Listen Within

There is a place in you that outshines the sun.
There is a purpose in you to love everyone.
There is a presence in you to give all you have.
There is a possibility in you to abundantly live.

Within each one of us is a calling to Joy and Freedom.
Within each one of us are gifts to be shared.
Within each one of us is a yearning for loving.
Within each one of us is a sacred place to live.

Peace is found within.
Joy and freedom lie there, too.
Real Love is not learned or learned, but realized and shared.
Your sacred Self is the Real You.

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My daily loving reminders are for you, to remind us to live faithfully, forever free.
They come from deep within the part of me that is True B’Lue, connected always with Spirit.
Your daily reminders lie within you, too, if you would but listen, moment by moment.
Your reminders lie in the beauty you see, the songs you hear, and the voices of those you love.

Listen with your heart and you will hear your calling.
Listen with you head and you will strive to be something more.
Listen with your soul and you will learn to live in abundance.
Listen with your mind and you will fear for lack.

I invite you to sit quietly everyday in the same place and at the same time.
Give your body and mind a chance to be comfortable with your Divine appointment.
Bring with you a pad of paper and a pen.
As you breathe and trust, as you enjoy the silence, write everything that comes to you.
Make note of your questions and listen for the answers, too.
Pay attention to the breeze, the subtle touch with no one there.
Make note of a song, a verse, a poem coming through.
And when you are done, be glad for taking the time to listen within.
God wants to speak to you and through you, too.
As you get comfortable with your willingness, you may not understand, the word that comes or the thought that keeps replaying. Just write it down.
You see, often the personality ego will erase immediately.
With the writing, you can read it and remember. Read it and understand. Read it and weep.
Read it and feel the love.
Let God speak with you all through your day, beginning with your Daily Divine Appointment.

I am encouraging to listen within.
Betty Lue

True Partnership

True Partnership is always giving the best you have to each one with whom you partner.

Are you giving your very best to yourself everyday in all ways?
Are you giving your very best Self to your Creator and All-loving Source?
Are you giving the very best of yourself to your employer and co-workers?
Are you giving your very best Self to your family and mate?
Are you giving your very best to your world and those you meet along the way?

True Partnership is the call for interdependence.
True partnership does not withhold, or evaluate its giving.
True partnership gives all to all to have all.
True partnership experiences no guilt nor blame.
True partnership takes total responsibility for the quality of the relationship.
True partnership does not judge, compare or quit.
True partnership is honest and open, defenseless and forgiving.
True partnership creates a safe place for the others to be their best.
True partnership is willing to be present, aware and authentic.
True partnership is the call for holy relationship and sacred living.

Dependent relationships usually lean on employer, government, parents to give more.
Dependent relationships are based on the belief that there is inequity and one has more.
Dependent relationships foster more dependence to perpetuate the security of both.
Dependent relationships have their place when we are incapacitated or unable to care for ourselves.

Independent relationships are dependent on oneself for sustenance and support.
Independent relationships allow for competition and comparison for motivation.
Independent relationships foster self-sufficiency, confidence and strength of conviction.
Independent relationships have their place as we grow toward true community or interdependence.

Are you ready for true partnership?
If so, give all you have to each one you encounter.
Teach others by living what you want to give and have.
When others lean on you, show them what they can do.
Foster independence in those who are dependent.
Call for partnership from those who have mastered self-sufficiency.

True communion and community arise from partnership.
We build heaven on earth with authentic realization of our interdependence.
Nations and families heal when their people come together with love, respect and contribution.
Institutions and businesses prosper when all join and work together for a common goal.
Individuals find spiritual vision, faith, compassion, and commitment in their partnership with God.

Your true partner,
Betty Lue

Vision, Intention and Will

Where do you see clearly?
What do you know to be True?
Whom do you love dearly?
How can you really love You?

Imagine the world at Peace.
Imagine your life in Joy.
Imagine humanity in Love.
Imagine freedom for All.

Live everyday with attention.
Give every gift with intention.
Share your words with reflection.
Honor your life with perfection.

For as you believe, so shall you live.
As you live, so shall you give.
As you give, so shall you receive.
As you receive, so shall you believe.
And so is the cycle of creation.

Our life experience is the result of our vision, our intention and our will.
Clarify you Highest Vision.
Give your life your full intention.
Commit to live with all your heart and mind and soul.

Your life blesses us all,
Betty Lue

Prayer Works

Love makes all things new again.
Seeing only wholeness makes wholeness a reality.
When we remember what is essential, we see what is real within the temporary illusion.
Affirming the highest and best for others and for ourselves brings what is best into focus.
Realizing that we are each precious, important and holy raises our willingness to be here.
Letting go of what was and being willing to enjoy what is creates more of what we enjoy.
Laughing at the fear clears the clouds of doubt so we can see the sun and the Son shining.
Wherever we are living in trust and giving freedom to life process, we open all possibilities.
Having meaning and purpose in life makes life worthwhile.
Knowing we are loved and valued makes us really present.
Prayer is the assurance that there is something greater than ourselves.
Asking for what we want may not get it, but helps us get clear about what we want.
Miracles are natural to those who love and trust.

All your prayers, your fullness of love and appreciation, and your respect of all life experiences create the space of infinite healing and miracles.

I believe in miracles because I believe in love and I believe in You.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Yes, we had a great trip teaching and sharing wisdom, healing and joy in Indiana.

Planting Your Garden

Spring is here..in full bloom here in CA and just budding out in IN.
Now is the time to plant the garden in your soul.
We each get infinite opportunities to plow the fields of our consciousness and plant again each spring whatever will yield what we would harvest.

What is your crop of choice?
Power and prestige,
respect and support,
joy and freedom,
love and intimacy,
inspiration and creativity,
simplicity and peace,
ideas and accomplishment,
knowledge and wisdom?
Pick your crop. Anyone you choose.
Yes, you can even choose resentment and revenge, lethargy and laziness, envy and greed, disappointment and depression.
We are totally at choice about what to plant, to nurture and harvest in our lives.

The work is to choose what you really want.
The work is to pull the weeds of your former habits.
The work is to intend and focus on the outcome you seek.
The work is to hold the vision and keep the faith.
The work is to commit and persist in doing what it takes.
The work is to work and enjoy the work.
The work is to appreciate the growth each step of the way.
The work is to learn from the difficulties.
The work is to accept all kinds of weather.
The work is to not waste energy on complaining or wishing things were different.
The work is to take good care of yourself in doing the work.
The work is to love, respect and support your work as a gardener in life.
The work is to give yourself the associations and the activities your need to continue the work.

I am loving and believing in the gardens we are each choosing to plant this spring.

Loving you, Betty Lue

Gratitude and Service

Being here to experience the wonders of life is a great blessing.
Being awake and willing to listen within is a great joy.
Being able to teach and offer healing opportunities to others is a gift.
Being alive and sharing the good news of forgiveness and Love is an honor.
Being partnered with someone who loves and respects me is empowering.
Being present and fully connected with those who come my way is a privilege.
Being supported by hundreds who receive and practice these Loving Reminders is amazing.
Being Who I Am and Where I Am is a gift from God.

How could we feel gratitude and not serve others?
How could we wake up each day with joy in your heart and not give?
How could we accept the goodness and beauty of each day and not share it?
How could we breathe in this Abundant Love and not breathe out our profound gratitude?
You and I are blessed and it is our blessings that will awaken our sleeping human family.

With every thought you are teaching others.
With every word you are sharing your Love.
With every deed you are serving your brothers.
Life is for giving. And you are the Gift.

Each moment is a present.
Each relationship is precious.
Each interaction is healing.
Each opportunity is a blessing.

Every thanks is remembered.
Every smile is an awakening.
Every touch is a healing.
Just one blessing is enough.

Let us forgive the criticism, the missed opportunities, the fault-finding, the trying to get, rather than give.
Let us release the discourtesy, the rushing too fast, the unconsciousness and lack of gratitude.
Let us undo what was never true and give the best we have, instead of the leftovers.
Let us forget the unholy past and remember the blessings and joys.
Let us be fully present to recycle our memories with loving kindness, humor and thanks.
Let us take notice of what is calling for our love and faith and forgiveness, so we leave a mighty blessing.

It takes just one to change the world. You are that ONE.
Betty Lue

Gone to Bloomington, IN from March 18-March 23!

Happy Spring Equinox! (Friday evening)
Use this time to listen within for the seeds you are to plant in the garden of your soul.
This is a fertile time to create what you and the God in You want your life to be.
Remember always you are forgiven.
Remember always you are loved.
Remember always you are blessed.
Remember always you are here to create.
Remember always Creator wants your happiness.
Remember always that only you can deny yourself anything.
Remember always to come Home and listen within.

Trusting Love,
Betty Lue

Happy wearing of the green!

Use this and any excuse to have fun and remember Love.
Green and blue primary colors of this planet Earth.
Colors of the heart chakra and the throat chakra
Remind us to extend Love with every thought, word and deed.

