Too Good to Be True

Bad things happen to Good people.
Yes, I have been lied to, cheated, and stolen from.
Yes, I have been attacked, criticized, and hurt.
Yes, I have been used, betrayed and rejected.
Yes, I have been blind-sided and derailed.
Yes, I have experienced infidelity, abuse and disrespect.
Yes, I have known bankruptcy, divorce, and violence.
Yes, I have known guilt, fear, worry and depression.
Yes, I have made mistakes, and committed what some call sin.
(I do not linger in any of these experiences. Judgment gets us stuck and forgiveness sets us free.)

Yes, I am glad to have known these and other states of human experience.
It is not only possible but predictable that in this world of learning, we all will have an opportunity to experience life as a human experience.
There are negative and positive experiences in a duality.
Here we can learn from both the bad and the good.
My holy work is to forgive my judgments and perceive the gift of learning or unlearning.
Often my holy work has been to remove my judgment from the experience and simply perceive what is. When seen without judgment, life offers me opportunities to love no matter what or to fear and reject some things and some people and to embrace and attract some events and some people. I believe that what life gives us is a series of wakeup calls, choices of how we choose to live and give and express and create. I constantly am in process choosing not to lose my way, but rather to reaffirm the path of Love I have chosen. I constantly reaffirm that this is a learning lab in which I am not a victim of the world I see, but rather an interactive creator of my experience. I have the power to co-create my perceptions, my response and my ultimate learning. I am aware that how I choose to perceive and respond have a powerful effect on those who are within my paradigm. If I am blaming, others feel guilty and may withdraw or become blaming. If I forgive erase and release, I offer the opportunity for the other to do the same. We all are given a blank canvas on which to begin again to create the life we want or we can constantly paint over the old perspective with a new version of the old story.

When things seem to go wrong, I ask these questions of myself.
Am I willing to stop, look and listen within?
How can I be response-able?
How can I respond with love?
What can I correct or change?
What can I learn from this?

I use my own mind as a tool to interpret, to clarify, to understand.
I use my attitude to affirm, accept and appreciate the value in all things.
I use my Essence the Love that I am to contribute the Good I know at all times.
I give the best I have. I teach the love I know. I forgive so that I can love unconditionally.
This brings me happiness and peace. This is the foundation from which I live and give and be.
This is good for me.

Loving you is loving me and sets us both free to be the Love we are.
Betty Lue

More Light

The longest days of the year offer more light.
Metaphysically more light means seeing more of what we have created.
More light means seeing more of what we may not want to see.
More light means more awareness of long ago buried or hidden memories.
More light means looking at unconscious and conscious omissions and commissions.
More light means being able to clear our guilt and regret.
More light means seeing and forgiving others’ errors.
More light means more insight and understanding.
More light means opportunities to see what needs still to be done.
More light means staying awake.
More light means dispelling the ghosts of the past.
More light means disappearing the skeletons in our closets.
More light means seeing what really is.
More light is essential to clearing the obstacles to Perfect Love.

Here at the apex of the sun shining its warmth and light on us,
we are given the opportunity to see and clear more obstacles to the fullness of our own Unlimited Light and Love.

We may be finding ourselves haunted by some past event or unfinished business.
We may be remembering how we forgot to fully love someone who mattered to us.
We may see where we lost our direction and left our own path.
We may be awakened to how we could have handled a negative situation differently.
We may see what errors we have made in our communication or withholding communication.
We may see where we missed the boat and blamed someone else.
We may see a pattern of avoiding conflict or wimping out on our true values.
We may recognize that someone we dislike is just like us.
We may notice that the world needs our help when we thought this world was here to help us.
We may also see with delight how we have given so much love.
We may see how we have been blessed.
We may celebrate how far we have come.
We may appreciate how we have forgiven, healed and created a good life.
We may give thanks for those who have gone before us.
We may be grateful for our friends and family from whom we have learned.
We may enjoy the fullness of each day with it’s surprises and powerful learnings.

I am aware that when I am lost, confused, unclear or conflicted, I need only ask and receive more Light.
I will be filled with insight, awareness and clarity to make the highest and best choices for all concerned.

Let us dedicate this and every day to more light within ourselves and our lives.
Remember:
We provide the warmth and light in which all can grow into the magnificent Beings we are meant to be.

Let your Whole and Holy Light shine,
Betty Lue

Father’s Day

All of us have a father within us.
How we define our father creates how we see ourselves provided for and valued by our world.
How we see ourselves in relationship with our father generates how we unconsciously relate to ourselves.
If we were ignored, we may ignore ourselves.
If we were abused, we may abuse ourselves.
If we were admired, we may admire ourselves.
If our father always encouraged us to do better, we may push ourselves to do better.
(The same is true of our relationship with our mother.)

Are you similar to your father?
Are you rebelling against your father?
Do you identify with your physical father or your spiritual father?
Is there a male figure with whom you identify or use as your role model?
How have you chosen the men in your life as partners, friends and lovers?
What are your goals for yourself?
What do you need to do to be provided for well?
What is your real work in this world?
What are your work ethics?
How hard to you think you need to work to provide for your responsibilities?
Do you believe your father cares for you and looks out for you?
Do you believe it is possible to provide for yourself, easily and happily?
Can you see how our father’s beliefs about provision may unconsciously program us to feel the same about making money, earning a living, working hard, struggling and sacrifice?

What we think of our father and what he thought of us often determines our relationship with the world.
If we were admired and told we could do anything we wanted, it is very likely we have believed that prophecy. If we were negated, ignored and put down, it is likely we find ourselves in similar situations.

Our programming from our physical parents often is limiting, because our parents may have been limited.
We are now in need of new models and new programming. Before we can let go of what is not so, we must recognize what it is that we are releasing. To wash our minds clear of limiting beliefs, we must become aware of the content and author of those beliefs. To free ourselves and our parents is a life work. Recognizing and erasing what is merely a belief passed on through the generations frees everyone to be unlimited in choices and life scripts. We literally are forgiving and freeing past generations of misbelief.

When you identify with an unlimited Spiritual Father, Creator, Source and Provider, you can get the picture and model of Unlimited Presence, Unlimited Provision, Unlimited Creative Potential. If you believe you are unworthy, ignored and rejected by God, the ultimate Father, you will not accept your inheritance, being created in the likeness and image of the One you see as your true parent. This is one of the values of recognizing our parents are merely temporary guardians, not the Creative Force in our universe.

Bless all the fathers and mothers as the children of God we are.
Bless all the daughters and sons as the children of God we are.
Bless all the people of this earth as the unlimited creative potential we are.
All of us the same, created in the likeness and image of the Infinite, Abundant and all-loving presence, we are here name and claim our inheritance.
This is the day to undo what is not true.
This is the day to affirm what is, was and will be our Truth forever.
We can forgive and erase past false programming and limiting historical perspectives.
We can choose and affirm the Truth that is ours forever.

Thank you to the fathers and forefathers who set us free to fully be our whole and Holy selves.
Thank you to our fathers and forefathers who created nations and communities and homes in which each and everyone is free to create for ourselves the goodness, wholeness and beauty that is within us.
Thank you to our fathers and forefathers for living and giving the best they knew within their own belief.
Thanks to ourselves for being willing to be free and abundant, happy and creative.

Blessed be,
Betty Lue

Who Is Failing Here?

Is the world failing us?
Are we failing ourselves?
Are we here to succeed in the world?
Are we here to find and master our own life journey?
Are we here to win worldly prizes by identifying and living worldly values?
Are we here to enjoy lasting happiness by living in integrity with spiritual principle?
Is money, fame and power the ultimate goal or is peace, love and lasting happiness?
Are we here to achieve accolades and the approval of others?
Are we here to let go of external rewards and find fulfillment within?
Are we willing to do what the world teaches us because we believe in the world?
What is real? Is it what the majority believe in?
What is real? Is it what is lasting and True through time and eternity?
What matters? Growing up and finding our way in alignment with our True Identity?
What matters? Winning the race against time and beating others in wealth, youth and conquest?
Are we graded based on how much we learn or how we practice what we know?
Is there a grading system in spiritual mastery or only pass-fail?
Can we graduate without being the best? Can we do good without others noticing?

We seem to be at a crossroads in our evolution where we can grow up and take full responsibility or continue to blame someone else for our dilemma. Maybe our wars, bankruptcy and disease are not due to other’s attacking us, but rather our strategy of attack and defend, take and accumulate, strive without gratitude.

What would happen to each one of us, if we would choose to follow the path of our heart, to live happily doing, giving and creating what was most enjoyable and peaceful for us?
What would happen if we were willing to live within our means on less not more, simply rather than creating complexity, honoring ourselves rather than seeking what isn’t ours, helping and serving rather than conquering or selling?

Life seems to be a moment by moment choice to fear or to love, to take or to give, or die or to live.
Life seems to be the opportunity to destroy or create, to hang on or let go, to strive or to flow.
Life seems to be the chance to stay asleep or wake up, to blend in or stand out, to withhold or contribute.
Life seems to offer the possibility of acquiring knowledge or wisdom, failed dreams or fulfillment,
Bitterness and guilt or forgiveness and faith, prizes and toys or inner peace and lasting joy.

