What Do You Do When Plans Change?

Are you flexible?
Are you willing to laugh?
Do you stay open to what is present?
Can you adjust without resistance or worry?

We are on vacation, taking a six day sabbatical.
Our intention was to spend time in San Diego on a houseboat.
We always make loose plans, because circumstances often change.
So they did and we adjusted quickly and easily.

Short story:
After a rather sleepless night with the sewage smell in our houseboat,
we decided to check out and return home to a place of peace and beauty, ease and joy.
The vacation timeshare took care of us.
Southwest Airlines took care of us.
Trader Joe’s took back our unused groceries.
And our home always provides sanctuary and renewal for us.

We are using our time to create goodness, beauty and wholeness.
We feel blessed and are doing little things more leisurely.
We are planning and shopping for the renewal and preparation of the Reunion Lake House.
We are creating from a place of joy and love and gratitude.

Where there is forgiveness, there is instant letting go.
Where there is letting go, there is perfect trust.
Where there is perfect trust, there is listening within.
Where there is listening within, there is guidance and inner peace.

And so it is that we have enjoyed our holidays (Holy days).
And yes, we have accomplished designing and purchase of paint and carpet, furnishings and drapes, bathroom vanities, doors, etc all with laughter and ease .
We are creating a retreat home for all who seek to renew themselves with joy and inner peace.
We are offering a gift of Love to our churches, Unity and Reunion, our friends, students and families.

Yes, this is the space we have held in our visioning for many years, looking in Oregon and N. Calif.
It is two hours from the Bay Area and our Rio Vista home.
It offers the serenity of nature and has many parks and trails to hike.
The community of Hidden Valley Lakes has both year round residents and vacationers.
The local area has many different cultures all blended together, so is truly friendly and helpful.
The pace is slower with people looking out for one another.
The natural beauty is awesome and inspiring.
The Reunion Lake House has a beautiful vista overlooking the lake.
We are within a short walk of the “little beach” with a kids playground and picnic area.
The yard will be easy to clean up and plant more beauty.
I am creating a Zen meditation garden with fountain in the front yard.
There will be play areas in the back yard.
Sleeping space for many in the house and the community has its own campground.
Lots of amenities, pool, tennis, golf, etc. Fun for all ages.
Lots of organic produce and products in the Middletown grocery store.

Notice that I am enthused about getting the Lake House ready for you to visit.
I love to create sacred spaces for all to enjoy and remember the Love and Wisdom within.

Blessings to us all as we remember:
“Everything always works more exquisitely than we can plan!”
Betty Lue

Keep alert, stand firm in your faith, be courageous, be strong.
Let all that you do be done in love."--1 Corinthians 16:13-14

Willingness + Flexibility Yield Success!

The willing ones always can find a way around the obstacles.
The flexible ones keep trying options until they succeed.
Those who are both willing to explore and never quit, eventually succeed.
Those who are flexible in their ideas, perceptions, approach and determination always win.

Failing comes when we have a fixed goal and are unwilling to be open to alternative outcomes.
Loss is experienced when we believe we know what is best and are unwilling to change our minds.
What if we discover that what we thought we wanted is not highest and best for those we love?
What if we learn that everything always works more exquisitely than we can plan?

Is it possible that what we seek is unhealthy and yields unhappiness?
Are we willing to look at our choices differently?
Are we open to the possibility that only when we let go of safe, can we reach for what is Great?
Are we willing to be responsible for playing our part fully, giving our best and trust the outcome?

Recently I have watched how I save pennies thinking it was a good deal, while spending extra time.
I have seen how false economy can lead to missing what is really the highest choice in that time.
I noticed how people eat in a restaurant for $50-$100, and complain about fees of $50-$100/hr.
My Dad used to grocery shop at 4 different stores to save money from coupons and specials.
(He had the time and loved the social interaction. Saving money was his excuse.)

As I was buying a backpack on wheels for my granddaughter, I thought all those money conscious thoughts and explored excessively, while imagining she would not appreciate the money spent.
These are judgments which are unnecessary and unloving. This is thinking which is not helpful and denies the love which seeks to give her the best to care for her back. I stopped myself and asked for Robert’s encouragement to do the “right” thing, the loving thing and simply give what she wanted and needed.

My gift to you and me today is:
Remember to do and spend and give only and always with Love and Gratitude.
Realize we live in a world of judgmental opinions, false beliefs, cultural myths as well as common sense.
Recognize we are here to love and respect, trust and support one another in being happy and healthy.
Return to the ways that are innocent and natural, giving always and only with childlike Joy and Love.

Be willing to open the door of your heart and spend time, money and energy on what you love.
Be open to trusting and freeing your creative and giving nature.
Be honest with yourself about medicating the pain of not loving with temporary excessive pleasures.
Be forgiving of those areas of false spending, giving to get and stepping away from your heart’s desires.

Love yourself and others well today.
Succeed at doing what you love for the sake of Love.
Allow your flexible and creative spirit to show you the way.
Give up past ways of withholding Love and contradicition of values.

Give Love and Love will give to you.
Live Joy and Happiness will be your gift.
Be Peace and see Peace in you life.
Set Your Self free to Be the One you seek.

Loving you, Betty Lue

Love is willing.
Love is protection.
Love is healing.
Love is happiness.
Love is God.
Yes, Second time to share this everyday miracle of love.
Simply Love.
Be patient.
Appreciate the opportunity to give love.
Trust all is well.
Sometimes we see the miracle with our human senses .............
Sometimes the miracle occurs without physical proof beyond this world.

God as a resurrected dragonfly!
Reiki hands and lots of loving appreciation and she flew away to our delight.

Give Your Self To Love, If Love Is What You Want

You are a Gift of Love……………….
Perhaps feeling depleted?
Perhaps wrapped so tightly, no one can see the Love in You?
Perhaps afraid to Be the Love You Are?
Perhaps distrusting of what Love brings?
Perhaps losing yourself in unrequited Love for one other?
Perhaps hopelessly and foolishly giving your self to a Love that failed?
Perhaps grieving for a Loved One lost?

