Usually we learn how to care for ourselves from our mother’s example.
When we feel nurtured and nourish in our childhood, we usually do the same for ourselves.
If we were neglected in our childhood, we may tend to neglect ourselves.
The attitudes, beliefs, behavior and examples of our mothers create the pattern we tend to follow.
We can choose to change anything, but only with a conscious awareness and desire for change.
How your mother fed you determines how you feed yourself.
We can either do the same or do the opposite when functioning unconsciously.
When we become fully aware and at choice, we can begin again with new patterns of self care.
When we are simply doing the only thing we have known, we may not be aware for alternatives.
When we are unaware of possibilities, our fallback position will always be what is familiar.
To begin again we must ask what is it that we want to feed?
Do we want to feed negativity, greed, dependency, bad habits?
Do we want to feed optimism, generosity, independence and good habits?
Is it time to reflect on all the choices we have in how we take care of ourselves?
Do we have a plan?
Do we know what we want to grow in ourselves?
Are we willing to be proactive rather than reactive to life’s circumstances? At choice or victim?
Do we know how we can take impeccable care of ourselves, mentally, physically, spiritually, financially?
Where do we place ourselves on our own priority list of “responsibilities”?
How do we honor our own individual needs while respecting those of others?
Are we clear about what is most important for ourselves and others rather than relying on generalities?
Can we serve the highest Good without neglecting the daily details?
Start with a list of qualities or values which you want to encourage and nurture in yourself.
Health, Happiness, Service, Fulfillment, Success, Financial Freedom, Family Harmony, Inner Peace, etc.Ask yourself to list what behaviors and life experiences support that value.
Ie: What do I need to be a truly happy person?Develop a daily plan to support your happiness (if that is your priority.)
Begin my day with affirmation, meditation, forgiveness clearing, check in with Self when unhappy, etc.Be as specific and detailed as you can without sabotaging yourself with too much difficulty.
When we re-parent ourselves, we look consciously at what is needed to be the best we can be.
We take the time and energy to give ourselves exactly what we need to become that which we seek to be.
We pay attention to subtle changes needed to improve our Self care.
We respect the value of being our best in order to give our best to others!
Life works and so do our relationships when we are happy, fulfilled and at peace.
Betty Lue
Tips for Whole Life Health
1. Nutrition—Ingest the best and forget the rest. Feed your body and mind only what is best for you.
2. Movement—Enjoy moving with the natural flow of life.
3. Breath—Breathe in life energy and expand your awareness. Exhale fully to release what is no longer needed.
4. Touch—Reach out with love and respect.
5. Thought—Choose thoughts which heal and free you.
6. Forgiveness—Erase beliefs which limit you.
7. Attitude—Express gratitude. Enjoy life.
8. Balance—Moderation in all things brings harmony.
9. Perception—What you perceive in others, you strengthen in yourself.
10. Purity—Eliminate toxic thoughts, activities and relationships.
11. Rest—Relax your mind and body to be revitalized.
12. Contribution—Give everyone what you want to have.
2. Movement—Enjoy moving with the natural flow of life.
3. Breath—Breathe in life energy and expand your awareness. Exhale fully to release what is no longer needed.
4. Touch—Reach out with love and respect.
5. Thought—Choose thoughts which heal and free you.
6. Forgiveness—Erase beliefs which limit you.
7. Attitude—Express gratitude. Enjoy life.
8. Balance—Moderation in all things brings harmony.
9. Perception—What you perceive in others, you strengthen in yourself.
10. Purity—Eliminate toxic thoughts, activities and relationships.
11. Rest—Relax your mind and body to be revitalized.
12. Contribution—Give everyone what you want to have.