Affirmations:
I forgive all lack of love and return to
Love.
I release my fear and judgments and choose
to see things differently.
I bless my self and my choices as I
offer your my love and respect.
The more I love, respect and accept my
choices, the more I love and respect yours.
Humanity has used “GUILT”
to get people to change.
Humanity has used “SHAME”
to make people change.
Humanity has perhaps made things worse by making
people feel bad about their behavior.
If I have made you feel guilty, please forgive my
error.
From observing families, couples and
institutions, I have learned guilt usually does not work.
Guilt rarely produces the desired result of “I am
sorry, I will never do that again!”
Guilt almost always causes the opposite experience,
which is withdrawal, blame and doing it again.
When people feel guilty, they usually get mad or stay
away from the person who causes the guilt.
When we become aware we have hurt others or ourselves,
we usually get mad, shut down and deny.
When people are critical, threatening, demanding, they
often feel guilty themselves.
When people want to create change, they must always
begin within.
When people wake up to their lack of love, trust,
sensitivity and compassion, they often withdraw.
It seems difficult to love ourselves and not feel
guilt when we are not loving.
It seems difficult to help, support, educate others
and not make them feel guilty.
It seems like a contradiction to encourage people to
change their ways without incurring some guilt.
Perhaps we are so emotionally controlled that we
forget to use common sense, education and choice.
When I see a needed change, I rely on forgiveness to
clear past ignorance.
When I see my own judgments and criticisms, I clear my
own mind and beliefs and return to trust.
When I recognize that the intention of humanity is to
be free of guilt and fear, it free myself.
When I forgive and erase with love, I can see how
learned patterns, limiting beliefs have run our lives.
We are have a deep intention to be safe and secure, to
belong and connect, to achieve and succeed.
We are here to live well and to be the best we can be.
The picture we hold of success, or being good or
simply fitting in is different for everyone.
When I project my picture onto you, I cannot know what
is true for another.
What picture do you have for what is true for you?
Have you ever taken the time to ask, what is right and
wrong for you?
Are you aware of what you want to be, do and have?
Is it clear how you can best achieve, create and
experience success for you?
If we don’t know what is right and true for ourselves,
how can we know what is true for another.
If we are not living what we want to be and do and
have, how can we coach, advise, counsel or teach.
If we are not able to achieve, create and experience
success, how can we trust what we judge in others.
I recognize, the best gift I can give myself is to
live my truth the best I know it to be.
Let us stop judging ourselves and we will stop judging
others.
Let us begin to forgive ourselves, and then forgive
others.
Let us take time to listen within and without to learn
about other ways.
Let us look for how we are joined rather than judge
our differences.
If my way is not yours, I respect your choices.
If my calling is not yours, I trust you to follow
yours.
If my love and respect, appreciation and trust, is not
helpful, I encourage you to choose your own.
I am loving, trusting, allowing, respecting and seeing
each one of us on a journey home to peace.
I am always loving you and me the very best I know.
I am always learning and growing from listening to you
the best I can.
I am always trusting and freeing us each to choose our
own path.
I am always believing in living in integrity as our
primary path to inner peace.
Betty Lue