Saturday, June 30, 2012

Why Love?

Are you In Love?
Are you falling in Love?
Are you Loving?
Are you in love with someone or something?

These are four very different experiences, all our choosing.
What?  You mean I can control who and how and when I Love?
Yes, Love is a choice, a faucet to be turned on or off with our thoughts and feelings.
What about chemistry, mystery, destiny, magic, romance?

We “fall in love” with the experience we have from feeling what we long to feel all the time.
The experience of orgasm, ecstasy, being totally in love is the closest we know of Union with God.
We long to return to the memory of Heaven, total bliss in safety, joy and peace.
And so we see experiences with remind us of what lies within where there is no time or space.

When we feel admired, valued, cared for, seen and heard, connected, we feel loved.
When we admire, value, care for, see and hear another, we feel connected and in love.
When we have a special relationship or special significant miraculous moments, we fall into Love.
When we are loving, we are seeking to respect, trust, connect with life and all our relationships.

To live in love, is to rejoice at the joy of each moment.
To live in love is to forgive and forget and disconnection, of feeling of separation.
When we live in the unified field, we know heaven and grace all the time.
When we live feeling disconnected, alone, unhappy and unloved, we fall out of love.

Love begets Love.
When we are “in Love”, everything seems bright and new and full of beauty and goodness.
When we are in judgment, comparison and feeling separate, different, we fall out of love.
Fear begets fear and judgment, excuses and complaints, criticism and belittling.

Love is our natural State.
Joy is our natural State.
Peace is our natural state.
When we are not experiencing love and peace and joy, something has gone wrong.

What could go wrong?
A tiny mad idea, a moment of fear or judgment, a memory of past harm or misunderstanding.
Holding onto anything that creates judgment will dampen one’s enthusiasm and put out the fire.
Forgiveness used as an eraser filled with love, clears all mistakes, all memories, or judgments.

I forgive myself for forgetting to Love.
I forgive myself for forgetting to receive the Love within and around me.
I forgive all lack of love in others and respond always with the Love I AM.
I forgive the apparent separation from Love in my world and I remember to reconnect!
And so it is, I love always and all ways.
Betty Lue

Recommendations for Successful Relationships

I send special Relationships Reminders out to a group of folks who request them.  
If you wish to be on this list, let me know.

Recommendations for Successful Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,  
Betty Lue

Friday, June 29, 2012

Are You Respectful?

Do you treat everyone as an honored guest?
Do your wait for acknowledgement before interrupting/
Do you go to be next to the other instead of yelling?
Do you seek to listen and understand, before expressing your point of view?

How would things change if we learned how to treat everyone with respect?
People would remember how to be respectful.
People would realize they deserve to be respected.
People would respect themselves and others more.

When we respect ourselves, we teach others by our example.
When we respect ourselves, we treat ourselves well.
When we respect ourselves, we treat others better.
When we respect ourselves, our world grows with respect.

To respect means to look again, to look deeper, to see things differently.
To look again means we don’t pass judgment of the surface behavior.
To look deeper means we are willing to take the time to listen for the underlying cause.
To see things differently means forgive our immediate reaction and seek to respond with Love.

When we respect our children and youth, they respond differently.
When we respect our elders, they respond with love and appreciation.
When we respect our neighbors, the appreciate us prioritizing their best interest as well as our own.
When we respect the earth, the earth provides bountifully with provision and protection.

Respect initiates Responsibility which invites Cooperation.
These three qualities are integral to peace and harmony, good will to all humanity.
When any one remembers to live with Respect, Responsibility,and Cooperation, we are a blessing.
It is our time to make the change we want to see!  Respect, Respond and Cooperate.

Do you understand how belief works?
When you believe it will do no good, it seems to do no good, so you can be right!
When you pretend to be respectful, your thoughts will cancel your words.
When you deceive others by doing what they want with a disrespectful attitude, they get the message.

Take time to clean up your disrespect.
Forgive all prejudices, belittling judgments, negative attitudes, disrespectful behaviors and languaging.
Begin by treating everyone with courtesy, simple etiquette,  dropping the need to be right.
Explore what is your intention before you speak and act out in a negative or disrespectful way.

Associate with highly respectful people.
Put yourself in positions where you will remember to be respectful: Stay sober and sane.
Remember that even a little slip makes a different, so clean up your own act first.
You are the change you want to see.

Loving you with respect and gratitude,
Betty Lue

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Now What?

Is it time for change?
Are you willing to go for it?
Have you envisioned the outcome you seek?
Are you willing to free yourself to be happy?

Often people choose to change to avoid something they do not want.
When you are running away, you may not know where you are going?
When you are leaving something, make honorable closure for full completion. 
Getting away for a day or a week or month is an opportunity to vision.

Without vision, you will go nowhere.
Without vision, you will run around in circles.
Without vision, you lack focus and direction.
Without vision, you are off purpose and misguided.

Distraction supports avoidance.
Delusions confuse thinking.
Disappointments cause conflict.
Delays can be tragic.

Change requires clarity and communication.
Change needs courage and commitment.
Change invites creativity and choices.
Whatever you are changing, be prepared with intention, forgiveness, affirmation and commitment.

Life is choice.
Life is taking chances.
Life is learning.
Life is recognizing every choice in thoughts, words and activities creates a result.

When you like your choices, affirm and appreciate them.
When you don’t like your choices, forgive, release and choose again.
Always appreciate what you are learning.
Wait for no one to make their changes or choices unless you prefer to let them be responsible.

When you are willing to be responsible for you life, do it with clarity and communication.
Have the courage to envision your own future and make choices and changes responsibly.
Be willing to declare what is true for you and stick with your plan for yourself.
Do nothing that does harm to others, but rather choose what is for the Highest Good of All.

How do you know what is best for everyone?
Start with what is best for you.
Live as if every day and every relationship matters.
Speak, act and envision only the highest outcome for all concerned.

You make a difference, everywhere with everyone.
Stop being selfish in your thinking and be global in your vision.
You are teaching your world with every choice you make.
Be able to respond with Love and Gratitude,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Relax and Enjoy Life

Too much to do?
Too many people to care for?
Too  many bills to pay?
Too much good TV to watch or parties to attend  or?

What is your excuse for not taking impeccable care of you?
The world is filled with distractions, detours and distress?
Who is taking care of you?
Who is making sure you relax and enjoy your life?

I am not talking about drinking beer and partying.
I am not talking elaborate vacations or spa.
I am not referring to buying expensive toys or gifts.
I am not suggesting you go to spas to be pampered.

You can do all these things and they are temporary fixes.
We have and infinite number of choices for pleasuring our bodies and minds.
We can choose what others do or we can be selective.
We can neglect ourselves or spoil ourselves.

The question is do you know how to relax and enjoy life?
Do you feel grateful and happy when you wake up in the morning?
Do you bless the life you have and how you live?
Do you eat the food that you really like and savor every bite?
Do you allow the water you drink to be a blessing and a gift to you? 

Are you willing to be responsible for your own happiness and well-being?
Are you considerate, kind and caring with your thoughts, words and behavior toward yourself?
Do you take the time to affirm yourself with Love and appreciation for who you really are?
Do you step away from negativity and criticism, taking nothing personally, except what benefits you?

What can you do to take better care of you?
How can you take, even 5 minutes a day, to really feel the Love for yourself?
Are you willing to fully appreciate everything you have created in your life?
What about taking a walk or sitting in your own yard and really enjoying it all.

Some possibilities:
Prepare your favorite meal and eat it slowly with no distraction.
Lie in bed and breathe fully for 5 minutes.
Surround yourself with colors and sounds you enjoy.
Say affirming words aloud to yourself every morning as you shower.
Take a moment to appreciate and give thanks to yourself for every accomplishment.
Stop blaming, cursing or rushing yourself.

Love yourself well today and you will be loving all of us everywhere,
Betty Lue 

From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
 Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
 Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
 Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
 Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
 Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
 Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
 Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Guilty or Innocent?

Are we not all born innocent?
Is not our creator all loving?
Are we not born into this world as Original Blessings?
Is our inheritance the Peace of God for Goodness sake?

