Parental Love

Affirmations:

I love the ways I love one and all.

I release my need to criticize, change or correct anyone, including myself.

I forgive those who do not know how best to love.

I am awake and aware to how love works for those I love.

How Did Your Parents Show You Love?

How you receive Love is how you learned to receive Love.

If you never felt Loved, it will be difficult to let love in.

If you received love thru criticism and discipline, you may attract criticism.

Our tendency is to believe in the ways we were loved, taught and appreciated.

It helps to be aware of your early experiences to better understand what we currently experience.

Our awareness allows us to better change what is not longer good for us.

What we are fully aware of without judgment, we can choose to change.

What we judge as good or bad, we tend to get stuck with believing and seeking.

We learn to love, teach, criticize and appreciate others the ways we were parented.

When we realize our parents also follow what their parents did for them, we can forgive.

When we understand we are the generation who can affect positive change, we choose again.

When willing to relinquish our habitual behavior and past programming, we can change our future.

Our most early experiences program us to feel and relate with others in familiar ways.

We expect what we are accustomed to.

Even with what seems limiting or negative, our expectation becomes what we do or attract others to do.

We may try to create something different but unconsciously attract the same.

Parents what to give their best and improve on their parents.

However, when tired, hungry, impatient or negative, we often fall into old familiar patterns.

To change what was growing up requires staying awake and aware.

To give our children and partners our best calls us to use our conscious to heal the past.

You may have noticed that you tend to dump your worst stuff on your family.

You may have realized that you are talking and behaving like one or both parents.

You may have recognized the more you try to be different, the more you find repeating behavior.

It is essential to forgive, delete, undo and change your bad habits and unconscious reactions.

We spend time with grandchildren often and show parents and children love, trust, respect and appreciation.

I am always observing what parents seems to need and how they raise their kids.

I see the ways we program kids and how they talk and behave by how we treat and speak to them.

Without neutral observation, we may not even notice the script we write and perpetuate within families.

Ask yourself what you believe the job of parenting really is.

Notice what you want as a child and now as an adult from people who “love” you.

Pay attention to what you would change or delete from your childhood.

Choose to delete these experiences from what you give to those in your family now.

Yes, more conscious and respectful interaction is beneficial to all.

Yes, remove yourself from upsetting or negative experiences until you are calm and clear.

Yes, give yourself the opportunity to forgive yourself for limiting or hurting those you love.

Yes, love yourself by affirming, giving, supporting and encouraging you  always to believe in you.

You can change your loving relationships with yourself and others every day in every way.

Loving you as I love myself,

Betty Lue

Simply forgive them for not know a better way to love, trust, respect and believe in You.

And forgive yourself for forgetting to love trust, respect and believe in YOU!

This can change your life!!

IF CHILDREN (AND ADULTS) LIVE WITH……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.


If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.


If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.


If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.


If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.


If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.


If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,


They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 



If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.


If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.


If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.


If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.


If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.


If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.


If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.


If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.


If children live with fairness, they learn justice.


If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.


If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.


If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.


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From Dr. Wayne Dyer

WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR CHILDREN?

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)

1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.

2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.

3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.

4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.

5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.

6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.

7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.

8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.

9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.

10.       Encourage healthy thinking.

11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.

12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.

13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.

14.       Listen carefully to your children.

15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.

16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.

17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.

18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.

Being Good to You

Affirmations:

The more I appreciate my body and mind, the more I take impeccable care of my life.

I appreciate and celebrate all I am.

I easily forgive my judgments, evaluation and comparison that discourage and block my care.

I enjoy the responsibility in loving all of me.

Help Your Self

You are unique.

Your body is yours to utilize

Your mind is yours to teach.

Your spirit is yours to inspire.

You are your responsibility.

When we are ignorant, we depend on others.

When we are curious, we explore and learn.

When we are wise, we are respectful, listen and respond.

Your life is in your hands.

Literally, you can abuse your life.

You can confuse, distract and ignore your life.

You can love, nourish, nurture, bless and enjoy your life.

Your life depends on you.

You can take time daily to guide yourself to whole life health.

You can be impeccable about the habits body care you attend.

You can consistently develop better habits of positive use and maintenance.

Your positive attitude is your choice.

Learn to use what you “can do”, rather than focus on a negative approach.

I can be healthy.  I will be healthy.  I am healthy in mind, body and spirit.

When we are choosing what is ours to do, we do it with a “can do” attitude.

Your healthy routine is a great way to begin.

Learn to free yourself from unhealthy habits of mind and body.

Undo the warnings, threats and demands you make on yourself.

Be forgiving, affirming and gentle with your helpfulness to yourself.

Life offers cues and clues to what is best for you.

What you seek, you will find.

