Wednesday, June 30, 2010

True Empathy

When there is a need or a problem, how can you be most helpful?
Be at peace.
When there is a perceived danger or tragedy, how can offer the greatest kindness?
Be at peace.
When there is hardship or hunger, how can you be of service?
Be at peace.

Be at peace and trust in the highest outcome.
Be at peace and know all is well.
Be at peace and see everyone learning.
Be at peace and seek the gifts and blessings.

When someone is afraid, they need reassurance.
Be at peace.
When someone is angry, they need to be heard.
Be at peace.
When someone is argumentative, they need to be honored.
Be at peace.
When someone is sick, they need comfort.
Be at peace.
When someone is confused, they need clarity.
Be at peace.
When someone is lost, they need direction.
Be at peace.
When someone is in trouble, they need integrity.
Be at peace.

True empathy is being willing to be the conscious one who seeks peace first.
True empathy is releasing judgments and seeing the healing and wholeness.
True empathy is seeking the potential good in all situations.
True empathy is listening both inside and outside to voices for love.
True empathy is trusting everything always works more exquisitely than we can plan.
True empathy is learning to let go of negative perceptions, hurtful words and fearful reactions.
True empathy is seeing beyond appearances and choosing to see the Light.

When in relationship at home or at work, there needs to be a consistent voice of sanity and healing.
There is always a call for love, trust and freedom in every situation where there is fear.
Everything that is not Love is always a call for Love, trust and freedom.
Wherever you see a Lack of Love and Trust, you are being called to be the One.

Empathy may involve feeling the fear, confusion and pain.
True empathy is then bringing yourself back to Peace and Trust and Love.
The healing and helpful Presence is the one who can return to Love and see only Wholeness.
The conscious One is always You who are reading this reminder.

Choose now to be the One and Be at Peace!
Know All is Well.
Trust everything always works together for Good.

Betty Lue

From A Course in Miracles
Love is the answer, whatever the question.
Trust will settle every problem now.
Forgiveness offers everything we want.
There is nothing to do.
What Are these Loving Reminders?
Many people around the world are now receiving these daily or weekly loving reminders from me.
I send them directly to over one thousand people and many more from your referrals.
I have been writing and sending Loving Reminders for over 11 years everyday I am at my computer.
They are valuable for me to receive and share and valuable for others who receive them as reminders.
When something resonates with you, you feel its truth in your heart.When you are reminded of what you know deep inside, you appreciate and find value.When you are touched with inspiration, you feel grateful and can choose to practice.
This is my reason for listening within and sharing the inner guidance I receive each day.
After counseling and coaching thousands of individuals, couples and families, I know the need.After teaching, mentoring and facilitating hundreds of people for the last 35 years, I hear the call.After listening and letting Spirit within guide my life for most of my life, I feel the importance.And this is my way of responding to all of us for the Highest Good and finding a better way.
These reminders are intended to be practical; they are meant to be used everyday.
These reminders are intended to be inspirational; they are meant to move you into action.
These reminders are intended to be spiritual; they are meant to call you to return to what is meaningful.
These reminders are intended to be healing; they give insight, freedom to choose/change and peace.

For many, there is limited time and money, so these reminders offer help when you have need.
For some, there is hesitation in asking for help, so these reminders are an anonymous way to learn.
For others, there is denial of needing anything, and the reminders simply reawaken what is known.
For me, these reminders are a powerful way to connect, to touch you with my love for us all.
Yes, I Love You.I love you when you are happy or sad, right or wrong, awakening or sleeping on the job.
I love you when you don’t love yourself or forget you are loveable and capable just as you are.
I love you when you are willing to do the work and when you get lazy and quit on yourself.

I am your Loving Reminder.We can call it a Calling or Holy Assignment or just what I am here to do.
My intention is to facilitate all of us in playing our Part and living our potential in being all we can be.Said in a thousand ways or no way at all…your healing and success and joy are a blessing for me.
So why would I sit at my computer every morning as my spiritual practice and joy…….??
Because of all this above and so much more.
You and I are One..More than you can know, we are connected in Love.
Ask me your questions.
Give me your comments.
Share with me your gratitude.
And always know I am with you in Love.
Betty Lue

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Now Is Your Time!

You can wait, delay and paralyze yourself with excuses, regrets, blame and resentment.
But you cannot blot out the vision, calling, inspiration and invitation to awaken and live fully.
This is your time to choose what you would have your life be.
This is your time to relinquish the past and let yourself be free.

What would life look like for you if you lived fully and freely?
Where would you go and what would you do if you allowed yourself?
Who would be your friends and associates and how would you live and love and give?
Are you willing to begin today, knowing first and foremost, THIS IS YOUR TIME!

Much of counseling is to focus on understanding, healing and clearing the past.
And yet, the past is gone.
Much of coaching is figuring out how you want to live and give in the future.
And yet the future is yet to come.

Today you can be who and how you are called to be.
You can choose in every relationship to be new again.
You can set aside childish ways and foolish habits.
You can free yourself from the excuses you have used for a lifetime.

Now is Your Time,
Today is Your Day.
This is Your Life.
You are the One.

Start by simply awakening this and every moment with “ I am glad to be here, right here!”Affirm your own gratitude for being YOU with “I love, trust and appreciate my whole Self.”Acknowledge past mistakes with simple forgiveness “I forgive everyone, including myself.”Be willing to step into the unknown, the space of openness and willingness to be here now.
“I am always in the right place at the right time doing the right thing for the right reason.”Trust that your life is on path, a Source of learning, loving and contributing right now.
“I am willing to give my very best to everyone as I remember the Love I Am.”Miracles happen wherever there is trust, freedom and love.
I give and receive the miracles of love and the blessings of trust and freedom to all.”Appreciate the abundant gifts of peace, love and joy when you remember to Love.
“Life is fun, safe and easy when I listen within and follow the path of Love.”

You are the One and Now is Your Time.
Wake up sleepy head. Abundant Life awaits!
Betty Lue

Monday, June 28, 2010

We Are Never Alone

When we believe in the world of form as the only reality, we miss inner connection.
When we think what we can see is all there is, we miss what is not seen and heard.
When we judge that our existence is only based on what we do and say, we lose our value.
When we claim that only our history matters and is our legacy, we miss the significance of life.

The Remembrance of Love is our Soul Purpose.We can joyfully walk in this world realizing we are here to remember Love no matter what.
When we seek only for love, for union, for Oneness, we find all that we seek with everyone.
When we are sure there is fear, separation, loss, lack and limitation, we find what we seek.

Our Soul, our higher Self, our Authentic Self, the original Self, continues to awaken us to Truth.
The Love in us cannot be defeated, dissolved, denied or ended even in death of the body.
Love prevails. Love never ends.  Love cannot die.
Love is the ecstasy of union and the energy of creation.

We are never alone.
Wherever we go, there we are.
Wherever we are, there is the beloved.
Whatever we do, we are in communion.

We can believe we are separate and feel lonely.
We can travel to find something more or better, but we always meet ourselves.
We can judge, fear and criticize and see what we fear and hate and hold separate from ourselves.
We can try to be alone, to disconnect, disavow and denegrate, but in Truth we know only Union.

The unifying field of all that is holds us connected and always in relationship with what appears to be.
From the inner, we perceive the outer to be whatever we judge.
When we judge ourselves unworthy, unloveable and incapable, we are right.
When we forgive our judgments and see ourselves as worth, loveable and capable, we are right.

It is in our inner world that we make up the perceptions we hold and strengthen them in righteousness.
In our clearing our false beliefs and negative perceptions, we free ourselves to choose again.
In the looking glass of life, the face of all humanity, we see ourselves with both flaws and perfection.
We are here to love it all as we let go of fear, judgment and avoidance.