Only Love is Real. Everything else illusion.
This world is a teaching device to bring us home to ourselves and our Source.
This world is a laboratory in which to explore what works.
This world is a canvas on which to create beauty and goodness and wholeness.
This world is a reflection of what lives within our own heart and minds.
This world is a stage with all of us players in a soul guided drama.
Tragedy or comedy? We choose how we judge and resist or let go and flow.
This world is a university in which we all graduate when we are complete.
This world is a job in which we each have our own valuable work to do.
This world is a playground on which we can freely express our joy and creativity.
This world is a test in which we constantly practice and strengthen our life skills.

Whether we succeed or fail is a result only of our perception.
Reward or punishment? Blessing or curse simply depends on our response.
Everyone succeeds in the end. Everyone graduates. This is a failsafe universe.
We all are loved and blessed no matter what. We our essence cannot harm or be harmed.
Trust in this and we live in peace.

Our inner guidance system, our spiritual mentor, our teacher and coach is always present.
We often stop listening within to the Voice that is with us throughout the illusion of time.
We often discount and dismiss our intuitive notions, the gentles urging of Spirit.
We often forsake and forget our True Selves and our Source.
We often choose to follow the path of ego and live in human struggle and strife.
We often tune out the inner knowing and tune into outer authority.
Only then do the lessons become stronger.
When we will not heed a whisper, we may be urged with a shout.
When we ignore the shout, we may experience a strong jolt.
The wakeup calls simply become more obvious, until we cannot fail to notice.

The world we see is in crisis only because its people have failed to listen.
The world we see is struggling with violence and war only because we have failed to respect Peace.
The world we live in is hungry only because we have failed to love our neighbors as ourselves.
The world we live in has disease and poverty only because we choose to live in the stress of striving.
The world we see invites us to forgive our neighbors and ourselves and extend Love to All.
Life is teaching us. The more willing and open we are to learn, the easier the lessons.
The more close-minded and suspicious we are the more obvious the lessons.

Love God and Good with all our heart and we experience the Good in everything.
Love our brothers as ourselves and we realize our brother is our Self.

Human life is an awesome opportunity to wakeup and undo what is not true.
Worldly experience is a miraculous place in which to be wholly present to know the Presence of God.

Enjoy the moment, for in it lies everything good and whole and beautiful for YOU!
Betty Lue

Life Is Different Now

This is an open letter to Loving Reminders readers. (Spirit invited me to share the following with you.)
Loving Reminders was begun for spiritual friends, clients and students over five years.
It has grown to now include hundreds if not thousands of those whom Spirit brings together electronically.
This is personal stuff, so let it all go, if not important for you to know.

After an 18 year dynamic spiritual partnership and wedded union, co-creating a powerful healing/teaching presence with clients and students with my husband Robert, we have been experiencing a dramatic change. Robert’s body and mind are dramatically changing due to an atypical neurological problem (Parkinson’s or ??) causing problems with balance, primarily lower body muscle use, memory and decision-making, slowed reaction time, interference in thinking with any stress or pressure, less energy and ability to focus.
(Remember all problems have a spiritual solution—the Peace of God and Love for One another.)

Life has changed dramatically for me and for us over the last two years. It changes still daily. I find my flexibility is a necessary gift, for which I am grateful everyday. No, I don’t always stay patient and peaceful but most of the time, I find I am. This prose piece may be a reflection of where I live. My own life of joyous living and abundant giving is full and rich, and still growing by the grace of God, as I reach out , counsel, coach, teach, write and inspire…. slowly building a coaching and counseling practice here in our community, a new class in Transitions and Spirituality at the Walnut Creek Unity plus three others weekly on Positive Living for Seniors, Professional Development and a “Do Good” support group. Wanting to begin a Positive Living Sunday Fellowship, but need to find more “fellows” committed to join with me over the long term. Currently distracted and delighted about my younger daughter’s (Hilarie) wedding on April 3, our coming trip to IN which may be a swansong, a loving completion, for Robert’s teaching TFH and Brain Gym, a kitchen remodel to take out the 20 years of heavy smoking in the cupboards, my Mom’s upcoming visit, the beautiful blossoming spring trees and flowers and more. I am grateful everyday for the life we all share on this bountiful planet.
I am grateful for you. Loving you, Betty Lue

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Life Is Different Now.

Where we used to run, we walk.
Where we collaborated, we talk.
Where we sang, we smile.
Where we kept moving, we stop awhile.

Friendship changes, when life rearranges itself.
Partnership becomes caring for basics and remembering essentials.
Having a good day together is quiet time at home or a walk in the sun.
Sharing responsibilities means doing what is left to be done.

When one changes, everything is in transition.
One day at a time is being aware of what today needs from me.
Dancing and romancing are exchanged for deep snuggling.
Sorrow and depression are replaced by comfort and appreciation.

With a slower body and a confused mind, everything takes extra time.
I learn patience, kindness and willingness to wait.
Where we were walking hand in hand, now we come together in balance to stand.
Where we laughed and played, now we pray, “Thank God for showing the way.”

Even when I do not understand the plan, I can and will accept what is.
Even when I do not know which way to choose, I can and will listen within.
Even when I do not know how best to love, I can and will remain happy and at peace.
Even when I do not know what to say, I can and will speak words of Love and trust in All.

Life is different now.
I see its perfection.
Because I am at peace.
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If what is written sounds like I refer to myself, it is.
Where two are united, there is union of heart and mind.
Where one is in pain, physically and emotionally, both look for peace.
Where one is struggling with balance in life, there both must seek to find the way.
Where one is uncertain of purpose and meaning, there both are searching for what is Real and valuable.
My brother and I are not separate. Indeed none of us are.
Everyone on the planet is our brother. Everyone everywhere is one with us.
No man is an island. When we are healed, we are not healed alone.
Know I am One with you as you are One with me.
All of us are in this life together, learning to totally love one another.
This is Good. This is God.

Loving you and all as One,
Betty Lue

Do We Crucify Ourselves?

Our ego will never be happy or feel safe in a world where there is much fear and self doubt, giving to get, working to earn money and not listening within.
When we are not doing our job, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we make mistakes, we need to forgive ourselves,
When we expect what others cannot or will not give, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we fall asleep our on our connection with Source, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we try to get more of what holds us separate, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we make the excuse of just being human, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we blame God for our own unconsciousness, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we allow others to hurt us, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we believe that salvation comes from outside, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we make excuses for our limited and negative thinking, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we forsake our own principled living, we need to forgive ourselves.
When we justify not being responsible for our experience, we need to forgive ourselves.

This world has very few conscious awakened beings.
When we trust in those who are asleep, we are making a mistake.
When we blame others, we are convincing ourselves that we are not responsible.
Our ego seeks to confirm its horror story that God has forsaken us.
Our ego believes in victimization, crucifixion and death as the final punishment and escape.

Actually we have forsaken God.
We have fallen asleep and allowed the world to crucify our egos.
We can shut down our light and get lost in our own shadows.
We can forget and forsake our True Self.
We can ignore, distract, delay and detour our practice.
We can judge, punish and prevent ourselves from being happy.
When our egos appear to be harmed or crucified, know our Essence and our Spirit does not die.
What is Real cannot be harmed.
The Love we are cannot die.
When we fall asleep, life may seem to be dangerous, serious and difficult.
When we fall asleep on the job, we might seem to get hurt.
When we allow the Voice within to direct our lives, life is safe, fun and easy.

All apparent upset and injury is merely a wake up call.
Let’s wake up and live, love, laugh and let go.
Wake up and take responsibility.
Wake up and listen within.
Wake up and love and care for yourself.
Wake up and let God and love lead the way.
Wake up and trust.
Wake up and learn.
Wake up and give the best you have to everyone in all circumstances.

No one and nothing can harm our Spirit.
Our job is to stay awake and in love.
Our job is to remember We Are Spirit.
Our job is to keep reminding one another.

I am loving YOU and ME!
I am always reminding us to stay awake.
Betty Lue

Abundant Living

I get paid by the Universe when I do my job and fulfill my purpose and my function here.
I have volunteered to contribute to this world and those in my life.
I am committed to keep my agreements and to complete my assignment.
When I fulfill my function and live my purpose I am abundantly paid.
And so are you.

When I insist on getting paid for doing a job based on the economy, or someone’s evaluation of my work, my pay will fluctuate according to the state of our national consciousness and the state of mind of my employer and how hard I work.
When I am a spiritual volunteer, I acknowledge that my purpose is to serve universal Good and I live conscious of my function.
When I remember I am here to love unconditionally, serve from the heart and remember always God and Good, I am paid abundantly on every level.
When we love unconditionally, we have no fear.
We extend more of what is Good.
We give our best to everyone.
We live in an expansive state.
The flow of all that is good and whole is abundant.
When we serve from our heart, we enjoy life.
We give fully and joyfully.
We are guided and directed as to what to do, where to go and how to serve.
When we serve from our heart, everything we give is given to ourselves.
When we remember god and Good, we are awakening all other minds.
We open the flow of abundant Joy and peace in their lives. We enrich our world.
When we remember the Good, we see and remind others of the Good both within and around us.
When we remember the God in what is, we believe it and see it, we live it and give it.
Our life becomes our riches and we are paid everyday by who we are, all we give, what we believe and see and appreciation.
Love, Joy and Peace grow within us and around us.
This is Abundant living.

I am sharing these reminders that everyone might live abundantly.
Betty Lue

What Is My Job?

