than winning at another’s expense.

When we fear the outcome being negative, we defend and attack with our own projections.
When we are afraid that another will will, we tend to cover our bases without seeking cooperation.
When we defend ourselves, we attract the attack we fear.
When we come from fear, what we fear is increased with our attention.
“What we resist, persists.”

When we handle our ego’s fears, we come from a neutral place, seeking to create a healing outcome.
When we forgive our past defensiveness, we begin to see what is really being called forth.
When we realize that all fear, anger, negativity is a call for understanding, peace and forgiveness, we can choose to give what is needed to heal.
What everyone needs is the opportunity to be seen and heard, to be respected and valued.

When we are defensive, we cannot see clearly.
When we are protecting our own interests, we cannot listen with compassion.
When we are holding past experiences as our shield against feared outcomes, we cannot really hear.
When we are not giving others the opportunity to be treated with kindness, we fear they cannot as well.

What will it take to heal?
It takes only one of us to remember.
What will it take to reveal the Good?
It takes only one to remember the Good is under the hurt, the anger, the pain and the past.

You can choose…..if you are willing.
You can choose….if you are open.
You can choose….if you remember.

Let us choose for the Highest and Best for all.
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Monday, May 30, 2011

Cleaning Up!

How much space do you have in your life?
Have you made room for what you desire
Have you cleared time for you to dream?
Have you given yourself moments of silence?

It is possible that your busyness is keeping you from your Highest Calling.
It is likely that all the outer noises keep you from listening to your heart/.
It is probably that when you mind is full, there is no space for new possibilities.
It is helpful to open room in your life for the Divine Good to come to you.

When we defend ourselves against future problems, we must first imagine them.
When we are busy fixing what is wrong, we seldom stop to appreciate what is right.
When we are trying to get everything done, our to do list has a habit of growing longer.
When we are consumed with doing things perfectly, we may not realize our own perfection.

Life  is full with infinite possibilities.
Life offers challenges to learn from.
Life also presents distractions and complexities galore.
Life can be seen as a smorgasbord of choices.

Stop and listen within.
The voice for Love is calling you.
Stop and make room for your true calling.
Give yourself time to listen to your heart.

Watch and see what brings you joy and abundant energy.
Let it lead you to what inspires and fulfills your soul.
Notice what causes worry and fear and causes fatigue.
Let it all go with you with forgiveness and blessings.

Walk among the trees.
Sit at the ocean.
Watch the clouds roll by.
Listen to the wind.
Take a leisurely nap.
Simply sit and breathe.
Spend time alone doing nothing.
Listen to the birds sing and chatter.
Watch children play at the park.
Just be.

In this you will find God.
In the quiet you will hear, feel and know the Love.
With space within you and around you, you will feel the Presence.
Be willing to let go and you will know……Your calling.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Do No Harm

Think no negative limiting thoughts.
Speak no condemning or hurtful words.
Behave without harming anyone or anything.
Live as though all life matters.

When our mind is clear of fear, we see unlimited possibility and opportunity.
When our speech comes from love and gratitude, we speak with positive affirming words.
When our actions are intent upon creating relationships and experiences we want, we act with respect.
When we realize we are responsible for the life we have, we remember to do no harm.

The energy of Love lives in us and works through us.
We are restored and revitalized as we give our loving energy freely.
The creative power of our thoughts, words and deeds generates our life experiences as they are.
We are healed, inspired, enlightened and transformed as we create only Good with All we know.

To experience no harm is to imagine no harm.
To experience all Good is to give only Good.
To trust all is well is to trust ourselves to create well.
To live in Goodness and Abundance and Love is to give only Abundant Goodness and Love.

The circle of life returns only and always to us.
Energy can be neither created nor destroyed.
Energy can be used for good or for ill.
We choose with every thought and emotion how we use this life energy.

Whatever circumstance you may find yourself, health issues, relationship discord, financial instability,
Give them all to the creative power of Good within you.
Return to your creative state where you remember: “You Are Worthy of Good.”
Give Your Self to Love and Love will give to you.

First, do not harm yourself with negative or limited thinking.
Immediately forgive, erase and delete all thoughts that hurt.
Watch your speech and eliminate words that create falsely.
Erase and undo words that mis-create what you do not want.

My mind automatically erases every thought that is wholly untrue and unloving.
My words are precise and consciously create what is Pure and Perfect.
My actions communicate Love to everyone and everything.
I am a Positive and Powerful Presence as I live life with Passion and Purpose.

I seek only to think Goodness and Love, speak Goodness and Love and live as Goodness and Love.
I choose to live as a blessing in all I think and say and do.
And so it is.
I am creating this as my Truth.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Six Week Intensive Workshop Series

Pleasant Hill Reunion Center, Tuesdays  June 7-July 19 (Not 7/5), 7-9PM
Brentwood Unity Center, Wednesday Evenings July11-August 15, 7-9PM
Audio Recording available on Line (or CD) for those registering.

Successful Relationships

All relationships are for the purpose of healing.
Every relationship has teaching-learning value.
Relationships show us where we are unconscious, wounded or feeling unworthy.
Relationships offer opportunities to heal the past, create the future and enjoy the present.

“Partners, husband-wife, parent-child, employer-employee, friends, business associates or strangers meeting by chance at the store, on the highway, in the elevator, all have value.
We are here to remember how to Love and be loved, to be seen and heard and valued.
Together we recognize where we have forgotten and awaken to remember.”
Betty Lue

During our six weeks, we learn the five keys to create success in all relationships.
We practice five Power Tools to empower our relationship choices.
As we learn and experiment with what is effective, we heal our relationship with ourselves.
When we envision and achieve what we really want, we return to happiness and wholeness.

Keys to Success are Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment and Responsibility.
Power Tools are Intention, Integrity, Contribution, Co-Creation and Respect.

Join us for a lively and interactive teaching-learning and practical experience.
Enjoy the male and female perspective with both Robert and myself.
Recognize how simple and effective even one self correction can be.
Appreciate the value of creating all highly successful relationships.

