Wednesday, November 30, 2005

Healing Feelings

Some heal with talking about feelings.
Some heal with prayer.
Some heal with doing something constructive.
Some heal with forgiveness.
Some choose to stay unhealed as protection.
Some heal by opening to gratitude.
Some heal by simply letting go.
Some heal with ritual.
Some heal with emotional catharsis.
Some heal with bodywork.
Some heal with time.
Some choose to live with a reservoir of unexpressed pain.
Some heal by being creative.
Some heal by doing good.
Some heal by listening to the other.
Some heal by requesting help from God.
Some choose to stay stuck with the toxins.

We cannot heal another.
We can choose to heal ourselves.
We cannot prevent others from negativity.
We can choose to dis-empower its impact on us.
We cannot make another better or fix the past.
We can choose to love others and to forgive the past.
We cannot help those who seek no help.
We can choose to help those who ask.

Let us all do what we can to heal ourselves.
To heal is to make whole.
To heal is to make happy.
To heal is to let go of the regrets and resentments of the past.
To heal is to feel the good that is here now.
To heal is to create beauty and goodness with our lives.
To heal is to be truly helpful with respect and gratitude.
To heal is to be whole.

Loving us all in our self-healing,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Myths, Beliefs, Wishes

What is real?
We make up the world we see.
We make up the meaning we give to everything.
We make up our minds.
We make up our bodies.
We make up our lives.
We make up our beliefs.
Life is make believe.

If you like the fantasy you have created, continue living it with enjoyment and gratitude.
If you do not like your life, forgive what you and others have made up about you and your life.
Start with a blank canvas and create the best you know for yourself right now.
Only you can make up what you experience in life.

If you believe you can do it alone, try again.
If you believe you need help, ask for Spiritual Guidance
If you choose to trust in others, listen to their counsel.
If you choose to loose yourself from the world's perspective, forgive it all.

When choosing for counsel and guidance, go to the highest Authority.
When you request another perspective. always invite the highest viewpoint.
When looking for a better way to live, ask from one who loves you and wants the best for you.
When calling for an extreme life makeover, consider going to the experts.

No one is victim, unless they are willing to be.
Nothing is hopeless, unless we give up.
Nothing is impossible, unless you believe it is.
What you conceive (think) and believe (have faith), you can achieve (experience and enjoy.)

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Lessons from my life. Yesterday walking the twins, I met two teachers.
The first was a bag lady (possibly homeless), looking a little disheveled and confused, taking a picture through a shop window of Christmas decorations. As she looked at the babies, I smiled at her. She responded with "Keep safe. It's crazy out there."

I met a lady dressed in brilliant purple and red yesterday outside the grocery store.
She was glowing with friendliness and radiating joy and gratitude.
She said to me for all the world to hear, "All it takes is to be grateful for every little thing. You receive rewards tenfold. I give thanks for all the Good and it just keeps coming."
As she left my side, "She said thanks for listening and God bless you."

Monday, November 28, 2005

What Do You See?

When we are filled with peace and love and joy, we see beauty, compassion, healing and unity.
When we are filled with conflict, fear, and frustration, we see ugliness, judgment, pain and separation.
What we see is a product of what is in our minds.
What we see can be seen differently with attitudinal healing.
What we see is transformed by the renewal of our thinking.

Forgiving our judgments and fears frees us to see things new.
Forgiving our past frees us to create new opportunities in the present.
Forgiving ourselves frees us to believe in our Goodness, Wholeness and Love.
Forgiving everything frees us to see the Light and live in Love.

The teaching of spiritual leadership (warriorship) teach gentleness and compassion through harmony, beauty and balance in the mind, in our environment and in our wishes for our world.
Putting beauty, order and harmony in the body (healthy nutrition), in the mind (inspiring and positive media, thoughts and words), in the environment (order in work, home and affairs) strengthens us.
Erasing , releasing and forgiving all that is not for the Good of All from body, mind and environment undoes the limiting and cloudy filters from our seeing.

When we are free of fear, we can see beauty and goodness, faith and love, everywhere.
When we are at peace, we see the unity and perfection of all life.
When we are in gratitude, we know all is well in the midst of change.
When we are in joy, we celebrate the Great Mystery and everyday miracles.
When we are in love, we feel whole and happy and free.

