Relationships

Affirmations:

I learn from everyone and everything.  

I value my relationships with you all and with myself.

I forgive the past with healing and blessing and gratitude.

I choose to be a happy, healthy genuine influence in every relationship.

Relationships Matter

Every relationship is for the purpose of discovering and healing ourselves.

Our real work is to learn from all relationships with others and with ourselves.

When we observe and listen to what works and doesn’t work, we learn.

We can change everything by changing our thoughts, words and behavior.

The essential learning is discovering what we have created.

We can undo everything with forgiveness of ourselves and begin again.

We are capable of making every relationship our teacher.

We must be willing to wake up and take full responsibility.

Our response with Love or reaction with fear determines the outcome.

When we respond to all things with thoughtfulness and kindness, we experience peace.

When we react to people and problems with anxiety, defensiveness and attack, we experience pain.

Life offers direct immediate feedback and reflections of what beliefs and judgments we have. 

Set aside your assumptions and open to understanding.

Step away from your judgments and allow yourself to accept.

Undo false accusations and see things another way.

Delete misperceptions and recognize the call for love and learning.

Everything and everyone is our teacher.

We can resist and attract more of the same.

We can pay attention and learn to let go.

We experiment with what works and doesn’t work.

We can lay aside our grievances with forgiveness.

We can erase the past and choose a new future.

We can realize what did not work for us.

We can choose a different way of relating.

The work is not to get mean, sad, or afraid.

The opportunity is to wake up and be at choice.

The healing is to heal our own misperceptions.

The empowerment is to be willing to choose.

We can use our relationships to learn, to heal, to help, to love, to appreciate.

We can depend on them to “fix” us, but until we correct ourselves, we do not know our own power.

We can seek relationships to make us comfortable, and then lose our true identity in another.

We can forget and neglect to trust and free ourselves to fully discover, express and be whole.

I remind myself daily in my relationship with you.

Thank you.

Betty Lue

10 Commandments for Successful Relationships

* Keep your agreements faithfully.

* Give more than you expect to receive. 

Do more than your “fair” share.

 * Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

 * Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.

Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

 * Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

 * Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.

Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

 * Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

 * Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

 * Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

 * Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

Forgiveness

Affirmations:

I free past negativity and pain with forgiveness now.

I forgive everyone and everything including myself.

With complete forgiveness, only peace and love remain.

I release and let go and let Goodness guide my life.

Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness.

Forgiveness is essential to happy outcomes.

Forgiveness is what clears the way for Good.

Forgiveness is changing our mind.

Forgiveness is freeing and inspiring.

Resentment, blame, criticism, all negativity is a drag on your life energy.

When you hold grievances, you carry the burden and the pain.

Letting go sets you free to be aware of your own life choices.

All negative judgments are a distraction, delay and detour from you own path.

Time changes all things.

Why repeat what no longer is?

Why not let go and begin again?

What good does it do to focus on what is not good?

Relinquish past pain and regain your own high way.

Undo what does not belong to you.

See what is good for you and be grateful.

Allow what never was real to be released.

Life show us where our Good is blocked.

The obstacles to receiving blessings must be released.

We can open the glow of health, happiness and prosperity with clearing our negativity.

Forgiveness here will clear all blocks to experiencing a Good Life.

Begin practicing forgiving every thought, word and action that dams the flow of loving kindness.

We hold up the flow of Good by robbing ourselves of love and peace and joy.

Our life work is to let go and allow only what is helpful, grateful and beneficial to all.

We can change it all with willingness to delete what is not good in our thinking, speaking and actions.

It is time to throw away sour grapes, rotten fruit and unhealthy thought, words and behavior.

It is time to renew our minds and begin growing what is best for all concerned.

It is time to share and show what reminds us all of how we can live together in harmony.

It is time to listen and learn, observe and allow ourselves to lead the way.

Forgiving everyday with kindness and gratitude,

Betty Lue

Now is your time.

You are the One.

Set Yourself free.

Forgive everyone.

Life is forgiving .

You are the gift.

It is in freeing and being the gift you are, that you recognize the gift.

Set yourself free with forgiveness.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Clearing Guilt

Affirmations:

I forgive everything and everyone, especially me.

I let go and learn to love myself for Who I Am.

I allow myself to learn from my mistakes.

I return to love and forgiveness as easily and quickly as I can.

What Guilt Does….

Guilt is what we feel when we are not living on purpose.

Guilt is how we act when we hurt, offend or stop caring.

Guilt shows up when we lie, cheat and steal from ourselves and others.

Guilt is the lack of energy from denying our own highest potential.

