Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Frustration?

Affirmations:
I see what needs to be done and I just do it.
I no longer withhold my creative solutions and positive action.
I do what benefits the greater whole.
I trust myself to use my energy and emotions for all Good and only Good.

Frustration With What Seems To Be?

Are you upset with what seems to be happening in your life?
Do you want something other than what you have?
Are you angry about something or someone?
Do you wish situations were different than they seem to be?

Are relationship non-communicative or argumentative?
Are finances seemingly tight or just no working?
Do you have health issues or physical limitations?
Do you seem to have trouble getting yourself and/or others to get things done?

Anger is a cover-up for fear, grief, pain, judgment, jealousy, and other negative emotions.
Anger is an easy expressive release of unused energy.
Anger, frustration, irritation, impatience are all a build up of energy.
When angry for any reason, ask, “What Can I Do?”

It is easy to be frustrated, impatient, irritated and angry and is more difficult to know what to do!
When we withhold what we have to say, we may feel frustrated.
When we wait for someone else to act, we may be upset when they don’t do what we want.
When we are afraid to express or act, we may find ourselves holding back on our part.

When we withhold our energy, it will build up and may result in acting out in ineffective ways.
When we stop ourselves from doing what is ours to do, we may build resentment and anger.
When we claim impotence and make excuses for not expressing, we may feel guilty and blame others.
When step back to avoid conflict or confrontation, we may create conflict and hurt ourselves.

We need to see our emotions as a wakeup call inviting us to say or do something different.
We need to claim the right to express before a negative or toxic buildup occurs.
We need to write our what we want to clarify what is accurate and most effective.
We need to put out messages to ourselves and others about what we can do.

When we know and feel what we can do, we stop complaining.
When we give ourselves a list of productive action, we must begin with enthusiasm.
When we are love in action, we feel useful and effective.
When we put our energies to right use, we flow with what is next and next again.

Stifling ourselves with unnecessary waiting or complaints or blame leads to unhealthy resentment.
Opening our mind to our own willingness to do what we can do, leads to happy creative solutions.
Living our life on purpose is being willing to take full responsibility for the outcome.
Giving our energy to be used for positive and purposeful outcomes will change our emotional state.

In all circumstances of anger, irritation and frustration and impatience, ask what you can do.
When you know what  you can do, just do it, immediately.
Use your energy for right and holy purposes that benefit everyone.
If you see something that needs to be done, it is yours to do.

Just Do It and Be Happy Doing It!
Betty Lue

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Take another look  and see things differently!
Handling Criticism

Every upset is always a wakeup call.
All wakeup calls are invitation to get on purpose.
Our purpose is to live in integrity with our mission and principles.
When we are fully being  true to our authentic self ,no one can upset or hurt us.

Every criticism is always about the critic.
We can listen and be grateful for them telling their truth, their belief, their projection.
When we take it personally, we are acknowledging that we have some guilt.
When we are offended, we are confessing that we are not wholly on purpose and at peace.

When my buttons are pushed ( when I have a reaction) to what has been said, it is mine to heal.
When I am hurt or offended, I need to stop and listen to how I can respond to myself with love.
When I am defensive, attacking, upset, I need to take stock of what is the truth for me.
Always I can be aware that the critic is talking about their own need and I can forgive them.

When we hear a criticism or what we judge to be an attack, we can best forgive it all.
When we feel attacked or criticized personally, we can simply apology for the upset.
When we listen within for how best to respond, we can hear what is really needed.
The critic is always describing themselves and expressing their own need to heal.

What we give to another is given to ourselves.
When we offer forgiveness and healing to a brother, we are offering healing to ourselves.
There is no harm in doing no harm.
There is continuing upset when we try to be right.

Where we have guilt, we will be vulnerable.
When we are not true to ourselves, we can be hurt.
When we have blamed another, we will fear being blamed.
When we are afraid of someone or something, we have not yet forgiven.

All upsetting experiences are lessons, reminders or wakeup calls.
All difficulties are challenges which we can learn from.
All seeming offenses are opportunities to realign our principles and purpose.
In our defenselessness, our safety lies.

When we have nothing to hide with no secrets and no fears of being judged, criticism is a call for help.
When we are free from judging, blaming and making anyone wrong, we respond always with kindness.
When we are willing to give what we want to receive, we respond with respectful listening and love.
When we are open to giving what will bring peace and harmony to all, we forgive and love again.

And so it is, we learn and expand our capacity for Loving Kindness,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Create Your Life!

Affirmations:
I appreciate and care for my creations with love.
I acknowledge my mistakes, forgive and choose again.
I see what is highest and best for me and my well-being.
I honor what I create with my thoughts, words and relationships.