I know from counseling, teaching and helping thousands of unique beings from every walk of life that each one is on our own path of mastery, our own sacred journey home.
It seems we each are wherever we are not by chance but by Divine appointment, to learn and earn whatever experience can be best utilized by our Higher Self to help us wakeup and realize tour True nature and the reason for our being.
It seems that the more we surrender and unlearn our errant beliefs and undo our limited programming, the more we free our minds to remember what is true and good and whole within us.
The more we forgive our self judgment, the more we can perceive the limitless possibilities within ourselves as we contribute our lives to serve only the highest good for all.

Let us commit to succeed at living and giving our gifts of Love and Joy and Peace in all we do wherever we are.

Loving us all,
Betty Lue

Helping Others Succeed

They should know what I want.
They should know how to make me happy.
They should know what I like.
They should know how to be loving and kind.

When people succeed at meeting our needs and satisfying our wants, they are more likely to try again.
When students know how to pass the tests, they are more likely to study and do well again.
When spouses know exactly what we want for dinner and can prepare it, they are encouraged to do more.
When our children accomplish the chores we ask and receive our appreciation, they want to do more.

Likewise, when people fail at meeting the requirements, they are less likely to try again.
When students fail their exams, they are less likely to enjoy studying to pass.
When spouses try and fail to please us, they are more likely to stop trying.
When children are criticized for what they do, they are less likely to do more chores without pressure.

Our work is to give people as much responsibility as they can successfully handle.
We need to ascertain how much each individual can do and they make sure they experience a success.
We need to treat people as they want to be treated to succeed.
Often men need very specific directions for activities that women take for granted.
Often our partners need to know exactly what we want for our birthday and the store in which to shop.
Often children need us to be clear and specific, even writing out our rules and agreements until we are clear they understand and can succeed.

When we ask someone to do something for us and they fail, it is our responsibility.
Forgive and choose again. Forgive and look within. Forgive and ask them how to help them succeed. Forgive and seek spiritual direction. Forgive and remember how you prefer to be treated when you fail.
We must ensure success with out employees, our children and our partners by offering the best we know.

It may be difficult to know what to do in a world which is failing.

Success breeds success.
Betty Lue

Graduation

Life is a university.
We are enrolled in daily classes supporting our freedom and fulfillment or our entrapment and depletion. We choose the lessons we learn.
We are here to remember.
We are here to return to Love.
We are not handed the answers to the tests and challenges we attract to ourselves.
We are here to learn.
We can use spiritual principle to understand and respond or we can rely on our learned judgments, defensiveness and fear .
We can re-create the same challenges again and again in different forms ,until we come to peace.
When we are at peace, we understand and are released from repeating what is complete.

Life offers opportunities to remember what is True.
Life offers opportunities to unlearn what is false.
Life offers choices in which we can celebrate and enjoy or condemn and dread.
Life is a school of our creation…to return to what is already written within us.
We all will wakeup and remember.
We all graduate.

When we learn how to forgive, undo, and perceive what is real, we graduate and celebrate.
When we give up our need to do it “right”, we give up the fight to perfection, wealth and security.
When we unlearn our desire to “win” and invite in the freedom of non-judgment, we create peace.
‘All things work together for Good’ doesn’t guarantee that all things in this world are good.
It does guarantee that when seen “rightly”, all things can be used for the Good of All.
Everything is either a call to wakeup and Love again or a gift of Love to be received with gratitude.

When we come from our heart, when we open our minds, when we listen within, we condemn nothing.
When we erase judgments, we perceive the lesson being learned, the miracle of forgiveness.
When we condemn nothing and forgive everything, love flows.
When love flows, happiness grows.
When happiness grows, we trust in Good.
When we trust in Good, we offer Goodness and mercy.
When we offer Goodness and mercy, we receive the blessing of our offering.
When we receive the Goodness we give, we are filled with Goodness.
When we are fulfilled with Abundant Goodness, we are rich in Spirit and in Joy.
When we are rich in Spirit and in Joy, we are at peace.
When we are at peace, we graduate.

I am loving you,
Betty Lue

Self Image

How we see ourselves is communicated to others.
How we see ourselves is how others learn to see us.
How we see ourselves is what we remind ourselves to be.
How we see ourselves sets the tone for how we are treated by our world.

The image we hold in our minds is communicated through our thoughts, our words and our actions.
The image we have for ourselves is relayed through our body, posture, tone of voice, and eye contact.
The image we hold of ourselves is broadcast through our dress, hairstyle, and way we communicate.
When we see ourselves as magnificent, whole and abundant we let the world know.
When we see ourselves a limited, lacking and needy, our world gets the message.

When we respect ourselves, we teach others to respect us.
When we love ourselves, we teach others to love us.
When we appreciate ourselves, we teach others how to be appreciative.
When we like who we are and how we look, we teach others to like us.

The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect me.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect myself.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect others.

How do you see yourself
Physically?
Mentally?
Spiritually?
Financially?
In relationships?

Do you see yourself as successful or a failure, a creator or a victim, abundant or lacking?
How do you want others to see you?
What message are you sending to others?
Where are you in conflict, in self deception or giving mixed messages?
What do you need to forgive, heal or undo in your own self image?
When you forgive your past experiences, what is the Truth about you?
When you remember you are as God created you, whole and happy and free, how will others see y ou?

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What is Real?

We are created to be creative.
We are created to be free.
When we are creative and free, remembering the Love we are, we create only Love.
When we judge our creations as right or wrong, we create the possibility of mis-creation.
This world is an experience in which we have projected our belief in good and evil.
The worldly experience is a temporary experience of complexity, judgment, and duality.
This worldly experience represents our belief in “not God”.
When we believe in what is “not Good” we see “not good.
When we judge things, we make what we judge real.
When we believe we are betrayed, we see betrayal and the possibility thereof.
When we believe in error, we perceive and create error.
This worldly experience is a screen on which we project our beliefs and mis-beliefs.
The world we see is a world of “apparency” or illusion, in which we interpret everything.
When we value our beliefs, we hold them in place to be re-created and seen again.
When we forgive our beliefs, we release our judgments and allow Light and Love into our minds.
When we condemn, we make real that which we condemn, like holding a prisoner hostage.
When we let go of fear, we allow love to cleanse, to heal, to erase what is not real.

Forgiveness is a tool to erase all mis-creations.
Forgiveness allows the release of misperceptions.
Forgiveness opens our minds to our creative potential.
Forgiveness frees us from our own self-made pain and condemnation.
Forgiveness is a key to freedom and to happiness.
Forgiveness is the mental cleanser which clears the obstacles to love.
Forgiveness is the gift we give ourselves to free ourselves to choose again.

Consider beginning each day writing and saying 30 forgivenesses daily to free your mind.
Consider then writing and speaking 30 choices to create with God for Good.
Consider ending your day with 30 gratitudes to celebrate the beauty and bounty of your co-creation.
Consider the possibility that this is all life is for---to remove all obstacles to the freedom to create.
Consider the magnificent and abundant joy that we will know when we only create for the Good of All.

Creating this day with the Love of God,
Betty Lue

Through the Eyes of a Child

The world is a place of adventure, love and happiness.
Everyone is kind is a safe place of comfort and peace.
Life is meant to be lived fully and freely.
Go until there is no more energy and you have to stop.
Play with anyone who will play with you.
Look for what makes things work.
“Princesses” and special people know us and will talk with us.
Be careful of places that are dark or sound “creepy”.
Laugh and giggle whenever you can.
Eat only cold things that are chocolate and things that are warm and chocolate
Make sure you win and the loser wants to play again.
Hug and kiss and tell your Dad you love him to get what you want.
Stand up really tall when you have to be tall to go on the ride.
Be really small and cuddley when you want to be carried.
Look for crayons to draw something when you are bored.
Ask for help only when you simply can’t do it yourself.
Know you are beautiful whether your hair is brushed or not.
Find a way to have fun and forget about the pain you felt two minutes ago.
Cry when you are sad or tired to make sure someone cares.
Run if you don’t have to walk or sit still.
Always find something to climb to as tall as the grownups.
Look for ways we can help to make someone smile.
Sing as loudly as you can and maybe you can get everyone to sing, too.

This sounds like something we all could do.
Maybe we can let go of our “adulterations”.
Let’s just be kids and know we are loved.

I love you Gia for being a profound teacher of innocence.
“And the little child shall lead us.”

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Last Day of School

(Taking Gia to Disneyland with Robert and her Dad this weekend)

Today 6/11 Gia’s last day of kindergarten.
She has had an awesome year due to wonderful Kid’s Care before and after her afternoon kindergarten. She has had three great classroom teachers. with adventures in art, science, music, drama, reading, writing, math, friendship and so much more. Her classroom is a glorious array of every child’s success displayed in every corner. We went to the Kindergarten kid’s musical concert two weeks ago.

What a special time for her to be learning and growing at a public school that actually believes and lives their own mission. From the principal on down they intend every child to leave sixth grade knowing that all things are possible. Whether the teacher’s requests of the administration or the kid’s requests of the teachers, everyone is heard and responded to with respect and support to make their dreams come true. The PTA raises money to keep the library open longer hours. When funding is short, they raise money to buy what is needed. Everyone is encouraged to make a difference. They are making a difference in children’s lives. They make a difference in the community. They make a difference to each family.