Suggested Investment:

Contributions vary according to current financial circumstances of participants.
Open to all sincere participants who choose to improve their relationships.
Customary fee would  usually be $25/week/person or $300 for the 6 week series.
We trust you to give what is integrity for you to share. In return, we promise to use all we receive to continue sharing the best we have with all who come to us.

Facilitators:Betty Lue Lieber, PhD, MFT and Robert Waldon, ND PhD, life partners, married and working together as teachers of healthy relationships, effective communication, life purpose, whole life health, financial freedom and practical spirituality for 26 years.  Co-ministers of Unity Center for Inspired Living, Co-Directors for Reunion Lake House Hermitage Retreats and Reunion Ministries.

Saturday, May 28, 2011


Do you remember the real Truth?
Do you remember being truly happy?
Do you remember the experience of simply loving?
Do you remember to love those who have loved you?

Sometimes we forget.
What have you forgotten?

Sometimes we get so busy we forget the Goodness and Beauty.
What are you willing to remember?

When we remember to look for the Good in us, we find it.
When we remember to seek the Love in us, there it is.
When we remember to appreciate the Good in others, we see it.
When we remember to share the Love in us, we remind others of Love in themselves.

When we let the world’s forgetting put us to sleep, we feel lost and alone.
When we allow others’ forgetting to consume us, we feel sad and afraid.
When we believe we need others to remember for us to be Good and loving, we feel angry and guilty.
When we forget the simple truth of being awake to Love, we feel forsaken and despairing.

Are you willing to be the one to remember?
Are you open to stay awake when others sleep?
Are you willing to be the one in your family who remembers Love?
Are you willing to forgive all those who forget and love them anyway?

Yes, in a sleeping world of victimization, blame, guilt and fear, there is an apparent lack of love.
Yes, in a fearful world of violence, victimization, sickness and hunger, there is a need for Remembering.
Yes, in a conflicted world of uncertainty, disaster, divorce and betrayal, there is a need for Love.
Yes, in a complex world of distraction, temptation, addiction and resentment, there is a need for Choice.

What do you choose to do?

Choose for the Love in You.
Choose for the Good in You.
Choose to extend Peace.
Choose to be happy.
Choose to end conflict.
Choose to stop fighting.
Choose to give your best.
Choose to be respectful.
Choose to stay awake.
Choose to forgive mistakes.
Choose to keep your promises.
Choose to live with gratitude.
Choose to take care of what is yours.
Choose to share the Good you have.
Choose to remember God, the Good, the Source of all that is Good for All.
Choose wisely and  well.

Together  we are changing our world.
We are awakening humanity to the Truth of Goodness, Beauty and Love.
Thank you for remembering your healing and Holy purpose here,
Betty Lue

Friday, May 27, 2011

Peace and Happiness

Peace and Happiness are your natural state.
When we are in Love, we are happy and at peace.
When we are not happy, we have made choice that are not loving.
When we are not peaceful, we are caught in worldly judgment and conflict.

To be happy, we must find Love again for ourselves and others.
To be at peace, we must stop comparing and evaluating.
To be in Love, we must stop scaring ourselves and judging ourselves.
To forgive our mistakes is the key to finding happiness and inner peace.

To forgive is to erase the past with Love.
To forgive is to see the blessings and gifts in everything.
To forgive is to stop withholding Love, our life energy.
To forgive is to be willing to see things differently.

Everything works together for Good.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
I choose to no longer judge or condemn, so I no longer hurt myself.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness.

When we are in love, we know all is well.
When we are at peace, we extend peace to others.
When we are happy, we make others happy.
When we see things with a forgiving mind, we teach only love.

To be in Love, release all specialness and see everyone as Good.
To be happy, give up the need to criticize, blame or feel guilty.
To be at peace, release your surface thoughts and quiet your mind.
To find your place of inner rest, be still and know only Good, only God.

Peace, Happiness, Love and Health are our natural state.
Give yourself the opportunity to relinquish all attack.
Think, speak and act with Love as your Intention.
Remember that Love is Who You Are.

Our goal is Peace.
Our purpose is Happiness.
Our function is forgiveness.
When we know these as our natural states, we are in Love and expressing the Love we are.

Blessings of Peace and Joy and Love to All,
Betty Lue

Thursday, May 26, 2011


Who Do You Trust?
How much do you trust?
What do you use to decide to trust?
When someone disappoints or “betrays” your trust, how do you trust again?

If Love is trust and freedom, have you given your self to trust those you claim to Love?
Do you trust them to do the best they know in the moment?
Do you believe people do  grow at different rates?
Do you believe everyone has different values?
Do you understand that humanity is learning and growing all the time?
Do you accept that people make mistakes in order to learn?
Do you use your emotions to make others feel guilty about their choices?
Do you hurt yourself by making up stories in your mind about others trying to hurt you?
Do you take words and deeds personally, using them to hurt yourself?
Do you judge other’s behaviors as right and wrong, condemning them with your thoughts?
Do you believe your mistakes, choices others were hurt or offended by were on purpose?
Do you  imagine that human beings are cruel, mean, hurtful and unfair?

When we have forgiven all our own unloving and unkind thoughts, we can see things differently.
When we have let go of our negative and judging mind, we can begin to see what is true.
When we accept others behaviors as the best they know in the moment, we can be understanding.
When we trust we are all experimenting here and learning through our experiences, we heal.

Life is a parade of a myriad of choices to make.
Each choice is simply an opportunity to choose a new path of learning, healing and growth.
Every choice offers a chance for rebirth and renewal of life energy.
Just as an adolescent needs to emancipate from their life of dependence into adulthood, so we all need to grow in full realization of our responsibility to grow, to set ourselves free and to live from our heart.

The cultural mores are changing.
The lifestyle choices of men and women are diverse.
People seem to be more independent and exploring.
This may seem chaotic, frightening and uncomfortable to those who are stuck or stagnant.

