The addict may now know his own addiction.
The
truth teller may not realize his own truth.
The
sick one may not understand his real illness.
If
we knew, we would healed and whole.
It is important for us to all stop going to the same well to drink poison
again.
It
is essential we stop seeking ineffective answers from the same source.
It
is foolish to follow the lost, when we want to be found.
It
is wise to choose a different path with a successful guide.
Read
my Loving Reminders today and consider your own journey.
Blessings
are available to you now.
Love
always prevails,
Betty Lue
Affirmations:
When in doubt, I stop and listen within.
When upset, I step away and return to my Center.
When I choose Love, I trust in the journey and allow the process.
When I teach, I learn as I go and practice, practice, practice.
Stop Feeding the
Problem
Don’t give an addict
more of the same.
Don’t give the
alcoholic a bottle.
Don’t give the
spender more money.
Don’t give a
workaholic more work to do.
Don’t give a worrier
something more to worry about.
Don’t give a
hypochondriac a new illness.
Don’t feed a
diabetic more sugar.
Don’t give an obese
person a 3000 cal meal.
Don’t give a violent
person a weapon.
Don’t give a crazy
person more fear.
Don’t give an angry
person more anger.
Don’t add fuel to
the fire.
Don’t encourage or
support the behavior that is clearly a problem.
IN our desire to
make the problem go away, many will give in to make the problem go away.
Hurting ourselves
does not stop just because we medicate the hurting.
Soothing is a
temporary or momentary fix to what is the real problem.
Co-dependents are
defined many ways.
I would say we
soothe one another’s addictions.
We collude in the
errant or sick behavior.
We pretend like if
we stop the pain right now, wisdom will come.
If I cannot handle
another’s unhappiness, I will try to make them happy.
If I cannot stand
pain, I may take away others’ self – inflicted pain.
When I cannot stand
guilt, I may create multiple ways to blame.
When I take the
blame for others. pain, I may unconsciously take responsibility for taking away
the pain.
My choice for
healing with full respect for the differences:.
Observe and expose
the problem.
Forgive my
judgments.
Stop trying to fix
others.
Teach others.
Stop making anyone
wrong.
Forgive attachments
and dependencies.
Stop covering my
errors.
Clean up myself as I
go.
Stop adding to
problems, by adding complication.
Keep love simple.
Stop judging and
worrying.
Learn to trust and
set others free.
Stop being
codependent.
Give others full
responsibility.
Stop supporting and
reinforcing the difficulties.
Focus on strengths
and encourage responsible behavior.
Stop focusing on the
problem.
Start focusing on
the solution.
I must listen within
to know what to do and not to do.
I must respect and
honor each individuals’ path.
I must be aware of
when I am handling another’s pain, because of my own issues.
I must trust that we
are all doing the work together because we all have the same work.
Loving myself as I
do the best I know with each one all the time.
Love your intention
and do not depend on controlling the outcome.
Betty Lue
“All Illness is Mental Illness.” ACIM
Show up and pay attention.
Tell the High Truth and detach from the Outcome.
Go to God or Higher Power for the Real Answers.
Let go and Let God and Good Be Done.
Healing Vs. Cure
(Used in the Wellness community)
1.
Cure may occur without healing.
Healing
may occur without cure.
Healing
and Cure may occur simultaneously.
2.
Cure considers the body separately from soul.
Healing
embraces the whole
(physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual, relationships).
3.
Cure is acting upon and is based on fear.
Healing
is being with, in love and faith.
4.
Cure isolates.
Healing
incorporates.
5.
Cure combats illness.
Healing
fosters wellness.
6.
Cure fixes the body.
Healing
corrects perception.
7.
Cure is the application of external authority.
Healing
is an inner process.
8.
Cure is a closed system.
Healing
is an open system.
9.
Cure focuses on the future.
Healing
focuses on the present.
10.
Cure is performed upon another.
Healing
shares with a sister, brother.
11.
Cure manages.
Healing
touches.
12.
Cure often issues from fear.
Healing
usually issues from faith.
13.
Cure seeks to conquer pain.
Healing
seeks to transcend pain.
14.
Cure seeks to hold grief at a distance.
Healing
incorporates grief.
15.
Cure has a beginning and an end.
Healing
is on ongoing process.
16.
Cure encounters mystery as a challenge for knowledge and understanding.
Healing
encounters mystery as a challenge to find meaning.
17.
Cure focuses on what is happening to you.
Healing
focuses on how you respond to what is happening to you.
18.
Cure rejects death and views it as a defeat.
Healing
includes death among the possible blessed outcomes.