My job is to mind my own business.
My job is to give my best.
My job is to practice, practice, practice.
My job is to forgive my mistakes.
My job is to never give up.
My job is to go to the highest Source for knowledge and wisdom.
My job is to keep flowing and keep going.
My job is to forgive and forget.
My job is to be grateful and giving.
My job is to be respectful and honest.
My job is to see and seek the highest Good.
My job is to trust all is well.
My job is to listen within.
My job is to be the light.
My job is to live in cooperation with Spirit.
My job is to be an inspiring example for others.
My job is to hold the light in which we all can awaken.
My job is to be at peace where there is conflict.
My job is to bring Love where there is fear.
My job is to remember to laugh, when the world gets stuck in seriousness.
My job is to enjoy life.
My job is to believe in miracles.
My job is to let go and love.
My job is to be fully present.
My job is to trust I am provided for when I am doing my job.
My job is to live what I know.
My job is to learn, laugh and let go.
My job is to affirm, accept and appreciate.
My job is to see only wholeness and Holiness.
My job is to Love you and me and All creation.

I Am.

What is your job?
Betty Lue

What to Expect

Expectations may cause sorrow, disappointment and frustration.

When we are conscious and connected, we can expect a consistent experience of kindness, honesty,
fairness, joy, openness, willingness, curiosity, respect, gratitude, acceptance, and inner peace.
When others are connected with Spirit we can expect the same thing.
However, most people think they are human, limited, separate, lacking, limited and disconnected.
They have forgotten their source, their inheritance, their Creator, their inner Guidance system.
Most people are lost, confused, conflicted, fearful, and often despairing.
They are seeking to either conform and blend in with others or numb their fear and pain with addictions (including TV, computer, sugar, fantasy and the usual popular addictive substances). Those who are caught in the illusion of their own confusion and made-up world often are agitated, manic, depressed, in pain, sick, deceitful. They often make and break their agreements, have ideas but don’t follow through, try to “get” what they want , but neglect to give what they have, , hate and blame themselves and others, and fall into lethargy and depression.
The signs and symptoms of those who are having a human experience are easy to spot in ourselves and others.

Those having a spiritual experience, those who are connected with God, within are also obvious.
The conscious and awakened ones are filled with joy, energy and enthusiasm.
They have creative ideas and share them freely with those who are receptive.
They seek to participate, to co-create, to partner with others.
They are at peace with themselves and their lives.
They live what they believe, and listen within to their inner authority.
They are trusting and freeing of themselves and others.
They enjoy the adventure of life and don’t get caught in judging “what happened?” with “who did it?” and “why did it happen?”
They love unconditionally without quitting on themselves.
They give for the sheer joy of giving the best they have.
They are both inspired and inspiring, filled with vision and ideas for collective fulfillment and loving community.

Two different worlds the conscious and unconscious live in.
Two different views from a loving person and a fearful person.
Two different energies with someone who is awake and one who sleeps.
Two different directions from someone who is clear and focused and one who is confused and lost.
Two different lifestyles from one who is committed to giving and one who is trying to survive.

I cannot expect another to be awake just because I Am.
I cannot expect another to be thinking, feeling and acting in love when they are afraid.
I cannot expect another to be giving their best when they have forgotten their Source and themselves.
I cannot expect another to be living with energy and enthusiasm, when they are running on empty.
My expectations may cause disappointment and frustration in me and guilt and resentment in them.

I can only stay connected and on purpose.
I can be awake and in love.
I can be filled with joy and enthusiasm.
I can remember my Source and stay connected.
I can be kind and generous.
I can forgive myself easily and quickly when I forget.
I can be a living loving reminder.
I can remember that the spiritual journey for everyone is unique and is their responsibility.

I am, therefore, I can.
I can therefore I Am.
Betty Lue

Support for New Beginnings

This was a big week for five year old Gia. It was time to move on from her Montessori experience. It was time to move into a new space of expression and learning. It was time to start her “big girl school”.

Complete and having mastered several challenges with her teacher and resultant “no choice” experiences within certain settings, Gia had ceased enjoying going to school. We watched and listened and heard whe was complete. We responded with what would be best for all concerned. And when it was discerned and agreed by all the grownups and Gia, she began this week. Wow!

Can you imagine what it feels like to be supported by you Papa, your Grandma and Grandpa? All there with you on your first day, meeting all the teachers, sitting in the classrooms, walking around the school, buying your own snack and talking with your new friends. Yes, all of us came together to share in the experience. We all learned to feel safe and at home. We all helped in the inclusion. It takes a village, or at least a family, to successfully raise a child.

How would your life be different if you had the support of your family and friends when you need to make a change. How would it be if people who loved you took at active interest in your new Doctor, your new job, your new home, your life changes? How would you feel if people who know you the best and love you the most were with you when you went off to some new adventure, especially when you are anxious and uncertain? How would you respond if others were so genuinely caring that they took time off work , asked questions and spent time listening to your concerns? How would it feel if someone special bought you an ice cream cone and took you out to dinner after you special day?

Can you love others this much in their new beginnings?
Can you love yourself enough to include others in your new beginnings?
And when you are alone in a new place, can you give yourself the special listening and care you would give a little child?

We all deserve to hold hands together when we are doing something new and unfamiliar.
Thanks for remembering to love and give your very best.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

P.S.
Can you believe the morning school called Gia’s Dad on the second day to let him know she was having a GREAT day? This is what sharing and caring yields.

Inside Job

It all comes from within.
Joy comes from within.
Peace comes from within.
Love comes from within.
Power comes from within.
Salvation comes from within.
Purpose comes from within.
Truth comes from within.
Goodness comes from within.
Creativity comes from within.
Healing comes from within.
Wisdom comes from within.
Vision comes from within.
Strength comes from within.
Courage comes from within.
Direction comes from within.
Commitment comes from within.
Action comes from within.
Gratitude comes from within.
Forgiveness comes from within.
Renewal comes from within.
Inspiration comes from within.
Abundance comes from within.
Confidence comes from within.
Everything worth having comes from within.

So where does pain, conflict, fear, punishment, meaninglessness, despair, desceit, cruelty, disease, ignorance, blindness, weakness, judgment, lethargy, criticism, resentment, giving up, depression, insecurity come from? Who cares? When you see trash, throw it away. Waste no time trying to figure out who to blame or how it got there. Throw it away.

Want to live with the treasures in life?
First clean out the trash in your mind.
Anything you picked up along the road of life that is not good enough for God is not good enough for you.
You are not meant to be a garbage collector.
Take your past attachments, negative beliefs, resentments, fear, guilt and limiting self-images to the dump.
Let go with a blessing of joy and gratitude.
Next, take time to visit the sanctuary of your Place in the Divine Plan.
There is a place in you where only Holiness and Love abide.
Visit your inner shrine daily.
Pay attention to the treasures and messages of Love that are waiting there for you.

This is your place of refuge, safety, wisdom and peace.
Within you is everything whole and good and beautiful.
Take the time to discover the gifts within.

Everything you seek is within you NOW.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What We Believe We Perceive and Achieve

When we believe in lack, we see it.
When we believe in lack, we generate it.
When we believe in lack, we make sure we are right about our belief in lack.
The more we complain, worry and struggle with our lack, the more we make our lives a struggle.
When we believe in our limitations, we see how limited we are.
The more we talk about our limitations, the more we convince ourselves and others of how limited we are.
When we believe we are limited in what we can do, we are right…we are limited.
The more we grieve our loss, the more we believe we have lost.
The more we regret our past, the more we see to regret.
The more we suffer from what was, the more we fear what will be.
When I believe I am not enough, I convince myself and others I am not enough.
When I believe I do not have enough, I make sure I do not have enough.
When I believe I cannot get enough, I limit how much I have and how much I give.

I am only as limited, lacking and little as I believe I am

Our mind works to prove we are right about what we believe.
There is no one to convince and nothing to overcome.
There is only changing our mind and thus, changing our life.

Life at its best requires letting go of the needy self and supporting the giving Self in living abundantly and giving freely. Life, when we are needy and frightened is a balancing act between giving just enough to maintain our security needs and getting what we need to survive. Life, when we are fulfilled and happy, is a wondrous opportunity to share our abundant joy, creativity and love with everyone.

To have All, give All to All.

Wow! This is an awesome truth!
I am always willing to see and believe you and I are unlimited and free.
I know with God all things are possible.
I recognize that clearing our minds of limited and lacking and belittling thoughts is our responsibility.
I realize that I am creating my experience with my thoughts, words and deeds.
I now choose to create a beautiful, loving life with the abundance of joy and creative energy I have.
And so do You!
Betty Lue

Fun, Safe and Easy

Life is fun, safe and easy….. when I Am.

Life can be fun, safe and easy. This has been one of my life themes. I now see how when I am fun, safe and easy, I am creating the life I want. When I am not fun, not safe and not easy for myself and others, I am not creating the life I want.
Aaaah! Such a simple and awesome realization. How fun, safe and easy to undo and let the True B’Lue through.

