When You Are Concerned......

What do you do when you are worried about someone?
What do you say when someone is ill or in trouble?
What do you pray when there is a problem or difficulty?
What do offer where there is a lack or a need?

Often the immediate learned response is to feel bad.
Sometimes we may feel scared, agitated or anxious.
Occasionally there may be an angry reaction not wanting to be bothered.
For conscious ones, there usually is a learned compassion and concerned response.

How you respond is a direct reflection of your beliefs and your faith.
How you react is an expression of your fears and lack of faith.
What you say and how you behave follow after your thoughts.
What you think becomes your active prayer, either loving or fearful.

So for each of us, we must unlearn negative or limiting habits of mind.
We must forgive ourselves for thinking the worst or disaster thoughts.
We can allow ourselves to let go and trust in the active power of Good.
We can release what the world may have taught and learn a higher response.

I see you whole, happy and free.
I know you are the Love of Goodness expressing itself.
I appreciate your divine and perfect Presence in my life.
I value the Love we share and know is True now and always.
 Consider giving to the other what you would want.
Consider returning only an offer of helpfulness.
Consider giving your best and letting the rest go.
Consider trusting and freeing each one to have their own unique life journey.

However you see God, fate, destiny, illness, life and death is your choice.
Find your own unique way to give to the other what is pleasing and loving for them.
Invest in an understanding of each person’s right to receive Love in their own way.
Give what is highest and best for all concerned.

I love you and I know you love me.
I have a body which serves my holy purpose.
When I overdo or misuse my body vehicle, it lets me know.
I forgive myself and choose again a better way.
 Thank you for always remembering to give your best to everyone in everyway including yourself!
Loving you, 
Betty Lue

“Prayer For A Loved One”

Dear Heart,
I will not worry, fret or be unhappy over you.
I will not be anxious concerning you.
I will not be afraid for you.
I will not give up on you.
I will not blame, criticize or condemn you.
I will remember first, last and always that you are God’s child, that you have His Spirit in you.
I will trust this Spirit to take care of you, to be a light to your path, to provide for your needs.
I will think of you as always being surrounded by God’s loving Presence, enfolded in His protecting care, as kept safe and secure in Him.
I will be patient with you.
I will have confidence in you.
I will stand by you in faith, and bless you in my prayers, knowing that you are growing, knowing that you are finding the help you need, the love you need, the healing you need, the financial freedom you need.
I have only good feelings in my heart about you.
I am willing to let you live your life as you see fit.
Your way may not be my way, but I will trust the Spirit of God in you to show you the way of your highest Good.
God loves you and I love you!
I have confidence in you and I believe in you!!
(author unknown)

Respectful Relationships

Always treat others as you want them to treat you.
If you want respect, give respect.
If you want sensitivity, be sensitive to the other.
If you want trust, be trusting and trustworthy.

When I want a better relationship, I always look to what I can improve within myself.
I never demand, threaten or try to correct or change the other.
I have learned that attempting to change someone other than myself, is perceived as an attack.
I am aware that even children feel hurt and may withdraw or resist when we make them wrong.

When I want a better or more respectful relationship, I begin by respecting myself.
The more I respect and trust myself, the more I trust and respect others.
The more I trust and respect myself, the more others trust and respect me.
The more I trust and respect myself, the more others trust and respect themselves.

I do no expect instant results.
I understand that others have their own past experiences and relationship expectations.
I have respect for the relationship process and trust in the healing within relationships.
I treat mistakes with instant forgiveness and a willingness to learn and be reminded gently.

Because I treat myself with gentleness and patience, I easily provide others with the same courtesy.
Because I know that everyone is doing the best they know, I give us all encouragement and kindness.
Because I believe relationships are the most important aspect of our being here, I respect their value.
Because I care, I listen and respond with love rather than ignore and react with fear or frustration.

Are you treating yourself fairly?
Do you give yourself the loving kindness and patience you deserve?
Are you willing to acknowledge and forgive your mistakes?
Do you trust your learning process and respect your choices?

Do you believe you do not know the best way for others?
Can you see you are still finding your own right path?
Are you willing to focus on living your highest and best?
Can you give up trying to intervene or interfere with others learning?

Some have experienced parental interference as love.
Some see saving others from mistakes is being helpful.
Some believe they have the right way to do things.
Some even think they are in charge of others lives.

Ask if what you are doing in your relationships is creating more harmony and peace.
Are you relationships beneficial to all?
Do you know how to forgive mistakes and return to love and respect?
Do you realize that hurt feelings come from the thoughts you hold in your own mind?

Time to respect all your relationships.
Be willing to look again.
When you look for Love, you will find that under it all, there is Love.
Be willing to express the Love, Open-Mindedness and Appreciation within.

Loving you and all of us as the One We Are,
Betty Lue

Are You Taking Good Care of Yourself?

Being asked is a great reminder to stop and look again?
We are each unique beings.
No book or outside authority can tell us what is best for us.
We must each individually look within and see what is truly Best.

How do you know what is best?You feel refreshed and ready for your day when you wake up every morning.
You feel fulfilled when you do a good day’s work instead of tired or resentful.
You feel content with a body that serves you well in this life’s journey.
You feel energized after every meal rather than sleepy or lethargic.
You feel happy with where you live and work with no complaints.
You feel blessed by all your social interactions and relationships.
You feel prospered with your finances and enjoy managing your money.
You feel supported by the things you own rather than burdened by their maintenance.
You feel enjoyment keeping your home, office and possessions clean and order.
You feel good about your values and live what you believe and teach others.
You feel inspired by your spiritual or religious practices.
You feel grateful at the end of each day for all you are, all you give and all you have.

