How To Decide?

Affirmations:

I listen to the wisdom and love within me.

I trust what is fair, helpful and good for all.

I seek inner guidance for what is highest and best.

I treat others as I want to be treated.

Choices

Make your own choices.

Gather information you need.

Honor your inner knowing.

Respect the principles you believe in.

Is it fair?

Is it wise?

Is it helpful?

Is it beneficial for All?

Children are often asked to consider these areas before making a choice.

Adults seem to forget.

When we learn to believe in what others tell us, we may neglect our own honest answer.

When we follow the crowd or what sounds good, we may forget to get the information we need to decide.

 In our less mature stages of development, we may only choose for ourselves to win.

We may not even care and avoid making choices, simply focused on our own pleasure.

As we mature, we tend to go along with parents, authority figures or those we want to impress.

When we begin to develop our own independence, we may rebel or purposely resist others.

As adults, we consider many factors, before making decisions.

We want to make decisions mindfully.

We want to do what is fair and wise.

We want to be honest and helpful.

We mature adults, we recognize what is fair, wise, helpful and beneficial for all.

We begin to understand that our choices affect everyone everywhere.

There is a remembering “all for one and one for all.” is a key factor.

Learning to make good decisions creates respect and trust in ourselves and others.

When we are immature, lazy or have not yet learned our own value, we make unwise decisions.

As I have learned to be responsible for my life, I notice that every decision I make has consequences.

The polling place, the friends I choose, the place I work and live, all impact far more than I know.

My decisions can be fair or unfair, wise or unwise, helpful or harmful and good or bad for others.

We need to create opportunities for ourselves and our children to make our own decisions.

We need to learn from the choices what is helpful, wise, fair and beneficial.

We can only discover the outcome through experience.

We will learn when we give ourselves and others the opportunity.

I trust you are learning and growing.

I appreciate your willingness to try.

I respect you for giving your best.

I free you to do what is “right” for you.

Loving us all as we learn together what is best for us all.     

Betty Lue 

Expectations

Affirmations:

I forgive myself for judging, comparing and evaluating myself and others.

I see with eyes of love and value all.

I easily stop asking more that is naturally given.

I let go of needing myself to be more than I am.

What Do We Expect?

When we are doing our best, we expect others are doing their best.

When we don't always care, we expect others will not always care.

When we want out way to be honored, we can expect others to want their way, too.

When we are filled with expectations, we can be assured we will be disappointed some of the time.

Are expectations simply our unexpressed desires?

Are our expectations the way we evaluate others’ value to us?

Are expectation our ways of predicting and preparing for the outcome?

Do we really know what can be expected from anyone or anything?

Expectations can be motivating to some.

Expectations can be unwanted pressure for others.

Expectations can set us up for limitation and judgment.

Expectation can also provide guidelines and encouragement.

Consider how you use your expectations of yourself and others.

Consider how you feel when you have high expectations of the results you would achieve.

Notice the fearful reaction or happy response when you expect much of others.

Recognize whether your expectations are the conditions on your love for yourself and others.

Are expectations fair?

Are expectations wise?

Are expectations helpful?

Are expectations good for you?

Begin to consider what is helpful, fair, wise and good.

Notice how you and others respond.

Consider what is your first priority: to love or to judge?

Be willing to consider a better way to relate to what you and others do.

Life seems to be focused on behavior and achievement.

What you do is not Who You Are, but rather the way we judge one another.

What you achieve is often you to evaluate your worthiness.

And yet, each one is valuable simply for being.

Perhaps our high expectations really distract us from seeing our high value.

Perhaps we need to enjoy one another simply because we care.

In sharing our humanity, we need to learn the value of every life.

In recognizing our differences, we need to respect and appreciate ourselves for being Who We Are.

You are my friend, sister, brother and Self.

Together we cannot fail.

I remember the Good in you.

Even when others may forget.

Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self

Be patient, not demanding

Accepting, not condemning

Nurturing, not withholding

Self-marveling, not belittling

Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know

Mankind is tough as war

Yet delicate as flowers

We can endure agonies

But we open fully only to warmth & light

And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance

Dispersed by storms of will

To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,

Attend your sensitivity

A flower

Cannot be opened

With a hammer

Life Responds To You

Affirmations:

What we reveal, we can heal.

