Usually our self esteem, self image and confidence come from relationship with mother figure.
How she loved and believe in herself and in us effected how we believe in and love ourselves.
Usually our productivity, confidence and worldly success come from relationships with father.
How he achieved and believed and received in the workplace effected how we do in our world.
When we are unconscious of our habitual patterns, imprinting and internal programs, they rule us.
When we become aware of where our beliefs, addictions, attachments, fears and judgments originate, we can heal, forgive and undo them.
There is great healing value in awareness without judgment, blame or guilt.
There is great wounding value in perceiving our programming with judgment, fear and condemnation.
What we reveal, we can heal.
When we undo, we can create anew.
There are patterns and programs, habits and addictions, attachments and addictions which we need to forgive and erase, let go and undo, learn from and receive the blessings.
For many the first step is to realize that the way we are living our lives no longer works for us.
Upset is the wake-up-call.
Fear tells us we have been expecting a different result while still doing the same behavior.
Guilt teaches us that we have lost our way, our identity, our purpose and our values.
Pain, both emotional and physical, tell us we are our of integrity with what matters to us.
So what can we do?
Forgive ourselves.
Forgive ourselves for letting others lead us.
Forgive ourselves for withholding our true essence.
Forgive ourselves for conforming with other’s ignorance, disrespect, and laziness.
Forgive ourselves for not seeking a better way to live.
Out of self forgiveness comes choice.
We have the opportunity to choose again.
We can seek new role models.
We can heal the past and move on.
We can step into our ideal life.
We can take impeccable care of ourselves and our values.
We can believe in ourselves.
We can love ourselves, all of us, mind, body and Spirit.
We can inspire ourselves each day to live more consciously.
We can respect our values, no matter what others do.
We can make our dreams come true.
We can because we believe in ourselves.
Loving you and me and all of us in choosing a better way…today!
Betty Lue
You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life
If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing
For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still
So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity
A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer
Anonymous