Create Your Life!

We create our life experiences.
We can allow other’s opinions to guide our creations.
We can let fear, defensiveness and self protection create.
We can destroy our lives with fear based jealousy, addiction, apathy or hatred.

Each one makes life choices daily.
To stay or leave?
To eat more or less?
To take good care or stop caring?
To be in charge or victimized.
To be honest or cover-up?
To forgive or hold resentment?
To be helpful or hurtful?
To inspire or discourage?
To learn or ignore?

Life is filled with choices to create or destroy.
When we keep it simple, we know we can change our mind.
We know we can change our focus and direction.
We know we can be happy or depressed.

Sure, we can make excuses for everything.
“I can’t do anything because I don’t have…..Money, time, support, strength, enough…..”
We can wish and fantasize that someone will come to save us from ourselves.
We can just give up, stop and settle by numbing ourselves with TV, games, addictions, drugs.

What does it take to create?
Imagine what you really want!
Describe the experience you want to have.
Write down a list of wants.

Look at all the excuses you have made and erase, forgive and delete each one.
Affirm: I can easily create what I want.
I deserve to be happy and only make positive choices for myself.
I now let go of all blocks and made-up excuses and limitations.
I forgive myself for limiting myself, now and always.

When we love, trust and respect ourselves, we create a good life for ourselves.
When we are no longer limiting, judging and or playing needy, we easily create the life we want.
When we are open and willing to free ourselves from false beliefs and limits, we choose again.
When we give our lives to all Good and only Good, we feel empowered to live fully and freely.

Begin where you are, to do what you want to do with joy and gratitude.
Begin to fully give what you want to give with enthusiasm and generosity.
Begin to offer gratitude and peace to yourself and others with love and kindness.
You can have the life your truly want by beginning to day to be happy with yourself.

Live everyday awake and aware with conscience and total responsibility.
When your life no longer serves you as it is, choose again with forgiveness and blessing.
Trust yourself to know what to do next with enthusiasm and gratitude.
Be your best in every circumstance and you will experience the joy of creating.

Loving my creations, especially my relationship with you,
Betty Lue

Ten Keys to a Good Life:
Be Responsible for the entirety of your life.
Be Open to learn from everything and everyone.
Be Forgiving of all mistakes, yours and others.
Be Truly helpful by thinking, speaking and giving your best.
Be Impeccable in caring for your body, relationships, home, work, finances.
Be Willing to live with moderation in all things.
Be Aware of the Gift of Love and the Call for Love.
Be Exact with your thoughts and words; they create your life.
Be Hard-working with wisdom, gratitude and joy.
Be Good.  See Good. Think Good. Speak Good. Give Good.

Monday, September 28, 2015

What Do You Really Want?

Affirmations:
I trust, respect and appreciate myself and all my creations.
I love creating what I really want to be, do and have.
I know what I want and I go for it.
I support myself and what I want with affirmation and appreciation.

Super Blood Moon Eclipse Sept. 27-28

Do You Have What You Want?

Are you living the way you want to live?
Are you doing what you want to do?
Are you with those you really want to be with?
Are you happy with yourself and your life?

You are the one who chooses.
You are the one who loses.
You are the One who is responsible for your life!
Accept responsibility and your can choose and change your whole life!

Your life is really and truly yours.
Your whole life is your responsibility.
Your life is yours to create or destroy.
Your life is yours to enjoy or hate.

You are choosing how you feel and what you do.
You can feel pleased or critical.
You can play at will or victim.
You can step forward or step back.

You can do what you want to do and go where you want to go.
What holds you back is fear….fear of the unknown or other’s disapproval or making a mistake?
You can be independent or dependent, alone or with others.
You can lead or follow, content or depressed, enriched or empty.

Everything in life is choice, your choice.
How you feel when you wake up is your choice.
You can change how you feel by simply choosing.
Clear up the past by writing and throwing it away quickly.

You can turn around mental and physical, relational and financial health.
You can undo whatever is not here, as in history, memories and roles you have played.
You can stop sharing the ugly stuff and hurtful stories and nasty thoughts and words.
You can begin today to quit the destructive and hurtful habits and get a life!

We have made the process of choosing again arduous and scary when it can be fun and daring.
The work is to let go of what you no longer want.
Let go quickly and easily, happily and gratefully.
Undo what you no longer value and set yourself free to be YOU!

Our entire life is to teach us how.
Our experiences show us we are able to respond differently.
Our journey invites us to return to appreciate ourselves and what inspires us.
Our way to happiness is through forgiving, erasing and deleting what is not wholly good for us.

