Thursday, June 30, 2016

Families Matter

I Love as I feel loved.
I Love to remember the Love I AM.
I dare to care to heal myself.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.

(See Self Love retreat info below)

Families Matter

Everyone is important.
We are born to be with those who need our Love.
We are here to heal what is not healthy, happy or loving.
We need not stay in situations that are harmful or hurtful.

From a distance we can often love more easily.
When we are alone we can more likely heal the fear.
When we forgive, we can see things more clearly.
When we are aware, we can understand, accept and love.

Families are the place we want to feel safe.
Families are to bring us into conscious connection.
Families are where we desire to nurture and be nourished.
Families are meant to be where we are protected and provided for.

When our family of origin is unsafe, we may not learn to love.
When families don’t nurture or protect us, we may not know how to nurture and protect ourselves.
When families become the place of criticism, blame and shame, we learn to do it to ourselves and others.
Family is our first school of learning from conception.

What we learn within our family system is often preverbal and therefore unconscious.
What we learn prior to going to school stays with us for a lifetime.
The false beliefs and fears and negative experiences in early child hood, shape our perceptions.
Limiting beliefs and faulty thinking become the distortion of our perceptions.

We can heal and clarify, forgive and undo, what is not true.
We can erase from our lives judgments, criticism, shame.
We can let go and learn to love ourselves.
As we love and forgive others, we learn to love and forgive ourselves…….and vice versa.

Life is for giving.
We are the gift.
It is in giving our selves that we realize the Gift We Are.
You Are the Gift of Love and so Am I.

Remember Love All the time and return to Wholeness.
We heal all brokenness with Love.
We remember our Authentic Self with Trust.
We return to our Natural State of Loving Kindness when we forgive.

We can love from a distance and heal within our heart.
We can release the past and begin again each day to remember Love.
We can undo the fear and be clear about what is Good for us.
We can choose to Love everyone as your Family of Humanity.

You are my family.
You are a part of me.
You see what we can be.
When we’re in Love.

Betty Lue

One Day Retreat
Self Love and Realization
August 20, 10-5PM
At Lake House in Hidden Valley Lake, CA

Please Register!
Contribute your fair share…..because you care.

The Gift You Are

You are the gift.
In your healing, I am healed.
In your smiling, I find joy.
In your learning, I am filled with wisdom.
In your free expressions, I am empowered.
In your abundance, I too prosper.
In your spontaneity, I am set free.
In your joy, I know heaven.

And so it is that you give your Self to me
And I receive you with love and gratitude.
I am the gift I give to You
And I fully receive the gift I freely give.

As I know You, I know my Self.
As I give to you, I receive all good.
As I support you, I am supported by the Universe.
As I honor and respect you, I experience gratitude in all my being.
As I love you, I am loving all of God's creation.

I know you and believe in you.
I honor, respect and support you in being.
In you and me is all the Universe.
We are gifts to one another.

       - Betty Lue 

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Use Your Life Well!

I recognize each day is a Gift of Creative Potential.
I waste no time to follow the calling of my heart.
I live my life with focus on what has meaning and purpose.
I know what I want and I go for it daily.

Are You Using Time Efficiently?
Are You Using Your ReSources Effectively?

You are a Source of Good to be used for Creating more Good.
You Life is a Gift of Unlimited Potential for you  to utilize wisely and well.
Nothing and no one can limit us if we are awake and aware, open and willing.
We can do what we make up our mind to do with appreciation for ourselves.

How are you wasting your time?
Why are you sitting back?
How are you not doing what you really want?
Where are you sabotaging your Self?

Begin by observing all the addictions, delays, detours and distractions.
These are the areas that interfere with your productivity, enthusiasm and fulfillment.
When we bury our intentions, desires and goals under these interferences, we cannot achieve.
When we allow worldly complexity to confuse, conflict and waste our time, we lose our way.

Begin to undo what is not really valuable.
Start claiming your own power or will and choose.
Choose what you really want.
Let go what you don’t want or need.

Screen time is usually the biggest time waster and distraction.
Consider the addictive nature of facebook, twitter, etc.
Consider how much time  you spend with TV and video games.
Consider how many moments you miss with your own family .

Are you sitting, when there is always much to be done?
Are you texting rather than talking to those around you.
Are you laughing about someone elses life and ignoring your own?
Are you gossiping away your time, judging and being entertained?

Screen time is addictive and helps us avoid our own need to create our own life.
You may have crying or needy children neglected while you are being distracted.
You may be shopping on line when you could be doing the washing or writing a “thank you” note.
Ask yourself if you are handling all the priorities and goals you have.

Time is a gift you have to be used for what is most important to you.
When you use you life well, you have no regrets.
When you focus on what matters, you have no guilt.
When you use your time, energy and money well, you feel happy and fulfilled.

Put your whole Self into this moment now.
Be present with the time you have.
Appreciate the people you are with.
Above all, enjoy this life everyday.

Loving You and All everyday,
Betty Lue

Ten Keys to a Good Life:

Be Responsible for the entirety of your life.
Be Open to learn from everything and everyone.
Be Forgiving of all mistakes, yours and others.
Be Truly helpful by thinking, speaking and giving your best.
Be Impeccable in caring for your body, relationships, home, work, finances.
Be Willing to live with moderation in all things.
Be Aware of the Gift of Love and the Call for Love.
Be Exact with your thoughts and words; they create your life.
Be Hard-working with wisdom, gratitude and joy.
Be Good.  See Good. Think Good. Speak Good. Give Good.

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Create for Joy!

I create a life I enjoy
When I appreciate the life I have, life becomes more enjoyable.
I focus on creating how I want to live and love and be.
I am responsible for the experiences I have.

See the pictures below of our totem pole. Animals made by two creative grandkids.

Creating Is Our Natural State.

We were created to be creative.
We create with our thoughts, ideas and vision.
We create with our emotions and our fears.
We are constantly creating with our energy.

When we learn to create what we REALLY want, we experience fulfillment.
When we create unconsciously, we may not be happy with our creations.
When we create with Joy, we have happy creations.
When we with fear and judgment, we may have unwanted creations.

The key is to know we are always creating.
The reset or clearing is with forgiveness.
When we don’t like our experience, we can easily forgive ourselves.
When we want to encourage our experience, we simply appreciate.

We choose what we experience.
We choose our value or lack of value for the creation.
When we are enjoying creating with play and laughter, we enjoy the outcome.
When we dislike our creative experience, we usually dislike the outcome.

It seems clear that our work in this work of active creating is to be happy.
We can easily enjoy our life experiences and learn how to create well.
We can choose to let go, erase and delete and choose again and still again.
We can constantly recreate with play and open-mindedness and enjoyment.

Experiment with what you really want.
Make a spontaneous list of your top 20 wants.
Begin to clarify what you are allowing to stand in your way.
Let no excuses or obstacles block you  in experiencing more joy.

We are here to be creative.
Create joy with joy and enjoy your creations.
Give your thoughts, desires and trust to joyous fulfillment.
You will enjoy the Joy in your life.

Stop thinking about what you don’t want.
Don’t allow destructive or negative thoughts.
Let go of limiting thoughts and emotions.
Erase and forgive what you fear and judge.

Use your creative potential to create all Good.
Use your resources, thoughts and feelings to create what you love.
Use your time and energy to create how you want to live and love.
Use your life to create the world you want to see and be.

You Can, when You think you can!
Loving you for learning to create what you really want.
Betty Lue

I encourage active creativity.
Our grandkids, Beckett 10 and Lila 11 painted these animals for our totem pole in our back yardI love it and so do they!!
This is what I see off the deck through the window out of my office when I write my Loving Reminders each morning.
Grandkids come each summer for many weeks to our Grandparents Camp of horseback and ranch camp in the Am, plus crafts, games, swimming, cooking etc, in the PM.
We all sit down together for dinner and then to watch a positive and affirming movie, chosen by the children.
All summer fun.

Beckett 9 yrs old and Lila 11 Yrs old

Monday, June 27, 2016

Choose to Be Happy!

I choose happiness today.
I am content and in love.
I choose the emotions I feel.
I prefer being happy with what is.

Choose Happiness!

Did you know you can choose how you feel?
Do you know how to change your mind?
Are you willing to be happy?
Happiness is an inside job.

What will it take to be happy?
Some believe it requires a perfect world.
Some believe others need to make them happy.
Some believe there is no way to be happy all the time.

What do you believe?
If you think happiness comes from outside, it will be illusive.
If you think happiness requires a perfect life, you will be frustrated.
If you think happiness is the result of the right relationship, you may be disappointed.

Happiness is a choice.
It is a conscious choice to be a happy person.
Being grateful is a good beginning.
Honoring your Authentic Self is key.

If something external is needed to make you happy, you will continually change your mind.
If you think money and things make you happy, you will keep acquiring and trying things.
If habits and addictions give you temporary pleasure and high, you will keep choosing more.
If people’s opinions, admiration, and approval make you happy, you will look for the right people.

Happiness is our natural state.
When we are living on purpose and in truth,? you will be content with your life.
If you are trying to become and making things work for you, you will find intermittent discouragement.
When you are willing to love, trust and respect yourself as you are, you will be happy and enjoy your life.

When we step into the world of fear, judgments, opinions, we create our own self judgment.
When we allow all things to work for us, trusting we are learning, we will be content.
When we let go and let Good simply be, we will be at peace.
When we choose?? peace instead of what others may teach, we will be peaceful.

Happiness is being filled with Gratitude, Peace and Love.
Happiness is allowing what is to be.
Happiness is knowing all is well.
Happiness is waking up with expectancy, gratitude and wonder.

Let us choose what we want to experience and live it well.
Let us be grateful for the opportunities to heal and grow, learn and teach, love for the sake of Loving.

Loving us all as One,
Betty Lue

This writing by Randall Keller may remind you of what you already know or what to learn!

God-Realization is being happy.
Fulfilling your mission is being happy.
No littleness, lack or limitation is being happy.
Creating your life your way is being happy.

Are you willing to look at what it would take for you to be happy?  Can you remember ever  giving yourself the experience of perfect happiness—no cares,  worries, disturbances?  Is it possible you are here to learn to be willing to choose happiness for yourSelf?  Could it be that this life is a gift for you to explore and experiment, to contemplate, discriminate and sort through what will bring you happiness and inner peace?
We are children.  This is our playground.  We are given unlimited resources and a loving parent saying "Yes".   Are we still listening to the clamoring of unhappy friends who are not choosing their own perfect life?
Do you believe it is possible to have all you want and more? Then you are on your way to happiness.   Now,  the next step is what do you want.   When you see it, have it and ask again.   "Does this give me happiness?"  Some­times a cookie is what I think I want and when I eat it, I may still want more and eat so many that I feel bad.   The cookie was merely a handy substitute for what I thought I wanted.   Therefore, we often don't know what we want because we have suppressed and covered our wants with substi­tutes, addictions, and defenses against the Truth.
For me, life is being born into a world of love, safety and unlimited opportunity in which to experience and discover who I am and what I want in order to be happy.   For me, a community is an open arena of "Yes-ness" in which we can explore, experiment, discover and experience what we really want.  Living my life on purpose is a moment to moment experience of being, doing and having what is happy for me.   Where I am confused, afraid, self-limiting, I ask my internal Father and I am guided perfectly.   My father and mother love me and trust me totally to be happy.

I notice that where I am not choosing to be happy, many others seem to feel bad, guilty and scared.  When I choose to be on purpose, in love and bubbling with happiness, others around me are then not distracted by my pain. They then notice their own.  Therefore, the highest gift of love we have to give each other is our total freedom to be happy.

I not only am willing to be happy, I choose to be happy every moment. I consciously choose to eliminate from my life those areas that do not offer me happiness and peace.   Do you see that I am not free until you are free? We go together to perfect happiness.

I know Mother-Father God, the loving parent, is here.  I know all is well. I know God and His comfort and guidance are ever-present.   I know all we have to do is ask for help and open ourselves to receive what we need and the way is shown.  I am here to show the way.  I am here to open the possibility of being safe, strong and free. I would love to open the possibility of unlimited playgrounds, games and experiences.

