Flexibility and Change

Fixed opinions resist peace and understanding.
Attached relationships fear natural evolution.
Controlled behavior generate rules and guilt.
Demands and threats yield fearful reactions.

When we think we are helping, fixing and making someone change, we may be interfering-- "enter-fear".
When we want to have commitment and build responsibility, we may be demanding loyalty through guilt.
When we are teaching the world through angry words and negative emotions, we may be creating fear.
When we try to be nice when we are feeling hurt, we may be teaching deception.

How flexible can I be when taking care of me?
Give yourself the highest and the best and let go of the rest.
Trust that with life and relationship changes, you need to change your choices.
Trust that when something goes with your gratitude, the next best thing will arrive.
Trust and respect your inner knowing and let go of external rules and commitments.

Life and relationships as meant to serve the participants.
When the experiences fail to be healing and healthy, it is time to change one's choice.
When we offer allegiance to what once was helpful and now is not, it is time to make a new agreement.
To take impeccable care of oneself encourages constant inner listening and honoring the Highest Good.

Using threat, demand and punishment to get your way engenders fear and fearful compliance.
Using guilt, manipulation and bribes to get your way encourages dependence, covert hostility and resentful obedience.
These are two forms of apparent Love in parenting, politics, education and religious compliance.
These forms of Love are often projected and imagined in our relationship with our Creator.

Love is trust and freedom.
Trust and freedom with oneself begets trust and freedom with others.
Trust and Free Will are the primary qualities of our Creator's Love.
As times change the ways in which we live and learn, love and let go change form.
The substance of spiritual principles and universal laws remain the same as described in the teachings of the Masters.

In order to see how these apply, we must be willing to look beyond our narrow beliefs, our guilt-ridden mistakes, our resentment of others errors and our attack on their behavior and choices.
When we are willing to see from many other perspectives, we can become the forgiving and understanding teachers, healers, counselors and lovers we are here to be.
Everyone seeks to give their best.
Everyone is exploring to find a better way.
Everyone wants to love and be loved.
Everyone wants a "good life".
Everyone wants their loved ones to be safe and happy and whole.
So let us begin with ourselves.
Give yourself permission to take impeccable care of you.
Without guilt or blame, change what no longer serves your best self.
Let go of trying to get others to change or understand or obey or comply.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Gratitude and Forgiveness: The Keys to Happiness

The autumn is a powerful time of letting go.
Letting go can be fun, safe and easy, when we forgive our judgments and experience gratitude.
Rich with letting go of summer, of old leaves and beliefs, of unfulfilled wishes for ourselves, we can release what no longer serves.
We can embrace the coming of the holidays and celebrate.
Or we can dread the coming of winter, the sadness of family brokenness, the loss of loved ones and be depressed.

To let go with resentment, hurts.
To let go with gratitude, blesses.

Being grateful for all life offers will bring the awareness of gifts, healing, learning and growth.
Being forgiving of ourselves and others opens the way to see the blessings and the feel the love.

When we remember to forgive, we heal.
When we remember to appreciate, we see the Goodness, Beauty and wholeness.

Choose to begin everyday forgiving everything and everyone including yourself.
Choose to end each day with gratitude for everything and everyone including yourself.

Life is offering us everything we need to remember Who and Whose we are.

Children of the Light, we bring the Light.
Children of Infinite Love, we offer endless Love.
Children of the Unlimited Creator, we are limitless in our creations.
Children of Omniscience and Omnipotence, we are wise and powerful.
Children of God, we create Goodness and Beauty.

Are you remembering or hiding?
Are you freeing or limiting?
Are you trusting or doubting?
Are you loving or afraid?
Are you choosing or losing?

Remember and Forgive your forgetting.
Remember to give and really live.

Devoted to Remembering,
Betty Lue

Returning

When you come home from a time away, it is valuable to be grateful for the leaving and the return.

One way of coming home is to feel grateful and bless, where I have been and those whom I have met.
I look forward to my own bed, going grocery shopping and getting involved in my daily activities.
I make a list on the ride home of calls, plans, projects and changes in routine which I intend.
I use the time away to "upgrade" my life, to let go and release whatever no longer serves my happiness.

Whether for an overnight holiday or an extended vacation, it is valuable to benefit all parts of your life.
We may see a trip or vacation as something separate, a special event or disconnected from the mundane.
I see it as an extended meditation in which I clear my vision and perceive what I truly value.
I can "tweak" my life and make it support and benefit my highest vision for myself and my true work.

Some experience the high and low of pre-miracle anxiety and post-miracle depression, before and after a time away or a special event.
It is healing simply to be aware of that possibility. I make transition almost seamlessly by packing only a few hours before leaving and keeping my daily routine going. And on my return, I have unpacked, washed clothes and moved into everyday life with a few hours. Life itself is so filled with miracles when we are present, and in the now with gratitude.

If willing to vacate the ordinary and see things with a fresh outlook, life can be filled with joys daily.
Each of us can take five minutes of reflection, an evening of doing what we love or a weekend getaway to give ourselves a treat,
a mini-vacation.

You can take a walk and ask the question, "How can I improve the quality of my life today?"
You can ask in morning meditation, "How can I support myself in being my best?"
You can write in your journal a list of “ways to take impeccable care of yourself.”

We will be taking a group on retreat again next year, so do plan on joining us if you are called.
We love to " get away" , to make new friends, create spiritual family, to inspire awakening, healing and growth, as well as see our lives from a fresh perspective.

I am loving and blessing you in beholding the rich and abundant life you have right now!
Betty Lue

Trust

Off for 9 days on our Hawaii Retreat. Mahalo.

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you'll help them to become what they are capable of becoming.
–Goethe

Untapped potential for goodness, growth and creativity lies in everyone. Our work is to access our own potential for goodness sake, to grow in loving kindness and create what is helpful and beautiful in our world. When we can do this for ourselves, it becomes natural to share it with others.

For those of us who naturally trust, we expect to be trusted. We see the world from a place of trust.
We give our trustworthiness, openness and honesty and expect it in return.
If we experience dishonesty, we seek to understand, forgive and trust again in what was confessed.
For those who have learned distrust, they expect to be lied to, cheated and betrayed.
They see their world from a place of distrust. They are doubting,suspicious and look for being right about their belief in untrustworthiness of their world and their relationships.
When they find they are right, they usually defend their position, yielding greater distrust.

When people behave with the fearful ego or learned personality in charge, they may appear intimidating (blaming and critical), interrogating (doubting and suspicious), withdrawing (aloof and withholding) and/or victimized (needy and poor me). All these behaviors are symptoms of feeling unsafe and needing to control their situations. The ego believes its position is right and tries to control others to feel safe.

Our Essence is Love. Our authentic Self seeks always to love and be loved.
It is our life purpose and our holy world to dissolve the barriers to Love.

Love is trust and freedom.
I trust that the real You, the authentic Self, is under your fear and defensive need to control.
I trust that with enough Love you will remember what is true and loving, whole and Good.
I trust that with safety and warmth and light, you can and will heal your fears and grow in Love.
I trust the process of life is within you now, seeking to heal and free you from limitation and lack.
I trust the Good in me to be unharmed by your fear.
I trust the only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

Love is Trust.
I am trusting you and me in our healing process.
Betty Lue

By amending our mistakes, we get wisdom.
By defending our faults, we betray an unsound mind.
-The Sutra of Hui Neng

On Retreat

Retreats are really inspirational advances!
Every year we take a group on retreat with us to the Kona Coast of Hawaii.
Next year, you wanna come?
Start saving just $100-$150 each month and you will have plenty of resources to pay for it all.
And if that seems like too much, ask yourself what you want more?
Life is choice.
Choice is taking the time to value what you value.
Daily Latte's or a weeks' vacation?
Having your nails done or a monthly massage?
Using an upper, downer or recreational alcohol or taking time to meditate and walk daily?

Taking impeccable care of you is your gift to Life.
Taking the best care of you cares for everyone with your best.
Taking good care of the Ones you love includes loving you.
What is really highest and best for you is best for everyone.

When you are whole and happy, feeling your best, you give your best to others.
When you are full of love and peace, you naturally share your love and peace.
When you are inspired and enjoying life, others receive your inspiration and joy.
When you have forgiven yourself, you are more likely to forgive others and love them.

We are gone until September 30, with a small group to the Kona Coast on the Big Island of Hawaii.
We will be practicing the gift of mindfulness and fully enjoying the beauty and peace of each moment.
Water, warmth, wind and waves, beautiful sunrises and sunsets, soothing music, sound of birds, flowering fragrance and children's laughter enrich our experience of "Living in Joy".
Simple living, with few things, positive interactions, inspirational concepts and nutritious live foods will be on our menu together.