What a list of reminders!I pay attention to my digestion from both ends to understand better what works for me now.
There are always signs and symptoms that teach us what not to do and eat.
I pay attention to my feet, legs and back to tell me how to move and use my body well.
I wear the shoes my feet need, rather than care what others think.
I eat the foods my body needs rather than eat like others eat.
I keep my spiritual life in order using these loving reminders and lots of gratitude daily.
I trust my body to keep me informed about what it needs for well-being and it does!
I maintain my household and work space in a ways that inspires me with its beauty and order.
I sustain my relationships with trust, freedom, gratitude and lots of Love.
I bless all monies I receive in any form and use them wisely for the benefit of everyone.
I give away things I am not using or use them in my service work with others.
I eat wisely mostly organic vegetables and some whole grains and fruits.
I truly do what I love and love what I do and it brings me enthusiasm and joy.
I wake up in the morning feeling delighted to spend this day in loving ways.

I love my life and my life loves me.When something doesn’t feel loving, I forgive and choose again for a better way to perceive, to be, to give and to enjoy.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Appreciate Everyday Miracles

Children are our greatest teachers.
Stay awake and appreciate.
Life is filled with miracles.
In our appreciation, they grow.

As we become “adulterated” by business and staying inside our boxes, we forget to see.
As we defend ourselves against “natural occurrences” like spiders and weather, we fall asleep.
When we become too comfortable and complacent, we neglect the opportunity to be amazed.
Careful, protected and comfort seeking living numbs our senses and distorts our perceptions.

When I took group backpacking in the high sierras, many years ago, I discovered how little we see.
As a Girl Scout for almost 20 years from Brownie to leader, I learned the value of being in nature.
With summer vacations on my Grandparents dairy farm where they raised hybrid seed corn, I learned to appreciate a simpler life.
Bringing our grandchildren and adults to the Lake House offers an opportunity to live in a more natural and simple way.

As we appreciate the beauty, we see more.
As we are curious about bugs and worms, birds and deer, we are amazed.
As we swim in a lake and play in the sand, we discover the simple pleasures of imagination and play.
As we delight in feeling the wind, watching the clouds and shadows of the sun, we have more wonder.

Life is a gift of surprises, pleasures and curiosity.
Life is amazing, free and a happy place of exploration.
Life is learning and growing, daring and knowing.
Life is fun, safe and easy when seen through the vision of a child.

What will it take for us to return to our natural state?
What can we do to make all our wishes and dreams come true?
How can we be that will set everyone free?
When will be know that it is love that makes Miracles grow?

Let us release our judging minds for a holy instant.
Let us see what it feels like simply to be.
Let us know we can make beauty and happiness show.
Let us Love and appreciate all we create.

Simplistic, you may say.
Happiness need not pass away.
Innocence begets trust.
Begin to appreciate the miracle of YOU!

Loving you in your return to Love,
Betty Lue

Why Do I Do What I Do?

How do we spend our days at the Lake House with our 3 grandchildren (Harper and Lila 5 1/2 yrs and Beckett 3 1/2 yrs.)?Share about our day, look in the garden for vegetables and herbs, play outside with bugs, rock, sandbox, tire swing, hammocks, do light chores (bed, compost, sweep, clean up, bus dishes after meals) make smoothies and make tomato sauce from fresh tomatoes with Grandpa,  draw and color, play games, music with drums, piano and other instruments, go to the little beach at the lake twice daily for swimming, meeting new friends, making sand castles, and collecting shells, clams, rocks, etc.  Movie after dinner with popcorn. Lots of sharing and asking and learning what works. This is the 3rd week this summer for them to have the Lake House vacation without Mom and Dad.  They start school next Monday so we are also creating a transition schedule...”early to bed and early to rise.”  Lots of fun, hugs, inquiries and surprises shared.  
August 24, 2010 Loving Reminders

Why Do I Do What I Do?
It is valuable to stop periodically and assess one’s value, motivations and intentions.What motivates me to spend my time, energy and resources in the way I do?
What inspires me to live the life I have chosen?
What encourages me to continue with the spiritual path on which I walk?
 If you are called, walk along with me and notice what is true for you.What motivates me is what I find meaningful, purposeful and effective.
What motivates me is when I feel good, happy and peaceful with my choices.
What motivates me is remembering my origi , my essence and the ground of my being.
 What brings you the inspiration to get up each day and do your best?When I write these Loving Reminders, I am reminded of my reason for my life choices.
When I spend time each week with my grandchildren, I am inspired by their joy and curiosity, their innocence and freedom to express.
When I see the garden, the sunrise, the natural beauty of this earth, I am inspired to be here in gratitude.
When I am warmed by the sun, kissed by the wind and cleansed by the rain, I feel blessed.
What encourages us brings courage to our hearts to think, speak and act in ways that contribute. What encourages me is seeing the healing, the growth and the renewal of those around me.
What encourages me is knowing that I am always giving all to all, and always the best I have.
What encourages me is realizing that I am making a difference in my world, one moment at a time.
What encourages me is hearing and seeing the stories of families reunited, people reconnecting with themselves, with others and with God, the Good within.

When I see my life as a blessing, I feel blessed.
When I see the beauty around me, I feel beautiful.
When I give my best to everyone, I feel best about myself.
When I reach out with love, I know I am loving myself.
What would it take for you to do everything with love and gratitude?
What would it take for you to consistently practice what you teach?
What would it take for you to be the role model for  those you encounter?
Rather than wait to find the best One, to live in the best place, to have the best things, how about Being the Best?