Stop and clarify what you really want.
Love yourself enough to do what you really want to do.
Create what supports you in being a happy and willing player in life.
Appreciate your creations and keep creating more of what you really want.

Be honest with yourself and love yourself well!
Betty Lue

How to Use Affirmations:
Affirmations are used to clear unconscious programming that tends to guide our thoughts, feelings and behavior. 
Writing, speaking and hearing us say the affirmation aloud clears the false beliefs through our sense of sight, sound and touch.  
It is essential that we keep writing and saying the affirmations until there is no longer resistance to the limiting beliefs.  
Affirmations are not to be used to develop a new belief, but only useful to clear false limiting programs.  
Once there is quiet, clarity, no resistance, we are complete.


My favorite way to do affirmations is to divide the lined page down the middle.  
The affirmation is written on the left side and your mind chatter or contradictory thought is written on the right side.
Then cross off the negative.  
Write the affirmation again on the left and listen to your mind chatter and write on the right.
 Cross the mind chatter off.  
Continue writing the affirmation 20 times and listen for the resistant thought after each one.
I would do it all by hand, so I could cross it off with my pen!!  
20 times daily for 14 days or until there is no resistance.
Do no more than three different affirmations at a time.
Things may change dramatically, so be prepared to notice big difference.
Life works when we are willing to do the work.  

Ask me for help if you have trouble finding the affirmations that are most effective for you.
Always choose an affirmation that you resist, because it will help clear away what is blocking your Good.
They will always feel like a lie in the beginning and you may find great resistance to doing them!!
Affirmations for Conscious Healing  

by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.

Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.
I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.
Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.
I am a Love giver.
The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.
Light, light, I want more light.
I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.
I love my life and it loves me.
I have what I want and share the best I have.
Life works for me.
I am the chooser, never a loser.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
I am clear, focused and committed.
I consciously communicate exactly what I want.
I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.
I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.
I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.
I give myself the very best and all are blessed.
I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.
I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.
My happiness is contagious.
I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.
Peace and love and joy heal us All.
My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real.

Useful suggestions for applying the technique of Autosuggestion to the Affirmations
Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 
Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.
Work with one or more every day. Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect. 
They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 
The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.
Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.
Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.
Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.
Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows: 
I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself.
Feel free to invent new ones.
Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.
To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times. 
Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge. 
Continue working with these until they go flat. 
When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.

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30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.
Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.

Daily Practice:

Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.

I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.

I forgive my body’s limitation.

I forgive myself for being late.

I forgive everything.

Make the sound “AAAH” for 1minutes.
Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices. 

I choose to be happy. 

I choose to be free.  

I choose to do what I love. 

I choose to forgive….


In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes

I appreciate the energy I have.

I love being happy.

I am grateful I have you in my life.

I thank God.

Make the  sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1 minute.
 

PS Even a few of each is better than none.  
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.
The key is your willingness to DO THE WORK!

Loving You always,
Betty Lue

Sunday, September 27, 2015

True Prosperity

Affirmations:
Prosperity is a product of our thoughts, words and integrity.
I choose to give and receive all Good and only Good.
To have All, Give All to All.
True Enjoyment of our gifts comes from sharing them.

Use What You Have!

Use what you have for Good.
Use what you receive to give Good!
Use Who you are to be Good?
Goodness expands and benefits everyone.

When we use what we have for selfish purposes, we may have less.
When we use what is given to us without sharing with others, what is given may diminish.
When we neglect who we are and do not share with others, we may experience and enjoy less.
Our confidence and abundance increases with our value for having, using and sharing with others.

True prosperity comes not from accumulating wealth.
Abundance does not come from storing our riches.
Abundant living comes from living abundantly.
Our prosperity is directly related to utilizing and sharing everything we have.

When we store and save and hide what we have, it loses value.
When we do not enjoy the fruits of our labor, they often rot.
When we hide our treasures, they no longer shine with their beauty and worth.
To value is to care for, enjoy and contribute the best we have with others.

Appreciation increases value.
What we value expands with our appreciation.
We value with our attention, enjoyment and good use.
To increase what you value in your life, attend, enjoy and use it!

Value what you value.
Let go of what you don't value.
Stop wasting time, energy and money on what you do not value.
Pay attention only to what is important and purposeful to you.

If you want something give positive attention to having, using and enjoying it.
Whatever you attend to, you attract and increase in your life.
When you are focused on what you don’t have, you will increase your wanting!!
The very act of “wanting” is affirming not having it!

Potential, Power and Prosperity all are created within us with our thoughts and words.
When we put positive attention to our creations with appreciation, we create and attract more.
When we criticize, complain or express neediness, we find more to criticize, complain and need.
Everything we think and say and do creates more of what we think and say and do.

