Gratitude

Affirmations:

I forgive everyone for complaining  and return to appreciating.

I begin and end each day with giving thanks.

I reach out with love and love returns to me.

I value the world I see and it grows with my gratitude.

Be Grateful!

When you give thanks, you expand your awareness.

When you appreciate, you increase the blessings received.

When you love, you show freedom and trust.

When you bless, you give goodness and compassion.

We all need to reinstate a world of thanksgiving.

Remember when we learned to say “please and thank you”.

Remember when we felt safe in giving smiles and hugs.

Remember when we wrote “thank you” notes for every gift.

Being thankful needs to return to encourage “Love in the World.”

Let us talk about our good news.

Let us watch and listen to what is good, beautiful and holy.

Let us share and care about one another everyday.

Every thought, word and deed teaches all the universe.

We each are teachers one to another.

We must pay attention to what we are teaching.

We can easily be teachers of love, innocence and peace.

I am grateful for the birds that sing and the clouds drifting by.

I am grateful for neighbors, friends and family helping one another.

I am grateful for positive music and affirming words.

I am grateful as children play with curiosity, freedom and joy.

I am grateful for a warm house and good food and happy conversation.

I am grateful that we still read good books and sing meaningful songs.

I am grateful for technology to be used to share thoughtful messages.

I am grateful for people and organizations that help one another.

I am grateful we still sing familiar hymns and remember our prayers.

I am grateful to be able and willing to share what I have with others.

You matter to me.

You and I can make a difference.

It is our connection that reminds us to be grateful.

It is our remembering the love in our hearts that saves us all.

Let us use these challenging time to appreciate and grow what we have within us.

Let us remember to appreciate openly and obviously all the good in our world.

It is love and appreciation and open-mindedness than connects us with Good within.

We are the ones to remember Love and return to Wholeness once again.

I am always loving you,

Betty Lue

“The only mistake we every make, is when we forget to Love!” 

The Gift You Are

You are the gift.

In your healing, I am healed.

In your smiling, I find joy.

In your learning, I am filled with wisdom.

In your free expressions, I am empowered.

In your abundance, I too prosper.

In your spontaneity, I am set free.

In your joy, I know heaven.

And so it is that you give your Self to me

And I receive you with love and gratitude.

I am the gift I give to You

And I fully receive the gift I freely give.

As I know You, I know my Self.

As I give to you, I receive all good.

As I support you, I am supported by the Universe.

As I honor and respect you, I experience gratitude in all my being.

As I love you, I am loving all of God's creation.

I know you and believe in you.

I honor, respect and support you in being.

In you and me is all the Universe.

We are gifts to one another.

       - Betty Lue

Confidence

Affirmations:

I love, trust and respect myself.

I am confident in the choices I make.

My confidence inspires others to trust themselves.

I believe in myself and free myself to live my life my way.

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Be Confident!

Believe in yourself.

Have confidence in Who You Are.

Trust in your own choices.

Live Life your way.

Do you know what you want?

Can you tell when you are happy?

Are you choosing without fear?

Do you trust what is right for you?

Your life is yours alone.

No one knows who you are better than you.

No one understands your feelings more than you do.

You alone can truly discover your authentic self.

When you have confidence, you are clear.

When you believe in you, you listen to yourself.

When you trust your decisions, you are calm and confident.

When you live in integrity with your values, life is fun, safe and easy.

We get off track by trying to please others.

We neglect ourselves when we seek for approval.

We forget our own values when we compare ourselves.

We are distracted by trying to fit in with others.

To find yourself, spend time alone.

To be true to you, get to know yourself.

To feel clear and confident, discover your values, purpose and life path.

To express yourself authentically, be assertive and respect your own truth.

Many people and many paths exist for us to choose.

Many beliefs and many believers think they are right.

Many authorities, many books and many teachings may compete for your devotion.

When you find what is “right” for you, you will feel lighter, freer and stronger!

Your key to being happy is to follow what is “happy, free and true” for you.

Learn to listen to your inner voice.

Choose to follow the light within you.

Allow yourself to feel good about you.

Part of living is seeking your own way.

Part of life is discovering what resonates with you.

Part of life is experimenting to see what works for you.

When you discover your way and choose what works, you feel confident in your choices.

Know yourself and be true to what you believe.

You will find and trust what lives in you and through you.

You will know natural confidence as you honor your own choices.

You will allow others to choose what is right for them.

Confidence creates freedom, respect and appreciation for each person as they choose.

Everyone is exploring and experimenting to find their own right way.

Let us each trust and believe in ourselves as we respect everyone in living their own truth.

Love is trusting and freeing us all.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Writing

Affirmations:

I listen to myself by writing what I hear.

I learn the difference between spiritual and worldly thoughts through writing.

I easily connect with others by writing my thoughts and guidance.

I feel at one with my authentic Self when I write.

The Value of Writing

Writing down your thoughts and feelings is beneficial to healing and growth.

Writing in a journal, diary, tablet or even on a napkin helps the mind conceptualize.

Writing activates the sight, sound and imagery in our minds.

Writing is how most people learn and remember.

Writing is essential to a productive and fulfilling life.

Writing is important to share, connect and represent oneself.

Writing is a way to inform ourselves and others of our intention.

Writing is a lasting form of communicating.

Write for yourself to express and explore your own thoughts and feelings.

Write to share your ideas with others for learning and understanding.

Write to remember what you value and want to retain and amplify.

Write down your inner guidance and mediation as your own Loving Reminders.

How and Where to write.

Writing in a journal has value for listening to your own thoughts and feelings.

Writing ‘to do’ lists has value to keep you on task.

Writing goals helps you remember your Vision and Direction.

Writing letters to others has value to feel connected and intentional.

Writing ‘thank you’ notes increases the power of appreciation.

Writing letters to Higher Power or God inspires the spiritual connection.

Writing poetry has value in allowing the flow of freedom within you.

Writing stories encourages sharing what you and others may want to remember.

Writing affirmations has value in encouraging the release of blocks .

Writing feelings of worry, hurt, anger and fear helps to release and let go.

Writing a blog has value for everyone to stay connected.

Writing down mission, purpose, goals and plans encourages staying on path.

Writing inner guidance grounds the experience in practical application.

Use writing for clearing with forgiveness, choice and gratitude offer profound mental training.

Learning to manage ones thinking with writing provides effective creation and manifestation.

Using the power of writing offers proficiency in all forms of communication.

Enjoy writing with quiet after or during meditation.

Appreciate the creativity of writing with music or in nature.

Celebrate your writing by sharing with others the beauty of expression.

Establish a daily writing habit to strengthen the power with enjoyment.

Writing has great value to you and your world!

Inspirational writing with Inner guidance is a wonderful way to Love You and Me!!

Betty Lue

30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!

This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.

This daily practice will heal and transform your life

With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.

Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.

Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.

Daily Practice:

Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.

Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.

Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.

(No need to understand or feel anything.)

I forgive you for being mean.

I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.

I forgive my body’s limitation.

I forgive myself for being late.

I forgive everything.

Make the sound “AAAH” for 1minutes.

Imagine that you are opening your mind.

Now write and say 30 Choices.

I choose to be happy.

I choose to be free.  

I choose to do what I love.

I choose to forgive….

In the Evening (before bed)

Write and say 30 Gratitudes

I appreciate the energy I have.

I love being happy.

I am grateful I have you in my life.

I thank God.

Make the  sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1 minute.

PS Even a few of each is better than none.  

Do what you can and trust it is working.

Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.

The key is your willingness to DO THE WORK!

Loving You always, 

Betty Lue

How to Use Affirmations:

Affirmations are used to clear unconscious programming that tends to guide our thoughts, feelings and behavior.

Writing, speaking and hearing us say the affirmation aloud clears the false beliefs through our sense of sight, sound and touch.  

It is essential that we keep writing and saying the affirmations until there is no longer resistance to the limiting beliefs.  

Affirmations are not to be used to develop a new belief, but only useful to clear false limiting programs.  

Once there is quiet, clarity, no resistance, we are complete.

My favorite way to do affirmations is to divide the lined page down the middle.  

The affirmation is written on the left side and your mind chatter or contradictory thought is written on the right side.

Then cross off the negative.  

Write the affirmation again on the left and listen to your mind chatter and write on the right.

 Cross the mind chatter off.  

Continue writing the affirmation 20 times and listen for the resistant thought after each one.

I would do it all by hand, so I could cross it off with my pen!!  

20 times daily for 14 days or until there is no resistance.

Do no more than three different affirmations at a time.

Things may change dramatically, so be prepared to notice big difference.

Life works when we are willing to do the work.  

Ask me for help if you have trouble finding the affirmations that are most effective for you.

 Always choose an affirmation that you resist, because it will help clear away what is blocking your Good.

They will always feel like a lie in the beginning and you may find great resistance to doing them!!

Affirmations for Conscious Healing 

by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.

Letting go is fun, safe and easy.

I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.

I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.

Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.

I am a Love giver.

The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.

Light, light, I want more light.

I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.

I love my life and it loves me.

I have what I want and share the best I have.

Life works for me.

I am the chooser, never a loser.

Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.

I am clear, focused and committed.

I consciously communicate exactly what I want.

I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.

I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.

I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.

The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.

The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.

The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.

I give myself the very best and all are blessed.

I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.

I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.

My happiness is contagious.

I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.

Peace and love and joy heal us All.

My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real.

Useful suggestions for applying the technique of Autosuggestion to the Affirmations

Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 

Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.

 Work with one or more every day. Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect. 

They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 

The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.

Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.

Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.

Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.

Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows: 

I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself.

 Feel free to invent new ones.

 Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.

To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times. 

Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge. 

