When things fall apart, pick up only the pieces that you value.
When life disintegrates, let it reintegrate at a higher level.
There is no need to try to make something out of nothing.
Release and let go and let Good in you change your life.
As I observe relationships falter and drop away, I see people cling to what was or what “could” be.
As I see jobs end and homes go into foreclosure, I observe desperation in hanging on and making wrong.
As I notice tough times and complaining people, I feel depletion of energy and more lack of self respect.
When we lose everything, sometimes we gain far more than we lost.
“When one door closes, another will open. Look for the light!.”
When life seems to fall into disarray, pick up only the pieces you like and move on,
When you have lost your most valued prize, person, talent, look for the next gift, the blessing.
When you have grief, grieve, forgive, trust and choose again.
As I notice the decline of our society’s mores, self respect and mature choices, I ask what will come.
As I see relationships fall apart, I seek the creative solutions and positive resolution of conflict.
As I watch people betray, attack, hurt and speak ill of others, I am concerned for lack of consciousness.
What we give, we receive. What goes around, comes around. What we have done will be done to us.
All this is true until we learn….
Some learn from a gentle word, a soft breeze, a passing glance.
Some ignore and keep going against the grain, until they lose everything.
Wakeup calls come in all levels of intensity.
When we see it takes a disaster for us to notice and change our ways, we are forewarned to wake up.
When we become conscious, we can look for comfort and fall asleep again or stay conscious.
When we are willing to be an awakened being, we take full responsibility for everything in our lives.
When we take responsibility and stop the “blame game”, we are at choice, in charge and consistent.
Life with its ceaseless changes is designed to be played and enjoyed consciously.
When we take advantage of our “good life” and good job and good wife and good world, we fall asleep.
While we are asleep, we fail to care for what we love with daily appreciation and contribution.
When we don’t feed the good with like Goodness, our Good is starved and we go hungry.
Take time today to look around and feed the Good in your life with Abundant Goodness.
Give your world another look and fully appreciate those you love and admire.
Honor what you have created by keeping it all in Good order and sharing its value with others.
Keep nothing for yourself and stop feeding your greed by tending only your own garden.
Life is a gift. Treat it with great respect and always acknowledge the Giver.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
A man who lived on the northern frontier of China was skilled in interpreting events.
One day, for no reason, his horse ran away to the nomads across the border.
Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a blessing?"
Some months later his horse returned, bringing a splendid nomad stallion.
Everyone congratulated him, but his father said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a disaster?"
Their household was richer by a fine horse, which his son loved to ride.
One day he fell and broke his hip.
Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a blessing?"
A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man took his bow and went into battle.
The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men.
Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other.
Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing.
the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.
The Lost Horse, Chinese Folktale.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Moderation
Moderation in all things is the key to a balanced life.
Where there is too much intensity, seek mellowness.
Where there is too much darkness, seek the light.
Where there is too much seriousness, seek the playfulness.
Where there is too much separation, seek closeness.
Where there is too much hurt, seek to heal.
Where there is too much lack, seek fulfillment.
Where there is too much depression, seek expression.
Where there is too much, there is a call for less.
Know there are cycles and seasons as with the moon.
Know there is and ever flowing changing when we are not stuck with attachment.
Know there are opportunities to move around the obstacles when we feel blocked.
Know there are innumerable solutions when we release fear and see the big picture.
Life is not black and white.
Life holds many colors, shades and opportunities to look at all sides.
When in disagreement, it is always best to drop your fixed opinion and see things another way.
The more you can see from many points of view, the more successful you will be.
The ways of our past bleed through into our future until we forgive and choose again.
The opinions of our admired forefathers become our present reality until we choose again.
The unhealed wounds of humanity show up in our lives to be seen and healed differently.
The changing seasons, alternative perceptions and creative expansive mind can create healthy outcomes.
We need not despair that there are only two alternatives.
We need not get stuck in thinking there will be pain and loss for all.
We need not fight to get our way.
We need not fear for our survival and loss.
When we trust in God and essentialGoodness, we need merely ask to know a better way.
When we trust in the loving heart and creative mind, we find there is more than we have known before.
When we clear the fear and guilt and blame, we see everyone playing a different game, where all can win.
When we forgive, erase and delete the history of pain and loss and lack, we believe in healing, peace and prosperity for All.
What I speak of is not only possible, it is the way conscious beings relate and succeed and celebrate.
Let us together find mutually winning ways.
Let us live in mutual respect and loving kindness.
Let us listen with a compassionate heart and choose to have a new start, begin again as true friends.
Our relationships are meant to clear the past and heal the present.
Our relationships are a call to forgive and choose a better way to live.
Our relationships are a symbol of what we still fear and fight to achieve.
Our relationships can be a tribute to the Goodness and Love in which we believe.
Choose again,
Betty Lue
LOVEThere is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.
It makes no difference
how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.
If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.
Emmet Fox
Where there is too much intensity, seek mellowness.
Where there is too much darkness, seek the light.
Where there is too much seriousness, seek the playfulness.
Where there is too much separation, seek closeness.
Where there is too much hurt, seek to heal.
Where there is too much lack, seek fulfillment.
Where there is too much depression, seek expression.
Where there is too much, there is a call for less.
Know there are cycles and seasons as with the moon.
Know there is and ever flowing changing when we are not stuck with attachment.
Know there are opportunities to move around the obstacles when we feel blocked.
Know there are innumerable solutions when we release fear and see the big picture.
Life is not black and white.
Life holds many colors, shades and opportunities to look at all sides.
When in disagreement, it is always best to drop your fixed opinion and see things another way.
The more you can see from many points of view, the more successful you will be.
The ways of our past bleed through into our future until we forgive and choose again.
The opinions of our admired forefathers become our present reality until we choose again.
The unhealed wounds of humanity show up in our lives to be seen and healed differently.
The changing seasons, alternative perceptions and creative expansive mind can create healthy outcomes.
We need not despair that there are only two alternatives.
We need not get stuck in thinking there will be pain and loss for all.
We need not fight to get our way.
We need not fear for our survival and loss.
When we trust in God and essentialGoodness, we need merely ask to know a better way.
When we trust in the loving heart and creative mind, we find there is more than we have known before.
When we clear the fear and guilt and blame, we see everyone playing a different game, where all can win.
When we forgive, erase and delete the history of pain and loss and lack, we believe in healing, peace and prosperity for All.
What I speak of is not only possible, it is the way conscious beings relate and succeed and celebrate.
Let us together find mutually winning ways.
Let us live in mutual respect and loving kindness.
Let us listen with a compassionate heart and choose to have a new start, begin again as true friends.
Our relationships are meant to clear the past and heal the present.
Our relationships are a call to forgive and choose a better way to live.
Our relationships are a symbol of what we still fear and fight to achieve.
Our relationships can be a tribute to the Goodness and Love in which we believe.
Choose again,
Betty Lue
LOVEThere is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.
It makes no difference
how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.
If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.
Emmet Fox
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Don’t Bother
Trying to fix or change another may feel like a judgment, an attack or a statement of “better than”.
Wishing someone would be different is a judgment and a lack of love for who they are.
Working on getting someone to be what and how you want is manipulative.
Hoping you can affect change in another is a way of saying you are right and they are wrong.
Love is trust and freedom.When you Love, you trust the other is always doing their best.
When you Love, you are appreciative for the good you see.
When you Love, you give others your support, encouragement and affirmation.
When you fear, you judge the other is not doing their best.
When you fear, you criticize the negativity and what you see as bad.
When you fear, you offer you opinions, criticisms, judgments and suggestions.
When you emotionally assail another with your hurt or angry feelings, you are not loving them or yourself.
The best teacher is a clear role model and example.
The best teaching is one that is being lived rather than being told or demanded.
The best student is the one who is happy and willing because they feel loved.
The best success comes from holding the highest vision with confidence, clarity, consistency and commitment.
The most ineffective teacher is inconsistent and does not live their own teaching.
The worst teacher demands, threatens, bribes and treats the student disrespectfully.
The worst students feels scared, unhappy, unappreciated and unheard because they feel unloved.
The worst failure comes from being negative, abusive of self and others and lacks clarity, consistency and commitment.
I recommend that we step away from telling or teaching others unless we love, trust and respect those we teach.
I suggest we do not give our suggestions, criticisms, opinions, advice or judgment unless we are asked.
(Even these reminders are only sent to those who specifically request to be emailed.) And I immediately remove those who wish to stop receiving them!) A
I inviteall of us to use our energies, ideas, opinions on cleaning up our own inner and outer life.
Everything we think and say and do teaches everyone everywhere.
It is imperative to change our own thoughts, our words and our actions in order to model for others a better way.
To impose our choices on others is counter productive and implies we know what is best for others.
To demand or threaten rejection or abandonment is an indication of our fear and lack of love.
To make others feel afraid or guilty is a poor motivator for improving human behavior.
(The rude and crude behaviors we see in the media and on the streets and in war, is not healing or helpful.)
Take time to live the highest Truth you know everyday with everyone.
You will be the Greatest Teacher and Healer you can imagine,
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Wishing someone would be different is a judgment and a lack of love for who they are.
Working on getting someone to be what and how you want is manipulative.
Hoping you can affect change in another is a way of saying you are right and they are wrong.
Love is trust and freedom.When you Love, you trust the other is always doing their best.
When you Love, you are appreciative for the good you see.
When you Love, you give others your support, encouragement and affirmation.
When you fear, you judge the other is not doing their best.
When you fear, you criticize the negativity and what you see as bad.
When you fear, you offer you opinions, criticisms, judgments and suggestions.
When you emotionally assail another with your hurt or angry feelings, you are not loving them or yourself.
The best teacher is a clear role model and example.
The best teaching is one that is being lived rather than being told or demanded.
The best student is the one who is happy and willing because they feel loved.
The best success comes from holding the highest vision with confidence, clarity, consistency and commitment.
The most ineffective teacher is inconsistent and does not live their own teaching.
The worst teacher demands, threatens, bribes and treats the student disrespectfully.
The worst students feels scared, unhappy, unappreciated and unheard because they feel unloved.
The worst failure comes from being negative, abusive of self and others and lacks clarity, consistency and commitment.
I recommend that we step away from telling or teaching others unless we love, trust and respect those we teach.
I suggest we do not give our suggestions, criticisms, opinions, advice or judgment unless we are asked.
(Even these reminders are only sent to those who specifically request to be emailed.) And I immediately remove those who wish to stop receiving them!) A
I inviteall of us to use our energies, ideas, opinions on cleaning up our own inner and outer life.
Everything we think and say and do teaches everyone everywhere.
It is imperative to change our own thoughts, our words and our actions in order to model for others a better way.
To impose our choices on others is counter productive and implies we know what is best for others.
To demand or threaten rejection or abandonment is an indication of our fear and lack of love.
To make others feel afraid or guilty is a poor motivator for improving human behavior.
(The rude and crude behaviors we see in the media and on the streets and in war, is not healing or helpful.)
Take time to live the highest Truth you know everyday with everyone.
You will be the Greatest Teacher and Healer you can imagine,
Loving you,
Betty Lue
If Children ( Adults) Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy.
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If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
The Buck Stops Here
Yesterday’s and today’s reminders are possibly the strongest I have ever written. I laughed at myself and was surprise when I heard what I was writing. But today’s world is perhaps stranger and stronger in its rudeness and crudeness than I have know in my 67 years. The stress of joblessness, the threat of financial ruin, the nature of the media, the political/ religious climate of hatred and righteousness seem to have escalated the human need to heal from within. Those of you who receive these reminders are the ones who can vision, forgive, lead by example, teach, heal and remind others of their true nature. I thank us all and bless us all for our willingness. Betty Lue
Time to be kind to the One you love.
Begin with yourself.
You will find that everything you dump comes from your own inner woundedness.
You will heal when you heal the woundedness in you.
This is the generation in which we have the time, energy and willingness to clean up our act.
We are the ones who can stop the rampant violence, depression and harmful habits.
We can together heal what is not helpful, healing, beneficial, and kind for others.
We can undo what is ineffective, negative, blaming and destructive.
We need to heal the origin of our inner wound.
