Monday, August 23, 2010

When to say “No”

Yesterday I wrote about saying YES as the natural way to a life of flow, ease, freedom and trust.
This is the way to live in alignment with Spirit, with nature.
Today I am called to write how to say “no” to the insanity of the fear-based world.
This is the way to live with recognition of what the world may bring.

Say No to what may harm yourself or another.

Say No to what disrespects the sacredness of all life.
Say No to that which leads you away from your authentic Self.
Say No to what depletes, distracts, delays and depreciates You.

The fine art of saying No is to find the neutral way of no harm to yourself or others.

To say No requires that you be aware of  to what it is you are saying YES.
To say No asks that you do it with respect for all concerned.
To say No invites you to be aware of the Good you are doing.

Whatever your brother or sister asks, do it…unless it does harm to you or to him.

Say “no” when you will hurt yourself with fatigue, illness, lack of integrity and loss of respect.
Say “no” when you are guided inside to do otherwise.
Say “no” when you know that it is not yours to do.

How to say ”no”.

Say No before you get angry or impatient.
Say No when you know what you want to say Yes to.
Say No when you know why you are saying no.
Say No without losing anyone’s love, including your own.

No, there must be a better way.
No, you can do it yourself.
No, let us find a way that is good for everyone.
No, this will not work for me right now.
No, this does not fit with my values.
No, this may harm you.
No, I will show you a way that works more easily.
No, let us stop and listen within.
No, that way feels unsafe or difficult.
No, you can do better than this.
No, you deserve something better.
 
In every case, No simply stops the process to allow a higher and more loving way to appear.

It is best to know when and how to say No to allow for the other to feel heard and valued.
It is best for you to say No without losing the love and respect and trust of the other.
It is best for you to learn to say No to yourself to honor your own values and higher choices.

Saying No is saying Yes to what is fun, safe and easy and for the highest Good of All.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Robert and I are at the Lake House this week with our grandchildren.
Lots of active work in the consciousness of freedom and trust = LOVE.

If Children Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy
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If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.