Loving is your Essence.
Love is the Life Energy in You.
Love is your way of creating.
Love is how to navigate through Life.

Learning to move through the obstacles is the value of consciousness.
Letting go of fear, resistance, painful memories, grievances and resentment is the work.
Healing, Clearing, Releasing, Erasing and Forgiving the past is essential to love again.
“Innocentize “ (sanitize your innocence) to remember what pure Love brings.

Surely Loving is better that fearing, hating, hurting and resenting.
Surely it is better to give Love and radiate what is Good than to wait for Love to come to you.
Surely you can find something or someone to Love to release the pain and pressure of not loving.
Surely you prefer a life of joy and empowerment, than a life of sorrow and depression.

Love really is more than the human mind understands.
For much of humanity, love is enticement and seduction, seeking pleasure and self gratification.
Most media portrays Love is something to seek, to get your needs made and fulfill your life.
Many people seem to think loving is about getting something in return, “giving to get”.

Human love encourages expectations and conditions.
Human love fails and disappoints us.
Human love has obstacles, challenges and difficulties.
Human love varies with moods, seasons, health, thoughts and feelings.

True Love is the energy from which we live and have our Being.
Real Love lasts for all time and eternity with steadfastness and constancy.
Pure Love knows no boundaries, no specialness, no neediness.
Perfect love is free of fear, unaffected by thoughts, feelings, obstacles or limitations.

To really Love is to give your whole self Life, Joy, Peace and Power.
To really Love is to Love your whole and holy Life.
To really Love is to fully realize your path and your purpose.
To really Love is to use everything as an invitation to give your Love fully and freely.

Breathe into the love you are.
Remember the joy of the first sunset.
Remember the freedom of running on the beach.
Remember the joy of pure ecstasy somewhere in your life.
Remember the Gift of Being the Real Love You Are.

Love anyway.
Love no matter what.
Love simply for the Joy of Loving.
Love works.
Love never ends.

I am loving you with passion, with purpose, without limit and without end.
Betty Lue

Note: Today to Petaluma for the Grand Two, Gia (11) and Sofia (almost 4).
Then to Hidden Valley Lake, to choose paint, carpet and more for the Reunion Lake House, a place for spiritual retreat…..You are invited, because we Love! No loving Reminders tomorrow, because we will not have computer….. Next week we are in San Diego Harbor on a houseboat sabbatical, so probably no computer. Always can be reached with the 800-919-2392

Motivate! Educate! Illuminate!

We are in school.
Everyone is our teacher.
Love is the lesson.
Delight shows us the way.

To motivate and inspire, we must be motivated and inspired.
What motivates and inspires you?
What gives you the feelings that you want to learn and grow?
What helps you work to help and know?

When the teacher is critical and cranky, we feel bad and afraid.
When the teacher is appreciative and happy, we feel hopeful and determined.
When the lesson is difficult and serious, we feel tight and stressed.
When the lesson is fun, safe and easy, the learning is enjoyable and empowering.

How we show up in our families and workplaces, as well as with ourselves, determines the outcome of our life’s teaching and learning experiences.

Where there is Love (freedom and trust), we feel safe to explore our own unique ways of learning.
Where there is Joy, (inspiration and appreciation), we feel motivated and encouraged.
Where there is Opportunity (creative possibilities), we feel challenged and capable.
Where there is Positive regard (gratitude and affirmation), we feel supported and valued.

Each one of us is a teacher to those who see us, hear us and know us.
Consider what your thoughts, words and actions are teaching.
Are you focused on your work and making money?
Are you stressed and upset with your family?
Are you living the way you want your children and society to live?
Are you a giver or a taker?
Are you enjoying life or simply surviving day to day?
Are you critical and negative or appreciative and positive?
Are you respectful in all your relationships, using common courtesies?
Do you refrain from using pronaity, name-calling and crude languaging?
Are you emotions under control with no need to use ange rand threats or tears and guilt?
Do you treat your children with the greatest kindness, patience and understanding?
Do you listen with your whole mind and heart rather than jump to conclusions?
Do you care as much about your family as you do about your clients and those in business?
Are you living the values you want for your children and those in future generations?
Do you clean up after yourself everywhere or expect someone else to do it for you?
Do you feel proud of your use of your time and money, even when no one is watching?
Are you aware of how much how you live and love and give determines the quality of your life?

You are here to motivate yourself and others.
You are here to educate yourself and others.
You are here to illuminate yourself and others.

I am inspired to learn and light the way as I go,
Betty Lue
Note: We are in San Diego October 5-10, so no classes during the week.
I am available immediately by phone and by delayed email.

How Do You Love?

If you were to grade yourself on your loving, how would you do?
What are the places that you love really well?
Who isn’t receiving unconditional love from you?
How can you undo the places where you are blocking love?

What I get about people is that they have learned unloving habits.
Children are taught to be careful with love and they fear being rejected.
Adults learn to withhold love because they fear being disappointed.
Parents learn to use their withdrawal of love as a punishment.

How do you want to be loved?
Teach love by treating others with the Love you want.
How do you want to be motivated?
Inspire others by giving Love the way that inspires you.

While it is true we are all different, our needs for love are the same.
While it is true, we live in a different time and culture, everyone is benefited from being loved.
While it is true, some push away, challenge and even avoid being loved, everyone needs Love.
It is up to the most conscious ones, me and you, to Love through all obstacles and challenges.

So stop bullying, threatening and withholding Love.
Stop criticizing, hurting and offending others.
Stop comparing, negating and demoralizing others.
Stop shaming and blaming, and making others feel guilty.

These learned behaviors never work.
They only create fear and humiliation, anger and resentment.
These habits of unconsciousness simply turn people off.
They cause more fear and less love for themselves and others.

