Relationship Happiness

Affirmations:

My thoughts words and actions create lasting loving relationships.

I give always and only what I want to receive.

The more I trust, respect and appreciate myself, the more I trust, respect and appreciate others.

I am responsible for everything I experience.

How to Have the Relationship You Want!

“It is all an inside job.”

Listen to one another.

Respond with kindness to each other.

Spend time together when it is positive time.

Support each other’s life choices, even mistakes.

Give what is given from a place of gratitude.

Use the relationship to heal yourself with patience and trust.

Relinquish all attack, blame, resentment and guilt.

Contribute your fair share to everyday living.

Care about what will be truly helpful to one another.

Focus on healthy interaction at home and in public.

Learn from and with one another about how life works well.

Be willing to learn to Love with acceptance of what is wanted.

Be respectful.

Treat one another with respect and kindness.

Be responsible.

Respond with love to all upsets and requests.

Be cooperative.

Give what is asked unless it is harmful to either of you.

It seems that arguing is commonplace and normal.

It seems like couples often behave like what is on TV and in movies.

It seems that “normal” is often disrespectful, immature and rude.

It seems couples think it is acceptable to threaten, swear, name-call and shame one another.

When we treat those we love worse than anyone else, we can expect our home life to be a mess.

It is essential we begin to demonstrate our best behavior with those we love.

It is important to be at our best in our own home with no ””taking for granted.”

When we want the best, we must give the best.

When we commit to love, heal and grow together, we must be willing to love, help and learn.

Long term relationships tend to be the most challenging, because of what we experienced in our own original family.

Where we learned to be unhappy, upset and scared, we tend to repeat and recreate that experience.

When we learned to be happy, peaceful and loving, we tend to attract and recreate that as well.

We tend to unconsciously re-create or attract what is familiar in our own relationships and home.

Like animals, humans are imprinted in our behaviors, choices and experiences.

We often believe we are not responsible until we learn to take responsibility for change.

We can change our minds, attitudes, words, behaviors and reactivity.

In our relationships, it is essential that we learn to manage emotions and interrupt negative patterns.

No matter what, I will never quit on love.

Love is the answer.

Where I am not loving with my thoughts, words and behavior, I must forgive myself.

Choose again for the best within you and you will change your life.

Let us all learn to be the best person we know how to be.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Clean Up Your Messes!

Affirmations:

I clean up after myself with joy and gratitude.

I love the world that I am responsible for cleaning up.

The world I see is cleaned up by me, happily.

I totally appreciate clearing all that is not good, beautiful and whole.

Clean Up Your Messes!

Do you have messes in your home?

Do you have financial messes?

Do you have upsets and hurts in your relationships?

Do you have chaos and inner conflicts messing in your mind?

Whatever is not peaceful and calm within will mess with your outer world.

The stuff we hold inside our history, beliefs, emotions and imagining create the same stuff outside.

The movie we see everyday and how we perceive it is the reflection of our inner world.

We can clean up the out-picturing and it will clear the air and clean up our thoughts and feelings.

The real cleaning is done with the inner work we do to stop holding negative history.

When we erase, forgive, resolve and undo the negatives we carry with us, we are free to choose again.

To see things differently, we must remove the foggy, dark and negative pictures in our minds.

If we don't like the work of cleaning, we will most likely keep adding to the mess.

Ask yourself if you are ready to get clean and sober and honest.

Are you willing to do the work to undo what is faulty, limiting, resentful and guilty?

Are you open to take responsibility to clean up the messes of the past?

Can you do it all by yourself and be the trusting and freeing one who is ready, able and willing?

Often people excuse themselves by saying, “I didn't make the mess, so why should I?

Many just are too lazy to actually wash the dishes and make their bed.

If you eat from the dishes and sleep in the bed, why not take responsibility?

If you are able to make your life better, why not do the work with a good feeling?

In relationship, you don’t have to caste blame on yourself or others.

Take care of whatever is messed us and appreciate yourself.

No need to resent others or make them feel guilty.

Be willing to demonstrate how simple it is to do what needs to be done.

Say you are sorry, when there is upset and stop creating more upset.

 Ask how you can help others clean up their mess with sincerity.

Begin to enjoy the cleanliness, order and beauty you have created.

Take time to always clean up after yourself with joy and gratitude.

Others will follow the positive and happy person who is doing a good job.

Children copy parents, even when they are in their adult and even senior years.

Only we ourselves can take responsibility for changing our perspective by cleaning up the past.

When we have completed a phase in life or in a relationship, do it with honor and respect.

Make where you live and work beautiful and orderly.

Create open positive conversations with loving completion.

Appreciate everyone for who they are and how they feel.

Stop making more messes with judgment, fear, defensiveness and blame.

Love everyone you encounter with as much peace and goodness as you have.

Trust yourself to do the right thing in the right and loving way.

Be with yourself and what you do everyday with conscience and consciousness.