My life has been a joy, even in the midst of sorrow. After my Dad died within the Asheville Hospice, my Mom, Robert and I went to the movies to see Mrs. Doubtfire with Robin Williams. My Dad would have loved that. When there is tragedy in life, I seek to restore my sanity with appreciation of the natural beauty all around me, and look for signs of kindness within my human family. I know how to play at work and always leave my clients and classes feeling uplifted, hopeful and usually smiling when they leave my office.
Life is fun….an amazing and miraculous adventure.

My life has been safe, even in the midst of danger. Even with a near death experience, with a fearful and violent person or close calls in traffic, I am protected by my seeing myself and my world as safe. I am awake and conscious. I am vigilant for the possibilities of how to support safety for everyone. I seek and find the safe way to go and am grateful to be reminded. I listen within for direction and follow my inner guidance. I notice what happens when I forget and am gently reminded what works.
Life is safe…a failsafe opportunity to learn what works, Who knows the best course and which direction is good for all.

My life is easy, even in times of hardship, loss and lack. With limited resources, apparent health issues, family problems, many moves, giving all for the sake of all, I have consistently been amazed at how easily life always works when I do the work of trusting and freeing myself and my limiting thoughts with faith, hope and love. Ease comes from trusting in the Power and Presence and Purpose that lives within me and letting it be fully free to express itself with my joy of being. There is no absence, no lack, no limitation and no difficulty that cannot be easily undone and overcome with my willingness to listen within and allow God to guide me.
Life is easy when I suspend all judgments and fears and live in the moment with faith.

When I forget to be this space of fun, safety and ease, I do not see this world around me. When I become convinced by mass consciousness or the voice of those nay-sayers and purveyors of doom and gloom, I lose my joy and hide my light from myself.
I forgive myself for forgetting to be fun and have fun.
I forgive myself for forgetting to be safe and to know we are safe.
I forgive myself for forgetting to be easy and giving that easy acceptance to all that is.

Life is fun, safe and easy, when I AM.

So be it and so I Am,
Betty Lue

Respect and Happiness

When I respect my Self, I am respected and happy.
When I forget and use or abuse myself, I am overlooked and unhappy.

Ways of disrespect are often accepted in our culture as the norm. We may even be encouraged to disrespect ourselves.
Let’s see what we can see, as we look again deeper. Re-spect = to look again.

Disrespectful ways:
Deny our own happiness.
Forget about our needs.
Take care of others first.
Listen to our egoic fear.
Talk negatively to ourselves.
Limit what we can do.
Doubt our dreams and vision.
Let money be our leader.
Think in terms of lack.
Not take time to dream.
Not know what we want.
Hide our gifts from the world.
Betray our commitments to ourselves.
Let our senses distract, detour and delay us.
Waste our time, energy and money.
Feed ourselves energy–sapping foods.
Watch TV and read negative stuff.
Work without inspiration.
Live without enjoyment.
Forget to be grateful.
Never tithe to the source of our inspiration and Good.
Deny ourselves the faith, hope and love we need.
Believe we cannot achieve or have our heart’s desire.
Distrust there is a Power and Presence that loves and supports us.
Live unconsciously.
Give only to get something in return.
Neglect to pray or affirm.
Set aside what is ours to do for the sake of others.
Complain and whine.
Wish, but no action.
Never quiet our minds to listen within.

Our anti-Life habits of mind lead us into lethargy, discouragement and self limitation.
This often yields anger, depression, disease and violence toward self and others.
These signs and symptoms are merely a call for forgiveness and a return to love.

I now love honor and respect my whole and Holy Self.
The more I love and respect my Whole Self, the more I love and respect Your Holy Self.
The more I love and respect my Self, the more you love and respect Me.
The more I love and respect my Self, the more you love and respect your Self.
The more I love and respect my Self, the more you love and respect others.
The more I love and respect my Self, the more my world becomes a place of love and respect.

So be it, always and in all ways,
Betty Lue

Be True To You

You are Unique.
Your gifts are unique.
Your calling is unique.
You are here to serve a Holy Purpose.

There is no one like you in all the universe.
The family to which you were born offered you the perfect opportunities to heal and be healed.
The friends with which you have shared yourself have been the perfect ones to learn and grow.
The adventures which you have given yourself have been the ideal experiences to expand your awareness.
Your jobs, education, partners, homes and travels have all given you the opportunity to see and know you and discover your unlimited capacity for creating, enjoying, and contributing.

Yes, your whole life is your creation.
What you experience and how you hold it in your consciousness is a product of your judgment.
What you remember and believe about life’s effect on you begets your magnificence and strength or your weakness and victimization.
Everything you have known is a gift or a curse depending on your chosen judgment and perception.

It is up to you how you choose to see this and every moment.
To undo the negative effects of past experiences requires only that you forgive the limiting stories of harm and inability and choose the blessing of healing and infinite love.
The miracles of life come in the form of transformed perception.
The miracle of You is seen in your resilience and determination, your forgiveness and Love, your courage and strength, your capacity for healing and growth, your creativity and generosity.

Set yourself free from withholding.
Set yourself free from judging.
Set yourself free from limitation.
Set yourself free from lack.
Set yourself free from belittling.

Forgive yourself for shutting down.
Give yourself permission to give all to all and you will have All you are.

Life is for giving and you are the gift.
It is only in freely giving the gift of yourself that your fully realize the gift you are.

Believing in you always,
Betty Lue

When You are Stuck

What do you need and want?
Listening…
Flushing…
Feedback…..
Clarification….
Information….
Advice……
Opportunity to express your own thoughts and feelings…..
Connection with Spirit……..
Other perspectives…..
Creative solutions…..
To be seen and heard….
To be known and loved……
To be invited to heal……
To be seen whole and Holy….
To be given ideas and inspiration……

Therapists, counselors, psychics, doctors, healers, and friends are all different in approach and training.
Some are trained to listen deeply.
Some evaluate, diagnose and prescribe.
Some treat the symptoms.
Some look for your sickness and see what is wrong.
Some look for your strengths and see what is working.
Some encourage your own process and some provide you with new processes.
Some tell you what to do and some listen to what you are willing to do.
Some treat you like a patient and some treat you like a friend.
Some align with your highest Good and some see only your personality flaws.
Some give you inspiring information and some give what they have learned.
Some coach and mentor.
Some counsel and advise.
Some are focused on doing their job and getting paid.
Some are focused on being of help and treating your fairly.

People often call me for counseling and coaching after being disappointed or turned off by long term counseling/therapy.
Their counseling experience and the expense was not helpful or failed them.
Their unhappiness is healed almost immediately by a willingness to listen and help them clarify what they do want.
Everyone wants something unique.
The first step of any helpful relationship is to be joined in purpose and process.
Many times the clarification of what we do want is enough.
You need to choose what works for you.
Explore.
Interview (ask for free time for your questions).
Seek out someone whom you can trust.
Choose someone who wants to be with you.
Do not be dissuaded by the cost. Find someone who treats you “fairly” financially.
You deserve to have the most respectful, loving presence with you, as you walk through this life adventure.
Give yourself the very best. Persist until you find what works for you.
Be not discouraged by healing relationships that are not what you want.
Your choice of counselor, advisor and friend is just as important as your choice of a mate.
Choose wisely and with a willingness to educate them in what you really want and need.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Are You Loving You?

You are the Gift of God.
In all the Universe there is no one who can take your place.
You are an integral piece of the Whole cosmos.
You are needed.
You are wanted.
You are valued.
Fully being You is the piece (peace) of God you are here to be.
Without you we are incomplete.

No matter what you have heard of felt from your family of origin, your teachers or even from you ego’s voice, you are more important than you know.
Only when you fully love and appreciate your worth can you fully give and be the gift you are.
To find this gift you must commit to cherish it.
To know you worth you must agree to honor it.
To live this gift you must choose to love it.
Without end…….

If you saw yourself as your Creator sees you, you would weep with the exquisite beauty in you.
You would be overjoyed with the awesome goodness in you.
You would marvel at the infinite creativity and possibilities in you.
You would laugh at the amazing adventures you have chosen for you.
You would be mystified by your lack of value you place on your own life.
You would encourage the impeccable nurturance and profound love for you.

You are the most precious gift of God you could possibly imagine.
Awesome and infinite, bountiful and beautiful, precious and sensitive……
Take care of you.
You are God’s most precious Gift to You.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Return to Love

When you are sick, return to love.
When you are resentful, return to love.
When you are lonely, return to love.
When you are grieving, return to love.
When you are hurt, return to love.
When you are misunderstood, return to love.
When you are judged, return to love.
When you are betrayed, return to love.

Love is your natural state.
When you are in love you will understand and be healed.
When you are in love you will see the gift and be blessed.
When you are in love, will you know the need and be able to respond.
When you are in love you will know the Peace of God.
When you are in love, you will keep on giving.

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
Whatever the need, Love is the way.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

PS No more email problems. Thanks for your Love and mine.
Whatever the problem or question, Love is the solution.
Remember, LOVE is TRUST and FREEDOM.

When Things Go Wrong

Who do you blame?
What is your response ability?
How do you get back on course?

Judgment, blame, guilt and shame get us stuck in doing it all again.
We are taught to judge every situation and relationship as good or bad, right or wrong. When we find fault with what happens,
we see something or someone to blame to justify or explain the wrong-doing.
When we judge what happens, we fear and defend against it happening again.
Our energy and unconscious focus will actually recreate a similar experience.