You can choose your own retreat….for free. (It does take time)
Go to the ocean for a 30 minute beach walk and 30 minute meditation.
Climb to the top of a hill and be alone for an hour to write in your journal.
Sit in a bathtub with fragrant herbs, candles and soft music.
Awaken in early morning, listen to your inner voice, and write down what you hear and feel.
Take a walk under the stars and contemplate who you are in this world.

Life is your place to learn to be fully able to respond.
When you are responsible for you, you are able to gratefully respond to others.
When you are full of love, you respond with love.
When you are empty, you are limited in your ability to give.
Life is for giving.
Bless, nurture and appreciate the giver and the giving in you.
Give to yourself first.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

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And you can call my cell phone for urgencies at 925-324-2409!
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I am Loving you right now with a heart that is True B’Lue!

Too Much and Too Many

"It is just too much!"
Too much work to do, too much junk mail, too many phone calls, too much spam, too much pollution, too many taxes, too many problems, too much traffic, too much to think about, too much food, too many pounds, too many bills, too much violence and too many words to read, you say.

Sounds like "abundance gone wild" to me.
Our culture often seems to want more.
And the more you want, the more you get.
The question may be what is the more you want.
If you want more stuff of this world, you get more stuff.
But with the stuff comes good stuff and bad stuff, whatever stuff happens to be circulating.
The fads and the ads support buying and having, displaying and wearing more stuff.
With more stuff is more cost and more care, more problems and worry, and a need for more.
An abundance of stuff often creates clutter, materialism, jealousy and envy, need and greed.

What if we valued an abundance of simplicity and ease?
What if we valued freedom and flow?
What if we valued short and sweet?
What if we valued true and loving?
What if we valued peace and harmony?
What if we valued beauty and order?
What if we valued just what we really need?

When I offer these Loving Reminders, this serving bowl of possibilities, you have the opportunity to take exactly what you need.
You need only take what you will eat which will benefit your health, happiness and life purpose.
When we are hungry for inspiration, we may over indulge and want to absorb every word.
When we fear getting depleted, we many hoard and save for the day we are needy.
When we can't be selective for fear we may miss something, we have to take it all and sort it out later.

Life is like these Loving Reminders.
A few of you have asked that I send them weekly and put you on a diet.
A few of you print them out and save them in a file (in a drawer or on computer.)
Some of you only read when you have time, because you are busy with urgent and important matters.
Some delete them easily.
Some fill your mailbox and then ask me to take you off my email list.

How do you handle the too much in your life?
I choose to keep only as much and as many as I can care for well.
I choose to value beauty, goodness, wholeness and the Highest Truth.
I choose to easily and gratefully, with forgiveness and blessing, release all that is not what I value.
I choose to let go of yesterday’s meal trusting it blessed me and others.
And then I can fully receive and share what is given me today.

My life becomes more simple.
With simplicity comes clarity.
With simplicity, clarity and gratitude comes peace.
I want peace. I choose peace. I give peace and I appreciate Peace.

Have some Peace, Please!
Betty Lue

Sensitivity

How sensitive are you?
Some believe that is not good to be thin-skinned.
Some don't like being sensitive to too much sun.
Some judge those who cry or feel other's pain.
Some feel bad about being easily moved emotionally.
Some believe that as you grow up, you should be able to "handle things better."
Some believe that those on a spiritual path are less influenced by humanity’s suffering.

The more aware, the more one notices.
The more present, the more one sees.
The more open, the more one receives.
The more conscious, the more one hears.
The more available, the more one is asked.
The more loving, the more one is needed.
The more sensitive, the more one feels.
The more feeling, the more one cares.
The more one care, the more one responds.
The more one responds, the more one is truly helpful and healing.

I prefer to be aware and responsive.
I prefer to be sensitive and respectful of myself and others.
I prefer to be inspired and spiritual with a caring heart and a gentle mind.

If we all just numb out by witnessing so much violence, death and loss, who will care enough to respond?
If we all learn to protect ourselves and not feel with others, how will we heal our world?
If we don't notice the pollution and pain, it will increase and overcome us with darkness and despair.

The sensitive ones are bringers of Light and keepers of the flame.
We must be vigilant for God and Good and the intrinsic Goodness in the innocence of humanity.
We must foster and respect the tender-hearted and the sensitivity in men, women and children.
We must open our hearts and respond to the cries for hope and the calls for help.
We must, because we care.
We must, because we can.

Loving the sensitivity in YOU.
Betty Lue

Happiness

The choice to love leads to lasting happiness
Happiness built on dreams and hopes, myths and fantasies will be temporary.
Love based on conditions of fidelity, longevity and commitment may yield mixed results.
Anytime we count on another to fill our expectations, we are depending on the changeable personality.
Feelings change with the weather, hormones, physical health, the moon cycle, economics and a whim.
Those who depend on feelings and emotions will experience a roller coaster ride, unless numb.
Those who depend on the call of Spirit can experience the lasting commitment of Divine Love.

Difficult to understand for the ego who sees things as good and bad, romantic or passionless, abundant or lacking, freeing or limited, right or wrong. The Love of God or divine Love is eternal and endless.
This Unconditional Love does not end with change in form or function.
This Unconditional Love does not turn to hatred or resentment when disappointed or distracted.
This Unconditional Love does not turn to another lover or child because one misbehaves or leaves us.
This Unconditional Love, like the prodigal Son, sustains its love and faith, its hope and courage.

Total forgiveness is the human choice to clear away the barriers to the awareness of Love's Presence.
True forgiveness turns away from the apparent wrongs and seeks peace.
True forgiveness experiences the call to continue Loving, to reach out in Love and to extend Peace.
True forgiveness may receive the Light of understanding the mistakes made and the path chosen.
True forgiveness is the key to lasting happiness and inner peace.

To withhold love hurts the one withholding.
To limit love limits our happiness and inner joy.
To hold past resentment puts up a barrier to trust and freedom.
To remember what no longer is, as a defense against it happening again, recreates it in our minds.

To fully freely love clears the mind and opens the heart.
To fully and freely love lifts the Spirit and inspires our aliveness.
To fully and freely love opens the doors to full appreciation.
To fully and freely love invites in more Love and more delight.

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
The ego may believe withholding Love protects us from being hurt again,
but withholding love keeps us from ever really loving and being loved again.

So let the past go.
Choose to fully trust in Love.
Choose to totally free your Love.
Choose to fully give and receive the Love.
And know total happiness. Now.

Happy in loving, because Love is Who I AM and Who You Really Are..
Betty Lue

Tweaking

The full moon often tweaks areas of unconsciousness.
Good friends may tweak us with their honesty.
Life offer tweaks to help us pay attention and stay on course.
Loving relationships tweak our intention to give our best.

"I enjoy being tweaked."

Can you imagine what a difference that attitude could make in your life?
If you hate being "tweaked", you might feel pain, anger, guilt, fear and quit on the "tweaker".
If you love being "tweaked", you might see "tweakers" as teachers, true friends, and appreciate their reminders.

If life were totally comfortable without "tweaks", it is likely you would fall into unconsciousness.
Your contentment might lead you to take it all for granted, forget to be grateful and generous.

When you enjoy the wake-up calls, you receive their messages easily and gratefully.
When you invite honesty and authenticity, you value those words which fine tune your contributions.
When you include those in your circle who won't just agree with you, you expand your perceptions.
When you look through other's eyes at life, you begin to see as God might see.

Life is not about playing to win or be right.
Life is about enjoying the play while remembering to be loving and giving.
Life is not about resisting and avoiding the difficulties, but rather transforming them into strengths.
Life is about becoming a conscious and conscientious listener to your spiritual inner Voice.

Let's value tweaks and fully enjoy and contribute to a world of loving, laughing and letting go.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Fun, Safe and Easy

Life can be fun, safe and easy.

When seen as a game, an adventure, a challenge to learn, life can be fun.
When we take life's challenges seriously, we contract and lose our enjoyment.
When we are in grief, judgment, comparison or resentment, nothing seems fun.
When we perceive the possibilities and know our own joy will transform our experience, we have fun.

When we look for all the dangers of everyday life, we can believe that we are an endangered species.
When we scan our world for potential problems, we will find them all and create even more.
When we search for how to protect ourselves from what might go wrong, we help create our fear.
When we stay in fear, we perceive danger everywhere.

When we believe that pain brings gain, we look for the hard way.
When we are convinced those who struggle are rewarded better, we make sure we work hard.
When we don't want to make others look bad, we may even exaggerate the efforts we have made.
When we want to do less, we may make it seem like more so we can coast a little.

Our leaders, teachers, parents and authorities may convince us life is serious, dangerous and difficult.
When you believe it is, it will be.
What you believe you perceive.
What you perceive you strengthen.

