Affirmations:
I extend my best to all, especially our children.
I spend quality time, give encouragement, offer hugs and respectful touch
to all children.
I offer inspiring gifts and helpful acts of service to my grandchildren and
all I encounter,
I know that every child deserves my best and I feel blessed.
How
To Love Grand Children
If
you love who they are, they will feel loved.
If you dislike how
they behave, they may feel unloved.
If you show them
love and respect them, you will have little people who love and respect you.
Children want to be
loved and want to learn how to love you.
Children
can be “GRAND” when they feel safe and loved.
Children can be
“respectful” when they feel they are respected.
Children can be
“helpful” when they see others being helpful.
Children will be
happy, when they feel safe and know how to love, respect and help others.
Children
learn primarily through experiences, not words.
Children copy what
they see that works and what doesn’t work.
Children get
confused by changing rules, different teachers, and ever-changing punishments
and rewards.
Children want to
feel safe, happy, loved and valued.
Every
child is totally unique.
Every child is
curious and open to learn.
Every child responds
to words, behaviors and people differently.
As parenting adults,
we must be open and willing to love each child in the unique way that works.
When
parents, grandparents and caregivers are tired, hungry or frustrated, we don’t
respond well.
Our primary focus
must be to love, respect and be helpful to ourselves first.
When we have taken
impeccable care of us, we can more easily respond with love to others.
We only pick on
children, because they do not have the ability to speak up for themselves.
Adults
need to recognize that children copy the adults that “bully” them.
Children learn to
play victim or Bully-er from the grownup who threatens, demeans or shames them.
Adults need to learn
how to treat all children with respect and kindness.
We need to learn how
to teach and learn, appreciate not criticize and demonstrate the values we
want.
Love
the children in your care and those you see or interact with.
1.
Some children like positive words of kindness and
appreciation.
2.
Some prefer quality time and being listened to and
encouraged.
3.
Some children want hugs and affection and gentle interaction.
4.
Some kids really want acts of service and helpfulness.
5.
Some children prefer presents, gifts…even small ones.
It
is important that we observe and listen to what each child needs and wants.
It is valuable to give
them our very best and keep our promises.
It is essential that
we make no assumptions and do not take their misbehavior personally.
Everything is
communicating their love or their need for a loving response.
We
are always called to be the most conscious one and teach with our very best
words and actions.
Loving us all to
create a better world.
Betty Lue
Do
assessment of your love language and those you love at 5lovelanguages.com
When you learn all
unloving and unkind words and behaviors are a “call for love:, you will respond
only with love.
Learn your love
language and your children’s too!