Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Lack of Love is a Call for Love

Where there is lack of love, we experience negative emotions.
Where there is lack of love, there is neediness, anger, resentment, fear, worry, loneliness, sorrow, disease.
Where there is lack of love, there is lack of generosity, patience, tolerance, trust, joy, gentleness and faith.
Where there is lack of love, there is always a call for Love.

Most people forget how simple life really is.
Where there is lack, there is a need.
Where we see a need, it is ours to fill.
When we lack Love within, we cannot give without sacrifice or a need to “get” in return.

When the woman, mother, nurturer within a home is lacking Love, she may be moody, emotionally needy.
When the father, husband, provider and protector is lacking Love, he may be defensive, distant and angry.
When the kids, adventurers, explorers and learners are lacking Love, they may be cranky, tempermental.
Everyone displays their lack of love differently.

Where there is lack, there is a need to fill.
When we ourselves are lacking, we may judge, resist, criticize and complain about others needs.
When we are lacking Love, we may try to manage the neediness with superficial quick fixes to mask the symptoms; ie, drugs, alcohol, binging, food, distraction, pain, avoidance, etc.
When there is lack of Love, it is ours to fill.  RESPOND WITH LOVE.

We cannot respond with Love, if we do not have Love within.
We cannot respond with Love, if we are not connected wit the Source of Love.
We cannot respond with Love, if we feel lacking.
We cannot respond with Love, if we are needy, dependent, resentful, guilty, hurting, judgmental, etc.

Within all relationships there is only one healing that is necessary to always respond with Love.
This is our relationship with oneself
You and I are responsible for our Love for Self.
We are totally responsible for withholding or generously giving Love to ourselves.

Loving oneself may be easy for those who have been well loved in infancy and childhood by parent who loved themselves well.
However, when we have been conditionally loved in our early months and years, we continue to conditionally love ourselves.
When we have been always loved, respected, appreciated and valued, we will find it natural to love, trust, respect and appreciate ourselves.
And from this natural and inner flow of unconditional love for Self, we can easily share with others.

Everything that is Not Love, is ALWAYS a call for Love.
When you have Love to give, it is easy to respond with Love (and no offense is taken).
When you feel lacking in love, it is difficult to respond another’s lack of Love as a call for Love.
And it brings up guilt to deny the other the Love you know they want and need.

It is time to Love you well.
Find the inner peace that comes from unconditional positive regard for Self.
Experience the natural joy that follows the blessing of Loving one Self.
Appreciate the feelings of gratitude for being alive when you Love You Well.

Loving you and me and us all,
Betty Lue

From Louise Hay ©1988

How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISMCriticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
DON’T SCARE YOURSELFStop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENTBe gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.

Monday, November 29, 2010

Are Your Emotions Misleading You?

Emotions are viewed as truth by many.
I see emotions as energy moving through us to be used for good.
acknowledge the use of this energy is shaped by my unconscious and conscious thoughts.
I choose to use my energies for the highest good and let my inner guidance direct my thoughts and words.

Many people trust their feelings to lead what they say and do.

Many proponents of emotionally based living seem to believe that all emotions are true.
When we let our emotions guide our thoughts, words and deeds, we may find ourselves in trouble.
Endless hours and years may be spent struggling with understanding and healing our emotions.

I believe emotions may be destructive or helpful.

Emotions may be toxic or healing.
Emotions may be fearful or reassuring.
Emotions may victimize or empower.

We may become victims of our own emotional state and allow fearfulness within to gain power.

Fear-based emotions distort and dissuade us from practical, positive and useful approaches. 
Emotions may color and distort our perception and common sense insight or solutions.
Emotions may be a distraction or provide clear focus on choosing for what is Good for all.

Emotions can be used to attack, manipulate and harm or be used to comfort, reassure and heal.

Emotional reactions may be used to cause guilt to control another’s behavior .
Emotional outbursts can be useful to threaten, frighten and dominate another.
Emotions can be a way to assert our power over those who are dependent on our love.

Emotions are the energy meant to fuel our positive, creative and inspirational ideas.
Emotions are demonstrating where we need to heal and clear our thinking.
Emotions show us where we have energy blocks from prior decisions made.
Emotions give us the key to heal our learned limitations and faulty beliefs.

When we are emotionally healthy, we feel joy and gratitude, love and peace.
When we are emotionally whole, we feel inspired and fulfilled.
When we have forgiven our limiting emotions, we are empowered and guided by joy.
When we at peace, our emotions fuel our inspiring thoughts and visions with Good works.

When we find our emotional state is frought with negativity and fear, we are calling for healing.
When we hear our words as being judgmental, demanding, hysterical and needy, we need to forgive.
When we notice we are sinking into depression and despair, we need to change our thinking.
When we lose our way and  higher purpose, it is a call to stop, return to love and listen within.

Don’t let your negative emotions mislead you.
Don’t allow your emotional habits to confuse You.
Don’t believe your emotional reactions can abuse you.
Change your thinking… Seek your inner Source.
Choose to be whole and happy and free.

Love your Self today.
Betty Lue

"... love cannot be far behind a grateful heart and a thankful mind. 
God enters easily, for these are the conditions for your homecoming." (M58)

You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) have been triggered.
This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us.
This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate.
This only exaggerates the problem. 

It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.
When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself, the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself, the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Being On Purpose

You can tell when you are living on purpose, because life is fun, safe and easy.
You can tell when your life is on purpose, because you feel alive, alert and enthusiastic.
You can tell when you are living on the high way, because you are whole and happy and free.
You know when your life is on purpose, because you feel love and joy, peaceful and fulfilled.

When you are on purpose…..

You have no complaints.
You mind your own business.
Your emotional state is flowing and good.
You enjoy your own life.
You are insightful, creative and open.
You feel willing and available.
You respond to all requests with loving intention.
You have positive and affirming thoughts.
You are open to infinite possibilities.
Your life works with ease and flow.
You joyfully move around and through seeming obstacles and challenges.
You trust that life is working well.
You love yourself just as you are.
You like your own company.
You are happy with what is right now.
You can see the light in the midst of darkness.
You feel grateful for simply being here.

When we have upset, fear, judgment, pain, etc., we are off purpose.
Each one of us has our own path to follow.
This path is most easily found and sustained by listening within.
However, it can also be noticed by the guideposts above.
Usually we are so happy being on path, we don’t notice until we are “off”.
The contrast is disruptive and irritating.
The old habit is to complain and blame others or externals rather than look within.