When you are ready and willing to forgive your judgements of all apparent flaws in everyone, you will open your heart to fully unconditional and unlimited love.  In the moment of loving it all, you will behold there is no separation, no distance, no lack, no limitation, only Union, perfect Union and oneness with all.
Life is an opportunity to clear the separation, the isolation and experience true intimacy.
When I can let you see into me without fear, knowing I am safe in your Love, I will know Union.
Intimacy= “into me see” And so it is I can see into you knowing I will love you no matter what!

Loving us all as One,
Betty Lue

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Our Soul Purpose

The Remembrance of Love is our Soul Purpose here.
We cannot remember what we choose to forget.
Listening to the voices for Love, Kindness and Gratitude is our path.
Following those who teach with fear, ignorance and hatred renders us deaf.

What voices are you listening to?

Do you listen to those who label, belittle and give death sentences?
Or do you listen to the voice for God and Good in your life?

Are you judging your whole self based on the condition of your body, your finances, your family?
Or are you seeing yourself as a whole and holy being who is here to share the Love you are?

The word and the vibration of sound is seen as the origin and the beginning of all that seems to be.
The power of prayer acknowledges the healing power of the infinite, the All knowing One.
The teaching power of our educators responds to the voice of those who have knowledge and wisdom.
The directive power of those in authority from the pulpit and the military comes with their commandments.

Are you listening to the loudest voice?
The most peaceful voice?
The voice of authority?
The sounds backed up by research or educational degree?

Do you listen to the little children?
The man who is homeless and on the streets?
Do you listen to the soldier who gave life and limb for his country?
Do you hear the tears, the passion, the fears or the sincerity of conviction?

Do you listen to the winds in the forest?
The waves in the ocean and the calls of the birds?
Do you hear the calling of nature and bountiful mother earth?
What do you hear when you listen?

What is your Soul Purpose here?
Do you listen for drama and neediness, urgency and pain?
Do you listen for peace and prosperity, vision and possibility?
Are you listening with your heart or your head, your Spiritual vision or human history?

Where we focus our attention, we attract to ourselves.
Where we give energy, we infuse with power and increase.
Where we deny power, we diminish its value.
When we do not feed, we turn away and seek the Truth.

Turn a deaf ear on what you do not want to hear.
Turn away from voices that demand attention like a tantruming child.
Turn away from those who would sell you their hypocrisy.
Turn away from those who want to win at the expense of others.

Listen to the voice for Love.
Listen to the voice for Peace.
Listen to the voices for Generosity, Kindness, Joy, Open-Mindedness,
Gentleness, Tolerance, Trust, Faithfulness, Honesty, Patience.
It is your choice as to whom and for what you listen.

I choose to listen to the Voice for Goodness and Love.
And so it is that I feel Good and Loved.
Betty Lue
The Two Wolves
A Cherokee elder was teaching his grandchildren about life.
He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me… it is a terrible fight between two wolves.
One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, hatefulness, and lies.
The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, humbleness, kindness, friendship, generosity, faith, and truth.
This same fight is going on inside of you, and inside every other person, too.”
The children thought about it for a minute. Then one child asked his grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”
The Cherokee elder replied
“The one you feed.”

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Are You Listening?

To what and to whom do you listen?
Do you take the time to screen for the voices, messages and music you want to hear?
Are you willing to be the one who chooses what you listen to?
Can you forgive, erase, delete the messages that upset, confuse, deny your worth?

We have been programmed by the auditory, visual and kinesthetic messages we have received.
We have allowed them to impact our beliefs, our values, our behaviors and our self esteem.
We have often believed ourselves to be what we have heard and seen and felt from others.
We have taken in the good, the bad and the ugly, often without discernment or selective awareness.

When we choose to be conscious and empowered, we choose what we listen to and for.
When we have decided to be successful and fulfilled, we choose what we want to seek and find.
When we imagine there can be a better way to live, we choose to listen only for the affirming voices.
When we become, picky, selective, sensitive and discerning, we will select what supports our values.

Visual learners need to perceive positive, helpful, strong and affirming images and sights.
Kinesthetic learners need to feel good, with strengthening, energy enhancing and balanced experiences.
Auditory learners need to select affirming words and loving sounds to listen to.
We are all learning to ingest the best and forget the rest.
 Most people believe they have no choice.
They listen to hypnotic commercials, hateful humor, dysfunctional communications and violent news.
When we ingest the worst food, we get  physically sick.
When we listen to awful words, we think sick and experience mental distress.
When we allow abusive experiences, we feel sick, and experience emotional dis-ease.
When we watch harmful programs and violence, we fear and defend ourselves against being hurt.

What we take in, we take on.
What we fear, we empower.
What we look for, we will find.
What we perceive, we strengthen in ourselves.

Listen to the silence.
Listen to the wind.
Listen to the sounds of nature.
Listen to the voice of Love within you.

There is healing when you turn your mind to Goodness and God.
There is creativity when you turn your focus to beauty and Love.
There is enjoyment when you turn your emotions to happy choices.
There is peace when you turn to the single focus of the Highest Truth.

Listen for what you truly want to hear.
Let the rest go and it will dissolve in your inattention.
Loving us all into conscious choice,
Choose what you want to hear.

Betty Lue

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

To Be Your Best

To be your best, you need to have a role model, an idea of what the “best” can be.
To be your best, you need to have the willingness to do what is takes to keep learning and improving.
To be your best, you need to pay attention to “mistakes” and “failures” without regret or blame.
To be your best, you need to enjoy the process of learning and growing in the process of mastery.

The best leaders have been well led and have learned to lead themselves well.
The best counselors and therapists have been well counseled and counsel themselves well.
The best coaches have been well coached and coach themselves well with thoughts and words.
The best parents have been well parented and parent themselves well in their everyday life.

The best housekeepers have a picture in their mind of how to create order and organization.
The best teachers have experienced quality teaching and know clearly how they like to be taught.
The best cooks have learned from someone who cooks well and they enjoy cooking well.
The best athletes have admired and observed excellence and so aspire to be excellent.

We are imprinted by our family of origin and those in early childhood, as well as others along the way.
We hold a picture, a vision in our imagination, of what can be when we do what we need to do to succeed.
We must keep faith (confidence) with ourselves and be willing to do the self-correcting work to improve.
We need to let go easily of failure with forgiveness and learning from everyone and everything.

When we seek our “best”, we need to look for, observe and admire others being their best.
We must release judgment and comparison to fully embrace and learn from everyone.
The practice ground is always within our own personal world, with family and friends, and ourselves.
We must consistently focus, practice, explore and appreciate what works to achieve excellence.

Mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.
They must be embraced with open-mindedness and appreciation.
Negative role models can be effective teachers when we affirm the positive gifts received.
Helping others be their best always strengthens us and we learn how to be better from others.

Forgiveness and acceptance of others values and standards of living comes from recognizing we all have learned from our past.
Simply trying to achieve a better way is a step beyond the limited imprinting of our past.
Lifting ourselves into seeing what can be improved is a valuable step to living our potential.
Appreciating others in their constant improvement and learning enhances and strengthens ours.

To be your best, be willing.
To be your best, be open.
To be your best, be appreciative
To be your best, enjoy the journey.

Your potential is truly unlimited.
Being my best is fun, safe and easy.
Betty Lue 

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

What Is Your Concern?

In response to a question…….
Do you try to keep others from making mistakes?
Do you interfere when others are communicating or relating in a style different than yours?
Do you worry about what to say or how to help others handle their problems?
Do you think you know what is best for others to do

What is your business? 
Do you want others meddling in your choices, mistakes, embarrassments?
Do you want your family telling, suggesting, advising you when there is an upset?
Do you like it when others give you helpful and well-meaning but unsolicited comments?

When aware of another’s issues with finances, job, health, etc, what is your concern?When is it your business?
Is it helpful to ask why?
Does it bring clarity and peace to get involved?
Do your fears, your experiences, your beliefs help or hurt, clarify or confuse?

