Free Your Self

LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR.

LOVE SETS US FREE TO BE.

Affirmations:

My love sets me free to love without end.

I love and share this love as a natural gift of my being.

Love is my natural state.

We are born in Love as Love for the healing purpose of Loving.

Dependent or Co-Dependent?

Do you need to be needed?

Do you need someone to love you and care for you?

Are you dependent on people, places or things?

Are you aware of how vulnerable or insecure you feel?

What can you do to depend on you?

How can you turn your life into a secure way of living?

Do you have a schedule, routine or something to rely on?

Are you willing to take responsibility for the quality of your life?

Whenever we feel dependent on someone or something, we will feel vulnerable.

Depending on the reliability of others will open the door to insecurity.

Those who learn to manage their own lives have less fear, anxiety and dependency needs.

Consider what and who you can trust no matter what.

Is it helpful to you and others to be needy?

Are you here to become your own person or to let someone else guide you?

Do you need to be loved by another or can you actually love yourself?

Do you need someone to need you to be worthy of being loved?

You may rely on the advice of others.

You may need others to care for you.

People depend on others or the government for finances.

You may have learned to lean on another and stay dependent.

Consider whether you want someone to depend on you.

Do you encourage others’ addictions or dependency?

Are you aware of how you want to control people who need you?

Do you need others to be dependent on you? 

Help your children to become independent and grow up.

Help partners to develop their own gifts and talents.

With independence come strength, courage, and consciousness.

Learn to be independent to feel Self confident and self respect..

You can be attached to another and want to keep them dependent on you.

You can need to feel better about yourself by taking care of others.

You can be addicted to the feeling of being needed.

You can choose again to set yourself and others free to learn from life.

Dependent love is usually restrictive and limiting.

Conditional love is based on what others do or don’t do.

Independent love is trusting and freeing.

Unconditional love has no limits and simply loves for the sake of loving.

Freeing  and trusting you and me to heal and learn and grow,

Betty Lue

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing 

By Jerry Jampolsky, MD and ACIM 

1.       The essence of our being is love.

2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.

3.       Giving and receiving are the same.

4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.

5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.

6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.

7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.

8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.

9.       We are students and teachers to each other.

10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.

11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.

12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.

Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.

Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

No Need To Judge

NO JUDGMENTS PLEASE.

ALLOW ALL TO LEARN.

Affirmations:

I free myself by freeing you.

I trust you are freeing me too.

Everyone learns to feel safe and whole, as I learn to just let go.

I easily release all expectations, judgments and assumptions. And simply Love!

Let Go and Let Good Happen.

Don’t expect others to know what you know.

Don’t expect others to believe what you believe.

Don’t expect others to live the way you live.

Don’t expect others to do what you would do.

Everyone is different.

Everyone has a different beliefs and goals.

Everyone has different set of values and standards.

Everyone has their own inner dialogue and sense of themselves.

We really can make no assumptions about anyone.

Different strokes for different folks.

Some are formal and some informal.

Some are assertive and some are passive.

Some play victim and some play aggressor.

Some speak out and some stay quiet.

Some are respectful and some don’t care.

Some are needy and some are greedy.

Some feel alone and some want to be alone.

Some are certain and some are doubtful.

Some are independent and some independent.

Some want more and some want less.

Some know nothing and some know everything.

Some like to make their bed each day and some find that a waste of energy.

Some like to sit down at the table to eat a balanced meal and some graze on whatever is available.

Some life to do things quickly and some like to take their time.

Some think about things and some just want to do it without a lot of thinking.

Some overdo and some underdo.

Some like and some hate.

Some stick to themselves and some relate.

Some change every day and some stay the same.

Some are demanding and some laissez faire.

Some lead and some follow.

And then it all changes all the time anyway.

There are so many personality differences, we cannot possibly understand anyone else.

And it may take a lifetime to know ourselves.

We may study, observe, do therapy, change our persona and we still we evolve.

Such is the nature of life

The safer we feel, the more we reveal.

The more we reveal, the faster we heal.

The faster we heal, the happier we are.

The happier and safer we are, the more we change and unfold and blossom into our fullness.

So let’s give each other the space to fully be.

Let us choose to live in harmony with all the difference colors and textures and flavors and sounds.

Life is a tapestry of unique expressions of being.

Let us stop judging and just let everyone be.

In our willingness to be, we can live in wholeness and harmony.

Loving you and loving me, we believe in freedom and trust.

We create a safe zone in ourselves where everyone is free.

What a wonderful gift of life when we let everyone simply be.

Betty Lue

Love Your Self!

YOU ARE IMPORTANT!

TREAT YOURSELF WELL.

Affirmations: These affirmations are for YOU!

I love being me.

I show up for myself.

I pay attention and listen to my Self.

I choose what is right and good for me.

Ask Yourself

Where are you going?

Where have you been?

What are you doing?

What have you done?

Who are you being?

Who have you been?

How are you changing?

How have you changed?

Is your world changing?

Have you changed your thoughts and ideas?

Have you changed how you feel and relate?

Are you doing what needs to be done?

When are you happy with yourself?

What gives you a feeling of inner peace?

When do you allow yourself to relax and rest?

What gives you good thoughts and feelings?

So often in life we just follow the flow and do what needs to be done.

We may let others lead us or tell us what and when and how to do.

What is wrong and right often creates upsets and fights.

So how do you know what is your right place to grow?

Could you take five minutes a day to find your Will and your Way?

Are you willing to stop and listen within to your right place to begin?

Can you undo what is their right way and do what is truly good for you?

Are your ready to choose your life as you want it to be?

Each one of us has our own unique path and purpose.

You have your gifts, talents and resources.

You can name and claim your vision, mission and goals.

You can take charge and choose what is good for you.

When you ask yourself what you want, listen deeply to your heart guiding you.

There will be no guilt and fear, when you are clear and living what is dear to you.

You will find peace of mind, when you live what is truly highest and best for you.

All will be in harmony, when you choose to be the best you can be now and now and now.

Your REAL Job is to be GOOD to YOU.

Loving you and me, as we love ourselves well.

Betty Lue

Life is forgiving .

You are the gift.

It is in freeing and being the gift you are, that you recognize the gift.

Set yourself free with forgiveness.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue