Affirmations:
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I release you to your highest good.
I am grateful to easily learn from everyone and everything.
The natural life cycle is letting go with love and gratitude.
Grieving?
Grief
looks and feels different for everyone.
Grief has many
stages and phases and changes.
When you feel sad,
depressed, angry, tired, you may be grieving.
When you feel
lonely, irritated, sick or confused, you may be grieving.
Grief
is usually seen as Loss of a Loved One.
Grief can be loss of
a physical or mental ability from disease or aging.
We may grieve over
loss of a home, job, or relationship.
We can grieve loss
of innocence, trust, faith or hope.
When
we lose something or someone to whom we are attached, there is an obvious
experience.
Sometimes we get mad
and blame.
Sometimes we feel
sad and mourn.
Sometimes we try to
fix or deny.
Sometimes we bargain
and try to get back.
There
are many ways we experience in our bodies, our thought, our feelings, our
relationships.
All are perhaps not
seen as grief, but we need to respond to ourselves with compassion and love.
We can most easily
learn about our needs and take care of ourselves.
We can ask for help,
support, listening and for kindness from others.
Since
life is mostly about letting go, grieving is natural for most.
Some experience no
“grief”, but rather experience acceptance for what is.
When we listen to
and honor our inner voice, we allow whatever to be as it is.
When we trust in our
process, we pay attention and let go of our fears.
Take
time to feel what you feel.
Be aware of what
your thoughts are.
Write down what you
believe and what you are learning.
Stay open to the
obvious and subtle awareness that comes.
Some
references and resources that may be helpul.
How to Survive
the Loss of a Love ,
Peter Mc Williams.
(free on line)
Honorable Closure
Process below.
Write letters
expressing the multitude of feelings.
Be willing to
experience without judging oneself.
Talk out loud to the
person, object or experience.
Ask again and again
more deeply, “What am I learning?”
There
is no “normal” grieving time or way.
Love yourself just
as you are with kindness.
Forgive and let go with
Love.
Release you fear and
love again.
Loving you always,
Betty Lue
Honorable
Closure
How
do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or
friendship?
How
do you know you are really complete?
People
may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier
emotionally.
People
don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be
with You”.
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have
no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
**Acknowledge
within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how
you have grown and benefited from the experience.
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured
during the time together.
**Offer
your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share
your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or
conscious errors of omission or commission. Often neither party is aware
of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.
This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a
peaceful conclusion.
**And
lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are
leaving.
Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties
have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is
never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and
feeling respectfully and with gratitude.
I am
grateful I have learned…
I am
grateful I was challenged……
I am
grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I am
grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..
Do your part when you part.
When
we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are
free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously
repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable
closure. Begin now!
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and
inner peace. Do it Now!
Betty
Lue 1983