When you are blaming or complaining, judging or fearing, seeking or wishing, you are off purpose.
When you are appreciating and enjoying, forgiving and giving, sharing and caring, you are on purpose.

Feels so good.
How about simply seeking to live, love, give and enjoy being on purpose?

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Let Love Grow

Are you afraid to love?
Do you feel your love is rejected?
Are you trying to give what you want to receive?
Do you believe love heals and reveals what needs healing?

Can we remember to love children for their innocence, curiosity, adventure and playfulness.?
Will we always love our men for their willingness to protect and provide for their families?
Are women loving themselves for being the nurturers and nourishers for their men and children?
Are we as a society playing the natural roles with love and respect and appreciation for all?

When we love others, are we trying to manipulate or change them?
Have women forgotten or neglected our function of nurturing and nourishing our loved ones?
Is it possible when we lack appreciation for ourselves that we neglect to appreciate others?
Can women return to our primary function of nurturing and nourishing?

If I am playing my part as a women well, will I not see and acknowledge the roles of others?
If I stop trying to change my role or project it onto others, will I not stop trying to change others?
If I remember to nourish and nurture myself well, will I not value the role I naturally play with others?
If I appreciate my willingness to feel others food for body, mind and soul, will I not enjoy my life?

Is it possible that we (women) need to reclaim our most essential and powerful role?
Is it possible that we women can nourish our families with positive affirmations and kindness?
Is it possible that we women can be the flexible conscious and willing ones?
Is it possible that when we stop waiting, complaining and blaming others, we will be the healing agents?

When we quit as nurturers, stopped sharing love, respect and kindness, we gave up our power.

When we quit as nourishers, quit cooking healthy nutritious meals and eating together as a family, we gave up the joy of guiding the inspiration of our family system.
Mothers and Grandmothers, caregivers and servers, have the greatest power of all in nurturing and nourishing, remembering to Love unconditionally, serve from the heart and remember God.

Women need to honor women who nurture and nourish others.
Women who maintain this traditional act of Love, need to appreciate themselves.
Women need to reclaim the right, privilege and honor of nourishing and nurturing others.
When we can value what is our natural function as the Greatest Power, we will respect our men.
When men are respected for provision and protection, we will turn around our society.
When children are valued and enjoyed for their enthusiasm, curiosity and adventure, we will heal. When families return to enjoy one another around the kitchen table, we will laugh and love more.
When we as community remember to appreciate one another for our natural gifts, we will all benefit.

What can you do to love in the truest and most natural way?
Nurture with your words, your touch, your love and comfort.What can you do to touch others powerfully with your Love?
You can listen to the inner needs of your family and give what is really wanted.

Stop trying to do everything.
Stop trying to give what is not essential.
Stop being too busy with covering the potholes.
Pave the road to happiness by doing what is really Love.

I am loving You.
Nurturing with my desire to hug you with my words.
Remind you with my devotion .
Love you with my happy heart.

Betty Lue
And I cook and bake, too! Always with Love or not at all.


¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.


The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.


The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love

I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.

Betty Lue 1978

Friday, November 26, 2010

Pre-Miracle Anxiety and Post-Miracle Depression

Holidays bring up so much history.
Holidays carry with them so many experiences of pain and pleasure for many.
Holidays have usually lost their true meaning.
With holiday celebration there is often anticipatory anxiety and the let down afterwards.
This may be true with vacations, new homes, marriages or any special circumstance in life.

To find moderation is all things is to make nothing extra special.
It is a choice to make everyday equally holy.
It is a choice to make everyone equally special.
It is a choice to enjoy each day with gratitude and love.

When we make someone or something special, there often is disappointment.
When we set up high expectations, the anticipation may feel exciting..
When we work hard to have everything go just right, we may miss the mark and feel regret.
When we allow everything to be what it is, focused on simply being together, we are content.

Thanksgiving is simply a time to give thanks, to remember gratitude for our forefathers.
Thanksgiving is a way of inviting everyone to share in the feast of this year’s harvest.
Thanksgiving is an excuse to celebrate family, community, everyone equally valued.
Thanksgiving is a loving reminder of all we have and all we give and receive.

I am giving thanks for my life and for yours.
I am appreciating the country we life in, just as it is.
I am enjoying my health, my relationships, my freedoms and rights, as they are.
I am loving the life experiences I have chosen and the new ones yet to be created.

Sure, everything could be better, if we look for what needs improvement or change.
We could complain about the economy, the health care, the environment and everything if we choose.
We can spend our energy focused on how things need to change or what more we need to do.
We can depress and discourage ourselves by judging and second-guessing all past choices.

This merely takes away from enjoyment and appreciation of right now.
This distracts us from the joy of using this moment for holy and healing purposes.
This depletes our energy and diminishes our vision of what is possible right now.
I choose to use this moment and everyone to bring for the best I know with the Love I AM.

I am loving you as you use the excuse of Thanksgiving to really enjoy today.
So glad we are in each other’s lives.
May this Thanksgiving bring you ever closer to Love yourself really well!
Betty Lue

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Family, Tradition, Well-Being

Who is your family?
This morning as I listened in silence, I heard “ You are a gifted and dedicated woman who loves here earth family as much as she loves herself.”  I am here to love everyone I encounter by inspiring and encouraging each one I encounter to give your best self to all you pursue.  Goodness and Love live in you and need to be fully and freely expressed by you everyday in everyway. Let go of all blocks and simply Love and bring forth the Goodness that is in you.  My family is the family of man. Every since I was a young child, I knew that I can make a difference with young and old, rich and poor, sick and well. I have loved and served all people with as much love as I know lives within me.  I am so thankful I know and love and give.  It is the air I breathe and my reason for Being.

Who do you love and how do you love?
Is it possible that you are here to love the animals of the earth or the trees or the sun or God more than anything else? Perhaps you are here to celebrate victories and to help others “Win” or “succeed”. Each one of us has a calling and in this we are here to love unconditionally, serve from the heart and to always remember the Good.  Perhaps you are here to embrace the children, the needy, the suffering or perhaps your calling is to give your all to create beauty in music, art, writing.  Maybe you are called to prepare good good or to create safe places or to sing in church or to simply walk on the earth giving your blessing with every step you take.  All is equally valuable to all other callings. You see each one of us is here to love and serve in some special way.  When you find your way, embrace it and give your best to this calling.  To often we find guilt for leaving other people or causes behind.  There is enough Love and we are enough people to serve all needs and all peoples, if only we would let go of our fear and doubt and simply abundantly give!  Bring Goodness and God forth in everyway.  