Consider being a good therapist, consultant, or coach.
Wait until asked…specifically and clearly.
Set a time with privacy as well as mutually agreed upon beginning and ending time.
Ask exactly what is wanted from you: to just listen, to ask questions, to give feedback, to advise?
Respect your need for compensation: thanks, mutual opportunities for you, respecting your help, etc.

Stay out of other’s business until invited to help.Usually we learn best from natural consequences.
People need to experience the outcome of their choices without outside interference, threats or advise.
And only give the help that is needed and wanted.

Set a time that provides confidentiality and uninterrupted room for the help.Respect yourself and the other by giving your full attention to the request.
When we set aside a special time which is ideal for both parties, it gives credibility to the experience.
An appointed hour creates a focus, an agenda and a desired outcome of completion,

Ask what is wanted so that there is fulfillment and success for both parties.Many people simply want to be heard which means to just listen fully.
Some may want feedback or advice when they are complete.
Therapists and coaches are taught to ask meaningful questions and provide guidance and direction.

Respect the need for reciprocity, both giving and receiving by both parties.When we allow others to use us and dump their toxic waste on us, we become the dumping ground.
When compensated with respect, gratitude and generosity, we feel satisfied with our helpfulness.
Allow others to have their experience and receive the gifts and blessings from their life choices.

We are all connected.
Everyone’s healing benefits us all.
However, it is not helpful to meddle in others learning opportunities.
So respect, accept and attend the sensitivity of others’ life journey.

Loving us all as one,  

Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer


Monday, June 21, 2010

Summer Solstice

Brief Update:This week we are with our three preschool grandchildren, 5 yr. old twins Harper and Lila and their 3 ½  yr.old brother Beckett, here at the Lake House. (see website for details). Constant attention for sure and lots of fun and learning for us all.  Important to stay fully present, conscious, connected and in communication. Some activities, boating and fishing, swimming and beach, exploring (lots of deer and birds), creeks and hills and rocks to climb, pony-riding, library, art work, writing books with stories about our activities and learning to help us with our everyday chores: cooking, setting table, making beds, laundry, etc.  Important to let children learn what is needed in life for happiness and success. (See below.)
Last Monday’s trip and fall: Thanks to you and me and my body’s cooperation, everything is healed and ready to GO.  One left over is a purple eye lid which can be camouflaged as eye shadow. My one and only accident reminded me how effective conscious thought and affirming prayer truly can be.  It is essential that we erase quickly our self judgment and fear and return to being clear about the healing capacity of the body/mind connection.  I thank you all! Betty Lue

Summer Solstice
Light, Light and More Light.
Love, Love and More Love.
When our minds are filled with Light, we see only Light.
When our hearts are full of Love, we know only Love.
The work is always to shine a light on all darkness and to Love away all fear.
We are here as light workers and love bearers, and so it is that we have come.

Consider the possibility during times of the greatest light, summer solstice, we can see what is needed.
Consider the opportunity to perceive the seeming difficulties in life as a sign we are ready and able to clear the fear and enlighten any ignorance.
Consider the choice to enhance and appreciate ourselves as we step into willingness to do the work needed.
Appreciate yourself for being here to lift the veil of judgment and fear by being happy, loving and free.

You may not have seen yourself as empowered, capable and willing.
You may not have wanted to be the helpful and healing Presence.
You may not have consciously asked to show up to do the work.
But wherever you are and whatever life has brought to you, you can do the work and heal it all.

Healing requires revelation or revealing where the errors and misperceptions lie.
Healing asks us to take responsibility for undoing any untruth and limiting beliefs.
Healing invites us to clean up the past with forgiveness and release to the Highest Good.
Healing encourages us to stand up for what is highest and best for all, to live our Truth.

What is your Truth?
How can you live more in integrity?
Can you step into a willingness to do what is needed>
Are you open to be the One, the point man, to light the way to Love?

Yes, I am willing.
The past is gone.
I choose to live in Love today.
I am free and unlimited, when I remember Love.

Loving you and rolling up my sleeves to clear away the clutter, confusion, darkness and fear in my world!
Betty Lue

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Father’s Day

Fathers represent those in our lives who protect and provide.When our fathers have not protected and provided well, forgive them.
When they have not been adequately protected and provided for by their fathers, they may not know how.
When they have not been nurtured and nourished by their mothers, they may not become mature adults.

It is our responsibility now to teach our sons by our example how to be a good Father.
It is our responsibility to nurture and nourish, protect and provide for our sons.
When prior generations have failed to model good parenting, it is ours to do.
When our children are neglected and mistakenly imprinted, it is ours to correct.

We cannot correct the past with criticism.
We can right wrongs done by doing what is right.
We can educate the ignorant.
We can forgive them, for they did not know what they were doing.

Fathers also represent our forefathers, the visionaries and leaders who saw a better way.
They deserve our appreciation and willingness to listen, to bless and to utilize all their best.
Those who have envisioned and created, those who protected and provided, deserve our gratitude.
Let us today be open-minded and look for the Good, the Gifts and the Blessings, in those who serve.

When we celebrate the Good, the Good is increased.
When we acknowledge our blessings, the blessings expand.
When we remember what is helpful and healing, we encourage more of  what we value.
When we honor our fathers, the men in our lives, we nurture the best in them in every way.

When you look for good memories, you will find them.
When you seek what you value, you will see it in yourself and others.
When you want to be the light sharing the gratitude you feel, you inspire others to do better.
When you undo, forgive and erase all that is not healthy, whole and loving, you make room for the Good.

Father’s Day is a gift to ourselves.
Father’s Day is an opportunity to practice our spirituality.
Father’s Day open us to be appreciative and affirming.
Father’s Day presents us with the gift of remembering the Good, the Beautiful and the Holy.

We are here to heal the past darkness, ignorance and pain.
We are here to reveal the present Light, consciousness and joy.
We are the Healing Presence volunteering to correct errant paths and claim a better way.
Be conscious of Loving and affirming every Man, Boy and Elder that they claim their own inner Good.

I love the work we do together.
We are the lightworkers, the healers, the wayshowers and the ones who believe, see and live Love.
Trust your inner healing work is making a BIG difference.
Trust you forgiveness and right perception is changing lives, attitudes and families.

Bless us all, everyone.
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Feeling Safe

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I was asked this week, “How to feel safe?” and “What is right?”

To feel safe, stop hurting yourself.
To feel safe, stop judging others.
To feel safe, stop being angry.
To feel safe, stop attacking with thought or words.

To fail safe, stop being angry.
To feel safe, stop scaring yourself.
To feel safe, stop ingesting scary news or media.
To feel safe, stop worrying.

To feel safe, we need to change our thoughts which change our feelings.
To feel safe, we need to see ourselves and our world with forgiveness.
To feel safe, we need to be accepting of differences in values and behavior.
To feel safe, we need to allow ourselves to release and undo negativity.

To feel safe, we need to erase and eliminate our attacking thoughts and words.
To feel safe, we need to become a place of peace and safety for others.
To feel safe, we need to realize that our thoughts either hurt or heal us.
To feel safe, we need to undo everything that is not wholly loving and True.
To feel supported, stop being non-supportive.
To feel right, stop making others wrong.
To feel free, stop restricting ourselves and others.
To feel good, stop making anyone feel bad.
To feel happy, supported, free and good, we must be willing to relinquish the behaviors, thoughts and words to the contrary.
To feel life is fun, safe and easy, we must within ourselves, give up the old habits of seriousness, caution and doubt, difficulty and struggle.

This all sounds simple and it is.
The habits of our family system which have been reinforces over our lifetime make it seem difficult.
Being conscious is the key to change.
Staying awake and aware, willing and able to choose, to change, to commit to what is Good is essential.
We can make effective changes by simply choosing to change our minds.
And when we forget or make a mistake, we must quickly forgive ourselves, delete the limiting behavior and choose again for what we really want.