Awakening to see what really is…always,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Giving Thanks

Note: We are off to Oregon this AM with Robert's Mom to visit and celebrate with adult daughter, Lacey, Robert's brother and his wife and Jackie's oldest friend from kindergarten. We will enjoy the traveling, cool weather, friendships and family as well as our quiet time alone to meditate, walk in the woods and give thanks.

When we are not experiencing gratitude, we have lost our connection with Self and Source.
When we are not willing and able to give thanks, we are off purpose.
When we are not seeing and believing in the Love within us, we are judging what was.
Our way to be grateful is through forgiveness here and now.

To be grateful, we must first and foremost forgive.
Forgiveness clears the past and quiets the mind.
Gratitude sees what is before us with love and respect.
Forgiveness is the cosmic cleanser to be able to see.

Without forgiveness, I judge what is and what I wish would be.
With forgiveness, I appreciate what is possible and enjoy what I have.
With judgment, I am unhappy, discontent and lacking inspiration and energy.
With forgiveness, I am at peace, appreciative and filled with desire to create.

Fill your heart with gratitude and you will know fulfillment now.
Fill your words with praise and you will see gratitude all around you.
Fill your activities with full appreciation and you will know great peace.
Fill your life with thanksgiving and you will heal your world.

I thank you for being there.
I thank you for loving.
I thank you for learning.
I thank you for feeling.
I thank you for imagining.
I thank you for growing.
I thank you for healing.
I thank you for listening.
I thank you for letting go.
I thank you for appreciating.
I thank you for telling the truth.
I thank you for being patient.
I thank you for giving.
I thank you for working.
I thank you for playing.
I thank you for resting.
I thank you for creating.
I thank you for sharing.
I thank you for daring.
I thank you.

Thanking you for all this and soooo much more.
Betty Lue

I am here for you by phone 800-919-2392.
Even when I am traveling, there is always time for you.

Thank you for joining me on this spiritual journey.
Thank you for receiving my gifts with respect and gratitude.
Thank You for supporting us all with your prayers and your contribution.
Thank you for your love and for giving your positive energy to what you value.
Thank you for knowing that we are all in this together...
Thank you for healing, transforming and co-creating our experience of this world.
Thank you for enjoying what is given with joyful appreciation for the Good of all.

I appreciate YOU!
Betty Lue

Monday, November 21, 2005

Look Deeper

To respect another is to look again deeper than the superficial judgments of sensory perception.
Listen deeper than the words being shared.
Feel deeper than the defended personal issues.
See beyond the personality and the egoic learned games and limiting beliefs.

To look again is to see the goodness, wholeness and beauty in each one.
To respect another is to see beyond their behavior and emotionality to the Love within.
To really see another is to see their heart and what really matters to them.

To listen deeper requires listening the the calling of their heart.
To really hear another is to interpret the words to find the inner meaning.
To really understand another's communication is to step into their life view.

To feel deeper than surface feelings, limited perceptions and painful attitudes requires Love.
To feel another's caring and Love, one must desire to deeply and profoundly love, respect and honor.
To feel empathy asks of us that we own and value truly accepting and loving ourselves and our feelings.

To see beyond the behaviors of another, we must be willing to trust their desire to Love and be loved.
To perceive rightly is to see with the heart.
To really heal another we must see and know their wholeness and Holiness.

When I listen to you, I hear the calling of your heart.
When I feel your emotions, I feel the longing of your soul.
When I see you, I see the beauty and goodness of the divine.

Know each one is a babe, new and innocent, here to give love and live from their Essence.
Know you are a gift to be given and received in a world longing for connection and Love.
Know Life is a choice where we are all learning and earning our wings to fly free.

Loving you as I am loving me,
Betty Lue

I love You, All Who are calling to be loved.
Even when I forget I am loving You.
Even when I am busy, I am hearing You.
Even when I am unconscious, I am feeling You.
Even when I appear to be separate, I am One with You.
Even though we have not yet met, I am here with You.

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Minimize or Exaggerate?

To minimize what is, is to deny, distract and diminish the value of each moment.
To exaggerate is to intensify, embellish and make special the value of the moment.
Which shall it be?
Holding each moment and its message sacred in a consistent conscious way is my truth.