Some would see fun, safe and easy as blasphemous. I see it as effective living.

Listen within.
Follow your heart.
Enjoy what you do and do what you enjoy.
Stop what no longer works.
Seek the path that flows with ease.
Fill yourself with forgiveness and kindness.
Take time to smile and reach out to others.
Answer the inner call with enthusiasm and gratitude.
Look for the sunshine, even in the rain.
There is always light behind every storm cloud.
There is an opportunity to bless and love in every disaster.
Disintegration and undoing begets the possibility of integration at a higher level.
The creation cycle begins from love and ends with appreciation.

Life can be fun, safe and easy when I am willing to perceive it so.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Fear Interferes

Fear contracts.
Fear lies.
Fear distracts.
Fear separates.
Fear judges.
Fear withholds.
Fear blames.
Fear limits.
Fear doubt.
Fear quits.

Fear distorts what we know and feel.
Fear creates what appears real.
Fear is "false expectations appearing real".
Fear is judging and then seeing what you judge.
Fear is the ego's tool to gain control.
Fear is forgetting the Love within.
Fear is believing there is a Power greater than Love.
Fear is humanity's excuse for not fully Being.
Fear is a myth that is passed on through generations.
Fear is the enemy of the conscious mind.
Fear is the temporary absence of Light and De Light.
Fear is an invitation to remember Love.
Fear is an opportunity to strengthen your faith.
Fear is a call to listen within.
Fear is what keeps us stuck in limitation and lack.
Fear is the excuse for war, hatred, violence, and ignorance.
Fear is nothing but a habit of choosing to be a victim.

Letting go of fear is fun, safe and easy.
I erase past fearful beliefs and stories.

I now choose to remember only what is true and loving.

Remembering Love,
Betty Lue

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Habits Undone

Are you in the habit of worrying?
Do you stress yourself about petty things?
Does your mind get stuck on meaningless matters?
Do you have habits that render you unconscious?
Are you in the habit of over spending, over eating, over doing?
Do your habits get you in trouble?
Do you have habits of eating, doing or thinking what does harm?

Wherever you have a negative habit, you can choose to undo it and change it.
Undoing lifetime habits may take longer than undoing a recent habit pattern.
Undoing habits requires a willingness to change.
Undoing negative habits takes practice and persistence.
Make up your mind that you can and will do what is best for you.
Give yourself permission to make mistakes.
Be patient and kind to yourself.
Remember, that the rewards of the familiar old habit may require rewards for doing something new.
Give yourself at least thirty days of conscious effort to change your mind and your choices.

Envision and imagine what your life will be without the negative habit.
(You can write down a list of the positive qualities you will experience.)
Determine your level of desire, motivation and need to make the change.
State your confidence in yourself to ask for and receive help from Higher Power.
(Make a statement of your desire, confidence and commitment.)
I trust that the positive changes I am making in my life are guided and supported by the Highest Good.
I believe that I am meant to be the best I can be.
I choose to make these changes to benefit myself and everyone I encounter.
Listen, whenever tempted, to the spiritual answer…"What is for my Highest Good right Now?"
Commit to take the high road and let Love for yourself, your creator and your calling lead the way.
Do whatever it takes to stay on path.
Be grateful for whatever steps, small or large, that you accomplish.

Guilt does not work.
Criticism does not work.
Negative reinforcement only holds negativity and failure in your mind really want.

Life is a process of pruning away what is not truly helpful or healthy or healing for you.
Life is a journey, exploring many possibilities, to find what is highest and best for you.
Life is an opportunity to experiment with undoing whatever is not true and loving for you.
Life is the canvas on which we become the master creator of what is good and beautiful and holy.
Begin now.

Loving you and me in all our creations, mis-creation and recreation.
We are learning to create only love with only love.
Betty Lue

Remembering

You are the One Who forgets what is not Love.
You are the One Who remembers what is Love.
You are the Gift and the Giver.
You are the Teacher and the Teaching.
You are the Healer and the Healing.
You are the Light wherever you are.
You are Love that is needed now.
You are the Blessing and the Blessed.

When I am coaching and counseling, I am often asked, "Why am I the One?"
My answer, "Because You Are."

It is highly likely that in every relationship and situation,
You are the most conscious One.
You are the most willing One.
You are the most loving One.

Those reading these loving reminders are usually the most willing to be conscious and loving.
Yes, there are others, but the likelihood of them showing up in your life is not very great.
Light workers and Loving Reminders are sprinkled throughout humanity, so all can be touched.
You are a Holy Sprinkle, the salt of the Earth. (maybe even God's tenderizer.)
You volunteered, probably beyond your memory, to be Love and teach Love.
You accepted an assignment to play the part you are playing.
You said, "Yes", to this spiritual employment.
Your relationships are an opportunity to wakeup and remember.
Your career path is a place to love, serve and remember.
Your journey through this physical life is a time where you are called to listen within, teach and heal.

Who are You?
Why are You here?
What do you really want?
To remember and fulfill your Holy Purpose here?
What keeps you from remembering?
A world of distraction, disillusionment and despair can cloud your memory and contract your Vision?

Use these and all Loving Reminders to stay awake and accept your sacred assignment with Gratitude.
You are a gift to me and all who have eyes to see your Light and ears to hear your Love.

I am She Who Remembers.
I will never forget You.
I will never forsake You.
Betty Lue

Look beyond the body and you will see the Light.
This is the Light that shines in you.

Rest in Love

To rest in fear causes stress and contraction.
To rest in love creates relaxation and expansion.

To terrorize ourselves fearing tragedy and disaster will shut down our capacity for creativity and Love.
To focus on what awful has happened or could happen generates defensiveness, separation and Fear.
To imagine what could happen in the future diminishes our potential for creative problem solving.
To seek creative solutions for what is happening with open-mindedness and appreciation expands.

The prayer we seek in times of disaster and family turmoil is to remember to trust.
To find peace within, rather than fixing blame on God, Government or people, opens understanding.
The peace of a quiet mind and a trusting heart is creative, expansive, generous, honest and responsive.
To rest in the Love and Goodness that lives in you allows us all to give more and to feel hope and faith.

When you want to experience healing, rest in Love.
When you need to find answers, relax in silence.
When you seek to understand, listen within in peace.
When you are called to respond, ask, "What is best for me to say or do right now?"

When we are upset, angry, afraid, hurting, lost or confused, we are calling for this Love I speak of.
When we are conflicted, seeking, ill or out of balance, we need to regain our center.
When we are complaining or judging, doubting and suspicious, we want to reclaim our inner Peace.
When we are lonely, discouraged and feel separate, we need to stop, look within and listen.

There is a friend living within you. This friend, higher Self, soul Self, Spirit Guided, Inner Teacher is there for you. However, if you are unwilling to free yourself from the distractions of outer authority and demands, you cannot hear and will not respond.

Spend time forgiving yourself for forgetting about the Inner Truth.
And forgive yourself for remembering to hold grudges and hurts as your earplugs from inner listening. Take time to stop and listen.
Take time to stop and love you.
Take time to be alone with your True Self.
Take time to hear and respond to what is given in quiet.

Rest in the Love that lives in you.
Protect that rest by loving You and All.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Never Too Late

It is never too late to begin again.
It is never too late to forgive what you judged.
It is never too late to heal what you feel.
It is never too late to speak your mind.
It is never too late to remember to be kind.
It is never too late to return what is not yours.
It is never too late to love again.
It is never too late to say "thanks" to a friend.
It is never too late to say "good bye".
It is never too late to let yourself cry.
It is never too late to answer the call.
It is never too late to say, "That's all!"
It is never too late to truly let go.
It is never too late to learn to say "No".
It is never too late to let your heart lead.
It is never too late to find what you need.
It is never too late to live what is true.
It is never too late to be the real you.
It is never too late to know what you seek.
It is never too late to have inner peace.
It is never too late.

Time is the illusion we have chosen in which to wander away from fully living each day.
Time is the stretching out of our eternal moment in which to explore possibilities galore.
Time is our choice to freely give voice to what might help us find our very own mind.
Time is a place to join the human race and make up what's "real" with all we feel.
And when we find ourselves in the place just right, there is no difference in day or in night.
When we are fully in alignment with all we know and can be, it is only this which we can see.
Present moment living, without beginning or end, just happens, when we are being our very best friend.
We know God and Good when we are being all we can be, the Godness and Goodness in which we are free.

It is never too late to listen to your heart.
It is never too late in this place and time you can start.
Listen within and you will find….The One you have been seeking to heal and be kind.
Dear Ones, Begin again now.
Each day and each hour is the opportunity to have the powerful gift of NOW.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

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The Gift of Peace

When in conflict, seek peace.
When in an argument, walk away and cool off.
When in doubt, be quiet.
When upset, breathe deep.
When blaming, practice forgiveness.
When judging, be open-minded.
When critical, choose to appreciate.
When at war, offer mediation.
When withholding, speak clearly one time.
When scared, choose to trust in the Highest Power.
When lost, look for the High Way.
When feeling separate, find similarities.
When lonely, reach out with Love.
When busy and tired, stop to rest and enjoy.
When angry, let go of being right and righteous.

Remember, everyone see through their own filters.
Remember, perceptions are colored by emotion not fact.
Remember, there is not one right way.
Remember, first extend peace, then you will understand.
Remember, love will prevail after all is said and done.
Remember it is up to the most conscious one present to bring peace and healing.
Remember, you are the most conscious one in every situation and relationship.
Remember life works when you do the inner work.
Remember, laughter dissolves fear and melts anger.
Remember to come closer when you feel separate.
Remember to create a safe non-judgmental space where others can share their fears and their truth.
Remember to offer peace in times of struggle and strife.
Remember, inspiration and insight come to a quiet mind.
Remember to give yourself "time out's" when you forget and lose it.
Remember, forgiving yourself for forgetting to Love is the only real forgivenss.
Remember, teach Love not fear.
Remember, you are a messenger of Good news and Peaceful Reminders.

At peace during turbulent times,
Betty Lue

How Are You Loving You?

How love others, is predominantly determined by how you love you.

Do you know what keeps you healthy? Do you give yourself what you really need?
Do you know what keeps you happy? Are you willing to do whatever it takes?
Do you know what keeps you out of stress? Do you give yourself those conditions?
Do you know what to do when you are distressed? Are you willing to provide what brings comfort?
Do you accept your mistakes with good humor and learning?
Do you bless and appreciate who you are and all you do?
Do you go for the highest possibilities or accept compromises with complacency?
Do you speak up when you have something to say and value what is given?
Do you enjoy the rewards of life without attaching to greediness and envy?
Do you turn off the scary stuff and fill yourself with the inspiring stuff?
Do you smile at yourself both in the mirror and in your heart?
Do you enjoy you company and value the quiet inner times of reflection?
Do you make time to do what you love and truly love what you do?

Loving you is just as needed as loving others.
Saving you is just as important as saving your world.
Serving yourself is just as needed as serving everyone everywhere.

It all begins with me and you,
Betty Lue


I will hold your hand
when you need to remember how to love you!

Media and Mental Focus

"As an engineer, I often look at situations statistically. Every day in this country
approximately 12,245 die of natural causes., but that's not news. Everyday, in
this country, approximately 150 people die in car accidents; but, that's not
news (if 150 people die in an airplane accident, its front page!) Everyday,
approximately 50 people in this country die of hand guns, but that's not news.
If we lose 3 soldiers in Iraq, that's news! Things like the plague of the
1300's, or the Romans crucifying 50,000 followers of Sparticus along the Appian
way have been going on for all of history. i prefer to believe that things are
actually better than they have ever been, but that's not news. It seems to me
that the "problem" is one of focus. This episode in the South is one of the
great catastrophies of our generation in this country, but pales to the flu
epidemic or 1918 (3,000,000 dead in America alone!) The way we focus on the
news today is the biggest part of the problem in my mind. The ongoing march of
history is normal - not always fun, but normal." RN

You actually are sound like my Dad who also was an engineer. And I agree.
The problem is one of media presentation, political response and the people's mental focus.
'What we focus on we increase. What we attend to, we expand with focused power and presence."
Each of us can send blame or blessings.
We can give money or fear.
We have an opportunity to support more responsive governmental policies or keep what is in place.
We can join with effective organizations to tend to the immediate needs of the people or watch a movie.
We can hope things will get better for the displaced half million people or join the building process.
We can be glad we are safe and comfortable and wish the best or we can send food and clothing.
Humanity will respond to humanity when we can see "that could be my family."

The response from the private sector seems to be improving steadily, as we have more resources of time, energy and money. Depending on our current economy and our global/national focus, governmental responses to the poor, sick, uneducated may be temporarily at a standstill or deteriorating or actually be more immediate than ever before. Delay, distraction and detours are not OK with those of us who are light workers, here to move humanity to greater awakening and responsibility. Normal is what normal is. But the extraordinary and miraculous is possible here and now.

We are the ones to awaken those who are sleeping, complacent and frankly too selfish to reach out to their brothers. When we complain about terrorism and fear those who do harm, we need to look at cause rather than kill the symptoms. The extraordinary is only possible for those who place their consciousness on the highest vision. There is a spiritual revolution , an awakening of humanity to the greater Good for all people. There are those who sound the alarm. There are those students who seek to learn. There are those teachers who are to give their best for the benefit of all.

When the classroom is viewed on a screen, students lose a sense of compassion for what appears to be a movie. In one sense the non-attachment can free us to see life in a clearer light with less drama. In another sense the detachment from the suffering of humanity from a media perspective can leave us separate, lost and confused about our place on this earth.

Each one of us has a response. Our response is our response-ability. What we give we receive. What give our brothers is what we want if the same were our plight. How we respond determines our experience. No matter how we are being influenced by statistics, media, the suffering and fear, or the love and compassion we feel, we are able to respond. The choices we make personally affect everyone on the planet.

Choosing to respond with love and kindness, appreciation and vision,
Betty Lue

Cause and Effect

"I am confused. When I look at the world and what is happening down South, my heart breaks, and I cry for them. However, there is the part of me that knows there are no accidents. How can I put blame ,when I think that if there are no accidents, have these people chosen to leave in this way? Perhaps the people that did leave when told were not supposed to be there? If things happen the way they are supposed to, then how can we question that someone did something wrong? As Greg Braden says, we control the weather with our emotions. Is this perhaps emotions from the wars that people are putting their consciousness into? I just know there are no accidents, and if I feel that way does it make me a cold person? Just wondering out loud to someone who might understand my thoughts. If you can help me understand please do." AL

Our world has missed the mark. Humanity has erred. We are lost in our own mistakes and defenses against more mistakes. Now we need a wake up call loud enough to awaken the sleeping masses, the misguided leadership and the unconscious folly of denial. Those who volunteer for the wakeup call are to be blessed, loved and appreciated for bringing us to consciousness. The canaries in the coal mines are dying. The impoverished and forgotten were left hungry without transportation, shelter, water or medical care for days, dying on the streets and in their homes, while government officials worried about the fuel supply.

Sometimes, when someone cries, we cover our head with a pillow.
Sometimes we have another beer or turn up the volume on the TV.
Sometimes we get mad and make them cry harder.
Sometimes we focus on the really big problems.
Sometimes we say, "Shut up" or stick a temporary pacifier in their mouths.
Sometimes we feed them candy just to make them be quiet.
Sometimes we ignore them or send them to their room.
Sometimes we just leave and abandon them.
Sometimes we feel their feelings and reach out with compassion and loving kindness.

Are we being selfish and focusing on our own comforts?
Are we willing to see our brother as ourselves?
Are we willing to own that terrorism is not the problem? It is the symptom.
Are we willing to see government and politics is not the answer?
Are we willing to put our greed and need aside and reach out to those with real need?
Are we willing to trust that until all are fed and sheltered and educated, no one is safe?
Are we willing to be the solution, not caught in the judgment and fear of the problems?
Are we willing to not just speak out, but reach out with genuine love in our hearts?
Are we willing to open our pocketbooks and our homes to "strangers"?
Are we willing to be forgiving of our own arrogance and ignorance rather than judge others?
Are we willing to trust in the natural consequences of a world at war?
Are we willing to right the wrongs and give up our justifications and hypocrisy?
Are we willing to choose again together to find a better way to respond to what is needed at home?
Are we willing to spend our resources to send our kids to excellent schools with well-paid teachers?
Are we willing to provide all our people with quality healthcare?
Are we willing to clean up our water, our air, our food supply, our city streets, our flood control, our highways, our environment, our education and medical care?
Are we willing to recognize that while me may HAVE, the majority of the world does not HAVE?

Perhaps the violence and "terrorism" is the result of not having access to what we have.
Perhaps the looting is the desire to feed their families and have shoes on their feet.
Perhaps the drug use and addictions are to cover the pain and frustration of not knowing how to change.
Perhaps disasters are due to our not taking responsibility to love, educate and help all the family of man?
Perhaps we are so used to sending them down into the mines we forgot about danger and disaster/
Perhaps we are so comfortable in our safe, fun and easy lives se forgot we are One people on One Planet.

It is through working together as a team with all equal players with equal rights and equal benefits that we experience true safety, ease and enjoyment in life.
We are awakening and beginning to make a difference one mind and heart at a time.

Loving us all,
Betty Lue

Remember to Love EveryOne, as you Love the most precious One in your life!

