If you are wondering.......Yes, this was written just for you.......
Because I love, respect and value YOU and want only your Best!
Betty Lue
Do you stay too long where you are not wanted?
Do you keep hoping things will change?
Do you try to make someone like you?
Do you get stuck in unhealthy relationships?
The habit of trying to make someone like you comes from childhood.
The belief that you need to make do with what you have is faulty.
The attachment to what was and unwillingness to step into what is, limits our future.
The need to get other’s approval and love to feel whole is a mistake.
Others do what others do.
People make up many reasons for criticizing, hating, rejecting, abandoning and divorcing.
All the reasons have to do with their own unhealed attitudes and beliefs.
Their criticisms are always about the one criticizing telling on what they dislike in themselves.
When we keep trying to make them happy, we often lose our own happiness and integrity.
When we believe it is about us, we falsely judge ourselves and make them right.
When we cling to what we want, rather than what really is, we create a fantasy of our self made justice.
When we lose our own inner peace by feeling hurt, angered, guilty or resentful, we let them win.
Life is what it is.
Relationships are natural projections of the images in our minds.
When we fear being hurt, we will set it up to believe it, see it and experience it.
When we let go with forgiveness, we see the other as making their own choices in their best interests.
When we forgive the hurt we cause ourselves by taking on others negativity and bullying, we are free.
When we allow others to simply make choices from which they will learn, we are free to choose our own.
When we release with blessings for the highest Good of all, we give everyone the opportunity for healing.
When we lose our fears, history and woundedness, we stop vicitimization and choose for our own Good.
Years ago after a few encounters with unexplained exclusion and angry words, clearly not about me, I realized I was a victim of my own unconscious belief that others were right and I was mistaken.
I recognized that I hurt myself with taking on other’s projections.
I realized that I was simply a willing target for others moods, prejudices or faulty assumptions.
I chose to forgive myself for letting their behavior hurt me and forgive them for any ignorance.
I now see that everything in our relationships as a projection, a reflection of inner thoughts and feelings.
I recognize that I have a choice about what I perceive, what I assume, how I respond and how I carry on.
I respect my choice to love myself first by forgiving myself for allowing others behavior to hurt me.
I give myself permission to always and only make choices that support and inspire my best Self.
Life is created by our choices.
If you don’t feel respected and valued, forgive and choose again.
Opportunities for Good come from a willingness to choose only and always what is good for us.
When we love ourselves well, we choose only for the Good, knowing everyone is blessed.
Loving you with a heart that is True B’Lue,
Betty Lue
Favorite books right now: The Go Givers and Healing Secrets of the Ages.