As times change traditions may change. With so many broken and blended families there may be a need to find new ways to honor each and everyone.  This year we will be establishing  some new times of celebration, not on the holidays but another time during the year. This flexibility takes away the pressure of trying to meet everyone’s desires to celebrate on the same day. Robert and I like to give when and where we are called, spontaneously and on an as needed basis.  So Christmas giving happens throughout the year.  Thanksgiving is offered daily, weekly and monthly throughout the year.  To make one date the most special seems to put pressure on folks for spending money, buying food and gifts and getting dressed up to go to some relative’s home, when we might prefer to stay home and watch football or sleep all day or simply have a “flow day” to play.  When we make tradition an obligation rather than a joyful choice, it loses its function.  Tradition is useful to bring families together with joy and gratitude.
May today and everyday be a choice to fully express our love, joy and gratitude to everyone we encounter, including ourselves.

To be well is to be happy.

If what we are doing fills us with happiness, we are on purpose.
If what we are saying, inspires more joy in us, our words are on purpose.
If what we are imagining lifts our hearts with happy energy, our thoughts are on purpose.
Being on purpose with thoughts, words and deeds is the source of our well-being.
We can easily and quickly change our thoughts, words and activity without asking others for anything.
We can easily undo what is not wholly happy and good for us, simply by changing the inner channel.
We can be responsible for our well-being by being willing to be well, using the tools we know.
Let us each learn to be responsible for our own well-being by being able to respond to our own inner calling.
When we are flexible and willing to change, undo, edit and recreate our duties and obligations, traditions and customs, we can choose again for what works for us right not………creating Happiness for everyone, including ourselves.
When we listen in the silence for our calling, our higher purpose, we begin to dedicate our lives to what has meaning and true happiness for us to give and enjoy.
May we each fulfill our holy purpose and experience the joy of wellness in mind, body and Spirit.

May this Thanksgiving give each one of us food for thought, as well as the body.  Remember the body is here to serve our Good Works.
So serve the body so that it allows you to live and give the Goodness and Love You Are.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Wednesday, November 24, 2010


Do you know what you are grateful for?
Do you realize the value of gratitude?
Are you open to being appreciated by others?
Do you respect the way each individual wants to be appreciated?

Gratitude it the highest form of Love.

Gratitude lifts everyone higher in consciousness.
Gratitude is the song of praise given to the Source of all creation.
Gratitude forgives everything and reminds us only of the Good in our lives.

The value of gratitude is unlimited.

It heals the hurts of the past.
It erases fear and self doubt.
It reminds us of our inner Truth and reason for Being.

When you are willing to be appreciated, you open the door for others to soar.

When you receive appreciation with appreciation, you expand love in the world.
When you feel valued, you expand your capacity for sharing your love.
When you appreciate yourself, you raise your vibration and inspire others.

Respect the individual ways people feel appreciated and valued.

Some prefer words of affirmation, blessing and love.
Others prefer hugs, smiles, affection and touch.
Some like gifts, cards, flowers, and tokens of appreciation and gratitude.
Others enjoy quality time, sharing a meal, a walk, a phone call or note.
And some simply receive acts of service, ie. Doing the dishes, preparing a meal, helping with errands, etc.

When you can intuit or observe what is best received by others, you can remember to give what they value.
When you give gratitude, remember it is your intention that counts.
When you share your Thanksgiving with others, make sure you share your appreciation in every way.
When you love others well, they feel and know your appreciation and respect.
But say, show and share your love and appreciation anyway.

This world needs more focus on the Good.
You are the One to share it.
Begin today and everyday.
Watch your own inner joy grow as you give more Love.

Loving you with gratitude, respect, trust and Love,
Betty Lue

You are  my spiritual partners as we conspire to co-create a better world.
My heart smiles and my spirit rejoices.
Your gifts of love and appreciation inspires me and feed my soul.
Celebrate the gifts we share and grow in abundance and beauty.
Offering all I am given in Love,  supports, strengthens and affirms this Love.

I love you, as you live the life you consciously desire.
I am supported and sustained by your kindness and generosity.
May you  honor your Holy Self as you walk in Goodness, Beauty and Love.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Faith and Gratitude

Remember your faith no matter what the situation.
Profess your faith with gratitude in advance.
Demonstrate your faith with gratitude for all that is.
Appreciate your faith no matter what the apparent outcome.

When there are bumps in the roads, we are invited to remember our faith.

What is faith, but a belief in the highest and best outcome.
What is faith, but realizing we do not know what the best outcome may be.
What is faith, but a willingness to trust in the innate Goodness in all things.

When questions and doubt appear, we are encouraged to profess our faith.

With gratitude for the highest outcome, we affirm our faith.
With appreciation for the blessings that are coming, we give gratitude in advance.
With affirmation of the Goodness in all life, we are revealing the Good that already is.

When it may seem faulty, demonstrate your faith with gratitude for whatever comes.

Thank you God for the Goodness that will be revealed in this seeming difficulty.
Step forward with courage, commitment and choice to give the best you have.
Forgive your fears and always remember Love prevails.

Along life’s journey, be strengthened by the challenges and appreciate your faith.

When experiencing what seem to be difficulties and drama, trust in Divine Good.
When confused and in doubt, appreciate what you believe with all your heart.
When uncertain and afraid, return to appreciate the Power of Love.

Goodness is and lives in all creation.
We are heirs of that Goodness, created by Good for the purpose of doing Good.
Our thoughts create Good.
We are here to align with Good and forgive and erase anything less than Good.
We live a Good life by remembering, professing, demonstrating and appreciating the Good that always Is.

Seek first the kingdom of Good…and All Goodness will be your inheritance.

Loving you as we remember no matter what.
Betty Lue

Give Good and you will know Good.
Be Good and you will see Good.
Appreciate Good and you will increase the Good.
And so it is, we expand the Good we have.


There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, 

you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Saturday, November 20, 2010

How Do You Care?