I continue to listen within and write these Loving Reminders every morning, because they bless my life.
I continue to love everyone who comes to me, because it gives meaning to my world.
I continue to spend time weekly with my grandchildren, because they delight me.
I continue to enjoy everyday, even in difficult times, because life keeps me awake and on purpose.
Life is a gift for you.
You are a gift to all life.
Unwrap your life consciously and with appreciation.
You will see how precious, important and amazing you are.
Loving all life, because it all matters.
Loving you, because you matter.
Loving myself, because I know I make a difference here.
And so do YOU!
Betty Lue

When to say “No”

Yesterday I wrote about saying YES as the natural way to a life of flow, ease, freedom and trust.
This is the way to live in alignment with Spirit, with nature.
Today I am called to write how to say “no” to the insanity of the fear-based world.
This is the way to live with recognition of what the world may bring.

Say No to what may harm yourself or another.
Say No to what disrespects the sacredness of all life.
Say No to that which leads you away from your authentic Self.
Say No to what depletes, distracts, delays and depreciates You.

The fine art of saying No is to find the neutral way of no harm to yourself or others.
To say No requires that you be aware of  to what it is you are saying YES.
To say No asks that you do it with respect for all concerned.
To say No invites you to be aware of the Good you are doing.

Whatever your brother or sister asks, do it…unless it does harm to you or to him.
Say “no” when you will hurt yourself with fatigue, illness, lack of integrity and loss of respect.
Say “no” when you are guided inside to do otherwise.
Say “no” when you know that it is not yours to do.

How to say ”no”.
Say No before you get angry or impatient.
Say No when you know what you want to say Yes to.
Say No when you know why you are saying no.
Say No without losing anyone’s love, including your own.

No, there must be a better way.
No, you can do it yourself.
No, let us find a way that is good for everyone.
No, this will not work for me right now.
No, this does not fit with my values.
No, this may harm you.
No, I will show you a way that works more easily.
No, let us stop and listen within.
No, that way feels unsafe or difficult.
No, you can do better than this.
No, you deserve something better.
 In every case, No simply stops the process to allow a higher and more loving way to appear.
It is best to know when and how to say No to allow for the other to feel heard and valued.
It is best for you to say No without losing the love and respect and trust of the other.
It is best for you to learn to say No to yourself to honor your own values and higher choices.

Saying No is saying Yes to what is fun, safe and easy and for the highest Good of All.
Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Robert and I are at the Lake House this week with our grandchildren.
Lots of active work in the consciousness of freedom and trust = LOVE.

If Children Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy.

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If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

YES

Living in a state of Yes is the key to moving forward with ease.  The Universe is built on Yes with no do-overs.
God is the religion of Yes with focus on Love and Gratitude.
Nature is the example of Yes as it simply accepts and adjusts to the current state of its being.

Yes, this is Good.
Yes, this is possible.
Yes, you can.
Yes, you may choose.
Yes, this will work.
Yes, there is a better way.
Yes, why not go for it?
Yes, it is time for a “time-out”.
Yes, let’s take a break.
Yes, time to let go.
Yes, time to plant.
Yes, time to weed.
Yes, time to harvest.
Yes, time to enjoy the fruits of our labor.
Yes, time to build.
Yes, time to mourn.
Yes, time to forgive.
Yes, time to pray.
Yes, time to give thanks.
Yes, time to live and let live.
They say, the mind really does not understand the negatives “don’t”, “no”, “not”, so why use them.Let us say Yes to using positives and moving forward rather than stopping.
Let us move around obstacles rather than bull-dozing through or being stopped by them.
Let us say Yes to creating a better way to communicate, to relate and to live and love and give.

Through many experiences I have learned, when I say YES , the Universe, God Presence supports me.When I say YES to fulfilling a request, I am given what I need to follow through.
When I say YES to an inner vision, I easily create what is needed to manifest the vision.
When I know with certainty, holding true to the course of YES, as my north star, I find what I seek.

YES, this is Good. Yes is the universal energy of Goodness and God.
And so it is.
Yes, I say, YES!

Loving us all in our willingness to live saying YES!
Betty Lue

Keys to Healing and Healthy Relationships

Relationships are primarily to heal our past.
Every upset is a past similar.
They repeat unhealed experiences of past hurt, confusion, fear, etc.
All relationships (friends, family, partners, coworkers) reveal what we have not healed.

When we are healed, we are at peace and respond with love.
When we are unhealed, we feel upset and react with fear, anger, resentment or guilt.
When we have forgiven, understood, accepted and released the past with love, we are at peace.
When we have held our limiting feelings and beliefs, we are continuously fearful and defensive.

To blame others yields guilt and separation.
To blame ourselves yields shame and fear.
To forgive others creates healing and reconnection.
To forgive ourselves creates openness and confidence.

The work in relationship is to be able to respond appropriately.
Emotional reactions distort our perception and generate fear-based reactions.
The work is to handle our emotions, our fears, assumptions and fantasies privately.
To puke and poop our emotions on others makes all parties sick.

The work is to use journaling, therapy, catharsis (emotional release), affirmation and forgiveness.
The work is to sit with oneself and search for your own inner egoic answers, assumptions and false beliefs.
The work is to use all means available to access and undo whatever is no longer true.
The work is to clear mind, body and emotions of the past, so you can clearly respond to the present.