Oops! To see what is without judgment is to free ourselves to choose without fear.
To be free to choose is to trust in the highest outcome.
To trust in the outcome is to see all things as working together for us and for the Highest Good of All.
To see all things as working together for Good is to place our energy and focus on the Good that is to come.
When we are focused on Goodness and Wholeness, that is what we experience.

When we judge things have gone wrong, there is no one and nothing to blame.
Our ability to respond with forgiveness of our judgments and fear will open the way for us to experience the perfection and learning opportunity and loving reminder intrinsic within each moment.

When I believe there is a mistake, I am called to Stop my judging mind.
Look at what is with a neutral mind and Listen within with an open heart.
(This includes our government, those who commit crimes, our internet service!)
I cannot be of real and lasting help, with judging thoughts words and actions.
I cannot hear what is fair, honest, beneficial and promotes good will when I am in fear.
I cannot be a voice for healing and transformation of consciousness when I feel victimized.
I cannot undo the shame and blame game when I am feeling hurt and resentful.

I must appreciate this moment and every moment as an opportunity……..
TO STOP AND SUSPEND MY JUDGMENTS,
TO LOOK WITH FORGIVENESS AND TRUST WHAT REALLY IS,
TO LISTEN TO THE VOICE WITHIN,
LET LOVE LEAD THE WAY.

ONLY THEN….
I am happy and at peace within myself.
I am on purpose with forgiving everything and everyone.
I am on course with seeing and experiencing the miracle of Love.
I am a living example of the teaching of all great spiritual teachers.
I am teaching peace on earth and Good will for all humankind.

Always remembering and reminding the Highest Truths,
Betty Lue

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Ongoing groups
Free workshops
List of books available
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Loving you with a heart that is true B’Lue

Love Invites the Call For Love

People often bring their worst behavior to those who are loving and forgiving.

If you ask why bad things happen to good people, you may be asking, “Why are good people called upon to forgive and love again?” These earth angels, or innocents, or giving people are often called to love more, to forgive and give more, to go beyond the ordinary and be truly extraordinary.

As I have learned to love without condition, to love without judgment, to love and not criticize, I have been given opportunities to challenge my choice, to strengthen my commitment and to demonstrate that Love heals.
Love works every time without fail.

There is only Love and the call for Love. Among humanity there is an apparent need for the remembrance of what is True and what is loving. I am here to remember and not forget and so are you.

If each one of us will choose to remember to love, we can change our world.
Only Love begets Love.
Fear begets fear.
Love heals.
Love forgives.
Love washes away the “sins” of the world.
Love erases all errors so we can choose again.
Love can make new again.
Love is the redeemer.
Love is the only power.
Love shines away darkness.
Love opens doors of possibility.
Love is endless giving and forgiving.
Love is abundant life.

I am calling for you.
I am calling be True.
I am calling You to be the Love You Are.

When we Love enough, we know the Peace and Power and Presence of God.
Betty Lue

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You Are Loved

When you know you are loved, it is natural to be loving.

If you are loved conditionally, you would learn to love conditionally.
If you are limited and criticized by one who claims to “love” you,
you would believe love is judgmental and restrictive.
If you experience neediness and dependence from those who “love” you,
you would love others by being dependent and needy.
We learn about “love” by observing and experiencing those who say they “love”.
We are imprinted with those behaviors, thoughts and feelings we receive as infants and children.

To forgive the past is to let go of these definitions of love.
To love unconditionally is to experience and extend love without conditions.

To know the love of a freeing and trusting God, parent, or wholly loving person is to have the experience and to then unconditionally love others.
True Love can be learned and grow one by one.
Spiritual experiences of an All-Loving Creator give us a model of Love that does not judge.
Love is not critical.
Love never ends.

I am here to be truly helpful.
I am here to bring the Love I have been given.
I don’t have to worry about how to be loving, because Love is who I Am.
I am happy to be wherever I am guided knowing that Love is always with me.
I remember my wholeness and happiness, as I let the Love teach me to encourage wholeness and happiness in others.
(This is my interpretation of the Healer’s Prayer in Course in Miracles.)

You are loved, whether you know it or not.
As you let go of judging your own worthiness,
As you forgive all your mistakes,
As you quiet your mind and listen within,
You will hear and know You are deeply and profoundly loved.

God Loves you and so do I.
Betty Lue

Attend Your Sensitivity

“If you would grow to be your best self,
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not with holding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing and punishing.
For you are more sensitive than you know.
Mankind is tough as war,
Yet delicate as flowers.
We can endure agonies, but we open fully only to warmth and light.
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still.
So Accept,
Respect,
Attend your sensitivity.
A flower cannot be opened with a hammer.”

This is a poem which I use as my theme for life coaching and counseling.
I believe it is a theme for all our relationships to support the blossoming of the garden of Goodness and Love on Earth.

We have an opportunity and sacred responsibility to begin with ourselves. Each one of us has sensitivity buried under layers of grief, hurt, disappointment, betrayal, criticism and fear. Those who persecute have been persecuted. People are casting off the clothing of the past on those they claim to love. Sometimes even acknowledging that they are preparing their children for the harshness of the world by teaching them to become tough and brave, defensive and armored.

Keeping ourselves in situations where we are re-wounded or insisting that our children stay with teachers who are angry and punitive, seems counter productive. If we want to live in a world of insensitive, disrespectful, fearful and violent people, we need to keep on encouraging toughness by supporting movies, video games, TV and other media which display attack or be attacked, kill or be killed, wage war to conquer evil and hate to fight hatred.

To be sensitive means to provide warmth and light.
To be sensitive to oneself means to end critical self talk.
To be sensitive means to look for the Good in everyone.
To be sensitive means to honor the gifts and blessing.
To be sensitive means to understand the needs of each person.
To be sensitive means to be forgiving.
To be sensitive means to be helpful.
To be sensitive means to to create optimum circumstances in life for each one to heal and grow and blossom.

Begin with attending your own sensitivity.
Give your self alone time. Give yourself appreciation. Give yourself respect.
Attend to your own needs first. Then you will realize the profound value to others.
Build a sensitive world one person at a time. Begin with YOU.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Beginning Again

What keeps us from letting go?
We learn to be afraid of what is new and unknown.
We think we need to be in control.
We choose to follow paths travelled by others.
We listen to outside authority.
We make it up that we must see the destination before we take the path.

Yes, our history shapes us.
If you like the shape, trust it is yours.
If you don’t like the shape, let it go with respect.

Where you focus gives you direction.
To focus on the past, keeps you looking back.
You probably are missing the signs along the way.
To focus on the future (often with anxiety and fear), you may be busy being careful to not make the mistakes of the past in the future. You may miss what life is showing you right now.

Your vision of your new life will help change your mind.
Your imagination will open the doors of possibility and bring hope.
Your forgiveness of the past will clear future obstacles and resistance.
Your affirmation of yourself and your happiness will invite creativity, freedom and joy.

How will you create your new life to be?
How will you love and respect yourself?
How will you sing and dance talk and share?
How will you live and give?
How will you love and laugh when you begin life brand new?
What do you need to let go of to begin again?

This season is a perfect time to plow under the past failed crops.
It is also essential to finish the harvest of past blessings with gratitude.
Right now you can choose to daily die to the old and awaken to the new.
The coming spring is the perfect time to plant seeds of hope, faith and Love.
You are a magnificent creation of LOVE!
Appreciate You, love You, honor and respect You.

Always beginning,
Betty Lue

History Repeats Itself

How difficult must life be before you let it go?
How much do you suffer before you release it all?
How much hurt do you feel before you forgive?
How much pain do you hold before you relinquish?
How much regret and guilt do you know before you give it to God?

Your history follows you everywhere.
Wherever you remember the past, you relive it.
Where you retell the story, you recreate it.
Where you ask others to understand, you invite their agreement.
Where you use it to buy sympathy, you limit your choices.

You want to begin again …a clean slate and a new perspective!
But you believe you are stuck.
You judge this must be your “lot in life” or your bad luck or your karma or just a bad mistake.
You try to analyze, figure out, defend against, stay out of trouble, be safe and anonymous.
You may even be invisible and make no waves.
You may live without really living.
The excuses and explanations—aging, health problems, our childhood, the world is bad, people are stupid—don’t make us happy. They just become the story we tell ourselves.

History repeats itself only because we believe in the story.
What we believe, we see.
What we believe, we experience.
What we judge and fear, we get more of.
What we resist, hangs around.
What we focus on grows and strengthens.

The creative solution is to change our mind.
“Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” (Romans)
See no evil. Hear no evil. Speak no evil.
Evil grows (the illusion of the absence of Love appears real) by naming it.

If we want our history, we have only to confirm it.
If we want something new, we must let it go.

Now is the time.
Only you can let it go.
Forgive yourself.
Erase the stories.
Stop seeking agreement and sympathy.
Let go of your pain and seek only to love again.

Dying daily to what was and being born again to what is, I am always and ever loving YOU,
Betty Lue

Life Happens

Yes, stuff happens to all of us.
The more you risk, the more you experience.
The more public you are,
the more expressive you are,
the more you step out of your comfort zone,
the more you dare to love and laugh and let go,
the more you are honest,
the more you give freely,
the more you step into new and unfamiliar territory,
the more richly you experience life.