How do you show you care about yourself?
Do you eat and sleep well?
Do you take time to give yourself what you really need?
Do you love yourself well?

If you scare yourself with made up dangers, you are not caring.
If you neglect your home, your kitchen and bedroom, you are not caring.
If you ignore your debts and spend money you don’t have, you are not caring.
If you are critical and demeaning with your inner dialogue, you are not caring.

These bad habits can be undone.
They were learned in childhood from others who were ignorant and unloving.
Unconsciously we simply take on the inner and outer languaging of our unconscious care-givers.
Consciously we can easily and consistently erase it and replace it with loving kind words and thoughts.

If you do not treat yourself with the respect you would offer as an honored guest, you are neglecting yourself.
If you do not offer yourself the gentleness you would nurture an innocent child, you are not caring.
If you forget to care for your basic needs as would a loving and protective parent, you are not loving you.
If you mistreat or abuse yourself with thoughts, words or behaviors, you are forgetting who you are.

It is true that those who fully and freely, love, trust and respect themselves, can selflessly love others.
Those who give themselves what is truly best for them, will easily encourage the best for others.
Those who see the future in a positive, productive and prosperous way, will be most supportive for others.
Those who care for themselves impeccably, give consistently to others.

We are all volunteers.
Everyday we volunteer.
We can resist and complain.
Or we can gratefully choose to give our best.

When you give your best to each and everyone, including yourself, you will be fulfilled.
When you speak the best to each and everyone, including yourself, you will be prospered.
When you imagine the best for each and everyone, including yourself, you will be at peace.
When you live your best each and every moment, you will be happy.

Why not begin today to live the optimum way!

Loving you and all as One,
Betty Lue

Twelve Daily Steps To Optimistic Living

1. Focus on my successes rather than on my failures.
2. Notice that which I have accomplished rather than that which I’ve left undone.
3. See and acknowledge my beauty rather than focusing on my imperfections.
4. Notice and acknowledge all the times I’ve followed the optimum conditions,rather than judging myself for the times I have not.
5. Acknowledge all my wins each and every day.
6. Create and maintain an environment that nurtures me.
7.  See problems as opportunities to learn from rather than as obstacles to avoid.
8.  Tell the whole truth on a moment to moment basis in order to maintain impeccable and loving relationships.
9. Be conscious every moment to put positive thoughts into my mind rather than negative, knowing all thoughts are creative.
10.  Appreciate my feelings as a means of understanding myself, thus directing and creating my reality.
11. Continue to forgive myself and others as a means of creating a state of Grace.
12. Fill my life with joy and ecstasy by practicing daily the art and skill of verbally expressing my gratitude for all that I have.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Giving Thanks

How do you show your gratitude?
What is the balance between criticism and correct and gratitude and appreciation?
Is it possible that every criticism cancels every appreciation?
Have you considered how to build the emotional bank account with those you love?

Every correction or complaint is a withdrawal.
Every gift of appreciation is a deposit.
When the account is full between yourself and another, all requests will be honored with respect.
When the account is depleted in  your relationship, requests may be ignored, denied or limited in response.

When we understand the nature of relationships, we value our contributions and give abundantly.
When we care about the feelings of another, we contribute consistently and freely.
When we are grateful for ourselves and the life we have created, we appreciate more easily.
When we have denied ourselves and have judged our mistakes, we withhold our gratitude from others.

Gratitude begins within.
The inner bank account starts with our love, trust, appreciation and respect of ourselves.
When we feel blessed by the life we have given ourselves, we must routinely acknowledge our appreciation.
When we are full of praise and prayer,  we can easily give love and appreciation where it is needed.

Complaints, corrections and criticisms begin within as well.
When we are complaining about our selves and critical of ourselves, we look on the world with negativity.
When we have incompleted projects, unpaid debts, withheld communication and unforgiven history, we criticize.
When we have not cleared our own emotion/mental/environmental house, we have cluttered thoughts.

If you find it difficult to give thanks for everything this Holiday Season, begin to make amends to yourself.
If you have neglected to finish your business and clean up your own home, take time now to do so.
If you have walked away for forgiving your brothers and sisters, now is the time.
If you have been avoiding the pain of your own mistakes, look and forgive them now.

Now is the time to do the work.
You are the One who can do the work.
This is your moment to begin again.
Why wait for someone else to do it for you?

Give thanks for this day to do what is needed.
Appreciate everyone who comes into your life.
Notice how everything is either a call for love or a gift of love.
Give what you can in appreciation for what is.

Your gifts make a difference to everyone, as you clean up your little place in the family of humanity.
Your appreciation grows more Good for all to enjoy and benefit from your inspiration.
Your love works to bring Light to all minds, so we all can see who we can be when we Do the Work!

Loving you and me as One,  

Betty Lue

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Bottled Up Feelings

Feelings are energy.
Emotions are energy which is moving, motivating, inspiring us to move forward.
When emotions are blocked, they may become toxic and unhealthy.
When feelings or not expressed, they become distorted, irrational and unhealthy.

The problem with negative emotions is how they are used to manipulate, threaten and even demean others.
Negative emotions can be used to clarify our own intention and to see what really matters to us,
However, many believe dumping negative emotions on others motivates them to wake up and change.
When expressing negative emotions, it is important to discern underlying motivation and desired outcome.

If you want peace, extend peace.
If you want a fight, be argumentative.
If you want to win, use all your powers.
If you want to be fair, seek a better way to find a win/win solution.

Positive emotions are simply life energy which is seeking ways to express itself.
Negative emotions are blocked energies which can be used to find and clear the blocks.
When you dump negative emotions on others (puke and poop), you make the relationship toxic.
Privacy and solitude are the healthiest way to clarify your own blocked energies.

When feeling “yucky”, it is valuable to withdraw and listen within.
Excuse yourself and listen within.
“What do I need right now?”Whatever your honest answer, give it to yourself.

When you are resentful. angry, hurt or afraid, again ask yourself “What do I really need right now?”

When you listen and write, take the time to ask,” What is the real reason, I am feeling……..?”
The origin of all upsets is a past similar that was mishandled, ignored or left unhealed.
All upsets are past similars…
often unhealed wounds from our early childhood.