When I deny myself the opportunity to feel what is real, I may be afraid of Love and the call for Love.
When I project old fear-filled judgments on what is, I may need to magnify what is in order to notice.
Some of us walk away from pain, sorrow and strong feelings.
Some of us feed on the energy of self-pity, suffering and over-reaction.
Some merely acknowledge what is momentary and let go to experience the next moment renewed.

To gain perspective on life, forgive what is judged and see what is given.
Am I loved?
Am I loving?
Do I have food, clothing and shelter?
Do I have access to inspiration, support and loving kindness?
Am I willing to let go and allow change in my life?
Do I trust there is a Power and Presence that is guiding my life?
Am I willing to forgive the mistakes I and others have made?
Am I open to learning from what is given and received?
Can I see how my worth is not based on what I teach, make or do?
Do I recognize that I am here to be the Presence of Love?
Can I allow the renewing Spirit of Love to transform my life right now?
It is in fully loving, respecting and honoring myself that I made new again.

Today I see all I have with gratitude and love.
Today I give all I have with joy and freedom.
Today I make something beautiful of my life with my thoughts, words and deeds.
Today I love Who and Whose I AM.

Loving you,
Betty Lue
Take personally the words that speak to your heart.
Let go easily of all that is not inspirational and healing for you.

Friday, November 18, 2005

Feeding My Body

I have watched my addiction to feeding my personality, body, thoughts and humanness grow.
It seems that when I forget to say "No" to any little thing that does not bless and benefit me,
I let go of my desire to serve only God and God.

One dessert leads to another, "It's OK."
One slip of unconsciousness leads to another.
One falsehood leads to another.
One moment of procrastination leads to another.
One second of envy leads to another.
One stepping back when a need is seen leads to another.
One ounce of hesitation before doing what is being called for leads to another.

The ego calls us to:
"Wait and see."
"Leave it to someone else to do."
"One voice will accomplish nothing."
"No one will know."
"Just this one time is OK."
"If it feels good, do it."
"It’s your life so do what you want."

A promise made to oneself must not be broken, because it erodes self trust and confidence.
A promise made to God must not be broken because it creates guilt and feelings of unworthiness.
A promise made to a loved one must not be broken because it causes fear of disapproval and separation.
Make promises you intend to keep. If broken, confess, forgive yourself and choose again immediately.

Remember life is a gift of Goodness and Love.
Our body is a vehicle for doing Good and offering Love.
Our mind is an instrument of forgiveness and healing useful to fulfill promises to create Peace and Joy.
Our personality is our learned way to project the gifts we are here to give and receive.

To honor the Giver of Life we must offer our promise to use the gift of Life with wisdom and Love.
May it be so for you and me.

Loving you,
Betty Lue
PS I am cleaning up what I feed my body, beginning NOW. Wanna join me?

Thursday, November 17, 2005


What makes me unique?
I am loving.
We all are loving.
I am creative.
We all are creative.
I see your Goodness.
When we know our own goodness, we see only Goodness in others.
I believe in the healing and creative power of Love.
We all can let go of our faith in fear and remember to trust in Love.
I forgive errors and choose again quickly.
Everyone can learn to erase what was and create what they want.
I prefer to be happy, so I choose not to linger in hurt, anger, regret and fear.
Everyone can forgive unhappy habits and create new habits of mind.
I give generously the best I have to everyone I encounter.
We all can learn that generosity begets increasing abundance.
I explore, experiment, learn and teach with curiosity, open-mindedness and wonder.
Humanity can relinquish judgment and caution, and choose to learn from everything.
I enjoy all my emotions and therefore am not attached or stuck.
We all can release our attachment to use emotions to get attention, sympathy or help.
I recognize upsets as calls for help and remembering to Love myself and others.
We each can remember to shine the light of greater awareness and forgive our judgments on any upset.
I flush the cosmic toilet easily and quickly, not allowing anyone or anything to harm me or get stuck.
We can learn to take nothing personally and to reach out with love to all.

I have chosen to play at life and enjoy all the relationships and life experiences I have along the way.
I take responsibility for my whole life and feel grateful this is so.
I do not limit my loving kindness and acceptance to those I like, but easily give to all.
I recognize that all I give is returned to me. The more I give, the more I have.
I enjoy being of service to those who call on me without regard to gaining approval or remuneration.
I learn from and with everyone.
I see and know the Divine is working in and through all I see.
I trust life is a gift to me for which I am grateful.
I recognize my worth in being without having to do or make or teach anything.
I value all life as gift of greater awareness, strengthening our capacity to let go and choose again for Love.
I love the work I do and see it all as fun, safe and easy.
I realize that only where I judge do I stress and see my life as work.
I accept myself and others as we are in the moment without getting stuck in judging, fixing or controlling.