Ingest the best and forget the rest.

Receive always and only what is best for you.

Your body wants to be healthy and active.

Your mind is designed to stay curious and useful.

Your emotions are obvious to show you what is good and positive.

Your whole Self is your lifetime gift to be used for happy and healthy purposes.

When you discover what works, celebrate.

Learn quickly with gratitude.

Remember you are the captain and navigator for you life journey.

Take the wheel and be responsible for the learning adventure.

Everyday, appreciate and celebrate what you have, who you are and all you do.

Use what you have and take impeccable care of your whole Self.

Loving you ad I remind us both.

Betty Lue

TEN KEYS TO A GOOD LIFE:

Be Responsible for the entirety of your life.

Be Open to learn from everything and everyone.

Be Forgiving of all mistakes, yours and others.

Be Truly helpful by thinking, speaking and giving your best.

Be Impeccable in caring for your body, relationships, home, work, finances.

Be Willing to live with moderation in all things.

Be Aware of the Gift of Love and the Call for Love.

Be Exact with your thoughts and words; they create your life.

Be Hard-working with wisdom, gratitude and joy.

Be Good.  See Good. Think Good. Speak Good. Give Good.

About Time

Affirmations:

I value my time and use it well.

I am grateful for the time I have.

I contribute my time and resources to what is good for all.

I enjoy spending time on what really matters.

Give Yourself Time!

Time is your resource.

Use your time wisely.

Time is your opportunity to live well.

Spend you time with purpose, wisdom and gratitude.

What are you using your time for today?

How can you spend this day to benefit your happiness and wellbeing?

What do you need to do for yourself?

What can you do to benefit others?

When you don’t have a direction or goal, do you waste time?

When you don’t have a purpose, do you squander the value of now?

When you neglect the value of now, do you misuse or neglect the time you have?

Consider what you can do to be helpful, to enjoy, to make your life better.

Every day is a rich opportunity to do what you value.

Today is your chance to enjoy completing projects and jobs.

Today is a good day to say “hello” and “good-bye”.

Today is a gift of learning, loving and letting go.

This moment can be use to bless, help, pray and/or give thanks.

Why waste time on distractions and excuses?

Why focus on what you cannot do?

Why spend your time minding someone else’s business?

Are you using your time to criticize and condemn?

Do you fantasize and wish rather than act?

Are you consumed with worry about what could be?

Do you watch news, tragedy and disaster?

Use time wisely and well to make your life better.

Use time to focus on what you can do.

Live your life as if it really matters.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Recognize that you have this day once.

This is the day you have been given to enjoy.

This is the day you have to use to be helpful.

This is your day to create Goodness, Beauty and Wholeness.

You will discover you are in charge of how you use your time.

You will learn you truly enjoy your time doing what you value.

You will benefit from everything that serves the Good of All.

You will be pleased with your self for using time wisely and well.

Loving our time together each and every day!

Betty Lue

Let Us Learn!

Affirmations:

Learning is fun, safe and easy.

Everyone and everything is my teacher.

I see what I want to see and believe what I choose.

I love to learn and respond with the best I know in me.

Many Chances To Learn

Life offers infinite opportunities to learn.

We need not stress about forgetting or making mistakes.

Everything is teaching us what we need to learn.

There is always the call to be a happy willing learner.

Learning can be fun, safe and easy.

Keeping our eyes and ears open is key.

Going to sleep on the job of living is foolish.

Staying wide awake with curiosity is essential.

Are you showing up for life?

No drugging or drinking, sleeping on the job.

No distracting yourself with criticizing others.

Time to be fully present for your own life lessons.

Are you really paying attention?

Time to listen to yourself.

Be and do and have the experiences you choose.

Open you eyes and ears to what is before you.

Are you telling yourself Your Truth?

Know what you know.

Do what calls to you.

Be willing to forgive and change as needed.

Can you let go of what no longer is?

Detach fro the outcome with gratitude.

Let go of what no longer is of value for you.

Be willing to accept the lessons along the way.

Life is rich with learning from everything and everyone.

We all are teachers one to another.

In every encounter and experience, we are learning.

What works and what does not work is the simple value of life

Consider what you are learning today, in this moment.

Be willing to open your mind and heart.

Laugh at the fear, resistance and resentment.

Undo the chains of judgment that contract your mind.

You will enjoy all of your life when you are willing.

You will value all experience when you are grateful.

You will expand your consciousness when you are happy.

You will free your whole Wisdom, Compassion and Goodness, when you learn.

Loving us all as we learn from one another,

Betty Lue

“Life is for learning.

Education leads out of ignorance.

The more we learn, the more we know.

The more we know, the better our resources.

The more  resources, the more choice we have.”

The more choices, the more enjoyable life can be.”