Look Toward the Light

From a new reader, a college student, who called me "accidentally" when he was worried about his mother.
"Thank you so much for these loving reminders. I would highly appreciate a weekly reminder.
You are so right about the first quote "looking toward the dark, we see only the dark".
That is how I feel. How do you get over it? That is my problem".

My response:
Life is like exercising. To get strong we have to practice and workout regularly
Our minds become weak and lazy with lack of discipline.
To be willing to get over our lethargy and lack of motivation, we must be aware of what is not working.
We must be honest about our responsibility in the problem. And then we can choose what is best for us.
To develop a new habit of mind, we must commit to practice daily and even moment by moment.
When we forget, we must forgive ourselves and begin again with open-mindedness and appreciation.
It gets easier when you develop the habit of looking toward the light, even when others seem to be looking toward the dark side...

Affirmations work: Say and write them 10-20 times daily.
My mind easily lets go of everything that is not wholly true and wholly loving.
I now seek the Light and see the Light in All that Is.
I am willing to forgive my negativity, judgment and fear and see the gift, the blessing and the love.
I forgive myself for withholding the Love I Am and the Peace I have from anyone for any reason.
As I see Light and the Love, I radiate Light and the Love and give the world another possibility.
And when there is darkness, fear and despair, I am called to offer Light, Love and Hope, and this I do.

Life is for giving. We are the gifts. It is in giving ourselves that we realize the gifts we are.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
Now is the time and you are the One. No one else is here to give what is your to contribute.
Bless you and your willingness to fully be and freely give.

Loving us all as One,
Betty Lue

Am I Your Family?

Excerpt from a Loving Reminders' reader and spiritual seeker:
"Am I really part of your family? I need a person, not even a whole family, at least one person, who will call ME and have a truly meaningful conversation with me on a regular (and frequent) basis and will want to connect their life with mine. "

My personal and inspirational response:
I write to you everyday from the Love I know and the Love I AM.
I express the Highest Truth I know, because you are my family.
I respond to your emails from my heart, because I care.
I care about you, because you are my family.
If you needed shelter or food, I would help, because you are my family.
I do not call you everyday, because I do not call anyone everyday.
No one calls me everyday or even every week.
I do not ask for others to plan my birthday or invite me to dinner, because I am busy serving.
When I am not serving others, I am being still and restoring my body/mind.
When I want meaningful conversation, I plan a group or class.
When I want a family feeling, I observe how humanity reaches out in times of need.
When I need Love, I give Love.
When I want comfort and assurance, I give comfort and assurance.
When I want company, I keep company with someone who is lonely.

Family for me is choice, not obligation or duty.
Family for me is spontaneous, not scheduled or expected.
Family for me is easy, not a chore or necessary.
Family for me is giving, not getting something back.
Family for me is everyone, not those who are related by blood.

I am called to give to those to whom I am called.
This is the first time in many years that I am called to serve my blood "family".
Gia was the first call. Some see her as my Soul Essence Twin.
Gia's Dad is also a significant calling for me.
I am called to support my daughter, Hilarie and her husband, because they are providing excellent parenting for their babies.
I am called to be with the babies because my inner voice said, "Give them two days a week."
If I had let myself question the call to serve, I would not have seen a way to provide for Robert and I and our ministry with all of our "family" commitments.
However, as always, the more I give, the more I have.
The more I share, the more I have to share.
Life works, because I respond to my inner voice, the call to Love unconditionally, serve from the heart and remember God.
I see everyone as myself, the Holy One, the God within all that is.
While I cannot be with everyone physically, I can see each One as the only One.
I can love each one as the Holy One. I can behold the Good, the Beautiful and the Whole in every One.

Friendship for me in a social sense is not a part of my life or my mission here. Therefore, I do not relate socially. Friendship in terms of talking on the phone or having a walking partner or going out to eat is not a part of my life, because it is not what I am called to do with anyone… Robert is my God given partner to support me in doing the spiritual work I am called to.
I believe each one has a life path which we are to embrace, value, enjoy and fully utilize for the Good of All. Our life path can be personal or impersonal. It can be to serve, to heal, to teach, to create, to enjoy, to demonstrate, to lead, to actualize, to experience to challenge ourselves, to grow, etc. If you can see you life as a whole, you probably can identify your path, as whatever experience you have been experiencing. When you resist your life, you will be unhappy and discouraged. When you embrace your life as it is and appreciate all you are and what you have, you will enrich your life experience.

I value your expressions.
I appreciate your calls for understanding.
I honor your experiences.
I invite you to look again (respect) what you have.
I encourage you to appreciate. Enjoy what you have done and been and have created.
I celebrate your gifts of courage, creativity and commitment.
I am loving you by wholly embracing my life and appreciating my path.

This is my truth and my profound love and respect for your truth is in every word and the loving intention with which I write to you as my Sister in Spirit.
Betty Lue

I am Loving you right now with a heart that is True B’Lue!

Disaster

I am shocked at our government's response to the disaster in Mississippi and Louisiana.
I am dismayed by reports of turning away help from other countries.
I am surprised at the slow and no response to what was predicted days ahead.
I am grieving that people with black skin and no money are treated so poorly.
It is a national disgrace that we are more concerned about gas and oil prices than about the people.

Now with my upset comes a wakeup call……
Wakeup Betty Lue.
Wakeup all of us who are upset.
Wakeup and face what is.
Wakeup and see what you can choose or change, correct or commit to do.
Wakeup and give what you would want to receive.
Wakeup and tell the truth.
Wakeup and contribute Good.
Wakeup and stay awake.

Let us do what is right and good and loving.

Are we doing what is fair?
Are we responding with our genuine care?
Are we giving all that we have to share?

There will be time to assess and learn from this tragedy…later.
But now we are needed to place all of our energy into helping.

What can we do to respond?
When we expect others to take care of us, do we forsake our responsibility?
When we trust the government to do the work, where have we placed our trust?
Are we so stripped of time, energy and resources that we cannot take care of our own people?
Are we so focused on terrorism that we must prosecute looters before we feed babies?
Are we so selfishly concerned about ourselves that we focus on gas prices rather than on the dying?
Are we so caught up in summer fun and school shopping that we forget to care about our brothers?

What can we do?
Send money to the American Red Cross.
Volunteer to help and rebuild if you have the calling and the ability.
Urge your government to get going on their commitment to protect the people.
Support everyone with prayers of provision, comfort and hope.
Love the ones you are with.
Appreciate what you have.
Give wherever your giving benefits others well-being.
Choose leaders who are conscious and responsive.
Be responsible for the problems that come your way.
Trust in the creative solutions that are heard in quiet inner peace.

Loving you is the best for me to do.
Betty Lue

Suffering or Gratitude

Looking toward the dark, we see only the dark.
Looking toward the light, we see only the light.
When we are focused on the pain, we suffer.
When we are focused on the hope, we are expectant and hopeful.

Life on this earth is may seem to be about building defenses against disaster and pain.
Life in a body may seem to be about preventing bad things from happening to our families.
Life in this physical reality may appear to be about defending against trouble and trauma.
Life as a human may be advertised to be an obstacle course designed to avoid problems.

Life happens. How we judge it colors our perceptions.
Life happens. How we handle it depends on our perceptions.
Life happens. How we respond to it creates our experiences.
Life happens. How we forgive it determines our suffering.

We may step in dog poop, but we don't have to stink.
We can hate dogs and those *&%#* owners who don't clean up their dog's stuff, and feel angry.
We can sit and cry about the pain and suffering of our experience.
We can feel righteous and walk the same path again, expecting a different result.
Or we can take a shower and watch where we walk.

Many build their lives on shaky ground, choosing to stay with what is familiar and known.
Many spend a lifetime of guilt and regret suffering over past mistakes.
Many are busy projecting their guilt by blaming, God, the government, their parents and other authorities. Many are unwilling to take responsibility for learning a better way, listening within, appreciating what is.
Many deny help to others in times of need and then fear not being helped when it is their need.
Many sit on their hands, close their hearts and avoid trouble or pain, hoping it never happens to them.

What can I learn from life's experience?
What can I give to be truly helpful to one and all?
What can I do to be more grateful and respectful of what I have?
How can I respond with peace-filled prayer, with loving kindness, with happy work and generous giving?

How can I remember to look on life itself and the human family with love, appreciation and open-mindedness?
Everyone is here learning something.
Even those rebellious or resistant students who seem to know it all are learning.
Everyone here is teaching by example through their thoughts, words and actions.
It is my responsibility to be responsible for my thoughts, my words and my deeds.
Therefore, I forgive myself for judging (evaluating, criticizing or comparing) others words and deeds.
I take responsibility for consciously choosing healing thoughts, affirming words and helpful activities.
What can you do?

