Everyone has wounds.
Wounds are leftover hurts, regrets, misunderstandings, pain, grief, fear, confusion from the past.
We recreate our woundedness in our present relationships.
Our spiritual purpose is to heal all our wounds.
When we are healed, we are not healed alone.
The primary function of all relationships is to heal.
The Healing is the return to our natural state of Love, Peace and Joy.
Love, Peace and Joy come from Perfect Trust.
Perfect Trust comes from forgiving, erasing the past.
To heal we need to be in a space of safety, non judgment and love.
When we ask someone to help us heal who is judging, we continue our woundedness.
When we share our wounds with those who see us as broken, we continue our woundedness.
When we can see our past with forgiving eyes and see the gifts and blessings, we are healed.
Healing is simply undoing our judgments on what we have experienced.
Healing is letting go of the need to justify, explain or defend the past.
Healing is the remembrance of Love and the return to wholeness and Holiness.
Healing is the opportunity to see things differently.
All relationships are for the purpose of healing.
Therefore in relationship we can become a safe place where others can reveal and heal.
In our primary relationships both people have healing needs.
In these relationships we can choose to be a safe and non-judgmental place where others can heal.
Healing is an inside job. Healing comes from letting go of our need to blame anyone including ourselves.
Healing is an opportunity to notice where we misperceived, took things personally, and/or thought that the other was blaming us for their woundedness.
Lack of Love (woundedness) comes in many forms.
Lack of Love is always the need for Love.
When we Love, we share the Love we are and the Love we have.
When we are hurting, we withhold our Love and separate from others.
When we heal our hurts, we can Love those who are calling for Love.
When we forgive our guilt, fear, and blame, we return to our natural loving state.
Simple. Yes.
Easy to do……with lots of practice.
Effective…Absolutely essential for healing.
Loving us all in process.
Trusting in Love.
Betty Lue
Written several years ago.
You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered. This shows us where we have work to do.
The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.
It is ineffective over the long term.
The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us. When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.
This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.
Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself, the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself, the more others will do the same for themselves and for others.
You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.