Affirmations:
I
trust my inner knowing and feel safe and happy.
I
do what I am called to do and feel confidence and free.
I
live life with gratitude and joy.
I
am always in the right place at the right time, doing the right things.
Happiness
is Being On Purpose,
When
our lives (marriage, finances, job, health) are not working, we are unhappy and
upset.
(With no goal or
destination, anything can throw us off course, because we really have no
direction
When upset, we tend
to find fault and blame ourselves and others or outside influences.
When unhappy, we
feel lost and project the fear and guilt outside ourselves.
(on the
past, our relationships, the weather, economy, politics, environment,
etc.).
When
we have upset, with others, it is because we are off purpose.
It is frightening to
have no direction, meaning or purpose .
Every upset is about
not living in integrity with what is right and true for us.
Our real work is to
find our own life purpose and live in integrity with inner peace and happiness.
When
on purpose with our own truth, we are happy with ourselves and content with our
lives.
We know ourselves
and are true to ourselves.
We trust and free
others to know themselves and to live true to themselves.
We live in love and
peace with trust and freedom for all.
When
living with peace and purpose, we become helpful instead of blameful.
When living with
integrity, we do not waste our energy on shaming or complaining.
When feeling
gratitude and joy, we use our resources to fulfill our purpose.
At our best, there
is always an overflow of goodness we will use to bless others.
Our
first step is always to trust and free ourselves to find our own purpose and
path.
Seek the place
within where you feel whole and happy and free.
Look for moments in
life where you feel most in love and alive, confident and complete.
Identify the
thoughts and feelings, activities and accomplishments that are most meaningful
for you.
In
relationship we attract those who push our buttons so we notice where we are living
off purpose.
We create
relationships in which we can notice where we are not living with integrity and
purpose.
Instead of trying to
fix or change the other, and focus on healing and transforming yourself.
Instead of trying to
avoid or make external or temporary changes, we can begin to heal and release
past hurts and fears.
In relationships we
can learn to welcome the temporary upset and do our own inner work.
When
upset:
Take a time out.
Step away and sit alone to explore: Begin to write!
The real
reason I feel upset it:...............( Write down all the thoughts that come thru
your mind even if they don’t make sense.) It may take pages of clearing and
several times of writing al your thoughts.
You are clearing
unhealed stuff from your whole past history and sometimes the history of
others.
Seek
your purpose or calling.
1 We are here to be happy.
2 When we are happy, we are at peace with
ourselves and others.
3 When we are happy with our selves and our
lives, we are healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally and
financially.
4 When unhappy and off purpose, we tend to focus
on what is wrong with ourselves and others.
5 When unhappy we usually complain, inter”fear
“and try to fix others and our selves.
6 Learn to forgive yourself for limiting yourself
and for blaming yourself and others.
Life
teaches us it is fun, safe, easy and helpful to be whole, happy and on purpose.
Loving
you in loving you,
Betty Lue
Healing
Relationships
You
are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where
we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed
stuff) has been triggered. This shows us where we have work to do.
The
usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to
change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel
“wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the
problem.
It
is ineffective over the long term.
The
real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our
history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us. When we have
done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.
This
is a big job.
It
cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We
must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being
conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality
relationships.
Begin
now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The
more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,
the
more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The
more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,
the
more others will do the same for themselves and for others.
You
are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.