The time is now to forgive ourselves for our unloving habits.
The time is now to simply love loving others.
The time is now to open up the channels to love.
The time is now to bless and release our reasons for not loving.

It is through expanding our willingness and capacity to love through all barriers that we become Great!
It is by release the resistance to Loving that we strengthen our power to Love.
It is by clearing our “Lovesclerosis” that we find energy, vitality and radiant health.
It is in pardoning, understanding, giving and loving that we recognize our own Goodness.

Love is the answer to all questions.
Love is the healing of all our wounds.
Love is the power that undoes all fear.
Love is the Gift that recognizes our Greatness.

I am loving you and me and all as one,
Betty Lue

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to LOVE!

Everything I Do For You!

Know you are blessed by every blessing everywhere.
While it may not be for you personally, all good deeds are for everyone!
Everything I do for anyone, I do for you!
Everything you do for anyone, you do for me!

When I take good care of me, I do it for You.
When I am a happy grandma, I do it for You.
When I remember to Love without fear, I do it for You.
When I love my home, my work and my life, I do it for You.

To transform the planet with a Spirit of Love, I need to Love being here.
To awaken all people to the Spirit of Peace, I need to be peaceful.
To enjoy the abundant life we have together, I need to be grateful.
To remind my world of responsible creation, I need to appreciate my creations.

Life is a game where we all can win.
Love is a Truth we all need to learn.
Peace is a Gift we all must share.
Gratitude is our path to get us there.

There is a song we all can sing.
Only when we live it fully will be remember.
In our remembering, we come together in peace.
In our forgiving, peace with freedom and trust can be reached.

You are my playmates, my soul-mates and friends.
You are the dreamers, the teachers, the ones who pretend.
Together we are making a difference with each word and each deed.
As one, we wake up and remember only Love is our creed.

So let’s dance together, sing our songs of good cheer.
Let’s do for each other what we all claim to be dear.
Let us remember what we do for one other, we do for all.
Let us unite in forgiving, teaching only Love is our call.

We can do it.
We are doing it.
Simply one at a time.
See the gift in each person.
See the blessing in this rhyme.

You are my gift as I am a gift to you.
You are my teacher, my healer, my Self.
When I love you and you love me.
We are all joyously and simply free to be.

I am loving you, yes, YOU!
Betty Lue

Time for You

What do you do with your time?
Do you take time for you?
Do you know where your time goes?
What we spend our time on usually designates what we value, our priorities.

So what do you value? Where do you spend your time?
Usually people spend time on work, TV, computer, worry, spending, talking or texting on the phone.
If you want to know what it is that consumes your time and energy, make a list of time spent.
Do a time effectiveness study and really find out where you focus your attention.
Make a list of all your daily or weekly activities and then log how much time you spend daily.
You may discover that your time expenditures do not reflect what is really important.

Some Possible Higher Values
Your health and fufilment, learning and personal growth, inspiration and spiritual growth
Family, kids, parents and partner, Life Purpose, Community Service, Visioning and living your dreams.

How can you spend your more time on what really matters to you?
Look at your daily schedule.
Make appointments with yourself to do first things first.
Schedule time for meditation, exercise, learning, inspiration, loving communication and service.
Make sure you are living your highest priorities rather than putting out the fires of urgency.
Often we let the squeaky or “complaining” wheel take precedence rather than honoring what is real.

My schedule includes quiet time every morning (usually the first 2-3 hours is totally silent).
I write my Loving Reminders, listening within for inner direction and guidance.
Breakfast is a time of gratitude and appreciation of the beauty and goodness within and around me.
The bed is always made first. The house is picked up before bedtime, so we awaken to order.
Meditation and inspiration time may be in reading, writing, walking, t’ai Chi chih or creating.
Often there is beautiful inspiring background music
My work is to hold a quiet mind, open to receive inner direction.
My work is to hold an open heart, ready to respond with love to all that is presented.
My work is to be a flowing vessel, channeling what is for the highest Good of all Creation.

Life is truly fun, safe and easy when I am fluid, flexible, open and willing to be a channel for Good.

I take time for me in simple ways.
· Breathing deeply with gratitude.
· Preparing home cooked meals that nourish and please me with their color and flavor.
· Keeping my home and my life in order and harmony with all things working together for Good.
· Filling my mind with inspiring thoughts, images, sounds and experiences.
· Using everything and everyone to be a loving reminder, reminding me to give and receive only Love.
· Knowing that my intention everyday in everyway is to generously and joyfully give the Love I am.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

What Does Love Look Like?

Love doesn’t always say what we want to hear.
Love isn’t always the pretty picture we want to see.
Love may not always be nice or sweet or gentle.
Love may firmly say “No” or “Stop” when it is for the best of All concerned.

What love does is hold the best intention for all.
What love does is include trust and respect into every encounter.
What love does is allow people to be who they really are.
What love does is invite people to feel safe to express what they want and need.
What love does is respond with wisdom, direction and confidence.
What love does is stop hurtful and harmful interaction.
What love does is forgive what has been and open the door to what can be.
What love does is create win-win solutions.
What love does is remember the intrinsic Goodness within everyone.

Love is giving everyone the space to choose again.
Love easily forgives and moves on.
Love answers the call for Love with ease and gratitude.
Love is willing to play the part that will be most help.
Love is patient and gives itself freely and consistently over time.
Love does not change course or waver over time.
Love speaks up to stop harm and prevent guilt and blame.
Love believes in the Being and forgive the doing.
Love knows and trusts in the Essence, the Source, within all creation.
Love is the answer, no matter what the question.

Trust what is in your heart. Forgive everything else.

“Love is real. Everything else illusion.” ACIM
“Only Love prevails.” Carol Hanson
“The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.” Betty Lue

LOVE
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference
How deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Teach By Example

Today is my grand daughter’s birthday.
Beautiful Gianina is 11 years old today.
She is a truly beautiful being with only love in her heart.
She lives and teaches by her example.

Teach By Example

Do you make your bed in the morning?
Are you grateful that you have a bed?
Do you eat meals you prepare with consciousness?
Are you thankful that you have nutritious food?
Do you breathe the air and greet the day with gratitude?
Do you respect your life and the life of those around you?
Are you aware that your appreciation influences everyone you encounter?
Do you notice that your consciousness and conscientiousness makes a difference?

Your energy matters.

If you are cranky, those you live with and talk to receive “cranky” energy.
If you are happy, those you encounter receive your positive energy.
And yes, the more you are emitting positive energy, the less you will pick up on the negative energy.
The more you are feeling negative and needy, the more you will absorb whatever is in your space.

When we have guilt, regret or shame, we withhold our energy.
Our energy becomes distorted with fear, contraction, and toxicity.
Where we have forgiven all our mistakes and are choose again the best we know, our energy is healthy.
When we are judging, withholding, blaming or grieving, our energy is unhealthy for everyone.

How do I do it?
Even though I listen to and flush, clear and forgive lots of yucky stuff, I stay positive.
I flush the cosmic toilet and release all the toxic material quickly and easily.
I choose to use the poopy stuff as fertilizer for growth when neutralized with forgiveness.
I remember nothing but what is good and helpful, essential and true, loving and blessed.

Bless your life.
Bless your past.
Bless your relationships.
Bless your experiences.

Give each day to the highest Good you know.
Live each day being the Person you strive to be.
Share each day stories of gratitude and joy.
Erase each day memories of mistakes and pain.

Make your bed and clean up your space with appreciation.
Enjoy each meal with gratitude for those who serve you (especially yourself!).
Speak each word with respect for those who hear you.
Live each moment as though you are teaching your world what you want the world to be.

You see, it really is all up to you!
Your life is truly what you make it.

Loving the Good in You with all my heart and mind and spirit,
Betty Lue

We celebrated last week.
Gia’s sister Sofi with a chocolate frosting mustache.

Structure, Order and Harmony

Special Note: NO sugar, no pain!
I have been doing an experiment, as I often do, with the physical body.
I am 100% clear that this body vehicle has pain when I eat sugar! (even just a few spoonfuls a day).
And I have no physical aches and pains when I eliminate it from my diet.
(Yes, there is still some in my soy milk and in the seasoned rice vinegar I use for dressing and flavoring)

If you have aches and pains (or any chronic problem), consider experimenting with dietary changes!
It costs nothing, is non-invasive and offers extraordinary results for those who are extra sensitive.

Structure, Order and Harmony

Chaos breeds chaos.
Confusion causes confusion.
Unconscious and lazy lifestyles encourage unconscious and lazy behaviors.
Living without order and structure generates unproductive and disharmonious relationships.

Some live formally with sit down meals, clothes folded and in drawers, closets tidy.
Some live informally with catch-as-you-can meals, clothes in piles and closets messy.
Neither is better or worse, unless it makes you crazy, distracted, guilty or sucks energy.
We each have our own “natural” (it is learned very early), way to live and feel secure.

In relationships where there is conflict, closets, bedrooms and living space order must be negotiated.
I usually recommend that it is up to the most conscious person to respect the one whose need is greatest.
Do it for the good of the family peace?
In relationships with our selves and our living and working communities, we need to find a balance.

I learn and grow from honoring everything.
I honor my time.
I honor my relationships.
I honor my creations.
I honor my life.
I honor my world.

In life we discover as we give positive attention to what we have and do and are, we are benefited.
We learn that what we own or experience is a reflection of our caring, our respect and our value.

When we value ourselves, we learn to take impeccable care of what is ours, what is in our life.
When we take impeccable care of everything we encounter, our life is rich with Goodness and prosperity.
When we have too much for which we are responsible, we become out of balance and out of integrity.
When we are able to give quality care to our home, our work, our health, our finances, our relationships, we feel whole and capable and valuable.

When we are unable to give our best everyone to everyone, we feel guilt, fear and often blame others.
The plants wither, relationships die, love fades, self confidence diminishes and we lose.
In this world of seeking MORE, we often wind up with Less, simply because we do not value the MORE!
It serves us to have only that which we value and care for and to consciously let go of the rest.

Key questions:
What do you really value in life!
Where do you give your time, energy and resources?
What are your top priorities?
Usually they are our topics of conversation, where we spend our time and money.

These worldly or accustomed values are often learned, but not what we really value.
In our feeding our distractions, disappointment, dependencies, delay and devalues, we lose what we value.
When we are growing our business and investment account, we may be killing our family harmony.
When we leave some parts of our lives in disarray and make the rest the best, we are out of integrity.

How you tend to your home life is like tending a garden of love, possibility and success for all.
How you wake up each morning and spend the early hours, sets the tone for the day.
How you speak with those you love and care for determines how you feel about yourself.
How you live your life in the secret places is the foundation for your confidence and success.

It is important for each one of us to find the highest and best what to live, love and give.
It is essential that we support ourselves by living true to our own values.
It is necessary that we take impeccable care of ourselves and what we value and want to grow.
It is our responsibility to give our best, keep our agreements, forgive offenses, and attend to what matters.

Loving you in waking up to what matters and give what you love your very best!
Betty Lue

Discussion and Support Wednesday Evenings

Principle-Centered Relationships:
“Harmonious Living with Integrity”

Using the tools of vision, honesty, equality, commitment and responsibility, we can develop healthy successful relationships. When we clarify and focus on our principles for life, we can build and maintain positive and productive relationships with ourselves and others.

“Relationships are created and sustained from inside out.
When we know, accept and respect ourselves, we can accept and respect others.”
Two Wednesdays monthly with active homework and observation in between.
Suggested contribution of $35/eve or $50/mo. 7-8:30PM
All sincere participants are welcome no matter what you contribute.
September 9 and 23, October 14 and 21, November 4 and 18, December 2 and 16.