With forgiveness of everyone’s choices to be free, we can trust that all things work together for Good.
We come to know controlling another’s choices gets us stuck in the pain of hanging on.
We realize that it is only in freedom and trust that we feel loved and know we are loving.
Life is a grand adventure, with diverse opportunities to grow and expand or to contract and die.

Each one chooses.
I trust you and me to choose what is truly highest and best for all concerned.
Let us be courageous in listening to our heart and living by our inspired inner voice.
Loving you and setting yourself and others free with you LOVE!

Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

What Can You Do?

Inspired by this UTUBE video. 
'An Urgent Message from the "Ancient Ones " to the Native American People about Planet Earth'
Video link: http://mountzion144.ning.com/video/video/show?id=2127676%3AVideo%3A646934&xgs=1&xg_source=msg_share_video

With every tornado, earthquake, hurricane and tsunami, Planet Earth is sending her wake up call!
Are you listening?

The lack ethics of leadership in politics, religion, economics and media demonstrate we much choose.
Are you willing?

The entertainment world, the dress code, the language of our youth are shouting for healing.
Are you ready?

The disintegrating family systems, marriage vow dismissal and violent parenting is crying for help.
Are you seeking a better way?

Yes, we are here and now is the time!
We are the ones because we can do something NOW!
We have the energy of healing and forgiveness.
We have the Spirit of Love and transformation within us.

What can you do?
Stop yourself from buying, defending, watching and enjoying the insanity.
Where we give attention we feed and increase with our time, money and energy.

Forgive every mistake you make immediately and choose again for a better way.
Guilt increases the probability of repeat and forgiveness erases the past to choose again.

Be a good steward and care giver for you home and family, your job and community.
Be a good neighbor with kindness and care.
Be a good friend with understanding and respect.
Be a good person with loving your whole self well.
Be honest in your relationships by keeping your agreement.
Be respectful with your words, behavior and appearance.
Be forgiving of past hurts, neglect and ignorance.
Be conscious in your choices, choosing always for the good of all.
Be willing to give your best, even when you don’t feel at your best.
Be generous with you time and money to the causes that benefit everyone.
Be good to your children and all children and youth, demonstrating how much they matter.
Be trusting of the voice of Love within you that guides you to do good, to be good and see good.
Be open to realize how important you are and how crucial the time is for each to Do The Work!

You can because you are willing to be supported by all that is Good.
You can because you are open for the Highest Guidance to do your part.
You can because you love deeply and want only the best for everyone.
You can because you are needed and wanted right now to save us all.
You can!

Reminding us all that we Can Do This together!
Betty Lue

We are the same, you and I.
We are in this together.
So let’s join hands and hearts and mind.
Let us heal ourselves, all humanity and our Mother Earth.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Successful Relationships

Five Keys of Successful Relationshipswith Five Universal Power Tools will be offered this summer.  
Six Tuesdays in Pleasant Hill, Reunion Center for Counseling, Healing and Growth begins June 7. 7-9PM.
Six Mondays in Brentwood, Unity Center for Inspired Living, begins July 11, 7-9PM
Also available on line for those who register to receive web Access or CD.

Requested by those learning to build successful marriages, parent-child, employer-employee relationships, business partnerships and friendships. I am offering a concise practical focused workshop series to provide the essential tools for effectiveness and success in every relationship.
Stepping beyond the correction of  limiting emotional and communication habits, I teach how to implement what works for high level functioning in all relationships.  Betty Lue

P.S.— I live what I teach.  And it works!

We may find ourselves either acting out the negative imprinting from our original family system or attracting another to act out what we want to avoid.  

We may blame and criticize, fear and avoid, go along to get along, or simply put up with unacceptable behaviors in ourselves and others.
We may go from relationship to relationship to find our ideal, without understanding that we can change.
We may feel doomed to unhealthy or failing relationships and tolerate the continuing problems.

We are here to heal our relationships.

We are here to undo the unloving behaviors in ourselves and others.
We are here to forgive past ignorant and hurtful behaviors and choose a better way.
We are here to relate to everyone with respect, loving response and co-operations, co-creating harmony.

Each relationship is another opportunity to find and practice a better way where everyone wins.

All relationships offer the experiences we need to heal, forgive, learn, let go, trust and encourage.
Everyone we encounter is both teacher and learner for us as teacher and learner for them.
We all are guided to be with those who push our buttons, so we can discover and heal our buttons.

Pain, problems and upsets (minor and major) show us where we have blocks to freedom and trust.

Life gives us clear “wake up calls” for where we have blocked, defended, avoided and withheld Love.
We are shown in all relationships what works and what doesn’t work.
We can erase what no longer works and choose again for a better more effective way to relate.

Our issues are merely symptoms of the underlying negative beliefs and limiting habits in relating.

When we recognize there are healing needs, we are willing to ask for help to heal, learn and grow.
We can only heal ourselves, but in doing our own work, the positive impact is recognized by others.
When we are healed and find inner peace and happiness, we offer a safe place for others to heal.

Ask yourself:
Are you happy in all your relationships?
Do you feel valued and respected?
Are you feeling lonely and separate?
Do you offer your best self to those you love?
Are you willing to forgive and begin again?
Can you release the blocks to love and trust?
Are you open to teach by everything you do and say?
Is it time to remember what you value and give your best?
Are you ready to give all your relationships to your highest values?
Can you imagine what your life will be when you truly love and feel loved by those you encounter?
Are you willing to be the blessing in the lives of those you know?

I know we are all in this together.

Everyone is touched and taught by those around us.
We all have the ability to heal and bless others with our healing.
Maybe this is your time to finish what you started.
Maybe now is your moment to realize what you purpose is!

Loving you and me and all as One.
Betty Lue

Monday, May 23, 2011

Graceful Changes

When we resist, we create stuckness and pain.
When we go with the flow, we let go and trust Good.
When we are angry about changes, we block our ability to see the blessing.
When we are happy and willing to change, we remember “All things work together for Good.”