Awareness without judgment is healing.What we reveal with compassion and understanding will heal.
When we offer peace to our inner conflict and love to our fears, we can heal.
When an infant or toddler is rejected or punished for making a mistake, they may reject and punish others.
When a parent/teacher displayed anger or withheld love when you made mistakes, you may do the same.
When you saw people be cruel or lose their temper, you may do likewise.
What we experienced as very young children imprints our behaviors as adults.
To be rejected or abandoned by a parent (a child’s interpretation), often creates episodic abandonment of others and yourself.
How we were “loved” or “punished” often imprints adults to do the same to their children and mate.
It is imperative to stop the cycle of insanity and abuse to be conscious about our thought and words.
It is essential that we do the work to clear the patterns of destructive and counter productive behaviors.
Some perpetuate the destructive behaviors by acting out on their loved ones.
Some generate more of their childhood patterns by expecting and unconsciously inviting like experiences.
Some are passive and allow abusive behaviors.
Some pick and nag and aggravate in order to get the same behaviors as were familiar in childhood.
We each have a part to play in healing the wounds.
We each need to heal the limiting and harmful patterns within.
We each need to step away from the immediate precipitating event and look within.
We each need to ask ourselves: What is really upsetting us and what can we heal within ourselves?
At this time there seems to be make broken or disrupted relationships emerging.
People who have been hurting for years are now coming forth and asking for healing solutions.
We are at a crossroads: either actively and consciously heal the old wounds or let go and step away to find the clarity, conviction and consciously choose again for what is beneficial for all concerned.
There is no value or benefit in hurting another.
There is no value or benefit in letting yourself be hurt.
There is no value or benefit in continuing to play destructive unkind games.
There is no value or benefit in staying numb or unconscious with addictions to work, drugs, alcohol, etc…
It is time to wakeup.
Give yourself a new life.
Heal your old wound.
Present a positive model for your children and others to learn from.
I love enough to remind you of who you really are under the scars and rewounding you perpetuate.
Betty Lue
Time to be kind to the One you love.
Begin with yourself.
You will find that everything you dump comes from your own inner woundedness.
You will heal when you heal the woundedness in you.
This is the generation in which we have the time, energy and willingness to clean up our act.
We are the ones who can stop the rampant violence, depression and harmful habits.
We can together heal what is not helpful, healing, beneficial, and kind for others.
We can undo what is ineffective, negative, blaming and destructive.
We need to heal the origin of our inner wound.
Awareness without judgment is healing.What we reveal with compassion and understanding will heal.
When we offer peace to our inner conflict and love to our fears, we can heal.
When an infant or toddler is rejected or punished for making a mistake, they may reject and punish others.
When a parent/teacher displayed anger or withheld love when you made mistakes, you may do the same.
When you saw people be cruel or lose their temper, you may do likewise.
What we experienced as very young children imprints our behaviors as adults.
To be rejected or abandoned by a parent (a child’s interpretation), often creates episodic abandonment of others and yourself.
How we were “loved” or “punished” often imprints adults to do the same to their children and mate.
It is imperative to stop the cycle of insanity and abuse to be conscious about our thought and words.
It is essential that we do the work to clear the patterns of destructive and counter productive behaviors.
Some perpetuate the destructive behaviors by acting out on their loved ones.
Some generate more of their childhood patterns by expecting and unconsciously inviting like experiences.
Some are passive and allow abusive behaviors.
Some pick and nag and aggravate in order to get the same behaviors as were familiar in childhood.
We each have a part to play in healing the wounds.
We each need to heal the limiting and harmful patterns within.
We each need to step away from the immediate precipitating event and look within.
We each need to ask ourselves: What is really upsetting us and what can we heal within ourselves?
At this time there seems to be make broken or disrupted relationships emerging.
People who have been hurting for years are now coming forth and asking for healing solutions.
We are at a crossroads: either actively and consciously heal the old wounds or let go and step away to find the clarity, conviction and consciously choose again for what is beneficial for all concerned.
There is no value or benefit in hurting another.
There is no value or benefit in letting yourself be hurt.
There is no value or benefit in continuing to play destructive unkind games.
There is no value or benefit in staying numb or unconscious with addictions to work, drugs, alcohol, etc…
It is time to wakeup.
Give yourself a new life.
Heal your old wound.
Present a positive model for your children and others to learn from.
I love enough to remind you of who you really are under the scars and rewounding you perpetuate.
Betty Lue
Monday, October 18, 2010
Stop Hurting the Ones You Love
(If this does not apply to you, let it go. But read it, just in case it does.....)
Why do you poop and puke on your family and friends?
Why do you weaken the one you depend on?
Why do you dump your toxic waste where you live?
Why do you pretend you are strong and knowing, when you feel weak, lost and afraid?
It seems that many learn to give their worst to the ones they claim to love best.
It seems humanity has been taught to criticize is helpful and engenders improvement.
It appears that you and many like you believe your ugly thoughts and words don’t do harm.
If you love, if you want the best, if you seek improvement, start with yourself!
Yes, I am talking to the ones who seem to think hurting people with critical demanding words is OK.
Yes, I am writing to those who believe thinking hateful harmful thoughts do no damage.
Yes, I am speaking to the husbands and wives, parents and children, who are acting with malice.
Yes, I am sharing with you who sometimes dump all your negative feelings and words on others.
It is counter-productive to criticize.
It is ineffective to accuse and bruise with words.
It is weakening to blame those you need to be strong.
It is hurtful to all to display your cleverness and power with ugly words and outrageous behaviors.
You are hurting yourself everytime you hurt others.
You are condemning yourself when you damn others.
You are defeating your intended purpose when you poison those who love you.
You are displaying your inner faults every time you are critical of others.
Private bathrooms were created for the purpose of keeping garbage away from other people.
When you feel the need to dump negative emotions, angry thoughts, mean feelings, do it in private.
Use a journal to write and then throw the toxic material away..preferably without re-reading it.
Shout alone on a hilltop or in your car or into a pillow.
Release your negative energy by sweating it out with exercise and physical exertion.
Your stuff belongs to you.
Stop thinking someone else filled you with negativity.When you have blaming, demanding and critical thoughts and feelings, they are yours to clear.
Settle the score, the resentment you have inside, instead of hurting the ones you love.
When negativity comes up, step back and ask your inner self;
"What do I really want?"
"What really is upsetting me?"
"How can I heal and clear this issue within myself?”
To harm another is harmful to you.
When you attack, you will fear being attacked.
When you weaken another, you will receive less benefit from them (never more!)
When you kill another’s Spirit, you are defeating your higher purpose and true goal.
I know you get the message.
I know you know you need to change.
I know you understand you are simply doing what you were taught.
I know parenting and our society has contributed mightily to this problem.
However, you are the solution.
Be creative.
Seek help.
Stop the craziness.
Find a better way.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Why do you poop and puke on your family and friends?
Why do you weaken the one you depend on?
Why do you dump your toxic waste where you live?
Why do you pretend you are strong and knowing, when you feel weak, lost and afraid?
It seems that many learn to give their worst to the ones they claim to love best.
It seems humanity has been taught to criticize is helpful and engenders improvement.
It appears that you and many like you believe your ugly thoughts and words don’t do harm.
If you love, if you want the best, if you seek improvement, start with yourself!
Yes, I am talking to the ones who seem to think hurting people with critical demanding words is OK.
Yes, I am writing to those who believe thinking hateful harmful thoughts do no damage.
Yes, I am speaking to the husbands and wives, parents and children, who are acting with malice.
Yes, I am sharing with you who sometimes dump all your negative feelings and words on others.
It is counter-productive to criticize.
It is ineffective to accuse and bruise with words.
It is weakening to blame those you need to be strong.
It is hurtful to all to display your cleverness and power with ugly words and outrageous behaviors.
You are hurting yourself everytime you hurt others.
You are condemning yourself when you damn others.
You are defeating your intended purpose when you poison those who love you.
You are displaying your inner faults every time you are critical of others.
Private bathrooms were created for the purpose of keeping garbage away from other people.
When you feel the need to dump negative emotions, angry thoughts, mean feelings, do it in private.
Use a journal to write and then throw the toxic material away..preferably without re-reading it.
Shout alone on a hilltop or in your car or into a pillow.
Release your negative energy by sweating it out with exercise and physical exertion.
Your stuff belongs to you.
Stop thinking someone else filled you with negativity.When you have blaming, demanding and critical thoughts and feelings, they are yours to clear.
Settle the score, the resentment you have inside, instead of hurting the ones you love.
When negativity comes up, step back and ask your inner self;
"What do I really want?"
"What really is upsetting me?"
"How can I heal and clear this issue within myself?”
To harm another is harmful to you.
When you attack, you will fear being attacked.
When you weaken another, you will receive less benefit from them (never more!)
When you kill another’s Spirit, you are defeating your higher purpose and true goal.
I know you get the message.
I know you know you need to change.
I know you understand you are simply doing what you were taught.
I know parenting and our society has contributed mightily to this problem.
However, you are the solution.
Be creative.
Seek help.
Stop the craziness.
Find a better way.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Sunday, October 17, 2010
You Are Rich!
See the riches you have in your life.
The air you breathe, the water you drink, the sun that shines.
Appreciate the wealth that is yours.
You can read what you want. You can say what you feel. You can be serve others in need.
Enjoy what you have.
When you share the smile on your face or offer someone God’s Grace, you are rich.
Appreciate the values you hold.
Live true to what you believe and never withhold the happiness you fee.
Forgive your comparative mind.
Undo you feelings of envy and judgment.
See yourself as whole and good and fulfilled everyday.
You will know you are experiencing true prosperity.
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To many prospering means being wealthy and having plenty of money.
To me, Prosperity means knowing you have enough to use and give for the Good of All.
True Prosperity is happiness, energy, inner peace, creativity and freedom to live on purpose.
Living on Purpose is doing what you love, sharing the Good you have and being fulfilled at work and home.
Many teach four prosperity principles are essential to live in prosperity.· God is Source, so tithe to the place where you are inspired by God and by Good.· Forgive yourself for denying yourself and limiting yourself and your prosperity.· Clarify your values and set goals according to your inspired visions and act on your goals.· Live and give generously to living your Higher Purpose in alignment with your values.
Many spiritual leaders and religions teach to tithe or contribute10% to your church.
The principle of tithing came from needing to store 10% of your best seed to plant for the coming year.
I interpret the tithing principle somewhat differently.
Give to the Source of Good in and for you. Give everyday at least 10% of your resources to whatever blessed you with happiness, inspiration, energy and vision.
Contribute time, energy and money to what inspires you and encourages you to be and give your best.
Give to what sustains, inspires and strengthens you.
Give to what grows your positive attitude and enthusiasm.
Give to what invites you to always be your best Self.
Give to the Goodness you see around you that is might Grow in our world!
Life offers us many gifts.
Some are outworn and need to be passed on.
Some are no longer of value and need to be relinquished.
Some need to be see and appreciated to expand and increase.
It is time we forgive our greediness and neediness and give to the source of Good.
Our wealth comes in building a world where all are blessed with the consciousness to prosper.
Our prosperity is experienced only when we stop complaining and start creating what we want.
Our riches lie in our unique ability to give what we have to create what we want to have more.
Bless us all for remembering and appreciating our true prosperity.
Bless you for remembering to contribute to what you value for the good of all.
Bless everyone for remembering we live in freedom and in God we trust.
Bless you and me for remembering to forgive and live generously.
Giving always and only the Best I have,
Betty Lue
PS Robert and I continue to tithe money, time and energy to a better world for all.
Consider giving more than your fair share and you will be given everything you need to continue giving.
Because we believe in what can be, we give to what is ours to do and to create.
“To have All, give all to all.” ACIM I believe and receive with a grateful heart.
“And God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance, so that you may always have enough of everything and may provide in abundance for every good work.” II Corinthians 9:8
The air you breathe, the water you drink, the sun that shines.
Appreciate the wealth that is yours.
You can read what you want. You can say what you feel. You can be serve others in need.
Enjoy what you have.
When you share the smile on your face or offer someone God’s Grace, you are rich.