The Effectiveness of Civility

Sun in Libra at 2:19 PM PDT today.
The Sun's entry into cooperative Libra marks a change of seasons. It's the Fall Equinox when day and night are equal and we seek a new balance in ourselves and our relationships. A willingness to meet others halfway can build bridges between allies and adversaries that replace conflict with harmony. However, it's important to maintain self-respect and equality for partnerships to flourish rather than simply giving in to placate others.

The Effectiveness of Civility

Ego Emotes. Spirit Creates.

Like little children who are feeling helpless and out of control, human emotions erupt.
No matter what the age, without control, people can emotionally destroy one another.
No matter what the education, personalities flare us and do and say things that are cruel.
No matter how well-intentioned, people who are afraid will behave like out of control children.

Temper tantrums, throwing things, hitting, being cruel, calling names, bulleying are all immature behaviors. In our society these behaviors seem to be expected and accepted by many.
In the therapeutic model people may be encouraged to “dump” their toxic feelings.
In the media, there is entertainment value found in exaggerating the awful behaviors of humanity.

Where are the role models?
What are the boundaries?
Are there appropriate ways to behave?
Have we lost our civility?

Can you keep your ugly thoughts to yourself?
Are you willing to teach yourself to bite your tongue?
Are you open to master self control and self discipline?
Can you treat others as you want to be treated?

Do you see yourself as teacher and role model for your world?
Or are you a child lost in abusive relationships and worldly victimization?
Is it time to take responsibility for all your debts and your affairs?
Are you willing to stop blaming, procrastinating and using guilt and shame to shut you down?

Infants only know how to cry and whine to express their needs.
Toddlers focus totally on themselves to get their needs met. “me-me”
Young children become pleasers and do whatever is asked to get their needs met.
Older children and adolescents demand answers and information to meet their need to know.
Maturing adults seek ways to establish “fair-care-share” relationships to meet everyone’s need.
Principle-centered adults teach and model ideal ways to live in integrity with their highest values.
Enlightened individuals seek only to live impeccably for the greater Good of all concerned.

There is a time when we each need to “grow up”.
The mature person does not blame the government, the employer, the weather or God.
The mature person is responsible and responsive in the highest way no matter what the situation.
The grown up gathers information and resources and then listens within to create the highest outcome.

Let us consider growing up.
Let us stop condemning, exaggerating, imitating, or idealizing.
Let us begin to think for ourselves and do what is highest and best for everyone.
Let us create a world that is safe, fun and easy for all of us to live with dignity and respect for all life.

Loving you in our co-creation with Spirit,
Betty Lue

Forgiveness Works

Did you know that where you have not forgiven, you are giving up a little part of yourself?
Did you know that where you condemn another, you will also fear their judgment of you?
Did you know that when we withhold our forgiveness, we stay stuck with the experience we judge?
Did you know that to be healthy, happy and at peace, we must forgive totally?

When we block Love, we block life energy.
When we stop loving, we interfere with our natural state.
When we judge ourselves or another, our ego is “Edging God Out”.
When we neglect to give the Love we are to share, we stop living abundantly.

What if forgiveness is the key to healing and health.
What if forgiveness is the remedy for lack of abundance.
What if forgiveness is the way to feel connected with God.
What if forgiveness is the answer to all our prayers.

Is it possible that we have been given the most essential tool needed to be whole and happy and free?
Is there a way that forgiveness of our mistakes and all errors is really what Jesus was teaching humanity?
Is there a Truth that we have ignored, neglected and forsaken, so we could maintain our righteousness?
Is there a path to peace and happiness, where forgiveness lights our way?

When we have forgiven, we are at peace.
When we have forgiven, we are creative.
When we have forgiven, we are empowered.
When we have forgiven, we can choose again.

Forgiveness is the choice to free ourselves from the conditions, beliefs, and fears that imprisoned us.
Forgiveness is the opportunity to choose what is highest and best for all concerned without blame or guilt.
Forgiveness is the inspired way we open the door to healing, change and reconciliation.
Forgiveness is the freedom we give to trust, respect and love one another.

Life works when we are loving.
Love works when we are forgiving.
Forgiveness works when we are wholly present now.
Being present now is giving and receiving the Gift of Abundance, Happiness and Peace in each Now.

Try forgiveness for 30 days and watch it change your life, your relationships, finances and your health.

“I constantly forgive everyone and everything, including myself, for all time.
My forgiveness sets me free to fully be all I Am in Love, at Peace, with Joy.
The more I forgive, love and trust myself, the more abundantly I experience my life.”

Loving and Forgiving everyone everywhere for all time,
Betty Lue

LOVE
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference
how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Forgiving Mistakes

“I forgive everyone and everything for all time, including myself.”

Everyone makes mistakes.
We learn from our mistakes through experience, observation and natural consequences.
When we have the distraction of others judgments, punishment and humiliation, we learn to avoid others.
When we are constantly reminded of past mistakes, we believe we cannot be forgiven and trusted again.
When we are ridiculed, called names and identified with our mistakes, we believe we are our mistakes.

Sin = Error
Error means we have missed the mark.
When we miss the mark, we need to know specifically where the mark is and how to hit it.
When we are supported in identifying accurately what the mark is, we must be encouraged to try again.
When we are motivated to try to hit the mark and are given the tools, we will try until we succeed.

Forgiving Mistakes clear the obstacles to Love. (Trust and Freedom)
Forgiveness is the key to Happiness and Inner peace.
Every upset, fear, hurt, resentment, regret, jealousy can be cleared with forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an eraser filled with Love.
Forgiveness is remembering Love is Who You Are and Loving is your natural state.

When you stay angry and resentful, hurt and defensive, you block forgiveness.
When you withhold your Love, you will feel hurt.
When you forget to love, you will not feel whole.
When you choose to stop loving, you will experience depletion and lack of energy.
When you extend anger, blame and resentment, you will experience unconscious fear and defensiveness.