We can have what we want, simply by choosing a better way for ourselves.
Just as we can hurt ourselves, we can easily heal ourselves.
Life is meant to be a learning process.
We are here to remember, we can do whatever we choose to do.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

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Friday, June 18, 2010

Who Really Cares?

Summer Solstice is June 21, 4:31AM PDT  Time of the greatest Light.  When there is more light, we can see more dirt and unfinished business. Roll up your sleeves and get to work.  The time is NOW!

Do you care enough to remember simple courtesies?
Do you care to say please and thanks to all help requested and given?
Do you care enough to treat family members as you would invited guests?
Do you care enough to take impeccable care of you--mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually?

Do you care enough to send positive prayers to the planet, the environment, the leaders and servers?
Do you care enough to respect those who lead governments, even when you don’t like their policies?
Do you care enough to acknowledge and accept differences in energy, choices, values and lifestyles?
Do you care enough to not be threatened by those who believe and perceive differently than you?

Do you care enough to honor your way, your path, your values, your beliefs, your choices?
Do you care enough to save money for your future and your children’s?
Do you care enough to stop putting time and energy into negative thinking and worries?
Do you care enough to live, love and give your best today to everyone you encounter?

Do you care enough to be grateful for what you have and who you are?
Do you care about the environment, the water, air, forests, minerals, wildlife and earth?
Do you care about the quality of education and healthcare for all children, not just your own?
Do you care about the messages you send both with your words and your thoughts?

Do you care about how you dress, what you watch on TV and the magazines you read?
Do you care about what you are supporting and teaching others with your own personal choices?
Do you care about what you eat, where it comes from and who did the work to get it to you?
Do you care about the people across the planet who are hungry, scared and needing support?

Do you care about the foster children and children in orphanages who need loving homes?
Do you care about the young people who are lost, confused and need a strong role model and mentor?
Do you care about the elders who are shut away in rooms with little to bring comfort except a TV?
Do you care about the addicts who may be unaware of where and how to get their lives back?

Do you care about those who are working to keep the bills paid and their families intact?
Do you care about the tired, the poor, the hungry and those in despair seeking hope and help?
Do you care about how you are doing today in the ways you live and love and pray?
Do you wonder if it isn’t just too much and just want to get comfortable and forget to care?

Please care.
You do make a difference.
It is your willingness to help, to pray, to give, to serve, to teach, to affirm, to be grateful, to love ……
All this makes a BIG difference……So please care.
I care.
Betty Lue

LOVEThere is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference
How deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Successful Relationships

To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.

Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.

Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.  Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.  To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.

Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.  Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned.  One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.

Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.  Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.

To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.

To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.

If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way.  You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.

Blessings for choosing a better way,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Unconditional Giving Builds Successful Relationships

Relationships with partners, children, co workers, service providers and all others can be successful.
Many attributes can be developed to encourage, increase, enhance, heal and benefit relationships.
It only takes one to make a relationship more functional, effective and healthy.
It only takes you one small shift in your attitude, your willingness and your choices.

When you give to another, you teach them what they could do for you and others.
When you benefit another, you give them the message that they are valuable.
When you offer support to another, you demonstrate the quality of relationship you desire.
When you appreciate another, you allow them to feel they are important to you.

Everyone deserves the best.
When we settle for less, we teach others to settle for less.
When we give our leftovers, we are modeling for them that leftovers are OK.
When we fail to give ourselves our best, we teach others we deserve less than their best.

Giving must be responsible with no martyrdom or sacrifice.
Giving must benefit both giver and receiver, always with no one losing.
Giving must be done with sincerity and fulfillment.
The value of giving is in the giving itself, not in the gift.

True giving is unconditional, without the expectation of getting something in return.
True giving is a blessing and a loving reminder of the value of the relationship.
True giving is joyful and appreciative for the opportunity to express love.
True giving is positive, encouraging and appreciative.

Remember that you can be giving a smile, a touch, a handshake.
You can listen to someone and truly care.
You can offer support simply by sending a positive prayer.
You can see the best in others and forget the rest.

When we come into any relationship with an attitude of gratitude and giving, it always works.
Everything is received by both in the heart of each, even if circumstances are distracting.
When we live our lives seeking to give the best, our lives are enriched with bountiful blessing.
When we give true appreciation for everything we are receiving, the giver is blessed.

Remember that you can be the unconditional Giver in every relationship and build a better world.
You can be the one who remembers when others forget or simply do not know how to give.
You can enrich your own life by learning to give unconditionally and notice how much you receive.
The more we give, the more we have.  The more we have, the more we can give.

And so it is…
Life is for giving.
You are the Gift.
It is in giving your whole Self that you realize the Gift You Are.

Blessing abound, 

Betty Lue

You are  my spiritual partners as we conspire to co-create a better world.
My heart smiles and my spirit rejoices.
Your gifts of love and appreciation inspire me and feed my soul.
Celebrate the gifts we share and grow in abundance and beauty.
Offering all I am given in Love,  supports, strengthens and affirms this Love.

I love you, as you live the life you consciously desire.
I am supported and sustained by your kindness and generosity.
May you  honor your Holy Self as you walk in Goodness, Beauty and Love.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Uh Oh! And Oops!

Yesterday I tripped and fell on a low curb on my way…..
To a place I didn’t want to go….Jury duty.
To a place I didn’t have to go..Failed to read the fine print and call in the night before to see if needed.
To a place that interfered with my day off home office and home “fluffing”.
With an inner anxst that something wasn’t right.

We know when we listen within.
We know when we do what feels true.
We know when we honor ourselves.
We know when we say “no” to what not to do.

I had many signs, noticed and overridden or ignored.
I have always been able to excuse myself with conscious communication.
I know how to honor myself, and choose what is for the highest good.

So I learned to stay present.
I learned to remember what is true.
I learned to honor my inner knowing.
I learned to forgive myself for hurting myself.
I learned how fast my body heals.
I learned to take impeccable care of me.
I learned to be good to me.
I learned that other’s positive prayer and affirmation is effective.
I learned to recognize when something is not quite right.
I learned to be true to myself, no matter what.
I learned I can use every learning for the good of all.

Yes, my body was bruised, but my mind is awakened.
Yes, I am grateful that I am healed and happy and whole.
Yes, I am glad that I know what to do quickly and easily.
Yes, I totally forgive myself for believing the world and ignoring the inner truth in me.

I love you and me as we learn together.
Everything is interconnected, so help with the environment.  See Below!
Loving myself as I forgive myself for hurting my body and ignoring my inner knowing.
Betty LUe
Dr. Masaru Emoto's Healing Prayer for the Gulf
Focusing our energies in response to the Gulf tragedy and for healing the waters and its inhabitants -

 Yesterday at our spiritual center we read a letter from Dr. Masaru Emoto who many of you will recognize as the scientist from Japan who has done all the research and publications about the characteristics of water.  Among other things, his research reveals that water physically responds to emotions.

 Right now, most of us have the predominantly angry emotion when we consider what is happening in the Gulf.  And while certainly we are justified in that emotion, we may be of greater assistance to our planet and its life forms, if we sincerely, powerfully and humbly pray the prayer that Dr Emoto, himself, has proposed.
 "I send the energy of love and gratitude to the water and all the living creatures in the Gulf of Mexico and its surroundings.
 To the whales, dolphins, pelicans, fish, shellfish, plankton, coral, algae, and all living creatures   . . .  I am sorry.
 Please forgive me.
 Thank you.
 I love you. "

 We are passing this request to people who we believe might be willing to participate in this prayer, to set an intention of love and healing that is so large, so overwhelming that we can perform a miracle in the Gulf of Mexico.

 We are not powerless.  We are powerful.  Our united energy, speaking this prayer daily...multiple times daily....can literally shift the balance of destruction that is happening.
 We don't have to know how......we just have to recognize that the power of love is greater than any power active in the Universe today.
 Please join us in oft repeating this healing prayer of of Dr. Emoto's.
 And feel free to copy and paste this to send it around the planet.
 Let's take charge, and do our own clean up!

 And so it is!  Pass it on.

 * * * * * * * * * * * * *

 Thank you Dr. Emoto and my friend, Joline, who sent this to me.

 wish to do all that is possible to allow the universe to know we are earnest and intent. 

Monday, June 14, 2010

Do You know?

Do you know how to conserve time, money and energy?
Do you know how to choose what to do, what to buy, where to go?
Do you know how to stay healthy and happy?
Do you know how best to have a healthy family life?

Do you know that it is best to save for a rainy day?
Do you know that it is better to have no debts?
Do you know how to find work that suits your needs?
Do you know how to live on what you have?

Do you know when you are expecting too much?
Do you know when you are not appreciating what you have?
Do you know when you are quitting on yourself and others?
Do you know when you are deceiving yourself?

Do you know when you are happy and fulfilled?
Do you know when you have enough?
Do you know when you can be pleased with yourself?
Do you know how to appreciate your accomplishments?

Do you know how to celebrate the good life you have?
Do you know how to say “hello” and “goodbye”?
Do you know how to be respectful with “please” and “thank you”?
Do you know how to let others know how much you care?

Do you know the joy of learning and sharing something new?
Do you know the curiosity and wonder of a child?
Do you know the delight of watching miracles in nature?
Do you know the amazing changes that happen over time?

Do you know how to serve others with respect?
Do you know how to tell the whole truth in a helpful way?
Do you know when to be helpful and when to let others do it?
Do you know how to listen with your heart?

Do you know the gift of life and all its play?
Do you know the beauty of being grateful every day?
Do you know when to be silent with kindness and respect?
Do you know how to honor yourself before saying, “Yes”?

There is so very much I do not know and am willing to learn.
There is so very much that changes within each moment, I must stay open and willing.
There is so very much that I miss when I am busy trying, fixing, avoiding or ignoring.
There is so very much that I am willing to let go to create the inner space where I can KNOW.

Loving you and me as we set ourselves free to Know.
Betty Lue

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Very Brief History of Reunion Ministries

Reunion began in 1977 with parents who gathered several times a week to learn better ways to live. They were mostly students of my Community College Family Life Education class in Positive Parenting.  Their enthusiastic and consistent participation over many years encouraged by inner listening, visioning, relationship counseling, weekly family fun Fridays for potluck, singing and games, plus early morning Sunday fellowship brought forth the non-profit incorporation as a church without walls in 1981.
“Rainbow” Reunion was centered on Geary Road next to Unity of Walnut Creek where many of us attended following our early morning Reunion service.  In 1981 I leased a suite of offices on Mayhew Way where Pathways Center for Counseling, Healing and Growth was the community counseling Center offering programs seven days/week. Our staff grew to 22 therapists, interns and volunteers.
From 1985 when Robert joined me as spiritual partner and co-creator, we were guided to Santa Rosa, CA, Asheville, NC, Bozeman, MT, Bloomington, In and Kalamazoo, MI to create community holistic and spiritual centers where we taught, counseled, and facilitated health practitioners, therapists, educators and ministers, plus individuals, couples and families.  Along the way we founded the Energetic Life Balancing and Learning Institute, Whole Life Center, Attitudinal Healing Retreats and mentored hundreds of holistic health practitioners, massage therapists, educators and ministers.

The focus continues to be “Remember Love and Return to Wholeness”.   By letting go of the past and releasing limiting beliefs with forgiveness and affirmations, we open the way to listen within to Spirit for comfort, support and inner guidance and spiritual direction. While Christian in background, we utilized the teachings of A Course in Miracles as our primary spiritual inspirational material.

We utilized our own earnings for all expenses to move and build all 16 centers. When we were called to leave and move on, we left them for those who could carry on the work in the community.

We have always served everyone with classes, counseling and holistic health services no matter their ability to pay, usually by contribution or love offering. We have trusted totally in the inner guidance of Spirit within to direct out moves and programs offered.

We returned to CA late in 1998 following the birth of our first grandchild, where I was called to care for her while my eldest daughter went to medical school. For many years I was called for early morning care for my granddaughter from 4-9AM traveling an hour daily to Petaluma. During this time I began writing daily loving reminders emailed to now thousands all around the world.  Robert returned for a few years to his financial consulting career. We also moved near Robert’s parents so that Robert could care for his father and later his mother for the years preceding their transition.

I was called to part time ministry of Home of Truth in Alameda where Robert was the CFO and then we came to Unity on the Delta to serve as ministers in 2006.  I continue to write loving Reminders daily, counsel and coach in my Pleasant Hill Center and here, as well as on the phone. I teach classes and workshops and we offer retreats at our Rio Vista Home and the Reunion Lake House north of Calistoga.  And we continue to enjoy our grandchildren three in Alameda and three in Petaluma on Wednesdays and Fridays.

Reunion Ministries has been our calling for the last 25 years together.
We continue to be “On call for God and for Good, available for service through listening within and living God’s Will. Reunion really means to reconnect deeply within ourselves. Reunion is the remembering of our Oneness with our Spiritual family and all creation.  Reunion is the recognition of our eternal and abiding Union with Source, with God, with Love, with the Creative and Unlimited Power Present in All That Is.

I am honored and soooo grateful to have been given this opportunity to remember and share Re Union!
Betty Lue

Saturday, June 12, 2010


Do you see?  You are free.
You choose or you can snooze.
You can lose or you can win.
The game of life you begin again.

I love this game, because it is so forgiving.
You can pass go or go to jail,
You can buy lots of stuff and lose it all.
You can feel sad or mad or have a ball.

Yes, you can start again and still again.
You can have the same players or make new friends.
It is just what all games teach.
It matters not the outcome, but how you play the game.

“OK”, you say, but I have lost it all.
I am mad at myself for the choices I have made.
I want to pick up my toys and go home.
That’s fine too or you can stay and begin again.

The freedom we have teaches us what and who to trust.
Love is the freedom to choose again, my friends.
Love is learning to trust in our own inner voice.
When we practice listening within, we know the best choice.

For those who fear making a mistake….
Take time to listen and then stay awake.
The world changes with each moment in time.
So we must be willing to respond quickly until we find……

The way that is safe and fun and easy for all.
The highest and best is the choice that serves all.
There is no right way to live, but rather to give your best.
To everyone and everything to be truly happy and free.

So let yourself be serious with work
Or dance and sing as you play in delight.
Whatever you do, may it turn out all right
As you trust your heart and live what is true.

Children are our best teachers when given the space to live naturally.
They keep on loving and living no matter the cost.
They leave situations that cause them pain.
They rest when tired and eat when hungry just what they want.
They balance life with creativity, rest, work and play.

Children seek to be happy, to make friends and have fun.
Children want to feel safe and loved and at home wherever they are.
Children love to explore with curiosity and wonder.
They share their creations, their discoveries and their accomplishments with those they trust.

Children teach us to live true to ourselves and our inner spirit.
Live a little today as though you were a child….for inside you still are.
Loving you and me as we set ourselves free once again!
Betty Lue

Friday, June 11, 2010

Raising Children with Freedom and Trust

This is the 42nd birthday of my younger daughter.
Last night we went to the Montessori Preschool Graduation for the twins, Harper and Lila.
Every week we spend about10 hours average with grandchildren from 11yrs-3 weeks old.
I believe our greatest investment must be in our children and grandchildren.

I received some information on rearing children in natural cultures and recently saw the film “Babies”.
The books on Ishmael have intrigued me greatly over the years.
I find myself referring to learning through natural consequences rather than using fear and punishment.
I usually refer to what is effective and what works for all concerned.

We all have responsibility for the children on our planet.
We each in some way contribute to their cultural learning directly or through taxes, media and modeling.
Everyone has an influence on the direction of our culture and the patterns and mores of our society.
We are at a crossroads in time when we must find a better way (unless you like what is happening now.)

New and ancient philosophy for our children.Every child comes as a blessing from God, a miracle of creation, unlimited and free.
Children are born into a culture which tends to teach limitation and fear.
Every child is a gift of Love, here to give and receive Love, nurturing and the space to explore.
Every child has intrinsic gifts, a part to play and a special opportunity to heal their family system.

Some beings volunteer to enter into families with difficult circumstances, pain and poverty.
Some beings are born into families of means and money with other needs for healing.
Some babies are born into comfort security, freedom and trust.
We can trust the process of each by not projecting our interference and being supportive of each.

When a child learns from natural consequences, they have the opportunity to learn through experience.
When children are allowed to explore possibilities, they find their own path to live and learn.
When children are given the trust and modeling of others who are free and trusting, they are too.
When children learn naturally, they realize how simple, direct and fun, safe and easy life can be.

Can we each treat ourselves and those around us with this simple way of loving?
Can we trust ourselves to learn what works through experience rather than through fear?
Can we free ourselves to explore what might be better ways, by living and learning?
Are we willing to allow natural consequences be the teacher and the teaching?

What works?
How does that feel?
Is that what you want?
Is there a better way for you?
See what is true for you.
How did your own child-rearing work for you?
Do you trust yourself?
Are you free to explore and choose a better way?

Loving us all in letting go and learning to trust and free ourselves,
Betty Lue

Thursday, June 10, 2010


Do you see your own Magnificence?
Do you honor those who offer you theirs?
Are you willing to acknowledge those you admire?
Do you own the part of you that is admirable, too?

Often we have learned to hide our light.
Why would we diminish ourselves and limit our full free expression?
To protect ourselves from judgment and separation?
To defend against possible persecution?
To fit in and belong?
To play small so expectations will be small?
To protect others from being jealousy or feeling guilt?
To take the comfortable path which may seem safe and easy?

What you see is what you get, but it rarely is all there is.Beneath the surface personality is hidden potential.
Beneath the exterior, there is infinite power and possibility.
Beneath the history, the education and beliefs, there is limitlessness.
In everyone, not just in some.

“It takes one to know one.” 
is true.
To see in another, you must know some of that within yourself.
Seek out greatness and you will see its potential in yourself.
To denegrate, belittle and stop yourself from moving forward hurts.
Only those who do not love would hurt you.

Choose to love you.
Choose to believe in you.
Choose to forgive your self made limitations.
Choose to trust and free yourself to follow your Joy.

Begin to think big.
Begin to act great.
Begin to give without limit.
Begin to know you can do anything you commit to do!

You can be all you wish you can be.
You can give the abundance you wish you had.
You can create the good life you seek to live.
You can have the Love you seek by giving it to All.

You can because you Are.
You are because you chose.
You chose because you knew.
You knew because you Loved.

And I love you in all your magnificence.
Betty Lue

The Greatness in Others
Recognizing Our Own Greatness
> (from the Daily OM—

We cannot recognize greatness in others unless we too posses that same quality in ourselves.

A person who is said to possess greatness stands apart from others in some way, usually by the size or originality of their vision and their ability to manifest that vision. And yet those who recognize that greatness, whether they display it themselves or not, also have greatness within them; otherwise, they could not see it in another. In many ways, the achievements of one person always belong to many people for we accomplish nothing alone in this world. People who display greatness rely upon others who are able to see as they do, to listen, encourage, and support. Without those people who recognize greatness and move in to support it, even the greatest ideas, works of art, and political movements would remain unborn.

We are all moved by greatness when we see it, and although the experience is to some degree subjective, we know the feeling of it. When we encounter it, it is as if something in us stirs, awakens, and comes forth to meet what was inside us all along. When we respond to someone else's greatness, we feed our own. We may feel called to dedicate ourselves to their vision, or we may be inspired to follow a path we forge ourselves. Either way, we cannot lose when we recognize that the greatness we see in others belongs also to us. Our recognition of this is a call to action that, if heeded, will inspire others to see in us the greatness they also possess. This creates a chain reaction of greatness unfolding itself endlessly into the future.

Ultimately, greatness is simply the best of what humanity has to offer.
Greatness does what has not been done before and inspires the same courage that it requires. When we see it in others, we know it, and when we trust its presence in ourselves, we embody it.

Wednesday, June 09, 2010

Responses to "Responsibility"

Responses to a reader re: yesterday’s “Responsibilities” Loving Reminders (These may have been thoughts, questions or challenges as well.
Everyone and everything is a part of me, therefore I appreciate and receive your challenges with love.)

Remember I am writing these reminders for myself by listening within each morning to my inner voice or higher Self or Spirit within. If they resonate with you, use them for good.  If not let them go or delete.
See the origin of Loving Reminders below!

Are we not human? 
Yes, we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience.
We are God Beings or Godlettes, here to realize are Godness and our Goodness.
Don't we have limitations? Our physical body appears to be limited, but there are many who use their mental powers to overcome the seeming limitations, so I am not so sure. Experimenting with that.
Do we have to impose perfectionism on ourselves? We were created perfectly by a perfect creator to play our part perfectly.  Apparent mistakes and imperfections as part of our Perfection.  Perfection is not comparative. Perfection is the state of recognizing the value of what is as it is.
Can we allow ourselves to make mistakes
? It is most helpful to learn from making mistakes.  The error or mistake we make is in judging our mistakes and keeping them in place by trying to figure out how to never make them again. This world is an experimental laboratory.  Learning easily and healing our judgments is a major value of being in a body.

Who can consistently do all these things?
Who can be positive and responsible all the time, 24/7?
These are great ideals to strive toward, but as human beings, aren't we setting ourselves up for failure if we expect to be 100% perfect in meeting these perfectionistic ideals?
We are each choosing to improve ourselves and our lives or destroying our selves and our lives or seeking a comfortable place to rest, neither bettering ourselves nor decaying.  The state of our civilization right now is in decay. It would be easier to simply let go and allow the rest to follow. Obesity and health issues, laziness and lethargy, personal and political apathy, toxicity of environment, financial crises, unemployment….all of these are indicators.  They are meant to be wakeup calls, because it is never too late to forgive the past and choose again.  The work is to do the work.  The work is to stay conscious.  The work is to love enough that we are willing to do our part for the sake of the whole of humanity.  There are mistakes (failures that offer the opportunity to learn a better way.)  I am happy for taking the risk and making mistakes I learn from daily.  I am growing, healing and realizing all that I am here to be and contribute.
Are you perfect? I am perfect in the eyes of my Self.  I am imperfect and no body is perfect in the eyes of the ego. EGO=Edging God Out  I see you as perfect too!
Do you not need time for yourself?
My life is a more impersonal life than most. I am here with a global focus on serving the Greater Good. Since I am an essential part of the Good I serve, I see myself as always serving the little human me as well as expanding the Higher Self I AM.
 Are you 100% selfless?
The value of having a personality, a body and an ego which I see as the little self to which you refer is that I am learning, healing, growing, exploring and experimenting. I am curious and happy kid who loves giving and helping and seeing how I can help others be happy too! 
Much of your preaching is inspiring, however, sometimes (in my opinion), you are setting the bar to unobtainable heights that I negatively judge myself for, when I can't live up to it. If I feel this way, I'm sure others do. I need to forgive myself for not being perfect. I need to stop beating myself up for falling short of the perfection bar. I need to acknowledge my shortcomings, not as an excuse, but as my human limitation. I will never be perfect no matter how hard I try. I make mistakes, and sometimes I need to take care of myself by saying no to others needs, and not being available all the time. Sometimes I inadvertently hurt others, although not on purpose. All I can do is apologize and make amends when possible. I can't always live up to your perfectionistic preaching. Can you?
You give Betty Lue too much credit.  I am not preaching.  I am reminding myself of what I am learning, remembering, offering in the work and play in which I engage everyday.  I love my life and I love my work.  It is essential for me that I listen within on a daily basis, so that I stay in love with a fun, safe and easy life.  Everything you do, I do.  The only difference may be that I forgive and move on quickly.  I learn easily because I do not judge my mistakes.  I celebrate my seeming mistakes, because they teach and remind me.  I am filled with gratitude that you are listening and responding.  I celebrate your life and mine and how we were called to connect.  I honor all your choices, your timing, your life path, your philosophy and You. May we both enjoy the life journey and see it sacred and valuable and easily change it when it is not on purpose for us.  I thank you for questioning because you are listening.