The real reason I am upset (hurt, afraid, defensive, judging, crazy, impatient, angry, guilty, etc) is:Then write pages of what your mind tells you .
You are clearing what you made up as excuses, justifications and explanations.
You are clearing your parents’ unhealed stuff and also past generations of unhealed hurt.

When you are upset, the other party has often been bumped as well.
Clearing by both parties is extremely helpful, with a follow-up sharing taking full responsibility for healing your own buttons.
Clearing by you alone, will be totally beneficial for you and will have a positive impact on the other.
To respond neutrally and peacefully to all encounters is healing and helpful for everyone.

Take time in every relationship to heal what is revealed within yourself.
Every encounter will be healing.
Every encounter will be holy.
Because this is your healing and holy purpose.

Blessings to us all in doing the work.
Contact me if you have questions.
Betty Lue

I write these loving reminders every morning I am home at my computer ( for the last 11+ years)
They are now sent around the globe to thousands of people who have requested them.
(See years of archived reminders at lovingreminders.org) They are written for me and for you to use if and when they are valuable.
Every situation and personality is different, however there are some keys to having a happy and successful life.  There are ways to creating healing and healthy relationships. There is information that will enhance your ability to respond to everyone’s healing needs.  It is my intention to share the highest and best I know from life experience and by listening to the Voice of Love within. Use these reminders only if they work for you. And be grateful.  Delete with ease if they don’t.  Waste no energy on trying to make something fit that doesn’t resonate. Simply release and be grateful you are living in integrity with your true Self.  I am always loving and sharing the best I know as I am guided in each moment.

Make No Assumptions

When someone is not doing what you want them to do, what do you make up?
When someone is not listening to what you are saying, what do you believe?
When someone is not responding to your requests or demands, what do you tell yourself?
When someone is not living up to your expectations, how do you respond or react?

(It seems silly to have to state the obvious, but the obvious is often overlooked.)

They may be tired or exhausted.
They may not want to be told what to do.
They may not have the energy to respond.
They may be sick, drunk or incapable.
They may be focuses on something else .
They may have more important matters on their mind.
They may need to eat or sleep or get some exercise.
They may need to sleep until they are rested.
They may not want to do what you want them to do.
They may be watching TV or playing a video game.
They may have learned to tune you out, because you nag.
They may have simply ignored you because you ignore them.
They may not respect you, because you are disrespectful in your tone or languaging.
They may not believe you because you give inconsistent messages.
They may have quit on your relationship, because they feel you have quit on them.
They many not know how to be good enough or live up to your standards.
They may feel they are incapable of being and doing what you want.
They may not be able to understand and apply what you are asking for.

Why don’t they communicate with you?

They may be afraid of you.
They may not want to disappoint you.
They may have learned to step away from fighting.
They may simply choose to leave well enough alone.
They may simply not hear you.
They may prefer to let you demand and rage.
They may be totally conscious or on the same page as you are.
They may simply not know how to say “no” and so say nothing.
They may not be capable of clearly stating their position.
They may be unwilling to start a fight with you.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

Your job is to know you do not know.
Your job is to be respectful, clear and consistent.
Your job is to not be confusing, conflicting or condemning.
Your job is to love and respect others no matter what.

Treat others as they prefer to  be treated.
Make no assumptions that they are like you.
Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Another piece I wrote in response to a request.
You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental.), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.
This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us.
This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem. 
It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.
When this is done, we can be effective, helpful and kind in our relationships.

This is a big job.  Cannot be done overnight and must be done after we have taken good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to good relationships.

At Your Best

Where are you at your best?
Where do you think your best?
Where do you act your best?
Where do your speak your best?
Where do you give your best?

That is where you are called to be!When we are at our best, we are most happy, open and powerful.
When we are at our best, we give the most and learn the most.
When we are at our best, we are better parents, partners and people.

Why not live everyday being your very best?This best is not “better than” anyone.
This best is being the best you can be.
This best is what we are made to be.

Usually People give their best when trying to impress.
Usually people live their best when seeking reward.
Usually people think their best when being called to be better.
Usually people act their best when someone important is watching.

Are you willing to inspire yourself everyday all day to be your best?
Are you willing to stay conscious and choose wisely?
Are you open to choosing the best path for you?
Are you honestly believing you can live, love and give your best to everyone?

Life is fun, safe and easy when we remember to stay awake at the wheel.
Life is joyous, healthy and flowing when we honor our highest and best within.
Life is alive with learning, healing, growing and remembering the Good.
Life is a gift that gives us everything we need when we choose to be our Best.

Where we are can inspire our best.
Who we associate with can bring out the best.
What we do with our time and energy can invite our  best in wisdom, appreciation and confidence.
How we choose to live can be a model for others to be their best as well……

So why not?  Be your best self with everyone.
Give the best you have all day long.
Stay alive, alert and enthusiastic and you will bring forth the best in others.
Live as though every moment matters because it does.

Loving you by giving my best every day to everyone,
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Love and Believe in You!

Usually our self esteem, self image and confidence come from relationship with mother figure.
How she loved and believe in herself and in us effected how we believe in and love ourselves.
Usually our productivity, confidence and worldly success come from relationships with father.
How he achieved and believed and received in the workplace effected how we do in our world.

When we are unconscious of our habitual patterns, imprinting and internal programs, they rule us.
When we become aware of where our beliefs, addictions, attachments, fears and judgments originate, we can heal, forgive and undo them.
There is great healing value in awareness without judgment, blame or guilt.
There is great wounding value in perceiving our programming with judgment, fear and condemnation.