To forgive is to release the past.
Forgiveness is a gift of freedom and trust to yourself.
To be forgiving is our natural state of Being the Love we are, no matter way.
Forgiveness is seeing the gift and the blessing in All That Is.

Forgiveness is trusting that everything that happens is in our own best interest.
Forgiveness is releasing all judgments to God.
Forgiveness is allowing ourselves to continue giving the Gift of our Love.
Forgiveness is healing all fear, pain and anger.

Forgiveness need not be “felt” to be effective.
Forgiveness is a choice to free ourselves to trust in Love again.
Forgiveness releases the stuckness that comes from judgment and condemnation.
Forgiveness undoes the habit of repeating what is judged and releasing the guilt and blame.

There is no time like the present to release all blocks to Love with forgiveness now.
There is no better way to set ourselves free to be All We are than to forgive our mistakes.
There is no great gift than to give true forgiveness to those we have allowed to hurt us.
There is no truer way than to love and trust God by giving forgiveness to everyone all the time.

Let us forgive ourselves for forgetting to forgive and return to Love!
BettyLue

First Things First

What is first on your list of Values?
What matters most to you?
What is more important that being upset about petty stuff?
What is worth fighting for?

If you want a clean house first, make a big deal about everyone doing their part.
If you want homework done, yell and punish your children when they don’t do it on time or well.
If you want a big house with a big mortgage, spend time, energy and stress to keep it going.
If you want your employees and family to fear you, then yell a lot and make threatening statements.

If you want a peace and happy home, bring appreciation and playfulness into your family life.
If you want your children to be successful, help them feel proud of their accomplishments.
If you want less stress and more time with your family, downsize dramatically and relax.
If you want others to admire and respect you, be a respectful role model of peace, wisdom and gratitude.

Many have learned that by pointing out mistakes, we can affect change in others.
Many have learned that people learn with fear of punishment and are motivated by fear.
Many have learned that we are stuck with how we have made our life and our relationships,
Many have learned that the tougher we are, the more we are respected and can influence others.

The best measure of effective living and principled leadership is how our world works.
If we have what we want, our methods must be working.
If we are disappointed and discouraged, our methods must be ineffective.
If we have upset, hurt and worry, our lives are not models of peace, prosperity and principle.

When we focus on petty things, we seem petty, shallow and uncaring about their feelings and needs.
When we use anger, upset and demands to get our way, people may see us at tyrants.
When we stay away, avoid, disconnect, or ignore what is happening, we may see uncaring and detached.
When we don’t actively listen, support, encourage and participate, others may see us not genuine.

You see behavior speaks louder than your words.
Your example teaches more effectively than your demands.
Your encouragement supports more honestly than your spending.
Your listening builds trust and respect more than your endless monologues and diatribes.

What would it take for you to re-look at your values and priorities?
What would it take for you to put what matters most at the top of your list?
What would it take for you to be true to your own values and live consciously?
What would it take for you to stop ineffective behaviors and make your own changes to live better?

When you are at peace and happy, your home becomes more peaceful and happy.
When your home becomes more peaceful and happy, your family is more happy and peaceful.
When your family is more happy and peaceful, they bring peace to your workplace, school and world.

We each are bringers of change and transformation with our own inner peace and happiness.
When we live honestly and authentically with integrity for our own values, we live in peace.
When we take impeccable care of ourselves and our responsibilities, we bring harmony and order.
When we honor the gift of live and give ourselves and our resources abundantly with joy, we create a better world.

So let us Be It!
Betty Lue

For your enjoyment and part of this Loving Reminder!
Our Holy Fun, Safe and easy work on Wednesdays follows:
Grandma and Grandpa had a sleepover this week while Mom and Dad had a little break and we had fun. Part of their week is gymnastics and swimming. Twins Harper and Lila 4 1/2 yrs and Beckett almost 3 yrs. We love each other lots!!

Be the Conscious One!

In the midst of chaos, contribute order.
In times of crisis, be peaceful in your helping.
In moment of urgency, be efficient and effective.
In emotional turbulence, be the voice of quiet listening and letting go

When there are swirling energies, it escalates the problem to join in the confusion.
When there are unstable people, you can only be helpful by being grounded and centered.
When there is upset and conflict, one person can bring peace, order and resolution.
When there is opposition and threats, one voice can speak with authority of healing and civility.

When the world seems lost in ignorance, rude and arrogant behavior and language, the conscious one must consistently speak with wisdom, respect and kindness for all.
It is only by example that we can teach our world a better way.
It is by being true to our own values and priorities that we can model living in integrity.
It is by forgiving, undoing (not reviewing) and erasing the past that we can begin again.

What our children do, comes from the world and the family in which they live.
What we do in our relationships is a product of what we have allowed ourselves to participate in.
What we experience in our homes and work place is a result of going along with the mores of the day.
What our world has become is a co-creation of all humanity’s thoughts, words and actions.

It may be just another time for reviewing our ways.
It may be the downfall of our civilization.
It may be the end times as written in Revelation.
It may simply be another “wake up call” for us all.

What ever the time is in your household, in your work, in your own thinking, it is your time to stop your own insanity, and re-evaluate your values and your priorities.
The simplistic thinker is more worried about looking good and living well than living a life of respect and responsibility. The unconscious person would rather go along and get along doing what ever gets attention and is fun in the moment. The immature person would rather “blame the wrongs you see on everyone else, but not you.” The lazy person would rather pull up the covers, have another drink and watch TV.

So what will it be for You?
Are you willing to do the work?
Can you make a difference in every relationship?
Can you stand up when it is needed to stop the insanity?
Can you meditate and bring yourself peace in times of chaos?
Are you living spiritual principles and finding a way to stay true to what you value?
Are you willing to do what you see needs to be done, rather than blame someone else?
Are you willing to clean up your own space before you demand others clean up theirs?
Are you open to have your whole life viewed as a perfect example of consciousness and consistency?
Can we each begin to practice Effective principles of first treating ourselves with love and respect?

