Who loves you?
Who respects and trusts you?
Who has your back?
Your world takes care of you as well as you do.
You have taught others to treat you the way they do.
You learn to expect what you have gotten and continue to get.
You even treat yourself the way your parents treated themselves……..
Until you learn differently!
If your needs were ignored, you will ignore your own needs.
If you were criticized, you will tend to be self critical
If you were pampered, you will pamper yourself.
You will tend to create similar experiences to those you experienced from your earliest caregivers .
When you look deeply, you will see where you learned how to care for yourself?
Our role models where our parents and primary relationships.
Our imprinting came from those with whom we associated.
With thoughts, impressions more than words and treatment, we learned to expect and experience the same.
While as adults, we are exposed to many other relationships, our unconscious choices remain the same.
It is only with a conscious choice for a different way that we can change our minds, words and actions.
We need to change what we think and feel about ourselves.
We need to forgive our ignorance in not knowing a better way.
Remember that how you treat yourself, others will duplicate (if they don’t know a better way.)
If you ignore yourself, you will be ignored.
If you respect you, others will respect you.
If you listen to yourself, others will tend to listen to you.
If your deceive yourself, others may deceive you.
We are teaching our world with our behavior, our self image and thoughts as well as our words.
Do you know how to love and care for yourself?
Do you have people you admire who take impeccable care of their lives?
Do you tend to care for others first to the neglect of your own needs?
Or have you learned to be selfish and neglect others’ needs?
All our caring or lack of caring behavior is learned and taught in our relationships.
Do you know how to take impeccable care of yourself?
Do you understand how to create a family and community that is caring?
Are you aware of how fear contracts our ability and willingness to care?
Is it time for you to learn better ways to care for you?
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Affirmations:
I love, trust and respect myself.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and respect others.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect me.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and respect themselves.
When I love trust and respect myself, I teach my world a better way.
From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELFCriticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELFCriticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.