What we reveal, we can heal.
When we undo, we can create anew.
There are patterns and programs, habits and addictions, attachments and addictions which we need to forgive and erase, let go and undo, learn from and receive the blessings.
For many the first step is to realize that the way we are living our lives no longer works for us.

Upset is the wake-up-call.
Fear tells us we have been expecting a different result while still doing the same behavior.
Guilt teaches us that we have lost our way, our identity, our purpose and our values.
Pain, both emotional and physical, tell us we are our of integrity with what matters to us.

So what can we do?
Forgive ourselves.
Forgive ourselves for letting others lead us.
Forgive ourselves for withholding our true essence.
Forgive ourselves for conforming with other’s ignorance, disrespect, and laziness.
Forgive ourselves for not seeking a better way to live.

Out of self forgiveness comes choice.
We have the opportunity to choose again.
We can seek new role models.
We can heal the past and move on.
We can step into our ideal life.
We can take impeccable care of ourselves and our values.
We can believe in ourselves.
We can  love ourselves, all of us, mind, body and Spirit.
We can inspire ourselves each day to live more consciously.
We can respect our values, no matter what others do.
We can make our dreams come true.
We can because we believe in ourselves.

Loving you and me and all of us in choosing a better way…today!
Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life
If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer

Anonymous

Thank You!

Your heartfelt wishes continue to be a blessing to me.
The gifts of your unconditional love flow through me and lift me up.
I can see the Goodness and Beauty in all that Is.
Loving you each and all as One under the Sun.
Betty Lue

Thank You!

What you see in me is in you…..or you could not see it!
What you see is a projection of what you know within yourself.
What you see and appreciate will be strengthened in you.
What you see and believe you can achieve simply by valuing.

And so it is ….
We can become all that we dare to dream.
We can be what is in our heart/mind and fed with desire.
We can live the good life we seek, simply by giving 100%.

We are all here together.
We are here to learn from one another.
We are here to trust and free ourselves to be.
We are here to relinquish fear and attack and return to Love.

Life is a beautiful and bountiful mirror, often magnified with our willingness to focus.
When we focus on what we deem “wrong”, we have a magnified experience of the imperfections.
When we fear what we see, attack it with our criticism and condemnation, it gets stuck within us.
When we forgive, ignore, deny or turn to the light, what we want to see, we erase the perception.

Life and its experiences are co-created with our “choice”.
When we decide we want only Good, see all the Good and forgive the rest, we are blessed.
When we are determined to correct all the bad, to find the errors and fix them, we are burdened.
When we allow the light of Goodness to shine forth from our thoughts, words and deeds, we live in Joy.

Life can be a blessing or a curse.
Life can be a creation of joy or one of hardship.
Life can be a blossoming of great beauty or a hiding of ugliness.
Life can be music to the ears or the raucous sounds of suffering.

How can you and I choose to forgive all mistcreations and choose again for Goodness and Beauty?
How can we together remove our weakened stance of victimization  and stand up for the Power of Good?
How can all of us forgive our misunderstandings, separation and fear of differences?
How can we give all Good to all who would receive the Good to live and create more Good for All?

You see, it all depends on you and me!
One person, one healing connection at a time.
It truly is my response ability and yours.
We can change our experiences by changing our minds.
 
Live, empowered by the Love You Are.
Give, prospered by the Good You Share.
Learn, awakened by the Inspiration You Share.
Earn, blessed by wealth of Wisdom You contribute.

We are all benefitted by you being the blessing in our lives,
Betty Lue

Yes, It is my Day of Birth!

Yes, I do still celebrate, but really in my heart everyday is my celebration.
Yes, I am off to a jury duty call this morning.
Yes, I would have preferred another way to spend the day……But then.
This will be the perfect activity for me today.

You see, I see every relationship as an opportunity to heal.
All of us are in need of love and happiness and inner peace.
Each one of us is a composite of all the experiences we have had.
Everyone needs a new birthday in which to reclaim our authentic Self.

I will use this day to have an adventure in being truly helpful.
I will use this day to fully appreciate all that I have and all that I give.
I will use this day to reclaim my innocence and see that in others.
I will use this day to rejoice and be glad I am here now.

The cost of giving is receiving.
Everything works together for good.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness.
I am open and willing to allow the Good in me to express through me.
 To remember the Higher Truths is key to being content with everything.
I have a higher and holy purpose and so do you, whatever you do.
We can forgive and heal what is not real for we see within all things the beauty.
Let us ascend together because we have ascension (love and light) in our minds.

You and I are kindred spirits.
We are volunteers on this planet.
We are here to serve the Greater Good.
We each have our own healing and holy assignments.

Within our family system, in our workplace, chance encounters with strangers.
Each of us has love to be shared in the form of kindness and consideration, helpfulness and acts of service, quiet prayers and affirming thoughts, a smile and holy moment of eye connection, reaching out and sharing what we have, respectful words and deeds…..in so many ways we are loving, forgiving and healing our world…often one at a time.

Let us today and everyday……
Reach out with love in our minds ..with the images we hold.
Reach out with love in our words…with courtesy and respect, dignity for all.
Reach out with Love in the activities of our daily lives…honor all who serve us with gratitude.

Life is for giving.
We are the gifts being shared with one another.
It is in giving that we realize the gift we are.
It is in appreciation that we are blessed by the gifts of others.
I am loving you,
Betty Lue  “True B’Lue”

Reclaim Your Innocence

Return to your natural state of loving kindness, free expression, trust in goodness and joyful living.
Sweet innocence……not naivete.
Natural expression....no withholds or cleverness.
Open loving……..no guilt, resentment or fear.