The purpose of my life is to share the Peace and Love within me.

My function is to forgive all that is not Love.

I am here to bring forth the best I know.

Do You Know?

Your emotional energy fuels your life success.

You can change your emotions with a change of mind.

You are attracting what you experience.

All experiences are lessons, gifts, blessings and invitations.

What you seek, you will find. (so seek the Good!)

When you react with fear, you will attract more fear.

When you respond with love, more love is revealed.

Choosing the loving way will lift you out of the clouds of fear.

Life is a reflection of what you think and feel.

Where you place your focus increases.

Learning to forgive your fear, clears the way to Love.

Forgiveness is meant to erase thoughts that hurt.

Openness and willingness undoes what feels stuck.

Giving your best prevents receiving the worst.

Relinquishing expectations clears disappointment.

Asking “How can I respond?” is far more effective than “Why did this occur?”.

Your true Power is in your thoughts and words.

Be willing to grow in Love and eliminate hate.

When feeling negative emotion, step away and calm yourself.

Step forward with positive emotion and inspire your world.

You can create a field of love or live in a fortress of fear.

Choose to focus on Goodness and live with gratitude.

Ask only “How can I teach only Love?” and fear will dissolve.

Turn toward the Light and you will be guided to more Love.

Teach those you encounter with your kind energy.

Show what you know with your gentle smile, kind touch, and healing words.

Live, love, laugh and let go to demonstrate the Goodness and Gratitude you feel.

Use a healing intention to live up to your own expectations.

Remember that life is for the purpose of giving and living in Love.

Recognize that everything good and Loving is real.

Anything unkind, unloving or unhealthy is a call for Love.

Realize you are here to remember to always give the Love within you.

You are more than you know.

You are learning to realize the Spirit of Love within you.

You are here to create the experience you want.

You can use your mind and body to bring forth more Goodness, Wholeness and Love.

I am always Loving You!

Betty Lue

Healing Our Projections => Seeing Only Wholeness

1.  We perceive what we believe.

2.  We believe what we think we are.

3.   If I believe I am my past, then I believe you are your past.

4.   Believing in my past is to see and live it over again in all I see and do and am.

5.   Believing in your past is to remember it and continue to blame you for it.

6.  The more I feel guilty about my past, the more I place blame on you.

7.  All anger is my guilt projected onto others.

8.  To forgive my past is to release it.

9.  To release is to see it no more.

10.As I release my past, I release others from my projected guilt and self-judgment.

11. As I see myself whole, I see wholeness in others.

12 .As I heal my guilt about past mistakes, I heal my fear of the future.

13. To be in the present is to heal (erase) the past.

14. As I live in the present and love myself as I am now, I like you in the present and see you as you are now.

15. In this present moment, there is only Love for ourselves, each other and all that is. 

Love Works!

Affirmations:

Love is my natural state.

I am loving with every step I take.

I choose Love because it is my purpose and my Live.

I live in Love as the Love I AM.

Love Works!

Wherever, whenever, however……

Love Works!

Love lights our path.

Love opens our heart.

Love bring us peace.

Love shows up how.

Love is the Good we trust.

Love extends without limit.

Love remembers the truth.

Love heals bodies and minds.

Love is the gift of Life.

Love gives to one and all.

Love joins us together forever.

Love is your partner, your friend and your Self.

So why would we fear what is ever so dear?

Why do we withhold what is better than gold?

Why not give love away, because it returns in everyway?

Love is free and yet invaluable to us all.

Consider experimenting with Love as your prayer.

Consider giving love on a dare to show how you care.

Consider loving your neighbor, your enemy and those you don’t like.

Consider giving Love and only Love with all of your might.

You were created as Love for the purpose of Loving.

Your holy purpose is Love and this is your Truth.

When you realize that Love is what you came for, you will be willing.

When you know that Love is all you are really here for, you will be happy.

How to Love may be the clue for you!

You are here to Think Love, Speak Love and Give Love.

Just like the monkeys of “See no evil, Hear no evil and Speak no evil”…..

Your work is to live in Love, giving the Love and Receive more Love to give.

In this world of seeming difficulty and darkness, watch the Light illumine your life with Love.

In this time of apparent conflict and confusion, see how Love will bring great Peace and Joy.

In this moment breathe in the beauty and goodness of all that is within and around us all.

In this life may we all awaken what is natural whole and true, I Am Love and so Are You.

Loving you is a blessing to me,

Love sets us free to be Who We Are.

Betty Lue

LOVE

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;

No disease that enough love will not heal;

No door that enough love will not open;

No gulf that enough love will not bridge;

No wall that enough love will not throw down;

No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference

  how deeply seated may be the trouble,

How hopeless the outlook,

How muddled the tangle,

How great the mistake.

A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest

and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

“Give yourself to Love.

And Love will give to you.

Live your life with Trust.

And Trust will see you through.”

Be Willing to Do The Work!

Affirmation:

I prefer doing the work to give my best.

I am happiest when I make the effort.

I am rewarded by doing what I can do.

I respect, trust and appreciate myself for doing my real work everyday.

The Easy Way

It is easy to fall down.

It may be hard to get up

It is easy to stay in bed.

It may feel difficult to go to work.

It is easy to let things go.

It requires energy to speak up.

It may seem easier to not care.

It requires intention to be helpful and kind.

It can seem easier to go along with negativity.

It requires conscious choice to be positive.

It seems easier to go along with gossip.

It requires energy to step away and be thoughtful.

It is easy to feel bad.

It requires energy to do something good.

It is easy to quit.

It is work to keep going.

It may seem easy to judge.

It requires openness to forgive.

It takes little to procrastinate

I takes initiative to get it done.

It is easy to apologize.

It is work to make amends.

It is easy to say ”Hello”.

It takes thought to initiate conversation.

It is easy to be an acquaintance.

It takes time to become a friend.

It is easy to ask “How Are You?”

It requires effort to listen and care.

How much effort do you make in being a really Good Human Being?

How much time to you take to listen, learn, love and let go?

How much love do you share with others?

How much do you contribute to make you’re a better place?

We are totally capable and responsible to change every thing for the better.

Let’s do it together with gratitude and joy because we can.

Betty Lue

Don’t Waste Time

Affirmations:

I remember to turn toward the Light.

The more I see and know, the more I choose Love.

I change what I can change with ease and gratitude.

I use what I have to create and appreciate the Good.

Stop Complaining and Blaming!

When the “negativity bug” hits, we go down like sick bugs.

When we join with others in going dark, it is difficult to turn on the light.

When we start believing in gloom and doom, we turn away from the sun.

Step out into the fresh air and sunshine to see the Light and be the Light.

If you are attracted to dark stories, depressed and angry people, you will neglect your own wellness.

If you hide under the covers in fear and helplessness, you will fall prey to being victims of what is not.

If you believe in lack, littleness and limitation, you can make yourself believe that the false is true.

If you forget or neglect what is true and the power of creation within you, you may get sick.

There is work to get out of bed and the darkness in your head and step into the light.

There is choice in listening to the voices of possibility and creativity, and trust in the Good.

It takes just a push of a button to turn off the negative press, turn away from the harbingers of fear.

It requires you take charge of you to remember what is right and good and helpful and strong.

I count on you.

I count on us.

I trust in the Light to show us what is right.

I trust in the Love that lifts us above the judging ways.

We have the opportunity once again to choose our own path.

We have the choice to give voice to what will lead us Home.

We have the gift of forgiving and really living with Love.

We have what is takes to remember Good for Goodness Sake.

We can dare to care and share how much we truly care for one another.

We can display ways to practice and pray for what is good and whole and beautiful!

We can step out each day to think and say what inspires, heals and uplifts.

We can follow a path filled with gratitude and joy, to remind us all to behave in kind ways.

Remember, everyone who is not loving, is calling for healing and love.

Everyone who is negative and unkind needs to be forgiven and shown a better way.

Remember we all have the power to turn on the light with right talk, right action and right prayer.

You are I can make a difference as we forgive ourselves for forgetting to love.

Love is the only true and lasting power.

Love is the way to walk in gratitude.

Love is the path to return to the Light.

Love is the Gift we are here to receive and Give.

You are teaching everyone with what you think and say and do.

Choose wisely what you want your family, community and world to learn from you.

Be the One to teach all Humanity.

Be Whole and Happy and Free.

I See You.  I Know You.  I Love You.