Could it be that we are passing on to others as well as ourselves a mistaken perception?
There is no sin and therefore no sinners.
Yes, there are the mistakes we make as we learn and remember our true inheritance.
And we can be distracted, detoured, demanded and falsely programmed into negative believing.

What if we take away the fears of judgment and punishment and find our true innocence?
What if we relinquish our comparison, evaluation and judgment to dissolves our separation?
What if we stop fixing blame and start with forgiveness and blessings?
What if we let go of seeing everything and right and wrong and simply see a better way?

Is it possible that those who feel guilty always withdraw and attack?
Are you someone who looks for what is wrong so you can fix it or them?
Can we be fully responsible and actively healing, when we want someone else to take the fall?
Can we love enough to forgive ourselves for every time we judge or withhold love from anyone?

Guilt and blame interfere with healing, helping and connecting with self and others.
Guilt messes with our thinking and healing process. 
Blame interferes with being open and listening, appreciating and loving others. 

Primary forgiveness is:
I forgive myself for feeling guilty. 
I forgive myself for seeking someone or something to blame.
I forgive myself for wanting to be right.
I love myself and learn from everything and everyone.
Everything always happens more perfectly than I can plan.
I choose to be happy, instead of trying to be right.
Everything is in my own best interest.
Mistakes are opportunities to learn.
They need never be judged or avoided.
Depression is the choice to be angry with oneself rather than others.
Anger is energy that has no positive place to be used for good.

Making mistakes can be fun, safe and easy.
Everything can be used for good.
Happiness is the choice to utilize my thoughts, feeling and behaviors always for the Good of All.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

And so it is, Let us simply always and forever LOVE.
Betty Lue 

Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness and Inner Peace
Every morning and every night, say this prayer:
I forgive everything and everyone, every experience and every memory of the past and present that needs forgiveness.
I forgive positively everyone.

God is Love.
I am forgiven and governed by God’s Love alone.
God’s Love is now harmonizing my life and its problems.
Realizing this, I abide in peace.

I am now forgiven by everything and everyone of the past and present that needs to forgive me.
I know that forgiveness unblocks whatever stands between me and my good.

I am grateful for the power of God’s Word.

Monday, June 25, 2012

Can You Be Content?

(I missed sending out Loving Reminders yesterday, because we leave our Lake House at 6AM to get to our Unity church by 8:30AM.) I know you all hear from me enough to tide you over, but I actually miss sharing with you and me in this way!)

What will make you content?
Are you willing to be at peace with what you have and do?
Are you content with who you are?
Are you content with what is in your world?

Isn’t it interesting how we need discontent to motivate us to improve?
Do we have to be upset or unhappy to make positive changes in our lives?
Can we simply choose to live in the ways that are for the highest good?
Can our life be based on living in integrity our awareness of our inner calling?

When you are upset, or discontent, is it not because you have gone off course?
Is it not because you have conflicting goals?
Is it not because you have lost your way?
When we step out of integrity with our own truth, we are distracted, detoured and delayed.

To be at peace is to be aware without judging.
To be content is to experience without comparing.
To be happy is to enjoy what is without criticism.
To experience fulfillment is to realize we already are, have and do what we want.

When we judge we get stuck in complaining, comparing, emoting, trying and fixing.
When we are stuck in doing the same ole thing again and yet again, we kill our motivation to change.
When we set aside judgment, we can address the guilt and fear that keep us from moving forward.
When we forgive the guilt and fear for staying to long, and being so unhappy, we can choose again.

Many excuse their choices to stay in unhealthy conditions and relationships.
Many fear taking responsibility to step away and choose a better way.
Many seek vengeance against those they blame and make them guilty with constant attack.
Many simply are too entrenched in their own complaining, whining and self pity to stop.

Many paths to contentment are given us.
Change what is not working to what works, without making anyone wrong.
Be grateful all day everyday for what you have rather than focus on what you don’t have.
Forgive and erase all the apparent emotional and physical obstacles in your way.

Step away from habitual behaviors of that keep you stuck in endless emoting.
Use the energy of your discontent to make new choices.
Acknowledge full responsibility in being where you are not happy.
Forgive your fear and choose again for what is right and true for you.