Now that you know a little more about me….what about you?
How do you see your uniqueness?
Perhaps under all our history and illusions, we are all the same with no one unique and all equally loving.

Call me if you want to see your self healed and whole, good and just right the way you are. 800-919-2392

Loving you,
Betty Lue

I promise to love you no matter what costume you are wearing. Everyone deserves love and respect no matter what.

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Relying on our Own Strength

When we rely on ourselves, we may find ourselves cautious or afraid.
When we rely on others, we may find ourselves doubtful and distrusting.
When we rely on Source, we experience the certainty of our faith.

We make errors and learn.
We make ignorant choices and choose again.
We have limited information and limiting beliefs.
We perceive through filters of our history, beliefs and level of understanding.
We alone, with no support, are limited.

Others may advise us falsely and need our forgiveness.
Others may deceive for their own selfish interests.
Others may be limited by their life experiences, education and defensive or arrogant attitudes.
Others, even well-meaning, may err in their choices for us.

There is a Power and a Presence greater than all we see and know.
Source, Spirit, Higher Power and God, the Infinite and All Mighty, knows all.
God is the source of All Good, All Wisdom, All Power and All Love.
Relying on this ever present Source and Resource is trustworthy, dependable and True.

How do we know what to choose?
How do we tell where to go and what to do?
How can we discern what is wise and holy and helpful?
How can we live in alignment with Divine Will for the Highest Good of All?

Listen within and follow.
Quiet our minds in meditation.
Find the silent space of Peace within and ask.
When the answer is heard, felt, seen or known, be grateful.

Often we listen and do not hear.
Often we hear and do not obey.
Often we obey and do not trust.
Often we trust and do not give thanks.

Listen in the silence.
Write what you hear and feel, see and know.
Your mind may play tricks and erase the Highest Answer.
The Voice of Love and Peace, Joy and Ease is the Voice of God.

Everyone can hear.
Everyone can receive Higher Guidance.
Everyone can know the Way.
Everyone can find the Path to Happiness and Inner Peace.

My Path is to Love and to Listen,
Betty Lue

If you wish facilitation of your inner listening, please call or ask for some time with me.
I am more than happy to share this fun, safe, easy path to freedom, fulfillment and happiness. 800-919-2392.

Our greatest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light,
not our darkness,
that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
“Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that others won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some of us,
it is in everyone,
and as we let our own light shine
we unconsciously give other people permission
to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear
our presence automatically liberates others.
Maryann Williamson

Tuesday, November 15, 2005

Why Are You Here?

If you don't know your purpose in being here, where do you find meaning?
If you are unsure about your value, how do you know what to do?
If you are confused about what to do in life, why take impeccable care of you?
How would your life change if you acted as though everything matters?
What if all life depends on you and your choices?
What if the consequences of your actions, your words and your thoughts determine our fate?

You matter to all of us on this planet.
Your whole life makes a difference.
Your private thoughts and activities are seen and heard.
Your choices lead others to make their choices.

Having just returned from Asheville, NC where Robert and I led a Leadership workshop,
I am fully aware that each moment matters.
How I give and the attitude I have makes a difference.

We touch lives by how we live more than by what we say.
We teach by the words we speak everyday more than when we are giving a lecture.
We heal with our caring and kindness more than with pills and techniques.
We love more with gratitude and trust than with gifts and nice words.

Our world is touched, healed and saved one person at a time.
Humanity is blessed, inspired and encouraged one person at a time.

You are the giver and the recipient.
You are the teacher and the student.
You are the physician and the healed.
You are the savior and the servant.
Everything we give is given to ourselves.

I see You. I know You. I love You.
And I am counting on You.
Betty Lue

It was a joy being in Asheville with all of you, both new and familiar friends.
We loved giving my Mom's condo a total makeover, renewing the energy with the art of placement.
Using visualization, affirmation and clearing out the old, it opens the space of creativity and renewal.
Practical Feng Shui is an art and science in which I practice, teach and offer home consultations.

