Saturday, September 27, 2014

Ready for Harmony?

I give always and only my best.
I share the peace I have within me.
I trust that all things work together for Good.
May my thoughts, words and deeds bring harmony to my world.

Yes, it is possible to live together in peace.
Yes, you can have harmony in your home.
Yes, two people can have no fighting.
Yes, you can stay in Love.

When you believe in fighting, there will be fighting.
When you expect arguments, there will be arguments.
When you know families don’t get along, you will be correct.
Because what you believe, you will receive and achieve.

What you expect, you will accept.
What you doubt, will come about.
What you endure, you will make sure.
Everything we think will be, we seek to see.

People want to be “right”, and will defend and justify to prove themselves “right”.
Even when they say they want something else, they often create what they expect.
So perhaps it is time for you to undo what you no longer want to be true!
Make a list of what you want to experience in an ideal relationship, home and family.

The work begins with your ideal vision written down and remembered daily.
I choose to have and give my ideal self to create my ideal relationships.
The next step is letting go of every thought, feeling, behavior and memory that interferes.
I gently and respectfully undo and release all that brings negativity into my life.

It is your Peace of mind that brings harmony.
It is your willingness to let go of stubbornness and needing to be right that creates openness.
It is your trust  in letting go of your opinions and advice and listening that brings understanding.
It is your respect for others’ thoughts, feelings, behavior and difference that gives Peace.

Give yourself to Love and Love will come to you.
Honor the call for peace and harmony by being peaceful too!
Trust in the Love and appreciation that guides your way.
Remember always to forgive first and listen for how to respond with Love.

Do what is right and true and Loving.
Don’t wait for them to do the right thing.
You are the One to conscious and willing One.
You know the way: JUST DO IT!

See a few reminders below. If you want to receive more, let me know.
Consider buying my Relationships Reminders Book at
If you don’t have money, email me and I will send one to you.
Your peace and harmony are important to your health, happiness and your whole life.

We are the same, you and I.
We are all in this together.
Now is our time to step up.
Let us be willing to respond with  Goodness and Love.

Betty Lue

If you care about creating better relationships, begin to practice improving yourself.
It only takes one to make a difference......and that one is YOU!
See the Commandments below as well.  
Focus on one at a time and practice in All your relationships.
Ask for additional help from me when you need it.
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships
 Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honesty- Communicate your true intention without secrets or withholds.

Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each moment.

Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both parties.

Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.

Successful Relationships

To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.

Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.

Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.

Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.  Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.  To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.

Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.  Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned.  One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.

Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.  Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.

To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.

To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.

If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way.  You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.

Blessings for choosing a better way,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for Successful Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner, family or child to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationships.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,  

Betty Lue