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Simple Courtesy

We each are teaching are world and everyone in it by our everyday example.
The way we smile at strangers teaches people to trust one another.
The habit of saying "please" and 'Thank you" teaches appreciation.
Holding the door for others teaches helpfulness.
Slowing down for someone who is older or slower teaches kindness.
Asking for good service when traveling teaches integrity.
Maintaining emotional calm in times of stress teaches inner peace.
Focusing on the person with whom you are talking teaches honor for the individual.
Taking time to really appreciate the good deeds done by others teaches the increase of goodness.
Remembering to be helpful and courteous with family members teaches no taking for granted.
Really listening and responding when someone expresses a need teaches value for caring.

Can we remember that each one is the Holy One?
Can we relate to family members as though they are honored guests?
Can we give each one the BEST we have in thought, word and deed?
Can we respect and appreciate ourselves for giving our best daily?
Can we give time, energy and money to those who contribute and do good as well as to those in need?
Can we openly express our love, appreciation and value for one another?
Can we make the world is a little better and brighter each day by polishing it with our loving kindness?

I love remembering to say "please" and "thank you".
I know it is teaching all of us to remember to give our best.
It all begins with you and me.

Gratefully and with much Love,
Betty Lue

Family Healing

Who is your family?
It may be your original blood relatives including parents and siblings.
Or it may be a church family or your friends and their families.
It may be those you work with or participate with in some voluntary activities or sports.
You may have abandoned your childhood family and have built a new one.
You may be trying to heal what was wounded and feel regret or pain and blame.
You may avoid family affairs or stay away from certain members of your "family".
Whatever your circumstance, you probably see the healing needs within your family.

What is family for you?
Why do we need families?
What were your family's values?
What is your value for family now?
How do we heal our family?
How do we love our family?
How can we forgive our family?
How do we support our family?
How do we give to our family?

For many who still wait for their parents to do the work, they may continue feeling lost and disappointment, anger and pain.
For those who were taught parents know best, you may be still waiting for your parents to grow up and learn to love.
For those who expect someone else to do the forgiving and make amends, you may wait more than a lifetime.
For those who think there is something wrong with you because you never fit in your family, you may want to respect yourself and look again for how to love.

We are here to heal all our relationships.
We are here to forgive and remember to love everyone.
We are here to give, not wait to receive first.
We are here to teach by example.
We are here to build on the strengths of others, not find fault.
We are here to bring joy and peace, not anger and unhappiness.
We are here to end the war, not keep creating it.
We are here to reach out in kindness, not withdrawn in fear and avoidance.
We are here to make everyone matter and part of our family of the heart.
We are here to value and appreciate everyone for doing their best.
We are here to make a difference, show respect and be truly helpful.

"You are my family. You are a part of me. You see what we can be when we're in love."
Lytingale's song.
I love you and me together building the family of all beings.
Betty Lue

Remember to take nothing others do personally.
Remember to always give your very best.
Remember to keep your soul's agreements.
Remember to remember only Love.
After all, it is between You and your Creator anyway.

I am off line for four days, returning on Sept. 2, traveling to Visalia with Robert and my mother-in-law to visit relatives and then onto "the Glory of Creation" at the Crystal Cathedral in Garden Grove, CA. You can always reach me by cell 925-324-2409 or 800-919-2392.

Patience Pays Off

How long do you endure?
How long do you persist?
How long do you keep on doing what you are called to do?

There are many who believe that success comes to those who continue to do what they are called to do.
There are some who believe that life is about endurance and patience.
There are those who just keep on doing what they always have done because they are comfortable.

To be able to communicate with you again via email and these Loving Reminders, Robert has spent 12+ hours and several trips to the store for hardware and has been on the phone help-lines for over 8 hours. Just when we thought it was fixed with new airports and an extension, it stopped right after sending you my last Reminder. And I just spent about 4 hours weeding out bad email addresses which prevented me from sending out messages to several different groups. So now we are back on line with a few more bugs to work out.

Love is worth waiting and working for.
I am committed to never quit on Love.
I recognize that I may not like the process, but I will do whatever it takes.
I realize that Love is patient and kind, and often strong and enduring.
I believe life offers us many opportunities to quit, to take the easy way.
I see many places where people quit too soon or just don't know other ways to love.
I know you may need to take a break and restore your energy and commitment to love.
Changing my mind and appreciating the process makes it all easier.
Letting go of any judgments I have regarding how long or how difficult makes any task more fun.
Allowing myself to believe only that it can and will be done is always supportive and encouraging.
Being peaceful with the steps along the way makes the energy flow toward the highest outcome.

Life is a fantastic teacher.
Every situation is an opportunity to see what and how I am practicing what I teach.
I know I am responsible fully for the experience I am having, so I can look at my thoughts and words and actions without blame or guilt and see it all with curiosity.

Look at life to see what conscious or unconscious choices are really underlying your experiences.
Betty Lue
I am here for you with open-mindedness and full appreciation. 800-919-2392.

For those who love to see what my life looks like. This is a little family birthday luncheon with great grandmas and babies.

Missed You!

If you have missed me, know I have really been missing you.
While I am always loving you, there is something truly special about writing my love that works for me.
While I am always here with you, there is something valuable about remembering and reminding.
While I am at one with all humanity, including you, there is a gift in allowing myself to fully express it.
While I am never separate or alone, there is a joy in freely expressing our unity in peace and love.

Yes, I had a birthday and loved that day just as much as every other day.
Yes, I was sick for my party, but my Mom said, "Nobody knew." Did you?
Yes, Gia's custody hearing was Monday. First day back to school was Wednesday. Stressful/successful.
Yes, my mother was with us the last two weeks, one in Michigan and then in CA, but safely home now.
Yes, summer is ending. We are Robert's Mom to Glory of Creation at the Crystal Cathedral next week.
Yes, we are with the four month twins two + days each week and feel blessed and appreciative.
Yes, we are working in the classroom again this year with Gia's new teacher.
Yes, we are recommitted to a healthy and balanced lifestyle with writing, reading, playing, painting, coaching, walking, home care, family, inner listening, community building, home and office renewal.
Yes, I am available for coaching and counseling 4 days/week.
Yes I am excited and delighted about the four groups I am offering, beginning in two weeks.
Yes, we sent out our Loving Reminder Newsletter via US mail to over 700 people.
Email me if you want one. Look on Lovingreminders.org.
Yes, our relationship with All That Is remains our highest priority and we live in Love.

How are you Loving?
This is your primary work everyday 24/7!
Recognize and undo any blocks or barriers to the Presence of Love in and around you.

How are you Living?
This is your primary gift in being a human on Earth.
Fully enjoy and appreciate all that is in you and around you.

What are you creating?
This is your contribution, your legacy and your self expression.
Create Good and Health and Happiness with your thoughts and word and deeds.

I am so appreciative to be home with you in Love, creating happiness for All.
Betty Lue

Vacations

Taking a break, a pause, a moment to release, relax and let go, opens the door to renewal.

Like forgiveness, a vacation is meant to vacate the accustomed way of thinking.
To pause in meditation and gratitude allows the mind to still itself and open to the silence.
It is in the void that we can clear and hear what is forever near.
It is in the stillness that we find the reality of peace and love and lasting joy.
It is in the quiet that we can hear the voice of Love, the spirit that speaks of holiness.
It is in our time away from the everyday distractions that we can see within and beyond.
It is in our vacation from the norm that we see the extraordinary, the miracles of Love.

So take a vacation from ordinary life regularly.

Some say the time required is on the seventh day.
Some say it is best found in daily meditation.
Some seek the respite in early morning and late afternoon times of sitting still.
And some give themselves just one or two week a year.

I find this place of stillness everyday in most easy ways.
A pause between activities, a walk out on the deck for a deep breath, a feeling of gentle joy when cleaning up my house, a smile of gratitude for a kind deed observed, so many ways to find renewal.

Explore the many ways to take a vacation and renew your mind, body and Spirit.

Loving you in renewal,
Betty Lue

Always Enough!

When you flow with what is, there is always enough of everything.
When you contract the flow with fear, worry and criticism, there appears to be limitation and lack.
When you expand the flow with appreciation, joy and openness, there is abundance and freedom.

If you KNEW this truth and practiced it, imagine how rich your life would be!
If you lived this principle and taught it, imagine how happy and abundant our world would be!

Affirmations:
There is now plenty of everything I need and I am delighted.
I am always in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing with the right intention.
Everywhere I am, there I am fulfilled, freely choosing and fully enjoying my life.
The world is blessed by my happiness and abundant giving.