What is best for you is best for others.
Please yourself and you will be a pleasure for others.
Honor your choices with your contentment and gratitude.
Give to others the peace you want to have and appreciate yourself.

Blessings of peace, contentment and Love to all of us,
Betty Lue

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Stand Up and Speak Up

Do you have the courage to speak up when helpful?
Do you have the strength to do the right thing?
Are you willing to be the One who says “NO”?
Can you trust you intuition to know when to help?

Do you know how to get things done?
Do you understand how to be quiet when needed?
Do you realize how many need it to be their idea?
Do you use tact and diplomacy with finesse?

Are you sensitive to others’ feelings and passion?
Do you get how sometimes more is done with less?
Do you wait until you are upset before you speak?
Are you clear that peaceful communication works best?

Are you aware of how you attack rather than share?
Do you hear the tone of your own voice and calm yourself?
Can you feel when your emotions are getting the best of you?
Do you notice how defensive others are when you share?

There are times to speak and times to hold your tongue.
There are moments when it is best to express and times for listening.
There is a way you can encourage agreement or cause a fight.
When you learn to be self aware and self respectful, you will apply it to others.

Hurting another will yield defensiveness, anger or withdrawal.
Listening to another with compassion and desire to understand yields feelings of being loved.
Taking the time to be present is comforting and helps to bring calm.
Reacting with arguments, explanations and solutions often cuts off the opportunity to change one’s mind.

Can you imagine a way to respect all differences without offending one another?
Do you see how you could listen to the other respectfully before responding with your truth?
Are you willing to consider that there is no “Right” way?
When you stand up for yourself, could you do it with respect for yourself and others?

I prefer ……….
I feel…..when you……. And I would like…..
Are you willing to consider my feelings on this issue?
Can we sit down and brainstorm creative solutions so both our needs will be met?

The creative problem-solving process involves:
  • Listen respectfully to all parties, making a written note of what each one Needs.
  • Then brainstorm with not criticism or judgment on any persons ideas for all needs being met.
  • Item by item ask if there is any objection to each idea. (Best to have 30 or more solutions listed.)
  • When the final few are left, begine to put together a plan where everyone feels their needs are honored.
  • Set a date for implementation and another in a week to 30 days for evaluation of whether it worked.
  • Begin the process again if it was not successful for all parties.

Blessing of assertiveness, (not aggressive and not passive!)
Betty Lue
Assertive People Do:
1. Decide what they want.
2. Decide if it is fair.
3. Ask for it clearly.
4. Are not afraid of taking risks.
5. Are calm and relaxed.
6. Express feelings openly.
7. Give and take compliments easily.
8. Accept and give fair evaluation.

Assertive People Do not:
1. Beat about the bush.
2. Go behind other people's backs.
3. Bully.
4. Call people names.
5. Bottle up their feelings.

Aids For Developing Assertiveness:
1. Models
2. Love and encouragement
3. Caring evaluation
4. A sense of values
5. A basic feeling of security

Comparing Responses
There are two primitive, adaptive, instinctive responses when encountering a problem area:  1)  a desire for flight or 2)  a desire to fight. We mostly experience these responses as fear or anger.  Both responses are basically "back-brain" or reactive in nature.  Assertiveness brings the "fore-brain" into play, bringing objectivity and "rationality".

 The more I respect myself, the more I respect others.
 The more I respect myself, the more others respect me.
 The more I respect myself, the more others respect themselves.
         Therefore, I choose to respect myself more.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Everything is Choice

Choose what you want to be and do and experience.
Choose to be happy or sad.
Choose to be forgiving or mad.
Choose to be fearful or glad.

Choose for adventure or staying put.
Choose to pay attention to others or not.
Choose to give freely or withhold.
Choose to live fully or live with limitation.

Choose to laugh or to cry.
Choose to accept or ask why.
Choose to be aware or deny.
Choose to live your way or comply.

Choose to have fun or sucked into seriousness.
Choose to take risks or be live by fear.
Choose to flow with the river or fight to go upstream.
Choose to be compassionate or be mean.