And to all those reading this reminder, please know I am listening and writing only what I hear.  I do not edit or change it to conform or try to get your approval.  This is part of my journey which I freely share with you.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Origin of Inner Listening
In 1976 it was suggested I sit and do nothing for just five minutes daily by a spiritual mentor/teacher.  I chose 5AM in the morning and immediately saw/felt and heard a vision of a Home of Infinite Love available to all people.  Over the years,  I have co-created many such Centers and Homes with the guidance of Spirit within. The next morning I brought a pad of paper and a pen to sit, and as I was simply breathing, I knew words were coming into my mind and I wrote them down.  When I later read them, I saw they had great spiritual meaning.  As an innocent, trusting and ‘True Believer’, I then quieted myself every morning and began to follow what I heard within.  My life became fun, safe, easy and miraculous in so many ways.  I learned, forgave and grew spiritually daily from every relationships.  This is was the origin of what I call “inner listening” and have taught to hundreds of willing learners over the last 30 years.
The Origin of emailed Loving RemindersIn the winter of 1998, having just moved back to the Bay Area in California, I asked Spirit within what was my purpose and calling.  I was invited to sit at the computer and write down my daily inner listening and send it to those who requested it of me.  Since Dec, 1998 I have  sat at my keyboard, everyday to write exactly what Spirit within guides.  I do not edit, correct spelling and embellish what I hear.  I simply send what is given to me to share with the now thousands around the world.
This is my inner listening given to all who choose to receive them.  Often it gives people what they need, practical spiritual and inspiring reminders, so they need not spend money on  hours of therapy or endless seeking for spiritual answers.  They seem to awaken and remind individuals who are willing and ready to change their lives for the Good of All.  I also have put many of the reminders into three little books, Loving Reminders, Peaceful Reminders and Relationship Reminders.  There are two other books waiting to be published, Healing and Healthy Reminders.  It is my joy to contribute to the healing and awakening of my spiritual family, all humanity.

May be all be benefited and blessed by every good and kind intention of everyone everywhere.
Blessed be. Betty Lue  “True B’Lue”

Remember: The blessings already are and we are now awakening to enjoy them.

What Are these Loving Reminders?
A handful of people are new to receiving these daily or weekly loving reminders from me.
I send them directly to over one thousand people and many more from your referrals.
I have been writing and sending Loving Reminders for over 11 years everyday I am at home.
They are valuable for me to receive and share and valuable for others who receive them as reminders.
When something resonates with you, you feel its truth in your heart.When you are reminded of what you know deep inside, you appreciate and find value.When you are touched with inspiration, you feel grateful and can choose to practice.
This is my reason for listening within and sharing the inner guidance I receive each day.
After counseling and coaching thousands of individuals, couples and families, I know the need.After teaching, mentoring and facilitating hundreds of people for the last 35 years, I hear the call.After listening and letting Spirit within guide my life for most of my life, I feel the importance.And this is my way of responding to all of us for the Highest Good and finding a better way.
These reminders are intended to be practical; they are meant to be used everyday.
These reminders are intended to be inspirational; they are meant to move you into action.
These reminders are intended to be spiritual; they are meant to call you to return to what is meaningful.
These reminders are intended to be healing; they give insight, freedom to choose/change and peace.

For many, there is limited time and money, so these reminders offer help when you have need.
For some, there is hesitation in asking for help, so these reminders are an anonymous way to learn.
For others, there is denial of needing anything, and the reminders simply reawaken what is known.
For me, these reminders are a powerful way to connect, to touch you with my love for us all.
Yes, I Love You.I love you when you are happy or sad, right or wrong, awakening or sleeping on the job.
I love you when you don’t love yourself or forget you are loveable and capable just as you are.
I love you when you are willing to do the work and when you get lazy and quit on yourself.

I am your Loving Reminder.We can call it a Calling or Holy Assignment or just what I am here to do.
My intention is to facilitate all of us in playing our Part and living our potential in being all we can be.Said in a thousand ways or no way at all…your healing and success and joy are a blessing for me.
So why would I sit at my computer every morning as my spiritual practice and joy…….??
Because of all this above and so much more.
You and I are One..More than you can know, we are connected in Love.
Ask me your questions.
Give me your comments.
Share with me your gratitude.
And always know I am with you in Love.
Betty Lue

Tuesday, June 08, 2010


It seems some teachings are inclined to create less responsibility and more excuses.
It seems some philosophies let people off the hook to care for themselves better.
It seems some children and immature adults believe it is desireable to allow others to clean up after them.
It seems even spiritual people want to leave it up to an external source or God.

Are you willing to be responsible for your life with no excuses?
Are you willing to be responsible for eating right and getting enough sleep?
Are you willing to be responsible for living within your means with no indebtedness?
Are you willing to get off the couch and teach by example for your children?

This means paying your bills and your taxes on time.
This means buying only those items which benefit your family, yourself and your world.
This means creating a lifestyle which supports optimum health, mentally, physically and spiritually.
This means having enough energy to clean up your home, workplace, car and still playing with your kids.

Are you willing to be responsible for your happiness?
Are you willing to let go of your mistakes and others?
Are you willing to bring a smile to the face of strangers?
Are you willing to contribute a little joy and gratitude wherever you go?

This means that you no longer dump your pain, fatigue or anger on your family.
This means that you stop expecting others to do what you are not doing.
This means that you give more than anyone else at home and work without complaining.
This means that you really appreciate the great job your are doing in all parts of your life.

Are you willing to be responsible for your environment?
Are you willing to create beauty and harmony and goodness everywhere you go?
Are you willing to stop letting things be broken, dirty or collecting dust?
Are you willing to be the one who demonstrates being helpful and kind?

This means that you will pick up trash, recycle consistently and conserve natural resources.
This means that you will plant flowers, share inspiring stories and treat everyone respectfully.
This means that you will fix, give away, clean and use stuff that is valuable to you.
This means that you will go out of your way to be of service to others everyday.

Are you willing to bring peace to your world?
Are you willing to be openly loving and appreciative?
Are you willing to listen to understand before speaking?
Are you willing to give to others purely for the sake of giving?

This means you will maintain your inner peace.
This means you will genuinely look for opportunities to express you gratitude.
This means that you will seek to understand others without needing to talk back.
This means that you will seek out opportunities to volunteer because you love to be helpful.

Life is what we create it to be for us.
To be responsible is to be free to love, serve and remember the Good within ourselves.
Enjoy you life by taking responsibility fully.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue 

Sunday, June 06, 2010

Change the Channel!

When your mind is thinking thoughts that are not entertaining or inspiring, change the channel.
When you have feelings that cause your worry, upset or anger, change the internal music.
When your body is showing signs of wear and tear, pain and upset, change your program.
Hang up and redial your mind, emotions and physiology to tune into what is beneficial.

Believe it or not!
You have thoughts, but you are not your thoughts.
You have feelings, but you are not your feelings.
You have a body, but you are not your body.

You have the controls.
Stop sleeping and get up off the couch and change the channel.
Get some motivation to be the one who chooses how you think and feel and act.
Stop allowing the externals to control you and use your own power to make positive choices.

