What is best for you is best for others.
Demonstrate how important it is to care for oneself.
TEACH EVERYONE TO BE RESPONSIBLE.
EVEN CHILDREN CAN LEARN TO CARE FOR THEMSELVES.
Affirmations:
Love is letting go of fear.
Love is freedom and trust.
Trust in your own healing/learning process.
Allow others to have their own healing/learning process.
You Come First!
You cannot help another, unless you have helped yourself.
You cannot save anyone, unless you can save yourself..
You cannot fully love anyone, unless you are loving you.
You cannot be there for another ,until you have learned to be there for you.
Do you ever ask yourself what is true for you?
What have you learned from your life?
What do you want to experience in your life?
What are you willing to do to have what you want?
It is unhealthy to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result.
It is unhealthy to keep complaining about the same issues.
It is unhealthy to try to get someone else to change.
It is unhealthy to focus on another’s happiness before you change your own unhappiness.
The only life you have to save is yours!
The only complaints you need to address are yours.
The only way to see a change is within yourself.
What creates more happiness is focusing on your own happiness and well being.
So why do you stay?
Why do your complain?
Why do you care?
And what do you care about….if not yourself?
If you are in an unhealthy relationship, choose again.
Are you trying to fix someone else?
Are you there to change the other person?
Are you there because you love another more than yourself?
Women (or men) who love too much often blame themselves for their partner’s unhappiness.
Women (and Men) often sacrifice to make someone else happy.
They often do not see this as co dependent behavior, encouraging the other to be dependent.
They don’t notice they have conditioned their partner to complain to get attention.
What can you do to teach others to take responsibility for themselves?
What can you do to show others how to be responsible for their own happiness?
What is the best way to demonstrate happiness to someone else?
Be happy and responsible for yourself!
If you take on the others' hurt, pain, fear and anger, , it becomes yours.
If you empathize with another’s unhappiness, you will feel like it is yours to fix, heal and change.
If you take the blame and feel guilty, both you and they will believe it is your responsibility .
This becomes your own false belief, erroneous fear, and will tend to lead to resentment.
Your work is to step away, detach and stop allowing anyone to hurt you or make you unhappy.
It is about time to love yourself and be happy.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Stop CoDependent Behavior & Heal Your Relationship with Yourself First!
You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered. This shows us where we have work to do.
The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.
It is ineffective over the long term.
The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us. When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.
This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.
Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,
the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,
the more others will do the same for themselves and for others.
You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.
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