Stay connected to Source and your inner ReSource to know what to do next with Love.

Live each day with an open and forgiving mind filled with blessings of gratitude.

Clean up your messes and the world shows you its blessings and what to offer next.

Loving you for being willing, 

Betty Lue

Are You Happy?

Affirmations:

I prefer being happy.

Happiness is my natural state.

I love myself and so choose to be happy.

I easily let go of unhappiness and negative experiences.

Are You Happy With Your Life?

What do you notice that is not a positive for you?

Are you willing to create more positive experiences?

Are you open to eliminate the negative experiences?

Make a list or chart the highs and lows in your daily life.

Notice what supports you feeling happy.

See if happiness is related to your physical, mental, emotional or relational state.

Observe if there is an unhappy attitude you wear everyday.

Begin to tell yourself it is fun, safe and easy to be happy.

Sometimes people are actually habituated to being unhappy.

Some folks actually attract misery and suffering because it is familiar.

Some individuals find comfort and even use unhappiness as an excuse.

Consider what the gifts might be for being unhappy.

When life is peaceful and safe, are you happy or bored?

When life is chaotic and dangerous, do you enjoy the spontaneity and changes?

Creating positive experiences may feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable for you.

To change your state of mind may require gradual introduction of positive experiences.

When interactions are healthy, encouraging, consistent and helpful, you may feel happy.

Dysfunctional, disappointing, inconsistent and hurtful relationships may be what you expect.

When we allow ourselves to settle for what we are used to, we get comfortable with unhappiness. 

It takes work, forgiveness and release, affirmation and envisioning, to create true happiness.

When happiness is your usual state, you may be blind-sided by unhappiness.

When you are comfortable with being happy, you may be more impacted with negative experiences.

Some people do not allow full experience of happiness, because they fear the pain of unhappiness.

Often we manage our thoughts and emotions to have the experiences we want to have.

Consider what feels safe and good for you.

Plan your time to have the experiences you enjoy.

Eliminate thoughts and feelings that seem to interfere with your happiness.

Choose what you want and focus your energy on those experiences.

You will begin to recognize that you can manage your emotions.

You will realize that we each create the emotional state we value.

You will remember when you turn positive or negative with your thoughts.

You will be responsible for choosing good or bad, happy or unhappy thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Your emotional state will become the monitor for you focus, direction, values and choices.

Once we realize we are in charge of our happiness, we are free to have the experiences we prefer.

Be aware and acknowledge what is best for you.

Let go of the unwanted and create what you do want.

Life is your personal experimental laboratory. 

Enjoy what you learn.

Loving you in doing what feels good to you.

Betty Lue

Be Where You Are!

Affirmations:

I love myself just as I am.

I release what no longer support my Good.

I choose to easily and quickly let go of negative learning.

I am willing to live what and where is the highest and best for me.

Be Where You Are.

Where are you?

Until you know where you are, you cannot be there.

Are you aware of your thoughts and feelings?

Are you awake to who is present with you?

Do you see what is within you and around you?

Have you assessed your current state of mind and body?

Do you allow yourself to be aware and honest with yourself?

Are you alert to your limiting and faulty beliefs, opinions and prejudices?

We are all constantly creating with our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and prejudices.

Everything that is within is will be seen in some form outside us.

We are creating with our unconscious beliefs and fears, judgments and tears.

When we recognize where we are, we can begin to understand how the world seems to be.

To come home to One Self is the beginning of healing and revealing the Truth.

To understand that our judgments and criticisms are playing themselves on our movie screen is key.

To recognize our responsibility in our finances, health and relationships is the first step to transformation.

All things can be changed with a radical change of thought and feelings, focus and direction.

We create with our thoughts, words and behavior.

Our attitude colors our relationships and achievements.

Our affirmations, negative and positive, attract what we think and speak into our awareness.

We are choosing how our day will be from the thoughts and feelings we hold to be true. 

What a relief it is to know we can change everything with our own change of mind.

What a responsibility it is to know we can totally change our experience by clearing what we don’t want.

What a joy it is to know we can do it ourselves.

What work it can be to know we can change what we perceive and how we respond.

This is the key to a fun, safe and easy life.

Where we are attached to be right and righteous about our point of view, we are stuck with it.

Where we erase our attachments to judge, blame and guilt, we can free ourselves to see differently.

We need to find safety, satisfaction and connection to feel peace, happiness and love.

1) Accept what is. + 2) Let go of what you want to release.+ 3) Let in what you really want.

First, we must allow and not repress.

Next, we forgive and release, step away and stop recreating the story.

And last, we are called to let in what we want to be our experience.

Our life journey is shaped by challenges, vulnerabilities and resources.

When we are willing to be with our selves, thoughts, beliefs and experiences, we have heal.

We learn to do what makes us feel better, think better and do better.

We learn to undo those habits which are hurtful and choose what is helpful.

Show up and pay attention. 

Speak and detach.

Say and do what is yours to do. 

Let go and enjoy.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

What Really Matters?

Affirmations:

I live true to myself.

I honor what I know to be highest and best for me.

I live with integrity all that I value.

I am fully responsible for the choices I make with wisdom and conscience.

What Matters to You?

What is important to you?

What is top priority?

What do you value the most in your life?

When we know what is important to us, we will align our life choices to support out values.

When people forget or neglect what they say they value, their lives are our of alignment.

When no in alignment, there is no focus, north star, sense of direction or purpose.

When off balance or not living our “true” values, we do not feel balanced or content.

There may be self doubt, lack of confidence, anxiety, vulnerability, frustration and upset.

When vigilant for what is important to us, we stay connected and attuned to our own truth.

When we have a principle-centered life, we are more present and purposeful with our choices.

When we are true to ourselves, because we know our values and goals and priorities, we are content.

We feel confident, secure, trusting, strong, and generally at peace and able to handle difficulties.

Life is a powerful teacher.

What we learn from life is how to manage ourselves and our choices.

Our emotions show us where we have been forgetful or neglectful of our path and purpose.

When we are calm and capable of handling whatever comes our way, we are on the right track.

When irritated or upset, stop and ask yourself, “What really matters right now?”

When we are hurt and frightened, we can ask. “What is important to me right now?”

When we are lost and confused, we need to ask. “What is valuable to me right now?”

There is a place in use that can respond with integrity when we are willing to sincerely ask.

When we find our inner sanctum, quiet place within, we know we have our own guidance system.

When we are willing to let go of outer distraction and conflicted thinking, we have inner knowing.

When we stop the insanity of limiting beliefs and fear-based reactions, we have our own “truth”.

Some call this conscience or inner guidance or the Voice Within or Higher Self.

We can undo dysfunctional habits of reactive thinking and choose a higher way.

We can forgive our easy distractions and reliance on historical preferences and choose wisely.

We can release what is questionable advice from those who do not know and choose for ourselves.

We can seek our own truths, principles and values to live by daily in all circumstances.

Life has innumerable answers to every question.

People have their own advice about every problem.

Books give us a myriad of paths and solutions to follow.

We find peace when we live in alignment with our own highest truths.

Make your own conscious list of principles to hold yourself accountable.

Be clear with yourself about the guidelines you choose to follow.

Give yourself time to review and edit periodically.

Evaluate daily activities and choices to ensure you are supporting your principles, values and guidelines.

Life is a reflection of what matters to us.

Loving us all for choosing with conscientious conscience!

Betty Lue

Ask and Receive!

Affirmations:

I always ask for the highest good of all.

I respect myself for taking care of my need to know.

My intention is to do what is the best for everyone.

I do not know what is in my own best interests.

Do You Ask?

When you have a need, do you ask?

When you need help, do you ask?

When you are doubtful, do you ask?

When you have a question, do you ask?

Some want to be independent and do it themselves.

Some are afraid of being criticized or shamed.

Some don’t want to feel weak or incapable.

Some don’t know what or how to ask.

Some don’t know who to ask for what the need.

Some don’t trust anyone has what they want.

Some feel they don’t deserve any help.

Some just don’t want anyone to know.

“Ask and you will receive.” is a truism.

When we don’t ask clearly and specifically, others will not know.

When we do ask, we often immediately receive the answer or help needed.

It seems asking opens us up to receive what we are requesting.

 

Staying in the silent need creates an emptiness and feelings of anxiety.

Opening to ask for what we want gives us a goal and gives others an opening to give.

When we seek and search and stay open to receive, we are motivated to find.

We find what we seek or are given what we ask for, it encourages more willingness to ask.

When you ask to be helpful, someone will come with a need to be filled.

When you ask for answers, there will be many who want to respond.

Whether you ask to be left alone or hugged, there will be someone who is ready to respond.

We must learn to ask ourselves and others for what we really want.

Yes, people may not understand our request.

We may need to express ourselves simply and clearly.

We may need to wait for a response.

We may need to look for another answer or responder.

The key is to be hones, accurate and sincere in our asking.

When we support ourselves with asking for what we really want, it is likely we will know who to ask.

When we are really requesting the underlying need or question, it is more likely we will receive it.

We cannot expect others to second guess or mind read our needs.

When we hear “No” or “ I can’t”, we need to accept the response and ask again someone else.

When we do not receive what we are asking, we must learn to say ”Thank You” and accept it is their best.

Dismissing, criticizing or shaming another’ response will make it less likely to receive what we want.

It is important to trust both questioner and responder are doing their best at the time.

Be patient with your requests.

Be appreciative of all responses.

Be willing to ask again more clearly.

Be happy with yourself for asking for what you need and want.

Loving us all for learning to ask and respond with kindness and gratitude.

Betty Lue