Where there is lack of love, there is neediness, anger, resentment, fear, worry, loneliness, sorrow, disease.
Where there is lack of love, there is lack of generosity, patience, tolerance, trust, joy, gentleness and faith.
Where there is lack of love, there is always a call for Love.
Most people forget how simple life really is.
Where there is lack, there is a need.
Where we see a need, it is ours to fill.
When we lack Love within, we cannot give without sacrifice or a need to “get” in return.
When the woman, mother, nurturer within a home is lacking Love, she may be moody, emotionally needy.
When the father, husband, provider and protector is lacking Love, he may be defensive, distant and angry.
When the kids, adventurers, explorers and learners are lacking Love, they may be cranky, tempermental.
Everyone displays their lack of love differently.
Where there is lack, there is a need to fill.
When we ourselves are lacking, we may judge, resist, criticize and complain about others needs.
When we are lacking Love, we may try to manage the neediness with superficial quick fixes to mask the symptoms; ie, drugs, alcohol, binging, food, distraction, pain, avoidance, etc.
When there is lack of Love, it is ours to fill. RESPOND WITH LOVE.
We cannot respond with Love, if we do not have Love within.
We cannot respond with Love, if we are not connected wit the Source of Love.
We cannot respond with Love, if we feel lacking.
We cannot respond with Love, if we are needy, dependent, resentful, guilty, hurting, judgmental, etc.
Within all relationships there is only one healing that is necessary to always respond with Love.
This is our relationship with oneself
You and I are responsible for our Love for Self.
We are totally responsible for withholding or generously giving Love to ourselves.
Loving oneself may be easy for those who have been well loved in infancy and childhood by parent who loved themselves well.
However, when we have been conditionally loved in our early months and years, we continue to conditionally love ourselves.
When we have been always loved, respected, appreciated and valued, we will find it natural to love, trust, respect and appreciate ourselves.
And from this natural and inner flow of unconditional love for Self, we can easily share with others.
Everything that is Not Love, is ALWAYS a call for Love.
When you have Love to give, it is easy to respond with Love (and no offense is taken).
When you feel lacking in love, it is difficult to respond another’s lack of Love as a call for Love.
And it brings up guilt to deny the other the Love you know they want and need.
It is time to Love you well.
Find the inner peace that comes from unconditional positive regard for Self.
Experience the natural joy that follows the blessing of Loving one Self.
Appreciate the feelings of gratitude for being alive when you Love You Well.
Loving you and me and us all,
Betty Lue
From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISMCriticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELFStop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENTBe gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELFStop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENTBe gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.