Guilt acts weak and defensive.

Guilt withholds love from Self and others.

Guilt withdraws and hides with separation, addiction, self harm and negative emotion.

Guilt projects blame, criticism and anger on those around you.

When we live our highest potential, we do not feel guilty.

When we are at peace and happy, we do not feel guilty.

When we live and let live, we are not feeling guilt.

When we freely forgive and love others, we have not reason to experience guilt.

Often, we punish ourselves and others when we experience guilt. 

We may get sick or injure ourselves with our guilt.

We may do harm to others with our own guilt.

We may leave or demand they leave when feeling guilt.

Most people deny and hide their guilt.

Many do not know they are withholding their best.

Often people are accusing others of what they do.

When we see how much harm we are doing, we usually want to leave.

The projection of our own guilt onto others is the way we try to avoid feeling guilty.

Staying away, separating, or avoiding the one who we have harmed is one way to deny our choice.

Being judgmental and critical is our defense against the truth.

Playing incapable, ignorant, defensive is often used an excuse or justification.

When upset for any reason, it is the proof we are not living our truth, values and purpose.

When we are not kind, helpful and caring, we are unhappy (guilty) with ourselves.

When we blame or criticize the other, we are demonstrating or projecting onto them.

When our life is not working, we are unaware of how to live purposefully.

The healthy choice is to take our own inventory.

The healing choice is to say, “I am sorry. Please forgive me.  I love you and thank you.”

The helpful choice is to forgive our unconsciousness and neglect and choose again to be responsible.

The honorable choice is to acknowledge our responsibility and affirm our willingness to live on purpose.

We all have this “governor” of our attitude and behavior in our feeling guilty.

When we fail to acknowledge our mistakes and lack of honorable focus and direction, we bury our honor.

When we project guilt onto blaming and criticizing something or someone, we are in denial.

We can always choose to go soul searching to find the source of our guilt.

This is the beginning of forgiving our lack of purpose and fulfillment.

I am sorry we deny ourselves happiness.

Let us forgive ourselves for using guilt.

I love you and thank you for being willing to forgive you and me and all of us.

Betty Lue

Happy Endings?

Use my affirmations for yourself. 

Change them to fit for you. 

They are written with YOU in mind!

Affirmations:

I prefer being happy about the changes in life.

I choose to listen, learn, forgive and love no matter what.

I accept what I do not know or understand.

I trust all things work together for Good.

Are There Happy Endings?

With Forgiveness and Love all things are possible.

With judgment, confusion, pain and fear, everything feels incomplete.

When we experience loss, death, divorce, devastation, rarely is there a feeling of completion.

Without a proper memorial and forgiveness, endings will be unhappy.

When you persist with the intention of completion, you will achieve what you want.

When you focus on the Highest Good for all concerned, you will find the outcome you seek.

When you allow yourself to let go of “your way”, you will achieve what is truly good for everyone..

When you are open to seeing things differently, you will be guided to the “high” way.

Fairy tale endings mostly are fiction and fantasy, because they guide you to your own need.

Real happy endings are focused on the over-riding goodness for everyone involved.

They erase, dissolve and delete what is destructive, desperate and denying Goodness.

Happy endings are peaceful, complete and accepting of the universal differences.

You and everyone deserves true happiness.

Our human drama perpetuates the myth of winning, revenge, selfish interests and unconscious karma.

Our fascination with dramatic stories, miracles of intervention, and wishful thinking are confusing.

People seem to deny their own right, responsibility and choice to be happy.

There can be what we call poverty, ignorance, and pain and still the blessings of happiness remain.

People often find in their faith and prayer, the awakening of hope, faith and love.

Innocent (non judging) people clear their fear, anger and despair and experience blessings and gifts.

We can all relinquish our self absorbed thinking and seek a higher vision and right perception.

When you become aware of “what seems to be”, acknowledge your own perception.

When you see what you see, you can forgive your limited vision and let go.

There is a moment of clarity in which you will realize what is yours to see.

As we allow and accept the higher perception, you begin to appreciate the peace you know.

Happy endings belong to your own choice.

Positive realizations come from what you choose to reveal.

Healthy learning is experienced when you see to know what is healing for you.

Peaceful completion is the recognition and acceptance of the parts we play.

Everyone has the opportunity to take full responsibility for the acceptance and allowance of what is.

We all can learn from everything.

We each can be responsible for our perceptions.

We together can choose to change our minds and choose again.

Our lives give us endless opportunities to enjoy new beginnings.

We can undo the resentments and resistance to what we may experience.

