Self Respect

Affirmations:

I trust my inner knowing and guidance.

I do what works for me.

I live by the laws of forgiveness and love.

I honor my differences and yours.

Honor Your Own Differences.

Do what is right and true for you.

Honor your own wisdom and truth.

Relinquish the need to convince others.

Stop complaining and explaining.

There is no need to convince anyone of what you know is true for you.

There is no need to try to get others to believe what you see and feel and know.

There is no need to get agreement or understanding when you trust yourself.

There is no need to be ‘Right” when believe in what is right for you.

Everyone perceives through their own emotional and historical filters.

Everyone has their own unique healing and learning journey in life.

Everyone is doing the best they know with where they are.

Everyone has their own challenges, mistakes, regrets and inner wisdom.

Opinions are just opinions based on what each one sees and believes to be right.

Facts are just our perception of what we see to be facts, but seen differently by others.

Advice is always given through our own lens of archived knowledge, experience and beliefs.

What is true and right for one is often not true and right for another.

How do we know and own our differences?

When easily influenced by parents, teachers, books and media, we may not have our own “truth”.

When comparing, exploring and seeking for answers, we may choose to try out different ways.

When we do not know what is right and true, what we do is seek the one who seems to know.

Dare, do, listen and be silent.

No need to convince anyone of your choices.

If what you choose works, do it for yourself.

If what you do is right for you, you will know it by how you feel inside.

Abide by your own right way.

Live true to your inner voice.

Honor what feels good and whole.

Be true to the Real and authentic you.

No one to please.

No one to answer to.

Nothing to prove.

So observe what works best for you.

Trusting you to listen to your own conscience and inner guide.

Those who are true to what is right for themselves will succeed.

Blessings to the wisdom that comes from what works.

Betty Lue

“Give yourself to Love.

And Love will give to you.

Live your life with Trust.

And Trust will see you through.”

Forgive FEAR!

Affirmations:

I erase fear and embrace Love.

I forgive what is not real and serves no purpose.

I set myself free as I trust in Love.

All things work together with Love.

Respond to All Things with Love.

Stop teaching fear.

Stop believing fear.

Stop encouraging fear.

Stop exalting fear.

Fear =False Expectations Appearing Real.

We follow fear and forget love.

We give fear power over us.

We teach by using fearful means.

We make fear our God, instead of Love.

We are here to teach Love.

We are here to believe in Love.

We are here to encourage Love.

We are here to exalt Love.

When fear has its way, we forsake Love.

When we let fear lead us, we disempower ourselves.

When fear fills our thoughts, our body and mind contract.

With fear we retreat or attack.

We make up the fears we believe in.

We increase the fears by talking, imagining and defending.

We lose our power of forgiveness, gratitude and choice with fear.

We neglect to listen to the inner voice of Love, Trust and Freedom.

With Love in us, all things are possible.

With the power of forgiveness, we can choose again.

With forgiveness , we learn to erase what is temporary and choose what is eternal.

With gratitude for what is whole and good and loving, we can undo what is limited, lacking and fearful.

Forgiveness is an eraser filled with Love.

To erase f e a r from our minds, we are free to choose Love.

When we step away from fear, we breathe and clear ourselves to remember the Truth.

When we stop watching, repeating, thinking and talking about fear, we stop reacting to fear.

Spiritual Truths:

What you focus on increases.

What you give attention to expands.

What you resist, persists.

What you fear, you create.

Time to replace all fear with Love.

Time to forgive ourselves for letting fear rule.

Time to undo what we choose not to be true.

Time to forgive fear and choose LOVE!

Love is the choice I make,

Betty Lue

SELF-SOOTHING SUGGESTIONS

1. Practice breathing slow and deep into your abdomen. Inhale 2, 3, 4 and exhale 2, 3, 4.

    This relaxes your body and quiets your mind.

2. Imagine something good in your future or positive time you are looking forward to.

    This encourages your mind to seek what feels good to you.

3. Send appreciation, love and blessings to others. Share in writing, in person, in prayer.

     What you give to others will inspire you to feel good about yourself.

Time to Forgive Mistakes

Affirmations:

I let go of what I do not want.

I free myself to think what I do want.

I undo what is not unhealthy or true.

I choose only what is highest and best for me.

Our Real Job

Our real job is to forgive our mistakes.

To forgive is to erase what is not what we want to be.

To undo what is not true for us is to erase it with Love.

To learn from mistakes is to recognize what is an error.

Our real job is to let go of thoughts and words which do not create goodness, healing and Love.  

We learned to condemn, punish, criticize, worry and blame  and increased our guilt.

The more guilt, the more fear, the more fear, the less consciousness.  

In other words, guilt tends to create the same mistakes again and still again.

It is not true that feeling guilty produces a positive change in behavior.  

It is true that healing unhealthy, destructive patterns is forgiveness of self and others.

It is true that we all seek forgiveness with love, respect and trust.

It is true that letting go of mistakes and rewarding positive behaviors strengthens health and happiness.

Our real job is to ignore those beliefs and circumstances that we want to eliminate.

Encourage the behaviors and relationships that we desire to increase.

Ignore the behaviors and relationships that we desire to let go and undo. 

Forgiveness at its best is remembering only the gifts of goodness and the blessings.

Forgiveness is being willing to give our best as teachers and role models.

Forgiveness is the Love that strengthens conscious, respectful and harmonious living.

Forgiveness is the opportunity to begin again with a fresh start and new choices.

Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves to let go of the pain, the fears, the judgments and the tears.

Forgiveness is giving the love we all want to ourselves and to others.

Forgiveness lays the foundation for making new choices, choosing again.

In the Presence of authentic Unconditional Love, we are more open, creative and willing to give our best.