Change happens in order to find a way to balance and harmonize.
Change happens to heal the wounds and find a place of peace.
Change happens to disintegrate what isn‘t working in order to reintegrate at a higher level.
Change happens to undo what is no longer true or valuable for the health and growth of all.

Change is the state of this physical world.
Change is the life force demonstrating its aliveness.
Change responds to the needs that are present.
Change is the way we discover what is for the highest Good

When we let go and trust in change, we find we are resilient.
When we allow change, we can be curious about the unfolding nature of the universe.
When we delight in change, we look forward to the surprise blessing in it all.
When we look forward to a better future, we begin to create it all Good.

Affirmations create a positive and powerful mind.
Denials stop us from using negative thought to produce negative outcomes.
Affirming “Everything always happens more exquisitely than I can plan.” creates that outlook.
When we trust in a positive outcome, we are willing to use everything for our Good.

Good happens when we believe in Good happening.
Negativity leads our mind to look for what is wrong.
When we look for, we will find.
What we believe, we will see.

To have grace-filled changes, we need to allow grace to fill our minds.
To be happy with our life changes, we must be grateful for the Good that is coming.
To clear our judgments, stuckness and resistance, we must forgive all limiting thoughts.
And so it is, we can affirm and accept now and always,
“I now receive and give all Good and only Good.”

Bless us for transforming everything into the Goodness and blessings we all desire and deserve.
Loving you
Betty Lue 

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing
1.       The essence of our being is love.
2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.
3.       Giving and receiving are the same.
4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.
5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.
6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.
7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.
9.       We are students and teachers to each other.
10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.
11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.
12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing
 affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.
Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.
Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Conscious Living

The key to living abundantly is to be grateful and fully appreciate your creations.

When you feel you are a victim of the world, you believe externals cause the problems.
When you are unconscious, you believe that you are at the effect of the world you see.
When you think others hurt your feelings, you believe they must change.
When you are unhappy with what you have, you feel limited and lacking.

When you are sovereign in your own life, you know that the change begins within you.
When you are conscious, you know that you create the life you have.
When you realize you choose your perceptions, you know you can change your mind.
When you are choose to live the life you truly desire, you feel empowered and grateful.

When we wake up to the creative power of the mind, we know we are at choice.
When we realize we are responsible for the experiences we have, we are able to respond.
When we understand that our emotions follow our thoughts, we can change our minds.
When we know that thoughts create, we erase our limited and negative beliefs and unforgiven memories.

Life can change with a change of mind.
Experiences can be seen differently when we release victimization.
Opportunities come to us because we make new choices
Open-mindedness offers unlimited possibilities for Goodness, wholeness and Love.

Yes, relationships will be healed when we have forgiven.
We will experience gratitude for our true prosperity with a change in mind.
Our energy, health and vitality will shift when we cease using mind and body lovelessly.
Life will be a joyful, loving and growthful experience when we learn to undo thoughts that are untrue.

To the Unconscious mind, others are responsible for the obstacles, pain and problems in our lives.
We blame and criticize, seek to understand and fix or change others with manipulation or threat
Remember, for the Conscious One, Truth is in the eye of the beholder.
We take responsibility for clearing negativity and resentment, judgment and doubt from our minds
Responsibility is empowering.
Responsibility sets me free.
Responsibility inspires forgiveness.
Responsibility facilitates a better me.

I love my life
And my life loves me.
Give with Joy.
Live Abundantly. 

You are what you seek to be.
Only you can make a real and lasting difference in your life,
Betty Lue

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Can You Really Be Happy and Fulfilled?

If you are waiting for someone else to fulfill your dreams, forget it.
If you are trying to change someone to fit your values, forget it.
If you want someone to make you happy, forget it.
If you are searching for the right place and time and people, forget it.

Searching outside ourselves can only offer temporary circumstances.
Life is ever changing.
Externals are transitory.
Depending on externals yields only intermittent reward.

Happiness is a choice.
Choose to be happy with what you have.
Fulfillment is recognizing what your have created and appreciating it.
Realize that your thoughts, beliefs and unconscious patterns have created your experience.

Does this mean you cannot change?
Of course you can change course.
When you drive over the bumps at the side of the road, you are reminded to make a correction.
When you are aware that you are on the wrong path, forgive your choice and choose again.

When we fall asleep at the wheel of life, we are reminded to wake up both in subtle and intense ways.
When we hand over the driving of our life to another, be aware that they have their own way to go.
When we wait for the ideal teacher, partner, spouse, job or place to live, we may not recognize it.
 There is a vision in us that guides our way.

When we listen and learn, we stay on path and correct our course quickly.
When we are following another’s path, we may be caught in their lessons to learn.
When we are stuck where we are, because we fear making a mistake, we may fail to move on.
When we spend a lifetime fixing, remodeling, and wishing things would change, we may wait in vain.

Happiness and Fulfillment are an inside job.
Abundant living comes from living, loving and giving abundantly.
There truly is nothing to get and everything to give.
Life is a glorious creation that comes from the beautiful, positive and happy thoughts and actions.

We are always creating the thoughts, feelings and experiences about what we have.
We can easily think “This is Good”, feel Good about it and experience the Goodness we have.
We may believe we are victims of circumstances, but we can choose to see things differently.
We make the mistake of blaming others for our choices, but we have chosen to give them the choice.

NO one can make me feel anyway.
I am choosing the feelings I experience.
I am choosing the life I live.
I am choosing the values I hold.
I am choosing to feel blessed or cursed.
I am choosing to be happy with what I have, or unhappy about what I don’t have.
I am choosing to be responsible for responding with love and gratitude or fear and discontent.
I am choosing to enjoy creating my life or waiting for someone to come to make it better.