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Encourage the Best

We are flying off to Asheville, NC tomorrow early AM to spend time with my Mom and help with computer, home renewal, offering a workshop "Leading from the Heart, Empowering Yourself and Others" and book signings for Robert and I at Malaprops Bookstore. It will be a full and eventful five days of time with dear friends and supporters, as well as meeting new friends. Always know you can contact us via #800-919-2392 voicemail. Stay Awake, teach Love and give your Best.

To encourage the best in yourself and others, you need to reinforce what you want to strengthen and grow.
Psychological research and metaphysical truth has demonstrated that what you give attention to increases.

What you pay attention to , with negative criticism or with laughter and enjoyment, will be repeated.
Attention reinforces the value of the behavior.
Getting upset and angry will often encourage.
When people cannot get positive reactions, they look for any reaction at all, including being punished.
Children who are ignored will get in trouble or hurt themselves just to get the attention of their parents.
The clown or distracter is created by laughter, amusement and our attention.
The difficult or disobedient child is simply looking for Love in all the wrong ways.
The helpless or needy child gets attention and help from their helplessness.
The independent, helpful and heroic child get approval for their behavior.
The same is true for adults as for children.

All beings are seeking to be loved, valued, needed and given attention.
Rewards encourage the behavior being rewarded.
Punishments encourage the behavior being punished.
Both will reinforce the behavior.

The most effective way to extinguish behavior is to ignore it.
Ignoring requires no notice, no laughter, no comments, no anger or critical comment.

The effective parent will notice what behavior they want to encourage.
You can encourage with laughter, applause, approval, gratitude, touch, gift, privileges, special time.
When encouraged skillfully, even the difficult person can be encouraged to give their best.

These same principles of reinforcement and extinguishing behaviors can also be applied to oneself.
Give yourself reward of attention, appreciation and love for those habits and choices you want to make.
Ignore, forgive, let go and easily release any negative attention to behaviors you want to undo.

All of us have grown up learning to give and get negativity when we do something wrong.
Few have grow up getting appreciation for doing what is "right".
We have created a culture where terror, drugs, illness and problems are rewarded with constant focus in media, education, politics, and social interaction. And they are increasing.
It is time for each one of us to reward those in our presence who are contributing, living in integrity, making a difference without seeking attention. It is also time to look for the behaviors in those in trouble which we can appreciated and encourage.

Use the power of positive attention to encourage what you want to build in yourself, your family, you community and world.

Encouraging us all to be our best,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 08, 2005


To live by your highest spiritual principles in all relationships builds families.
To treat your family members as you do your best friends builds trust.
To speak with kindness and courtesy to everyone renews respect.
To honor your word and keep your promises inspires confidence.

Many give their family members their leftovers and hand-me-downs.
When we are tired, sick or unhappy, it is often those closest who reap the disregard.
Many give their family financial security and things, but forget emotional security and love.
When we serve the bills and not the love, we get lost, confused and consumed with stress.

How you honor your mate, your parents and your children creates your own destiny.
When you give your best to others and your least to those at home, everyone loses.
Learning to renew yourself before you greet your mate and children will increase their happiness.
Respecting their needs as much or more than your own wins their loyalty and support.

When there is friction, schisms and problems, dwell not on the negativity, but look for the Good.
When there is a sore, don't keep picking on it, but rise up and feed the health.
When you find yourself caught in a conflict between those fighting, step back and offer warmth and light.
When you are in a fearful state and don't know the solution, simply acknowledge your caring.

With your authenticity, your love will be received.
With your honesty, your apology will be noted.
With your declared intention to find a better way, others will reflect and respond.
With your renewed choices to give your best to all, others will respect your forgiveness and generosity.

It always serves the giver to give.
All that I give is given to myself.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness.
The price of forgiveness is giving up defensiveness and resentment.

Respecting all of us in our intention to teach only LOVE,
Betty Lue

Monday, November 07, 2005


Why do we let babies cry?
Why do we yell at our loved ones?
Why do we get drunk and act like fools?
Why do we not clean our glasses?
Why do we eat junk food?
Why do we watch ignorant and disrespectful stuff on TV?
Why do we let our kids play violent video games?
Why do we spend money on clothes and trinkets but give to the disaster folks?
Why do we ignore our own needs for quiet and alone time?
Why do we stuff ourselves unconsciously with negativity and unhealthy stuff?
Why do we waste time on what doesn't matter and avoid what really matters?