When we do not take responsibility for our upsets, we lose their learning and healing value.
When we project our upset onto another by blaming them, we reinforces our victim position.
When we make others wrong for their offense to us, we neglect to take action to empower ourselves.
When we really believe that we were wronged by another, we fail to identify our own errors.

This may leave us always feeling a victim of others’ ignorance and problems.
This may set us up for a life of being at the effect of others unconsciousness.
This may engender feelings of unsafety, insecurity and lack of confidence and faith.
This may lead to a backlog of emotional distortion, disease and false evidence appearing real. (FEAR)

Life is meant to be an empowering experience us.
Life is the opportunity to free ourselves to Be ourselves.
Life is a place to face our unreal fears and failures with clarity and courage.
Life is the laboratory in which we can explore and experiment to find the most effective, enjoyable and powerful way to live.

Stop dumping on others where it may feel like an attack.
Let go easily and quickly of all toxic emotions and listen within for helpful solutions.
Realize that you can find a better way, when you let go of all the ineffective ways.
Communicate only when you are clear about your intention and desired outcome.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

How Do You Show Up?

Have you looked in the mirror recently?
Do you smile or frown?
Do you look people in the eyes or turn away?
Do you walk with your shoulders back or slumped?

The way you show up wearing your body and your clothes clues others as to how you feel about yourself.
The way you look at people is perceived as how you feel about them: welcoming or annoyed.
The way you talk and your tone of voice clues others into your current energy level.
The words you speak tell others what you might be interested in or caring about.

We are always teaching others by our thoughts, our words and our actions.
We are always telling on ourselves with our comments, criticisms and conversation.
We are always sharing our feelings with our attitude, inflection, facial expression.
There is so much being conveyed through all aspects of our physiology.

Do you care about yourself?
Do you like who you are?
Do you appreciate your life?
Do you feel good about what you have achieved, created and given?
How do you let it show?

Do you care about others?
Do you like who they are?
Do you appreciation their life choices?
Do you feel good about what they have achieved, created and contributed?
How do you let them know?

When we are self critical, we will wear it in our expression, tone, body language.
When we are critical of others, they hear it in our attitude, languaging, eye contact, etc.
When we don’t like sometime, others will know.
When we are obtuse and indirect, others can make up whatever is in their consciousness.

If you are needy, others know.
If you are greedy, others pick it up.
If you are stingy, others can tell.
If you are don’t care, other get the message.

When folks get you are turned off, tuning out, self absorbed or just plain unconscious, they leave you alone.
When folks feel criticized, unappreciated, ignored or devalued, they feel hurt and unloved.
When folks feel excluded, set aside, not useful, they feel they don’t belong.
When folks feel you are hurting, in trouble or angry, they may not know how to be helpful.

When we keep our own counsel and heal our own wounds, we can respond to others needs appropriately.
When we love and appreciate ourselves fully, no matter what the circumstance, we are truly loving to others.
When we care for our own needs first and give from our fullness, we do not seek to get anything in return.
When we are happy, whole and fulfilled, we are at peace and can be truly helpful to others.

Love yourself today….mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

How Can You Be Helpful?

It is likely you give to others what you desire for yourself.
Depending on your personality type, your ways to help may vary widely.
What is helpful to some, may feel negative, limiting, meddlesome or overdone to others.
To be truly helpful, we need to know exactly what is needed and be invited to help.

Ways to help.

Some listen with love.
Some provide knowledge and wisdom.
Some offer healing energy and prayer.
Some give counsel and creative solutions.
Some share fears and their own needs.
Some give admonitions and demands.
Some provide novel approaches to distract.
Some give encouragement and support.
Some explain the rules that make life work.
Some are philosophical and trusting.
Some simply step away and mind their own business.
Some offer everything and chicken soup.
Some commiserate and offer sympathy.
Some empathize and bring up their own favorite fix-it tools.

Is being helpful truly helpful?

Know what you prefer and when you need help, be clear.
Thank those who attempt to help, and let them know what works and what doesn’t.
Appreciate the intention and let go of the form of help.
Clarify with the one you are helping what they really need by offering?
Listen to the needs of the other and/or ask “What Can I do to be helpful to you?”

Some generalizations:
Self Preservation types prefer to do it themselves/
Relational types really want someone to connect with for help.
Social/ Global types prefer to look for what they can do to further help others.

My family experience was one in which we simply saw what was needed and responded.
There was no need for asking or explaining.
There was simply: If you see something that is needed, it is yours to do.It has created for me a very simple and often silent life in which I am responsible.
My work is to keep myself open, willing and able to respond to whatever need I see.

The best way to be truly helpful to me…..
Fill yourself up with Love and appreciation and respond with Kindness to everyone.
Make no assumptions.
Take nothing personally.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

Loving you and always working on living and giving the highest and best I know,
Betty Lue

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Finding Our Way Back Home

Love is our Holy Work.
When we have lost our way in fear and hurt, we want to come home to safety and comfort.
When we have lost our way in anger and blame, we want to remember how to respect and trust.
When we have lost our way in guilt and regret, we want to forgive and love once again.
 When we are lost in a world of complaints, we seek to take action and make things right.
When we are lost in the sorrow of those in hunger, disease and war, we seek to remember their Essence of Good.
When we are lost in the disappointment of promises not kept, we seek to commit ourselves to what we agreed.
When we are consumed with the busyness of making ends meet and paying our bills, we see to be grateful for what we have.

Love is our Holy Work.

Love is our Healing.
Love is the trust that comes from knowing there is Good within all.
Love is the freedom to do what is true for us right now.
Love is the kindness that lives in our hearts.
Love is the laughter that comes with light=hearted play.
Love is the opportunity to serve those neglected and in need.
Love is the peace that comes from listening within.
Love is the joy that greets the sunrise each day.
Love is the blessing of the sanctuary of our home.
Love is remembering to greet one another with a smile.
Love is the wisdom that is revealed when we seek to know.

Love is our Holy Work.

Sometimes we need to forgive to remember to love.
Some need to have space and distance to love.
Some need to love themselves first to be prepared to Love.
Some need faith to understand and accept they are love.
Some need to create to see how they Love.
Some need to serve to have the experience of Love.
Some need simply to let go and trust in the Gifts of Love.
Some need to be loved to know how to Love.

Love is our Holy Work.