Effective Affirmations which work! It all begins and ends with You and Me.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect me.
The more I love. trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect themselves.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect others.

Affirmations at their most effective must be written and spoken at least 20 times daily for 2 weeks.
They are useful to remove resistance, mistaken beliefs and limiting habits to free us to think and act clearly.

More later and Love, Trust and Freedom always,
Betty Lue
Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Quick to Forgive

“Set Your Self Free with Forgiveness”

Where we judge, we are judged.
Where we forgive, we are forgiven.
What we perceive, we strengthen.
What we reveal, we can heal.

Forgiveness is simply a tool for clearing our fears and judgments.
Forgiveness is a mental eraser.
Forgive frees us from our past.
Forgiveness undoes what we have used to separate us from our Good.
Forgiveness sets us free.
Forgiveness invites trust in Love.
Forgiveness begets healing.
Forgiveness demonstrates who we really are.
Forgiveness asks us to be the Gift.
Forgiveness recognizes that we all have work to do.
Forgiveness asks for spiritual help and healing
Forgiveness reveals what we have held secret
Forgiveness opens the door to creativity and joy.
Forgiveness creates abundance and true prosperity.
Forgiveness is a gift to both forgiver and forgiven.
Forgiveness is the lifting everything into the arms of the All Loving Goodness.
Forgiveness is easy and natural when we let go of resistance.
Forgiveness is a choice to undo what is not True and Loving.
Forgiveness is a powerful mental laxative.

Let us all release what no longer serves our Greatest Good.
Let us undo what we do not want to perpetuate and recreate.
Let us flush away all that keeps us from our natural state of Love, Health, Joy and Abundance.
Let us let go of everything we know comes from all ignorance and mistakes,

Let us learn to be compassionate and healing.
Let us bring everything into the Light to wash away the darkness.
Let us let go of the petty judgments and past unhealed stuff.
Let us stop allowing what used to be, the poop of the past, to cloud our vision of the future.

To heal is to reveal what has made us sick and then quit partaking of what is unnecessary and unhealthy.
It is time to take full responsibility for our actions and interactions and choose again for what is good.
You receive a huge gift yourself when you give your appreciation and open-mindedness.
Loving is giving freedom to be ourselves and trusting the unique path and process each one chooses.

Trusting and freeing you to create more forgiveness, acceptance and Love in your life,
Betty Lue

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True Greatness

Probably we all have our definitions of “Greatness”.
Having just watched the US Open where many of the Greatest players were defeated,
my definition of Greatness was made more obvious.
True Greatness doesn’t come from winning.

Greatness comes from how they play the game of life.
Greatness comes from their graciousness in winning and losing.
Greatness comes from the consciousness with which they use their position.
Their Greatness comes from the “graciousness with which they lose the game.

Recently I read about Spiritual Greatness:
Greatness Is Hardly Ever Recognized.
Greatness Is Never About Promotion.
Greatness Is Found In Service To All.

What is your Greatness?
Have you seen yourself as a magnificent Being?
Have you given yourself credit for the Good you do?
Have you polished your Light and shared it with others?
Have you given your Love to sisters and brothers who are ignored?
Have you stepped up and stopped being bored to give your best?
Have you honored your agreements to love, to serve, to remember the Good within?
Have you been selfless in how you give to those who ask?
Have you shared your wisdom and joy freely with those who seek?
Have you walked through hesitation to apologize and begin again?
Have you honored your elders and those who have taught, served and sacrificed?
Have you been blessed by others and returned the blessing with appreciation?
Have you respected all life, our water and air and earth, as well as all creatures?
Have you replenished what you have taken to fill our world with the Goodness of Creation?
Have you enjoyed the fruits of your labor and been appreciative of the labor itself?
Have you taken the time to come to know and value the gifts you have been given?
Have you opened yourself to share freely the Goods within to be given to those who need?
Have you stepped forward in faith and confidence to every invitation to bless and to serve?
Have you forgiven the past to be fully present in the Now?
Have you taken impeccable care of the True You?

Perhaps your Greatness lies simply in acknowledging and appreciating the Good that lives and moves and has Its Being in You!
Consider the possibility that we simply are called to do is to recognize and release all blocks to the awareness of the Presence of Goodness and Love in ourselves.

Loving you in Loving and honoring Your True Greatness!
Betty Lue

“Our Greatest Fear”

Our greatest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light,
not our darkness,
that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
“Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that others won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some of us,
it is in everyone,
and as we let our own light shine
we unconsciously give other people permission
to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear
our presence automatically liberates others.

Maryann Williamson

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What Are You Teaching?

Every thought, word and deed is teaching all the universe.

Sometimes we teach unconsciously.
Sometimes we forget the world is watching.
Sometimes we teach falsely.
Sometimes we ignore, “What goes around, comes around.”

If there are no secrets,
If everything we do is reflected in the world around us,
If we are part of the great cosmos and all humanity,
There is a responsibility to teach the Best.

When I recommend you to: “Take Impeccable Care of Yourself”,
I am encouraging you be conscious and give your world your best.
When I highlight giving the highest and best to others,
I am reminding you to give what you want to receive.

I am aware that we all are teachers directly for someone somewhere.
I know that how you treat yourself, is teaching others to treat you and themselves the same.
I recognize that wherever I am, there is a responsibility to teach love, respect and kindness.
I am responsible for everything and everyone I encounter in how I respond to what is.

How can we teach the world to live the highest spiritual principle?
How can we remember to treat others as we want to be treated?
How do we teach the Truth that sets humanity free to live abundantly?
How do we live and embody the principles of giving generously and joyfully?

Life is for giving.
You are the Gift.
Life is for teaching and learning.
You are the teacher and the student.
Life is a playground.
You are both child and parent here to enjoy playing.
Life is a stage.
You are the actor and the audience.
Life is a university.
You are here to graduate with honor.