Humanity makes an interesting study.
We are given the power of choice.
Yet, often we make unhealthy and unnatural choices.
If we were more like the animals, we would take care of basic needs first.
If we were conscious and awake, we would take care of our young impeccably.
If were mindful, we would conserve when we have less.
If we were loving, we would respond when anyone cries with total willingness to help.
If we were happy, we would do and have and give only happy stuff.
If we were healthy, we would eat, watch and serve only the healthiest foods.
If we were peaceful, we would create and sell only peace-making ideas and toys.
If we were fulfilled, we would see only to fulfill everyone's highest dreams.

What makes us unconscious, lazy, selfish and foolish?
What are we teaching the next generation?

We teach first by our example and how we live daily.
We teach second by what we give and say, encourage and reward.
We create and teach by everything we think and say and do in private and in public.
It works for me to ask: Is this what I want humanity to learn from me?

Being conscious, clear and committed to the highest vision create the world we see.
Choose today to find a better way to live and give, to love and serve.

It only takes one to make a difference.
And you are the One.
Betty Lue

Don’t forget about our Leadership Training Asheville, NC this weekend, plus book signings and talks at the Malaprops bookstore.

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Sunday, November 06, 2005

Church Anyone?

What is your "church"
Where do you go to remember?
Where do you go to think about how to Love?
What do you do to find a better way?
How do you get quiet enough to listen to your heart?
What inspires you to heal and grow the gifts inside of you?
What brings you to a greater sense of peace and wholeness?
Who lifts your spirit, opens your mind and encourages you to give of yourself?
How do you support yourself in remembering Love is the only true and lasting power?

Some go to a building with a community of people who believe as they do.
Some stay in bed and watch sports all day.
Some do chores around the house and play with their kids.
Some take excursions to places of interest.
Some read inspiring books.
Some have a home-based spiritual practice of yoga, meditation and prayer.
Some watch a TV ministry like Hour of Power.
Some contribute to their community by volunteering.
Some get on the phone and call those who are alone or in need.
Everyone must renew their Spirit with some form of inspiration and upliftment.

What do you do?
For me it changes, because I am "in church" everyday of my life.

All that I do has meaning for me and so I am inspired and renewed daily.
The love of God and Goodness is ever-present in all my relationships.
I practice the Presence and am willing to serve as I am guided always.

Today Robert and I take the twin babies to Treasure Island (by the Bay) to watch their Mom and Dad play in a triathlon. It will be a first for all of us. I am What a way to spend a day in Joy and Peace and Love.

Thank you God.
Betty Lue

Saturday, November 05, 2005

Beginning Again

There is no end to beginning again.
Just when life seems to be settled and comfortable, change happens.
Adventure calls. Problems arise. The weather changes. Someone needs our help.
There is no end to the invitation for healing and growth throughout life.

Our soul (sole) purpose in being here is to experience.
Life's experiences are designed by our soul, our higher self, to Awaken us to Love freely and Live fully.

Lazy living is for those who choose to go slow, stay comfortable, to protect their attachments.
Some say we only need therapy or help from another when we get stuck.

Life is the greatest teacher.
When I get settled for that "long winter's nap", I soon will be awakened by the clatter on my rooftop.

Surprise and the unexpected happen.
How we handle it is our choice.
With judgment and resistance, we struggle and suffer.
With trust and curiosity, we embrace and enjoy.

With dozens of moves, all variety of homes, different lifestyles and economic circumstances, I have experienced an expansive array of opportunities to heal and grow. Usually with the attitude of an innocent child, a happy willing learner, I have truly enjoyed the forgiveness, flexibility and fun of each new beginning. With a beginner's mind there is no arrogance, no attachment to "My way", nothing to protect, and nothing to prove. Happiness is the reward and Love is the path. Returning more to family service through our grand children and Robert's Mom, adapting to the shifts in spiritual partnership due to Robert's health challenges, and serving in passive community, has taught me patience and gentle perseverance, gentling of my passionate and persuasive communications, and return to the basics of self healing and cultivation of my inner garden.