I choose to be happy and appreciate my life, because it empowers me to enjoy my creations.
Loving you,  

Betty Lue

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Two months ago, I picked up on your suggestion to try the 30 days of "I forgive.., I choose & I am grateful" exercise & it has indeed change my life.  At first didn't think I could possibly fill up the entire page for each, but sure enough, it came tumbling out. The exercise opened my eyes to the subtle critic still alive & active in my mind, reminded me that I always have the power to choose differently & align myself with Spirit within & lastly,  helped me remember that everything is a gift.  I still do a mini version every day &/ or journal.
I just wanted to tell you that what you send through the email ether world does fall on fertile ground and  reaches real people.

Friday, May 20, 2011

Living Abundantly

What does it take to live abundantly?
What are the keys to true prosperity?
How is it possible that we can give generously?
What does one do to have no worries?

We can save money.
We can make money.
We can spend money.
We can have no debt.
But how can see the abundance in our lives?

Perhaps abundant living is never really about money.
Perhaps prosperity is really about a change of perception.
Maybe real wealth is how you value what you have.
And when we realize we can change our mind, we see it is so.

When we seek what we don’t have and depreciate what we have, we feel lacking.
When we live a life of overdoing, over spending, over expecting, we feel depleted.
When we spend what we don’t have, we find ourselves in debt and owning.
When we work to get more because we believe we have less, we feel impoverished.

When we recognize and appreciate what we have, we increase its value.
When we use what we have with gratitude and consciousness, we see there is always enough.
When we live as good stewards and share with our neighbors, there seems to be plenty.
When we live simply, give generously and enjoy gratefully, we feel prosperous.

Prosperity is a change of mind.
When we expect a full closet, but only need a few things, we may makeup we don’t have enough.
When we demand more than we need, we may imagine we need more.
When we compare with our neighbors, celebrities or the wealthy, we might believe they have it all.

There are many people who are happy with a simple shelter in which to sleep.
There are those who simple eat one bowl of rice a day.
There are those who have one change of clothes and one pair of shoes.
When you are satisfied and appreciate what you have, you feel abundantly provided for.

To feel abundant, perhaps we need to be grateful.
To know abundance, perhaps we need to share what we have.
To realize abundant living, maybe it is time to change our minds.
To have and live life abundantly, we can change our perceptions and our priorities.

Consider letting go of comparison.
Choose to stop complaining and worrying.
Commit to use what you have with appreciation.
Change your thoughts to ones of fully and freely living the abundant live you have.

Loving you abundantly,
Betty Lue

Twelve Daily Steps To Optimistic Living

1. Focus on my successes rather than on my failures.
2. Notice that which I have accomplished rather than that which I’ve left undone.
3. See and acknowledge my beauty rather than focusing on my imperfections.
4. Notice and acknowledge all the times I’ve followed the optimum conditions,rather than judging myself for the times I have not.
5. Acknowledge all my wins each and every day.
6. Create and maintain an environment that nurtures me.
7.  See problems as opportunities to learn from rather than as obstacles to avoid.
8.  Tell the whole truth on a moment to moment basis in order to maintain impeccable and loving relationships.
9. Be conscious every moment to put positive thoughts into my mind rather than negative, knowing all thoughts are creative.
10.  Appreciate my feelings as a means of understanding myself, thus directing and creating my reality.
11. Continue to forgive myself and others as a means of creating a state of Grace.
12. Fill my life with joy and ecstasy by practicing daily the art and skill of verbally expressing my gratitude for all that I have.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Change and Commitment

Yes, this was written for you and for me and for all who choose to see it and find it helpful!  Betty Lue

Are you committed to giving your best?
Are you committed to living in integrity?
Are you committed to behaving in a respectful manner with everyone.
Are you committed to keeping your agreements?
Are you committed to your marriage vows?
Are you committed to do no harm?
Are you committed to taking good care of yourself?
Are you committed to being honest and open?

Whatever we have committed to and promised and agreed on is subject to change.We all have made promises we have not kept.
We have made agreements that were not highest and best for us.
We have lied or withheld accuracy in order to protect others and ourselves from harm.
We have killed insects or hurt another’s feelings.
We may not have kept our marriage vows.
We may have neglected to keep ourselves out of harms way emotionally or physically.
We may not always have given our best and allowed emotional negativity to take over.

The key is to be as honest as we can in the moment about our commitments and agreements.
In this world of constant change in personalities, economics, health and emotional lability, we change.
When we can acknowledge our changes in agreements and promises, we can help others respond.
When we are unconscious, we do not let others know and they may be reactive.

Reaction comes from hurt, often covered in anger.
Response comes from love, uncovered with forgiveness.We react when we are not prepared and feel blind-sided, deceived or betrayed.
We respond when we love unconditionally and trust and free others to do their best.

Often my sharing is Divine Love is unconditional and based on Trust and Freedom.I see it as learning to Love as God loves.
It appears that when we are conscious, we know people change their minds.
We know when we remember that people have journeys, choices and life purposes different than ours.

When we love unconditionally…

We give our best.
We keep our agreements.
We make no assumptions.
We tell the Truth the best we know it.

And we also become aware. ….That our best may not be judged as good enough.
That agreements for the good of all may change over time.
That we cannot know what to expect and certainly need to hear, see and intuit what is true.
That our Truth (our Perception of circumstances) will not be the same as others, because we each see through our own filters, beliefs, values and emotional needs.

Life as it flows changes everyday.

When we love ourselves well, we flow with the changes.
( the only thing we can count on is change)

When we love ourselves well, we respond with forgiveness and Love to all changes.
When we love ourselves well, we do not allow another’s choices and changes to hurt us.
When we love ourselves well, we trust everyone to do the best they know and we free them to be.
Let us Love ourselves well.

Let us let go and let God and let Good be.
Hanging on hurts like Hell.
Letting us all be who we are and knowing we will all eventually return to LOVE>
Betty Lue

¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.


The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.


The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love

I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.

Betty Lue 1978

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Happy Birthday Robert!

How do you celebrate?
Do you like to be acknowledged?
Do you want gifts or a party?
Do you honor yourself and those around you in the way you prefer?

I have learned to listen.
I have honored the differences.
I have paid attention to what works.
I have respected other’s preferences.

Most people give what they want to receive.
Most people expect others to appreciate their gifts.
Most people believe their loved ones should “Know” what they want.
Most people never ask, “How do you want to celebrate your birthday this year?”

To please your loved ones, as well as yourself, always ask in this new moment, “What do you want?”
When you hear “Nothing” or “I don’t know.”, always go a little deeper.
Usually people want to think about it, so give them some time and ask again later.
Or people don’t feel it is right to ask for what you really want, so they say “I don’t know.”

Inquire with ideas.
Would you enjoy a little party, going out for dinner, some time alone, a trip, a gift, etc.?
Show real interest and enthusiasm for whatever answer you receive.
Take the time to help each one discover what it is.

My Mom always made our birthday cakes, and we got to choose the cake and the icing flavors.
So when I asked a 63 yr. old man, I showed real excitement and enjoyment about his answer.
“White cake with chocolate chips (big ones) that you can see and chocolate frosting.”Robert actually doesn’t like parties or a fuss made, but the last year, we created a party with piƱata for the grandkids.  Everyone came to the Lake House, so we are doing it again this year.
The kids so love their Grandpa and are thrilled to give him gifts and cards they have made.
Everyone enjoys getting together and it happens rarely, so this is a fine excuse.

Make sure you ask for what you want.
After all it is your birthday.
You can prevent being disappointed by simply planning it all yourself.
Let others know what is really right for you.

Happy Birthday to you and you and you!
Robert is a super friend and spiritual partner, husband and father and the best Grandpa that there is!
He has even more kids and grandkids than are born into our family of Love, because you are included!

Loving you all, 

Betty Lue

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Where Do You Dump?

Are you dumping your toxic material on someone you love?
Are you leaving your waste material in your family or work place?
Do you get upset, frustrated and impatient with the people around you?
Are you demanding, threatening and making others feel responsible?

When we have “puke” and “poop”, we need to dump it in private.
When we have undigested material, the waste from what did not nourish and nurture us, we need to let go.
When we unload on friends and family, we need to realize we are loading them up with negativity stuff.
When we unleash our pet peeves, complaints, resentment and hurts on others, we are hurting them.

Dumping garbage is necessary.
However dumping it in someone’s lap, on their table, or in their psyche is not healthy for anyone.
Dumping must be done in a healing manner, where no one eats your “poop”.
Yes, our culture seems to take privileges and think it is “right and necessary” to make others sick.

What you give your receive.
What you do to your brothers, you do to yourself.
Dumping on others teaches them to dump on you.

We must learn to take out our own garbage.
We must learn in our relationships to handle our own upsets.
We must learn to set a tone of gentility, kindness and respect.
We must learn to give (always and only) what we want to receive.

Children tattle on each other.
Children blame one another.
Children try to get even.
Children run away in shame or blame someone else.

Conscious adults take responsibility for their own upset.
Conscious people teach by example.
Conscious people talk to others always and only with respect.
Conscious people give what they want to receive.

Yes, we have all been hurt by others’ words and behavior…..

·     Because it pushes our buttons.

·     Because it reminds us of childhood unhealed stuff.

·     Because we take it personally.

·     Because it is not what we want to hear.

·     Because it doesn’t not meet our expectations.

·     Because we don’t like it.

·     Because we don’t agree.

·     Because we believe they are attacking us.

·     Because we don’t understand and take it the “wrong” way.

·     Just because……..

When we are willing to do our own work.
When we want to heal our upset.
When we believe that it is good to know where we are vulnerable.
When we take responsibility
When we love enough to only give our very best.
When we have the skills and willingness to process our own emotions.
When we learn there is a better way to dump..

Then we will excuse ourselves to a place of privacy and process our own stuff.
We will sit and journal all our thoughts and feelings.
We may go to exercise, to sweat and breate out our unexpressed feelings.
We may talk to someone trained in helping us release. “flush the cosmic toilet”.
We may find a secluded place to shout and scream or weep and ask for forgiveness.
We may pray for guidance and read healing and inspiring material.
We may go for a walk or meditate.
We may give to someone who needs us.
We may forgive all the past experiences of behaviors we allowed to hurt our feelings.
We may forgive our parents and others for not defending, for judging and blaming.

We must forgive ourselves for letting anyone or anything hurt us.
When we take others words and behaviors personally, we believe they are hurting us.
When in truth, they are hurting and dumping on us.
In truth, the criticism and attack is always about the critic and attacker.

When we understand others’ dumps are about their own pain and misguided dumping, we will learn to step out of the way.
When we hear another’s pain, if we are able and willing to flush the toilet, we will listen and love them anyway.
If we are vulnerable to their toxic material, we will excuse ourselves and heal our own vulnerability.
When we return to love and peace, we can listen with love and support the other in their healing.

Loving you and me by releasing, forgiving and letting it all go in the healing light of LOVE.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Monday, May 16, 2011

Touching Lives

How do you touch lives?
How do you receive the gift of others Presence?
I believe that first we need to “feel” touched and taught and inspired by others.
Those who shine their light really bright remind us how to love, simply and gracefully.

Each one we encounter either is sharing their light or calling for light.
Someone asked me to share my experiences this last four days.
I will share with you about the bellman, the Starbucks coffee woman, the students in my classroom, the coordinator for the conference and myself.

When I first came into the hotel, a bellman was standing by the elevators, just waiting.
He greeted me with a big smile and asked, “May I help you?”
I responded with a smile of gratitude and said, “Thanks. Got it handled.”
A few minutes later, it was he who brought the luggage into our room, again with a big smile.
His warmth and willingness to be truly helpful touched me and taught me to appreciate every gift.
We must never be too busy or too self sufficient to appreciate each gift of genuine kindness.

The coffee lady greeted me in early at 6AM with warmth and some happy talk between us.  We enjoyed each other in that simple way when we share the early morning hours with a family member.
 It was a moment of natural intimacy and easy connection.
And again in the afternoon when we met again, I inquired about when she would be done for the day.
She responded like we were friends, because indeed we were.  In that simple, brief heartfelt sharing and caring, we had a holy moment, a healing encounter of Love, respect and appreciation.

The students in our early morning 6:30-7:30AM workshop with a focus on Daily Holistic Renewal
Blessed me with their Love and appreciation.  Each one simply in fully receiving the gifts I shared, honored valued and inspired me.  Sometimes all it takes is to show up, pay attention and enjoy what is being given.

The coordinator for the conference has become my friend over the years.  Very few words are emailed or spoken.  A hug and smile are shared at the end of the conference.  Both of us appreciate and respect the other.  We feel and know our high regard for the work and the contribution each of us is making.  It is a mutual respect and high regard that bond our relationship and bless our lives.

There are many more and when our hearts our open we can see and feel the blessings both given and received.
We are here to touch and teach one another how much we love, trust and respect one another.
Life at its essence is simple and perfect in its opportunities for remembering.
Only Love matters. All else will fade away.
It is the Love we give that we receive .
And so it is only important that we remember Love.

Loving you and appreciating how you bless and inspire my Life,  
Betty Lue

Thursday, May 12, 2011

CAMFT Conference

I am presenting at a CAMFT (California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists Annual Conference) where I offer Holistic Daily Renewal and T’ai Chi Chih, a moving meditation and affirmations every morning at 6:30AM to the attendees.  Fun, and always inspiring as I learn from everyone.
No Loving Reminders for the next few days as my computer here doesn’t seem to work well on Cloud.
Plus my days are filled with workshops and other events.

Know that I am always sending you prayers and positive reminders to Love…yourself and those you encounter and/or think of.  As you give, so you receive……so always in all ways give your best and know that is what you shall receive.

Blessings to you all, 

Betty Lue

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Tribute to Women

It seems to me that our one day celebration could be for all women.  Not only Mother’s.
This UTube video brought tears of respect and gratitude to me for those who have gone before us.

Women have a resilience, a passion and  commitment to make the world a better place for everyone.
We, as women, know the labor of bringing life into the world and sustaining life through our labors.
We women have a gift of being able to balance many different activities and callings with grace.
We, as women, know the difficulties of balancing finances, schedules, differing interests and needs.
We women must always sustain our own life energies to be able to fulfill our roles in families and society.

I honor the power of women to accomplish without complaining.
I respect the peace in women who end conflicts before they begin.
I support the freedom of women to listen with their heart and follow their inner guidance.
I encourage the wisdom of women to give what is needed in the way it will be received.

Each woman has learned from those who have gone before.
Conscious women give what benefits healing and harmony rather than wounding with words.
The awakened ones are remembering to nurture and nourish as well as work for provision.
Those who remember ourselves as the center of our families teach with Love and not fear.

Women have changed the world.
Women have brought food and education to the impoverished.
Women have taught how to live and love with respect and freedom for all.
Women have raised the children of the world to freely create what is good and whole for all.

And now it is time for us to re-evaluate our choices.
We must have the courage to correct our errors and those of the past.
We must forgive teaching fear and forgetting Love.
We must remember to nurture and nourish the values that sustain our families.

We women must see ourselves as powerful….not in making money…but in making Love.
We must remember the primary function that benefits everyone, to nurture the values that matter.
We need to step back into the role of creating a home with family meals and caring for one another.
We must realize that someone needs to nurture the children to teach them Love.

Love is our function and Loving is the way.

Bringing peace is our function and inner Peace is the way.
Teaching Self esteem and confidence is our function and loving ourselves is the way.
We can change the world by remembering our inner strength, courage and limitless Love.

Let us all be the Best We Can Be!

Loving us all in remembering to be Love,
Betty Lue

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

1.       The essence of our being is love.
2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.
3.       Giving and receiving are the same.
4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.
5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.
6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.
7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.
9.       We are students and teachers to each other.
10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.
11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.
12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing
 affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.
Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.
Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

Monday, May 09, 2011

Are You Wanted?

If you are wondering.......Yes, this was written just for you.......
Because I love, respect and value YOU and want only your Best!
Betty Lue

Do you stay too long where you are not wanted?
Do you keep hoping things will change?
Do you try to make someone like you?
Do you get stuck in unhealthy relationships?

The habit of trying to make someone like you comes from childhood.
The belief that you need to make do with what you have is faulty.
The attachment to what was and unwillingness to step into what is, limits our future.
The need to get other’s approval and love to feel whole is a mistake.

Others do what others do.
People make up many reasons for criticizing, hating, rejecting, abandoning and divorcing.
All the reasons have to do with their own unhealed attitudes and beliefs.
Their criticisms are always about the one criticizing telling on what they dislike in themselves.

When we keep trying to make them happy, we often lose our own happiness and integrity.
When we believe it is about us, we falsely judge ourselves and make them right.
When we cling to what we want, rather than what really is, we create a fantasy of our self made justice.
When we lose our own inner peace by feeling hurt, angered, guilty or resentful, we let them win.

Life is what it is.
Relationships are natural projections of the images in our minds.
When we fear being hurt, we will set it up to believe it, see it and experience it.
When we let go with forgiveness, we see the other as making their own choices in their best interests.

When we forgive the hurt we cause ourselves by taking on others negativity and bullying, we are free.
When we allow others to simply make choices from which they will learn, we are free to choose our own.
When we release with blessings for the highest Good of all, we give everyone the opportunity for healing.
When we lose our fears, history and woundedness, we stop vicitimization and choose for our own Good.

Years ago after a few encounters with unexplained exclusion and angry words, clearly not about me, I realized I was a victim of my own unconscious belief that others were right and I was mistaken.
I recognized that I hurt myself with taking on other’s projections.
I realized that I was simply a willing target for others moods, prejudices or faulty assumptions.
I chose to forgive myself for letting their behavior hurt me and forgive them for any ignorance.

I now see that everything in our relationships as a projection, a reflection of inner thoughts and feelings.
I recognize that I have a choice about what I perceive, what I assume, how I respond and how I carry on.
I respect my choice to love myself first by forgiving myself for allowing others behavior to hurt me.
I give myself permission to always and only make choices that support and inspire my best Self.

Life is created by our choices.
If you don’t feel respected and valued, forgive and choose again.
Opportunities for Good come from a willingness to choose only and always what is good for us.
When we love ourselves well, we choose only for the Good, knowing everyone is blessed.

Loving you with a heart that is True B’Lue,

Betty Lue

Favorite books right now: The Go Givers and Healing Secrets of the Ages.

Sunday, May 08, 2011

Happy Mother’s Day!

Everyone of us, male and female, have mothering energy in ourselves.
-The ability to take an idea and hold it until it is ready to be shared.
-The desire to comfort  a loved one who is afraid or sad.
-The willingness to do whatever it takes to nourish one who is hungry.

Some mothers are strong and direct, while others are soft and subtle.
Some mothers hover and micro-manage and others offer space and freedom of choice.
Some mothers talk incessantly, while others are quiet and speak volumes without words.
Some mothers care most about appearance, while others focus on inner happiness.
Some mothers are practical and earthy, while others delight in values and future possibilities.

Your mother birthed you and may have raised you, fed you and clothed you and taught you how to live.
Your mother may have been a positive or negative role model, showing you what to do and not to do.
Your mother may have given you self confidence and esteem or may have shamed and blamed you.
Your mother may have been mature with wisdom and unconditional love or immature with foolishness.

While the Bible commands us to respect our parents. I have always believed that my parents were temporary guardians. I came through her body and she nurtured and nourished me. Both Mom and Dad were clear that God was my True Parent and Creator. I knew myself as a gift of Love from God due to their teachings.  My parents saw their role as offering guidance only when needed. My obedience and allegiance was to God for Spiritual matters and guidance.  Therefore, I admired, trusted and respected my parents as people, equals with whom I shared common values.  They supported encouraged and respected my choices and facilitated opportunities for growth, leadership and greater understanding in loving my fellowman. I truly appreciate their wisdom and honesty in allowing me to know my true God Parent.

So who and what is my Mother….your Mother and our Mother?
As the One Child of God, we are the creative idea of Father God, Light and Infinite Possibility.
I recognize our Mother is the Earth with her bountiful Love, who brought us into physical form.

We are nurtured and nourished by her.
We are blessed by her example of how to mother those miracles of Love that come through our bodies.
We can learn great wisdom from her teachings.
We can use her as a mature role model.

What are the qualities you see in our blessed Mother Earth, the Goddess of Unconditional Love?  I see beauty and harmony in the world she gives us.
Can I find the beauty and harmony in me?
I see order and balance in her form and watch her rebalance when there is need.
She lets go of everything that is not in balance and undoes what is not good for all.
She flows with energy, air water, fire, vegetation and earth, using it all to nurture and nourish in the most natural and amazing ways.
She provides stability and consistency, always being there for us all.
And with forgiveness, healing and renewal, she demonstrates her resilience and ability to stay true to provide for all creatures, large and small.

I love you Mother Earth, Goddess of Limitless Love, and Mother of us all.
May I always use you as model, guide.
May I fully appreciate your bounty and beauty.
May I be a good steward and caretaker and share you resources with all.
May I love you as fully and unconditionally as you love me.
Blessed be Mother of Us All.
Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer


Saturday, May 07, 2011

Loving Reminders for Mothers

Being a mother is the most important job in the world.” My Dad Bob Fisher

Mothers have the Power to change the world.
Mothers can create peaceful happy and successful children.
Mothers can build healthy families and marriages.
Mothers can be teachers of Love, Trust and Respect.

Where there is Love, there is trust.
Where there is trust, there is confidence.
Where there is confidence, there is success.
Where there is success, there is happiness.

When Mothers are responsible for their own well-being, they demonstrate positive self care.
When Mothers are respectful in their appearance, language and behavior, they teach respect.
When Mothers are sensitive to their own unique needs, they treat each person with sensitivity.
When Mothers honor each child’s choices, they set their children free to learn from their decisions.

Mothers have the potential for changing the world with conscious and conscientious mothering.
Mothers can teach their partners how to be respectful, trusting and loving of themselves and others.
Mothers can be the stable influence in changing times, providing constancy in meals and memories.
Mothers can create order and schedules, discipline and appreciation, sharing and togetherness. 

Look at all the best mothers you know and you will see what you can be.
It is not with demanding words or foolish friendship with children.
It is being happy, confident, communicating respectfully, and trusting that creates family harmony.
The best Moms are self fulfilled and happy and teach by their example with words and actions.

The critical parent teaches with fear and shame.
The nurturing parent teaches with love and appreciation.
The negative parent uses blame, shame and guilt.
The positive parent builds on successes with smiles and hugs.

If I could awaken women to their true nature, it would be to nurture the best in themselves and others.
If I could improve the modern family, it would be to create conscious mothers who teach respect with love.
If I could change the values being taught to our children, I would ask women to lead spiritually.
I can be the change I want to see in my own family, my home and my personal and professional life.

I do not gossip.
I do not interrupt my conversations.
I do not wear clothing, listen to music, or behave in ways I do not want children to see and emulate.
I do not buy, use or talk about things that are a waste of time, money and energy.

I do speak well about people or I do not speak at all.
I do focus on one conversation or project (cooking, writing, coaching, etc.) at a time.
I do offer words of encouragement and inspiration when asked for help or advice.
I do make choices on how I spend my time, money and energy based on what is truly Good of everyone.

Do you live the life you value?
Do you love yourself well?
Do you give to what is good for all?
Are you respectful and kind to everyone, including yourself?

I am reminding us to be the very best mothers we know how to be.
Loving us all as one,
Betty Lue

This is so true of everyone. All ages and all peoples!

If Children Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.