Thursday, July 28, 2016

Dependency and Co-Dependency

My love sets me free to love without end.
I love and share this love as a natural gift of my being.
Love is my natural state.
We are born in Love as Love for the holy purpose of Loving.
 Dependent and/or Co-Dependent

Do you need to be needed?
Do you need someone to love you and care for you?
Are you dependent on people, places or things?
Are you aware of how vulnerable or insecure you feel?

What can you do to rely on you?
How can you turn your life into a secure way of living?
Do you have a schedule, routine or something to rely on?
Are you willing to take responsibility for the quality of your life?

Whenever we feel dependent on someone or something, we will feel vulnerable.
To depend on the reliability of others will open the way for insecurity.
Those who learn to manage their own lives have less fear, anxiety and dependency needs.
Consider what or who you can trust no matter what.

Is it helpful to yourself and others to be needy?
Are you here to become your own person or to let someone else guide you?
Do you need to be loved by another or can you actually love yourself?
Do you need someone to need you to be worthy of being loved?

Often you may rely on the advice of others.
You may need others to care for you.
People depend on another or the government for finances.
You may have learned to lean on another and stay dependent.

Consider whether you want someone to depend on you.
Do you encourage others’ addictions or dependency?
Are you aware of how you want to control people who need you?
Some depend on others to be dependent on you

Help your children to become independent and grow up.
Help partners to develop their own gifts and talents.
With independence come strength, courage, and consciousness.
Learn to be independent to feel Self confidence and self respect..

You can be attached to another and want to keep them dependent on you.
You can need to feel better about yourself by taking care of others.
You can be addicted to the feeling of being needed.
You can choose again to set yourself and others free to learn from life.

Dependent love is usually restrictive and limiting.
Conditional love is based on what others do or don’t do.
Independent love is trusting and freeing.
Unconditional love has no limits or requirements and simply loves for the sake of loving.

I am loving you with the Joy of my Being.
Betty Lue

Keys to Unconditional Love

Always give your best.
Demonstrate your love (with positive words, affection, undivided time, gifts, service)
Listen and learn what is most respected and helpful.
Observe what is received with gratitude.
Step away when you are not your best and renew yourself.
Give only with gratitude and joy (no sacrifice or self denial)
Trust others are giving their best.
Always inspired the best in others.
Believe and see the Love within.
Trust each one is learning how best to love.
Free yourself and others to love unconditionally.
Forgive all mistakes or withholds.
Learn to love them anyway.