The more you stay comfortable and safe, the less you experience of learning, loving and living.

So when stuff happens…
When you lose or fail, when you are criticized or judged, when you find difficulties in your way, when people leave, when you feel hurt or shamed, what do you do?

The joy of life is found in living fully and abundantly.
The ecstasy in life is found in being free.
The growth in life is found in being challenged and overcoming obstacles.
The healing in life is found in changing your mind and living by your spiritual principles.
The strengthening in life is found in never quitting on love.

When life happens, it is futile to try to analyze, explain, justify, figure out, resent, resist, build defenses and protect yourself. It merely sets up fear of more pain, adjusting to other’s expectations and playing it safe by conforming.
When life happens, let go.
When life happens, forgive,
When life happens, love more
When life happens, look for the gift.
When life happens, trust in the intrinsic Goodness in all things.

Everyone is learning.
Listen within.
Follow your Inner voice.
Let life happen.
And enjoy the healing, learning and growth along the way.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Letting Go for the Lent

Tomorrow is “Ash Wednesday” or the first Day of Lent. In many Christian traditions it means time for a personal sacrifice to better relate with the “sacrifice” of Jesus. For me, it is the season for letting go and plowing under limiting patterns, unhealthy habits and negative thinking that poison our consciousness to heal our body and soul.

As we prepare for spring and the planting of seeds of possibility for this year, begin by tilling the soil of our unconscious errors of omisison and commission. Be grateful for all you have learned from the past and forgive and bless those experiences which you have judged. The Lenten season is a reminder to release the old, to let it die and allow the new birth or resurrection of spring. With our focus on the negative stories, the pain and suffering, the mistakes and sins of the past for ourselves and others, we are merely maintaining, sustaining and replanting the same for this year. Where we place our focus, there we experience a harvest and repeat what we claim to want to release. It is time to plow the fields of our mind and plant the seeds of Divine Will. When we say” Not my will, but Thy Will be done.”, we are affirming our willingness to relinquish our petty selfish and pleasure-seeking habits to allow for compassionate service and truly healthy choices for the Good of All.

The crucifixtion and punishment of ourselves and others yields only more images of judgment, fear, pain and suffering. Our focus on what is wrong yields more guilt and shame, more punishment and retribution and ironically supports repeating the same errors. Guilt does not heal or create better choices. The message of the Easter story is found in the new life, renewed Spirit, endless Love and the Presence of Possibility, Power and Peace in total forgiveness. We are saved from our mistakes by ceasing all judgment and choosing to honor the calling of spirit within. When we see the Essence, we know the call for Love in all mistakes. When wqe listen for spirit, we know we are here to be helpful. When we forgive all mistakes and “sins”, we trust that all things work together for Good and for God.

Experiment with letting go of what no longer serves your wholeness, goodness and loving contribution to your family, community and world. Begin by clearing out just one obstacle to peace of mind or one distraction to being fully present for loving service. Create the space in your consciousness where new possibilities can enter. Sit and be still for 10 minutes a day. Seek higher Vision. Make notes on the spirit guided pictures, ideas or words that come. Make room for your renewed spirit by letting go of some ancient guilt, fear, hatred or avoidance. Release an addiction or habit to pleasure your senses rather than quiet your mind. Be aware of how much your cultural programming supports your not being fully present and available for living and giving abundantly. Let go and allow your whole life to be changed for the better.

“Be not conformed to this world, but rather be transformed by the renewal of your mind.”
Remember when you mind is full of clutter and useless thinking, you will experience a life of clutter and useless stuff.

Loving you by letting go daily,
Betty Lue

Past Regrets

Mistakes are made.
Time moves on.
One experiment failed cannot mean don’t try again.
Unrequited love does not mean to never love.
Gifts given and unappreciated does not teach to never give.

Life is an obstacle course to strengthen our resolve to do what in the moment is the calling of our spirit.
We must listen and honor what we “know” with our heart.

Much of our lives is spent in listening to the egoic or selfish self.
We heed the voices of what others do, what we were taught, what authorities say or friends advise.
And yet each time we miss, we question the wisdom of our choices.
Somewhere along the line se stop and llisten deeper.
What is the greatest gift I have to give?
What can I do to serve the greater good?
How can I listen to what has heart and meaning for me and serves the Good of All?

Forgiveness is a gift of spirit to begin again.
Forgiveness invites us to let go with love.
Forgiveness opens the door to our higher mind.
Forgiveness absolves the self doubt and guilt.
Forgiveness encourages us to listen deeper.
Forgiveness is the reminder to trust.
Forgiveness is the opening to being fully present.
Forgiveness is the joy of being.
Forgiveness is always remembering to Love no matter what.

I am loving you.
The mistakes we make are simply opportunities to learn what we really value, what we really want.
Be grateful for all the mistakes and you will learn more and listen more and Love more.
I am grateful that under all mistakes is the invitation to Love more.

Betty Lue

Love Is Enough

How do you support yourself in remembering to Love?
How do you make time to Love You just as you are?
How do you actively demonstrate your Love for your “loved” ones?
How do you Love in times of stress, strife and struggle?

When I am remembering to Love,
I take time.
I slow down.
I appreciate.
I say blessings.
I affirm.
I value what is important.
I give my very best.
I meditate.
I read ageless wisdom.
I write with Spirit.
I fell blessed.
I reach out to others.
I take really good care of me.
I laugh more.
I let go easily.
I say “thanks” easily.
I am at peace.
I enjoy what is.
I don’t notice anything to complain about.
I create beauty and goodness.
I am connected to life.
I am grateful for the Love I know and see and Am.

I am remembering to Love as I remind You,
Betty Lue

When I am in Love, I see only Love.
This I choose today and everyday.
Blessed be to All.

Healthy Relationships

Here are some notes for my part of the Healthy Relationships Workshop this afternoon.
Remember you are responsible for your own goals, honesty, equality, commitment and happiness. If your relationships are not working there is no one to blame. Simply forgive unconscious habits of mind and choose again. Your life is up to YOU.

Spiritual Definitions and Guidelines
Healthy= what works for all parties
Relationship= where we see something other than ourselves ( time, money, career, body, others)

To be in a healthy relationship:
We see all with the eyes of Love, nothing to be feared, judged or avoided.
Physical world is to heal our perceptions. We see and feel, so we can heal.
Healing is awareness with no judgment, awareness with Love. Be aware and let go.
To heal is to release our judgments and renew our perception of wholeness and holiness.

Keys to Successful Relationships

Vision- Sharing a common goal. This implies having the same picture and working together, supporting one another in the fulfillment of that vision. When the goals are completed, new goals must be set.
Recommend: Set the Highest possible goal for your relationship with life.

Honesty-Be self disclosing and open about your current viewpoint. No need to gossip, rehash the past or compare with others. Be present moment in acknowledging your own lack of peace and responsibility for your own happiness. Erase with love=Forgiveness. True honesty is LOVE=Trust and Freedom. See beyond the surface and speak from your spiritual center. Tell the High Truth.

Equality- All are equal, no one better or worse, no one right or wrong. Each one is a teacher for everyone. Open to giving and receiving the essential gifts being given. Acknowledge your thoughts, words and behavior are teaching all. Give your very best all the time. Teach what you want to learn.

Commitment-Be genuinely committed to living your Highest Truth. Live by your spiritual principles. Be true to your word. Keep your agreements and promises to yourself and to others. Support everyone in what is for the Highest Good of All.
Be unselfish in your commitments.

Response-ability-Your perception, your judgment and subsequent emotions are totally your responsibility. To be in successful relationship take impeccable care of your own happiness by maintaining a state of constant forgiveness, letting go of your preferences and seeing what is with Love.

In relationships learn to heal your attachments and free yourself from the judging mind which traps you in the roller coaster of emotional highs and lows. In relationship learn that trust, patience, tolerance, gentleness, honesty, generosity, open-mindedness, defenselessness, joy, faithfulness give you everything you want.

Practice with everyone and everything. Life is your learning lab. Use life with kindness and gratitude.

Viewpoints from Mind-Mapping for Marketing

In relationship our work is to let go of our likes and dislikes. See what is and trust in the process. Love is being aware and at peace with what appears to be. Hold nothing in judgment. Let go and Love.

Amoral---I don’t care about anything. (infancy)
Ego---Its all about me. I am needy. (toddler)
Pleaser---Whatever I can do to please you. How can I make you happy? (latency)
Authority---Don’t tell me. I know and I am right. (adolescent)
Responsible---I am willing to do my part. Fair. Care. Share (adulthood)
Principled---I live in integrity with my values. Authentic and on purpose. (maturity)
Universal---Whatever serves the Good of All. We are One. (enlightened)

The more the beloved wants to please, the more we imagine we need to have likes and dislikes.


It’s free so come if you can. Four of my Partners in Health Associates are presenting on Healthy Touch, Healthy Communication, Healthy Eating, and Developing Healthy Habits in Relationships. From 1:30-4PM at 140 Mayhew Way, Suite 100, Pleasant Hill.

Loving you,
Betty lue

How Do You Define Success?