Be as a child.
Let go of trying to be and simply be Who You Are.
Melt away the stress of conforming and simply enjoy your uniqueness.
Release what is not filled with the simple happiness of now.

How difficult did it used to be to be a child?
Run and play in the sun and wind, the rain and snow.
Greet everyone with a smile and friendly ”hello”.
Discover new and interesting things all day long.
Come home for dinner with your whole family every night.
Play outside with your friends until dark.
Be free to ride your bikes to friends’ houses and the corner store.
Do your homework with a snack right after school.
Listen to music and dance and sing.
Play board games and cards with your family and friends.
Experiment with inexpensive ways to make your old clothes seem new.
Clean your room because it felt good.
Be proud of new shoes by keeping them polished and looking new.
Help your Mom set the table and clean and wash the car with Dad.
Say Please and Thank You always with everyone.
Open the door for your elders and help them be seated first.
Be glad for your first job in your childhood and teens.
Do special favors for others without being asked.
Share the money you earned with your family.
Be grateful for the privilege of using your parent’s car once in a while.
Never swear or talk disrespectfully with anyone.
Be proud of your family, your school and your nation.

Used to be......................
So much more freedom and trust.
So much more hard work and recreation.
So much more independence and exploration.
So much more respect and gratitude.
So much more happiness and peace.

Consider forgiving all that does not serve you.
Be willing to let go of fears and regret that haunt you.
Undo memories and media that do not bring peace.
Release those activities that do not feed your soul.
I love to learn from everything.
I enjoy the discovery of the smallest miracles of nature.
I sing songs of gratitude and praise for the beauty of this earth.
I am nourished by the gifts of kindnesses and celebrations.
I plant gardens and cook with the children.
I share games and crafts that everyone can do together.
I try out new recipes and combinations of food.
I listen to what each individual needs to be at their best.

I love being a kid and trusting God in all things.
I love being innocent and listening within for the Goodness in my heart.
I love laughing and enjoying each healing and holy moment.
I love being the One I Am and being in your Presence with gratitude for YOU!
Let us “innocentize” our selves.
We can bring the sweetness of a child back into ourselves.
Let us choose to live more naturally and in love.
Loving you and me together as we reclaim our inner freedom and trust.

Betty Lue

Friday, The 13th!

It is your lucky day!
It is your day to create anew.
It is your day to see as a blessing.
This is the Day you can create to be all you want it to be!

Each new day is a new beginning.
The sunrise is a fabulous reminder to create today anew.
The light comes and I see things clearly.
The dawn arrives and I behold the beauty.

And when the sun sets I can release what was.
When the sun goes down I can let go of all that no longer serves.
When the day ends, I can forgive, rest and choose again with the new dawn.
How more perfect can time be then to let us see what we can be.

“My minds automatically erases everything that is not wholly loving and true.”This is an affirmation I have used for decades to undo what is hurtful or unkind.
Why hold on to thoughts that hurt or scare me, deplete or distract me?
Why keep an archive of past regrets and resentments, frustrations and fears?

As I greet today, I am new again in body, mind and Spirit.
As I awaken from my pause, the rest of a good night’s sleep, I am renewed.
As I see the light come, I choose to see with new eyes, a new world of goodness and beauty.
As I step forward in life, there is no need to look back….what is good is within me.

Flush the past.
What has nourished you remains within you.
Forgive everything and everyone, let it all go.
What remains in mind and in your life is the Good, the Beautiful and the Hold.

Waste no time on discerning.
Stop trying to analyze or correct mistakes.
Release what no longer serves you.
Allow what is past to be past.

Forgiveness is an eraser filled with Love.
Forgive yourself for hanging on.
Forgive yourself for hurting yourself.
Forgive your mind of judgment and pain.

You can begin again.
You can flush the toilet.
You can release the past.
You can forgive.

The light has come.
I have forgiven the world.
Delight has come.
I can see my world anew.

Love has come.
I have washed away my tears.
Joy has come.
I have shared my happiness with all.

Yes, I am new.
You are new.
We are new again.
My world is new with each breath I take.

We need no longer try to remember the pain and the problems.
With clear vision, we see the possibilities and the promise.
With forgiveness and love, we see the beauty and the blessings.
With an open mind, we feel the joy of being alive and in love.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Respond with Love

No matter the request, respond with Love.
No matter the need, respond with Love.
No matter your answer, respond with Love.
No matter your state, respond with Love.

When we honor the Love within us, we give Love no matter what.
When we know what we prefer, we respond with the kindness we would like.
When we live with an intention for peace, we extend our peace to others.
When we seek to give our best to everyone, we learn to stop and remember to Love.

When we hear someone’s pain, we respond with Love.
When we know anger is a cover for hurt and pain, we respond with Love.
When we realize all are giving Love or needing Love, we receive with gratitude and give only Love.
When we see ourselves as the conscious One, we respond to all requests and needs with loving awareness.

When we cannot remember to Love, it is time to step away and reclaim the Love we are.
When we do not see the value of relating, it is a call to remember relationships are for healing.
When we neglect our own self respect and worth, we need to remember to forgive hurtful thinking.
When we need Loving Responses from others, it is a wakeup call to Love and respect ourselves.