What will it take for you to stay awake and give your best in every moment to everyone?
What do you need to keep you overflowing with respect, gratitude and joy?
What can you do to remember what is true and loving and Good for everyone?
What are you willing to teach so that everyone is blessed by your Presence in our world?

You are the One we are waiting for.
Now is your time to shine.
Let’s join hands and hearts.
Together we are unlimited in Power and in Peace.

Betty Lue

This is masterful Beckett (almost 3 yrs.)with Grandpa and Daddy and Grandma in the garden.
Beckett teaches us many things about power and passion and creating a world that works for us.

What Are You Learning?

When you learn from the ignorant, you learn ignorance.
When you learn from the fearful, you learn fear.
When you learn from the judgmental, you learn to judge.
When you learn from the wounded, you learn victimization.

When you learn from the loving your learn Love.
When you learn from the wise, you learn Wisdom.
When you learn from the joyful, you learn Joy.
When you learn from the faithful, you learn Faith.

By their good works, you shall know those who love God.
Admire those who are living what they teach.
Trust those who trust God in you and in themselves.
Confide in those who keep the faith with all they serve.

To find a teacher with whom you resonate, is to find a teacher you trust and believe.
When you learn from another, be willing to listen to the God, the inner Teacher within yourself.
When you are learning the lessons of love, you are learning from the teachings of the Christ.
When you are living the lessons of love, you learn to experience all life as abundant and holy.

You know it is Good, when what you learn gives you more life energy.
You know it is healing, when what you receive feels holy and healthy.
You know it is Godly, when what you experience connects you with your faith.
You know it is life giving, when you feel abundantly blessed and prospered.

There are many teachers and many teachings.
There are many prophets and many prophecies.
When you learn from those that speak of Love and offer you a renewal of Spirit, you have gained faith.
When you learn from those who speak of Fear and give you instructions to hide, you have lost freedom.

To be foolish is to take on another’s way when it is not yours.
To be wise is to be able to discern what is right for you.
To be weakened from your learning, learn what condemns and depletes you.
To prosper from your learning, learn what blesses and benefits you.

Life is simple in its truths.
Give yourself the highest and best in all you do.
Notice what grows more light and love in you.
Claim that which strengthens your faith and peace.

Know Goodness, Wisdom and Love by forgiving and releasing that which does not teach and inspire Goodness, Wisdom and Love.

Blessed be.
Betty Lue

How Long Do You Wait?

I have written one common human dilemma is “staying too long or quitting too soon”.
We all have heard “ A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.”
Stay with what you have, unless you know you can have what is better for you.
The grass may be greener on the other side, but is the price worth it?

I often see people make choices for “more” of what they think they want.
I experience people staying with what they have, because they fear the unknown.
I notice people coveting, envying what others have and disparaging what they have.
I also see folks stuck and struggling with painful relationships and negative jobs.

How do you choose what is best for you?
How do you leave without hurting others?
How do you deal with pain and negativity when you stay?
How do you know when it is time to stay or time to go?

Choosing what is best requires knowing what is best for you.
“What is best for you is best for others.”
To live in integrity with your values giving your gifts where they are valued is essential.
To deny yourself what is yours to give and your best way to live is to live out of integrity.

Choosing what is best for others is unknown unless you ask one who is self-aware.
Most fearful people seek homeostasis.
They want no changes in life.
So when you ask those who fear change, they will try to keep things the same.

When love, we want the best for that person.
When we love ourselves, we want the best for ourselves.
When we love others, we want the best for them.
When we are not wanting to be stay in a relationship or a job, it is not best for all concerned.

I have learned, “I want people to be where they want to be.”
I don’t seduce, encourage, manipulate or sell people on anything, because I want them to choose.
I facilitate people in learning to listen within and do what is right for themselves.
We can make it easy for people to stay with guilt or making them commit, but it is not honest.

Life is change.
Human love, ego love changes.
Personalities and people grow.
Time calls for changes.

Often we stay because we have made a commitment.
When we stay because we have to, we build resentment and covert hostility.
When we want to leave but stay because we don’t want to hurt another, we hurt them anyhow.
Our resentment, guilt and feelings may cause fighting, depression, withdrawal and negative behaviors.

So what do we do and how do we do it?
First love and respect yourself.
Then love and respect the other.
Give your best in thoughts, words and deeds.
Practice looking at value of your relationship.

If you are complete, there is no more to teach and learn, no more to give and receive, no more value.
See honorable closure below…….
If you are not complete and know there is more, but you don’t know what to do, try this……..
Be responsible for your own happiness.
Stop blaming the others.
Be open-minded and appreciative of the others.
See the best in them, rather than criticize.
Give yourself room to explore and learn from others.
Feeling stuck or limited will cause negative and toxic energy.
Give your best in every interaction.
You will feel good and confident, when you are positive and productive in every encounter.
Be honest and affirming with yourself about your choices to stay.
Blaming the other for your choice to stay will yield resentment and fighting and negative behaviors.
Trust that you will know when it is for the highest good of all concerned to move on.
When it is time to go, let go with gratitude and respect and move on with ease and honor for all.

For so many, there is learning to be loyal, keep all commitments until death, never leaving what is secure, and enduring suffering as a sign of strength.
For others there is learning to follow what “feels good” and leaving as soon as the going gets difficult, avoiding all learning and opportunities to heal.
For the conscious one, there is choosing with respect to all concerned with care for what is needed and respect for what is wanted, recognizing my brother is myself and practicing the Golden Rule.
Treat others as you would want to be treated if you were in their shoes.

Loving and blessings the Divine Right of Choice.
Bless us all in our learning!
Betty Lue

This may be helpful in knowing what, when and how to let go!
Honorable Closure

How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally.
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love. We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.
Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.
This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.
Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
Do your part when you part. When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure. Begin now.
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.