Appreciate the values you hold.
Live true to what you believe and never withhold the happiness you fee.
Forgive your comparative mind.
Undo you feelings of envy and judgment.
See yourself as whole and good and fulfilled everyday.
You will know you are experiencing true prosperity.
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To many prospering means being wealthy and having plenty of money.
To me, Prosperity means knowing you have enough to use and give for the Good of All.
True Prosperity is happiness, energy, inner peace, creativity and freedom to live on purpose.
Living on Purpose is doing what you love, sharing the Good you have and being fulfilled at work and home.
Many teach four prosperity principles are essential to live in prosperity.· God is Source, so tithe to the place where you are inspired by God and by Good.· Forgive yourself for denying yourself and limiting yourself and your prosperity.· Clarify your values and set goals according to your inspired visions and act on your goals.· Live and give generously to living your Higher Purpose in alignment with your values.
Many spiritual leaders and religions teach to tithe or contribute10% to your church.
The principle of tithing came from needing to store 10% of your best seed to plant for the coming year.
I interpret the tithing principle somewhat differently.
Give to the Source of Good in and for you. Give everyday at least 10% of your resources to whatever blessed you with happiness, inspiration, energy and vision.
Contribute time, energy and money to what inspires you and encourages you to be and give your best.
Give to what sustains, inspires and strengthens you.
Give to what grows your positive attitude and enthusiasm.
Give to what invites you to always be your best Self.
Give to the Goodness you see around you that is might Grow in our world!
Life offers us many gifts.
Some are outworn and need to be passed on.
Some are no longer of value and need to be relinquished.
Some need to be see and appreciated to expand and increase.
It is time we forgive our greediness and neediness and give to the source of Good.
Our wealth comes in building a world where all are blessed with the consciousness to prosper.
Our prosperity is experienced only when we stop complaining and start creating what we want.
Our riches lie in our unique ability to give what we have to create what we want to have more.
Bless us all for remembering and appreciating our true prosperity.
Bless you for remembering to contribute to what you value for the good of all.
Bless everyone for remembering we live in freedom and in God we trust.
Bless you and me for remembering to forgive and live generously.
Giving always and only the Best I have,
Betty Lue
PS Robert and I continue to tithe money, time and energy to a better world for all.
Consider giving more than your fair share and you will be given everything you need to continue giving.
Because we believe in what can be, we give to what is ours to do and to create.
“To have All, give all to all.” ACIM I believe and receive with a grateful heart.
“And God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance, so that you may always have enough of everything and may provide in abundance for every good work.” II Corinthians 9:8
Saturday, October 16, 2010
Comfortable or Stuck?
Are you stuck in work or in worry?
Are you stuck in fatigue or in criticism?
Are you stuck in regret or in fear?
Are you stuck in duty or demands?
Are you comfortable in misery or depression?
Are you comfortable in problems and in conflict?
Are you comfortable in pain and unhappiness?
Are you comfortable in irritation and illness?
Are you depending on someone or something to fix you and make you happy?
Are you waiting for some miracle to set you free?
Are you pretending you are fulfilled and complete for the rest of your life?
Are you hoping you will be satisfied staying comfortable?
Process (for those who choose to try it out!)
Make two thorough lists….
What limits me?
What frees me?
Two affirmations: (written and spoken 20 times daily for a minimum of 14 days.)
I forgive myself for limiting myself.
I trust and support myself in freeing myself.
When we are in a comfort zone, we can rest and renew ourselg.
When we are comfortable, we can fall asleep and sink into lethargy, laziness and depression.
When we attached to being comfortable, we may not listen within for inspirational guidance.
When we are stuck to habits, people, routines and responsibilities, we may lose our way.
Wake up calls come in many forms: divorce, disaster, job loss, pain, disease, upset and irritation.
Wake up calls make us uncomfortable, but show up for a reason….to wake us up to life.
We are here to have harmonious, productive and fulfilling lives.
If we get attached or stuck we neglect to consider there may be more inspiration and growth ahead.
To get ‘set in our ways’ begins to shut us down and engender laziness and stagnancy.
There is a decline in our energy and life interest when we stop learning, growing and contributing.
We continue growing stronger and wiser as we follow what inspires and fulfills us and serves others.
We can grow weaker and duller as we follow what separates and cocoons us and limits us.
Is it time for a change?
We better love and appreciate when we do not stay too long.
We can be more trusting and freeing when we let go with our blessing.
We free ourselves when we free others to live as they choose.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy when done with Love and Appreciation,
Betty Lue
Betty Lue 1978
Are you stuck in fatigue or in criticism?
Are you stuck in regret or in fear?
Are you stuck in duty or demands?
Are you comfortable in misery or depression?
Are you comfortable in problems and in conflict?
Are you comfortable in pain and unhappiness?
Are you comfortable in irritation and illness?
Are you depending on someone or something to fix you and make you happy?
Are you waiting for some miracle to set you free?
Are you pretending you are fulfilled and complete for the rest of your life?
Are you hoping you will be satisfied staying comfortable?
Process (for those who choose to try it out!)
Make two thorough lists….
What limits me?
What frees me?
Two affirmations: (written and spoken 20 times daily for a minimum of 14 days.)
I forgive myself for limiting myself.
I trust and support myself in freeing myself.
When we are in a comfort zone, we can rest and renew ourselg.
When we are comfortable, we can fall asleep and sink into lethargy, laziness and depression.
When we attached to being comfortable, we may not listen within for inspirational guidance.
When we are stuck to habits, people, routines and responsibilities, we may lose our way.
Wake up calls come in many forms: divorce, disaster, job loss, pain, disease, upset and irritation.
Wake up calls make us uncomfortable, but show up for a reason….to wake us up to life.
We are here to have harmonious, productive and fulfilling lives.
If we get attached or stuck we neglect to consider there may be more inspiration and growth ahead.
To get ‘set in our ways’ begins to shut us down and engender laziness and stagnancy.
There is a decline in our energy and life interest when we stop learning, growing and contributing.
We continue growing stronger and wiser as we follow what inspires and fulfills us and serves others.
We can grow weaker and duller as we follow what separates and cocoons us and limits us.
Is it time for a change?
We better love and appreciate when we do not stay too long.
We can be more trusting and freeing when we let go with our blessing.
We free ourselves when we free others to live as they choose.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy when done with Love and Appreciation,
Betty Lue
LOVE IS FREEDOM
The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
LOVE IS TRUST
The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Healing and Reconciliation
There are themes in our lives which expose our healing needs.
There are cyclical patterns and problems that return again and again.
There are areas of neediness demanding our attention which show up.
There are areas of needed attention, healing and resolution for each of us.
While we may blame others and our world for our problems and issues, we need to come to peace within.
We look for a quick fix through medication or answer from outside authority instead of doing our work.
We make excuses and justify our continued problems, instead of facing our inner unresolved pain.
We may ask for help in seeking better and wiser ways to heal and reconcile our conflict and confusion.
The world of relationships and experiences is our learning and healing laboratory.
We have this human experience so we can see where we have limited and forsaken ourselves.
We challenge ourselves with growth opportunities to practice what we are learning and remembering.
We explore better ways to heal, renew and revitalize our enthusiasm for life.
Find the themes of needed attention.
Look for repeating issues with parents, opposite sex, body, etc.
Notice where certain memories, emotions and questions haunt you and keep coming to mind.
Be honest about consistent pains, fears or avoidances and seek their origin.
Every one of us has our healing/growth areas which call for clearing, healing, forgiving, undoing.
We must reveal what we seek to heal.
We must be willing to face what we want to erase.
We must let show in order to let go.
2010 is an Empress Year, according to some.
This year we may find mother issues with the need to identify areas of nurturing and nourishing.
Some see this as a time to come to peace with our own need to be more loving and open to Love.
Perhaps our planet, Mother Earth, needs more appreciation and respectful attention.
Forgiveness works! (When practiced consistently)
Consider forgiving yourself , your mother, the planet and those you seek to be more nurturing.
I forgive myself for neglecting myself.
I forgive myself for punishing myself .
I forgive myself for causing pain emotionally, physically and financially to me.
I forgive myself for not take impeccable care of me.
I forgive myself for not giving myself the best.
I forgive myself for ignoring my needs for nurturing and nourishing me.
I forgive myself for withholding my love from others.
I forgive myself for being conditionally loving.
I forgive myself for using withdrawal of love to manipulate and punish others.
I forgive my mother for neglecting, punishing and causing pain to herself.
I forgive my mother for withdrawing love from me to manipulate and punish me.
I forgive my mother for not taking impeccable care of herself and for ignoring her needs.
I forgive my mother for making me to blame for her lack of self love and happiness.
I forgive myself for believing her and feeling guilty and not good enough.
I forgive all humanity for forgetting to Love.
I forgive us all for not loving ourselves.
I forgive us for forgetting to fully love and appreciate mother Earth and the bounty she provides.
I forgive us all for neglecting to fully love and appreciate one another.
I forgive the lack of Love expressed in this world.
I choose to fully and freely Love everyone today, including myself.
I choose to give my very best to everyone, including myself.
I choose to be enthusiastic and appreciative in receiving the Love I am given.
I choose to feel blessed as I share the blessing I Am.
I choose to be a gift of Love all the time with my thoughts, my words and my activities.
I am loving you and me always and all ways,
Betty Lue
Try this 30 day program below and see the miracles of healing and reconciliation it creates!
30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be miracles of healing and release.
Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.
Daily Practice:Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.Make the sound “AAAH” for 1-2 minutes.Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices. I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….In the Evening (before bed)Write and say 30 GratitudesI appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.Make the sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1-2 minutes.
PS Even a few of each is better than none.
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Loving You always,
Betty Lue
There are cyclical patterns and problems that return again and again.
There are areas of neediness demanding our attention which show up.
There are areas of needed attention, healing and resolution for each of us.
While we may blame others and our world for our problems and issues, we need to come to peace within.
We look for a quick fix through medication or answer from outside authority instead of doing our work.
We make excuses and justify our continued problems, instead of facing our inner unresolved pain.
We may ask for help in seeking better and wiser ways to heal and reconcile our conflict and confusion.
The world of relationships and experiences is our learning and healing laboratory.
We have this human experience so we can see where we have limited and forsaken ourselves.
We challenge ourselves with growth opportunities to practice what we are learning and remembering.
We explore better ways to heal, renew and revitalize our enthusiasm for life.
Find the themes of needed attention.
Look for repeating issues with parents, opposite sex, body, etc.
Notice where certain memories, emotions and questions haunt you and keep coming to mind.
Be honest about consistent pains, fears or avoidances and seek their origin.
Every one of us has our healing/growth areas which call for clearing, healing, forgiving, undoing.
We must reveal what we seek to heal.
We must be willing to face what we want to erase.
We must let show in order to let go.
2010 is an Empress Year, according to some.
This year we may find mother issues with the need to identify areas of nurturing and nourishing.
Some see this as a time to come to peace with our own need to be more loving and open to Love.
Perhaps our planet, Mother Earth, needs more appreciation and respectful attention.
Forgiveness works! (When practiced consistently)
Consider forgiving yourself , your mother, the planet and those you seek to be more nurturing.
I forgive myself for neglecting myself.
I forgive myself for punishing myself .
I forgive myself for causing pain emotionally, physically and financially to me.
I forgive myself for not take impeccable care of me.
I forgive myself for not giving myself the best.
I forgive myself for ignoring my needs for nurturing and nourishing me.
I forgive myself for withholding my love from others.
I forgive myself for being conditionally loving.
I forgive myself for using withdrawal of love to manipulate and punish others.
I forgive my mother for neglecting, punishing and causing pain to herself.
I forgive my mother for withdrawing love from me to manipulate and punish me.
I forgive my mother for not taking impeccable care of herself and for ignoring her needs.
I forgive my mother for making me to blame for her lack of self love and happiness.
I forgive myself for believing her and feeling guilty and not good enough.
I forgive all humanity for forgetting to Love.
I forgive us all for not loving ourselves.
I forgive us for forgetting to fully love and appreciate mother Earth and the bounty she provides.