Worldly Success appears to be how much money you have, how much you accomplish, how you are loved, how young you look or how much you are admired. These forms of success are temporary and illusive. They change with the cultural climate. These successes have highs and lows, the glory of victory and agony of defeat. They depend on the spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and fiscal health of those with whom you live and relate. We learn to be dependent on the feedback of others and our world. Much energy is expended in trying to get this worldly success. And once achieved how much energy do you expend defending, protecting and doing more to keep what you have achieved?

To define life success in this way, one would be constantly striving and working to be successful. One would be constantly fearful of losing one’s state of achievement. Life would be serious, dangerous and difficult and very complex. One would be vigilant for when and how it all would end.

When I have entered into these shark-infested waters, I notice how my emotions fluctuate depending on the current state of my world. Peace is non-existent as one’s mind must be constantly vigilant for the next change, plotting and planning on how to hold on to success and avoid failure. I recognize how what we like and dislike, fantasize and wish for, compare and envy other’s success defines our self worth and measure of personal success. How we see our goals and our self- definition of personal success set us up for disappointment and disillusionment.

Success may be defined in anyway you choose.
Why not use your spiritual principles and guidelines to define your success?
Why not choose goals which are fun, safe and easy to live by because they are natural?
Why not experience success everyday in every relationship because you dare to care?
Why not honor your creator’s love for you by fully embracing all of your life experiences?
Why not trust that every moment you are a success?
Why not recognize that you cannot fail, except in your own negative judgment and comparison?
Why not let go of seeing yourself through worldly eyes and see yourself with the eyes of Love?
Why not own your beauty, your goodness, your loving intention with full appreciation?
Why not see God in all that you are and do and give and create?
Why not know that you have always been successful and have achieved exactly what you believed?
Why not?

You are a success without trying.
Betty Lue

Choosing Happiness

When life is focused only on Goodness, there is only one choice.
When life is focused on what is good for me, the choices are infinite.

When life is filled with what we like, then we think what we like makes us happy.
This Happiness is conditional on having the relationships, home, job, money and health that we want.
This Happiness is temporary and follows the flow of what life brings.

If the partner isn’t what we want, we badger, nag and leave emotionally or physically.
If the job isn’t what we think we deserve, we become resentful, resistant and fail to give our best.
If our finances are not what we believe we should have, we are discouraged, depressed and feel bad.
When we don’t have what we want, we shut down our love for self, our love for life and withhold our best.
Our likes, our desires, our pleasures seem to determine our state of mind and our emotional state.

When life is focused on being content and at peace with what is, then we are always happy.
True Happiness is our inner natural state and has nothing to do with the temporary circumstances of life.
True Happiness has no conditions and is a conscious choice.
True happiness is a gift we give ourselves everyday.
True Happiness is lasting and emanates a resilient joy for all to see and feel.

I have noticed as I try to figure out what will “make” me or you happy, I am confused and conflicted.
I observe that my conflict yields unhappiness and lack of peace. Conflict causes stress and pain.
When I seek what you and I like or want, I recognize the subsequent happiness is temporary and dependent on life circumstances.
Goals we seek and achieve may provide temporary pleasure and then may be followed by emptiness, depression, meaninglessness and the question “What now?”

Human consciousness is led by what brings us joy. And yet that joy is usually temporary.
Thus we are at the effect of the human condition. We are victims of circumstances.
What would happen if we cease the confusion, conflict and stress of trying to figure out how to make ourselves happy?
What would happen if we simply forgive our endless seeking and choose to quiet the mind, suspend our willfulness and simply and effortlessly choose to be happy with what is…..
What would happen if we give up seeking and simply enjoy what is?
Are we addicted and attached to the process of seeking, finding and trying not to lose what we have found?

Today, right now, I am willing to be happy and content with what is.
I am willing to experience this moment with gratitude and joy.
I am willing to forgive my judgments and love all things as they are.
I am willing to be at home with myself.
I am willing to know the Godness and Goodness in all things.
I am content. I am at peace.
I trust in the Love and Joy within me.

In Joy,
Betty Lue

Effective Arguing?

Don’t!
It is a waste of energy to argue.
It is valuable to share your opinion, your perspective and your judgment, only if you recognize that is what it is. ..simply your opinion. Everyone sees the issue from their own place, their own beliefs and history. We all have a way of seeing what it. To try to convince someone that your position is “right” is usually to convince ourselves that we are “right” and they are “wrong”. This yields an unequal relationship or one in which there is a winner and a loser.

Often, we don’t share at all because we don’t want the other person to feel bad or because we are afraid of their reaction. It is effective to share your viewpoint, only if the other person genuinely is willing to listen and holds it as just another perspective. To argue back and forth trying to convince the other usually yields resistance, defensiveness, hurt feelings and resentment. To argue is usually about expressing and justifying our emotions rather that wanting the other person to see another viewpoint.

To share openly invites openness and honesty, a key to successful relating.
First ask if the other wants to hear your perspective.
Ask when would be the best time to talk, preferably without interruption.
Preface your self expression with a statement of : “This is only my viewpoint. “
I want to share with you to improve the quality of our relationship. My intention is to love more.
When you share, take full responsibility for your feelings, your beliefs, your judgments, etc.
I feel….. . I see……..I want……… I am willing………
Then open the door to fully hear the other’s viewpoint.
What do you feel?
What do you observe?
What do you want?
What are you willing to do to have what you want?
Listen with full acceptance of the other’s perspective.
Recognize that respecting each others values choices and points of view is honoring the right to be different and respecting the right to disagree and continue to love one another.

I learned many years ago to state my position and then immediately let go to open the door to the other person’s viewpoint. Hold no position. Step into full acceptance. It is in acceptance or awareness with non-judgment that healing and movement occurs. What you give to another will be given to you.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

A friend reminded me that impatience (and arguing) is simply not loving what is.

Love is Patient

Without patience, we may quit just when we are needed most.
Without patience, we may yield to what is negative or unkind.
Without patience, we may join the crowd instead of honoring our inner guidance.
Without patience, we may become angry or resentful.
Without patience, we may forget Love is Who we are.
Without patience, we may make up our minds and negate the other’s viewpoint.
Without patience, we may choose to be “right” and make the other “wrong”.
Without patience, we may forget to put our loving relationship first.
Without patience, we may push and punish and create resistance.
Without patience, we may cause animosity and separation rather than forgiveness and closeness.
Without patience, we may lose what we have sought.
Without patience, we can forget the reason for our being.

Patience with others begets patience with ourselves.
Everyone deserves patience.

Life is a journey.
To focus on the destination may cause us to miss the beauty and goodness, the miracles and laughter along the way.
I am willing to learn everyday to be more patient.
I am willing to listen only to my heart, the Voice for Love.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What is Real?

As I returned to my place here in California, I noticed that not very much feels “real”. As I do the laundry, prepare breakfast and clean the house, I feel more grounded and create a relationship with what I touch or look upon. “Out of sight, out of mind” must mean that it is through seeing that we keep what we believe alive. And yet they feel vaguely emphemeral or illusive. I am not really here or there… still drifting in the in between place in my consciousness. We all choose the reality in which we live. We give meaning to what we see through our learned beliefs. Even our perceptions are colored by our remembered history.

So what is real? Only LOVE is real. Everything else is illusion.
Only the energy of life, creativity and flow is real. Everything else is changing.
How I interact with my mind and body, as well as my thoughts and feelings is my choice.
How I see my world, my home, my work is an outcome of my choice, my judgment and beliefs.
How I live and give myself to others whom I perceive according to my beliefs is totally up to me.
When I live with a focus on serving Good, I perceive the Good I am here to serve.

Everyday I give meaning to my life.
Everyday I choose to live and love and laugh.
Everyday I wake up to explore the experiences and relationships I have chosen to create and sustain.
Everyday I can choose the emotions I have and the work I do.
Everyday I am free to love you and remind you of how wonderful it is to be alive and in love.
Everyday I have given myself a wondrous opportunity to discover the limitlessness of this creation.
I am learning how simple my life is….to remember Love.

Loving You is Real for Me,
Betty Lue

Make Every Day Loving!

How do we remember Love?
How do we share Love?
How do we celebrate Love?

We spent the last week on Maui, and I discovered what I missed most was connecting with you through these Loving Reminders.

We were called to take the trip to bring our granddaughter home to her Papa after a two week stay with her Mom. She was more than ready, while she thoroughly enjoyed the water, snorkeling, sea life and fun connections with new people. She talked with us about coming home where she would live forever with her Dad. She was so excited to come home again to what was familiar and so loved.

I understand how she felt. While I have had the joy of visiting Hawaii several times and truly enjoy the people, the sun and water, the incredible natural beauty and slower pace, I noticed how there is so much contentment in just doing what I am called to do everyday—from preparing meals and cleaning house to morning email reminders and counseling, coaching and classes. This is my joy, and my life. I find it truly an awesome gift to be with you and each one who comes my way.

