Affirmations:
I love myself the way I am.
I treat myself with love, trust and respect.
I listen to my highest and best Self.
I honor my own needs with kindness.
Relate
to yourself with Love.
· • Treat yourself with respect.
· • Forgive yourself for mistakes.
· • Take time to listen to your own
needs.
When you do not
know how to love you well, you cannot really love others well.
When you do not
forgive your own mistakes, you will not really forgive others.
When you do not take
the time to listen to you, how can you fully listen to others.
Self awareness
and understanding is the key to relating to all others with compassion.
Begin where you are.
Notice what hurts, upsets, angers and irritates you.
Forgive, accept and allow these areas in your
life.
Trust they are “wake up calls” for you to
clear with Love.
Become aware that
what bothers you is a sign you are off purpose.
Where you are upset
for any reason tells you that you have inner work to do.
What you perceive,
you have and strengthen within your self.
What you judge,
condemn or criticize, you are stuck with and repeat.
All judgments are
projections from within that believes we can change and fix others.
Our efforts to
change others reveals what we are called to change within ourselves.
When we help, advise,
offer opinions without being asked, we are talking to ourselves.
What we do for
others must be done and complete within our selves to be authentic.
It is valuable to
ask ourselves to be doing what we ask of others.
It is important to
clear our fears and hurts when we are helping others to clear theirs.
It is essential to
listen and follow our own advice and counsel.
What we say is not
so important as how we live our own lives.
All relationships
are for the purpose of healing ourselves.
Where we love
others, we can love ourselves.
When we forgive
others, we can forgive ourselves.
What we teach others
is ours to learn and live.
When we live in
integrity with Truth we know, we relate to all with Loving Kindness.
Loving me and you
and All as One,
Betty Lue
You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life
If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing
For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still
So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity
A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer
Anonymous
From
Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love
Yourself
1. STOP
ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize
yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you
criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself,
your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with
your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you
pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a
pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind
to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking.
Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner
spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself
how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your
own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your
thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself.
Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for
help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them
to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those
needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind
of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about
exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple
you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often.
Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself
looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive
them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or
lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do
the best you can.