There is much to be said for release of the past to begin here and now.
There is much to be learned by forgiving all history and story-telling, reminiscing with glory or regret.
There is much to be gained with childlike curiosity and wonder, expectation and enjoyment.
There is much to be received by living in the present practicing thee Presence and Fullness of Love.
There is much to be lived when we are willing to Love as we have never loved before.

I am beginning again, ever-renewed in faith and hope and Love for You and All,
Betty Lue

Do You believe in the unseen or just having fun? I carved those pumpkins, dressed the girls in their ducky suits and took the photos. And I LOVE those three beings,, just like I love YOU! Smile...and if you can’t find your delight,, call me for an appointment!

Friday, November 04, 2005

All Children

All children belong to all of us.
All children are our future.
All children come from the same loving creator/parent.
All children deserve to be loved equally.
All children are all our responsibility.
All children long to belong.
All children seek to love and be loved.
All children need a safe, warm and nurturing place to thrive.
All children need positive happy healthy role models.
All children are full of wonder, curiosity and delight.
All children are hungry to learn and grow, to contribute and enjoy.
All children need opportunities to create what works for them uniquely.
All children are our teachers.
All of us are children.

In a very real sense we are novices, beginners.
Every moment there is new information, adventures and possibilities open for us.
In our hearts we can feel and know the higher Truth.
In our minds we prefer to find more Light and life, more freedom and trust.
In our lives we seek to live in harmony with peace and freedom.
In our work we long to be productive, creative, inspired and valued.
In our homes we want safety and comfort, recreation and renewal.
All of us want the essential needs of food, water, clothing and shelter without fear of disaster or lack.
All of us deserve to have educational and recreational opportunities which expand and inspire us.
All of us prefer to be included, appreciated and wanted.

How do you feel when someone lights up when you come into the room?
How do you feel when you are received with a warm welcome and openness?
How do you feel when you are validated and appreciated?
How do you feel when someone seeks the pleasure of your company? (asks for a "playdate")
How do you feel when someone hugs you when you are sad and listens when you are mad?
How do you feel when someone prepares your special foods you love?
How do you feel when someone admires your creations and good work?

How do you treat the children in your life?
How do you treat your inner child?
How do you treat the child in the grownup's body?
How do you treat the grownup wisdom in the child's body?
How do your expectations and judgments interfere with loving others, big or little, right where they are?
How do you treat those who come into your life, intimately or casually?
Can you be as conscious with those in family relationships as those in casual relationship?
Does everyone get your very best, no matter who they are?

Loving you all equally,
Betty Lue

(See below the Love and joy, the peace and power that is exuded from all who are totally loved.)
You too can feel this way. Everything is possible for those who Love!! And are Loved!!

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Secret transformative power: Love works.
When you truly love others as you want to be loved,
you see only positive results.

Love does not judge.

Love does not quit.

ve does not need. Love does not expect.
Love Loves all equally for the sake o
f loving.

When you stay fully present with what is happening right now,
Life can truly be fun, safe and easy. Try it and you will see.

Thursday, November 03, 2005

Values and Valuing

What is true family?
What is true community?
What is true intimacy?
What is true partnership?

What is real and authentic is true.
What is covered, secretive and pretended is false.
Where we seek to get what we believe we cannot or do not have, we manipulate, bargain and demand.
Where we strive to get from others, we believe they must lose for us to win.
Where we want to win at another's expense, we destroy the relationship and undermine what is true.
When anyone loses faith, dignity, respect, self worth and confidence, everyone loses.
When we get what we want and others lose what they want, no one wins.
The individuals, relationship, family, community and nation all lose.

When we are at war in our own household, someone must be willing to choose peace.
When we are at war within our own conscience, one part of us must be willing to forgive the conflict.
When we are fighting with our neighbors, we must look for the higher ground and the greater Good.
When we are losing the battle, we must recognize that in war, no one wins.

There are many wars being waged.
War is for the weak and the ignorant.
Resentment and hatred, threat and violence, come from the cowardly and the impotent.
Negotiation, mutual respect, and true communication are for those who are strong, courageous and honest.