Can you see that all things are possible?  There are no limits.  We have taught and learned that to be limited is to be safe.   Can you see now that there is no harm?   Everything is offered to us again and again until we choose what we really want.

Can you see there is no lack?  There is an abundance of all resources.  We have merely chosen, in our fear of lack,  to create the appearance of lack, Can  you  see that no one is little or less?   Everyone is great.  Every aspect has value to the whole.  We have merely chosen to diminish or exalt ourselves.  When anyone is not whole and free, I cannot be either.

I challenge you to contemplate—"What brings me true happiness and inner peace?"   For me, community is an opportunity to come together in the Spirit of freedom and learn to trust that we can choose to be happy and set others free to be happy too.

Let's go do something fun together or alone.  Solitary play, parallel play, cooperative play—all have their place and time.   We can create anything we want to play—play house, play doctor (healer), play store, play with colors and sounds, be silly, play school.  When we don't want to play any more, we stop and do something else.  Games are "child's play" only when they are fun.  So let's choose games that are fun.

When I play school (Reunion Living Ministry), I will make the game simple, easy and light. The only grades are what we give ourselves - the gifts of awakening, freedom from comparison and judgment. I only enjoy creative paperwork, so I will have only creative paperwork.   I am not a lover of history, so I won't keep records.  This will be a present moment school in which teachers and students are listening and learning from their inner wisdom every moment.
What do you want to play?
Living a "routine" life is patterned by our culture and habits.  Becoming aware of better ways to live awakens us to the possibility of more freedom, joy, love, creative expression and sense of well-being and wholeness.

Begin questioning the value of everything in your life.  Allow those habits that no longer have value to drop away. Enjoy and receive from those activities and experiences and relationships that continue to feed you and serve your Highest Good.

Randall Keller

Sunday, June 26, 2016


I love, trust and respect myself.
I love, trust and respect others.
I choose to clear the forgive and respond with love.
I forgive and let go of what doesn’t work easily and quickly.

(See Tips for Quality Relationships below!)

Relationships Deserve Our Best

Our primary relationship is with ourselves.
When we treat ourselves with love. trust and respect, we treat others with love and respect.
When we love, trust and respect ourselves, we teach others to love and respect us.
When we love, trust and respect ourselves, others learn to love, trust and respect themselves.

The key to healthy, happy fulfilling relationships is within us.
We can be the change we want to see in our family and our world.
We can demonstrate the way to harmony and peace.
We can live our lives with self respect, self trust, self discipline, and self Love.

To clear the programming we remember both consciously and unconsciously, we must be aware.
To undo what is no longer true or valuable for us, we must be willing to forgive and change.
To no longer repeat what is harmful, hurtful and unkind, we must literally change our mind.
To release what is not healthy or good for ourselves and others, we must choose again.

Relationships are the way we find out what needs to be healed.
Relationship upset or difficulties are showing us what doesn’t work.
Relationships invite us to let go of the dysfunctional behaviors.
All our complaining, criticizing, demanding and negativity must go.

We may have falsely learned to keep repeating ineffective and inflammatory behaviors.
The violence and volatility of our words and actions only create more guilt and fear.
When others become guilty and afraid, they cannot think clearly or act in conscientious ways.
We must learn to be respectful and clear, listen and understand, to choose wise interaction.

Watch the best mediators teachers and healers.
Learn from those with high quality relationships.
Step away from violence and anger.
Choose for those who communicate effectively.

Give us the unconscious and ignorant ways.
Model after those who know how to take impeccable care of themselves.
Be the best role model you can be.
Assume you do not know and learn from those who do.

Relationships all matter.
Relationships build our family and community.
Relationships show us what needs to be healed.
Relationships are our way to safety, sanctuary and love.

Relating to you with only a desire to love, trust and respect you and all.
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships (Constructive choices)

Join with Love and Respect-Create a common vision or shared goal.
Honesty with compassion and kindness- Communicate your highest intention.
Equality in Realizing the Good in All-Each give the best they know in each moment.
Commitment to Healing and Wholeness- Agree to what is highest and best for both.
Response Ability- Respond to everything with forgiveness and peace.
Listen without guilt or blame. Be willing to let go and choose again for Love.

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.