Yes, it requires effort and energy.
Yes, you must work to get your mind and emotions to stay on the channels you choose.
Yes, often our systems have been neglected and need to be trained or retrained to obey our choices.
Yes, you can choose inspiring or stressful thoughts.
Yes, you can choose happy or depressing feelings.
Yes, you can focus on the flaws or on the miraculous functioning of your body.

Remember everything works more efficiently and effectively when you are at the helm.
All parts of you function more harmoniously when working together for the goal you choose.
Your world of relationships, career and finances are more successful when you are in alignment.
Your home, workplace, vehicle and travel flows with your internal integrity.

When we are conflicted, resistant, resentful or fearful, we interfere with the natural flow of energy.
When we lose our way and forget what is best, we must stop and rest to find ourselves again.
When we have regrets, incompletions, failures and avoidances, we slow our progress.
When we feel like losers with guilt and blame, shame and unnamed sorrow, we bleed energy.

Life is meant to be lived fully and freely, with abundant gratitude and joy for all things.
When we are living with limitation and caution, we may have lots of despair and unhappiness.
When we are in trouble emotionally, mentally or physically, we tend to aim our blame on others.
When we lose our support with our criticism and complaining, we flounder in self pity.

Change the channel.
Change your mind.
Change your emotions.
Change your physiology.

You can do it, because it is the only thing that works!
Loving us all with freedom and trust. (when you experiment you will see what works for you!)
Betty Lue 

Saturday, June 05, 2010

I Think I Can

Remember The Little Engine That Could?He said, “I think I can.  I think I can, I think I can.”
And he could!

How often to you change your negatives into positives?
How much do you excuse yourself for not keeping your promises?
How willing are you to choose a better way and stick with it?
How conscious are you of using the words you want to be true?

Every moment is a choice.
If we don’t like our choices, we can easily choose again.
We don’t need justification or explanations, defenses or excuses.
We can simply choose a better way.

The proof is in the pudding.
We can claim to live our truth.
We can say what we want to be.
But until we live it consistently, we are false prophets.

Let us choose and lose the ways that do not work.
Let us erase and never lose face.
Let us lift our sights to climb the mountains we have placed before us.
Let us believe without doubt and see success come about.

Life is the canvas on which we can prove our convictions.
Life is the platform on which we must stand to demonstrate a better way.
Life is an invitation to claim our power with strength and courage.
Life is the opportunity to achieve what we believe.

What we conceive is achieved when  we believe wholeheartedly.
We can choose to end the victimization that comes from feeling helpless and powerless.
We can stop the insanity of feeling guilt and blame and everything in between.
When we claim our truth and live it, true freedom, trust and happiness is our reward.

We each have a mountain to climb, whether mundane or inspirational.
We each have challenges before us whether personal or global in scope.
We all have choices to make which will change the shape of our world.
Let us together claim, “Together we can. I know we can. I trust we can do what we are called to do.”

And to this, I say “Blessed be.”
Thanks for joining me.
Betty Lue

You can substitute “faith” or “trust and freedom” for the word “Love”.
LOVEThere is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference
How deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Friday, June 04, 2010

Do What Matters to You!

Sharing personally to inspire you to live in the way that is True for You. Your way, not mine!
What is on purpose and highest and best for you will bring you Peace and True Happiness!

Everyday I spend doing what matters most to me.I love the work I do with individuals, couples and groups, so I do it about 20 hrs./week.
I love coaching, counseling and teaching, so I give it my all almost every day.
I am inspired and delighted by the awakening, the healing, the insights, the sharing.

Everyday I am focused on being inspired and inspiring others.
On Sundays I co-minister the Unity Center for Inspired Living and coordinate our community Center.
I stay in touch with everyone on Sundays with smiles and hugs and with thank you notes monthly.
I teach and share the Good I know and spiritual principles that can make life fun, safe and easy. (8 hrs. wk.)

Everyday I remember our children and especially our seven+ grandchildren.We usually spend two days/week or about10 hours/week in two nearby towns enjoying their company.
We have projects mending and fixing broken or torn things, doing crafts, reading stories taking field trips.
Our time together is helpful to parents, loving for the children and so much learning for us.

Everyday I give attention to taking impeccable care of our bodies, the vehicle with which we serve.I prepare from scratch our foods, using primarily organic veggies and fruits and some grains. (10 hrs/ wk.)
I bring our foods with us since we travel almost everyday and we have refrigerators at our centers.
I attend to our physical, mental and emotional needs immediately, responding with healing Love.

Everyday I enjoy our home and our vacation home (Reunion Lake House), appreciating everything.We love the simple natural beauty, the sound of fountain, birds, crickets and frogs. (15 hrs./wk)
We enjoy the sunset and sunrise and the play of the light on the trees and flowers.
We value the quiet and ease as well as the cleanliness and order, peace and harmony of both places.

Everyday I experience the adventure of watching to see where and how we can be helpful.Through Emails, phone calls, appointments, we answer questions and offer support and inspiration.
I am blessed with the wisdom, patience, understanding and acceptance I need to respond with love.
I learn and teach, give and receive the best I know….and am so thankful this is so. (15 hrs. wk.)

Everyday I travel often with Robert 2+ hours to a variety of venues to serve from my heart.It is during these times in the car that I see the beauty of the earth and sky and bless all life. (20 hrs/wk)
It is in the quiet moments that I feel so enriched by the life I have chosen.
It is in our peaceful ride that we connect with our inner Source and create Wholeness and Goodness.

Everyday I sit with my spiritual Partner before bedtime and hold hands, quietly giving thanks.
Both of us freely express love and gratitude to one another because this is the Truth. (15 hrs./wk)
We share the common vision of being “On call for God” or “always available to do Good”.We take time to be together simply enjoying our life and our love.

Everyday I think, say and do what really matters most to me.No wasted time, energy or resources.
Being grateful and using consciously what is given with respect.
I love the life we have and so my life loves me…

And so it is….
You can too, if you choose.Clarify what you value most.
Give it attention with your time, your energy and your resources. (money and goods)

This is truly a Good Life.  I give my Self to Goodness and Goodness returns to me.
Life is a big circle which always returns home.
Thank Goodness this is so.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue
Thank Goodness for the opportunity to love, serve and remember.
This is my life and I rejoice this is so.

Thursday, June 03, 2010

What is Evil?

Speak No Evil.
See No Evil.
Do No Evil.

What is Evil?
E/V/I/L is LIVE spelled backwards.
“Evil” is anything that is anti “Life”
So when we oppose life, joy, creation, Love and what is Good, we are stepping away from Life.

How does this work?
To say negative and condemning things to anyone or about anyone shuts down your flow of life energy.
To see, imagine, visualize and observe hurtful, violent, negative damaging stuff, attacks you the observer.
To do bad, negative harmful deeds against Life in any form, does harm to you and your psyche.

Usually what we feel is fear of being attacked in retribution for the attack on life we perpetrated.
It hurts us to hurt others.
When we attack with out judgments, we are attacking ourselves with the fear of being attacked.
When we say, do or imagine awful stuff, we create a place in our minds of fearing it will happen to us.

Speak only Good.
“If you can’t say anything Good, don’t say anything at all.”
See only Good.
What you look for, you will find.  Seek out good people, movies, ideas, and let go of the rest.
Do only Good.
Ask your heart, the Love in you, how you are to act, treat people and live your life.

When we live, love and serve only the Highest Good, Goodness is ours no matter what happens in the world.
It is strengthening and empowering to have the courage to bring goodness to every situation without faltering under the pressure to be resentful, hurt or seek vengeance.
To truly forgive and live free of condemnation of anyone or anything lifts us out of the duality of this world.
Consider what works.
Consider how to stay happy and free.
Consider how to be the One who brings healing.
Consider giving yourself the best possible life of loving, learning and letting go.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue