Affirmations:
I am here to love being here.
The more I am happy, the more I share my happiness.
My Self Respect and Love is what I naturally give to others.
It is fun, safe and easy to love the One I AM.
Are You Loving You?
Are you nurturing you?
Do you appreciate You?
Do you appreciate You?
Is anyone taking care of you?
Are you aware of what you need?
If you have never been unconditionally loved, how can you even understand?
If you have not been nourished well, you cannot know how?
If you have never experienced loving attention, do you know how that feels?
If you have not been adequately loved, respected, listened to and supported, how do you know how?
Children learn how to love by how they are loved.
We all learn from the experience.
When we have a nurturing parent, teacher, person, we learn how to nurture.
What we receive as children, we apply to ourselves until we learn differently.
We unconsciously repeat the patterns we experienced in early childhood.
When we have positive, loving and supportive adults to care for us, we tend to repeat that.
When we have negative, unkind and ignorant adults caring for us, we tend to repeat that.
It takes conscious awareness, education, and healing work to heal the wounds and misunderstandings.
When we are unaware of how to love and respect, nurture and nourish, ourselves, we must learn.
When we are left alone, ignored and unattended, we may do the same to ourselves and to others.
In your own life, seek out role models of good parenting and positive partnering.
Begin to educate and inspire yourself to do better, learn more and inspire yourself to love you daily.
The more our focus is on what is unloving, the more we tend to accentuate and repeat lack of love.
Complaining about the past is draining.
Criticism and feeling sorry about the past sets a tone of continual negativity.
It is essential that there be a shift in focus, attention and direction.
You cannot get where you are going by looking behind you.
You cannot feel loved, respect and supported by wishing someone else will do it for you.
You cannot open the door to new experiences and feelings without saying YES to yourself.
You cannot know Love when you find it if you have not given Love to yourself.
It is essential that you seek and choose happiness for yourself.
It is necessary that you provide comfort and safety to yourself.
It is key that you wash away the hurtful thoughts and feelings.
It is your life work to learn to love and respect, support and care for yourself.
Now is your time to renew your commitment to yourself and your own highest and best life.
Begin today.
Let go of the past and choose your own new future, beginning Now.
Loving you, now and always,
Betty Lue
From Louise Hay ©1988
HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF
1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.