Love is an inside Job.
We have been taught to believe that Love comes from outside.
We have learned to seek Love from others.
We must remember that others learn how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

We can teach others only by how we live and love and give.
We can model for our world how to create more peace and understanding by being more loving.
We can enjoy the path of Loving Awareness by giving each moment the best we have.
We can remember that Love is Freedom and Trust.

To Love someone is allowing them to live life learning from natural consequences.
To Love another is to trust their learning process and let them experience their own creations.
To Love ourselves is to take impeccable care of our mind, emotions, body, finances, relationships and spirituality.
To contribute Love to another only comes from unconditionally giving the Love within us.

To respond with Love yields inner peace.
To respond with Love honors and respects all concerned.
To respond with Love opens the way for healing.
To respond with Love is teaching by example.

Give the Love you are.
You will see by giving that you receive what is given.
You will notice that your love expands as you appreciate your sharing.
You will experience more Love within You by responding always and only with Love.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.
LOVE IS FREEDOMThe freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
 LOVE IS TRUSTThe trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love

I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.

Betty Lue 1978

Out of Pain

Before we can fully connect with our inner Spirit, we must get out of pain.
Physical pain distracts.
Emotional and mental pain distort.
Relationship pain demands.
Financial pain detours.

We may feel defeated, depressed, disappointed or desperate when in pain.
We may lose our center, our goals and priorities.
We may feel exhausted and alone.
We self medicate with drugs, food, distractions, work, sleep, exercise or over stimulation.

There are as many addictions as there are sources of pain.
There are experiences that baffle and confound our need to understand.
There are ways we exhaust ourselves in fighting the pain.
There are often endless searching for solutions with no real answers.

Pain is usually caused at a deep level by conflict in purpose, path and process.
When we are at odds with our highest purpose and calling, pain may show us in a multitude of forms.
When we are living a “lie” or someone else’s vision for us, we feel separate and unfulfilled.
When we miss the inner change in direction and continue what no longer works, we hurt within.

To get out of pain becomes our passion and our purpose.
Once comfortable, we often rest with relief, neglecting the real need.
When we sink into the lethargy or complacency of no pain, we continue to miss the mark.
What is our calling, our unique contribution, our highest purpose to be lived?
Back into another form of pain, we go with an endless searching for peace rather than possibility.
What would it take for us to rise out of pain and continue with an inner connection to the Highest Good?
What do we need to do to live a life of enjoyment and fulfillment, freedom and trust?
What is the way to stay connected and to access immediate answers for the High Way for us?
 First get out of pain.
Use whatever is effective and helpful.
Avoid what is harmful and creates dependency.
Then listen within for guidance on how to live life with ease and joy.

To be attuned to God, to Spirit within, to your Highest Good and inner Guidance, release the pain.
To live with freedom and joy requires that we impeccably care for our whole Self: mind, body and Spirit.
To follow the path least traveled invites us to understand and accept our own uniqueness.
To own and honor the gifts we are here to contribute is the source of the end of all suffering.

Begin to today.
Love all of you well.
Accept your differences.
Celebrate the beauty and blessing of You.

Loving you with a heart that is True B’Lue!

Good to be Home!

Our 4 day trip to Michigan was fabulous and inspiring.
I so enjoy being with those who are so curious and receptive to the “high” way of Love and trust,
Truth and Freedom, responsibility and Creating Everyday Happiness and Appreciation.
When we are open and appreciative, we experience only Goodness.
So let’s be and remember!
 Good to be Home!

But then again, I am always at home with the One within.
Good to be back in touch with you via these Loving Reminders.
But then again, I am always in touch with you when we live in Love.
You see, it is the Love We are that always connects us.

When we remember We are Love, we are Connected.
When we remember to live in Love, we are united.
When we remember there is only Love, we are happy.
When we remember there is no separation, we are One.

There are times in our lives when we are awakened in the Presence of others.
There are moments when we glimpse the Glorious Truth of All Life.
There are people who spark in us the Gift We Are to our world.
There are choices we make that open doors to Higher Consciousness.

This is the value of relating with the Highest We know
This is the gift of gathering with openness and Love.
This is the song of appreciation and Praise.
This is the Joy of spiritual relationships that Inspire and Enlighten Us.

I am so appreciative of the precious time we share with these Loving Reminders.
Even though I do not “see” you, I feel your Presence within .
Even though we may not meet often, I know you are always with me.
Even though I may not “hear” your words, I listen to your Heart.

You are always with me.
In this I rejoice.
I greet you as I greet the Sun each day.
With enjoyment, with celebration, with warmth all around me and you.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Let It Be

Are you letting yourself be upset by small stuff?
Do you nitpick and judge everything?
Are you tending to mind others’ business while leaving your own a mess?
Are you constantly worrying or analyzing others’ behavior?

Imagine how much energy you expend each day focused away from yourself.
How could you use all that time and energy for Goodness?
Is it possible it is a way of avoiding what is your own “work”?
Can you be totally response-able for your own life?

Let it be.Stop trying to control, modify, change or correct others’ life learning.
Stop interfering, judging, figuring out or therapizing others choices.
Learn to step away and trust.
Learn to let go and allow others to have their own experiences.

What we focus on increases.
When we focus on other’s clumsiness, it may well increase.
When we focus on another’s mistakes, they may make more of them in our presence.
When we focus on our own ignorance, we may find ourselves acting out our beliefs.

Focus on what you can do.
Focus on what does work.
Focus on the good that already is.
Focus on loving rather than worrying, fretting, fearing and being anxious.

Focus on the gift of life.
Focus on the opportunities to choose.
Focus on the experiences of growth and healing.
Focus on the goodness that is in your heart.