Loving and enjoying all is have and freely give,
Betty Lue

Ten Keys to a Good Life:

Be Responsible for the entirety of your life.
Be Open to learn from everything and everyone.
Be Forgiving of all mistakes, yours and others.
Be Truly helpful by thinking, speaking and giving your best.
Be Impeccable in caring for your body, relationships, home, work, finances.
Be Willing to live with moderation in all things.
Be Aware of the Gift of Love and the Call for Love.
Be Exact with your thoughts and words; they create your life.
Be Hard-working with wisdom, gratitude and joy.
Be Good.  See Good. Think Good. Speak Good. Give Good.

Saturday, September 26, 2015

Healing Vibrations

Affirmations:
I serve all with the highest and best I know.
All that I give to others, I receive for myself.
My happiness and health are gifts to everyone.
I treat others and myself the way I want to be treated.

Heal with Positive Thoughts

The happier you are, the more potent your thoughts.
When we are emanating positive thoughts, we are helping uplift.
When we are sharing positive words, we are inspiring others.
When we are doing what is truly helpful, we are encouraging right action.

When we find ourselves doing what is right and good, we feel good.
When we are remembering to be grateful rather than sorry, we feel fulfilled.
When we are telling positive stories and using affirmations, we feel inspired.
What we model with our thoughts, words and deeds heal others and ourselves.

When we have a lower vibration, we are less happy, less healthy and less energized.
When we have a higher vibration, we are happier, healthier and empowered to be truly helpful.
Consider stepping away when depressed or sick or tired.
Do what children and animals do-- Withdraw and take care of yourself.

Take time to be good to yourself.
Ask what you really want and give to yourself.
Stop and attend to your own needs first.
Make sure the basic needs are taken care of.

Right nutrition and hydration is super important.
Ingest the best and forget the rest.
Infuse highest and most beautiful sounds, sights, fragrances and tastes.
Give yourself what you really want, instead of cheap quick substitutes.

Right relationships are key to remember the best in you.
When you have role models who demonstrate impeccable self care, you will be inspired.
Invite people into your life who treat you well, so that you are reminded to treat you well.
Forgive all past lack of self care and lack of self respect which you taught others.

Right work and livelihood give your energy daily.
When we are doing what we love to do, we feel energized in our work.
When we have the right attitude of service with joy and gratitude, we feel valued in our work.
When we appreciate our daily activities, all of them, we are never depleted, but feel satisfied.

Healing is helping ourselves and others with the highest thoughts, word and activities.
True helping is service because it serves all including ourselves.
What we give is not given away, because we receive the gifts that we give.
Contributing is truly giving tribute and enhancing the intentions we have in all things.

Intend only good and you feel good.
Intend health and happiness, and you will do and have and be healthy and happy.
Intend a life of service and you will see everything you think and say and do, does serve US All!
Intend the highest and best with everything in life and you will create a life of the highest and best.

Loving myself and everyone with the best I know.
Betty Lue

Keys to Health & Vitality
NUTRITION
Ingest the best and forget the rest.  Take into your body, mind and spirit only that which supports, sustains and inspires the BEST in you.

MOVEMENT
Life is flow. To move with the flow is healthy. To resist is stressful. Move with the natural inner movement physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.

BREATH
To breathe in (inhale) fully life energy, Spirit, Prana, inspiration, is to expand our awareness to open to an enlightened mind.  To exhale fully is to truly release what is no longer needed.

TOUCH
Reaching out with Love and respect for each other opens our bodies and beings to trust in the gentleness we all deserve to experience.

THOUGHT
Choose for those thoughts which heal and free you to be unlimited in health and wholeness. Forgive (erase) the beliefs which are limiting or false.

ATTITUDE
Carry with you an attitude of gratitude and love for yourself and others.  Allow yourself to see all things work together for good.

BALANCE
Moderation in all things will bring your life into harmony.  As we give ourselves what is really best for us, the extremes are gently released.

HEALTH
What you perceive in others and the world you strengthen in your Self.  Focus on illness, disease and weakness and you actually weaken yourself.  See only health and wholeness and you move yourself in the direction you are looking.

PURITY
To clear out toxins and purify the system requires a willingness to eliminate toxic thoughts, activities, relationships as well as foods from your system.  Flushing the system clean is aided with water, fresh air, gentle movement and forgiveness.

REST
To rest and relax your mind and body are invaluable to being refreshed and revitalized. Each person has unique methods of relaxation - meditation, music, being in nature, focused simple activity.