Wherever you are at odds, in disagreement or underseige, build a peace plan.
Make peace within yourself.
Clarify you strategy for developing your listening skills and true understanding.
Acknowledge your own conscious and unconscious errors.
Apologize for your attacks, judgments, manipulation, criticism and negative behaviors.
Give your full attention to what will make amends for your mistakes.
Honor the other's needs with your words, thoughts and behaviors.
Build an emotional bank account by developing consistent kindness, listening, contribution and care,
When you have destroyed the trust and honesty within any relationship, it takes time to rebuild.
Building a new relationship requires your vision, focus, faith, intention, commitment, preparedness, action and gratitude.
Keep in touch with your heart and Spirit within to make sure you are on track.

Remember: When you put the outcome you want before your authentic relationship, you need to be right. When you value your real relationship first, you are seeking to heal and be happy.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

Trick or Treat

Don't be afraid of doing good. It's another name for happiness, for all that is dear and delightful--this phrase "doing good." Whoever would live well, Long lasting, bringing bliss-- Let him be generous, be calm, And cultivate the doing of good. By practicing these three, These three bliss-bringing things, The wise one lives without regret His world infused with happiness. -Itivuttaka Sutta From "The Pocket Buddha Reader," edited by Anne Bancroft, 2001. Reprinted by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Boston,

Life is an opportunity for us to love, to serve and to remember what is good.
To Love, serve and remember is to increase, expand and attract.
To Love, serve and remember is to pay attention, encourage and participate.
To love, serve and remember is to teach, contribute and value.

Love unconditionally.
Serve from the heart.
Remember Goodness and God.

Some teach: Life is an opportunity to fear, to protect what we have and to ignore the Good.
Some teach: Love only those special ones who prove themselves.
Some teach: Only give when you will get in return.
Some teach: Remember the wrong done to you, so you don't let it happen again.

Life is seen from the point of view we hold.
We can look to the Light and see only Light.
Or we can look at the Dark and see only Darkness.
Life is the experimental lab in which we get to choose the result we want.

Loving you, Betty Lue

October 31 is "Hallowed evening" and the Wiccan New Year's Eve.
November 1 is "All Saint's Day".
For Robert and I it was a joy to celebrate the twins first Halloween with a visit to their Dad's law firm at lunchtime. Robert and I decorated their house with cobwebs, a large singing spider over the front door and two pumpkins I carved. We had an opportunity to participate in the neighborhood parade, to be home for the "trick or treater's" and to hand out candy to over 400 kids. This was the first time in many years that we were in a family neighborhood with lots of kids and celebration. We loved it all.

Tuesday, November 01, 2005

Being Righteously Right

Wherever we are attached to our perception, opinion, evaluation, belief, we are limited.
Wherever we argue for our viewpoint to be heard and understood, we are stuck.
Wherever we cling to the need for agreement or approval, we are limiting ourselves.
Wherever we seek to be right and make another wrong, we have closed our minds.

All blessings are seen with open-mindedness and appreciation.
All true perception is experienced when we are willing to learn.
All real intimacy happens when we listen and understand first, before making ourselves heard.
All love is found when we are joined in freedom to express and trust in all points of view.

Right perception is seeing with the eyes of forgiveness and love.
The forgiveness is for ourselves to clear our misperceptions and limiting beliefs.
When we are willing to see with forgiving eyes, we behold either Love or the call for Love.
All soul's long to love and be loved.

The highest truth moves beyond our narrow perceptions in which are minds seek to be right.
The inner wisdom guides us to follow the path to seeking goodness, beauty and wholeness.
The spiritual direction provides opportunities for healing our limiting perceptions.
The Love we are refuses to quit and chooses to seek ways and means to be happy in Love.

I know when attached, I am needy.
I know when stuck, I need to be willing.
I know when demanding, I am afraid.
I know when weak, I am defensive.

I forgive my judgments and mistaken perceptions.
I am willing to be wrong.
I love my mistakes.
I learn from everyone and everything.
I am open and willing to find the Highest Good for All.

Always Loving you and All,
Betty Lue

May the light of love and devotion shine brightly in your hearts.
May the light of understanding shine in your minds.
May the light of harmony glow in your home.
May the light of service shine forth ceaselessly from your hands.
May the light of peace emanate from your being.
May your presence light the lamps of love and peace wherever you go.
May your smile, your words and your actions be as sweet as the sweets of this festive season.
May Maha Laxmi bring you the true wealth of health, happiness, peace and spiritual upliftment.

Diwali blessing by Swami Chidanand Saraswati (Muniji):