I forgive us all for neglecting to fully love and appreciate one another.
I forgive the lack of Love expressed in this world.
I choose to fully and freely Love everyone today, including myself.
I choose to give my very best to everyone, including myself.
I choose to be enthusiastic and appreciative in receiving the Love I am given.
I choose to feel blessed as I share the blessing I Am.
I choose to be a gift of Love all the time with my thoughts, my words and my activities.
I am loving you and me always and all ways,
Betty Lue
Try this 30 day program below and see the miracles of healing and reconciliation it creates!
30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be miracles of healing and release.
Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.
Daily Practice:Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.Make the sound “AAAH” for 1-2 minutes.Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices. I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….In the Evening (before bed)Write and say 30 GratitudesI appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.Make the sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1-2 minutes.
PS Even a few of each is better than none.
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Loving You always,
Betty Lue
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Thoughts Create and Responsibility
Yesterday morning, I wrote down these six topics to write for Loving Reminders for the next six days.
Yesterday afternoon, I experienced a composite demonstration of all six. Amazing and true.
I was about to write about handling challenges. I realize as I reread my thoughts they all apply.
My thoughts create and I am responsible.
Ideas for Loving Reminders1. Take responsibility for your life. Stop Blaming others.
2. Appreciate your creations. Learn from mistakes or miscreations. Enjoy valued creations.
3. The lower your vibration, the more ineffective you are in transforming your relationships.
4. Give yourself the love, trust and respect you deserve and others will learn from you.
5. Keep your mind , your home, your life clear of debris from the past. And you will be filled with space to create anew.
6. Everyday in everyway do what it takes to be truly helpful and kind.
Story of Awarenesses.I was with grandchildren in Alameda yesterday with temp of 93 degrees and no air conditioning. My vibration was low and I was hot. Alameda is on the bay and usually no higher than 75 degrees. #3- My vibration (energy level was low).
We were taking a nap, I thought I heard noises downstairs and granddaughter said she was afraid to go down to kitchen for a snack by herself. I believe someone may have come in the side door and taken my daytimer calender (thinking it was my wallet.) Two young men had come to the door earlier selling cleaning services and rang the bell (twice) while we were napping. I sent them away with an irritated tone. (“We have no carpet and no furniture to clean!) #6- I was not helpful and kind in the moment, as I attempted to give our family the quiet time needed.
Later I found my daytimer missing out of my purse. Hoped it was at home on the desk, and checked everywhere I went to Lila’s ballet class and Starbucks and looked in both our car and their van, hoping it was not missing.
I affirmed it being found and returned. #4 I love trust and respect my learning and teaching.
I forgave those who may have taken it.
Went back and forgave myself for not being aware and respectful. #1 I take responsibility
Recognized that my purse had too much stuff in it to be more aware quickly. #5 Clear debris.
Remembered thoughts I had had about cleaning my purse, clening up my business and appt. scheduling,
Recognized that I had left the car door open at one point getting change for parking meter.
Realized how important it is not to let people steal or think it is OK to use and not pay for services.
Worked through the night giving it all to God, Highest Good, to be used for healing and awareness for all concerned. #2 I learned and I value my creations that I can share for the Good of All.
Now at peace and in trust with how I created this for my expanded awareness, daily practice and willingness to rise spiritually to the challenges that I create for my own growth.
I have remembered 100% of my October schedule and now confirming with my many clients.
I will easily redo my telephone numbers in a new book and can remember my next year’s calendar of retreats, conferences kid’s vacations and programs, etc.Most from memory.
The learning from this are far more than I have shared here.
I practiced seeing things differently.
I trust in the perfect learning for all concerned.
I affirm forgiveness and renewal and conscious choices for everyone.
I recognize my own inbuilt mental computer is amazing.
I celebrate all that I learned.
I appreciate how I react, forgive myself, respond with love and blessings in the face of challenges.
Life is good.
And so am I.
Thanks for being my learning, healing, forgiving, creating partners.
Betty Lue
Yesterday afternoon, I experienced a composite demonstration of all six. Amazing and true.
I was about to write about handling challenges. I realize as I reread my thoughts they all apply.
My thoughts create and I am responsible.
Ideas for Loving Reminders1. Take responsibility for your life. Stop Blaming others.
2. Appreciate your creations. Learn from mistakes or miscreations. Enjoy valued creations.
3. The lower your vibration, the more ineffective you are in transforming your relationships.
4. Give yourself the love, trust and respect you deserve and others will learn from you.
5. Keep your mind , your home, your life clear of debris from the past. And you will be filled with space to create anew.
6. Everyday in everyway do what it takes to be truly helpful and kind.
Story of Awarenesses.I was with grandchildren in Alameda yesterday with temp of 93 degrees and no air conditioning. My vibration was low and I was hot. Alameda is on the bay and usually no higher than 75 degrees. #3- My vibration (energy level was low).
We were taking a nap, I thought I heard noises downstairs and granddaughter said she was afraid to go down to kitchen for a snack by herself. I believe someone may have come in the side door and taken my daytimer calender (thinking it was my wallet.) Two young men had come to the door earlier selling cleaning services and rang the bell (twice) while we were napping. I sent them away with an irritated tone. (“We have no carpet and no furniture to clean!) #6- I was not helpful and kind in the moment, as I attempted to give our family the quiet time needed.
Later I found my daytimer missing out of my purse. Hoped it was at home on the desk, and checked everywhere I went to Lila’s ballet class and Starbucks and looked in both our car and their van, hoping it was not missing.
I affirmed it being found and returned. #4 I love trust and respect my learning and teaching.
I forgave those who may have taken it.
Went back and forgave myself for not being aware and respectful. #1 I take responsibility
Recognized that my purse had too much stuff in it to be more aware quickly. #5 Clear debris.
Remembered thoughts I had had about cleaning my purse, clening up my business and appt. scheduling,
Recognized that I had left the car door open at one point getting change for parking meter.
Realized how important it is not to let people steal or think it is OK to use and not pay for services.
Worked through the night giving it all to God, Highest Good, to be used for healing and awareness for all concerned. #2 I learned and I value my creations that I can share for the Good of All.
Now at peace and in trust with how I created this for my expanded awareness, daily practice and willingness to rise spiritually to the challenges that I create for my own growth.
I have remembered 100% of my October schedule and now confirming with my many clients.
I will easily redo my telephone numbers in a new book and can remember my next year’s calendar of retreats, conferences kid’s vacations and programs, etc.Most from memory.
The learning from this are far more than I have shared here.
I practiced seeing things differently.
I trust in the perfect learning for all concerned.
I affirm forgiveness and renewal and conscious choices for everyone.
I recognize my own inbuilt mental computer is amazing.
I celebrate all that I learned.
I appreciate how I react, forgive myself, respond with love and blessings in the face of challenges.
Life is good.
And so am I.
Thanks for being my learning, healing, forgiving, creating partners.
Betty Lue
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
What Inspires you?
Inspiration comes from whatever inspires you.
Inspiration is different for every individual.
Inspiration is what energizes and enlightens us.
Inspiration may come from a variety of sources.
Some meditate.
Some listen within.
Some go to nature.
Some read Holy Books.
Some serve others.
Some practice yoga, T’ai Chi or a moving meditation.
Some perform random acts of kindness.
Some do specialized breathing techniques.
Some live in gratitude.
Some are creative with poetry, song or music.
Some practice forgiveness.
What do you do to inspire You?
To be inspired is key to being healthy and happy.
An integral aspect to living a balanced and integrated life is inspiration.
Spirituality can be defined as living an inspired life.
To take impeccable care of oneself requires daily inspiration.
Practical spirituality requires commitment, consistency, and choice.
Choose what inspires you!
Commit time, energy and money to what works for you.
Choose the best time and place and way to practice.
Everyone meditates differently.
There is no right way.
Everyone listens within and reads and serves and creates differently.
There is not one way or a right way to be inspired or to live spiritually.
Each teacher, book, practice, and form fits the needs of those who find it works.
There are an infinite number of ways to breathe, meditate and believe.
The work is for each of us to be honest with ourselves about what we need to be inspired.
We may need to try out many paths, many practices, many teachers to find what benefits us.
I am encouraging you to seek that which works.
Practice daily that which works for you.
Give yourself the very best source of inspiration for you consistently.
Love yourself enough to stay inspired, no matter what is happening in your life!
You life is a gift to you.
Treat is wisely and well.
The Good you give yourself benefits those around you.
Give yourself the Best,
Betty Lue
Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
Inspiration is different for every individual.
Inspiration is what energizes and enlightens us.
Inspiration may come from a variety of sources.
Some meditate.
Some listen within.
Some go to nature.
Some read Holy Books.
Some serve others.
Some practice yoga, T’ai Chi or a moving meditation.
Some perform random acts of kindness.
Some do specialized breathing techniques.
Some live in gratitude.
Some are creative with poetry, song or music.
Some practice forgiveness.
What do you do to inspire You?
To be inspired is key to being healthy and happy.
An integral aspect to living a balanced and integrated life is inspiration.
Spirituality can be defined as living an inspired life.
To take impeccable care of oneself requires daily inspiration.
Practical spirituality requires commitment, consistency, and choice.
Choose what inspires you!
Commit time, energy and money to what works for you.
Choose the best time and place and way to practice.
Everyone meditates differently.
There is no right way.
Everyone listens within and reads and serves and creates differently.
There is not one way or a right way to be inspired or to live spiritually.
Each teacher, book, practice, and form fits the needs of those who find it works.
There are an infinite number of ways to breathe, meditate and believe.
The work is for each of us to be honest with ourselves about what we need to be inspired.
We may need to try out many paths, many practices, many teachers to find what benefits us.
I am encouraging you to seek that which works.
Practice daily that which works for you.
Give yourself the very best source of inspiration for you consistently.
Love yourself enough to stay inspired, no matter what is happening in your life!
You life is a gift to you.
Treat is wisely and well.
The Good you give yourself benefits those around you.
Give yourself the Best,
Betty Lue
Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Make Time For Your Self
When I get cranky and sensitive, frustrated and impatient, I know am off purpose.
When I feel tired, pushed, trying, or behind, I know I am not living on purpose.
When I react to urgencies with concern rather than peace, irritation rather than love, I recognize my needs.
When we are unable and/or unwilling to respond to anyone or anything with kindness, we are off path.
All upsets are wakeup calls.
All lack is love is a call for love.
All unwillingness is a request for attention to one Self.
All neediness comes from lack of love for one’s authentic Self.
Let us remember to take time and make time for our whole selves.
Make time for your body.
Prepare nutritious food and beverages, just right for you.
Give your body time in the sun with fresh air and movement.
Use your body with love and gratitude doing what pleases you.
Make time for your mind.
Prepare interesting reading, learning and mentally exercise your mind.
Give your mind positive, enlightening and inspiring images and sounds.
Use your mind for creating and implementing your goals and visions.
Make time for your emotions.
Acknowledge your feelings with sensitivity and respect.
Give your emotional self happy, affirmative and loving feedback.
Use your emotions as a barometer for your own need for self care and respond with loving attention.
Make time for your Spirit.
Set daily time for inspiration into your routine.
Give yourself time for an inspirational or spiritual practice.
Use your Spirit for inner visioning, guidance and direction.
Make time for your life.
Keep your home, work and car clear, clean and ready for use.
Give yourself time weekly or daily to complete, clean up and simplify your belongings.
Use your possessions and spaces for your well-being and happiness to create more Good.
When your life has peace, order and harmony, you are energized, think and feel better.
When you take time to love yourself well, you are inspired and moved everyday to live better.
When you live better taking impeccable care of your whole Self, your life is a gift to others.
When you are giving your best, you are inspired to give more to all, including yourself.
Loving you and me, as One,
Betty Lue
What Are these Loving Reminders?
A handful of people are new to receiving these daily or weekly loving reminders from me.
I send them directly to over one thousand people and many more from your referrals.
I have been writing and sending Loving Reminders for over 11 years everyday I am at home.
They are valuable for me to receive and share and valuable for others who receive them as reminders.
When something resonates with you, you feel its truth in your heart.
When you are reminded of what you know deep inside, you appreciate and find value.
When you are touched with inspiration, you feel grateful and can choose to practice.
This is my reason for listening within and sharing the inner guidance I receive each day.
After counseling and coaching thousands of individuals, couples and families, I know the need.
After teaching, mentoring and facilitating hundreds of people for the last 35 years, I hear the call.
After listening and letting Spirit within guide my life for most of my life, I feel the importance.
And this is my way of responding to all of us for the Highest Good and finding a better way.
These reminders are intended to be practical; they are meant to be used everyday.
These reminders are intended to be inspirational; they are meant to move you into action.
These reminders are intended to be spiritual; they are meant to call you to return to what is meaningful.
These reminders are intended to be healing; they give insight, freedom to choose/change and peace.
For many, there is limited time and money, so these reminders offer help when you have need.
For some, there is hesitation in asking for help, so these reminders are an anonymous way to learn.
For others, there is denial of needing anything, and the reminders simply reawaken what is known.
For me, these reminders are a powerful way to connect, to touch you with my love for us all.
Yes, I Love You.
I love you when you are happy or sad, right or wrong, awakening or sleeping on the job.
I love you when you don’t love yourself or forget you are loveable and capable just as you are.
I love you when you are willing to do the work and when you get lazy and quit on yourself.
I am your Loving Reminder.
We can call it a Calling or Holy Assignment or just what I am here to do.
My intention is to facilitate all of us in playing our Part and living our potential in being all we can be.
Said in a thousand ways or no way at all…your healing and success and joy are a blessing for me.
So why would I sit at my computer every morning as my spiritual practice and joy…….??
Because of all this above and so much more.
You and I are One..
More than you can know, we are connected in Love.
Ask me your questions.
Give me your comments.
Share with me your gratitude.
And always know I am with you in Love.
Betty Lue
When I feel tired, pushed, trying, or behind, I know I am not living on purpose.
When I react to urgencies with concern rather than peace, irritation rather than love, I recognize my needs.
When we are unable and/or unwilling to respond to anyone or anything with kindness, we are off path.
All upsets are wakeup calls.
All lack is love is a call for love.
All unwillingness is a request for attention to one Self.
All neediness comes from lack of love for one’s authentic Self.
Let us remember to take time and make time for our whole selves.
Make time for your body.
Prepare nutritious food and beverages, just right for you.
Give your body time in the sun with fresh air and movement.
Use your body with love and gratitude doing what pleases you.
Make time for your mind.
Prepare interesting reading, learning and mentally exercise your mind.
Give your mind positive, enlightening and inspiring images and sounds.
Use your mind for creating and implementing your goals and visions.
Make time for your emotions.
Acknowledge your feelings with sensitivity and respect.
Give your emotional self happy, affirmative and loving feedback.
Use your emotions as a barometer for your own need for self care and respond with loving attention.
Make time for your Spirit.
Set daily time for inspiration into your routine.
Give yourself time for an inspirational or spiritual practice.
Use your Spirit for inner visioning, guidance and direction.
Make time for your life.
Keep your home, work and car clear, clean and ready for use.
Give yourself time weekly or daily to complete, clean up and simplify your belongings.
Use your possessions and spaces for your well-being and happiness to create more Good.
When your life has peace, order and harmony, you are energized, think and feel better.
When you take time to love yourself well, you are inspired and moved everyday to live better.
When you live better taking impeccable care of your whole Self, your life is a gift to others.
When you are giving your best, you are inspired to give more to all, including yourself.
Loving you and me, as One,
Betty Lue
What Are these Loving Reminders?
A handful of people are new to receiving these daily or weekly loving reminders from me.
I send them directly to over one thousand people and many more from your referrals.
I have been writing and sending Loving Reminders for over 11 years everyday I am at home.
They are valuable for me to receive and share and valuable for others who receive them as reminders.
When something resonates with you, you feel its truth in your heart.
When you are reminded of what you know deep inside, you appreciate and find value.
When you are touched with inspiration, you feel grateful and can choose to practice.
This is my reason for listening within and sharing the inner guidance I receive each day.
After counseling and coaching thousands of individuals, couples and families, I know the need.
After teaching, mentoring and facilitating hundreds of people for the last 35 years, I hear the call.
After listening and letting Spirit within guide my life for most of my life, I feel the importance.
And this is my way of responding to all of us for the Highest Good and finding a better way.
These reminders are intended to be practical; they are meant to be used everyday.
These reminders are intended to be inspirational; they are meant to move you into action.
These reminders are intended to be spiritual; they are meant to call you to return to what is meaningful.
These reminders are intended to be healing; they give insight, freedom to choose/change and peace.
For many, there is limited time and money, so these reminders offer help when you have need.
For some, there is hesitation in asking for help, so these reminders are an anonymous way to learn.
For others, there is denial of needing anything, and the reminders simply reawaken what is known.
For me, these reminders are a powerful way to connect, to touch you with my love for us all.
Yes, I Love You.
I love you when you are happy or sad, right or wrong, awakening or sleeping on the job.
I love you when you don’t love yourself or forget you are loveable and capable just as you are.
I love you when you are willing to do the work and when you get lazy and quit on yourself.
I am your Loving Reminder.
We can call it a Calling or Holy Assignment or just what I am here to do.
My intention is to facilitate all of us in playing our Part and living our potential in being all we can be.
Said in a thousand ways or no way at all…your healing and success and joy are a blessing for me.
So why would I sit at my computer every morning as my spiritual practice and joy…….??
Because of all this above and so much more.
You and I are One..
More than you can know, we are connected in Love.
Ask me your questions.
Give me your comments.
Share with me your gratitude.
And always know I am with you in Love.
Betty Lue
Monday, October 11, 2010
New Possibilities
Letting go yields new possibilities.
How would you like your life to be if you began anew?
How could you imagine your ideal work and home?
Can you see yourself changing your personality and your body?
When we let go of our old skin, we have new skin.
When we let go of our old habits, we can create new habits.
When we let go of inappropriate behaviors, we can choose new and better behaviors.
When we let go of destructive or unhealthy relationships, we can choose positive and healthy ones.
When we get cling to the old fruit, it becomes toxic and inedible.
When we are stuck on the familiar and comfortable, it may engender laziness and complacency.
When we stop using the faculties we have, we feel debilitated and weakened.
When we step away from challenges and avoid the mess, we become fearful and limited.
There is new hope and new possibility.
No matter what our age or physical condition, we can keep growing.
No matter what our life experiences, we can choose to release the past and step into living right now.
No matter how dependent we have been on people, substances, jobs and living conditions, we can free ourselves to step into novelty, change, rebirth and even transformation.
With each new experience, we can be awakened.
With each new challenge, we can be strengthened.
With each new relationship, we can be encouraged.
With each new moment, we can be inspired.
Life and how we live it is our choice.
We can get stuck in being disappointed and regretful and live in sorrow, anger and pain.
Or we can step into the future possibilities or recreating that which we idealize.
We have an opportunity in every moment to meet life new again.
As you awaken each morning, make a choice.
How will this day be for me?
Choose consciously exactly what you want to experience.
Make a statement of affirmation. “This will be a great day!”
Possible affirmations: (Write your own!)
I am alive, alert and enthusiastic.
I greet this day with love in my heart.
I choose to be kind, respectful and attentive to those I meet.
I will brighten the day for everyone I encounter.
I let go and I let Good into my life.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
The real work to open to new possibilities is to LET GO of all your beliefs in the old ways.
The real work is always to forgive past experiences and let them go.
The real work is to forgive any stuckness, dependency, or regret and to choose again.
The real work is to choose the very best you know for everyone including yourself.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
How would you like your life to be if you began anew?
How could you imagine your ideal work and home?
Can you see yourself changing your personality and your body?
When we let go of our old skin, we have new skin.
When we let go of our old habits, we can create new habits.
When we let go of inappropriate behaviors, we can choose new and better behaviors.
When we let go of destructive or unhealthy relationships, we can choose positive and healthy ones.
When we get cling to the old fruit, it becomes toxic and inedible.
When we are stuck on the familiar and comfortable, it may engender laziness and complacency.
When we stop using the faculties we have, we feel debilitated and weakened.
When we step away from challenges and avoid the mess, we become fearful and limited.
There is new hope and new possibility.
No matter what our age or physical condition, we can keep growing.
No matter what our life experiences, we can choose to release the past and step into living right now.
No matter how dependent we have been on people, substances, jobs and living conditions, we can free ourselves to step into novelty, change, rebirth and even transformation.
With each new experience, we can be awakened.
With each new challenge, we can be strengthened.
With each new relationship, we can be encouraged.
With each new moment, we can be inspired.
Life and how we live it is our choice.
We can get stuck in being disappointed and regretful and live in sorrow, anger and pain.
Or we can step into the future possibilities or recreating that which we idealize.
We have an opportunity in every moment to meet life new again.
As you awaken each morning, make a choice.
How will this day be for me?
Choose consciously exactly what you want to experience.
Make a statement of affirmation. “This will be a great day!”
Possible affirmations: (Write your own!)
I am alive, alert and enthusiastic.
I greet this day with love in my heart.
I choose to be kind, respectful and attentive to those I meet.
I will brighten the day for everyone I encounter.
I let go and I let Good into my life.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
The real work to open to new possibilities is to LET GO of all your beliefs in the old ways.
The real work is always to forgive past experiences and let them go.
The real work is to forgive any stuckness, dependency, or regret and to choose again.
The real work is to choose the very best you know for everyone including yourself.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Letting Go is Good
The body breathes in and breathes out.
The digestive system ingests, uses what is nourishing and releases the rest.
The senses receive 10 million bits of information every second and only take in 9-12.
The realm of possibilities is infinite; it is ours to choose what we receive and what we discard.
Learning to make choices is key to our creativity.
Learning which path is fundamental to our success.
Learning how to respond is essential for our relationships.
Learning what to delete is required for discernment of our Good.
To free ourselves, we must learn to let go.
To see ourselves, we must undo what isn’t so.
To be ourselves, we must enjoy what we let show.
To know Goodness and God, we must erase what is not.
Let go and intend only Good.
Let go and ingest what is Good.
Let go and inspire All Good.
Let go and ask for true Good.
When we let go of a job, trust it is Good.
When we let go of a home, know it is for our Good.
When we let go of a relationship, see it as Good.
When we let go of a loved one, believe it will be Good.
Letting go is a natural process of our body.
Without natural release, we cannot live.
Letting go is a necessary process of emotional well-being.
Without letting our emotional energy move, we will become emotionally constipated.
Letting go is essential for our minds.
Without releasing unnecessary information, our mental computer gets overloaded and frozen.
Letting go is needed for our inspiration.
Without releasing outdated beliefs and limiting thinking, we cannot be spiritually expanded.
Letting go of the past is helpful allows freedom for transformation.
Without clearing clutter, confusion, concern and conflicts, we cannot see clearly the Good before us.
Letting go is for our good.
Clearing the clutter of the past is good.
Releasing the old allows for renewal.
Let go with your blessing for Good and Peace will be your reward.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
The digestive system ingests, uses what is nourishing and releases the rest.
The senses receive 10 million bits of information every second and only take in 9-12.
The realm of possibilities is infinite; it is ours to choose what we receive and what we discard.
Learning to make choices is key to our creativity.
Learning which path is fundamental to our success.
Learning how to respond is essential for our relationships.
Learning what to delete is required for discernment of our Good.
To free ourselves, we must learn to let go.
To see ourselves, we must undo what isn’t so.
To be ourselves, we must enjoy what we let show.
To know Goodness and God, we must erase what is not.
Let go and intend only Good.
Let go and ingest what is Good.
Let go and inspire All Good.
Let go and ask for true Good.
When we let go of a job, trust it is Good.
When we let go of a home, know it is for our Good.
When we let go of a relationship, see it as Good.
When we let go of a loved one, believe it will be Good.
Letting go is a natural process of our body.
Without natural release, we cannot live.
Letting go is a necessary process of emotional well-being.
Without letting our emotional energy move, we will become emotionally constipated.
Letting go is essential for our minds.
Without releasing unnecessary information, our mental computer gets overloaded and frozen.
Letting go is needed for our inspiration.
Without releasing outdated beliefs and limiting thinking, we cannot be spiritually expanded.
Letting go of the past is helpful allows freedom for transformation.
Without clearing clutter, confusion, concern and conflicts, we cannot see clearly the Good before us.
Letting go is for our good.
Clearing the clutter of the past is good.
Releasing the old allows for renewal.
Let go with your blessing for Good and Peace will be your reward.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Saturday, October 09, 2010
Letting Go Is Fun Safe and Easy
Have you cleared away the clutter and debris of the past?
Have you let go of guilt, hurt and resentment?
Are you free of memories of left over hurt, sorrow and fear?
Are you ready to show up and be fully present in your life today?
When we are missing to what is no longer here, we will not receive the gift of now.
When we are upset by what happened yesterday, we cannot fully embrace the joy of today.
When we are holding grudges and defenses against others, we are unable to fully love them.
When we are longing for a return of what used to be, we cannot see what this day offers.
When we believe the myth “Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.”, we do repeat it.
When we recognize only with true forgiveness and forgetting can we fully begin anew, we do.
When we are unwilling to return to our natural state of innocence and love, we mistrust Love.
When we are willing to let go of the story of what happened yesterday, we fully experience today.
Life is a series of events repeating themselves over and over, until we fully forgive and heal.
Life offers endless opportunities to begin again with trust, respect and full appreciation.
Life gives us clues about how to erase and delete outdated data and defenses against the truth.
Life is the place where we learn Love is an action of detachment.
Letting go must be practices to be efficient and effective.
Letting go is not avoidance but rather natural release.
Letting go is the opening for better things to come.
Letting go is clearing the windows of our soul so we can see and be the Light we are.
Breathe fully and freely and notice how you release and let go.
Clear you mind and observe what is here now, the colors and smells, the sounds we here.
Enjoy what is before you without judging and comparing, competing and defeating.
Be fully present with mindfulness and enjoyment.
Life is good when we stop seeking what is bad.
Life is all right when we undo the habit of looking for mistakes.
Life always works when we trust the changes that come forth.
Life provides the perfect place and timing when we let go of needing it to be different than it is.
What would it take for you to let go and trust in the Goodness that already is?
What could you do to undo your attachment, stuckness and clinging to what no longer works for you?
What matters to you more than trusting and freeing yourself and others to live their purpose?
What are you left to let go in order to be totally free and happy with your life?
Life is for giving.
Life works more exquisitely than you can plan.
Love is the power of trust and freedom.
Love heals and reveals even great Goodness, Love and Beauty for all.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Have you let go of guilt, hurt and resentment?
Are you free of memories of left over hurt, sorrow and fear?
Are you ready to show up and be fully present in your life today?
When we are missing to what is no longer here, we will not receive the gift of now.
When we are upset by what happened yesterday, we cannot fully embrace the joy of today.
When we are holding grudges and defenses against others, we are unable to fully love them.
When we are longing for a return of what used to be, we cannot see what this day offers.
When we believe the myth “Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.”, we do repeat it.
When we recognize only with true forgiveness and forgetting can we fully begin anew, we do.
When we are unwilling to return to our natural state of innocence and love, we mistrust Love.
When we are willing to let go of the story of what happened yesterday, we fully experience today.
Life is a series of events repeating themselves over and over, until we fully forgive and heal.
Life offers endless opportunities to begin again with trust, respect and full appreciation.
Life gives us clues about how to erase and delete outdated data and defenses against the truth.
Life is the place where we learn Love is an action of detachment.
Letting go must be practices to be efficient and effective.
Letting go is not avoidance but rather natural release.
Letting go is the opening for better things to come.
Letting go is clearing the windows of our soul so we can see and be the Light we are.
Breathe fully and freely and notice how you release and let go.
Clear you mind and observe what is here now, the colors and smells, the sounds we here.
Enjoy what is before you without judging and comparing, competing and defeating.
Be fully present with mindfulness and enjoyment.
Life is good when we stop seeking what is bad.
Life is all right when we undo the habit of looking for mistakes.
Life always works when we trust the changes that come forth.
Life provides the perfect place and timing when we let go of needing it to be different than it is.
What would it take for you to let go and trust in the Goodness that already is?
What could you do to undo your attachment, stuckness and clinging to what no longer works for you?
What matters to you more than trusting and freeing yourself and others to live their purpose?
What are you left to let go in order to be totally free and happy with your life?
Life is for giving.
Life works more exquisitely than you can plan.
Love is the power of trust and freedom.
Love heals and reveals even great Goodness, Love and Beauty for all.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Friday, October 08, 2010
Child’s Play
We are with our grandchildren, 5 yr. old twin girls and 4 yr. old brother, for the next two days for work in the garden, play at the beach, lots of games, conversation, cooking, sewing projects, and lots of learning.
For children, work is play and play is work. =PLORK.
What would your life be, if your stopped judging work and play and began to see life as pure PLORK?
Yes, to do things well, to meet challenging situations and to try new tasks, can have effort.
Done with joy everything becomes Play.
Yes, life has opportunities for laughter, enjoyment and freedom to try new things.
Without using drugs or alcohol, adults can return to a state of novelty and full enjoyment.
There is always the possibility of learning something new, having a new adventure and beginning again.
True innocence and natural wonder is an easy state of no stress, no comparison and just plain fun.
Consider looking at your life differently.
Consider letting go of judgment and criticism.
Consider undoing your stress and letting your imagination guide you.
Consider choosing to do everything with appreciation and open-mindedness.
Consider more play and less work.
Consider more laughter and less complaints.
Consider more adventure and less caution.
Consider more wonder and less judgments.
Life can be more joy and less pain.
Life can be more response and less reaction.
Life can be more peace and less conflict.
Life can be more love and less fear.
See as a child.
Be like a child.
Learn like a child.
Enjoy like a natural child.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
For children, work is play and play is work. =PLORK.
What would your life be, if your stopped judging work and play and began to see life as pure PLORK?
Yes, to do things well, to meet challenging situations and to try new tasks, can have effort.
Done with joy everything becomes Play.
Yes, life has opportunities for laughter, enjoyment and freedom to try new things.
Without using drugs or alcohol, adults can return to a state of novelty and full enjoyment.
There is always the possibility of learning something new, having a new adventure and beginning again.
True innocence and natural wonder is an easy state of no stress, no comparison and just plain fun.
Consider looking at your life differently.
Consider letting go of judgment and criticism.
Consider undoing your stress and letting your imagination guide you.
Consider choosing to do everything with appreciation and open-mindedness.
Consider more play and less work.
Consider more laughter and less complaints.
Consider more adventure and less caution.
Consider more wonder and less judgments.
Life can be more joy and less pain.
Life can be more response and less reaction.
Life can be more peace and less conflict.
Life can be more love and less fear.
See as a child.
Be like a child.
Learn like a child.
Enjoy like a natural child.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Thursday, October 07, 2010
Release and Let Go
I release and I let go. I let Love run my life.When we let go of old outdated fears, we need to trust we have something to take their place.
When we let go of unwanted clutter, we need to feel like we will not be left with nothing.
When we let go of worn out clothing, we need to see that we have what we enjoy wearing.
When we let go of our loved ones, home or job, we need to believe there is something more to come.
I release and I let go. I let Joy run my life.When we let go of the sorry, hurt and regret, we need to believe there will be a replacement.
When we erase hurtful and unkind thoughts, we need to replace them with kindness.
When we forgive resentment and painful memories, we need to fill our minds with joyful blessings.
When we step away from ugly perceptions and negative nightmares, we let in my happiness.
I release and I let go, I let Peace run my life.When we let go of fighting, arguing and conflicting ideas, we need to find where we agree.
When we let go of needing to be right, we must change our attitude and choose for harmony.
When we let go of petty criticisms and complaints, we need to choose appreciation instead.
When we let go of judgments, prejudices and opinions, we need to choose open-mindedness.
I release and I let go, I let Spirit run my life.When we let go of trying to run our lives based on limiting beliefs, we need to trust in new possibilities.
When we let go of allowing fear to determine our choices, we need to trust in love.
When we let go of believing we know what is best for us, we need to trust in Spirit within.
When we let go of our own limited perceptions, we need to all our inner guidance to prevail.
Dare to ask within:Am I willing to trust there is a better way?
Am I willing to believe in a Higher Power?
Am I willing to forgive the past?
Am I willing to relinquish attack in any form?
Am I willing to give up fighting?
Am I willing to let go of what is unneeded and no longer fits with my life purpose?
Am I willing to stop being unhappy and afraid?
Am I willing to undo the thoughts that are untrue?
Am I willing to believe there can be something better?
Am I willing to love enough to let go?
It is time to release and let go with the choice to Love!
Love trusts.
Love is freeing.
Love forgives.
Love is willing to see things differently!
Loving you and all as it is,
Betty Lue
I will not be anxious concerning you.
I will not be afraid for you.
I will not give up on you.
I will not blame, criticize or condemn you.
I will remember first, last and always that you are God’s child, that you have His Spirit in you.
I will trust this Spirit to take care of you, to be a light to your path, to provide for your needs.
I will think of you as always being surrounded by God’s loving Presence, enfolded in His protecting care, as kept safe and secure in Him.
I will be patient with you.
I will have confidence in you.
I will stand by you in faith, and bless you in my prayers, knowing that you are growing, knowing that you are finding the help you need, the love you need, the healing you need, the financial freedom you need.
I have only good feelings in my heart about you.
I am willing to let you live your life as you see fit.
Your way may not be my way, but I will trust the Spirit of God in you to show you the way of your highest Good.
God loves you and I love you!
I have confidence in you and I believe in you!!
(author unknown)
When we let go of unwanted clutter, we need to feel like we will not be left with nothing.
When we let go of worn out clothing, we need to see that we have what we enjoy wearing.
When we let go of our loved ones, home or job, we need to believe there is something more to come.
I release and I let go. I let Joy run my life.When we let go of the sorry, hurt and regret, we need to believe there will be a replacement.
When we erase hurtful and unkind thoughts, we need to replace them with kindness.
When we forgive resentment and painful memories, we need to fill our minds with joyful blessings.
When we step away from ugly perceptions and negative nightmares, we let in my happiness.
I release and I let go, I let Peace run my life.When we let go of fighting, arguing and conflicting ideas, we need to find where we agree.
When we let go of needing to be right, we must change our attitude and choose for harmony.
When we let go of petty criticisms and complaints, we need to choose appreciation instead.
When we let go of judgments, prejudices and opinions, we need to choose open-mindedness.
I release and I let go, I let Spirit run my life.When we let go of trying to run our lives based on limiting beliefs, we need to trust in new possibilities.
When we let go of allowing fear to determine our choices, we need to trust in love.
When we let go of believing we know what is best for us, we need to trust in Spirit within.
When we let go of our own limited perceptions, we need to all our inner guidance to prevail.
Dare to ask within:Am I willing to trust there is a better way?
Am I willing to believe in a Higher Power?
Am I willing to forgive the past?
Am I willing to relinquish attack in any form?
Am I willing to give up fighting?
Am I willing to let go of what is unneeded and no longer fits with my life purpose?
Am I willing to stop being unhappy and afraid?
Am I willing to undo the thoughts that are untrue?
Am I willing to believe there can be something better?
Am I willing to love enough to let go?
It is time to release and let go with the choice to Love!
Love trusts.
Love is freeing.
Love forgives.
Love is willing to see things differently!
Loving you and all as it is,
Betty Lue
“Prayer For A Loved One”
Dear Heart,
I will not worry, fret or be unhappy over you.I will not be anxious concerning you.
I will not be afraid for you.
I will not give up on you.
I will not blame, criticize or condemn you.
I will remember first, last and always that you are God’s child, that you have His Spirit in you.
I will trust this Spirit to take care of you, to be a light to your path, to provide for your needs.
I will think of you as always being surrounded by God’s loving Presence, enfolded in His protecting care, as kept safe and secure in Him.
I will be patient with you.
I will have confidence in you.
I will stand by you in faith, and bless you in my prayers, knowing that you are growing, knowing that you are finding the help you need, the love you need, the healing you need, the financial freedom you need.
I have only good feelings in my heart about you.
I am willing to let you live your life as you see fit.
Your way may not be my way, but I will trust the Spirit of God in you to show you the way of your highest Good.
God loves you and I love you!
I have confidence in you and I believe in you!!
(author unknown)
Wednesday, October 06, 2010
Let Go with Your Blessings
“I love You and release You to Your Highest Good.”To hang on to someone or something hurts.
Attachment is the source of all suffering.Holding on to a person, thing or life experience when its time has passed causes pain.
It is likened to trying to stop a roller coaster with your hand.
When we trust and free, we let go with our blessing.
We must hold our loved ones loosely.
To try to make someone stay is futile and generates guilt and resentment.
Neediness weakens everyone.
Being needy generates unhealthy emotions.
While being needy may have worked as children to control our parents, it is not mature behavior.
Being needy implies we have not trusted respected or loved ourselves well.
To let go of limiting beliefs, destructive habits and faulty thinking is healing and helpful.
To let go of limiting relationships frees us to choose again for healthy and affirming connections.
To let go of destructive habits with loving awareness of our choices empowers us to be healthy.
To let go of faulty thinking requires our willingness to question outdated and ineffective beliefs.
When we show our hurt and sorrow, we engender guilt in the one leaving.
When we hurt ourselves with self criticism, doubt and lingering regrets, we are mistaken.
When we hang on to look good, be right, try to hold on for our own security and comfort, we limit others.
When we put our own needs first and neglect the rights of others to be free, we teach fear.
Yes, agreements are valuable….but they must change over time.
What one needs at 5 or 10 changes dramatically, when we are 20.
In marriage, friends and business partnership, the needs of the individuals change everyday.
To be conscious, is to be fully aware, each moment of how to respond to each new situation.
To be a safe place, tell yourself the whole truth.
To be a safe place, listen openly while others tell their truth.
To be a safe place, make it OK for each person to have their own truth.
To be a safe place, you need never defend or explain or justify your choices or ask others to do so.
To build closeness in any relationship, we must know ourselves intimately.
To be intimate is to be able to see into me. Inimacy=”in to me see”.
When we are defended, superficial or do not know ourselves, no one can see into our heart.
When we have not taken the time to listen within, to discover our own mission, vision and dreams, others can only touch our surface self, our appearance and our accomplishments.
To grow, to heal, to connect with ourselves, we must let go of the past complaints, worries, judgments, fears and sorrow by releasing gently and respectfully with our blessings. To be all we are here to be at home and work, we must come to know and love, trust and respect ourselves.
This requires time, energy and a willingness to “Do the Work!”
Let go and come to know Who You Are and your higher and Holy Purpose here.
Know Your Self and Be True to Yourself These are the secrets to being healthy and happy and fulfilled.
Betty Lue
Betty Lue 1978
Attachment is the source of all suffering.Holding on to a person, thing or life experience when its time has passed causes pain.
It is likened to trying to stop a roller coaster with your hand.
When we trust and free, we let go with our blessing.
We must hold our loved ones loosely.
To try to make someone stay is futile and generates guilt and resentment.
Neediness weakens everyone.
Being needy generates unhealthy emotions.
While being needy may have worked as children to control our parents, it is not mature behavior.
Being needy implies we have not trusted respected or loved ourselves well.
To let go of limiting beliefs, destructive habits and faulty thinking is healing and helpful.
To let go of limiting relationships frees us to choose again for healthy and affirming connections.
To let go of destructive habits with loving awareness of our choices empowers us to be healthy.
To let go of faulty thinking requires our willingness to question outdated and ineffective beliefs.
When we show our hurt and sorrow, we engender guilt in the one leaving.
When we hurt ourselves with self criticism, doubt and lingering regrets, we are mistaken.
When we hang on to look good, be right, try to hold on for our own security and comfort, we limit others.
When we put our own needs first and neglect the rights of others to be free, we teach fear.
Yes, agreements are valuable….but they must change over time.
What one needs at 5 or 10 changes dramatically, when we are 20.
In marriage, friends and business partnership, the needs of the individuals change everyday.
To be conscious, is to be fully aware, each moment of how to respond to each new situation.
To be a safe place, tell yourself the whole truth.
To be a safe place, listen openly while others tell their truth.
To be a safe place, make it OK for each person to have their own truth.
To be a safe place, you need never defend or explain or justify your choices or ask others to do so.
To build closeness in any relationship, we must know ourselves intimately.
To be intimate is to be able to see into me. Inimacy=”in to me see”.
When we are defended, superficial or do not know ourselves, no one can see into our heart.
When we have not taken the time to listen within, to discover our own mission, vision and dreams, others can only touch our surface self, our appearance and our accomplishments.
To grow, to heal, to connect with ourselves, we must let go of the past complaints, worries, judgments, fears and sorrow by releasing gently and respectfully with our blessings. To be all we are here to be at home and work, we must come to know and love, trust and respect ourselves.
This requires time, energy and a willingness to “Do the Work!”
Let go and come to know Who You Are and your higher and Holy Purpose here.
Know Your Self and Be True to Yourself These are the secrets to being healthy and happy and fulfilled.
Betty Lue
¤ I love you ¤
and I know you love me too.
LOVE IS FREEDOMThe freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
LOVE IS TRUSTThe trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.
and I know you love me too.
LOVE IS FREEDOMThe freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
LOVE IS TRUSTThe trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.
Betty Lue 1978
Tuesday, October 05, 2010
When Someone You Love……..
This was written with a teenager/parent relationship question, but also applies to adult relationships.
When Someone You Love……..
When a loved one lies, cheats or steals from you, what do you do?
When you feel betrayed and hurt, what do you do?
When you feel abused, confused and misused, what do you say?
When you feel scared and anxious about other’s choices, how do you respond?
Where there are values differences, there is a simply step by step process to find inner peace.
There values differences when others are choosing behaviors that you disagree with.
There are values differences when loved ones break their agreements both spoken and implied.
There are values differences when others have the power to choose their own path different from yours.
Conflict and pain comes when you disagree with their choices and are upset by them.
Separation occurs when you cannot or will not see through their eyes to understand their choices.
Guilt occurs when you believe you have erred in miscommunicating or limiting your love.
Resentment occurs when you believe the other has intended to hurt or betray you.
These areas have many complexities depending on the situation and the relationship.
If we do not trust and free others, they will often resent, resist and rebel.
If we do not allow others to grow by making their own mistakes, they will resent our interference and control.
If we do you keep communication open by criticizing, warning, judging and not listening, others will stop being honest with us.
Values conflicts can be ameliorated with four steps: (Designed to return to peace and Love.)
1) State your opinion (value) one time only with the same emotional energy as you feel it.
“I feel hurt and scared when you ………… and I want you to be safe and to trust me.” Then listen with no defense, emotional feedback, simply listen. Give the other a safe non-judgmental space to tell their truth.
2) Model the behavior or value you want to encourage. (Impeccability is unusual so acknowledge your errors.)
3) Research all sides of the issue, so you can be a credible consultant. Statistics, current values, risks, etc
4) Pray for Peace. Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the courage to change the things I can, the patience to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Values are loosely taught and modeled at this time.
Usually we are so busy judging, we forget to model and communicate honestly without blame.
Often we are so offended and condemning, we forget to listen and love.
Many times, we have forgotten our own errors and attacks and we fail to take responsibility.
There may be an attitude of ingratitude that pervades our relationship.
When someone feels mistrusted, unloved, devalued and judged, they may feel separate and defended.
It is our work, the most conscious one, to forgive ourselves and choose again.
Our choice must be to love, respect and trust ourselves and to love, respect and trust others.
Trust means not to trust others to do as we say, but rather trust them to do what is right for them.
We are not here to get conformity, obedience or even holding the same values, but rather to free others to find their own highest and best way to live, to love, to learn and to give to their world.
When we live our own truth, and are happy and on purpose, we stop minding others business.
We learn that truly Love is Trust and Freedom.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
When Someone You Love……..
When a loved one lies, cheats or steals from you, what do you do?
When you feel betrayed and hurt, what do you do?
When you feel abused, confused and misused, what do you say?
When you feel scared and anxious about other’s choices, how do you respond?
Where there are values differences, there is a simply step by step process to find inner peace.
There values differences when others are choosing behaviors that you disagree with.
There are values differences when loved ones break their agreements both spoken and implied.
There are values differences when others have the power to choose their own path different from yours.
Conflict and pain comes when you disagree with their choices and are upset by them.
Separation occurs when you cannot or will not see through their eyes to understand their choices.
Guilt occurs when you believe you have erred in miscommunicating or limiting your love.
Resentment occurs when you believe the other has intended to hurt or betray you.
These areas have many complexities depending on the situation and the relationship.
If we do not trust and free others, they will often resent, resist and rebel.
If we do not allow others to grow by making their own mistakes, they will resent our interference and control.
If we do you keep communication open by criticizing, warning, judging and not listening, others will stop being honest with us.
Values conflicts can be ameliorated with four steps: (Designed to return to peace and Love.)
1) State your opinion (value) one time only with the same emotional energy as you feel it.
“I feel hurt and scared when you ………… and I want you to be safe and to trust me.” Then listen with no defense, emotional feedback, simply listen. Give the other a safe non-judgmental space to tell their truth.
2) Model the behavior or value you want to encourage. (Impeccability is unusual so acknowledge your errors.)
3) Research all sides of the issue, so you can be a credible consultant. Statistics, current values, risks, etc
4) Pray for Peace. Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the courage to change the things I can, the patience to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Values are loosely taught and modeled at this time.
Usually we are so busy judging, we forget to model and communicate honestly without blame.
Often we are so offended and condemning, we forget to listen and love.
Many times, we have forgotten our own errors and attacks and we fail to take responsibility.
There may be an attitude of ingratitude that pervades our relationship.
When someone feels mistrusted, unloved, devalued and judged, they may feel separate and defended.
It is our work, the most conscious one, to forgive ourselves and choose again.
Our choice must be to love, respect and trust ourselves and to love, respect and trust others.
Trust means not to trust others to do as we say, but rather trust them to do what is right for them.
We are not here to get conformity, obedience or even holding the same values, but rather to free others to find their own highest and best way to live, to love, to learn and to give to their world.
When we live our own truth, and are happy and on purpose, we stop minding others business.
We learn that truly Love is Trust and Freedom.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Saturday, October 02, 2010
Enjoy
Wherever you are, enjoy.
Whatever you do, Enjoy.
Whomever you meet, enjoy.
However you be, enjoy.
Life is given for our enjoyment.
When we infuse our lives with joy, we bring joy to all life.
When we remember to live in joy, we fully appreciate the life we have chosen.
When we allow ourselves to enjoy whatever seems surprising, we open to receive the value.
Notice the beauty.
Observe humanity’ learning.
Focus on what you are here to appreciate.
Give the world a taste of your joy.
Attend to the Goodness.
Breathe the sweet kindness.
Watch what is there for you to enjoy.
Contribute your gratitude and open-mindedness.
Imagine you are the eyes and ears of the Divine.
Believe you are the One who give loving kindness.
Forgive yourself and others for your judgment and disapproval.
Vow to contribute your greatest love, trust and respect.
Change your world by transforming your point of view.
Be willing to see beyond what is apparent.
Open to the highest vision and affirmation.
Give your enjoyment of the transformative process.
You see, as you see what is, it will appear to you.
As you forgive what you see, you will see differently.
For so it is we change the world in which we live.
Each one of us is a transformative agent of joy.
Enjoying Asilomar’s beauty by the sea,
Attending the annual Unity conference.
Loving you and all and enjoying,
Betty Lue
Whatever you do, Enjoy.
Whomever you meet, enjoy.
However you be, enjoy.
Life is given for our enjoyment.
When we infuse our lives with joy, we bring joy to all life.
When we remember to live in joy, we fully appreciate the life we have chosen.
When we allow ourselves to enjoy whatever seems surprising, we open to receive the value.
Notice the beauty.
Observe humanity’ learning.
