Saturday, May 18, 2013

Let’s Love Our Children!

Are you paying attention?
Are you listening to their needs?
Are you attending to what matters?
Are you investing in their future?

When we ignore our kids, we lose our way.
When we forget to listen, we teach them not to listen.
When are too busy to be helpful, we model being too preoccupied to care.
When we invest in our own needs and pleasures, we show them how to be selfish and needy.

Have we lost our compassion?
Have we neglecting our parenting responsibilities?
Are parents too busy to pay attention to their kids?
Do we forget what is important to children?

Focus on positive reinforcement.
Give loving touch when it is wanted.
Offer smiles, affirming words and quality time.
Help with homework, playing sports and learning new skills.

Offer children quiet and order in our homes.
Give kids healthy meals and family time together.
Show kids how to cook and clean, create and serve with joy.
Learn together how to respect one another with easy conversation and having fun.

Forgive our culture for focusing on performance and neglecting values.
Encourage children to have happy childhoods and positive relationships.
Teach kids not to complain by expressing gratitude rather than complaining.
Clarify what benefits children in using TV, video, cell phones and other technology.

Our culture is changing rapidly.
Our kids are growing up in a world very different than our own childhood.
To understand the needs of our children, we need to be involved and aware.
To better serve the emotional, physical and mental health of kids we need to listen well.

Let’s clarify our intention.
What do you want to teach our children?
What can we learn from our kids?
How can we make a positive difference with our kids and grandkids and all children?

When we are respectful, they learn to be respectful.
When we ignore them, they learn to ignore us.
When we are rude, children learn to be rude.
When we complain, kids learn to complain.

It is time we model and demonstrate the behavior we want to teach and encourage.
Trusting the adults to make the difference.
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

 From Dr. Wayne Dyer
What Do You Want More Than Anything For Your Children?
•           Value Themselves
•           Be Risk Takers
•           Self-Reliance
•           Freedom from Stress and Anxiety
•           Have Peaceful Lives
•           Celebrate Present Moments
•           Experience a Lifetime of Wellness
•           Creativity
•           Fulfill Their Higher Needs 
•           Feel A Sense of Purpose

YOU must Demonstrate / Model:
• The ability to enjoy life.
• Be a positive example.
• Clarify what you know and how you feel.
• Be expressive (Feel–Want–Willing)

Average children do things right.
No limit children do the right thing.

Basic Principles for Building Self-Esteem in Your Children
1.         You must model self-respect.
2.         Treat each child as a unique individual.
3.         A child is not his actions.
4.         Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions.
5.         Teach enjoyment of life each day.
6.         Provide praise rather than criticism.
7          We become what we think about. Our thinking determines our self-image.

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)
1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.
2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.
3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.
4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.
5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.
6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.
7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.
8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.
9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.
10.       Encourage healthy thinking.
11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.
12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.
13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.
14.       Listen carefully to your children.
15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.
16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.
17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.
18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.