Always loving you,
Betty Lue

My Birth Day

Celebrating a birthday is what you make it up to be for you.
Make sure you clarify exactly what you want or don't want.
Create it with the help of those who are happy to support you in having it all be just right for you.
Be specific and if you are picky, do it yourself.
If you want surprises, ask for them.
If you want no surprises, as for them.
If you want a party, make it.
If you want a special present, ask the most willing person to get or make exactly what you want.
Don't ruin your birthday by complaining about what didn't happen.
Appreciate every gift and remembrance.
When you expect to be disappointed, you will be.
When you know you are loved, you will be.

How old am I?
I knew you wouldn't ask.
Chronologically I am 63 years old, born 8/16/42 at 11:07 PM, Aries/Taurus rising, Leo sun and Libra moon, INFP and Enneagram 7, Emperor Fool in symbology, 8-7-7-22/0
Physiologically, I am 45 years, healthy, strong and fully of vitality, working joyfully 12-16 hours/day.
Psychologically, I am 18 years old….still innocent and trusting, enthusiastic and creative, alive with possibilities and no fear. I dream wonderful dreams and let them come true.
Spiritually I am ageless, connecting with and sharing ancient wisdom with practical application today.

How old are you really?
Is this your choice or have you fallen into the cultural myths of "acting your age" and "feeling your age?
Are you aware time is an illusion, a man made construct, a paradigm of relativity, so we can learn and grow from our relationships and creative experiences?
This earthly journey is really an opportunity to explore working and playing, enjoying or complaining, creating or destroying, living or dying, as much as we are consciously aware and at choice.

My life has been filled with a wide variety of experiences which some would judge to be both bad and good, difficult and easy, scary and safe, fun and not funny at all. When I realize my responsibility and fully own them all, I can see I have chosen diversity not stuckness, challenge not comfort, learning and growth, not stagnation, helpfulness and not harmfulness. I love this life I have and I freely share it with all those who choose to join me along the way. I easily let go and bless everyone as they choose for their own unique path and appreciate those who trust and free my choices. I am alive, in love and blessed by all I have and do and am.

Loving you with gratitude and respect,
Betty Lue

On the Road Again

We are leaving at 4PM in the morning for Chicago.
We pick up my 84 yr. old Mom who flies in from Asheville, NC, her home.
We drive to Kalamazoo (3 hrs.) stay in a motel, our home away from home, where I can cook our meals. We drive on Wednesday to Flint, MI (2 hrs.) to visit my Dad's sister for lunch.
In the PM we drive to northern MI (2 hrs.) to visit another aunt in an assisted care facility for dinner.
We return to our home away from home (2 hrs.) and spend a relaxing Thurs. in Kalamazoo with friends. Thursday Eve. is a sharing on Expanding Consciousness with discussion.
Friday appointments with me and Robert and Mom go over to St. Joseph and Lake Michigan.
Friday evening we head to the 4 H Camp on Bear Lake for the annual Dickerson Family Reunion.
Dinner and lots of catching up and playing cards and games and swimming and telling stories.
Saturday more Reunion for Mom and Robert, and I squeeze in a few appointments and then family time.
Sunday on to Hammond, In for the Sunday Service Talk and afternoon workshop on Conscious Relationships at the Unity Church.
We fly home at 8PM Sunday eve with Mom for a full week of babies, Gia and more family plus, my birthday party, officiating a wedding and watching babies while their Mom participates in a triatholon.

Does that sound like a fun week!!
All this and lots more with coaching appointments, classes, finishing the web site and more.
I love my life.
I learn from everyone I encounter.
I appreciate all I am given to be fully alive and engaged with what is before me.

I am an active student.
I am a happy willing learner.
I open my heart to love and my mind to wisdom.
I encourage all I meet to be their authentic selves and to give their very best.
I know we all return to wholeness and live in peace and joy when we remember to Love.
Love yourself. Love your Creator. Love your life.
Love those who are given you to Love.
You, too, can have it all as you learn to give it all to all.
This is true prosperity.

Loving you,
Betty Lue.

I will not be back at my computer until August 15-16.
Please call 800-919-2392 if you wish to contact me.

Happiness—What's that?

"I don’t know what happiness really is.
I am sure that it is unique to each individual, but what does it feel like?
I am assuming that it should be peace of mind and relaxation but yet joy and love and laughter.
I know that it has to do with attitude.
I have always believed that to be happy life had to be perfect with all good days and no bad ones.
I don’t believe that is so any more. I know that when a bad time hits I would like to get the issue out in the open and discuss it and be able to look at it from a different perspective.
But I am having a tough time feeling the feeling."

Some say happiness is what comes when you are doing what you love.
Some say happiness is a habit, like worrying or being judgmental.
Some say happiness comes when you are behaving ethically, in alignment with your values.
Some say happiness is a feeling and some say it is an attitude of gratitude.
Some say happiness is acquired when you are living right and some say when you are giving right.
Some say happiness is passed on from generation to generation.
Some say happiness is simply a choice to give voice to what is good and beautiful and holy.

I believe our culture is depressed, (more in the Midwest), walking cases of suppressed happiness.
I believe when you remove the clouds of gloom and doom, you will always find the sun shining.
I believe that the Son shines within you. I t warms your heart and lights your way.
But if you are looking out rather than within, you will miss the glow and the guidance.
I believe that when you return to those moments of happiness you have felt, you were free, confident and in love with life.
There was no self-consciousness, self judgment or shame. You were not angry or blaming or hurt.
When you are happy, you are free from negative thinking, limiting beliefs and painful history.

Consider giving up for 30 days those cloudy thoughts, painful issues and reasons to be unhappy.
Consider letting go of what is wrong and undoing what does not work for you.
Consider remembering to be grateful, open-minded and loving and watch you happiness quotient grow.

My friend Rhonda Hull, Ph.D. wrote Driving Yourself Happy.
Every Loving Reminder will lead you to greater happiness.

Let this become your new goal:
Choose daily to have a happy day and give your happiness away.
The more you give the more you have and a happy world will be created by you.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Associate with the Best

From Daily Buddhist Wisdom
Don't associate with bad friends.
Don't associate with the low.
Associate with admirable friends.
Associate with the best.
-Dhammapada 78, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu

Where you place your attention, there you increase.
What you admire, you become.
Where you give your time and energy, you value.
What you value, you increase in your life.

Remember, you are teaching with everything you think and say and do.
When you give your attention to what is not best for you, you increase it.
When you think and worry about what is bad for you, you encourage it.
When you value what is valueless and meaningless, you expand it.
Every place you put your thoughts, your words and your actions, you grow.

The work in this world is to be willing to take total responsibility for everything we think and say and do.
To be responsible is to pay attention, observe and clean up anything that is not healing and healthy.
To obsess on what is wrong, does nothing but encourage it to expand in your consciousness.
To be angry about the bad choices or mistakes you have made in the past, is to encourage re-occurrence.
To hang out with bad company or in an unethical job, or with negative habits will sap your energy.
It is far easier to be conscious and admirable associating with people and ideas you admire.
It is fatiguing trying to maintain your positive energy with people talking negatively.
Gently release what you no longer want.
(To resist, avoid or push away, merely attracts and creates a negative attachment.)


So choose.
Choose wisely.
Choose well.
Choose respectfully.
Choose gratefully.
Choose for what you really want.'
Choose for what you want to have, to do, to be.
Associate with those who have and do and are what you aspire to.
Life can be fun safe and easy, when you are willing to choose responsibly.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

The Old Fashioned Way

Maybe it is time to write a book on family values.
It is the next one to come, when I complete the two on healing.
Family values begin with valuing families.

How do we value our own family, if we are criticizing, ignoring, neglecting or avoiding our own family?
How do we value families if we ship our parents and grandparents to nursing homes and senior housing?
How do we value families if we no longer have family meal time?
How do we value families if we trade-in our husbands, when the going gets tough?
How do we value families if we don't give women equal rights and equal wages and equal respect?
How do we value families if we are discourteous to our family members and friends?
How do we value our families if we spend money instead of time?
How do we value families if we don't support families with health care and jobs that care about families?
How do we value our families if we talk on the phone when we could be talking with them?
How do we value families when work and money come before recreation and fun together?
How do we value families if our entertainment is watching a big screen together rather than interacting?
How do we value families if we are making ourselves beautiful rather than our relationships meaningful?

What can we do?

We can talk to one another without swearing, or criticizing.
We can always remember to say "Please" and "Thank you" even to infants.
We can sit down at the table together once daily.
We can remember that our family came first and will be the last to leave.
We can commit to help one another when there is a need.
We can tell ourselves that it is the community we build that makes us strong and safe and secure.
We can remember that family may be others who are not blood related.
We can build structure, schedule and ritual into family time and shared living.
We can adopt roles and functions that complement and harmonize rather than compete and conflict.
We can take back the best from the past, rather than throwing it all away.
We can connect with family that lives elsewhere often enough that they know we really care.
We can dare to say and demonstrate "I love you" directly and often.
We can say prayers of thanksgiving rather than gossip about what was wrong.
We can remember birthdays and anniversaries and special births and weddings.
We can do all the simple courtesies like RSVP and send thank you notes when receiving a gift.