Every child deserves to be at a school where the teachers support the kids, the administration supports the teachers, the school board supports the administration and the community supports the school board. Everyone makes a difference, from the custodian and cafeteria worker to the principal and school secretary. You and I can do so much to raise our children in loving caring environments.

Give each child and every child the right to dream.
Give each child and every child the opportunity to live their dream.
Give each child and every child both freedom and responsibility.
Give each child and every child encouragement and nurturing.
Give each child and every child hope for the future of a better world.
Give each child and every child a cleaner environment and healthy food.
Give each child and every child better programming on TV and video games.
Give each child and every child relationships which are respectful and compassionate.
Give each child and every child your time, your consideration and your sincere caring.
Give each child and every child an opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings.
Give each child and every child the smiles, hugs and quiet time they so much need.
Give each child and every child a safe place to rest at night knowing their basic needs will be happily met.
Give each child and every child the love, understanding, forgiveness and consideration you would want.
Give each child and every child your very best..even if you have never met before.
Children live up to our expectations when they are loved.
Let us expect their best and love them with our best.
We will all win……

Loving each child and every child.
Betty Lue

Love No Matter What

Life is a gamble.
Love is a risk.
Faith restores the promise of Goodness.

Who do you trust?
How do you trust?
What have you let defeat you?
Who have you allowed to deplete you?
What can you do to be true to you?

Is your attitude the result of your worldly experiences?
Or do you create the happiness you seek from within?
Is your energy the result of how people treat you?
Or can you treat people with respect and kindness anyway?

Do you trust in the world’s idiosyncracies and uncertainty?
Do you trust that all people will give their best all the time?
Do you trust that everyone’s promises will be kept?
Do you assure yourself that you and others will never make a mistake?
Do you believe people will do what they say and know what they are doing?
Do you make up that leaders should always make good decisions?
Are you sure that life will be generous and helpful and forgiving?
Sounds good, but is it what you are here to trust?

I am a believer.
I am trusting and trustworthy.
I am generous and kind.
I am unselfish and helpful.
I am forgiving and committed to love no matter what.
And I have made mistakes.
I have been foolish and ignorant.
I have made choices without due consideration.
I have promised what I cannot give.
I have left when others wanted me to stay.
I have not always fulfilled my commitments.
I have expended money and time needlessly.

And I trust myself and I trust You.
I trust the Good in me and the Good in you.
I believe in the power of Love to heal all things.
I know there is a world beyond this world where all are equal in the eyes of God.
I feel how good it is to forgive all mistakes and love again.
I choose to give my best so I can encourage you to do your best.
I value speaking my heartfelt truth and listen to yours with my heart open to you.
I am learning to forgive ignorance, neediness, greediness, mistakes, unkindness and disrespect.
I am willing to forgive irresponsibility, irreverence, violent thoughts and actions.
I am trusting that like me, we are here to learn to forgive this insane world of separation and attack.
I believe that we are here together to remember what it is to let go and love again no matter what.
I know that as I forgive wrongdoing and ignorance and believe in goodness and mercy, I feel happy.
I find my wholeness and strength, my courage and generosity in achieving an inner state of wholeness by perceiving the wholeness and holiness in you and everyone everywhere.
Yes, It requires faith…but I am here to strengthen my faith.
Yes, it requires trust, but I am here to perfect my trust in God and that essential Goodness in which and for which we are all created.
Yes, it requires hope, lighting my path with the miracle of forgiveness, clearing all judgments, all regrets and all guilt, so I can return to LOVE.

I am here to Love You anyway.
After all is said and done.
It is only Love that heals me and you and our world.
And I am here to be a Healing Presence.
Therefore I choose to LOVE NO MATTER WHAT.

Loving us all anyway we are,
Betty Lue

Communication Is Key

What do we communicate to ourselves?
What is communicated by how we think, how we interact and how we care for ourselves?
Do we smile at ourselves in the mirror?
Do we avoid making eye contact?
Do we appreciate the good job our whole body and mind does for us each day?
Do we honestly attend to our needs as they appear?
Do we listen to and acknowledge our feelings?
Are we reassuring and responsive to what is really important to us?
How can we expect others to treat us with respect and love, if we don’t love and respect ourselves?

How do we communicate with others?
Do we treat others with respect?
Do we make it safe for them to share honestly with us?
Are we really listening to what others say about their thoughts and feelings?
Are we open and honest in our communications without criticizing?
Are we appreciative of what others give to the best of their ability?
Do we really keep sacred quality time for those we love?
Do we smile and touch with kindness?
Are we giving in our relationships or needy and demanding?
Are we consistent in our responses rather than moody or changeable?
How can we teach others to treat us consciously with trust and respect when we offer others less than our best?

In everything we think and say and do, we are reminding ourselves and others how we want to love and be loved.
We can forgive ourselves for giving less than our best.
We can forgive ourselves for not knowing how to love and be loved.
We can look for role models and learn.
We can explore and experiment consciously with those who will support our healing and growth.
We can be courageous enough to admit that we are ignorant and want to learn.
We can each day give ourselves a little more attention, a little more respect, a little more support.

After all, this is life.
All of us are learning and growing in our willingness and ability to LOVE ourselves and all others.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Does One Life Matter?

Does your little life matter?
Are you just a drop in the bucket?
Do you ignore yourself and pay attention to others?
Are you feeling lost and alone?
Are you sure that you don’t count?
Have you noticed lately those who need you?
Can you see a world crying for love?
Have you heard a child screaming for comfort?
Can you see the face of the lonely?
Have you walked past the homeless man with his hand out?
Have you had someone knock on your door for a donation?
Have you heard people sigh in resignation?
Have you walked past someone who looked lost and afraid?
Have you noticed the elderly or infirm needing some help?

My life matters because I choose to make a difference.
My life matters because I look for how I can be helpful.
My life matters because I smile at those who look my way.
My life matters because I ask if I can help those who are lost.
My life matters because I care about you and you and you.
My life matters and yours does too!

Every call I get.
Every email that comes my way.
Everyone who needs my help.
Everyone who receives the love and wisdom I share.
Everyone who gives to others knowing we are one.
Everyone who leaves their world a better place.
Everyone who dries a tear.
Everyone who calms a fear.
Everyone who gives to someone in need.
Everyone who offers a better way.
Everyone who gives what is in their heart.
Everyone who joins me in giving.
Everyone who demonstrates forgiveness.
Everyone who is really living.
You, all of you and each one of you, matter to me.
No one left out… No child left behind.
No love not given.
No words of encouragement unshared.
No laughter held in.
No lights turned down in fear.
No locks on the doors to my home or my heart.
You are welcome here.

Let it be known and shown…We all matter here.
Betty Lue

Dis-Ease

What is mental and physical dis-ease?

What I have come to believe may not be what you believe.
This does not make me right and you wrong.
This does not mean anything, except that right now… this is what I have come to believe.
I may change in this lifetime and I may not.
I do not make any of your beliefs wrong.
It is important to me that I not impose my beliefs on you.
I am giving you an opportunity to look at what is “True for you right now.
Many of us get stuck in a belief we learned from our ancestors or the “authorities” in our life.
Some of us believe what is popular or fits within our culture.
Some choose to believe what “science” tells us, perhaps science too is shaped by our beliefs.
If you are uncertain about what to believe, study, explore, experiment and listen for what resonates.
Also be open to entertain what seems antithetical to your current beliefs.
I never try to make others change their beliefs.
I am not here to argue or convince.
I am here to share when and as I am called from within.
If what I say offends you or hurts you, know that it is yours to let go, to forgive and heal.
If what I say is not “right for you, for Goodness sake, please let it go.

This is in response to someone who felt I may believe in mental illness as described in the DSM diagnostic manual for psychologists and psychiatrists. However, this email may also be for you who have different beliefs than I do.
Respect yourself. Your thoughts, feelings, choices and beliefs are yours to choose.
My work here is to respectfully awaken us all to look again, to listen within, to honor what is “true for us and let go of what is no longer healthy or valuable.

Dis-ease is lack of peace and lack of flow.
Where there is fear and judgment, there is constriction and a block in the flow of life-giving energy.
Where there is lack of flow, there is the absence of health and therefore di-sease.
I believe that our physiology is strengthened with love and forgiveness.
I believe our immune system is weakened with hate and fear and defensiveness.
I believe where we are afraid, our thoughts become distorted, clouded with confusion and assumptions.
What we believe we see.
What we expect, we look for.
We are responsible for our thoughts and our words and our actions.
When we believe in external cause, we relinquish our ability to respond, to choose again and change our minds and our behavior.
When we put fear into our own minds so that we cannot think clearly and react to what appears to be, we are confused and feel victimized.
In reactivity, there is limitation of response.
In fear, there is a lack of options, limitation of response and feeling weak and unable.

I use affirmations and forgiveness to remind myself of the power and presence within to change my mind, to clear the fear, to unblock the flow. I personally only choose outside help that affirms my ability to choose again and supports me in making the changes and choices which are truly healthy and highest and best for me.
As coach, counselor and friend, I provide the same for those who come to me for assistance and support. My beliefs come from my personal experimentation and observing others reports of their experiences.
I have studied, experimented and explored many options, as I seek what works.
I encourage you to do the same.

Betty Lue

PS
When I experienced natural child birth in 1965, I was so excited I wanted to sell the world on what I believed was the best for mother and child. I quickly learned (within a few months) how ignorant I was to believe that this was the best way for everyone.
I continue to respect each individual’s right and responsibility to choose for themselves.

PSS
If you want to continue your own course of study for conscious healing and empowerment, read and study:
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Mastery by George Leonard
Illusions by Richard Bach
Dynamic Laws of Healing by Catherine Ponder

When We Love

The more we notice how good life is, the “gooder” it gets.

Life is good and gets even better, when we love it.

Our friends are wonderful and become even more wonderful with our loving them.
Our partnerships are powerful and become even more potent, as we acknowledge them.
Our creativity is unlimited and we become ever more creative, as we appreciate it.
Our body’s are amazing and becomes even healthier, the more we enjoy them.
Our finances are good and get even more abundant, when we are grateful.
Our work is good and gets even more helpful, the more we appreciate it.
Our country is great and is enjoyed more fully, when we feel blessed to live here.
Our presence is healing and becomes ever more healing, as we value our intrinsic healing ability.

Our lives are our most creative project.
The more we affirm them, the more wondrous they become.
Our lives are our greatest contribution.
The more we value them, the more we contribute.
Our Presence is our most powerful asset.
The more we esteem our Being, the more magnificent we are.

Valuing the creativity and perfection of our whole lives,
Betty Lue

Nutrition or Indigestion?

I remember when I tried to feed people what I thought was best for them.
I remember when I thought I knew what was best.
I remember when I thought I was not judging.
I remember when I thought my thoughts were not judgments.
I remember when I believed I was trying to help and fix you for your own good.
I remember when I thought I knew.
I remember.

When we discover something wonderful, healing and freeing for ourselves, we want everyone to have a big helping. We believe we are loving them. “This is good for you, Dear.” If you love me, you will eat everything I have fixed for you.” When we go to an MD, a therapist, a consultant or counselor, we are paying for another’s expertise. We are asking for their help and more often their agreement. When they give us what we want, we take it and hope for a cure. When they give us what we don’t want, we may say “no thanks” and go find someone who gives us what we want to hear..
Remember when I have not asked for help, I may not want help.

I don’t try to feed people when they are not hungry.
I don’t try to teach people who are not willing to learn.
I don’t offer what is not requested.
I don’t go where I am not wanted.
I don’t give what is not gratefully received.

There may be a small group of people who are called into our lives to learn from us and with us.
There may be a few people who want to receive our gifts of life experience and worldly knowledge.
There may be some who seek our counsel and spiritual direction.

When you are called, ask for spiritual guidance to give what others can receive and digest.
(Every mother knows how frustrating it is to cook a big meal for those who don’t care or who will est what they want anyway.)

I love you and me as we see what works.
When we love, we want to give everything we have.
When we love, we can learn to trust others and free them to follow their own path to explore their own territory in their own time.
When we find someone in our territory seeking our wisdom, I simply share with respect.
Remember we can always teach others best by serving ourselves well.

Loving you and me,
Betty Lue

Life is a Learning Laboratory

Each one of us is in this university of life seeking to graduate.
Each one of us has lessons to be learned.
Each one of us looks upon school with a totally different perspective.
Some are eager and excited.
Some dread the next lessons.
Some are trying to hide from anything new.
Some want to achieve and be the best.
Some want instant success without doing the work.
Some want to skip to the next level before their homework is done.
Some try to get done without helping anyone.
Some want to pass without any tests.
Some make it harder than it needs to be.
Some have fun with whatever comes.
Some just wish they could get out of here and graduate now.

I love to learn for the sake of learning.
I am happy about discovering each new message and possibility as they come.
When I am fearful or resistant to the learning, there seems to be pain or conflict.
When I am receptive and grateful for what comes, I learn with ease and grace.

Resistance to learning seems to cause pain, discomfort and suffering.
Acceptance of learning seems to bring happiness, gratitude and fulfillment.

Those who seek to leave life quickly often have not accepted what is their own game plan.
They may not want to learn the lessons they set before them.
They may discover that the lessons requested are more challenging than they hoped.
They may want to wait until later, when they have more courage or willingness to succeed.
And then there is graduation.
We graduate into realms of more loving, healing, learning, creating, contributing and full Beingness. Each one of us has our own developmental journey, all to be realized in our own timing and our own way.
Life can be fun, safe and easy, when we are happy willing learners. So be it.

I Am a happy willing learner.
Betty Lue

The Meaning of Life

What is the purpose of your life?
What are the themes of your life?
When you look at your history, what might be the reason for your being?
Are you here to learn how to survive?
Are you here to find a place to belong?
Are you here to create a happy song?
Are you here to heal your past history?
Are you here to help others be what they can be?
Are you here to learn to take responsibility for you?
Are you here to stop being dependent?
Are you here to discover God?
Are you here to perform miracles?
Are you here to learn about the mind and how it works?
Are you here to be physically fit?
Are you here to live as long as you can?
Are you here to leave a legacy?
Are you here to challenge yourself and see how much you can overcome?
Are you here to become a Holy Man?
Are you here to live simply and with loving kindness?
Are you here to protect the environment?
Are you here to join a group and have fellowship?
Are you here to be a rebel and renegade?
Are you here to reform wrongs done against some part of society?
Are you here to look for mistakes and correct them?
Are you here to love, teach and nurture children?
Are you here to just get through it all as fast and easy as you can?

What are the themes in your life?
Sometimes we take on the script we were assigned by our parents.
Sometimes we learn a new script that seems popular and acceptable in our culture.
Sometimes we are inspired or admire someone who shapes our life focus.
Sometimes we come to believe that a power greater than ourselves leads the way.
Sometimes we quit on what we came for judging we have failed and cannot do it anyway.

What you want for your own life journey will shape how you spend your time, energy and money.
What you believe your own life will govern what you think and say and do.
What you choose for your own life will give you a north star, a compass, to guide you.

I have chosen a life of inspiration and inspiring others through my thoughts and words and deeds.
I am committed to be truly helpful and seek ways to help each one who comes my way.
The ways of serving others are unique to each individual and so my learning has been diverse.
I am called to first to learn the language and the beliefs (the faith ) of each one.
I am called to listen beneath the words to the calling of the heart.
I am called to honor the life journey of each one as unique and integral to the whole of humanity.
I see all as equally valuable.
I see each one as precious and beloved.
I see each path as important to be explored.
I see us all as significant to the whole.

Betty Lue

Spiritual Assignments

Today I sat and asked Spirit, ”What are my assignments?”

To be healthy and happy everyday.
To love everyone in every way, as I am guided.
To know all I need is perfectly provided.
To care for each one who comes as a new babe.
To help everyone see how precious they are to Me.
To awaken the world with a happy song.
To enjoy everyday and what comes along.
To be strong in faith and fearless in expression.
To gather around me those who believe and build community together.
To forgive the errors in history, in myself and others.
]To be at peace with what is.
To know all is a playground for learning.
(See war and bullying as a path to learn how to join in the common good for all.
See Gossip and cruelty as learning how what we say comes back to bite us, so we may as well say what is good and helpful.
See all Negativity and depression as an opportunity to get stuck in muck or wash ourselves off to play in the sun.
See Disease and death as experiences of choosing peaceful release from our body when we graduate or fight to hang on because we fear the unknown of letting go.)
To honor my life journey with the courage of my values, the commitment to care deeply and the willingness to share freely.

I forgive myself for limiting myself in any way.
I forgive myself for withholding the spiritual gifts I am given from anyone.

I am free and trusting, willing to give all that is Good and Whole and True to All who would receive.
Loving you with what is True,
Betty Lue

“What exactly do you do, Betty Lue?”

Truth Cannot Be Explained.
It Must Be Experienced.
While words cannot explain what I do, I will try to give words to what is true for me.

My work with individuals-—whole life coaching and spiritual counseling— is extending Love and Healing.
Love is freedom and trust.
Healing is letting go of all beliefs in lack, littleness and limitation.
Healing is seeing what is healed and whole, good and true.
Healing is focusing on what you can do to make your own dreams come true.
This is my life work and my purpose here in everything I Am and do.

Vision- I see a world in which all are free to fully express and experience, consciously create and celebrate whatever they choose.
I see love and joy, peace and goodwill for all.
Mission- To inspire us all to our authentic Greatness, to be, do and have what is for the Highest Good.
Purpose- Live joyfully and give abundantly, spiritually guided and well-provided.
Principles- Take impeccable care of my whole Self with gratitude and joy.
Respect all equally.
Give only the Highest Good.
Learn from everything.
Erase (forgive, forget and let go of) what is not valuable.
Freely share the Gifts of Spirit. (Freedom from fear, faithfulness, trust, honesty, patience, generosity, open-mindedness, defenselessness, joy)

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What is my work? How does it work?
As coach and counselor, I really step into your journey and your life.
I walk with you and listen to your beliefs and perceptions.
I see the limiting beliefs, the unconscious myths, the historical patterns.
I help you see your whole life and your possibilities differently, more expansively.
I facilitate choices and changes to be grateful, happy, effective and on purpose.
This may mean changing external circumstances , but usually it means changing how we perceive and judge our lives.
I ask about spiritual beliefs and where you place your faith. Who and what do you trust?
I ask what you want for your life.
I ask how you make decisions.
I ask about high points, moments of connection and fulfillment and how you can have more of those.
I listen deeply to your unspoken questions and discouragement and seek to help you find meaning and inspiration.
We work together to facilitate your path to focused choices for meaningful and effective living.
We walk together, as we work together.
I am here to facilitate your discovery of greater possibilities in the game of life.
I am here to encourage and support any choices and changes you decide to make to experience fulfillment and success.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

There Must Be a Better Way

Hating is not the way.
Killing is not the way.
War is not the way.
Wishing is not the way.