Focus on what you are here to appreciate.
Give the world a taste of your joy.
Attend to the Goodness.
Breathe the sweet kindness.
Watch what is there for you to enjoy.
Contribute your gratitude and open-mindedness.
Imagine you are the eyes and ears of the Divine.
Believe you are the One who give loving kindness.
Forgive yourself and others for your judgment and disapproval.
Vow to contribute your greatest love, trust and respect.
Change your world by transforming your point of view.
Be willing to see beyond what is apparent.
Open to the highest vision and affirmation.
Give your enjoyment of the transformative process.
You see, as you see what is, it will appear to you.
As you forgive what you see, you will see differently.
For so it is we change the world in which we live.
Each one of us is a transformative agent of joy.
Enjoying Asilomar’s beauty by the sea,
Attending the annual Unity conference.
Loving you and all and enjoying,
Betty Lue
Friday, October 01, 2010
Stand Up For Your Self
When you give yourself the support you need, you are respected and trusted.
When you are passive, indecisive or needy, you may not be heard, honored or trusted.
When you are aggressive, demanding and belittling, you may be feared, judged and avoided.
When you trust, respect and treat yourself well, others see you as a role model.
Most parents waiver between being autocratic and demanding to being laissez-faire and “I don’t care.”
When we step away and let others have the advantage, we build up cover hostility and resentment.
When we have had enough of allowing others using, and abusing us, we may voice aggressiveness.
We demand and threaten with little follow-up and then feel guilty and become passive again.
Ugh!
Time to learn to assert ourselves without demand, threat, duty or obligation.
Time to undo old habits of indecisiveness and assert our highest and best ways.
When we can forgive ourselves and others and come from a place of neutrality, we see clearly.
When we are clear, conscious and creative, we choose what is highest and best for all.
Think clearly.
Speak clearly.
Act clearly.
Live in integrity with what is good for everyone.
We must take impeccable care of mind, body and spirit to know what we want.We must take impeccable care of our whole selves to be honest with ourselves and others.We must take impeccable care of our selves to give our very best all the time to everyone.We must take impeccable care of our authentic self to commit to choose for the good of each one.We must take impeccable care of the One We Are to be willing to be totally responsible.
To assert yourself requires being crystal clear about what is wanted and needed in each situation.
To assert yourself requires being flexible to allow for difference in people and circumstances.
To assert yourself requires noticing what is fair and caring enough to share it and be heard.
To assert yourself requires forgiving mistakes and errors of omission and commission.
Take time to stop, look inside and listen to the most loving and effective way to proceed.
Take time to clear your fear, criticism, resentment and guilt before speaking or acting.
Take time to understand the other’s needs as well as your own before making up your mind.
Take time to respond with trust and freedom before reacting with fear and restrictive requirements.
You are setting the tone for the response.
When you speak and act with respect, you are demonstrating how you want to be respected.
When you speak and act with anger and impatience, you are teaching the other to respond in like.
Every thought, word and action is teaching others how you see them and want them to see you.
Give your very best and most conscious response to all you encounter.
You will make the world a better place.
Loving and respecting you,
Betty Lue
This workshop material from years ago....may be helpful!
Assertive People Do:
1. List Relationships: (Mother, Father, Spouse, Children, Siblings, Boss, etc. etc)
List Situations: (Work, Groups, Parties, Confrontations, etc.)
2. List of Stress Statements (Defuse energy on stressful statements)
"I have a right to have feelings."
"I respect my own feelings."
"I believe in my Self and my choices."
"I'm willing to love myself all the ways I am."
"I easily express my Self."
"I am able to express positive (negative) feelings."
"It's OK to make mistakes."
"I know what I want."
"It's safe to want what I want."
"It's OK for others to say "No" to me."
"It's OK for me to say "No" to others."
3. Assertiveness is clearly declaring your own truth.
"I feel (emotion) and I want (be specific) and I am willing (__________)"
Declaring "I want" without demand or obligation gives the other person the freedom to choose what is best for them.
Love has nothing to do with fear, obedience, duty or obligation.
4. Affirmation:The more I respect myself, the more I respect others.
The more I respect myself, the more others respect me.
The more I respect myself, the more others respect themselves.
Therefore, I choose to respect myself more.
When you are passive, indecisive or needy, you may not be heard, honored or trusted.
When you are aggressive, demanding and belittling, you may be feared, judged and avoided.
When you trust, respect and treat yourself well, others see you as a role model.
Most parents waiver between being autocratic and demanding to being laissez-faire and “I don’t care.”
When we step away and let others have the advantage, we build up cover hostility and resentment.
When we have had enough of allowing others using, and abusing us, we may voice aggressiveness.
We demand and threaten with little follow-up and then feel guilty and become passive again.
Ugh!
Time to learn to assert ourselves without demand, threat, duty or obligation.
Time to undo old habits of indecisiveness and assert our highest and best ways.
When we can forgive ourselves and others and come from a place of neutrality, we see clearly.
When we are clear, conscious and creative, we choose what is highest and best for all.
Think clearly.
Speak clearly.
Act clearly.
Live in integrity with what is good for everyone.
We must take impeccable care of mind, body and spirit to know what we want.We must take impeccable care of our whole selves to be honest with ourselves and others.We must take impeccable care of our selves to give our very best all the time to everyone.We must take impeccable care of our authentic self to commit to choose for the good of each one.We must take impeccable care of the One We Are to be willing to be totally responsible.
To assert yourself requires being crystal clear about what is wanted and needed in each situation.
To assert yourself requires being flexible to allow for difference in people and circumstances.
To assert yourself requires noticing what is fair and caring enough to share it and be heard.
To assert yourself requires forgiving mistakes and errors of omission and commission.
Take time to stop, look inside and listen to the most loving and effective way to proceed.
Take time to clear your fear, criticism, resentment and guilt before speaking or acting.
Take time to understand the other’s needs as well as your own before making up your mind.
Take time to respond with trust and freedom before reacting with fear and restrictive requirements.
You are setting the tone for the response.
When you speak and act with respect, you are demonstrating how you want to be respected.
When you speak and act with anger and impatience, you are teaching the other to respond in like.
Every thought, word and action is teaching others how you see them and want them to see you.
Give your very best and most conscious response to all you encounter.
You will make the world a better place.
Loving and respecting you,
Betty Lue
This workshop material from years ago....may be helpful!
Assertive People Do:
1. Decide what they want.
2. Decide if it is fair.
3. Ask for it clearly.
4. Are not afraid of taking risks.
5. Are calm and relaxed.
6. Express feelings openly.
7. Give and take compliments easily.
8. Accept and give fair evaluation.
2. Decide if it is fair.
3. Ask for it clearly.
4. Are not afraid of taking risks.
5. Are calm and relaxed.
6. Express feelings openly.
7. Give and take compliments easily.
8. Accept and give fair evaluation.
Assertive People Do not:
1. Beat about the bush.
2. Go behind other people's backs.
3. Bully.
4. Call people names.
5. Bottle up their feelings.
2. Go behind other people's backs.
3. Bully.
4. Call people names.
5. Bottle up their feelings.
Aids For Developing Assertiveness:
1. Models
2. Love and encouragement
3. Caring evaluation
4. A sense of values
5. A basic feeling of security
Comparing Responses The columns are not clear. Ask for clarity if needed.There are two primative, adaptive, instinctive responses when encountering a problem area: 1) a desire for flight or 2) a desire to fight. We mostly experience these responses as fear or anger. Both responses are basically "back-brain" or reactive in nature. Assertiveness brings the "fore-brain" into play, bringing objectivity and "rationality".
Under-Energy Balanced Over-Energy
PassiveFear Flight Submission
Under-energy
AssertiveClarity Communication Discussion Balanced
AggressiveAnger Fight Combat
Over-energy
Non-Verbal Signals
Whining voice Clenched, wringing hands Shuffling Feet Downcast eyes Stoop, shoulder droop Calm, controlled voice Relaxed posture Direct eye contact Arms open Upright Shouting Loud voice Pointing finger Folded arms Still posture
Key Words or Sentences
Maybe I guess I wonder Would you mind much? Sorry Excuse me please But You know If I hope you don't mind I I think I feel I want I'm willing Let's How can we resolve this? What do you think? What do you see? You'd better If you don't Watch out Come on Should Bad Stupid ! You ! Just you wait
2. Love and encouragement
3. Caring evaluation
4. A sense of values
5. A basic feeling of security
Comparing Responses The columns are not clear. Ask for clarity if needed.There are two primative, adaptive, instinctive responses when encountering a problem area: 1) a desire for flight or 2) a desire to fight. We mostly experience these responses as fear or anger. Both responses are basically "back-brain" or reactive in nature. Assertiveness brings the "fore-brain" into play, bringing objectivity and "rationality".
Under-Energy Balanced Over-Energy
PassiveFear Flight Submission
Under-energy
AssertiveClarity Communication Discussion Balanced
AggressiveAnger Fight Combat
Over-energy
Non-Verbal Signals
Whining voice Clenched, wringing hands Shuffling Feet Downcast eyes Stoop, shoulder droop Calm, controlled voice Relaxed posture Direct eye contact Arms open Upright Shouting Loud voice Pointing finger Folded arms Still posture
Key Words or Sentences
Maybe I guess I wonder Would you mind much? Sorry Excuse me please But You know If I hope you don't mind I I think I feel I want I'm willing Let's How can we resolve this? What do you think? What do you see? You'd better If you don't Watch out Come on Should Bad Stupid ! You ! Just you wait
Assertiveness Scale
Circle the quality in each pair which most describes how you see yourself. This scale is simply for increased Self-awareness.
ASSERTIVENESS PASSIVITY
FINISH PROCRASTINATE
PARTICIPATE OBSERVE
INSIST GIVE UP
INSTIGATOR GOES ALONG
ACTS THINKS
CHALLENGING ACCEPTING
EXTROVERT INTROVERT
BOISTEROUS QUIET
GIVER RECEIVER
LEADER FOLLOWER
TALKER LISTENER
PUSHY RESERVED
INFORMS INQUIRES
OPEN SECRETIVE
ARGUE GIVE IN
CONTROLLING OBEDIENT
FORWARD HESITANT
OUTGOING SHY
APPROACH AVOID
VOLUNTEER WITHDRAW
TOTAL ____________ TOTAL ____________
ASSERTIVENESS PASSIVITY
FINISH PROCRASTINATE
PARTICIPATE OBSERVE
INSIST GIVE UP
INSTIGATOR GOES ALONG
ACTS THINKS
CHALLENGING ACCEPTING
EXTROVERT INTROVERT
BOISTEROUS QUIET
GIVER RECEIVER
LEADER FOLLOWER
TALKER LISTENER
PUSHY RESERVED
INFORMS INQUIRES
OPEN SECRETIVE
ARGUE GIVE IN
CONTROLLING OBEDIENT
FORWARD HESITANT
OUTGOING SHY
APPROACH AVOID
VOLUNTEER WITHDRAW
TOTAL ____________ TOTAL ____________
Recognizing and
Releasing Blocks
Releasing Blocks
1. List Relationships: (Mother, Father, Spouse, Children, Siblings, Boss, etc. etc)
List Situations: (Work, Groups, Parties, Confrontations, etc.)
2. List of Stress Statements (Defuse energy on stressful statements)
"I have a right to have feelings."
"I respect my own feelings."
"I believe in my Self and my choices."
"I'm willing to love myself all the ways I am."
"I easily express my Self."
"I am able to express positive (negative) feelings."
"It's OK to make mistakes."
"I know what I want."
"It's safe to want what I want."
"It's OK for others to say "No" to me."
"It's OK for me to say "No" to others."
3. Assertiveness is clearly declaring your own truth.
"I feel (emotion) and I want (be specific) and I am willing (__________)"
Declaring "I want" without demand or obligation gives the other person the freedom to choose what is best for them.
Love has nothing to do with fear, obedience, duty or obligation.
4. Affirmation:The more I respect myself, the more I respect others.
The more I respect myself, the more others respect me.
The more I respect myself, the more others respect themselves.
Therefore, I choose to respect myself more.
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