Affirmations:
I
give always and only my best.
I
share the peace I have within me.
I
trust that all things work together for Good.
May
my thoughts, words and deeds bring harmony to my world.
Yes, it is
possible to live together in peace.
Yes, you can have
harmony in your home.
Yes, two people can
have no fighting.
Yes, you can stay in
Love.
When you believe in
fighting, there will be fighting.
When you expect
arguments, there will be arguments.
When you know
families don’t get along, you will be correct.
Because what you
believe, you will receive and achieve.
What you
expect, you will accept.
What you
doubt, will come about.
What you
endure, you will make sure.
Everything we
think will be, we seek to see.
People want to be
“right”, and will defend and justify to prove themselves “right”.
Even when they say
they want something else, they often create what they expect.
So perhaps it is
time for you to undo what you no longer want to be true!
Make a list of
what you want to experience in an ideal relationship, home and family.
The work begins
with your ideal vision written down and remembered daily.
I
choose to have and give my ideal self to create my ideal relationships.
The next step is
letting go of every thought, feeling, behavior and memory that interferes.
I
gently and respectfully undo and release all that brings negativity into my
life.
It is your Peace
of mind that brings harmony.
It is your
willingness to let go of stubbornness and needing to be right that creates
openness.
It is your trust
in letting go of your opinions and advice and listening that brings
understanding.
It is your respect
for others’ thoughts, feelings, behavior and difference that gives Peace.
Give
yourself to Love and Love will come to you.
Honor
the call for peace and harmony by being peaceful too!
Trust
in the Love and appreciation that guides your way.
Remember
always to forgive first and listen for how to respond with Love.
Do what is right
and true and Loving.
Don’t wait for them
to do the right thing.
You are the One to
conscious and willing One.
You know the way:
JUST DO IT!
See a few reminders
below. If you want to receive more, let me know.
Consider buying my Relationships
Reminders Book at Amazon.com.
If you don’t have
money, email me and I will send one to you.
Your peace and
harmony are important to your health, happiness and your whole life.
We are the same,
you and I.
We are all in
this together.
Now is our time
to step up.
Let us be
willing to respond with Goodness and Love.
Betty Lue
If you care about
creating better relationships, begin to practice improving yourself.
It only takes one
to make a difference......and that one is YOU!
See the
Commandments below as well.
Focus on one at a
time and practice in All your relationships.
Ask for
additional help from me when you need it.
Betty Lue
Keys to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or
shared goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention
without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they
know in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and
best for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond
consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and
forgiving of mistakes made.
Successful
Relationships
To
have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates,
children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality,
Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All parties must share a common
goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from
communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the
future and what they share in common.
Honesty: Honest communication is sharing
what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest
is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and
appreciation.
Equality:
When both
parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality. Equality
is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness
to give one’s best even when it is less than the other. To quit or hold
back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment:
To commit to the
fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the
relationship requires always choosing what is best for both. Decisions
are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One must be committed
to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility:
Being fully able
and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining,
honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible. Where there
is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as
well as lack of responsibility.
To
be successful requires staying conscious.
To
be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To
be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To
be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To
take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the
success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give.,
total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for
the quality of the relationship.
If you
want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what
you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the
quality of your relating.
Blessings
for choosing a better way,
Betty
Lue
Recommendations for Successful
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
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There
are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner, family or
child to write together.
I
encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on
a regular basis.
As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationships.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.
Blessings
to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of
relating,
Betty
Lue