There must be a better way.

My Dad was in the infantry in WW II.
He was a pacifist and conscientious objector with two babies under 2.
He went to the front lines.
We knew he would never shoot another soldier “who could be a father, husband, brother and son.”
A truce halted the fighting before he arrived. Thank God.
He would never talk about the war.

There must be a better way.

My brother was a pacifist.
He was drafted and joined the signal corps.
He went to Vietnam.
He never had to use his gun.
He never talks about that war.
He has pictures of the beautiful Vietnamese people.

There must be a better way.

There is disease, both mental and physical, for soldiers who live through a war.
There is death of children and mothers, animals and livestock, old people and young.
There is destruction of homes and stores, jobs and lives.
There is suffering and grief, pain and anguish for both sides.
These are people, just like us, with hopes and dreams for the future.

There must be a better way.

We can pray.
We can march.
We can sing.
We can shout.
We can watch the news.
We can tune it out.

There must be a better way.

What can you do today to build a world with no war?
Betty Lue

Letting Go Is

Spring cleaning closets, drawers and garage,
Releasing what is no longer valuable,
Undoing what is not essential,
Simplifying,
Clearing the clutter,
Emptying the garbage,
Exhaling the stale,
Setting down all burdens,
Laying aside all grievances,
Forgiving what no longer exists,
Giving away what is useable,
Throwing away what is un-useable.
Erasing fear, worry, regret and guilt,
Fasting, forgiving and forgoing.

Letting Go Enables……..
Being here now,
Starting over fresh,
Being a Good Steward,
Caring for what is valuable,
Setting the table of life with what is real,
Honoring the gift of this moment,
New beginnings,
Opening the space,
Creating on a blank canvas,
Healing the past,
Enjoying the present,
Smiling about a job well done.
New ideas and inspiration.
Much less to care for.

Letting go can b fun safe and easy if we choose to make it so.
Music, laughter, forgiveness as a mantra, affirming how good it feels, loving the release, blessing each clear space and clean closet, feeling lighter and healthier, celebrating the experience, anticipating the new inspiration that comes with every letting go, and feeling proud of myself. So far kitchen and bathrooms and linen closet is complete. Next come my clothes, drawers and closets, the laundry room and garage,

My key questions for letting go are:
Does this have value for us and our purpose here?
Have we used it or worn it within the last year?
Does this bring us joy and positive energy?
If not, is it useable (to be given away) or un-useable (in the garbage)?

As I release I give thanks and bless the willingness to let go and lighten us my life.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Spiritual Planning for Success

Did you know that most people who succeed have long term goals?
Did you know that people who end their day fulfilled begin their day with the desired end in mind?
Did you know that without a compass it is very difficult to reach your destination?
Did you know that without clear values or a guidance system in place you may get lost?
Did you know that every goal fully given your time energy and integrity will be achieved?
Did you know that where you persist you will succeed?
Did you know that letting go of the obstacles in your way makes success easier?
Did you know that complexity is a distraction to success?
Did you know that frustration and resentment distort your focus?
Did you know that feeling regret or guilt about past failings or quitting on yourself holds you back?
Did you know that new beginnings often require more energy and discipline to get going?
Did you know that we can always begin again with a fresh start from ground zero?
Did you know that total forgiveness erases the past and clears the way of obstacles?
Did you know that life is meant to be lived, not withheld or regretted?
Did you know that fulfillment comes from living fully and giving abundantly and being joyful?
Did you know that your joy and fulfillment open the way for global healing and peace on earth?
Did you know that your dreams matter to the Good of All?
Did you know that your inner vision is the guiding light for God’s plan for you?
Did you know that what you dare to dream, commit to achieve and celebrate with love is your Gift?
Did you know that each one of us is integral to the whole…all humanity?

This weekend Robert and I will be on our own self-created retreat.
Saturday - Letting go of everything not useful in the last year. Forgiving and fasting as well.
Sunday- Revisiting and Clarifying Vision, Individual and co-Mission, Purpose and Long Range Goals
Monday- Strategic Planning for the short and long range. Scheduling balance in our lifestyle.

What can you do to clarify your values?
What can you do to identify the principle by which you live?
What can you do to see the big picture?
What can you do to live your life successfully and joyfully?

PS
What is success and Fulfillment for You?
Encouraging your Fulfillment,
Betty Lue

Called to Greatness

The world sees greatness as having prominence.
The power of prestige, possessions and position is worldly greatness.
Spirit sees greatness as significance.
The presence of a willing servant of Goodness and God is spiritual greatness.

A great person in the world terms is powerful, prominent, important, and wealthy.
A great person in spiritual terms is happy, willing, generous, and rich in fulfillment.

Great servants of Goodness, wholeness and love have some similar qualities.
They are available to love and serve.
They notice needs and respond to them with respect.
They do their best without needing to be the best.
There is no task too menial or too small. (or too large).
They are faithful to their task.
They don’t quit.
They are encouraging.
They keep a low profile. And often do what they do anonymously.
How great Thou Art!

In my life I recognize and honor the greatness within me.
In your life, recognize and honor the greatness within you.
With full appreciation we all will be willing to be Great as we are meant to be.

Loving the intrinsic Goodness within everyone of us,
Betty Lue

History as an Indicator

(Second personal message.)
Our personal history and timeline gives us an indication of our life path and direction. When we look at the significant accomplishments, the miracles of healing and grace, the high points of celebration, the overcoming of struggles and crisis and the philosophical “aha’s” along the way, we can observe how uniquely our life journey has been defined.

Born to parents who saw me as a gift of Love, spiritually given to them for temporary guardianship, guided only as needed, given as much responsibility and freedom as I could handle and a little more to grow into, my life has been an experience of happiness and service from infancy. As far back as I can remember and hear stories about me, I have shared my happiness and loved all freely. I was encouraged, even as a young child, to share questions, insights and wisdom as well as my natural joy with those who gathered around me. I have known little fear and abundant faith. I have listened, loved and respected those from many cultures, faiths and walks of life. My journey has been one of learning to love all equally (no one special), baring none from my conscious trust and freedom. I take full responsibility for my life and respond to whatever comes with forgiveness and faith.

Having founded fourteen community non-profit, holistic counseling and healing centers in California, North Carolina, Montana, Indiana and Michigan, relying on my personal resources and spiritual guidance, I have known the power of joining, honest communication, equality in relationship, total commitment and responsibility with freedom for all. I have been privileged to facilitate building safety and freedom in groups and workshops, as a consultant to churches and other organizations. I have noticed what heals, what encourages authenticity, what supports full participation, where there is resistance and lack of commitment and how community building works and does not work. I have chosen non-interference in other’s process unless invited to participate, advise or counsel. I have allowed those in my awareness to choose their own path by minding my own. I have trusted that learning comes from mistakes made, as well as from finding the “high” way. I have valued my own life learning.

As a marriage and family therapist for 29 years, offering coaching, counseling and mentoring to thousands of precious beings, I see everyone as an integral member of my global family. Each one is to be given to and shared with, as though they are the only one. Every relationship is for healing, remembering to love and to return to our natural state of wholeness. Whether in the hundreds of workshops I have created and facilitated or the hundreds of support groups or gatherings in fellowship and worship, or weddings and memorials officiated or inspirational talks given, I am speaking and sharing with each One, the most precious One in that moment. I believe each moment is the only moment. In the holy instant we remember the Love we are and awaken to our intrinsic Holiness. This is what we are here for, the healing of each One, the awakening of everyOne.

My core strengths serve me well.
My challenges teach me well.
My mistakes awaken me well.
My never-ending learning stimulates me well.
My constant forgiveness cleanses me well.
My connection with Spirit directs me well.
My relationships encourage me well.
My inner peace heals me well.
My consciousness inspires me well.
I am well served by my whole life, as I serve the greater wellness of all.

What I give I receive.
What I learn, I teach.
What I have, I share.
What I Am, I extend.
All are One in the circle of Life.

Loving you, loving me is loving God in All.
Betty Lue

Loving Reminders Clarified

(a personal message in response to some questions asked of me.)
In November 1998 I moved back to California with my husband and partner Robert.
I asked Spirit how I was to serve. I was encouraged to begin an email ministry and sharing of my daily inner guidance.
Since 1977 I have listened within and trusted Spirit in leading my life.
When I follow my inner guidance, my life is fun, safe and easy.
When I allow the external influences of expectation, authority, circumstance and personality choices to lead I often experience glitches on my path. While I was computer phobic in 1998, I soon overcame my resistance and began to totally enjoy the sharing of what I received every morning. It has been part of my daily practice now for over five years.

