Monday, October 07, 2019

Parental Love

I love the ways I love one and all.
I release my need to criticize, change or correct anyone, including myself.
I forgive those who do not know how best to love.
I am awake and aware to how love works for those I love.

How Did Your Parents Show You Love?

How you receive Love is how you learned to receive Love.
If you never felt Loved, it will be difficult to let love in.
If you received love thru criticism and discipline, you may attract criticism.
Our tendency is to believe in the ways we were loved, taught and appreciated.

It helps to be aware of your early experiences to better understand what we currently experience.
Our awareness allows us to better change what is not longer good for us.
What we are fully aware of without judgment, we can choose to change.
What we judge as good or bad, we tend to get stuck with believing and seeking.

We learn to love, teach, criticize and appreciate others the ways we were parented.
When we realize our parents also follow what their parents did for them, we can forgive.
When we understand we are the generation who can affect positive change, we choose again.
When willing to relinquish our habitual behavior and past programming, we can change our future.

Our most early experiences program us to feel and relate with others in familiar ways.
We expect what we are accustomed to.
Even with what seems limiting or negative, our expectation becomes what we do or attract others to do.
We may try to create something different but unconsciously attract the same.

Parents what to give their best and improve on their parents.
However, when tired, hungry, impatient or negative, we often fall into old familiar patterns.
To change what was growing up requires staying awake and aware.
To give our children and partners our best calls us to use our conscious to heal the past.

You may have noticed that you tend to dump your worst stuff on your family.
You may have realized that you are talking and behaving like one or both parents.
You may have recognized the more you try to be different, the more you find repeating behavior.
It is essential to forgive, delete, undo and change your bad habits and unconscious reactions.

We spend time with grandchildren often and show parents and children love, trust, respect and appreciation.
I am always observing what parents seems to need and how they raise their kids.
I see the ways we program kids and how they talk and behave by how we treat and speak to them.
Without neutral observation, we may not even notice the script we write and perpetuate within families.

Ask yourself what you believe the job of parenting really is.
Notice what you want as a child and now as an adult from people who “love” you.
Pay attention to what you would change or delete from your childhood.
Choose to delete these experiences from what you give to those in your family now.

Yes, more conscious and respectful interaction is beneficial to all.
Yes, remove yourself from upsetting or negative experiences until you are calm and clear.
Yes, give yourself the opportunity to forgive yourself for limiting or hurting those you love.
Yes, love yourself by affirming, giving, supporting and encouraging you  always to believe in you.

You can change your loving relationships with yourself and others every day in every way.
Loving you as I love myself,
Betty Lue

Simply forgive them for not know a better way to love, trust, respect and believe in You.
And forgive yourself for forgetting to love trust, respect and believe in YOU!
This can change your life!!


If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,

They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.


From Dr. Wayne Dyer

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)
1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.
2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.
3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.
4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.
5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.
6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.
7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.
8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.
9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.
10.       Encourage healthy thinking.
11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.
12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.
13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.
14.       Listen carefully to your children.
15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.
16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.
17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.
18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.