Focus on the matters at hand.
Focus on the one who is right there with you.
Focus on being honest, kind and supportive.
Focus on giving confidence, trust and encouragement.

When you let go of the negative, you will remember how good it feels to be positive.
When you let go of worry, you will feel relieved to be able to trust.
When you let go of trying to fix, correct and change, you will notice how much you appreciate.
When you let go of ineffective habits, you will feel the freedom of exploring effective possibilities.

Let go.
Stop and simply see what is.
Let go and trust that Good that is in us all.
Let go and Love.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Stop complaining!

Complaining is disempowering.
Complaining is unbecoming.
Complaining is a waste of time.
Complaining interferes with positive action.

Quit criticizing!
Criticizing defeats your purpose.
Criticizing weakens yourself and others.
Criticizing creates negative energy.
Criticizing is more about you than the other.

Cease worrying!
 Worrying generates more worries.
Worrying decreases creative flow.
Worrying is not healthful for mind or body.
Worrying connotes fear not love.

Eliminate comparison!
 Comparison denies our unique paths.
Comparison implies we should be better than others.
Comparison hurts and hinders everyone.
Comparison emphasizes external referral.

Appreciate what is.
Enjoy what you have.
Trust all is well.
Know all are doing the best they know.

When we can truly give up the habits of complaint, criticism, worry and comparison, we are free to live.
When we relinquish the need to be negative, we return to our natural state of happiness and peace.
When we forgive ourselves for our unconsciousness, we can love consistently and consciously.
When we choose the high way of living, we experience a fun, safe and easy life of joy and love.

So be it.
And enjoy who you are!
Betty Lue

Make No Assumptions

Do not assume that what I write here is true for everyone!
Do not assume that you know what others mean by what they say or write.
Do not assume that you know what is best for others.
Do not assume that your beliefs are right for anyone else but you.

Often we want to be right.
We want agreement.
We want to know we know.
We want to have the answers.

I am writing what is true for me in this moment of listening within!
I know what I mean in my heart/mind, but words are only a close facsimile of Truth.
I know what is best for me and want what is best for you (but do not know what that is!)
My beliefs change as I awaken and grow spiritually, so cannot know what is right at this time for you!
When I experienced natural childbirth, I thought it was the best thing ever and everyone should know.
Within a few days, I realized that I was wrong.
I wanted to share what was good for me with others so others could have the joy I had.
I wanted to make sure everyone knew about what I believed was best!

I learned!
Everyone is different.
There are an infinite number of paths and possibilities.
Each person must learn from their own choices and experiences and timing.

How can I know what to share with whom?Wait until I am asked for advice, information and counsel.
Offer to share only if the other is truly interested. “Would you like to hear about…?
Be willing to share my experience, position or belief one time only and then let go and listen.
Trust that others are making their own choices with the best knowledge and experience they have.
Give always and only the best I know from my inner guidance and my personal experience/knowledge.
Professionally, people make appointments with me and pay for my time, expertise and support.
Personally, I do not offer opinions, beliefs or information unless specifically respectfully requested.

When someone makes assumptions about what I need or want, it can be interpreted as:You think I am ignorant.
You believe I am wrong.
You think you know better than me.
You want to make sure I do what you think is best for me.
You only know your way and want to make sure I agree.
You want to be in charge of my life choices.
You love me and want me to know you love me.
You are nosey and need to mind my business.
You think you can help me avoid pain and problems.
You like to have answers for other people, because you want to be helpful.
Etc.
Allow others to make their own choices and experience the natural consequences of those choices.
Trust that everyone is always doing the best they know in the moment.
Forgive those who interfere with their opinions, beliefs, comments and recommendations.
Know everyone is loving everyone in different ways; some with fear and avoidance, some with love and trust.

Loving me loving you and you loving me.
We do love one another because we are love here to express and experience Love,
Betty Lue

What Is Fair?

When we over-give and overdo, we are not being fair.
When we deny ourselves what is best for us, we are not being fair.
When we lie, cheat or take from another, we are not being fair.
When we make choices where someone gets hurt, we are not being fair.

When we forget to say Please and Thank you, we are not being fair.
When we hold grudges or resentment, we are not being fair.
When we are late for appointments, we are not being fair.
When we neglect to apologize for errors of commission or omission, we are not being fair.

When we take ourselves and others for granted, we are not being fair.
When we criticize people for not always being at their best, we are not being fair.
When we project our values and expectations on others, we are not being fair.
When we are impatient with other’s timing and ways of doing, we are not being fair.
 

• To be fair requires being 100% present with what is right now.
• To be fair is accepting the current state of all concerned.
• To be fair is to give generously recognizing we receive as we give.
• To be fair is to forgive our judgments and see the value of mistakes.
• To be fair is to love, trust, and respect others as we want to be loved, trusted and respected.
• To be fair is to love everyone equally.
• To be fair is to accept individuals as they are, not as we wish they would be.
• To be fair is to be at peace with the way all of us learn, heal and grow.
• To be fair is to genuinely care about the sacred life journey for everyone.
• To be fair is to take impeccable care of yourself, so you can truly respond with love to others.
• To be fair is to change ourselves rather than expect others to change for us.
• To be fair is to be gentle and patient in our approach to all situations in life.
• To be fair is to share, not withhold, to give, not try to get, to love not be afraid of Loving.

Let’s learn to be fair.
We are all in this life together.
So let us join with respect, response-ability and cooperation,
Betty Lue