The world needs you and I to remember to Love.
Our communities need us to serve freely everyone.
Our families need the time and space to be together.
Our friends need to know we are there for them….no matter what.
Our enemies need to know we desire peace to know there is Love.
Our leaders need us to appreciate their sacrifices of time and energy.
Our workplaces need to have ambassadors of forgiveness and Love.
Our elders need to be listened to and respected to be loved.
Our children need our patience and guidance to feel loved.
And yes, we must love ourselves to be the Love we are.

Love is our way Home.
Love is our healing.
Love is our inner guidance system.
Love is the Way.

Loving you and all each day,
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Loving You Today

What can I do to love you well?
What can I say to let you know?
How can I be to set you free?
When I love me, I can love you.

When I am happy and free, then I can see who you are.
When I am on purpose and living in love, I can encourage you to be you.
When I am at home and at peace, I will extend only and always peace to you.
Life is a circle in which loving me well is loving you well.

Freeing me sets you free.
Trusting me allows me to trust you.
Being wholly myself frees me to see your Holy Self.
With trust in my life and freedom for me, I am loving you.

Freeing me empowers me to choose whatever it right.
Freeing me allows me to be however it true.
Freeing me gives me the opening to live my holy purpose.
Freeing me encourages that I live and work with total joy.

Everything I do is living joy.
All that I express comes from my joy in being.
Whomever I encounter receives the joy I share.
My life is Holy Play and Holy Work and Holy Will.

With natural inner inspired work and play, every day is abundant with enjoyment.
With conscious choice I know that I am prospered with opportunities to Good.
With my Spirit guiding and inspiring me, I realize the organic pleasure of Life.
I can trust that Life is Good to me, because I am Good for my life.

Yes, it all sounds good and grand and happy and healthy, but how?

Begin to think the thoughts that remind you:
Life is Good.
I love myself.
I am prospered.
I share only Love.
I trust my true Self.
I free myself to be true to spirit within.
I allow myself to give fully and freely.
I am a blessing wherever I go.
I trust what I know.
I let my love show.
I honor my self And my gifts.
My life works, as I let go of thoughts, words and activities that don’t work.
I am at home in this world, creating goodness and Beauty wherever I go.

Did you know that……
Goodness is.
You are Good.
Thoughts create.
When you align with the Good you are, life is all Good.

Loving you, with heart and mind that are True B’Lue.
Betty Lue

Friday, November 12, 2010

Two Reminders Yesterday!

Yes, you received a repeat of 11/10 and the 11/11 accidentally. 
Apologies if it was confusing to you.

Life is very full right now.
Maybe the need is greater?
Possibly he Call is stronger?
Or I am more willing?
Or all of the above?

What do you do to take care of you?
How do you listen and reassure yourself?
Are you judging or accepting?
Are your resistant or appreciative?

When there is more on your plate, can you celebrate?
When there is lots to do, how do you love you?
Do you remember to begin with a prayer of gratitude?
When we fully appreciate what is, the way is clear to succeed.

Some need to rest.
Some need to give their best.
Some are called to serve.
Some may be needed to teach or heal or let go.

Whatever you find is on your mind, consider it and follow through.
This is your way of honoring and trusting You.

Sometimes I forget to slow down and listen.
The body may show me the need to just wait.
Or perhaps things are not easy or there is a block.
When there is upset or pain, there is always a call to get back on purpose.

So as we let go this autumn, let us give thanks.
As we undo what is no longer needed or wanted, let us bless what has gone before.
As we plan to celebrate with family and friends, let us remember to encourage and support one another.
As we perhaps change our habits for new and better ways, let us focus on the Good in what is.

We need not linger in pain.
We need not judge what has been.
We need not begrudge others mistakes.
We need not hold guilt and regret.

Let us simply step into today
Finding our way with openness and appreciation.
Let us enjoy this moment now.
And feel the Joy of simple being grateful for it all.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Honorable Closure        

How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally.  
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.

Honorable closure acknowledges:1)   the learning and growth received,
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced,
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4)   forgiveness and amends made.

Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.

Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.

Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.

Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.

And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.  

Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  Begin now.

Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.
Betty Lue

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Our Day with the Children

Every week on Thursdays Robert and I spend with our three Alameda Grandchildren.
When they are in school, we usually volunteer in their classrooms for some morning time.
We often take walks, prepare lunch and dinner, make household repairs, do errands and help out their working Mom and Dad. We have lots of time for talking, curiosity, outdoor play, learning new skills, and expanding their awareness of what works and what doesn’t.  We are inspired.  We learn.
We are challenged.  We are exercised.  We enjoy.

Today there is no school, so we get to have a field trip to our Rio Vista home, which requires a 90 minute drive and plenty of time for singing, sharing and conversation.  If there is left over fatigue from a busy week, there will be some napping.  We will fix lunch together, swim in the indoor pool, take walks, watch the birds, enjoy exploring our home and doing crafts, playing games and the piano.  Childhood is such a precious time.

What do you do with the children in your life?
Do you teach them about kindness and respect?
Do you live in a way that they cherish being with adults?
Are you giving them an opportunity to explore another way of life?

It seems to me that adults need to grow up in order to be good role models.
It appears that people often demand too much and give too little to children.
Yes, adults seem to give things, but not enough positive attention.
Adults often talk too much and listen far too little.
Adults tell children what to do, but forget to ask them what they want to do.

When children are bullyed or criticized, they learn to bully and criticize.
When children are picked on, teased or ridiculed, they learn to do the same.
When children are loved, hugged, encouraged, they learn to give love and encouragement.
It is so obvious that our children need our very best.

Let us begin today…with every child.

Loving you and all in everyway,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, November 09, 2010

What Do You See?

Do you see the wholeness within the disabled body?
Can you see the wisdom in the tiny child?
Do you know the Love within You, even in times of anger?
Are you willing to forgive and erase what is temporary to reveal the Truth?

When you look at someone needed help, do you feel pity or admire their courage?
When asked for help, do you feel grateful to be able or annoyed to be asked?
When you give what you have to serve another, do you receive the gift you are giving?
Is it within your grasp to realize you are giving to yourself?

It is a gift to the give and receiver when we serve another.
It is a source of inspiration and healing for both when we are truly helpful.
It is an opportunity to build a better future for humanity when we love and serve.
It is an expansion of love and peace when we are able and willing to contribute.

Can you look beneath your own pain, sorrow and searching to see the joy and love and Truth?
Can you imagine the healing power of all circumstances when you see the world’s disasters?
Are you aware of the Goodness of humanity in the midst of see the distortions of fearful minds?
Can you call forth the best in our children, instead of disciplining them for their worst behavior?

We have an opportunity now to focus on the Good and accelerate improvement in all.
We can easily ignore behaviors which we want to forgive, delete and reduce.
We can emphasize, expand and encourage the behaviors of love and Goodness with our appreciation.
To ignore extinguishes the return of “bad” behavior.  To give attention creates more of the same.

When we learn this simple metaphysical truth by experimenting, we will empower a better world.
When we send positive thoughts and prayers to those in leadership, we will join them in Goodness.
When we stop criticizing, blaming, and complaining with gossip and negative focus on their errors, we will begin to focus on clearing our own.
Life is a self improvement project in which we must take responsibility for our own good behaviors.

When we are asked for help, give help with a positive and respectful tone.
When we are not asked for help, allow the other to learn on their own.
If  we see someone endangering themselves or others, interfere with help and kindness.
Interfering with your own opinions and suggestions, without invitation, feels like an Attack!

Tend your own garden.
Mind your own business.
Keep your own counsel.
Trust yourself to do the Work.

My helpfulness comes from taking everything I receive in these reminders as I write them.
I take inventory of my life everything I write or share in counseling, coaching and teaching.
I apply what is know and hear within.
I live the truths I share with you.

I see you healed, whole and holy.
It is my honor to share these loving reminders with you
Together we are creating a better world with every thought, word and deed.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Monday, November 08, 2010

Negative Emotions

Emotions = Energy in motion.
When your energy moves, it does not become toxic.
When your feelings are used for Good, your body, mind and Spirit are healthy.
When your emotions are moving and motivating you, you will use them to create what you want.

When your energy is stagnant, you may feel depressed, apathetic, lethargic, depleted and empty.
When your emotions are withheld, you may feel a build up of anxiety, frustration, anger, etc.
When your emotions are dumped, you may feel relief, catharsis, purged and open.
When your emotions are used to attack or argue, may feel bad, sad, afraid, unfinished.

Distortion of our perception comes from thwarting or blocking the Godly gifts of creative wisdom.
We cannot see know what is true or find creative solutions when we are misusing our emotions.
When we act out or dump on others, we are displaying our frustrated and blocked energy in a distorted and dysfunctional way.
When we dump, (accuse, blame, make others wrong), we will experience fear and defensiveness.

When we feel misunderstand, we are misunderstanding.
When we feel unheard, we have not been listening.
When we feel attacked, we have been attacking.
When we feel lack of love, we have been unloving.

I encourage all of us to write our feelings down, so we can see what we believe.
What we believe, we will perceive.
What we perceive is our proof that what we believe is true.
What we believe as true is what we seek to find.

We can easily undo what we don’t like in ourselves and others simply by changing our mind.
When we believe that our feelings are real and true, we have many explanations and justifications.
When we recognize our emotions have become our excuse to act out, we can choose again.
Let’s consider forgiving our misperceptions and false projections.

When we take responsibility for feeling bad,  we can choose to change our thoughts and feelings.
When we own our miscreations and misperceptions, we can change them by seeing things differently.
When we are willing to see things differently, we will forgive the past and be open for the future.
When we are forgiving all mistakes, ourselves and others, we will see things differently.

Everyone wants to feel loved, appreciated and valued.
Everyone wants to be respected, heard and accepted.
Everyone wants to know they matter and belong.
It is our responsibility (the ones who are conscious) to give what is wanted consistently.

When we neglect to love, appreciate and value others, everyone loses.
When we forget to respect, hear and accept others, everyone feel the pain.
When we deny others the opportunity to feel they belong and matter to us, we hurt everyone.
It is our right, privilege and responsibility to contribute always and only the highest and best.

Now it the time.
We are the ones.
Let us begin today.

Loving you in every way,  

Betty Lue

Sunday, November 07, 2010

What Happened?

What Happened to Respect and good manners?
Yesterday I wrote “Stop complaining and criticizing.”
Today I am aware of the area I sometimes complain about……self respect and respect for others, our possessions, jobs, money and our lives.
So I am committing to writing about how I see we can each begin to turn the tide on good manners.

Yes, manners and etiquette are an obvious way of demonstrating respect.
How we dress demonstrates the respect (or lack of respect) for ourselves and others.
How we speak to one another shows our level of respect of those we encounter.
How we interact and behave demonstrate our consciousness in way of relating.

When  respectful, we consider how others will receive our communication in body posture, clothing, verbal languaging, eye contact, good manners.
When we are respectful, we remember to consider others as much as we consider ourselves.
When we want to gain respect with others, we attend to what they consider to be respectful.
When we value our relationships, we choose to do and say those things which make a positive impact.

  • Listen fully before we talk.
  • Never interrupt.
  • Excuse mistakes with an apology.
  • Always say please and thank you.
  • Greet everyone sincerely.
  • Use the phone wisely, when no one can hear or interrupt.
  • Excuse yourself when in conversation, before addressing another or answering the phone.
  • Speak with in a tone that gains the respect of the other.
  • See everyone’s needs as important as your own.
  • When someone is not respectful to you, make sure you are respectful to them.
  • Recognize the world needs your high standards of respectful communication.
  • Use no profanity.
  • Do not talk about others with out their presence or permission.
  • Eat with respect for yourself, your food and those around you.
  • Keep your appearance at a high standard to inspire others to do the same.
  • Vent your emotions in private.
  • When you want to express an opinion, ask permission of others to hear you without harm.
  • Recognize everyone has a different outlook, desired outcome and perceptions of their world.
  • Accept others needs as a call for help, rather than to be judged and criticized.
  • Receive all criticism and complaints from others as a call for help and a desire to find a better way.
  • Attend to the person with whom you are speaking/listening fully, with no distractions or interruptions.
  • Turn off the TV when you want to have communication with your children or spouse.
  • Turn off your cell phone when you are talking with someone or at dinner.
  • Find a private place to make your calls, so that you are not interrupting or distracting others.
  • Consider having limited hours for cell phone, TV, computer and video game use in your house.
Remember, respect is giving yourself and others you full attention, really connecting with them.
This is Good Manners.
We each are teaching by our example.
Be the Best You Know how to be.
Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Saturday, November 06, 2010

Stop Criticism and Complaining

Both of these commonly practiced forms of communication do not unite.  They divide.
Both of these judgmental expressions do not improve or enhance. They denigrate and diminish.
Both of these learned ways of relating do not encourage.  They deplete and deny.
Both of these statements are hurtful to both giver and receive.  They attack and waste energy.