I send emails to well over 700 people directly and to many thousands with all those who send to their own lists. Those I send to have known Robert and me in many capacities for up to 25 years (primarily as teachers, mentors, coaches, relationship models, healing facilitators and motivational speakers.) You may feel as though you know us intimately, because we are rather transparent in our relationships. Ie. We live what we teach or else we don’t teach. We also learn from those we teach and are always learning.

It was Robert’s 56th Birthday on May 18. For the last almost two years Robert has been on an active healing journey, on long term disability, with what appears to be a degenerative neurological disease, not allowing him to work at his former job, financial planner and consultant. (1978-1985 and again 1998-2002) His role as spiritual teacher and minister, holistic health consultant and healing facilitator and motivational speaker (1989-1998) has been mostly on hold with his inner work and self-healing focus. I share rather personally to give people updates, basically encouraging non-worry and trust in his healing process. I don’t mean to be obtuse. My intention is always to be open and disclosive. No hidden messages here. I share what I know and think and feel freely and without guile.

The daily Loving Reminders are usually spiritual guidance which comes to me as I place my fingers on the keys.
Sometimes, they are for you, sometimes for our world and always for me.
I receive them personally as gentle reminders and integrate them into my life.
Everything we receive and everything we share with others is for always us first.
Sometimes as with all things, there may have been elements of my ego’s misperceptions or fears.
There may be a response to a question I have asked, something misunderstood.
Often there has been a question made to me which I am called to listen for a higher answer.
Sometimes they simply communicate what I know and am living as my spiritual journey.
In all cases I would have you look at them as you would anything.
Look for resonance and remember what you value.
When you feel dissonance with what is your Truth, simply lay them aside.
Look for insights and let them be noted. Listen for Truth and let it be exalted.

Special notes in response to some concerns.
In the last three months there have been transmission issues with MSN.com and AOL.com and maybe others. Spam blockers have not let through my emails sometimes, because I mail to lists of ( now less than 100 people each list) people. Aol.com seems to have something going on where Comcast (my server) cannot be sent to aol.com folks. There has been intermittent interruption. I can intuit the lack of reception, but often those not receiving think I am not sending. The emails get through intermittently to some and just stop totally for others. Usually there is no way to tell what is happening. I have set up a web site with Robert’s help to accommodate those not receiving, but it is not as personal. Some use my loving reminders as their substitute for therapy, spiritual counseling, personal growth workshops and as a daily reminder. They may feel abandoned or bereft when they do not receive from me. Most take them like a daily inspirational vitamin. I trust that Spirit directs how they shall be used and who and when people respond.

People have communicated they withhold their responses to me, because they believe I am too busy and inundated with email.
This occasionally happens, but more often, people are respectful of my time and energy.
I do read and value every note that comes to me. I respond by email if and when I am called.
I always respond with a loving smile, and extension of my respect and gratitude.
I love you and welcome your caring and sharing always.
Betty Lue

Do I Remember You?

While I may not remember your name, I remember You.
While I may not remember your words, I remember You.
While I may not remember your face, I remember You.
While I may not remember your job, I remember You.
While I may not remember your birthday, I remember You.
While I may not remember your address, I remember You.

You remember your name and address.
You remember your words and some past memories.
You remember your face, your height and weight.
You remember your job and place of employment.
You remember your birthday and special occasions.
But do you remember You?

Do you know You?
Do you take time to remember your Essence?
Do you know what matters to you?
Do you listen to your heart’s longing?
Do you hear your inner voice?
Do you honor the precious being you are?
Do you remember to truly love you?
Do you trust you?
Do you set yourself free to be All you are meant to be?
Do you allow yourself to sing and dance, to create and play?
Do you give yourself some special time each day?
Do you remember you?

When we are together, let us remember more than our statistics, more than our history.
Let us remember more than our awards and more than our accomplishments.
Let us remember more than our surface social chatter and our easy conversation.
Let us remember more than our troubles, trials and tribulations.
Let us remember more that our politics, our preferences and peculiarities.

Let us remember we are one family.
Let us remember our humanity.
Let us remember the essence of love.
Let us acknowledge one moment of recognition.
Let us share one united breath of peace.
Let us touch that place of freedom to be with the Joy of Life.
Let us remember the Eternal Truth of who We Are now and always.

Loving you as I love me, remembering…..
Betty Lue

It Takes Just One

Each one can touch every one.
Each one can teach everyone.
Each one can reach every one.
Why not be that one?

One smile can touch many hearts.
One kindness can teach many minds.
One prayer can reach many souls.
You do make a difference.

What if you are the missing piece.
What if your helpfulness is what is needed.
What if your “thank you’ opens the door to common courtesy.
What if your gentle hug heals the lonely heart.
What if your thoughtful blessing brings renewed hope.
What if your listening presence offers clarity and direction.
What if you are the one.

Life is for giving and You are the gift.
It is only in freely giving yourself that you fully realize the abundant gift you are.

Life is the opportunity to forgive ourselves for withholding the gift we are.
I forgive myself for being unforgiving.
I forgive myself for limiting myself.
I forgive myself for hiding my gifts.
I forgive myself for being afraid.
I forgive myself for thinking I am unworthy of giving and you are undeserving of receiving.
I forgive myself for thinking the world owes me.
I forgive myself for believing I am not capable.
I forgive myself for believing I cannot ever give enough.
I forgive myself for waiting for a return on my giving.
I forgive myself for not knowing what to give.
I forgive myself for thinking I will be depleted.
I forgive myself for thinking I must wait until a better time or place.
I forgive myself for dismissing or diminishing the gift I Am.
The world awaits the gift of YOU and me and each one.

P.S.
Forgiveness is an eraser filled with loved.
When we let go of our judging and limiting mind, abundant love and givingness takes its place.
When I practice forgiveness, I say and write 30 or more forgivenesses daily.
It is a life’s work and worthy of daily application.

I am willing to touch and teach and reach out to everyone equally,
Betty Lue

Creating a Better Future

Currently I am seeking to gather those who are inspired and called to co-vision and co-create neighborhood centers to fill a great need in many communities. If your community or church now has adequate support for those parents needing education and respite, those children needing after school care and help with homework, those families needing support in balancing their lifestyle, those seniors needing a place to belong and make a difference, those without families who need a friend and some fun, those in crisis needing a place to find help and support, then you do not need to consider a center in your community. For many, this is a time of crisis and concern for all people in how we can work and play, learn and teach, help and encourage, coach and mentor one another to create a better future for all.

If you are intrigued or have ideas and information which would be valuable, please connect with me. 800-919-2392 or by email.
I will begin interviews with individuals and group visioning and brainstorming this summer.
Thanks for joining me in visioning what is Good, and whole and Loving for All.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Vision: “Creating a Better Future for All”
Family Enrichment Centers
(or Family Reunion Centers or Good Neighbor Centers)
With Good Neighbor Policies
For all people…all ages, cultures, and faiths.

Facilitator/Co-Founder: (Seeking others)
Betty Lue Lieber, Ph.D., MFT
I am primarily a Community Builder and Inspirational Teacher

Mission: To offer a safe positive place for young and old to experience education, inspiration, fellowship and service in every neighborhood.
Non-profit, organic growth.
Prototypes developed so can be replicated and franchised throughout US and beyond.
Creating extended family naturally.
Neighborhood centers by the people of the people and for the people.

Function: To facilitate community, to encourage individuals and families to come together,
to better relate and create to a better world.
Primarily a volunteer service and educational organization.
Utilize church and other non-profit facilities for modest rent and easy access
Hours when kids, seniors and families need assistance and are available (1-9PM)
Advisory board members and consultants: Key representatives from: Family Stress center, County Social Services, Mental Health, Senior Services, Child Protective Services, Volunteer Bureau, Caring Hands, Family of Women, Wellness Center, other successful non-profit community service orgs and churches.
Open to all who are willing to participate and contribute (time, money, and/or energy)
Affordable for all…..utilize contributions like AA or Family of Women, senior centers
Share space in churches or other non-profits or given space for center by business people
Cooperative with all programs now functioning effectively and successfully
Programs to support, augment and complement current community services.
Non-competitive. Solicit donations as needed. Funding through grants.
Rely on the contributions of co-creators and participants.
Function independently of governmental agencies.
Open to being supported by all.

Primary Programs:
Self Improvement and Healthy Relationships,
Recreation and Renewal
Creative Expression and Contribution
Leadership from Participants. Everyone willing is trained

Fun, safe, easy and effective for all.
Safe for Seniors
Cool for Kids.
Positive for Parents
Hopeful for Handicapped

Provide classes, workshops and support groups: (childcare provided)
Steps to Effective Living, Parenting, Relationships, Families, Career,
Parent Education
Relationship Healing
Coaching and mentoring
Touch for Health
Mastermind principles
Good Neighbor Policies
Tools for Success
Common Sense finances
Effective Communication
Values Clarification
Homework Clubs for kids
Mentoring/Coaching and Counseling
Self Esteem and Confidence Building
Self Image and Appearance
Life Purpose and Career
Home Enhancement
Holistic Tools for Staying Healthy
Family Nutrition
Habits for Highly Effective People
Habits for Highly Effective Families
Principle Centered Leadership
Balanced Lifestyle
Potluck suppers and pancake breakfasts
Recitals and concerts by kids and adults
Creativity nights with arts and crafts projects
Game nights with board games and cards available daily
Small lending library (tapes, videos and books)
Volunteer help with discount shopping, housing and majoy purchases.
Food pantry and clothing access.
Help seeking employment.
Kids receive mentoring and help with homework by seniors
Peer mediation training and support
Outdoor playground
Sponsorship for Abusive parents.
Counseling and coaching
Music and singing
All-Faith fellowship

Seeking effective community models:
Family for Women
Alcoholics Anonymous
Create underlying principles and guidelines
Organic development and growth in each center.
Easy access to neighborhoods.
Enlist church cooperation and pay minimal rent.
Safe place for all to be

Theme:
Respect, Responsibility and Cooperation.
“Learning together to build a better world.”

Key Focus Areas:
Education/Inspiration
Fellowship/Social
Creativity/Play
Healing/Health Services
Holiday Celebrations

Focus on Education, Inspiration, support and Community
Child Care for Parent Education and Couples Enrichment

Building Community

Building a Community:
Forming a functioning Neighborhood, Partnership, Team or Extended Family

Building Community is like building a team, one person at a time.
If you want to play a game, you look for people who want to play a game with you.
If you want to play football, you look for people who want to play football.
If you just want to build community, you look for folks who want to create community.

In my life I have created alliances with many people for many purposes.
Healing, Learning, Co-creating, Fellowship, Celebration, Caring about each other, Contributing to a Cause, Building, Planning, Connecting with Spirit, sharing food, Family and fun and more…..all to build community.
Sometimes those many purposes were housed under one roof and one organization.
Sometimes there iwas no organization, but rather a spontaneous coming together.
Sometimes there was a call to join, an invitation and an initiation.
Almost always there was leadership, either overt or behind the scenes.
Always there was a vision, either expressed or implied.
Always there was trust in the process and freedom for folks to choose in or choose out.

This is the essence of building a community of love and respect for me.
To form alliance effectively many ingredients are essential and helpful:
Vision-Seeing what can be when we are all happy and free to choose.
Leadership-Taking responsibility for the Good of all concerned.
Planning-Bringing together the people, place and process needed to support the vision.
Honesty-Sharing fully the desired outcome in simple clear terms. No secrets or withholds.
Equality- Seeing everyone as equally valuable to the whole. Inviting everyone’s participation.
Commitment-Clearing doubts and fears. Giving participants the option to choose again.
Responsibility- Owning responsibility for the quality of the relationships without guilt or blame.

Alliances are built on trust and mutual respect.
When we are trying to convince or sell others, we often undermine the alliance.
When we hold differing thoughts, beliefs or agendas separate from one another, the differences are divisive.
When we share freely our differences and agree to differ, there will be mutual respect and trust.
When we agree on desired outcome or goal, we set aside differences to fulfill what is co-visioned.
When everyone is seeking a win/win solution, everyone will participate.
When seeking solutions where someone loses, all will fear loss and struggle to win.
When we are open and willing to allow inspiration to lead the way, the participants will seek Spirit.
When we seek for the results no matter what the cost, pain and problems often are the price we pay.

Where are you building community?
Where do you pay a price for what you seek?
Where can you build an alliance based on mutual respect, trust and freedom?
For what purpose do you seek joining with another?
Have you committed the outcome to the highest good for all concerned?

Loving you, as we build healing alliances, one at a time.
Betty Lue

Know Yourself

Know Who You Are
Know where You Are
Know Whose You Are

Know Yourself.
To Thine Own Self be true.
To know You is to Love You.

How can you be what you do not remember?
How can you love what you do not know?
How can you do what you have not named.
How can you have what you have not claimed?

Aimless meandering leads no where.
A mind left unfocused will collect useless thoughts.
A life left dormant creates nothing.

You will know your choices by your activities and accomplishments.
Have you looked at your life?
Have you viewed you whole life?
You can see who you are by what you have done.
You can see your values by how you spend your time, energy and money.
You can observe what matters to you by what your think and feel and do.

How do you believe you are seen by others who know you well.
How do you see yourself right now?
If you like, appreciate, enjoy and feel blessed, keep on going.
If you dislike, criticize and feel ashamed, stop and look deeply at the choices you have made.
Acknowledge the choices you have avoided, judged, feared and criticized.
Make a decision to make better choices.
Make a decision to look to those you trust.
Look to the spirituality or moral leadership you trust.
Make the choice to look to the wise people you trust.
Make a decision to go within to the spiritual guidance you trust.
Each of us must come to crossroads in our lives where we choose to live or lose our choice.
We are all free..free to choose or not, to live or not, to be or not, to give or not, to learn or not.
We are responsible for our choices.

I am choosing never-ending and constant awareness, forgiveness, letting go, renewal of Spirit, being a Gift of Love, creating what is good and whole and beautiful, being happy and being truly helpful, building partnerships and teamwork, co-creating the space of freedom and trust where Love is remembered and wholeness restored.

Join me, please.
Our world needs us to fully and freely choose to Be All We Are right Now and Now and Now and Now!

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Where Do You Place Your Faith?

“You will know them by their faith.”
Can you tell when someone is faith-filled?
Can you feel what you believe?
Do you trust what you “know” inside?
Do you live and think and act like someone who really believes?

Where we live in doubt, we experience the symptoms of confusion, indecision and anxiety.
Where we abide in faith, we experience the symptoms of clarity, decisiveness and trust.
We can tell those who lack in faith because they complain, criticize, withhold, deceive and are depressed.
We can tell those who have abundant faith because they are happy, fearless, honest, giving and forgiving.

Faith is demonstrated by our positive attitude, when we allow crisis to create opportunities.
Faith shows up when we forgive and bless those who may hurt us, rather than curse and avoid them.
Faith is present when we pray prayers of gratitude and praise rather than beseeching and requesting.
Faith is obvious when with disease, disappointment and disaster we can still smile and continue to live.

Faith is not a given. It is a gift to ourselves as a result of learning to look for miracles and see the gift.
Faith is learned not earned. It comes with a willingness to forgive our quick judgments, listen within and honor that still small voice that invites us to see the Love and be the Love in all circumstances.
Faith is both learned from those around us, but also learned from a positive attitude in life. Never quitting yields success. Making lemonade out of lemons gives us delight. Turning what we have into the blessing we envision is inspiring. Giving our very best and appreciating the outcome gives us fulfillment.

“Every time we see a new born baby cry or touch a leaf or see the sky, then I know why….I believe.”
Have you taken the time to look for the miracles in life?
Have you watched a leaf grow?
Have you pondered the life of an ant?
Have you lain on the beach at night and felt embrace by the stars?
Have you walked alone in the woods and let the trees talkl to you with Love?
Have you given all you had to the homeless man seeking shelter for the night?
Have you made someone sick and lonely feel very happy and very loved?
See the miracle and be the miracle of Love.
You will feel your faith grow inside.

A True Believer,
Betty Lue

Are you Credible?

Do you keep your word?
Do you honor your agreements?
Have you remembered your vows?
Do you fulfill your promises?

What vows have you made?
“On my honor, I will try to do my duty to God and my country.”
“I promise to love and cherish you, ‘til death do us part.”
“So help me God.”

When we keep our promises, our self esteem and confidence are strengthened.
When we break our word, we feel guilty and fear others will not keep their agreements with us.
When we can trust and respect ourselves, we trust and respect others.
When we cannot trust ourselves to be honest and fair, we cannot trust God and others.

Keeping our word, fulfilling our promises and remembering our vows builds faith.
Being true to our commitments strengthens our trust in others and in life itself.

Remind yourself of what you have said and written.
Admit and make amends for broken agreements.
Forgive yourself for unfulfilled promises made to you.
Vow to only make agreements which you intend to keep no matter what.
Be honest with yourself and others when you have failed to keep your agreements.
Forgive yourself and others and choose again for what is true for you.

Over 19 years ago, Robert Waldon, my husband, spiritual partner and true friend came into my life by Divine appointment. He gave his sacred promise to wed with me in Christ, to love and support me on my spiritual path, serving the will of God and Good for all people. Robert has kept his agreement through difficult and trying times as well as adventuresome and creative time. Robert’s never-failing love and respect have fortified my own faith in God and trust in humanity. I know love never ends, when all is forgiven.

Keeping my agreements with you and my promise to God,
Betty Lue

Daring to Care

Are you willing to Love, really love?
Are you open to care about something or someone deeply?
Do you have the courage to say how you really feel?
Are you willing to commit without hesitation or doubt?
Can you trust in yourself enough to know what you want?
Can you give 100% to this moment now to really be present?
Have you forgiven the past so it is only a blessing?
Are you open to connect with the holiness within?
Can you really begin to live abundantly without wealth?
Have you fully enjoyed any meal, any sunset, and conversation?
Do you allow yourself to savor life in all its richness?
Are you truly happy being You?
Can you freely share your gifts with your friends and family?
Are you willing to dare to be fully alive and in love?

Life is the most amazing opportunity where we choose how much we invest in the lottery.
We can invest nothing and never win anything.
We can invest a fortune but never believe we could win.
We can fully invest ourselves and receive the gift of our self knowledge and appreciation.

We really are choosing to dare or withdraw.
We are choosing to fully give or withhold.
We are choosing to care or dismiss.
We are choosing to pay attention or to ignore.
We are choosing to enjoy or to complain.
We are choosing to learn or to know it all already.
How much are you really willing to care and to dare to be alive and invested in life?

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What Can You Do?

Nothing to do, but what is true for you.
How can you participate in this world?
Love it or leave it.
To have what we want, we must love what we have.
Show up. Pay attention. Tell the Truth. And Detach from the Outcome.

Where is my passion?
What is my calling?
To live life on purpose and in love, I must give my all to what gives to me.
I must be inspired by being inspiring.
Therefore, I must give my energy to that which uplifts me physically, mentally and spiritually.
What is the idea, the vision, the opportunity right now that gives me energy and joy in the fulfillment?
How can I leave the world a better place?
Where am I to share and contribute the many gifts I have been given?
What do all my life experiences lead me to do right now?
These are questions which can help shape your life and fulfill your destiny.
Each one of us has a calling, a special place in the circle of life.
Each spot is integral to the healing of the whole.
Each function your would fulfill is a gift of healing and grace to us all.
Each one has a holy place, where we would stand up for the Good within.
Each of us is an inspiration, when we give ourselves to the Good of all by playing our sacred part.
Some of us stand alone to serve.
Some of us work together.
All of us are important for the Good of All.
When we are lost and confused, wasting our energy on survival rather than service, we miss the boat.
We are distracted from noticing the place we are to be.
We must be still in the silence.
We must ask for inner guidance.
We must stand up, when we hear our name being called.
We must have the courage to step up and step out for what we believe.
We must notice the need and fill it.
We must feel our passion.
We must notice our motivation.
We must follow our intention.
We must listen to our dreams and our wishes.
We must do something about whatever we criticize or fear.
We must open doors rather than lock them.
We must lift ourselves up out of lethargy and into meaningful activity.

We must because we can.
We can because we are.
We are because we love.
This is our calling,
This is our choice.
Be here.
Really be here now.

Living and Loving You,
Betty Lue

Different Languages

We all speak different languages.
The language of love sounds very different than the language of fear.
The language of forgiveness is quite different than the language of judgment, conflict and hatred.
The language of the self confidence has different energy than the language of the meek.
The language of those who are responsible is the antithesis of those who are irresponsible.
When we are faith-filled we may have difficulty being understood by those who have no faith.
When we are honest, we may not understand those who believe in lying to keep from getting in trouble.
When we are intent on keeping the peace, we may resist those who value confrontation.
When we are strong in our opinions, we become upset with those who keep opinions to themselves.
When we are hopeful, we may be discouraged by those who are feeling hopeless.

In this world we seem to believe that others must be the same as us.
Or we believe that others need to learn to be like us.
Or we believe we have found the “right” way.
Or we may believe that perhaps others are right, and we need to change to be more like them.
If there are many languages, there are many different perceptions, attitudes, opinions and values.
What I believe, value, perceive and support may be totally incomprehensible to you.
My life work as therapist and spiritual teacher has been to be neutral to better understand your viewpoint. All my clients, students, friends and family are my teachers.
The dozens of self discovery tools I have learned and practiced, (numerology, symbology, astrology, enneagram, myers-briggs, color analysis, and many more) havehelped me to fully enjoy the differences.
I know the value of differences, when they are fully expressed in a safe and non judgmental environment.


We are here to become more aware, more conscious, more at choice and more loving.
We are here to let go of the blocks to accepting our differences and the uniqueness of others.
We are here to listen beneath the words and find the resonance.
We are here to undo our judgments and fears and open our ears and our hearts.
We are here to seek our unity in the diversity.
We are here to honor the integral and equal part each one plays.
There is a place for everyone in the circle of life.

Our choices, our perceptions, our problems are the perfect ones for each of us to experience to learn exactly what we are here for.
Our lives are unique because we are.
Our experiences are unique because our thoughts come from own learning.
Our interpretations are unique because our perceptual filters are different.
Give yourself an opportunity to accept your rightful place speaking the language you know.
Then listen with as much respect to those around you.
Step aside from your own viewpoint and see the world from another perspective.
There is much to be learned and much to be healed.

Loving you from my own perspective,
Betty Lue

Acceptance Is Healing

When we are at peace the natural flow of healing is present.
When we are in love, life is healing.
When we are living in joy and enjoying our lives. we are healing.

Healing is the return to our natural state of wholeness.
Healing is for me and you and us.
When we are healed, we are not healed alone.
We are created healed and whole.
In our judgment of what appears to be, we err and perceive lack of wholeness.
In our misperception and our judgment, we separate from what is.
In our separation, we deny the natural and intrinsic healing and wholeness.
Awareness with non-judgment is healing.

When I see what is with an open mind, I perceive the wholeness therein.
When I see the intrinsic holiness, I am healed.
My mind creates what I perceive by my beliefs, attitudes, judgments and comparisons.
The pictures I hold are projected onto the screen of life and I make up my mind that I am correct.

When I change my mind, I can see things differently.
When I choose to see the beauty, goodness and wholeness, there it is.
When I choose to see the terror, ugliness and sickness, there it is.
I can choose what I want to see.
All true healing is in my mind.

When I see the goodness and holiness, I accept and embrace what is.
I am at peace. I extend love. My life is fun, safe and easy.
Everywhere I go and everyone I engage is perceived through the filters of my mind.
I can choose to see with a forgiving mind, the call for love and extend the love I am.
Or I can choose to see the sin, problems and attack, and defend myself as I feel afraid, guilty and angry.

When we are connected with our selves and accept our lives, we are at peace.
We are healed and whole.
When we hate, judge ourselves and try to fix our lives, we may suffer with fear, confusion and dis-ease.
The body often is an indicator of our self acceptance and love.
Where we are at peace, our body serves our higher purpose.
Where we have rejected our life purpose and calling, our body and our problems may distract us.
The ego can use our detours, delays and difficulties as an excuses to not fulfill our mission here.
Everyone has a purpose here, opportunities to teach and learn, to love and be loved.
Our real work here is always to remember to love ourselves and others, and return to the perception of wholeness and holiness.

Wishing we were different will not bring us peace or heal our separation from Self
Hating our life will not encourage or bring us joy.
Trying to get another to fix us is only a temporary measure, while the real inner work waits for us.
Humans use their limited thinking to deny their greatness.
Humans use the excuse of lack of education, experience, intelligence, and strength to stifle their fulfillment.
Humans use their painful history to repeat the errors of the past and live in fear of the future.
Humans often fear taking responsibility for the infinite choices always available to us.
We truly are unlimited and free.

Ask yourself: What would I do if I truly knew I was unlimited and free?
Connect with your True Self and Greater Self, for therein lies your compassion, acceptance and understanding of you.
You are worthy of being wholly loved by You and All. Set yourself free by wholly loving You.

Seeing, Knowing and Loving the Real and Whole You,
Betty Lue

Give to the Givers

Now is the time for our unconsciously chosen paradigm to shift and we are the ones.
We need:
Hope within ourselves to heal our separation and fear.
Faith within our hearts to believe we can achieve miracles with Love.
Charity within our lives that freely gives not just to the needy, but to the giving and forgiving.

We must remember to offer our gifts of gratitude and support to those who give.
We often take for granted the agencies and individuals that selflessly give everyday.
Mothers are remembered when we are reminded to be grateful for those who nurture children everyday. Teachers are sometimes remembered when our children do well in school.
Ministers and spiritual teachers are honored for giving the best they know to keep us all on track.
Fathers and providers are remembered for working in difficult and stressful circumstances to keep their families, fed and clothed, insured and educated.
Soldiers and heroes are remembered when they are seen saving lives.
Fireman and policemen are remembered when they do something kind and helpful.
Doctors and health providers are remembered when they offer relief or a medical cure.

Sometimes we do give to those who have given to us, but often we neglect the givers.
We have learned to sensationalize life, to look at the world seeking for the grim and gory story.
We have learned to give our attention, time and money to the poor, misfortunate and suffering.
Because we fear what we could be, our guilt causes us to focus there on despair.
Where we focus, we increase. Where we give, we receive. What we perceive, we strengthen.

It is time to give to the givers.
Pay attention to the miracles.
Feed the ones who have fed us.
Contribute to those who are selfless givers.
Honor the volunteers, the ministers, the teachers, the parents, those individuals who serve everyday.
Give credit to those who honor us and our values.
Pay attention to those who are happy and helpful.
Remember with cards and calls, smiles and hugs those who have loved and served us well.
We could start an epidemic of gratitude.
We could increase those who love unconditionally.
We could create a new wave of serving from the heart.
We could experience a natural movement of remembering God and Good.

Give to the giver in you.
Feed the hope in you.
Love the one who loves easily in you.
Remember the You who is joyful and hopeful and faith-filled.

Forgive those who know not the value of giving.
Encourage those who know how to give by your appreciation and support.

Join the happy giving club today.
Loving You,
Betty Lue