Continue working with these until they go flat. 

When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.

Are You Grieving?

Affirmations:

Letting go is fun, safe and easy.

I release you to your highest good.

I am grateful to easily learn from everyone and everything.

The natural life cycle is letting go with love and gratitude.

Grieving?

Grief looks and feels different for everyone.

Grief has many stages and phases and changes.

When you feel sad, depressed, angry, tired, you may be grieving.

When you feel lonely, irritated, sick or confused, you may be grieving.

Grief is usually seen as Loss of a Loved One.

Grief can be loss of a physical or mental ability from disease or aging.

We may grieve over loss of a home, job, or relationship.

We can grieve loss of innocence, trust, faith or hope.

When we lose something or someone to whom we are attached, there is an obvious experience.

Sometimes we get mad and blame.

Sometimes we feel sad and mourn.

Sometimes we try to fix or deny.

Sometimes we bargain and try to get back.

There are many ways we experience in our bodies, our thought, our feelings, our relationships.

All are perhaps not seen as grief, but we need to respond to ourselves with compassion and love.

We can most easily learn about our needs and take care of ourselves.

We can ask for help, support, listening and for kindness from others.

Since life is mostly about letting go, grieving is natural for most.

Some experience no “grief”, but rather experience acceptance for what is.

When we listen to and honor our inner voice, we allow whatever to be as it is.

When we trust in our process, we pay attention and let go of our fears.

Take time to feel what you feel.

Be aware of what your thoughts are.

Write down what you believe and what you are learning.

Stay open to the obvious and subtle awareness that comes.

Some references and resources that may be helpul.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love ,  Peter Mc Williams.

(free on line)

Honorable Closure Process below.

Write letters expressing the multitude of feelings.

Be willing to experience without judging oneself.

Talk out loud to the person, object or experience.

Ask again and again more deeply, “What am I learning?”

There is no “normal” grieving time or way.

Love yourself just as you are with kindness.

Forgive and let go with Love.

Release you fear and love again.

Loving you always, 

Betty Lue

Honorable Closure       

How do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or friendship?

How do you know you are really complete?

People may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier emotionally.   

People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be with You”.

When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.  

We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.

Honorable closure acknowledges:

1)   the learning and growth received,

2)   challenges and difficulties experienced,

3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings,

4)   forgiveness and amends made.

**Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.

**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.

**Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.

**Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.  

**And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.   

Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.   If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude. 

I am grateful I have learned… 

I am grateful I was challenged……

I am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.

I am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..

Do your part when you part.

When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  Begin now!

Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace. Do it Now!

Betty Lue  1983

Don’t Quit on Yourself!

Affirmations:

I choose what is best for me.

I live my life true to me purpose, path and priciples.

I honor myself by serving my whole self.

I learn from everyone and everything.

Are You Ready to Quit?

Before you end your job, your relationship, your life as you know it, complete what you started.

Honor your self with closure and completion.

Before you step away from a relationship, an institution, a friendship or project, say what you mean.

Honor your investment and see what you have learned and invested.

Before you walk away with regret or sorrow, be true to yourself and your values.

Assess what were the regrets and mistakes made and the lessons not learned.

Sometimes we stay too long and try too hard.

Sometimes we leave too soon and never learn.

Before you quit on your commitment, give yourself the opportunity to teach and learn.

Before you move away, clean up the messes to be willing to give and receive what was not done.

Change is the opportunity to forgive and heal it all.

Transformation is the gift we receive when we give our all.

Honorable closure included communicating the learning, regrets, challenges and appreciation.

Start by writing your letters describing what was your experience.

Give yourself the opportunity to say it all to those who would listen.

Take responsibility for what you think and feel, need and want.

Life offers lessons.

Lessons are for us to learn about ourselves.

When we learn who we are, we can choose what is good for us.

When we choose what is good for us, we are happy and fulfilled.

There is no need to change another.

We are here to be able to respond to our own needs and wants.

We can learn in relationship what works for us.

We can choose what is good for us and let go of what is not good.

It is not the person or project, the agreement or investment, that needs to be honored.

We are here to learn how to honor ourselves.

We are to awaken to what is our purpose, our values, our gifts and talents.

We are here to honor our authentic selves.

When we serve others to change them or the circumstances, we lose our way..

When we live according to someone else’s demands or needs, we forget ourselves.

When we stop being the Love we are, we forsake our Calling and our Joy.

When we stay where we are not wanted, we believe we should do more.

What if we are just right the way we are.

What if we need to be true to ourselves.

What if we can create the best situation for us.

What if we must love, respect and trust ourselves.

Loving us all in honoring ourselves.

Betty Lue

From Louise Hay ©1988

How To Love Yourself

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.


2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.


3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.


4. PRAISE YOURSELF

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.


5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND

Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.


6. SUPPORT YOURSELF

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.


7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.


8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.


9. MIRROR WORK

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”


10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.