My life is a vacation from fear and worry and stress everyday.
When life is on purpose there is no need for vacation.
When life is constant loving relationships there is no need for one special day.
When life it an outpouring of inspiration, there is no need to seek for more.
All is present in each and every moment.
I am needed to be here loving you and me.
I am needed to be where I am to fully appreciate and enjoy what is here.
I am needed to be happy with what I have, not seeking more.
I am needed to be at peace, releasing all conflict in my mind.
When I fulfill my function right here and now, I am at home.
I am in Love. I am at peace.
I receive the bounty of abundant living.
I am in Joy.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Creating Our Experience

We are creative.
We are created to be creative.
We learn from creating our experience of life.
We may not like what we create.
We may feel guilty and blame it on the weather, our parents, partner or God.
We may try to hide, feel guilty or scared of our ignorant creative potential.
Wish it and there it is. Think it and it comes to us. Whisper a name and they call. Believe and what we believe appears.

As I watch with amusement the canvas of my life, I notice this wondrous opportunity to undo anything that is not wholly true for me. With no attachment, I can erase and release what is not highest and best for all. There is so often judgment and guilt surrounding spilled milk, an emotional reaction, an innocent question asked which offends, an answer given which does not please the questioner. We may be judged, ridiculed and punished for our errors, as we explore this land of ultimate possibility and creativity. Gradually and sometimes immediately, we curtail our creative potential. We shut down our vision, our imagination, our open mind and loving heart. Sometimes, we even shut down life itself.

How can it be that what was created to be the land of infinite opportunity can be used to judge and fear and limit so many beautiful unlimited expressions of God’s Love.

There is no RIGHT WAY to Love.
There is no mistake that cannot be undone.
There is no permanent harm except for those who hold the error in judgment, fear and resentment.
There is no punishment except for those who seek to punish themselves or be punished to clear the guilt.
All ways lead home.

The more aware of infinite love we are, the more we know no one is guilty, the more we release our belief in pain and punishment, the more we are free to be truly helpful and wholly loving.

Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Feel free to admit your errors. Ask for the most loving and healing release of all errors in your mind. Forgiveness is the spiritual gift of recognizing there was no harm. Everything is a lesson God would have us learn. There is no harm. The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

Loving you,
True B’Lue

Being Present

When we are fully present, we are seeing what is.
We are experiencing what is now.
We are able to fully enjoy the moment.
We give the gift we are.
We receive the gift that is given.
We see all things as a reflection of ourselves.
We breathe deep.
We know we are whole.
We see all the Good that God is.
We trust all is well.

When we are present, we are the gift.
When we are present, life reflects the gift of ourselves.
When we are present we experience only Love.
When we are present, we are free and happy.
When we are present, we are at peace.

Only in yesterday and tomorrow, an illusion that we have made up, do we compare, evaluate and judge.
Only in the mirage of time do we believe what is is not good enough.
Only in our minds do we imagine what is not real.

I forgive myself for not being wholly present.
I forgive myself for images I have made.
I forgive myself for forgetting only Love is real.
I forgive myself for not enjoying the experience I have created.
My mind automatically erases all that is not wholly true and wholly loving.
I am happy and free and at choice right now.

Loving you and loving me,
Betty Lue

Gone for a week for reflection and visioning and to pick up Gia. Postings should continue on this website. Personal email to you will resume on 2/16.

Work or Play?

Is life work for you?
Do you focus on struggle, sacrifice, effort, achievement?
Are you dedicated to getting everything done?
Do you measure success by what you accomplish?
Are you caught in not wanting to be “lazy”?
Is there never enough time to do the things you really enjoy?
Are you serious, dedicated and responsible?
Do you do what you do because of duty and obligation?
Do you work to provide and be financially secure?
This is the “adult” and adulterated way of living.
This is considered mature, responsible and fiscally sound.

Is life an adventure?
Do you focus on fun, enjoyment, relaxing, and letting it be?
Are you dedicated to enjoy every day in every way?
Do you measure success by your happiness?
Are you willing to relax, play your part and trust in the outcome?
Are there always things to enjoy and limited time to “work”?
Are you fun-loving, spontaneous, and able to respond to whatever comes up?
Do you do what you do from a place of freedom and trust?
Do you work to express yourself and fulfill your inner calling?
Do you trust your needs will be provided for when you give freely of yourself?
This is the “innocent” and natural way of living.
This is usually considered, childlike, irresponsible and financially crazy.

To experience life fully, there must be a freedom, awareness and enjoyment of what is.
To win the “adulterated” game, there must be worry, restrictions, discipline, planning and hard work.

Often children are taught:
There is a right way to live.
There are rules to win by.
There is a lot to accomplish.
Only hard workers succeed.

When we explore life’s experimental laboratory, we discover:
There is no “right” way to live. It is simply our choice.
There are different rules for everyone, which we make up as we go.
There is nothing to do, except for the sheer joy of doing something.
Success happens by the beliefs we hold…luck, work, vision, affirmation, support, fate.

For me, work is my play and play is my work.
If I don’t enjoy what I am doing, something is wrong with my choice or my thinking.
I choose to be happy. Happiness and freedom are success for me.
What is it you see for yourself? You can always choose again.

Your loving reminder,
Betty Lue

Intimacy

True intimacy is union, being transparent, seeing into me.
When there is no fear, it all is clear and we are near like unto One of us.
Love has no barriers. It is the realization of our oneness.

And when I judge me, I judge you are judging me, too.
I am separate from myself and can only see you as separate from me as well.
What is “wrong” with me becomes that part I don’t want you to see.
And when I have truly forgiven, I am in love and loving of my Self and All.
When I come to wholly Love the One I Am, there is nothing I keep separate from you or me or God.

These Loving Reminders are a transparency through which we all can come to see ourselves.
When we resonate with words and deeds of Love, we are united in that sacred place of Holy Relationship.
When I am seen as being special, different, or better than you, my work seems special to you.

And yet, I am that which you are.
I am what you may seek to be, which you perceive in me.
My words, my art, my love are also in you and greater works shall you do.
For when you are being You and I am being me, and all are free, every part is being played perfectly.
The healing and return to Love is complete.
Each one of us plays an instrument in the orchestra of God.
We hear and respond with our individual part. We play in harmony, in descant, in affirmation, in echo, in response to what we hear and see and know in our heart and mind and Soul.
We love and respond.
We love and flow.
We love and unite.
We love and let go.
We love and laugh.
We love and cry.
We love and sing.
We love and share.

In true intimacy, there is only this Holy instant, this moment now, when we realize we really are One.
In true intimacy, there are no secrets, for there is no shame and no guilt.
In true intimacy, there is no neediness and no regret.
In true intimacy, all is forgiven for all is gift.
In true intimacy, I see you and you see me and we are Love.

Loving you, forever,
True B’Lue

Love is Freedom

Freedom created us free.
Love created us loving.
Creativity created us creative.
Joy created us joyful.
The infinite created us unlimited.

Why are we here?
We are here to remember Who and what we are.
We are here to realize our unlimited potential.
We are here to be happy and free.
We are here to create our lives and enjoy the life we experience.
We are here to undo our mistaken and limiting beliefs and programming.
We are here to forgive our guilt and regret, our anger and resentment.
We are here to undo and heal the past.
We are here to make bless and perceive only wholeness and Holiness.
We are here to be fully here.
We are here to be responsible and able to respond to whatever comes our way.
We are here to stop complaining and victimizing ourselves and others.
We are here to pray and praise the Good within us.
We are here to recognize the Truth of our Being.
We are here to know and align with God.
We are here to believe and live in freedom and trust.
We are here to let go of all that we cling to.
We are here to enjoy what is.
We are here to create thoughts and words and deeds which are for the Highest Good.
We are here to wake up and awaken to the Truth of our Being.
We are here to fully experience and express the free, creative, unlimited and joy-filled Love we are.

Love is the way.
Be free.
No guilt.
No fear.

Seeing the perfection in our exploration to return to Love,
Betty Lue

Home… Safe and Sound

Yes, I have just returned from Kalamazoo, MI with gratitude and love for the adventure of life and all those reflections of learning, healing, and experiencing fully All That I Am.

When I sat, read and walked for seven hours in the O’Hare airport in Chicago on Thursday afternoon, I blessed, I enjoyed, I appreciated the opportunity to trust exactly what I was experiencing. And Yes, I made calls to cancel my Thursday evening workshop. When I arrived at 11:30PM on Thursday eve. I appreciated my little studio apartment where I stay for only $40/night. I was grateful for the basket and flowers and vacuum cleaner which are lovingly left for my use every visit. I enjoyed the solitude of grocery shopping at my favorite D&W (open until midnight) store for my food supplies. I thoroughly enjoyed loving and being with each and everyone those who joined with me for sharing, counseling, laughing, learning, healing and remembering the truth of who we are.

Our focus for the weekend was on remembering we are here to experience life.
Love makes all things new again.
Love is freedom and trust.
The more we enjoy the experience, the more free we are to choose again easily and quickly.
The more we judge our experience, the more we seem to repeat, struggle and endure.

I always learn… or one might say, I remember and realize what is within me.

I have remembered and reclaimed a mission statement I have lived since first moving to Kalamazoo in 1994.

“I am the space of freedom and trust where love is remembered and wholeness restored.”
In other words, I realize my Holiness and see only Holiness in others.
In our Holiness we are free to choose and free to be.

I am loving, you as I am loving me.
In this Love, we all are free.

Betty Lue