In the Presence of Real Love, we make healthy choices, based on our desire to love and be loved.

In the Presence of Divine Love, we feel healed and happy, confident and capable of doing our best.

In the Presence of True Love, we feel we will be loved no matter what.

This is the Love that heals.

This is the Love that binds.

This is the Love that creates.

This is the Love that grows.

Our real job is to never quit on Love.

Never withhold our Love.

Never forget to Love.

Loving you,

Betty Lue

Sharing Joy

Affirmations:

I am willing to share my joy with others.

I know all life matters.

I treat others as I seek to be treated.

Life works for me when I am happy.

Share Your Joy!

What greater gift can you give that pure happiness and joy!

Are you remembering to appreciate?

Do you know how to express your joy?

Are you letting those you know how much you care?

Everyone matters!

Do you let them know?

Everyone is important! 

Do you express your gratitude?

Start with your family.

Let your partner see your love.

Show your children how precious they are.

Allow your family to see your happiness.

Remember to show your inner delight.

Demonstrate your value for your life.

Treat your Self with respect and dignity.

Honor your gifts to yourself and others.

Remember to let people know you care.

Take time to listen and share your joy.

Be open to what matters to others.

Demonstrate you want them to be happy.

Smile and bring peace and harmony.

Be willing to give your caring.

Listen with compassion and kindness.

Be the best you can be with all.

Good Living is simply loving with the natural delight within

Always loving and honoring us all.

Betty Lue

“I slept and I dreamed that life is all joy. 

I woke and I saw that life is all service. 

I served and I saw that service is joy.” 

― Kahlil Gibran

Be Right or Happy?

Affirmations:

I choose being happy.

I forgive the need to be right.

I let go of fighting, arguing and trying to win.

I love win-win solutions.

Would You Rather Be Right or Be Happy?

The ego chooses to be right.

The Essential Self always chooses Happiness?

When you are greedy, you want both.

So what is your choice?

There will be no arguments, when you choose happiness.

There will be no more resentment, when you choose happiness.

There will be no more pain, when you choose happiness.

There will be no more rejection, when you choose happiness.

There is no harm in choosing to be happy.

There is no sorrow in choosing to be happy.

There is the joy of letting go.

There is the freedom of allowing what is.

Why would anyone want to fight to be right?

Why would you choose to make others wrong?

Why cause suffering and pain to another?

Why be so determined to make others pay?

When you are clear, you will give up the fight.

When you are in your RIGHT Mind, you will let go.

When you want only happiness for yourself and the other, you will stop.

When you relinquish your need to win, you will begin.

Stop punishing yourself and others with trying to win.

The most fabulous solutions come from letting go.

The easiest way to peace is allowing freedom to all.

The quickest path to true and lasting happiness is to “Let It Be”.

I have chosen happiness.

The call of the universe is to be happy and free.

The Will of Goodness (God) is true happiness.

Let go and Let Goodness be our natural easy path to happiness.

Stop fighting.  Be happy.

Stop hurting. Be Happy.

Stop losing. Be happy.

Stop making others wrong.  Be Happy.

It is easy to let go.

It is natural to let others be.

It is healing to allow.

It is helpful to be happy.

Living to be happy,

Betty Lue

Clarity

Affirmations:

I forgive my impatience  and love how direct I am.

I choose to speak the Highest Truth I know.

I let go of  judgment when I share what I hear within.

I appreciate myself for being honest when I am clear.

Subtle or Direct?

What do you prefer?

Do you prefer people being nice or saying what they mean?

Do you like lots of words or concise statements?

Would you rather hear the whole story or the bottom line?

Everyone likes something different.

Some folks are story-tellers.

The humor, interest and energy is in telling the story.

Some folks just want to get to the point.

When we stop judging how people say what they are saying, we can really get the message.

When we listen to what others are really saying, we feel gratitude and respect.

When we hear what is being said from the heart, we know what is the other’s perspective.

When we honor the message being given, we know what is right and true for us.

Perhaps the confusion, conflict or resistance comes from not wanting to hear what is being said.

Perhaps the truth being shared is what we resist and dread.

Perhaps we don’t want to know what we already know is right and true.

Perhaps some prefer not hearing, knowing and honoring with is true for you.

Are you afraid to say what you want?

Do you resist knowing others want something else?

Do you prefer just doing things your own way?

Are you not really listening to the words others want to say?

Are you willing to assert your own choices and truths?

Are you allowing others to assert their choices too?

Do you continue to be kind to one and all?

Are you open to letting go of your position and allow others’ their say first?  

Bottom line, encourage others to tell their thoughts and feelings by being safe place.

Ask others if they want to hear your thoughts and feelings, to encourage safety for your sharing.

Create open communication, concise and direct or rambling sagas, by being an open willing listener.

Refrain from or forgive judgments, interrogation or unrequested commenting on others’ sharing.

We tend to copy the type of communication we are accustomed to without understanding others.

Give your listening and sharing time to observe what works and what doesn’t work.

Let others show you want they prefer.

Be clear about what you prefer and ask what works for them.

Our primary work in relationship is to create respect, honesty, kindness and safety.

Listen and learn. 

Listen and love. 

Listen and share the best you know.

Here to be clear.

Betty Lue

I am here to serve.

I will always have time for you.

What do you want? 

What do you need?

If you need me to listen or counsel, guide or coach, I am here.

If you need support for healthy ways of caring for others, I am here.

If you need  kind words or loving reminders, I am here.

If you need to remember how Good You Are, I am here.

You are important.

You matter to me.

You make a difference.

You deserve the best.

 

Contact me via email, text or voice mail.

I will respond.

I care.

I am here.

Loving us all,

Betty Lue