Friday, September 26, 2014

Relate with Loving Kindness!

Affirmations:
I love myself the way I am.
I treat myself with love, trust and respect.
I listen to my highest and best Self.
I honor my own needs with kindness.

Relate to yourself with Love.
·      •  Treat yourself with respect.
·      •  Forgive yourself for mistakes.
·      •  Take time to listen to your own needs.

When you do not know how to love you well, you cannot really love others well.
When you do not forgive your own mistakes, you will not really forgive others.
When you do not take the time to listen to you, how can you fully listen to others.
Self awareness and understanding is the key to relating to all others with compassion.

Begin where you are.
Notice what hurts, upsets, angers and irritates you.
Forgive, accept and allow these  areas in your life.
Trust they are “wake up calls” for you to clear with Love.

Become aware that what bothers you is a sign you are off purpose.
Where you are upset for any reason tells you that you have inner work to do.
What you perceive, you have and strengthen within your self.
What you judge, condemn or criticize, you are stuck with and repeat.

All judgments are projections from within that believes we can change and fix others.
Our efforts to change others reveals what we are called to change within ourselves.
When we help, advise, offer opinions without being asked, we are talking to ourselves.
What we do for others must be done and complete within our selves to be authentic.

It is valuable to ask ourselves to be doing what we ask of others.
It is important to clear our fears and hurts when we are helping others to clear theirs.
It is essential to listen and follow our own advice and counsel.
What we say is not so important as how we live our own lives.

All relationships are for the purpose of healing ourselves.
Where we love others, we can love ourselves.
When we forgive others, we can forgive ourselves.
What we teach others is ours to learn and live.

When we live in integrity with Truth we know, we relate to all with Loving Kindness.
Loving me and you and All as One, 
Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer

Anonymous

 From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. PRAISE YOURSELF
 Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
 Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
 Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
 Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
 Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK
 Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”


10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
 Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.