There is so much more we can do.
We can change our world within our own families.
We can take responsibility for healing, growing and inspiring our families to be all they can be.
We can do it.

Loving you, Betty Lue

How do I write these?

Yes, I sit down at the keyboard and listen. Sometimes with a question or a situation in mind, and sometimes with a concept or idea which came in the shower or in dreamtimes, and sometimes, as today, with an empty mind. I wait for only milliseconds, because the line is open and receptive.
I am willing and able.
I can and know I can receive inspiration and messages for the Highest Good.
This work is holy work.
This work is healing work.
The is work is helpful work and I am willing.
I trust what I receive will be used for the good of All.

It matters not, if one line is all that is read.
It matters not, if there is nothing but the title line Loving Reminders from out of the B'Lue.
It matters not, because all of the Love I Am and have and receive and give is here.
It matters only that I am happy and willing to learn, to receive to be present.
These gifts of insight, awareness, love and wisdom are always a gift to me and through me to all of humanity. And the same is true for you,,,,everyone of you. There is nothing special here, except my willingness to fully and consistently be the one I Am and to offer you freely what I receive.

When I give you these, I expect nothing in return for I have receive fully the gift I am giving. When I put together my books of these loving reminders, I request only the money which it costs to self publish them. When there is no money available from a person or organization, I ask for nothing, but that they be given and used, not stored away. I know that to commercialize what is of and for the Good of All is to make this gift less. I somehow take away from its intrinsic value and the messages I am here to share.

The messages from God are free for you and me.
The love of God is free for you and me.
The wisdom and guidance of God are free for you and me.
There are no financial barriers to receiving all Good.
There are no boundaries or religious beliefs needed to receive the gifts of God.
There are no tests to pass or good life to be lived to receive the gifts from God.
There is only the willingness of the receiver to happily receive and learn to live what is given.

There are many messages that are given everyday that are not heard because of the unwillingness of the receiver. There is much that the God of Abundance, Truth and Healing is giving to you that you may have not received due to your belief in unworthiness, your fear of what changes will be required, or the messages that may not be what your ego wants.

So consider this: an experiment in listening. Give your self a daily appointment with your listening chair. Take a pad of paper and pen and sit five minutes daily. Write down whatever comes to mind and breathe. If you have questions, write them. If you hear or feel or see answers, write them. If you feel a breeze of warmth or kiss, write it down. If you hear a word in your mind, make note of it. Write down your doubts and concerns. And then listen. When you are done with your listening session, read back what you have written and note what feels like Love and what feels like your personality. You will quickly discern the difference. Patience is the key. Expect to be spoken to in the language you are most willing and able to receive. Ask me, if you have questions or send me your guidance and I will share with you. Remember, if this pipeline has been unused for a lifetime or two, it may be crusty and need to be cleaned out by opening the flow and letting it run.

Loving you in listening within,
Betty Lue

PS
This took about 10 minutes to write, with no editing.
I may check the spelling. Often as you know I do not! :)
Off to my ashram.......the twins house for the day.
Call me if your want some time with me
God always gives me the time I need to be with you.
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No Right Way

Some Myths.
If we put all the viewpoints together, we could see the whole picture.
If we were Infinite Intelligence, we would know what really is the Truth.
If we were following the "right" path, we would be at peace.
If we could just accept the way it is, we could be happy.
If could create our life the way we want, we would be satisfied.
If we were a vegetarian or a Presbyterian, a Buddhist or a Baptist, we would be "right."
If we could be like …….. or like………, we would be rich or happy like they are.
If we could just listen all the time and follow our inner guidance, we could avoid all pain.

Maybe these are all myths, purported by those who want to believe there is a "right" way.
Maybe those who are fanatical are just those who need to take on their beliefs religiously.
Maybe those who are enthusiastic and devoted are just people who are enthusiastic and devoted.
Maybe those who are disappointed and depressed are just those who are disappointed and depressed.
Maybe those are needy and helpless, victimized by life are just victimized and helpless.
Maybe those who rescue and fix, listen and comfort are just being rescuers and comforters.
Maybe those who exhort us to find the "right" path are just believing strongly there is one.

I am enthusiastic and passionate about an idea, a position, a possibility one moment and then let it go.
I am convinced something must be done about this injustice or that problem, and then know I don't know.
I am certain that this is the best answer for those involved and then see it differently the next day.
I hear to walk east to the top of the hill and before I get there, I hear to go West.

Life is like following a river.
Some of us want to be efficient and take the most direct route.
Some of us want to work hard and so paddle upstream.
Some of us keep getting out of the canoe and sun bathing.
Some of us like to gather passengers until we upset the boat.
Some of us keep rowing even when the river is flowing.
Some of us get out the map to check where we're going.
Some of us love not knowing.
Some of us are along for the ride and enjoy the sights.
Some of us keep checking to see if everything is right.
Some of us are caught up in fear.
Some of us want to take everything that's dear.
Some of us just love being on the river.

Loving you in loving you,
Betty Lue

No Accidents

There are no accidents.
Everything is an "on purpose", when seen with Love, appreciation and open-mindedness.
The seeming challenges in my life are to awaken and inspire me to serve the highest Good.
When I resist, avoid, deny or blame the "wake-up call", I am resisting, avoiding and denying the learning.
When I feel victimized, hurt, helpless and defeated, I am making up life of weakness and suffering.

There is always a lesson, a learning, a blessing, a calling, a wakeup, an opportunity in every challenge.
Also remember, we are giving everything we see and feel, hear and see all the meaning it has for us.

We can believe the world we see is chaotic interplay of meaningless activities, as well as and random acts of loving kindness and unloving unkindness.
Or we can believe the world we see is a learning laboratory in which we can learn the power of our thoughts and emotions, words and deeds.
I prefer the later.
If you want to see the beginnings of scientific research, see the popular documentary, "What the Bleep".

If this world is your learning lab, would you rather take responsibility for what you experience, or blame God, "accidents", others or evil?
Taking responsibility, when you judge, hate, fear and make it wrong, is not safe fun and easy.
Taking responsibility for your life and your relationships, when you see it all as opportunity for learning, blessing, healing, letting go, waking up, being inspired and increasing your faith, is wonderful and full of miracles and empowering life experiences.

Our drama comes from not responding to the call.
If there is fear, there is a call for love.
If there is judgment, there is a call for forgiveness.
If there is confusion, there is a call for clarity.
If there is doubt, there is a call for confidence.
If there is conflict, there is a call for peace.
If there is chaos, there is a call of order.
If there is sickness, there is a call for healing.
If there is darkness, there is a call for light.
If there is attachment, there is a call for letting go.
If there is suffering, there is a call for comfort.
If there is distress, there is a call for ease.
If there is complexity, there is a call for simplicity.
If there is a call, there is an opportunity to willingness and openness in response.

I trust, therefore I am willing.
I am willing, so I am able.
I am able, so I act.
I act, so I am leading.
I lead, so I am teaching.
I am teaching, so I am respectful.
I am respectful, so I look beyond what is apparent.
I look beyond what is apparent, and I see the blessing and the call for Love.
I am loving, so I give what is for the highest good.
I give what is for the Good of all, and all benefit.
All benefit, and I celebrate I am co-creating a better world.

Trusting in the learning of All,
Betty Lue

Inspiration

What fills you with energy?
What lifts your Spirit?
What brings you joy?
What makes your heart sing?
What speaks to your soul?
What moves you to tears?
What makes you laugh out loud?
What gives you hope?
What is the sunshine in your life?
What brings you the feeling of deep and profound love?
What opens your eyes to the sacredness of life?
What reminds you that you are really super important?
What encourages you to go for your dreams?
What helps you notice how precious you are?
What offers you what you really want?
What invites you to forget about everything but this?

Your inspiration is what matters to me.
It is why I came.
It is the reason for my being.
It is the essence of my soul.
I drink from inspiring and being inspired.
I remember who I am and remind you, too.
I know that I am here to inspire and be inspired.
So I write. I teach. I reach out. I smile. I laugh. I encourage.
I remind. I breathe. I pray. I give thanks. I awaken.
I give hope. I trust. I speak. I ask. I listen. I remember. I am.

Why are you here?
There is some very important and essential reason you are here in a body at this time.
If you are not moved and inspired and loving your life, it is perhaps because you do not remember.

I am here to awaken you to remember.
I am here to coach, listen, encourage and remind you.
I am committed to forever loving and inspiring YOU!

Betty Lue