HEALING THE FEAR

What can you do to heal the fear in yourself, in your community and in the world?

Fear contracts.                        Love expands.

Fear withholds.                       Love shares.

Fear defends.                          Love is open.

Fear judges.                            Love appreciates.

Fear condemns.                      Love forgives.

Fear separates.                        Love joins.

Fear acts out.                          Love responds.

Fear withdraws.                      Love reaches out.

Fear shuts down.                    Love opens up.

Fear argues.                            Love listens.                 

Fear excludes.                         Love includes.

Fear worries.                          Love blesses.

Fear justifies.                          Love trusts.         

Fear is stingy.                         Love is generous.

Fear is pushy.                         Love is patient.     

Fear can be cruel.                    Love is kind.        

Fear is suspicious.                   Love trusts.

Fear demands.                        Love guides.        

Fear cowers.                            Love is courageous.

Fear takes care of  its own.      Love is helpful to all.

Fear distorts our thinking.        Love sees clearly. 

Fear speaks of wrongs.            Love speaks of value.

Often fear makes us sick at heart and sick in body.

Often fear shuts down our ability to think, feel and act for Good.

Often fear limits our healthy appropriate responses.

Each of us is called to manage, forgive, heal and release the fear in our lives.

What can you do to handle your fear and to help others with theirs? 

Live On Purpose and Be Happy!

Affirmations:

I trust my inner knowing and feel safe and happy.

I do what I am called to do and feel confidence and free.

I live life with gratitude and joy.

I am always in the right place at the right time, doing the right things.

Happiness is Being On Purpose,

When our lives (marriage, finances, job, health) are not working, we are unhappy and upset.

(With no goal or destination, anything can throw us off course, because we really have no direction

When upset, we tend to find fault and blame ourselves and others or outside influences.

When unhappy, we feel lost and project the fear and guilt outside ourselves.

 (on the past, our relationships,  the weather, economy, politics, environment, etc.).

When we have upset, with others, it is because we are off purpose.

It is frightening to have no direction, meaning or purpose .

Every upset is about not living in integrity with what is right and true for us.

Our real work is to find our own life purpose and live in integrity with inner peace and happiness.

When on purpose with our own truth, we are happy with ourselves and content with our lives.

We know ourselves and are true to ourselves.

We trust and free others to know themselves and to live true to themselves.

We live in love and peace with trust and freedom for all.  

When living with peace and purpose, we become helpful instead of blameful.

When living with integrity, we do not waste our energy on shaming or complaining.

When feeling gratitude and joy, we use our resources to fulfill our purpose.

At our best, there is always an overflow of goodness we will use to bless others.

Our first step is always to trust and free ourselves to find our own purpose and path.

Seek the place within where you feel whole and happy and free.

Look for moments in life where you feel most in love and alive, confident and complete.

Identify the thoughts and feelings, activities and accomplishments that are most meaningful for you.

In relationship we attract those who push our buttons so we notice where we are living off purpose.

We create relationships in which we can notice where we are not living with integrity and purpose.

Instead of trying to fix or change the other, and focus on healing and transforming yourself.

Instead of trying to avoid or make external or temporary changes, we can begin to heal and release past hurts and fears.

In relationships we can learn to welcome the temporary upset and do our own inner work.

When upset:

Take a time out.  Step away and sit alone to explore: Begin to write!

The real reason I feel  upset it:...............( Write down all the thoughts that come thru your mind even if they don’t make sense.) It may take pages of clearing and several times of writing al your thoughts.

You are clearing unhealed stuff from your whole past history and sometimes the history of others.

Seek your purpose or calling.

1   We are here to be happy.

2   When we are happy, we are at peace with ourselves and others.

3   When we are happy with our selves and our lives, we are healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally and financially.

4   When unhappy and off purpose, we tend to focus on what is wrong with ourselves and others.

5   When unhappy we usually complain, inter”fear “and try to fix others and our selves.

6   Learn to forgive yourself for limiting yourself and for blaming yourself and others.

Life teaches us it is fun, safe, easy and helpful to be whole, happy and on purpose.

Loving you in loving you,

Betty Lue

Healing Relationships

You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.   This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.  

It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.  When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.  

It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.

We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.  

Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.

The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,

the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.

The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,

the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.