When I observe children, I see how “adulterated” they become by listening and watching us.
When I notice I am afraid for them and try to limit or protect, I realize what I am teaching…FEAR.
Ugh!  I want to teach freedom and responsibility.
I want to share having fun and doing what you love.

What do you teach by your example?
Are you demonstrating “fun, safe and easy Living?”
Or are you teaching others how ”serious, scary and hard life is?”
Do you really believe that we are victims of this fearful world?

Is it possible that when we choose to perceive danger, we attract danger?
Is it possible that the world shows us what we expect it to be?
Do you realize the metaphysics of attraction and perception?
Are you aware what we resist and fear and avoid is just as attractive as what we accept, love and enjoy?

Are you aware that your attitude towards housecleaning is learned?
Do you know when parents enjoy cleaning, children are taught to enjoy it too?
Do you know when the teacher is excited and delighted, the children are too?
Do you realize we have learned our beliefs, feelings and attitudes about everything?

Attitudes towards doctors, taxes, politics, bodies, money, career, education…..all learned.
Our feelings about cultures, religions, nationalities, civil rights, art, etc…..all learned.
When we love, trust and respect others, often we take on their beliefs and feelings.
We can forgive, erase and release faulty thinking, limiting beliefs and attitudes.

Forgiving and choosing again and again for the sake of all….especially our children!
Loving you and you and you in making the choices you want for your world,
Betty Lue

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Are you Listening?

What do you listen to?
What songs do you replay in your mind?
What words do you hear from your father and mother?
What do you tell yourself when you feel alone or afraid?

Do you know the world is imprinting us to believe what we believe?
Do you understand that what we saw, heard and felt as children influences us still?
Do you realize that until you change your mind, you are conditioned to behave as you do?
Do you know that whenever we want, we can correct the errors and choose again?

Since we all hear what the media says, commercials and all, we are hypnotized into believing.
Because we have all been taught by our parents and teachers, we believe their ideas and values.
With living in a society of other families, we join together to belong, to conform, to fit.
To choose for ourselves requires us to stop letting others lead us and choose for ourselves.

Part of “emancipation” is freeing ourselves for the unconscious patterns of our culture.
Setting ourselves free requires that we choose what is of value to us.
To grow up and become “mature” adults requires that we stop letting others tell us what to do.
When we can forgive our fear of making mistakes. we are free to choose for ourselves.

Until we break the trance of living in an unconscious society, we continue to be misguided and lost.
We are influenced by mass unconsciousness and mesmerized into believing “We are right and safe.”
To deprogram our insanity, our conflict and confusion and clarify our own values, requires us to listen to ourselves, to reflect and understand our own heart and mind.

Are you able to listen to the voice of Love within?
Do you know where to find reassurance and inner peace?
Do you know how to self soothe and calm yourself?
Are you capable of loving you when you feel unloved?

Some choose meditation.
Some choose hypnosis.
Some choose spiritual reading and ritual.
Some choose time to write and express their inner inspiration.

Choose to spend just 5 minutes daily sitting quietly and listening to your own inner voice.
Make sure you write it down as you hear it, because all the outer distractions will cause you to forget.  When you learn to trust your inner guide, you will hear more clearly.
When you practice and follow through on what you hear, you will receive more direct guidance.

As in everything in life, practice makes perfect.
Initially you may make up things or hear what your personality self wants you to hear.
You may be distracted by questions and doubts, like: How is that possible? Or Why is that important?
You may simply resist what you hear as impossible or impractical and then hear less.

The work is to listen everyday as often as you are willing for the Highest Good for all concerned!
Take time to begin today.  
I have been listening within everyday for now 36 years.
The guidance you receive from your inner Self leads you always to fun, safe and easy living.

Blessings of Joy for you,
Betty Lue

Origin of Inner Listening
In 1976 it was suggested I sit and do nothing for just five minutes daily by a spiritual mentor/teacher.  I chose 5AM in the morning and immediately saw/felt and heard a vision of a Home of Infinite Love available to all people.  Over the years,  I have co-created many such Centers and Homes with the guidance of Spirit within. The next morning I brought a pad of paper and a pen to sit, and as I was simply breathing, I knew words were coming into my mind and I wrote them down.  When I later read them, I saw they had great spiritual meaning.  As an innocent, trusting and ‘True Believer’, I then quieted myself every morning and began to follow what I heard within.  My life became fun, safe, easy and miraculous in so many ways.  I learned, forgave and grew spiritually daily from every relationships.  This is was the origin of what I call “inner listening” and have taught to hundreds of willing learners over the last 30 years.
The Origin of emailed Loving Reminders
In the winter of 1998, having just moved back to the Bay Area in California, I asked Spirit within what was my purpose and calling.  I was invited to sit at the computer and write down my daily inner listening and send it to those who requested it of me.  Since Dec, 1998 I have  sat at my keyboard, everyday to write exactly what Spirit within guides.  I do not edit, correct spelling and embellish what I hear.  I simply send what is given to me to share with the now thousands around the world.
This is my inner listening given to all who choose to receive them.  Often it gives people what they need, practical spiritual and inspiring reminders, so they need not spend money on  hours of therapy or endless seeking for spiritual answers.  They seem to awaken and remind individuals who are willing and ready to change their lives for the Good of All.  I also have put many of the reminders into three little books, Loving Reminders, Peaceful Reminders and Relationship Reminders.  There are two other books waiting to be published, Healing and Healthy Reminders.  It is my joy to contribute to the healing and awakening of my spiritual family, all humanity.
May be all be benefited and blessed by every good and kind intention of everyone everywhere.
Blessed be. Betty Lue  “True B’Lue”
Remember: The blessings already are and we are now awakening to enjoy them.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Light, Light, More Light

When we have more light, we see more clearly.
When we receive more light, we know more nearly.
When we give more light, we love more dearly. 
Invite more Light and you will  recognize what is true and what is made up.

Every upset is a past similar.
Every upset is triggered by some ancient unhealed memory.
Every upset is revealing a wound left unattended and misunderstood.
When we do not see what is real, we cannot heal what is false.

Every fear, concern, worry, hurt, judgment, resentment, guilt has a cause in our minds.
We make up the reasons for it all, when there really is no cause other than our choice.
To perceive is to conceive and believe and receive what we have chosen unconsciously.
We see what we believe and want to see.  

To expose our mis-creations and misperceptions and misinterpretations is not what the ego wants.
We must acknowledge the resistance and do it anyway to clear the emotional/physical upset.
Our lives are projections of the unfinished business of history and humanity, yours, mine and ours.
We have the freedom and responsibility to clear it all with our willingness and spiritual work.

What we believe, we will see.
What we conceive and believe, we will achieve.
What we imagine, think and speak is being created.
What we forgive, erase, release and undo we clear and complete.

Awareness with non-judgment is healing.
First, Reveal what you want to heal.
Observe your emotional reactivity and you will see what you have imagined to be.
Observe with neutrality and you will see what you want to be.
Here is a process that works beautifully to see what needs our attention!

Write a page or more of:
The real reason I am upset (concerned, fearful, confused, hurting, etc) is:
Continue writing responses until you are empty inside, until there are not more.

Read them slowly back to yourself, crossing off whatever you know is not true.
Whatever responses are left are calling for clearing, healing, forgiving and undoing.

Look for common beliefs that infuse them all.
Ie. I am not enough.  Life is hard.  I am not capable or loveable.
Rewrite the script with a new affirmation of the Highest Truth.
I am overflowing with Goodness. 
Life is fun, safe and Easy. 
I am loveable and capable.

Write the new affirmation 20 times daily for 14 days or more, until there are no opposing thoughts.
If you have trouble finding the resisting belief or writing affirmations, email me and I will help.

You know you are clear when you no longer, judge, resent, blame, fear or get upset.
You know when you have healed the obstacle to peace, because you are at peace.
You know when you can easily take responsibility, forgive yourself and choose again.
This is the beginning of the end of emotional reactivity and the beginning of loving response ability.

Life is good and all is well.
Loving you,  
Betty Lue