Stop criticizing yourself and others.
Choose instead to appreciate and encourage.
Stop complaining about your life and your world.
Choose instead to vision and act with creative solutions.

When we are judgmental, we demonstrate fear, arrogance, ridicule and impotence.
When we complain, we demonstrate our own helplessness and inadequacy.
When we have a judgment, we are proclaiming we want reform and improvement.
When we want to make things better, we need to educate and inspire by our example.

When we see our life as less that what we deem it could be, rather than place blame externally, we can initiate a plan for self improvement.
When we find ourselves being negative, we can notice that we generate negativity in others.
With negativity we spiral down into the morass of depression and fear, defensiveness and fatigue.
With criticism and complaints, we may demand and threaten to motivate and incur resistance and fear instead.

When we endlessly ask ourselves and others “Why?” did this happen?”, we spend useless hours delving into the past history, only to find more questions, rather than creative answers.
When we choose to ask “How?” can we make positive changes and improve the situation, we being to gather a co-creative approach to find answers that will benefit all concerned.
To judge the past is to be doomed to repeat it. (Wherever we judge we get stuck in repeated behavior.)
To seek a better future is to be inspired to transform ourselves and envision a better way.

We have circumstances now in our families, schools, communities, corporations and economy which are calling for creative solutions.
Now is the time to become a respectful, responsible and co-creative team.
When we all work together seeking a better way, we will find harmony and enjoy productive outcomes.
When we let go of judging one another with criticism and complaints, we feel safe and valued.

When we feel safe, secure, appreciated and loved, we think, speak and act with more consciousness.
When we feel trusted and respected, we are more cooperative, respectful and responsible.
When we know we can speak up and act out of our own unique values, we are more open and honest.
When we feel others have confidence in us and value our contributions, we give more generously.

Life works when we are positive, appreciative and genuinely helpful.
Wherever you are, always seek the Good, speak with Love and give your Best.
Loving us all.
Betty Lue

Friday, November 05, 2010

The Essence of Marriage

I am officiating a wedding tomorrow and am inspired to write a loving reminders to remind us all.

When we marry, we commit to love the good and forgive what is not.
When we marry, we choose to give the best we have to our beloved.
When we marry, we communicate our willingness to trust and freedom without limit.
When we marry, we change our selfish habits and give more for the sake of Giving.

When we marry, we learn to forgive all errors.
When we marry, we learn to appreciate the love we share.
When we marry we remember, it is in giving that we receive.
When we marry, we honor and celebrate our differences.

When we marry, we clarify our values, our goals and include the other’s vision with ours.
When we marry, we agree to disagree without fault or fear.
When we marry, we trust, respect and believe in the other for unified success.
When we marry, we look forward to a co-created future of harmony, health and happiness.

It is in sacred union, that we find the Love within us…the Love that never quits, the love that has no end.
It is in wedding that we come to realize the Spirit of Goodness and God within us.
It is in Holy matrimony that we know the gift of giving without seeking to get in return.
It is in the vows of marriage that we commit to share our whole selves in a life partnership.

This Divine Love, this Spiritual Love, transcends the body, the emotions and the personality. 
This Love heals. This Love forgives.  This Love grows.  This love reveals.
This Love withstands all storms  of lack, all disease, all forgetfulness and neglect.
This Love is the foundation for families, the uniter of communities., the bedrock for success in life.

Could you renew your vows?
Are you willing to be the one to begin?
Can you forgive your past and the other’s?
Are you open to completing what was and choosing what will be NOW?

Life gives us endless opportunities to learn to commit to Love.
Children, parents, partners and friends.
We can reject, judge abandon, divorce, leave, stop talking, neglect, ignore or hate, but the lesson remains.
We are here to Love without End.

Love is Real.
Love will prevail.
Love is our Essence and our Eternal Truth.
Why not begin today to simply love them all….no matter what!

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Thursday, November 04, 2010

Appreciate Your Self

When you fully appreciate your self, you will continue to grow in love, respect and self trust.
When you love, trust and respect yourself, you will naturally love, trust and respect others.
When you fully appreciate others, they begin to appreciate themselves.
When others love, trust and respect themselves, they begin to love, trust and respect you.

And this makes all of our relationships work!

The world appears to have slipped into a negative and critical state.
You may be part of this negativity?
When we are not fully appreciative, we live in a limited, pessimistic and depressed state.
When we think, speak and act with little gratitude, we diminish our relationship with everything.

When we are negative, we teach others to be negative.
When we are positive, we encourage others to be positive.
When we appreciate ourselves (not bragging or arrogant or “better than”), we inspire others.
When we are glad to be alive, to have family and friends, food and shelter, we uplift others.

What would it take for you to stop criticizing and complaining about anything?
How could you  stop using, abusing and confusing others with negativity?
What could you do today to change your thinking, worrying, and judging others?
How can you begin to appreciate yourself and others for every little act of kindness?

Planting seeks of gratitude costs nothing.
Smiling at yourself in the mirror every morning takes no time.
Giving those you encounter a genuine greeting only benefits.
Being willing to forgive the petty stuff and enhance what your value builds what is Good.

Each of us can change this world in whatever direction we wish.
Negative campaigning in your family and workplace, yields conflict and creates more of the same.
Positive affirmations build unity, teamwork, creativity,  and effective and healthy relationships.
When you want to give the best, start with yourself.

Be positive in how you talk to yourself.
Be appreciative with each job well done.
Be grateful to yourself for your willingness to love you well.
Be happy with yourself, your life, your achievements and your growth.

Take time everyday to appreciate the Good in you.
Take time with everyone to be thankful for the Gift they are.
Take time in everyway to value the blessings in your life.
Take time to give fully receive the gift of Life.

This is a prayer of Thanksgiving for All That Is.
When we remember it is Good, we realize All is God.
When we appreciate the Gift we are, we give our gifts with Joy in giving.
Life Grows. Love flows. We remember All is Well.

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Ten Commandments of Relationships

With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 

Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.
As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,  

Betty Lue