There is always and invitation to complete every interaction, experience and ending.

Life flows freely and easily when we truly let go of the past and move into the next moment.

Life can be fun, safe and easy.

You can choose to use it all for your Good.

Respecting your journey and mine.

Betty Lue

How Life Works

Affirmations:

I imagine a good, happy and fulfilling life.

I release what is not good for me.

I choose what is good, happy and fulfilling.

I appreciate what is highest and best for me.

Life works when you are willing to do the work.  See below!

How Life Works

Life is your teacher.

Life is a mirror.

Life is a way shower.

Life is the reward.

When you observe your life, you will see what you have chosen.

When you make a mistake, learn, forgive yourself and make a correction.

When you decide what you really want, just do it and learn.

When you don’t know what really want, ask your life what it needs.

Imagine that what you imagine is projected onto the screen of your life.

Imagine that you can change what you experience by changing your mind.

Imagine that the myriad of unconscious thoughts that go through your mind also show up.

Imagine that you can use forgiveness as an eraser filled with love so you clear what you don’t want.

• Clear your mind with forgiveness daily,
• Learn to make wise, helpful and healthy choices.
• Allow yourself to appreciate and grow what is good for you and all.
• Practice forgiveness, choice and gratitude daily. (See the practice below.)

You are here to learn to create your experience.

Make a simple list of what you really want. 

Be clear about the quality of your life.

Understand that you can be selective and erase when you make a mistake.

Allow yourself to not know what is best for you.

Life is your gift, your test, your teacher and your own creation and reward.

You are able to easily change what you believe and see and are willing to be.

You can have the experience of joy and peace and love using your thoughts and words.

You can clear the canvas of your life by changing your mind.

I trust you to choose what you want.

Forgive what you don’t want.

Appreciate what you have chosen.

And realize life is yours to choose.

Always loving you,

Betty Lue

30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!

This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.

This daily practice will heal and transform your life

With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.

Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.

Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.

Daily Practice:

Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.

Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind. 

Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within. 

(No need to understand or feel anything.)

I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.

I forgive my body’s limitations.

I forgive myself for making mistakes.

I forgive everything and everyone including myself.

Next write and say 30 Choices. 

I choose to be happy. 

I choose to be free.  

I choose to do what I love. 

I choose to let go and trust again.

In the Evening (before bed)

Write and say 30 Gratitudes

I appreciate the energy I have.

I love being happy.

I am grateful I have you in my life.

I thank myself for remembering to be grateful.

PS Even a few of each is better than none.  

Do what you can and trust it is working.

Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.

The key is your willingness to DO THE WORK!

Your Heart's Desire!

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Pay attention!

Listen within!

Respect what you hear/feel/know!

Affirmations:

I know what is in my heart.

I listen to and trust the desires of my heart.

I am truly happy when I live true to Who I Am.

I dare to dream and do what is my real Joy.

Your Heart’s Desire

Do you know your own heart?

Do you love Who You Are?

Do you dare to connect with your True Self?

Do you recognize what you love within you?

How can you know your heart’s desire if you do not know your own heart?

How can you realize what you really want if you do not listen to your Self?

How can you honestly recognize what you really want if you do not deeply and profoundly love you?

How do you expect to hear what your heart’s desire truly is if you do not listen, learn and love YOU?

Take quiet time everyday to listen to yourself.

Begin to be a student of the Real Inner You.

Explore what you think, what you want and most importantly, Who Are You?

Ask yourself each morning, “What do you want to experience today?”

You are new again everyday, here to work and play, to connect and enjoy, to rest and dream.

Today is renewed when you are open and willing to respond to what you hear within you.

When you are freeing and trusting yourself, you respond without expectation or restriction,

Whatever is good and right and true for you, is yours to think and be and do and enjoy.

If you want to dream, dream.

If you want to create, create.

If you want to get things done, just do it.

If you want to rest and enjoy, allow yourself to simply be.

You seek to be loved by you.

You want to be heard by you.

You long to be nurtured by you.

You are asking to be trusted by you.

You are wanting connection with you.

You are your own teacher just for you.

You are your friend and counselor.

You are here to set yourself Free to Be YOU.

What will it take for you to know yourself?

What can you do to love and trust yourself?

When will you learn to listen, honor and respect You?

How long will you wait to come into realizing You are the one You seek?

You are waiting to fulfill your own heart’s desire.

Now is your time to awaken.

Take off your ear buds and learn to listen to your True Self.

Be open and willing to hear yourself calling to be loved by You.

I am open and willing, trusting and freeing us all.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue