Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Checking In!

I am willing to take responsibility for healing me.
I trust myself to love myself and love you the best I know.
I forgive myself for all mistakes of omission and commission.
I love myself as I am, mistakes and all.

We are the same, you and I.
We are all in this together.

I am checking in with me and you, too.
One person hurt or offended is a call to stop, look and listen within.
One person expressing anger or upset is a call to check in with ourselves.
One person feeling unheard or misunderstood is a wakeup call.

If everyone is a part of me, then true in-to-me-see (intimacy) is listening within to me.
I sometimes make mistakes and everything can be used for good.
I sometimes am too fast and everything is a wakeup call.
I sometimes am misunderstood and everything offers an opportunity to heal.

When either one of us says or does something that comes from fear, we are not clear.
When we make the mistake of not fully listening to the call for love, we may miss understand.
When I come from a spiritual thinking place, I may be misunderstood for not having compassion.
When you come from a human feeling place, you may feel you need to be heard and validated.

Life is an intriguing and complex sorting of thoughts, feelings, activities and ideas.
Human beings are often not really hearing or feeling themselves and their own needs.
The best we can do is to be our own best friend, listening and loving ourselves with compassion.
Each one of us comes from our own unique history, beliefs, experiences and choices.

On a rare occasion someone reaches me and teaches me to “Stop, look and listen.”
When anyone is upset, it is a call for love for me and from me to everyone.
And so I respond with the greatest Love I know….the Love of God..the Love of Good.
I do my very best and God does the rest, because in my heart my intention is only Good.

Everyone has wounds and touchy spots where without awareness we may push buttons.
When this happens to me, I pay attention and  stop, look within and listen to my need.
I heal myself without judging or blaming others, because I am responsible and able to respond to me.
When this happens to others, I forgive my lack of awareness and send them blessings for healing.

You see when you hurt, I hurt.
When you heal, I am healed.
When we work together to return to Love, we remember our wholeness.
And for this and so much more, I give thanks.

Truly loving you with all the awareness in myself,
Betty Lue

The Gift You Are
You are the gift.

In your healing, I am healed.

In your smiling, I find joy.

In your learning, I am filled with wisdom.

In your free expressions, I am empowered.

In your abundance, I too prosper.

In your spontaneity, I am set free.

In your joy, I know heaven.

And so it is that you give your Self to me

And I receive you with love and gratitude.

I am the gift I give to You

And I fully receive the gift I freely give.

As I know You, I know my Self.

As I give to you, I receive all good.

As I support you, I am supported by the Universe.

As I honor and respect you, I experience gratitude in all my being.

As I love you, I am loving all of God's creation.

I know you and believe in you.

I honor, respect and support you in being.

In you and me is all the Universe.

We are gifts to one another.

- Betty Lue, 1992

Monday, September 29, 2014

What Is Real?

I Love the ability to create, undo and recreate my life experiences.
I use forgiveness and affirmation to awaken to the power of thought.
I live, love, learn, laugh and let go easily.
Life is a projection from my mind.

Is your life drama real?
Are your feelings real?
Is this world real?
Does anything stay the same?

What if what is lasting and eternal is the only Real reality.
Imagine that what we see and hear, feel and trust is not lasting.
What if everything in this “reality” is always changing and rearranging itself.
What are we to do with what we experience as true?

Let’s see how we can respond with an eraser filled with Love.
Let us see what happens when we release our judgments.
Let us see how everything changes when we forgive.
Let us recognize how our misperceptions keep us stuck.

Trust forgiveness will set us free.
See that judgments keep us stuck.
When we keep repeating the same stuff, maybe we will say “Uncle, This is enough.”
“Reality” is ever changing because it is not real and lasting and true.

Forgiveness and Love allow us to see what is “Real in Reality”.
When what we see is healed and forgiven, we begin to see rightly.
When we stop naming what we do not want, we begin to see the experience we seek.
When we cease claiming what we do not like, we begin to allow all things to work together.

Consider our thoughts, words and deeds are creating and recreating what seems to be.
Consider that you and I are experiencing the “reality” we choose, perceive and judge.
Consider when we choose again for what we want to be, we beginning to create our chosen “reality”.
Consider life is teaching us what we want to be as our real experience of “reality”

If I want what I experience to be undone, I need to change my mind.
If I am ready to let go of my past and seek peace and happiness, I can delete what used to be.
If I am aware of what is right and true for me, I can create my own true reality.
Changing my thoughts changes my experience and my “reality”.

If this seems confusing to those who see their “truth” as the only reality, blessed be.
If this shines a light on what you want to see, let us begin to transform our reality.
If this is a “right=on” of what you already know, let it be so.
If this is an awakening to what truly can be, begin today to enjoy and affirm your reality.

Loving you and affirming my life is my chosen reality
Betty Lue
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Sunday, September 28, 2014

Meaning in Life

I love my life and my life loves me.
 I choose to treat my whole life with respect and appreciation.
The more I value and appreciate my life, the more meaning I experience.
 I  give meaning and value to everything I think, say and do.

What do you value?
What is important to you?
Where do you contribute?
How do you give?

Purpose gives meaning.
Meaning inspires life.
Life energy feels valuable.
What is valuable sustains us.

And so it is to live with meaning is essential to all life.
Do you live to survive or thrive?
Do you live to defend or feel safe?
Do you live to get by or prosper?

When we know what we value, we can find meaning.
We can give everything we do and say the meaning we give it.
We give meaning to what we value.
When we do not value ourselves and our lives, life is meaningless.

Connect with people who have found meaning in life.
Notice the compassion they have for those around them.
Feel the passion they feel for being helpful and caring.
Be aware of how they spend their rime, money and energy.

Take time to clarify what you value.
Pay attention to the people, places and things you value most.
Give more of yourself to what you value.
When you contribute, you find more meaning in life.

Give to your health if you value health.
Give to your family, if you value family.
Invest in your financial future if you value abundance.
Give to your environment, if you value the earth and its bounty.

Where you give, you will receive the benefit.
When you give, your life has meaning.
How you give, you feel the passion.
Contribution is how we find and receive meaning.

When life is meaningless, you feel empty, disconnected and alone.
When your life is meaningful, you feel fulfilled, connected and at one.
Bless yourself by contributing to a meaningful and purposeful life.
Value your life and you will know your are valuable.

Valuing you in all you are and do, 
Betty Lue
Everything I do is a gift to me and you!

I give meaning, purpose and value my life.

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Ready for Harmony?

I give always and only my best.
I share the peace I have within me.
I trust that all things work together for Good.
May my thoughts, words and deeds bring harmony to my world.

Yes, it is possible to live together in peace.
Yes, you can have harmony in your home.
Yes, two people can have no fighting.
Yes, you can stay in Love.

When you believe in fighting, there will be fighting.
When you expect arguments, there will be arguments.
When you know families don’t get along, you will be correct.
Because what you believe, you will receive and achieve.

What you expect, you will accept.
What you doubt, will come about.
What you endure, you will make sure.
Everything we think will be, we seek to see.

People want to be “right”, and will defend and justify to prove themselves “right”.
Even when they say they want something else, they often create what they expect.
So perhaps it is time for you to undo what you no longer want to be true!
Make a list of what you want to experience in an ideal relationship, home and family.

The work begins with your ideal vision written down and remembered daily.
I choose to have and give my ideal self to create my ideal relationships.
The next step is letting go of every thought, feeling, behavior and memory that interferes.
I gently and respectfully undo and release all that brings negativity into my life.

It is your Peace of mind that brings harmony.
It is your willingness to let go of stubbornness and needing to be right that creates openness.
It is your trust  in letting go of your opinions and advice and listening that brings understanding.
It is your respect for others’ thoughts, feelings, behavior and difference that gives Peace.

Give yourself to Love and Love will come to you.
Honor the call for peace and harmony by being peaceful too!
Trust in the Love and appreciation that guides your way.
Remember always to forgive first and listen for how to respond with Love.

Do what is right and true and Loving.
Don’t wait for them to do the right thing.
You are the One to conscious and willing One.
You know the way: JUST DO IT!

See a few reminders below. If you want to receive more, let me know.
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If you don’t have money, email me and I will send one to you.
Your peace and harmony are important to your health, happiness and your whole life.

We are the same, you and I.
We are all in this together.
Now is our time to step up.
Let us be willing to respond with  Goodness and Love.

Betty Lue

If you care about creating better relationships, begin to practice improving yourself.
It only takes one to make a difference......and that one is YOU!
See the Commandments below as well.  
Focus on one at a time and practice in All your relationships.
Ask for additional help from me when you need it.
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships
 Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honesty- Communicate your true intention without secrets or withholds.

Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each moment.

Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both parties.

Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.

Successful Relationships

To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.

Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.

Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.

Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.  Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.  To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.

Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.  Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned.  One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.

Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.  Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.

To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.

To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.

If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way.  You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.

Blessings for choosing a better way,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for Successful Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner, family or child to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationships.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,  

Betty Lue