Ego and Spirit

Affirmations:
I am Spirit in a body here to share Love.
I am a gift of Love enriched by giving.
I am free to be All I Am as I trust in the Good within.
I trust in the power and Presence of Good within me.

Ego and Spirit Within Us

Our ego is the personality self that hungers for satisfaction.
The ego has a tendency to make choices based on fear of pain and attraction to pleasure.
The learning come from family habits, life experiences and ways of coping.
The strategies of the ego are to avoid losing which prevents the freedom to trust.

Some define EGO as “Edging God Out” and “Edging Goodness Out”.
Fear of death, losing, being wrong, feeling pain, create limitation, lack and littleness.
Our learned self usually looks for ways to avoid, look good, be right and feel better than.
The Ego tends to make all choices based on fear and avoidance.

Spiritually, we have a natural state of Wholeness.
Love is our natural state.
Abundance is our natural state.
Joy is our natural state.
Peace is our natural state.
Aliveness or Youth is our natural state.

What we learn from the world is to conform with what others believe.
Once we believe we are in danger, we defend and create separation .
Once we feel fear and build barriers, we feel alone and need to use our ego to care for us.
Once we rely on the ego and its decisions, we are driven by our fear-based Ego.

In the Ego, without inspiration, we often feel confused, heavy, uncertain and distrustful.
There is little light or love to guide our way, because we feel alone.
The inspiration or salvation often come from temporary fixes, feelings, drugs or spiritual highs.
We are often vigilant to avoidance and fear of pain, disease, doubt and death.

Spirit opens the way to True and lasting Love.
Spirit gives us the Light of happiness to follow.
Spirit engenders a consistent path of Forgiveness to follow.
Spirit demonstrates the Abundance that Gratitude creates.

When we have a glimpse or knowing the Goodness is Real, we begin to feel hopeful.
When we seek living in this Good or inspired state, we see that true happiness exists.
When we experience happiness and follow the path of Trust in Good, we awaken to the way.
When we are awake to live in Trust, freely choosing what demonstrates our Gratitude, we are inspired.

Everyday in everyway I am better and better.
Everyday in everyway I am wiser and wiser.
Everyday in everyway I am more and more trusting.
Everyday in everyway I am filled with the Light and Love of all Good and only Good.

And so it is, we begin to thrive, enriched by the Joy and Vitality within.
And so it is, we feel awake and ready to awaken by our simple Presence.
And so it is, we sing out with joy and gratitude for all the gift os freely living.
And so it is, we fully embrace the Goodness in our heart and minds and everyday living.

Loving you and me, the Grand WE, for being open and willing to serve all Good and only Good.
In this we awaken to remember the higher or Real Truth.
Betty Lue

RULES FOR BEING HUMAN 

(from an old Ann Landers syndicated newspaper column)

• You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for as long as you live. How you take care of it or fail to take care of it can make an enormous difference in the quality of your life. 
• You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time school called Life. Each day, you will be presented with opportunities to learn what you need to know. The lessons presented are often completely different from those you THINK you need. 
• There are no mistakes—only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error and experimentation. You can learn as much from failure as you can from success. 
• A lesson is repeated until it is learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it (as evidenced by a change in your attitude and behavior), then you can go on to the next lesson. 
• Learning lessons does not end. There is no stage of life that does not contain some lessons. As long as you live, there will be something more to learn. 
• “There” is no better than “here”. When your “there” has become a “here”, you will obtain another “there” that will again look better than your “here”. Don’t be fooled by believing that the unattainable is better than what you have. 
• Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself. When tempted to criticize others, ask yourself why you feel so strongly. 
• What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. Remember that through desire, goal-setting and unflagging effort, you can have anything you want. Persistence is the key to success. 
• The answers lie within you. The solutions to all of life’s problems lie within your grasp. All you need to do is ask, look, listen and trust. 
• You will forget all this. Unless you consistently stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself, everything you’ve just read won’t mean a thing. 

Fear and Love

Affirmations:
Life is Good and getting better.
I choose to live with loving and peaceful thinking and speaking.
I forgive quickly and receive the blessings instantly.
I learn from everything and everyone ONLY LOVE IS REAL.

Fear and Love

Love Is Our Natural State
Happiness is Our Natural State.
When we are not loving, respectful and kind, some thought has inter-feared!
When we are not happy, we have lost of purpose and love for Self.

When we withhold Love, respect and kindness, we experience fear.
When we are afraid to love, we withhold who we are.
When we are not wholly Being the Love We Are, we feel separate and afraid.
When we are not sharing the Goodness We have, we feel unloving, unkind and unforgiving.

The cycle of fear and withhold of love comes from our judging mind.
When we judge, it is because we are afraid.
When we are afraid, we judge.
Where we are judging and afraid, we get stuck!

When we are stuck, we may experience, stubbornness, sickness, separation and stupidity.
When we are stuck, we may feel confusion, conflict, disconnection and correction.
When we are stuck, we may have faulty beliefs, misperceptions and limited thinking.
When we are stuck, we may be consumed, depleted, obsessive, distracted and demanding.

Freedom comes with forgiving ourselves.
Freedom is created by undoing our fear.
Freedom is experienced when we erase and release our faulty and limiting thinking.
Freedom comes from choosing only peace.

In peace there is help.
In peace of mind there is openness.
In peace there is strength.
In peace we return to our natural Self.

When we are aware of the value of peace in mind and body and words, we can choose again.
When we know that our crazy and confusing thinking is distracting and destructive, we can stop.
When we learn a better way of being, doing and giving, we will experiment with its effectiveness.
When we understand that peace is essential, to healing, understanding and Love, we will choose peace.

Smiling at how simple it is.
Laughing at us for getting lost in the insanity.
Amazed at how many excuses and defenses we create.
Surprised by how long it seems to take to give it up.

If we only knew the trauma and drama we cause ourselves, perhaps we would stop the pain.
If we only understood how judgments hold everything we judge in place, perhaps we would let go.
If we only recognize how fun, safe and easy life can be by letting go, perhaps we would forgive.
If we only perceive the lesson and the blessing in all things, perhaps we would open to receive the Good.

I prefer to forgive myself quickly and let go of fear.
I prefer to choose peace and allow the understanding to come.
I prefer to stop the insanity and remember only Love.
I prefer to experience a fun, safe and easy life…..
Betty Lue

HEALING THE FEAR
What can you do to heal the fear in yourself, in your community and in the world?
Fear contracts.                        Love expands.
Fear withholds.                       Love shares.
Fear defends.                          Love is open.
Fear judges.                            Love appreciates.
Fear condemns.                      Love forgives.
Fear separates.                        Love joins.
Fear acts out.                          Love responds.
Fear withdraws.                      Love reaches out.
Fear shuts down.                    Love opens up.
Fear argues.                            Love listens.                 
Fear excludes.                         Love includes.
Fear worries.                           Love blesses.
Fear justifies.                          Love trusts.         
Fear is stingy.                         Love is generous.
Fear is pushy.                         Love is patient.     
Fear can be cruel.                   Love is kind.        
Fear is suspicious.                  Love trusts.
Fear demands.                        Love guides.        
Fear cowers.                           Love is courageous.
Fear takes care of  its own.     Love is helpful to all.
Fear distorts our thinking.       Love sees clearly. 
Fear speaks of wrongs.           Love speaks of value.

Often fear makes us sick at heart and sick in body.
Often fear shuts down our ability to think, feel and act for Good.
Often fear limits our healthy appropriate responses.

Each of us is called to manage, forgive, heal and release the fear in our lives.
What can you do to handle your fear and to help others with theirs?

Get Real!

Affirmations:
I live my life effectively and successfully.
I trust I am where I need to be doing what is mine to do.
My relationships are harmonious, my work is fulfilling and I love myself well.
I live my life and learn with wisdom, ease and grace.

Let’s Get Real!

If you have a problem, deal with it.
If you have a pain, handle it.
If you have a conflict, clear it.
If you have a need, fill it.
If you have a question, ask it.
If you want an answer, listen to it.

If you have something taking your time and attention……
Deal with it thoroughly, until it is resolved.

Peace may be the answer.
Love may be the answer.
Faith may be the answer.
Giving may be the answer.
Persistence may be the answer.
Information may be the answer.
Listening within may be the answer.
Changing your attitude may be the answer.
Resting and surrender may be the answer.
Your answer is yours alone!

To quit is to give up on yourself.
To complain drains your energy.
To suffer is not right or fair for you.
To resent makes it linger and get worse.
To feel guilty gets you stuck.
To feel self pity makes you feel lonely and hopeless.

Do something or find someone who will happily do it for you.
Do not quit until you get what you really want.
Ask clearly and stop being so picky that you resent what you get.
Appreciate the answers that come and ask more specifically if you want more.

Life is a search and rescue mission.
You are searching for what you think you have lost.
You are rescuing what you sent on a wild goose chase,
You feel sad when you lose it and ecstatic when you find it.

Life is a get-out-of-bed and go-to-school assignment.
First you have to wakeup, like it or not, and then you need to learn something.
The longer you malinger and play dumb, the longer you stay stuck in the same grade.
Graduation comes when you “GET IT!”

We are responsible for solving our problems.
We are responsible for cleaning up our misses.
We are responsible for healing our relationships glitches.
We are responsible for handling our affairs.

Our life, however we see it, is ours to live, learn, laugh and let go.
The process is the process.
The joy or misery is ours to choose.
Consider being open and willing, grateful and happy.

Loving us,
Betty Lue

Change Your Thoughts; Change Your Mind!

Affirmations:
I do the work I enjoy and I enjoy the work I do.
Happy thoughts create happy work; Happy work creates happy lives.
I love clearing away everything that is negative and unloving.
Life works for me because I do the Work.
I receive well from everything I give well.
Change your thoughts and your change your attitude.
Change your attitude and you change your experience.

Work More, Enjoy More.

The more you work, the better you feel.
The more you work, the more you create.
The more you work, the more fun you have.
The more you work, the easier life is.

When you are criticizing yourself or others, you are not living your purpose.
When you are envious of others, you are not fulfilling your own life.
When you are feeling sorry for yourself, you are believing someone else will do the work.
When you are experiencing guilt or regret, forgive yourself and do something productive.

Life has the meaning we give it with everything we do.
Work is the way we live the meaning we want.
Work is the reward, not money or fame.
When we do what is true for us, we see ourselves as happy, healthy and successful.

Life works when we do the work.
When you are lazy, complaining, needy or looking for handouts, life doesn’t work for you.
When you are forgetful, ignorant, dependent, careless and thoughtless, life becomes small and sad.
When you act negligent, dependent, irresponsible, apathetic and play “poor me:, life feels hopeless.

It is time to get up early, work hard and go to bed feeling good about the work you have done.
Just like anything you really want, you have to practice and work at it.
Those who have never worked dawn until dusk or later, need to build up endurance.
Those who are used to getting what they want without giving what they have, cannot understand the value of work.

We are a more peaceful, appreciative and inspired society when everyone works.
When we work, we feel better about ourselves.
When we work, we feel capable and valuable.
When we work, our self esteem increases.
When we work, we value life more.
When we work, we are more respectful of others.
When we work, we know we deserve what we have.
When we work, we know we can be helpful.

Anything worth having is worth working for.
Anything worth doing is worth doing well.
Do you work to be the best at what you do?
Do you study, learn, practice, seek teachers and mentors?
Do you encourage yourself to work harder with greater efficiency?
Do you pay attention to what works and what doesn’t work?
Do you appreciate the work you do as you are doing it?
Do you enjoy accomplishing and achieving and fulfilling your goals?
Do you set goals for yourself and do first things first?
Do you spend money that you have earned by working? (not borrowing or begging or getting handouts!)
Do you understand that the happiest and most successful people work hard everyday/
Do you recognize what it takes to be successful, happy and healthy?
Are you willing to work at making your life better and the best it can be?
Do you know working for money is not enough motivation?
Do you work for contribution, enjoyment, achievement, expanding your abilities, being of service?
Do you recognize and appreciate people who work hard or criticize them?
Do you admire people who are lazy, dependent and seem to take life for granted?

We all have role models and people we admire.
What we admire, we strengthen within ourselves.
I admire people who work for what they have.
I admire people who are generous with the work they do.
I admire people who are conscientious about what they spend.
I admire people who live on what they have earned.
I admire people who invest in creating a better world.
I admire people who work with inspiration and joy.
I admire people who do what they do because it is their calling.
I admire people who are happy doing the work they do.

People who work hard and smart, prosper.
People who prosper, give more and are happy and grateful to be giving.

Life is for giving. You are the gift.
It is in giving the gift You are that You realize the gifts You have.

Working with wisdom and joy and gratitude,
Betty Lue